Kwv Tij Neej Tsav Yog 911. 6/20/23

[@thedark-_-lord8285]

I think regardless if you are Hmong pple or not, we all need emotional supports and love from our families. We have to support and help each other during our sad and happy times. If u don’t help and support and be there for ur families, you only get what you put out. Having money is not everything.

[@maryly09]

It's not just hmong people. It's the way of life, majority. If u don't show up for me and be there for me when i need u, what makes u think i will show up for u too? Everywhere u go, if u don't lend a helping hand, don't expect anyone to lend a helping hand too. Maybe a stranger will, but only once here and there. Not constant.

[@yl7495]

Well said.

[@OfficialHelloKimi]

Such a good story to share with those who never believed in the Hmong culture values, but turns to it when they have no one else to show up for them.

[@cheexiong5712]

It is a good lesson for our younger generation Hmong who speak little or no Hmong and think they can solve all the problems and don't need help from others.

[@maipha8560]

Good lesson to learn from. People are too busy and time is a precious commodity. You can't expect people to give you the most precious commodity they have when you dont care to do the same.

[@onlybigbuck6477]

I do have a degree, and I am also a qeej player for Hmoob funeral and do Mej Koob when needed and everything under the sun involving Hmoob cultures. You need to understand it doesn't matter how educated or how highly you regarded your degree. It's not your degree and your education to determine who you are. It's your actions that will determine who you are. In this story, the couple let their actions determine their degree. This is why it happened the way it is. 80% of the time, your degree and money can work for you, but you still need the other 20% to lean on to someone. This is a very good example of it. Good luck to you both. May your ancestors answer your prayers.

[@xengmoua2465]

Yes I agree

[@adamvue5553]

Good respond onlybigbuck...as the saying goes.."Your wealth does not define you, your actions defines who you are...

[@taisenxiong]

I 👍 applaud 👏 you, brother 👏... Anyone can get a degree or a certificate in something. Big deal. A piece of paper from a university somewhere else doesn't define a person. It won't tell you who you are...

[@Peter123969]

Their leader is not fit to guide them. As a leader, one must have a big heart. They came back and asked for forgiveness yet he refused to help. He needs to step down and give up his title. It's different if they didn't ask for forgiveness but they went on their knees and he still refused? That's just too much. His heart is too small.

[@maylo8993]

It's not the education. It's you both of you if you can't make it, you can always send some money to go help them and they are ok, but if your greedy and never give and help that's when they say no helping because when they cry you die you don't care about them you say your rich and got all the money and you will never need them. But in the end, you are hurting yourself and your little family by being greedy.

[@greentortoise4629]

Honestly, if you crave/want “family,” you got to put effort into the relationships. You got to make an effort to attend and help their events and help with money. Even if you attend church, you still have to help your shaman family. I got a degree and never used it as a pedestal. Like my Ex MNL says about me. My mouth is fast but my hands are faster. That is how you earn respect. Even then it’s barely enough. If you don’t care about being included. You do you.

[@vdrtkrato1115]

Some family will never see the stuff you do for them only the one time bad. Some are jealous of you and your spouse they make everyone around you think you are the bad one so they can only be the good ones. Family to do or die for me is my wife and kids. I learn that from my dad before he is going to pass away. He is a famous Hmong traditional leader in my community. But when he sick going to die no one cares to visit or stop by for a minute. 😢

[@kaoxiong6148]

Your family has been set an example of a family that values their education more than anything else…good life learning lesson…😩🤠!!!

[@lovetoplaywithyou3530]

Even people who are so involved in their relatives and community. Hmong people are still acting the same too. No different.

[@MonaLisa-de4cp]

Exactly. And it's "no difference. "

[@koumoua2980]

Zaj neej neeg no yog ib zaj zoo heev rau Cov neeg khav, khav theeb txog lawv daim degree uas pheej thuam, thuam kev cai Hmoob, saib tsis taus Hmoob tej kev lis kev cai. Thov qhuas koj cov kwv tij uas lawv lawb taus neb khub niam txiv ko. Hos koj tus tub hlob los kuj paub tias neb khub niam txiv tsis tseem ceeb rau leej twg li lawm. Vam tias ib hnub tom ntej no nejb cov kwv tij yuav txais tos neb no nawb mog!

[@tzerxiong3794]

Tus viv ncaus peb tib neeg ces yeej coj tus cwj pwm li no tus txom nyem es ho niaj hnub mus thuv lawv los lawv ntxub ntxub thiab cem cem nawb hos tus uas sib zog ua tau lub neej zoo lawm los lawv yeej khib khib thiab yeej tsis muaj ib tug neeg twg uas yuav perfet nyob hauv lub ntiajteb no li yeej tsis muaj kev zam txim li vim li no vajtswv tej lus thiaj li niaj hnub ua zaj ua ntxeev qhia kom peb txhua tus yuav tsum muaj kev zam txim thiab txawj sib hlub hauv lub ntiajteb no tsuas muaj vajtswv ib leeg thiaj li zam txim tau xwb yog li thiaj muaj neeg coob los ntseeg vajtswv thaum lawv tag kev cia siab ua ib tug neeg koj yuav tsum xaiv kev ntseeg tau g thaum koj tseem muaj txoj sia nyob vim thaum koj txoj sia tu lawm koj yuav xaiv tsis tau mus nrhiav cov xibfwb hmoob ntseeg vajtswv nyob hauv koj lub zos lawv yuav txaus siab qhia pub rau koj thov vajtswv pab kom koj tau txais kev kaj siab

[@pengvang5831]

Life is all about balance. Don't play favoritism when choosing who to love and not to love. You will one day regret being selfish and self-centered, thinking that life only revolves around you. This also applies to people who only help their kwm tij and not their spouse.

[@maylovang1880]

Neb pab kwv tij no ua yog kawg lawm cov neeg zoo li neb ces ua li neb cov kwv tij ua no yog kawg lawm. Yus txoj kev khav theeb rau yus daim degree ces zoo li no los mas. Daim degrees tsuas yog daim ntawv ua hauj lwm kom tau nyiaj ntau xwb nawb mog

[@Karena312]

What goes around will come around. If you help other, they will help you in return. If you don’t come around and help your families, they will not come to you when you needed as well.

[@zaddvang]

It's a good lesson for everybody to learn.

[@solomoua5520]

Money can buy what you want. At the end you still need families

[@jackstar254]

@@solomoua5520 lol family is so overrated. My dad always showed up and helped family. He went to every funeral and wedding. When it was my wedding, my dad called his cousins and uncles. Everyone was too "busy". After my wedding, I stopped give a F*** towards my extended family.

[@solomoua5520]

@@jackstar254 maybe they don’t like you j/k 😜

[@lospeb100]

​@@jackstar254Yes, Jack Star. Hmoob people has a fukd up heart. The clan chooses and pick who they want to love and help. Just do you and realize that every hmoob will end in the dirt. With a proper hmoob funeral or not. 😅

[@jamelor9050]

Zaj neej neeg no Mloog tau kev kawm ntau yam rau peb cov hluas kawg , uas tsaug rau tus phauj May vang story teller

[@myself.kuvxwb8406]

Wow, sorry to your family. But you and your husband did it to yourself. His own mother WoW!

[@beth3626]

We only reap what we sow. If all your life you have sown nothing, you will have nothing. Perfect example of what money can't buy: a family and health.

[@yengvang2172]

Go to church for get all this old traditional hmoob way of life.

[@xiongandcheng]

Dont give up. Just keep going. You have to do a million 1st before anyone sees it. We all make mistakes. Best of luck to you guys

[@whatever4622]

I’m sure there is more to this story than she is sharing. In order for not just his family but their entire clan to turn their backs on her and her husband, they must have done something really bad and burnt all bridges. So maybe she need to take a good look at herself and admit what SHE did☹️

[@maryly09]

Don't forget their own kids even stay away from them too.

[@qaibhmongvaj]

Yup. They fucc the family over somewhere along the way. They not sharing the entire story

[@nhouxiong]

It's not entirely true. I know someone who never shows up at relatives, and the relatives would distance them since they never come around.

[@enangthao8509]

As someone who doesn't have family from my mother's side or my father's side, it's hard to understand all this. My siblings and I have always done everything on our own. Oh man, this couple's son is such a whiny ungrateful boy. Does he not realize that this girl doesn't care about him? She cheated and use this as an excuse to not be with him. When she marries that white guy, his family ain't coming to pay their respects. I hate it when parents think their daughters are all that and a bag of chips because they had higher education. People need to stay humble. Just like this couple. Stay humble.

[@MonaLisa-de4cp]

I really hate that too! Just bc your daughter has a degree, whether bachelor's or masters or PhD, does that make her woman part any more special or exciting that you should use her degree as a weapon or leveraging tool? Screw these kinds of parents! I've heard enough of those kinds of parents to make me want to break something because they make me mad!!!

[@chuethao5093]

Also you just taste your own medicine! Good that cov kwv tij ua tau tiag22. Proud of cov kwv tij! Tabsis yog thaum ib tug twg los thov lawd yuav tau hlub thiab yuav tsum muaj kev zam txim thiab.

[@maiyaxiong3956]

This story make my blood boil. Don't blame yourself and ur husband. Hmong people are just petty in general. Jesus. Focusing on your guys life and future is a good thing. His family is straight up stupid. And him blaming u is not right. Smh

[@kevkawmkevpaub6189]

If you stand for something you value, be prepared to stand alone. If you live your life with your degree, be prepared to live alone.

[@beeyushon9788]

Txaus siab rau neb txoj kev xaiv. Ua tdawus txoj kev xaiv os

[@tawmtswvyim5222]

You choose your own path for your family so don’t regret.

[@monkeybanana9269]

I understand family fight but when a family cannot move pass forgiving each other, it will turn into a curse and that curse will recycle itself from one generation to the next. Just watch- the kids will see and follow these kind of bad examples. And they will fight each other too and become loveless. When I was young, I never understood my father- why he's so patient and tolerant. As I got older, I began to see my father differently. He really is a great exemplifying role model. Not only was he able to hold his family together but an entire clan including winning the respect of outsiders. Even when my siblings and I fight, we still remember to follow our father's footsteps. At the end, family is still family.

[@ScarletQue]

Agreed. You got a great father ❤

[@Nkaujhmoobmaus2024]

It doesn't matter. it's the family that doesn't have a heart xwb. My husband was the one to help kill animals for all ua neeb and funeral every weekendfor 17 years of our marriage.. When our son got married, they didn't help us. We had to go to the extended family for help. 😢 it's a sad time for us. We no longer live near family. Because some people, they choose who to help and who not to help.

[@choualo9024]

Sorry that it happened to you. I understand what you mean by this. Now and day some people only help those they want to only.

[@nraugzoovwj9638]

Those spoiled kids that was born americanize and only think about themselves, never involve in familie, thinking they can do very thing in life.. for sure it always end up this way..

[@ibleejtxivzoo7856]

Tell them sister.

[@adamvue5553]

If you keep up that attitude and mindset, you will find yourself in a deeper situation then just your husband killing cows for funeral for 17 years...

[@yerthor4207]

Vim Koj lub siab me2 Koj hlub Tsi tau niam pog txiv yawg hlub tsi tau kwv tij thiaj Coj tu txiv khiav ntawm luag tsev neeg mu lawv thiaj chim Koj nco ntshoov tia peb yog ib tug ntxhai es peb mu yuav txiv lawm tso niam tso txiv tseg yu mu muab lawv ua yu tsev neeg ua siab loj Koj Yog neeg kawm txawj ntawv Xwb Tsi Yog neeg ntse txawj ntawv siab zoo hlub tau Lwm tu koj tu txiv ua li Koj hai Xwb nw Tsi nco gab nw tsev neeg lawm hnub no txhua yam tim peb cov poj niam yuav tau luag tu tub txhob muab daim nyuag ntawv ntse2 ntawv lo hai khav theeb rau lawv tsev neeg lawm mog

[@mlee6092]

Wow...what a nasty, unforgiving clan. Tell us who they are? For you, just go to church and form a new fanily. The clan is dying anyway. Time to move on. Be strong and move on.

[@chialee3459]

Hmong people are complicated. My husband and I we are in the same boat. My husband loves his family. He just don't really understand the hmong culture, but he goes and attends weddings and funerals. But I noticed that if you are not into hmong politics they don't respect you. You are there to help kill pigs and etc. But they prefer the guys that wear ties. It's sad that you see your husband works so hard, but at the end, they appreciate the guys who comes and drink. They don't even invite your husband to sit at the table just because he doesn't really understand the hmong culture or into politics. But he is there to help kill pigs and cows. That's why some hmong people don't respect the leaders. They don't even respect the people who are there to help them.

[@hersins]

Amen sister! Hmong people preach these threats so that they can recruit work horses. There are "chosen" people in the hmong community and we all know who those people are, they make a grand entrance, speak the loudest, drink the most and do the least

[@tusneegzoohlub7724]

This is why you don’t act like you don’t need anybody when you live so financially comfortable. As long as you still follow shaman tradition, without kwv tij nothing will be done. Alot of times, orphans such as me and my siblings, my brothers have to kiss ass and attend all events incase of situations like this. In the end they still don’t want to help but as long as you have the money, it will. This is so sad but it’s the way of hmong life. Unless you go to church and truly feel like you don’t need anybody, go for it. This is why our parents always say, yuav tsum koom kwv koom tij luag tiaj xav pab yus.

[@Ntxhi67]

Nyob miskas teb no peb tsis ntshaw noj ntshaws has lawm yog leej two pab yus ces yus pab leej twg lawm xwb. Reality it is

[@cheurphavang3280]

Me ntxhais koj hais tau zoo mloog kawg

[@chuethao5093]

I agreed with the family because what goes around comes around!

[@jasmineflower7115]

You got some kwv Tij siab me xwb. We have Uncle/cousins who lived far away. Majority of the time they can’t come support due to distance but yet everyone is always there for them when needed. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@johnsonyang638]

Those kwb tij act like they perfect, they make no mistakes in life, lol. Everyone makes mistakes.

[@maryly09]

U thought u have money so u don't need relatives, but at the end u still crawl back to the relatives.

[@lovetoplaywithyou3530]

Hmong people are just cruel. If Hmong marry outsider than it’s a simple wedding

[@maryly09]

@@lovetoplaywithyou3530 yes. People who think they don't need relatives should definitely marry out of race.

[@gevang2104]

​@@lovetoplaywithyou3530 000⁰00000⁰00000

[@cealla999]

That's right.

[@shawnlee420]

I agree, koj lub neej los zoo li ko ces yeej yog tim koj tus ua niam 110%. Why? Vim koj yog tus coj koj tus txiv khiav tsis poog kwv tij. Koj yog tus niam, koj qhov responsibility yog los khiav kwv khiav tij hos koj tus txiv yog tus khiav koj cov neej tsa. Kuv support nej tsev kwv tij tus coj qhov decision 110%. Peb tsev neeg los yeej muaj ib co coj li neb thiab. Cov ntawd ces peb yeej muab lawv lawb li lawb dab lawm thiab nawb. Twb muaj ib co tau kev tws es rov los thawj kwv tij, peb tsuas hais zoo zoo rau xwb tab sis peb tsis muaj leej twg tshwm mus koom mus pab lawv li thiab nawb.

[@thatasainboy1346]

Hlub neb thiab os

[@66siabtuagame]

H/Mong only helps and supports those who benefit them in the near future

[@MonaLisa-de4cp]

Now and in the future.

[@HYa-z9n]

Wow! It takes a lot to admit your wrong, I applauded you for that, a true leader should have a big heart, your clan leader should've forgave you guys, after you went to kow-tow, don't cried, forgive them and go to church, you will find love, acceptance, supports and family there. Thanks for sharing your experience and life lesson.

[@nkaujhmoobvwj]

They did go to church but wit meka pp who won't go do hmong culture. Lol

[@MloveL559]

I think this family was a little to harsh on them. It's really sad. You must love one another no matter what.

[@hmoobpnw8479]

She explained why they are harsh on them. Her inlaws passaway n them 2 only show up for couple of hours. Thats why they get what they get.

[@MonaLisa-de4cp]

I totally agree. The extended family/clan aren't making themselves any better. They're just as bad if not worse since it's the whole lot of them who have denied this couple in their time of need.

[@nkaujntse5196]

Tell us what the clan. This clan is not humble but full of jealousy. Hmong old tradition is not a big deal. When covid hit, the dead did not even have a funeral. No big deal.

[@suaxiong8034]

Your relatives is cruel we all make mistakes those relatives have to understand that your family comes first and than your siblings young and dumb I am still learning Hmong culture at fifty the relatives should give you a second chance

[@refreshyang2359]

Maybe it not the degree that they mad at you and your family. It the way you act and brag about having your degree. Maybe your words hurt your relatives way more than you think.

[@saykaomee]

Your siblings and families have no love or forgiveness. This is why my brother in law left his relatives as a young man and became a Christian. They lectured him when he needed them but didn't lift a finger to help.

[@MonaLisa-de4cp]

Totally. I probably wouldn't want to go back to them now, after experiencing the lack of help arranging a marriage and no one being there when a family member died, and they all still talked down to this family and refused to help them. Even when their nephew, cousin, grandson just died!!! How can anyone be so cold hearted at a time like that?

[@MonaLisa-de4cp]

Sometimes having a christian group being your family is better than having a bad group of blood related family who isn't worth a dang. I hope your brother in law is very happy with his new christian family.

[@saykaomee]

@MonaLisa-de4cp He's very happy. The siblings and relatives in this story are messed up. They could've used the couple's ways of thinking as a teachable moment, but instead, they made the situation even more hopeless.

[@baoyang6565]

It should be a lesson learned for everyone.

[@heymaiv]

It dont matter if you dont attend distance relative events but your own mothers funeral!!! Oh no! Smh. And would not even attend church bc you lazy.. This says it all!

[@crystalxiong735]

Yog yus tso tsis tau kev cai Hmoob ces yuav tau nyob nrog Hmoob. Good story. Thank you for sharing

[@maivang8397]

Txawm peb yuav yog Dr thiab lawyer los yuav tsum saib tau kwv tij neej tsa os nawj tsis txhob ntse os nawj mog

[@layaj7813]

Yog kawg pojniam ua boss ces zoo li no tiag.. nej cov pojniam yuav saib tau nej cov txiv nawb... Pojniam tau lwm yam neeg ma muab alot of respect 6 nws tus man... Yog nej tau cov kwvtij cojzoo ces nej yuav mag li no tiag.. no forget n forgive.. 😮

[@fanyangel]

Do not blame anyone but yourself. When your mother in law passed away and you guys did what you did, it really opened up the family eyes that you two don't care about anyone except yourselves. Your clan leader did right. It's so hard now a day to get the younger generations to follow Hmong culture. If he let tl you two back, the whole family will fall apart.

[@lovetoplaywithyou3530]

So Hmong people make it hard on their own Hmong people. But if they marry meska than it’s simple

[@ThePrincessWorrior]

For realz. I’m sure they didn’t say a thing or gotten paid for my the miskas guy.

[@lovetoplaywithyou3530]

@@ThePrincessWorrior yep

[@kimberlyvx]

Exactly!!! Hmoob mam phem tshaj rau hmoob xwm.

[@tiachang7748]

Oh gosh my husband & me help other people but no one see & no one care That y I don’t care them For Hmong tradition

[@hmongsiabzoo]

Education is only a means to a good income, you can not ignore and abandon your family. You and your husband think only of the good times an forget that life comes in full circle. Good lesson to all the twm zeej out there.

[@ScarletQue]

Balance is key. The leader was not right either. Tsis yog ib tug coj zoo.

[@nyajloojyaj600]

That’s the principle of Hmong life, you have to know and help each other… help each other is the life of Hmong people… now is the time to learn and help your relatives…

[@Ntxawgthoj13]

Out of all your neej neeg I give this 10/10 sorry to this bro and sis or this family hopefully everyone out there will learn to change after this neej neeg before is too late

[@bvang8370]

I'm a Hmong man but don't understand Hmong men. Hmong men thinks that even when the girl don't like you, you can force her to be your wife forever. The son's girlfriend doesn't even like him and prefers her White boyfriend yet he is mad at his parents. His anger is misdirected. He probably have never thought that even if she married him, she has a lover (White doctor with big p enis) who she likes so much more so she will cheat on him, then divorce him when he finds out, then make him pay child support. So many stories like this. He should be glad she didn't marry him.

[@nkaujhmoobvwj]

Wow, this is a reminder to those bad wife n husband that abandoned relative n friends.

[@SpeedGasmEvo9]

All you need is god.

[@kayingvang-lor4565]

Something terrible happened. Most relatives don't disown a family for just a few minor mishaps.

[@chongcha9347]

I agree!! When it's this bad it's start with money and end up with greedy n selfish.

[@whatever4622]

I believe she is still hiding all their bad doings and making it like the entire clan hates them for no reason. Entire clans do not disown their own without a reason.

[@PM-oe5mk]

It sounds like she & her husband haven't really been supportive of the husband's clan since the early days of their marriage---they don't show up for events or funerals, or help out any. If they acted like this for a couple of decades, I would imagine nobody in the clan would be willing to help them. I don't blame the clan for their reaction to these two idiots who thought they were "all that" just because of their degrees & jobs.

[@maryly09]

Don't forget that their own kids kinda disown them too.

[@whatever4622]

@@PM-oe5mk She can sugarcoat this story as much as she can but when they barely showed up for his own parents funeral that tells you a lot already 🤨

[@gaosayvu6554]

Hmoob tsis yog sib hlub sib pab nawb, Hmoob ces tsuas yog sib pauv zog xwb, leej twg tsis pauv zog ces yeej tsis muaj neeg tuaj, nco ntsoov Hmoob ces yeej tsis hlub leej twg tsuas yog pauv zog xwb

[@onglee1684]

Hais rau neb tias yog neb txhob npaj qhov sib nrauj yog koj tus txiv ho zoo lawm. Neb tseem yuav sib yuav no neb cia li mus lawb dab ntseeg Vaj tswv. Tab sis neb yuav tsum mus church Hmong neb ua siab zoo pab pawg ntseeg. Kuv ruaj siab tias church yeej yuav lees txais tos neb xwb ..neb yuav tsum xaiv lub church uas muaj kev ntseeg Vaj tswv zoo ruaj khov rau Vaj tswv thiaj yuav pab tau neb nawb ..Ho yog neb npaj lub sib nrauj xwb ces pab tsis tau nawb ..I'm hope my God still bless you guys..Vaj tswv ib leeg xwb thiaj zam tau txim yog yus lees txim lawm 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@kimberlyvx]

Hmoob phem rau hmoob xwm os. Even for those who slave for their family, relatives and the community all the time, when times in needs for help and supports, there will still many relatives who will use excuses to not return the favor and come support you. Majority of hmoob sib sib khim and siab me me. And for the son- you shouldnt be mad at your parents, if your gf really loves you, you both are grown adults, she would still marry you and not run back to her meeka ex.

[@tshuxeng5267]

when they have learned their lesson and willing to change, the relatives need take them back. This is why some hmong people refuse to follow our traditions.

[@MonaLisa-de4cp]

Yes. The stupid traditions that divide families or are just plain senseless and wrong like bridenapping needs to be stopped.

[@bounxiong5714]

Tus me muam tim koj lawm tiag. Tej zaum nej yuav muaj ntau2 feem los hais rau kuv. Tab sis kuv thov qhiav rau kuv tsoom muam, ntxhais thiab cov ntxhais xeeb ntxwm txhua2 tus tias the golden rule of thumb ces koj txawm yuav mab yuav suav yuav leej twg los xij. Nco ntshoov mus hlub luag tsev neeg, cuab neeg, thiab luag hom neeg ces peb thiab lub neej yeej muaj chaw cob cuab! Peb Hmoob ua tshoob ua kos poj ua cia yawm ua tseg luag ntuas tub ntuas ntxhais thiaj kom mus Sam hauj sam seem, mus ncoo poj ncoo yawm. Neb lub neej ces tsis ua raws li poj li yawm qhia. Zaum no neb rov mus ua dev pliab dev plhu rov mus ncooj poj ncooj yawm es rov mus ua siab loj siab dav los hlub kwv hlub tij es txhob ntaim txiaj ntaim ntsim ces ntev kawg los 3 mus rau 5 xyoos tom ntej no neb yuav rov qab nrog luag muaj kwv muaj tij muaj neej muaj tsav muaj txheeb muaj ze muaj phooj muaj ywg nawb! Nco ntsoov ua li Hmoob hais tias “ua dev pliaj dev plhu” hlub kwv hlub tij hlub neej hlub tsav yam tsim ntaim txiaj ntaim ntsim nawb! Kuv ntseeg tias neb yeej yuav tau cov kwv tij neej tsav los rau neb hlub xwb. Txawm luag tsis hlub neb los neb hlub luag ces yuav muaj hnoob zoo xwb me muam!

[@yengxiong3481]

Tsis tsim nyog koj tu siab koj rov qab noog koj tus lheej tso koj mam li tu siab

[@panouleex]

A little harsh and complicated for no reason. Just because a family doesn’t come around as much doesn’t mean they should get cut off. Just celebrate the kids and be happy for them

[@mayhlilee746]

Wow... This story really opens my eyes. Thank you to this mom for sharing your story. I think there is no right or wrong way how you choose to live your life, the Hmong way or another way as long as it is important to you. However, if you are Hmong and you choose to abandon a life without NOT ONLY the Hmong way but also your very own family then you have to make sure you are immune to life's challenges. It can come back and bite you in the ass and it's going to hurt like hell.

[@txhobtxhawjheev8588]

Good lesson! Txhob tsa7 meej mom, tsa fwj chim, saib yus tus kheej muaj nqis tshaj lwm tus. Work, life, personal, and community service balance! A high degree does not determine your output. It's your actions that result in the consequences. Please don't blame the degree, it's the people to blame.

[@hnubzoovang9217]

Xav li cas los yeej yog, ua li cas los yeej yog vim nyias ua rau nyias xwb TABSI yog muaj tshaj 3 tug neeg hais yus lawm ces tej zaum yus yeej ua nyhav tej kwv tij zog lawm.

[@maomvanglo]

Now a days it doesn't matter how much you love or don't love your family. If they don't want to help they will find every excuse in the book to not help. I am one of the nyab who my in law don't like, so they choose not to love my husband too. My in laws they do events and never invite us. We find out when pictures are posted or from other family memebers. So sometime its ok to just stick with your immediate family. All I know is that I don't owe anyone anything anymore because I have helped in every way that I can already. Some Hmong family just like to make things complicated.

[@_milly]

Txhob chim thiab tu siab rau cov kwv tij os. Chim thiab tu siab rau yus tus kheej xwb. Neej tsa los twb tsis hais txog hauv zaj story no li ces ntshe neej tsa los twb yeej xav ib yam li cov kwv tij thiab.

[@gaohmoob6816]

We will see a lot like this will happen more because we have too many brothers and sisters who think they are way too smart or too good that they over look the need of our Hmong culture and Hmong elders, and will end up exactly like this couple. No matter how smart, good, educated, or whatever you call yourself, remember you are still Hmong, and you will fall back onto your roots at the end. Love and respect your culture.

[@harmonyolivia8494]

No matter how high your degree is or how rich u r or how busy u r...u can still make time for family....u dont need to attend every functions but u can appear in some.

[@pahoualee6059]

Great lesson learned!

[@lor6760]

The Bible says wealth and fame can't save you from the lake of fire. This is eternal repent before is too late Jesus christ the savior.

[@Niampovlis]

Money can’t buy anything, families come first. Money can’t bring dead love ones. Look at point, money love each other with respect.

[@menaib8426]

A lesson for all. The saying goes it takes a village to raise a child - for Hmong it takes a village to bury a loved one. Make sure you learn to reciprocate because one day you’ll need others help. Family is important. Live, learn and forgive.

[@MonaLisa-de4cp]

It doesn't need a village to bury someone. Hmong people just love to make things extra hard and complicated. This whole family just proved it, whether it's getting married, burying a loved one, and being sick. People just need to have compassion and not be the ones in this story that, even blood siblings, have tit for tat mentality...if you don't do something for me, I won't do something for you. I hate that way of thinking!

[@denamoua7262]

Qhov peb mus pab kwv tip yog ua txhawm rau yes cov kids vim neb xav together neb tus keep xwb thiaj zoo li no.yog neb this koom lawv neb mus vaj tswv nawb

[@calvinvang2189]

That’s why you have to make time to help others.

[@shosochang216]

Txawm kwv tij tu siab tsis zam txim rau yus lawm los yus cov niam txiv 1 plab yeej tseem yuav pab tabsis yog txog thaum lawv tu siab tag tsis pab lawm ces ntshe yus muab ua dhau tshaj qhov dhau lawm lawv thiaj tsis pab.

[@angielo06]

Tej zaum neb tau ua tej yam uas ua rau neb tej kwv tij tu siab thiab muab neb tso tseg zoo li no. Neb yog ob tug kawm ntawv siab thiab muaj nyiaj, yog neb txawj coj, cov kwv tij yeej hlub thiab respects neb heev os. Tejzaum neb yeej brag thiab khav tias neb ntse thiab muaj nyiaj lawm ces neb yeej tsis need neb tej kwv tij thiab mog. Tabsis yog beb twb ho los nyoo lawm tsim nyog lawv yuav tsum reconsider es rov tig los cem neb ib teem es ho tig rov los rub neb tes dua thiab?

[@hmongcalifornia176]

Good story 👏

[@bangerjohnson3804]

Lesson learned.

[@kathyxiongchannel138]

neb tseem yog hmong ces yuav tau coj li hmong lawv thiaj pab yus nawb

[@tengher6111]

TRUTH.... "we are hmong with traditions and family value. Once you leave family or marry outside the race. The hmong traditions and bloodline is lost forever."

[@kayherrs9876]

There's always a reason to strained relationships. When it comes to hard work and labor, family remembers us. But investments and making a profit, they make sure to keep it a secret but sharing it with other siblings. And we only need them, they don't need us. What a cruel story!

[@pangxiong2273]

If you need the family and community to help you, you need to come out and help too. If you're too good for your family and community then do everything by yourself. We all busy but we sacrifice our time to help everyone. Yus muaj ib pab kwv pab tij. Zoo thiab phem, kwvtij nyob twg ces sawvdaws nyob sib ze.

[@hmoobxwb7119]

Remember that Hmong people have no forgiveness….and they are prideful and will never forget the wrong

[@nengxiong9799]

Tab tom yaum kawg cov kwv tij mas ua yog kawg nkaus tsab ntse li neb ob niam ko ces tsis tas pab li o

[@Loves_GodSR]

Im sorry you went through this. May your story help others

[@Miababee]

As we've all heard the famous line "Action speaks louder than words." That's exactly where it went wrong.

[@pajlisyaj1716]

Txawm yog zoo li ko es kuv thiaj niaj hnub cem kuv Tus tub ntag Lau,

[@MaiVMoua]

Very good story to teach some young people

[@douamoua7573]

Tsev hmong no phem dhau lawm thiab. They are ight but they also not any better tol. This couple is only go away for better life. Is not like they stolen from you or bad people.

[@greenladylalaland4222]

I don't understand why hmoob always brought up their higher degree during the wedding, big or small!!