Accidental Killer On Living With Guilt | Minutes With |

In this episode of Minutes With we spoke to Jacob Dunne, who accidentally killed a man with one punch on a night out. Jacob told us how this event has changed his life, how did it feel to speak to the parents of the victim and what he's going to do with his life moving forward.
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Thanks to @Jacobfreeeman For more on Jacob’s story check out his book: www.amazon.co.uk/Right-Wrong-Story-Guilt-Redemption/dp/0008472114

[@CERTI-SY786]

Is this one punch man?

[@fayssalsaleh8007]

Dear Editors, Please don’t cut the footage right as the speaker is about to evoke their raw emotions. E.g. 14:19 he’s really going through it talking about his mom and then you just cut to when he’s composed again.

[@no_one_u_know4287]

@@fayssalsaleh8007 I’m trying he didn’t want to show it so he asked that they cut that part out

[@yado7550]

@@CERTI-SY786 I was like "damn didn't they make an anime about this guy?"

[@Caspersbae]

Hopefully a percent he’s getting from the story/book is going to the victims family

[@doggies.will.be.doggies]

This can happen so, so quickly... I am 49 years old now, but at 22 my drunk mates and I got into a fight with some others drunks in Ibiza. Over absolute BS that that I can´t even remember..... I wasn´t a fighter at all (never threw a punch in my life before) but was well built at the time. While in the mix, I swung at a guy and knocked him out cold - he dropped like a rag doll. We were all kicked out of the bar, and went to our crappy apartment. The very next day, I was arrested because the guy (Hans, from Holland) was in a coma because of me.... His chances of survival were slim, and I was charged with attempted manslaughter carrying an 8 years sentence. Hans´ parents actually came to visit me in prison and we had a conversation that I will never forget: they actually forgave me. 4 weeks later Hans made it back to life, was going to be 100% ok, and he refused to press charges on me because of what his parents told him about the conversation they had with me earlier. He has been my best friend ever since, 26 years in. In a few months´ time, both our families are going to celebrate my 50th in style. He still calls me a p@ssy for not hitting him harder than I did :) Be careful boys....a One Punch Kill can happen to ANYBODY.

[@tavish2789]

this is a great story wow

[@TheRemkoe]

Good that you are friends now! Greets from the Netherlands.

[@doggies.will.be.doggies]

@@tavish2789 fortunately it ended up being a life changing moment, while getting the best friend i could have ever hoped for - but chances were 95% towards him dying; and me becoming a legit murderer. To those young lads out there today: PLEASE avoid that stupid punch....Size doesn´t matter - if you hit a guy in the right spot he will drop, and you might have killed someone. Walk dafuk away!

[@LordBranniganThe]

Whoa 🤯

[@carpo719]

that is either one hell of a story or one hell of a story!

[@Mtbjitsu]

This should be shown to kids in school around the country.

[@kephrenh]

Unfortunately, they won’t listen, just like most of us didn’t listen when we were young. There is that blind arrogance that any kid has that make them believe that it only happens to others. But I guess, it might those few kids who do listen

[@nathaniel.7172]

@@kephrenh some will listen, some won't

[@alexfisher4207]

We watched an interview of this guy in form in year 8

[@lewisbower0094]

bit pointless really, they all carry knives these days and can’t throw a punch to save their lives

[@HA-fx5bw]

Around the world.

[@briancarmichael2380]

For every guy that’s ever been drunk and stupid - this could have been you. It could have been me when I was a teenager. On either side. Breaks my heart for their families.

[@constantnipples2428]

very rare to happen like one in a billion chances of dying over a punch

[@foxernator]

@@constantnipples2428 1 punch, person goes down - head to concrete... it's a lot more common than you think.

[@DoobiusPiff]

not at all, yeah i was also a stupid teenager but never a bully this guy simple bully go round with his mates assaulting people now acts like the victim....

[@thatsthejobbb8587]

Happened in Sydney a few years back with two brothers! One had just flown out to meet the other, had a great relationship and were about to take on Australia as expats. The brother made it through after a long hospital stay. Can't imagine the impact it had on that family!

[@annofcleavers5791]

@@DoobiusPiff Correct,he was a drug dealer as well.

[@meggy0]

My friend was killed by a single punch in Vancouver at a nightclub, she got separated from her friends and this woman who had been trying to fight with her ran up and punched her from behind and she fell and died. She was quiet and sweet and kind and hardly ever drank. Her killer showed no remorse and got probation and no prison time. Thanks for what you're doing Jacob, thank you for connecting with the family and allowing them to have those tough conversations with you and for trying to prevent things like this from happening again.

[@M.Montgomeryz]

That is so fucked up! That makes me sick to my stomach to know that girl will never pay for what she did. I send you peace and condolences. Thank you for sharing this is a good reminder for people to just walk away. It’s not worth it

[@monkeykingyo6359]

I don't mean to be insensitive but how does someone get no prison time for murder with intent,my condolences to you and your friend but respectfully I just can't wrap my mind around that, probation for murder? The system is truly a failure.

[@M.Montgomeryz]

@@monkeykingyo6359 it really is. She must have some kind of corrupt lawyer or something.

[@meggy0]

@@M.Montgomeryz thanks so much, and yes it is, and it's so not worth it.

[@meggy0]

@@monkeykingyo6359 she basically contented that it was an accident with no intent and it was just a punch and it was too hard to prove intent. She was a single mother to a toddler and pregnant again by the time the case went to court, and she had no family, so it meant her kids would end up in the foster system and that played a factor. And, yes, our legal system is severely broken.

[@PowerMoneyRespect619]

"Even if someone forgives me today, it's okay if they don't forgive me tomorrow". This shows the level of self reflection this man has been through.

[@enlightenmentworldunited8545]

He still dead

[@swingingmonk]

Spot on!

[@cmcc3721]

I don't think it takes much reflection to appreciate the fact that just because the parents of the young man he killed said they forgave him on the Tuesday, they might actually hate him and not forgive him again by the Wednesday. He did kill their son after all.

[@cmcc3721]

@@linkinnonya7822 Any person in that situation is always going to wonder if A) they truly mean it and B) Will they change their mind. I mean anyone that's riddled with shame and guilt obviously. Not those who are not.

[@PowerMoneyRespect619]

@@cmcc3721 the reality of it is that you could genuinely want & mean to forgive someone and the next day see a powerful reminder of your lost son and then you're in this spot where you feel trapped by two strong and opposing emotions. This is a complex situation and there is no simple answer.

[@LOTW1]

I once met a person who spent almost 30 years in prison. He said to me "Don't ever let 30 seconds get you 30 years". He said he never thought of going to prison because he was an athlete. He wasn't a criminal. But one day his sister's boyfriend slapped his sister in front of him. He punched the guy and when he fell he hit the back of his head with a chair and was dead in an instant. That's how quickly he went from baseball prospect to inmate. It ain't worth it.

[@LernestW]

I do agree but man, I'm not going to passively allow my sister to be physically harmed or abused, let alone in front of me. This says more about a wildly unjust sentence (based on information provided) than it does the situation. Standing up for and helping others, especially those at more of a disadvantage than you is paramount.

[@Fyre1745]

@@LernestW yes that could have been overturned if those are the facts and all the facts. i'm pretty sure there is a law included that if you are so angry that you aren't thinking clearly

[@barringtonmorris90]

Sister set him up

[@JachAnen]

@@LernestW Well you could still do something, what these kind of stories tend to have in common is aiming the punch at the head. Had he made a gut punch, it's unlikely he would have fallen over like that and would have enough control still to avoid landing on something, but probably not ready to hit back so he could be escorted out. The risks from going for anyone's head is too great and should be reserved for only the worst situations

[@raphaelkoch1573]

@@Fyre1745 depends where it happens.

[@jrfrondelli2023]

In 2007, a troubled 22 year-old kid jumped infront of my car on a highway in Brooklyn, to end his life. I was his instrument of death. While I wasn't LEGALLY liable for this, I STILL live with it in my head, and no one ever even asks me about it. It wasn't my choice, but I was apparently chosen to be there. I hope that, someday, this can be explained to me, because part of me died with that kid. 💔

[@fuckuimnoreply]

i hope you can forgive yourself someday… you deserve to life without being burdened by this

[@MinaMcKay]

I'm sorry that happened to you. I cant imagine

[@SStupendous]

Goddamn, that is horrific. Hope you're recovering man

[@TheKitkat4000]

I'm so sorry this happened to you, it would have been someone else's car if not yours. You were just at the wrong place at the wrong time I hope you can recover from this, you don't deserve to feel the guilt for this

[@RileyBanksWho]

I'm sorry someone did that to you.

[@AmeliaAdNauseam]

I think this is the absolute epitome of humanity. I’ve never heard such eloquence, sobriety, humility, remorse, composure… I’ve never heard anyone speak like this. He doesn’t talk with self pity even though you can see the emotion in every second. I don’t want to say this is beautiful because that sounds trite and easy. But it’s something like beautiful. Crying my eyes out quite frankly…

[@RecaJ333]

“Something like beautiful” I like that. I understand exactly what you mean ❤️❤️

[@DjBlakkTux]

it is beautiful though. what he did back then isn't. but the way he handled the situation afterwards clearly is.

[@stevesetzer3361]

I was crying as well.... to hear his pain, guilt and then the loss of his mother, Wanting to have been a better son. He has had a journey. Lived a lot in a short time.

[@TimSurway]

Brutally honest about his feelings.

[@chrisbarber8768]

I used to work with James a few years before he was killed. I still remember being told what happened and being in total disbelief and visualising Jacob as a monster. This shows just how much of a normal guy he is and its even more scary how something like this could happen out of nowhere!

[@C.U.N.Tahiti]

When did this happen? What year?

[@rossmonty1911]

Telling lies makes baby Jesus cry Chris

[@chrisbarber8768]

@@rossmonty1911 no lies mate, I worked with him 2 years before he was killed. I'm not saying we were close friends, just I worked with him. Seeing the video pop up on KZbin gave me a little shudder but I just thought this guy is actually just a normal young guy.

[@chrisbarber8768]

@@C.U.N.Tahiti 2011, which I only remember because I found out at a beer festival and I still have the glass!

[@adamaenridi7272]

@@rossmonty1911 Not that I don't believe you, but Jesus is kind of a tough guy and I've never seen him cry. I'll make sure to ask him about it next time he comes around to cut my parents lawn.

[@ItsIceyyy]

He wears his pain and remorse in his eyes, such a sad story- One single action can really alter your life or somebody else's!

[@TommyT_]

You've proper fell for his feel sorry for me act ent you

[@LimerickWarrior1]

@@TommyT_ He has never blamed anyone bar himself for what happened. So he doesn't need an act as he admitted he did it. I have no idea where you are going with this BS line.

[@sjeb1967]

​@@LimerickWarrior1 spot on 👍

[@opium42069]

One puuunch!

[@jimfixer9589]

@@LimerickWarrior1 - I have no idea what BS was in the judge and lawyers heads in only giving him a 2 and a half year sentence... looks like they gave him a "boys wil be boys" type of sentence... I've never been violent in my life... apart from killing spiders and moths in my room, the sentence of 2 and a half years for lashing out at someone and ending their one and only life is utterly pathetic, it sends a message to the public that if you do get into problems you'll be given a break for it. A dead person doesnt get a break, the dead person doesnt get leniency in his/her sentence... he/she also doesnt have lawyers arguing that "oh he's there's no priors so lets only impose death for a few years"... You take a life, expect to lose your own life.

[@katieeet5740]

My uncle was killed by a single punch. Cracked his skull on the concrete. The man who punched him was in and out of jail the rest of his life. Kudos to this guy for turning his life around and showing remorse.

[@joesphsmiththethird4432]

My uncle got into a bad situation and multiple people surrounded him, one hit him on the back of the skull and he died. One punch.. all it took.

[@enlightenmentworldunited8545]

Sorry to hear about your uncle.You have my condolences 💐

[@GrandMasterKai]

oh please he was a shitty guy and hasnt turned anything around

[@timothyheddlepop5568]

Think karma will get him sweetheart

[@Brandon68plus1]

Concrete and fighting don’t go together take it to the grass or be a bigger man and walk away.

[@pureluck2958]

"Even if someone says they forgive me today, It's okay if they don't forgive me tomorrow" This hits hard. I remember saying I forgive someone and the next day just knowing that I don't forgive them. I had only said it so I could help them not live in this crippling cycle of guilt, justified or not. Took much longer for me to actually forgive them and by then we were so distant that it isn't worth telling them anymore.

[@head85]

Just would like you to know that the first time matters. Take care of yourself. And others❤️

[@Djderekm]

I remember this happened to one guy where I live. And the victim who died, his family made the guy who hit him feel so bad that he committed suicide. Two lives lost from one punch. Be careful out there guys. Never worth it.

[@snippertripper2160]

If this happened to my son the person who done it would be conmiting suicide too.

[@TheStonerosesHQ]

You can’t blame the family for making the guy who killed their son feel bad though, his suicide is not on them. I get your point though, this guy is a good example of people who are decent but make one bad decision which ruins lives

[@TaylorElizabethHunt]

Poor guy. Guilt kills too! Heartbreaking

[@General_Gaddafi]

Yeah 2 lives, but now the family will feel guilty that they made him guilty to a point of committing suicide which is a crazy domino effect

[@BenQotsa]

Who is this?

[@hibernator8399]

You can not only see the guilt in his eyes, but you can feel it in his speech. Every pause mid sentence and his tone all heavily show how his heart is weighed down by the pain he caused.

[@AreMullets4AustraliansOnly]

It’s not his fault. He may have caused the pain but how could he ever have known that James would die. It’s just a horrible horrible thing all-round. Two lives lost, almost.

[@Hartinmouston5158]

Some mistakes are so hard to survive.

[@albinomauren]

@@AreMullets4AustraliansOnly Well said.

[@youtubegarbage7876]

If he had just injured him, he'd still be bragging about it. UK guys are gross.

[@AreMullets4AustraliansOnly]

@@youtubegarbage7876 guys who suckerpunch people and get in fights are gross, or maybe stupid is a better word. But we expect 18 year old guys with lots of guy mates to be stupid, the point is information wasn’t as accessible back then. I know one punch can kill because I get sent articles by my news app every couple of months saying it’s happened again, and because I’ve seen enough videos and read enough comments to know about it. This guy didn’t have that, I can only really feel bad for them both, and i’ve got a lot of sympathy for the puncher. One thing we can all agree on is that it’s probably done a world of good that he didn’t languish in prison for longer, because instead of having one more lost person, we have this man who can now come out and warn others. He got what he deserved, and that was a chance at redemption. One more thing, it’s probably a good thing that boxing gyms and martial arts gyms exist, to teach kids and adults how dangerous they really are and to have responsibility over it. I can only say that i’ll avoid fights at all costs, and if someone’s attacking me on concrete you better bet i’m fighting or running for my life, ego isn’t worth killing someone or getting killed over.

[@aether-elephant]

My friend died this way, he had just started university.. only 19.. he was trying to stop a fight he wasn't involved in.. hit once and went down.. he was one of the happiest and kindest people I ever met.. he always looked after everyone and had the biggest smile.. so positive.. Last year another guy we both knew was kicked to death in our hometown.. again, another sweet guy who didn't deserve anything like it.. he was a pacifist.. It only takes one punch. Or one kick. Don't be this guy. Just walk away.

[@PrinceAndrewFucksKids]

Teach you a lesson. If it doesn't concern you, don't get involved.

[@LuhJay3]

Don’t be the guy in the video or the guy helping?

[@hman2912]

Too many idiots who should never drink and just want to show how tough they are. You see them in bars and you just know they want to start something. Sorry to hear about your friend.

[@BirdDawg1]

Ever heard "Mind your own businesses"?

[@abolisher]

@@BirdDawg1 😂

[@dif-doitwithfamily9588]

Big thumbs up to James parents too. Forgiving your child's killer in whatever circumstances is too hard.

[@Christian2BaG]

For me it seemed like two persons died that day. He still looks wrecked. Hopefully your journey of forgiveness is/will be successful. Thank you for spreading awareness. 🙏

[@quantumjourney1]

Well the video is about how he turned his life around so no he didn't die at all, he learned to live

[@Chelletryingtosmile]

@@quantumjourney1 pain and anguish is written all over his face.

[@MaIikBlishtar]

I don't think he always looks like this-- he probably cried a lot during this interview but it's all cut out

[@fusionsportdaily1650]

You gotta start by forgiving yourself. It's a fluke. He's clearly harmless in the manor that he meant not to kill. It was a freak accident. A lot could've been in play before the punch that led to the death. I.e brain aneurysm, blood clot...etc

[@BirdDawg1]

Well said.

[@LonelyCinderella123]

I'm 37 and have never gotten into a fight. Even most guys looking for a fight will not attack you out of the blue but rather try to get a justification for it like bump into your shoulder and see if you take the bite. I don't care if someone sees me as a coward or a lesser man for it, I always just think it's not worth it. Just keep walking.

[@holliswilliams8426]

I agree, the thing is if you swing a punch at them you realise later that you have broken your hand and then it takes a long time to heal.

[@melindamercier6811]

You’re certainly the bigger man for it, despite how our twisted society may see it. Only a mental juvenile picks a fight for no reason.

[@LonelyCinderella123]

@The Fire Dragon lol nice trolling

[@BrianDenton3]

That's not cowardly at all. It's the right thing to do. Only fight if you have no escape.

[@DonDeLem]

I do the exact same thing. Someone calling me a "pussy" after the fact doesn't affect me at all. They actually get more upset if you just agree with them 😂

[@beemarron3642]

This one hit hard for me. When my cousin was 17, a man punched him unprovoked at a party and left him in a coma for several months. He's now in his 40s and has the mental age of an 11yr old. He'll always need a carer. We wonder about the life he could have had, and the life that the perpetrator is leading after just a few years in prison. I can only hope he shows as much remorse and desire to do right as this man here.

[@bobbyrayofthefamilysmith24]

Crazy, I've never understood why people do unprovoked attacks. I was knocked to the ground from behind completely unprovoked and hit my face on the ground. Complete stranger I'd never even said a word to. What's the point? What does it prove? It's not like it even proves how "tough" you are since it's a cowardly thing to do. Terrible what happened to your cousin.

[@NeglectedField]

@@bobbyrayofthefamilysmith24 Well, one reason is that some people have had such a bad upbringing that they lack impulse control, appropriate channelling of emotions or even a basic moral compass to the point they're basically feral.

[@davespanksalot8413]

@@NeglectedField I live in a rough area and I remember Roy from across the road was in the middle of a street fight when he wailed “I just get so angry, but I don’t know why”. Quite often it’s even as “simple” as someone not having ever learned the words to describe their feelings nor the ability to recognise and match those feelings to a description, which leads to inarticulate frustration, then physical expressions of those feelings, and violence, etc, etc. That’s why emotional education strategies are often very successful.

[@bobbyrayofthefamilysmith24]

@C C what?

[@bobbyrayofthefamilysmith24]

@C C ah I get it. Basically it only makes sense to the nutcase doing such things.

[@BlueDaemonful]

I've always avoided fights even when I was a kid. I knew even then that there were consequences and that someone could get really hurt. A part of me still fantasises about smacking someone alongside the head when they act like massive assholes but with stories like this I realise that it's just not worth it. Someone could die, I could die, be thrown in prison and live with the guilt. Your life can be paused by something so immature. To all you dudes out there especially - take it easy brothers.

[@jibranshabir4173]

You stealed the words out of my mouth

[@roman-co1hg]

@Spots Corner damn mate, where did you live where it is so rough?

[@clockworkNate]

There are times though if you're not the one punching, you're the one getting punched.

[@Alien-ky3td]

@Spots Corner Lol wtf? Who asaaulted you?

[@nocturnalrecluse1216]

Same. A moment of satisfaction isn't worth a lifetime of guilt.

[@Monanged]

This is gut wrenching. I also believe that movies and pop culture in general tend to create these kinds of situations. You see huge fights where everyone gets wrecked and throws dozens of punches but only come out of it with a little busted lip. While in reality one punch can be fatal. This representation makes it that people underestimate how fragile we actually are

[@studiocelestedesign]

Absolutely. Very well stated.

[@rayjones95]

Well said ma'am! My husband was a hothead with a reputation in our rural county for it. He was In a large city working, and his cousin started a fight in a bar, and my husband beat a bouncer who punched his cousin during the ensuing brawl, and beat him badly. He was arrested and charged with felony assault because of the injuries the bouncer received( broken jaw and orbital socket) 2 months later, during his trial, we saw the bouncer, his wife, and twin daughters who were around 6 yrs old, a beautiful family. I'll never forget the look in my husband's eyes and how much it upset him. I asked him why he was so upset, and he said because he is the reason that guy is no longer Superman to those 2 little girls! Thank God, that was the last fight he's gotten in! There are many life changing consequences caused by fighting, and they aren't always obvious!

[@steviejrr]

they can't be fatal, it's like a 1 in 1000 chance to kill a person with a single punch, especially if it's in the middle of the street with nothing for their head to hit on. There's thousands of fights every night around the world, yet I guarantee under 5 people die from punches.

[@megalodon1726]

@@steviejrr if it's in the middle of the street, they could hit their head on the street and die!

[@flippalovell]

@@steviejrr 1 death in a thousand punches is a lot considering how common punching is. Means there are likely a lot of people that die this way each year.

[@s.mcqueen8149]

“Even if someone says they forgive me today, it’s okay if they don’t forgive me tomorrow.” What an eloquent way to put that. I feel sorry for that young man. You can tell if he could give up everything he owned to change that moment he would. In a heartbeat.

[@jaimelock3966]

he is still dumb af for what he did

[@oldironsides4107]

My grandfather accidentally killed a dozen railroad buMs In the 30s. Over the course of 2 years or so. Some he strangled another he crushed the bums head in with a rock. The other ones he threw down a well. He claimed he never meant to do it but they really just irrated him so much. I think ge served around 2 to 3 months in jail on some weekends. He compared them to nuisance creatures. The well was also packed with over 2 hundred cats. We never drank out of it and told not to look in it as he refered to it as his killin” well. I now know why he called it that. It was a well for killing

[@grilledcheesehater44]

@@oldironsides4107 accidentally?

[@Jonathan-A.C.]

@@oldironsides4107 What in the fuck

[@joe1972]

@@Jonathan-A.C. srsly 🥴

[@tiannadaly7440]

Big respect for Jacob. He came and did a talk like this at my college when I was younger with the mother of the victim. We were learning about restorative justice but I know they’ve visited places to teach teenagers how to not make this mistake. This is evidence of a man who has learned from his mistakes and pushed to make the world better. Incredible man 👏

[@jimfixer9589]

Sounds like you've got it all figured out. If someone killed one of my loved ones and only received a 2 and a half year prison sentence I would find it difficult to share your 'progressive sentiments', as well-intended and appealing as they sound, no doubt the justice system would likely incarcerate me for longer if I exacted my own revenge... so here we are, in a system which treats law abiding people worse than the rule breakers and thugs...

[@tiannadaly7440]

@@jimfixer9589 he said himself that he was lucky to be put forward for restorative justice and he never expected forgiveness. We should be grateful for another life saved.

[@mrjumppanda]

​@@jimfixer9589 Of course youd be incarcerated for 'exacting your own revenge'. Jacob committed manslaughter, you're talking about premeditated murder, completely different kettle of fish.

[@humanbean3]

@@jimfixer9589 Exacted "your own" revenge? what does this even mean? That Jacob was exacting revenge? That if you decided to kill him out of "your own" revenge, you'd get a longer sentence? Did I understand that correctly?

[@Jurdok1]

@@jimfixer9589 How bout you piss off to America with that cowboy vigilante justice shit. Like a mistake you make in split second is the same as planning and executing someone. Get your head straight.

[@philofthesouth6019]

Gut wrenching. One moment that changed his life forever, one extremely quick moment of anger and now he lives with the regret for the rest of his life, which is one of the toughest things. A powerful message that it can happen to absolutely anybody. I’ve stopped a couple of fights on nights out, even talked people out of it and watching things like this is reminder of why I did it.

[@samantharossiter8808]

I’m a nurse in a brain injury unit - I see the consequences of “one punch” injuries all the time - you either die from your injury or you survive albeit with devastating consequences there is no in-between!!!!!! We had a lad who survived a one punch injury but he was left unable to walk or talk!!!!! He was peg fed and his life was cut short he had two kids!!!!!!!! He died last week!!!!!!!! Think of your brain like an egg in a shell - if you hit the shell or shake it hard enough the brain gets shaken; blood vessels tear; bleeding occurs; the pressure rises in the brain and the person suffers major damage or death!!!!!!

[@boskojankovic8570]

Back in 2006 when I was 21 years old, I threw a punch at a guy in a crowded night club, cause he was pretty aggressive towards my girlfriend at a time, he fell on the ground immediately, flat on his face , and as security was approaching quickly and the crowd started moving like a freaking whirlpool , a high bar iron chair, very heavy, prob pushed accidently , fell over and slapped him on the back of his head . He ended up in a coma for 33 days. I was arrested , spent 40 days in investigation prison thinking about that guy every freaking second, will he survive, will he be functional , have I become a killer, how will I explain this ever to anyone and not be judged ? But most of the time, I was thinking of ways to take my own life cause I couldn't live with the harsh reality of not knowing . Thank to God, he woke up, took him a week to start talking and I got released. First off I went to see him in a hospital , his family was there, few friends also, I approached the bed and started crying so hard like I never did before, hugged him and he hugged me back, he was very weak but he didn't let go, neither did I. We never become close friends but now from time to time when we see each other walking our kids, I feel grateful for this opportunity but there will always be a sting in my heart when I think about this. My point is , move away from conflict, keep your head cool, think about consequences, think about you family .

[@maxtroy]

That’s why punching someone in the face or stabbing them should be considered attempted murder IMO There is no difference between you and this guy, but y by the grace of God.

[@junglebud3622]

@@maxtroy punching someone should not be attempted murder. Stabbing someone for sure should be.

[@maxtroy]

@@junglebud3622 why? What if I stab someone in the leg and say I didn’t want to kill them, I just wanted to hurt them.

[@iloveyoushima]

@@maxtroy Big difference, the guy in the video had no reason to do what he did.

[@bunmonk1903]

Murder requires intent to kill. There was no intent in either of these situations.

[@SadBirbHours]

I worked as a bouncer for 4 years in my local city Center. 4 cases of manslaughter, that’s how many cases I witnessed during that time, people severely underestimate how easy it is to kill someone and it’s almost always the fall that does it. They go down, smack their head off concrete and they’re gone.

[@divine1gore]

Insightful comment

[@illuminati7767]

Its pretty hard actually. 4 cases in four years? Says it all. The punch didnt kill them the concrete did.

[@johnhanselman6371]

@@illuminati7767 hmmmm Punch someone while they are driving a car and you can say the punch did not kill him the crash did.

[@illuminati7767]

@@johnhanselman6371 it did

[@TheMichaelseymour]

all pubs should then be made to have "kiddie pavement " - cos the amount of morons that act like children is pretty fitting really

[@KayosHybrid]

Just 5 minutes in and Jacob sounds very measured, very grounded, and very wise, like he’s been looking inward and processing everything in a very frankly shockingly honest way that not many people can achieve.

[@KayosHybrid]

@DnB and Psy Production I'm saying he's verbalising insight into this experience so candidly I rare ever hear from people all these years. It's commendable and a sign of true full understanding

[@END-yt]

@DnB and Psy Production Not a normal guy, a piece of garbage drug dealer

[@WalkingPaceWP]

The average guy will never be able to live with the thoughts Jacob has on a daily basis.

[@TheScottishSprayer]

@@WalkingPaceWP yeah, this guys demons would get the better of some folk. Seems like a genuine nice fella too.

[@WalkingPaceWP]

@@TheScottishSprayer I hope the victims family can have bond with him and see their sons life through the actions of Jacob. They never truly have to forgive him but in reality, it could have been their son in his position. Freak accidents happen and when lads fight its up to the gods. Thankfully I never get in that headspace when I drink, but I personally believe you need to already be a certain kind of person if alcohol makes you violent. I just hope Jacob stays on a sober path, or at the least, a non violent path.

[@ilysmbutno928]

Ok i’ve bursted into tears when he said his mom died a week before the results. Poor guy, hope he can cope with all this and hope he’s getting therapy

[@misteral1083]

For me it was just afterwards - "Look mum, you right..." The whole thing is heartbreaking for everyone concerned.

[@mjanny6330]

He makes enough money off his crime, I'm sure he'll be fine. Unlike the man he killed.

[@ErikGuin]

His eyes are red and glossy from the get, and you can see him fighting the tears at so many points. He is feeling for the gentleman that passed, not just for himself. This is a man who carries SO much remorse... more than most of use could even handle. Prayers for both familes and all involved or affected by this unfortunate event.

[@daquaviousbingleton9763]

Nah pray for the victims family no one who sucker punches has good intentions

[@ErikGuin]

@@daquaviousbingleton9763 True!

[@I_Was_Chrispy_Kreme]

He can’t even bring himself to say the guys name… he only feels sorry for himself

[@timothyheddlepop5568]

So he should acting like a wild man

[@timothyheddlepop5568]

Think he has been bummed

[@nicolepopps9332]

As an ex prison officer I know an inmate who was in the same situation. He was given a life sentence and I really felt for him. He was a genuine guy who felt remorse for what happened. 2 lives ruined because of one punch

[@PorlacrestaLolvide]

life sentence for that? i know nothing about laws but that sounds insane, what country do you live in?

[@B1GK1NG]

@@PorlacrestaLolvide United States. If you murder someone you’ll get a life sentence

[@MrInfernalSoul]

@@PorlacrestaLolvide If I had to guess I would say Texas, USA

[@therexbellator]

@@PorlacrestaLolvide I would take some of these stories with a grain of salt. Either there are details being omitted (intentionally or not) or they're just made up. Even the worst lawyer in the world would know that a fist fight that turns fatal would be at worst first-degree manslaughter charge. I hesitate to even stipulate if the person had a history of violence and criminal activity, such an act would not be a life sentence which is reserved for the most heinous and premeditated crimes. While killing someone unintentionally is terrible, it defies the imagination that a court system would destroy a life for what is an unintentional crime. Prison isn't just about punishment but also rehabilitation.

[@SpitfireMLG]

@@PorlacrestaLolvide a life sentence doesn’t necessarily mean ‘until you die’ in a lot of countries. Under the law a life sentence can be like 20-40 years, etc.

[@deleted5672]

My husband was killed with one punch. This needs to be talked about more!

[@abolisher]

Could you explain what happened to him? It’s good when you can relate and hear the stories of some of the victims.

[@SlickArmor]

I'd like to hear the story too.

[@felicehappy]

So sorry for your loss

[@H3len50]

I am so sorry for your loss. xx

[@Sentarry]

I guess they got deleted

[@ImAtYourMumsHouse]

"If you forgive me today, it's ok to not forgive me tomorrow." Words of wisdom. Never push somebody to forgive, it often does more harm than good unless the victim is 100% ready.

[@___Zack___]

@@Kelvin-ed6ce Yeah right, clown 🤡

[@cloudyeight]

Former EMT here, it's incredibly common for a single punch to either kill or seriously injure people. I've been trying to tell people this for a very long time but the culture just continues to think fist fighting is acceptable and not a deadly threat.

[@treyk74]

More people in the United States are killed with fists than guns. Really says something about how ignorant people are thinking fist fights aren't deadly.

[@Sandlin22]

"Former EMT"..........sure

[@cloudyeight]

@@Sandlin22 why would someone lie about being a former EMT? It's not like it's a rare job. Lol.

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

@@cloudyeight Oh don't mind this person. They probably never lived in a society where people do things and probably lurk in their mother's basement to this day.

[@yeoldeseawitch]

@@cloudyeight cap

[@CM87NUFC]

You can tell by looking at him and listening to him that there isn’t a day that goes by where he doesn’t think back to that very moment. He’s clearly became a better person as a result of what happened. Never too late to turn one’s life around and do positive things in the world.

[@timothyheddlepop5568]

You should write a song about that .. beautiful

[@lucyterrier7905]

Right. He's happy his rear end isn't in prison right now.

[@TommyT_]

Yes because he regrets wasting time in prison.

[@BB-uu9oo]

@@TommyT_ most people who commit manslaughter live w immense guilt. They don't go into a fist fight intending to kill anyone. Your lack of empathy says more ab you than him.

[@TommyT_]

@@BB-uu9oo Hilarious 16 minute video of this guy acting and you fall for it. 8 word comment from me and you know anything about me?

[@wabuk97]

Jacob you probably wont remember me but I was doing my GCSE's with you at the college, i've never forgotten when you first told me about this and how its always stayed with me to what i hope made me a better person than I could have been, I was with you when we got our results the final day at the college that summer and later shaking your hand wishing you the best saying goodbye by the tram stop. Just as I knew back then I can see just as clear now that you're a good man and it warms my heart to no end to know you're still campaining and doing good in this world. You do us all proud and make a shining example of what change in the world can be. I really hope to see you again one day mate. Will.

[@KiraHunter2310]

You didn’t bother with him when he was locked up though did you

[@Cash-Kyle99]

@@KiraHunter2310 bruh watch the video, he was locked up before he done the GCSEs again 💀

[@olafschoen4774]

@@KiraHunter2310 btch who hurt you

[@skylined5534]

@@KiraHunter2310 Jesus H. Christ.

[@afistfullofmustard3006]

@@KiraHunter2310 worst comment ever

[@Espaceespace9]

Makes me think of a friend who’s brother died on bike, he found out that his dad had learned that it might not be a solitary accident, as some young people would throw things on car and bikes from a bridge near by or smt… My friend asked his dad what he would do if one day someone would come to him and confess that they were responsible for his son’s death, he responded he would hug them and tell them he forgives them, when I heard this I cried so much, my friend’s father is really a beautiful person.

[@jameslefley]

I don't think I've ever seen a more remorseful human being. Fair play to Jacob, really is a good guy. But, the guts and hearts on James' parents and the ability to actually produce forgiveness... that's indescribably respectable.

[@techroach6343]

As a parent I would have earned his trust and then deep sixed the bastard in a long painful way. It's a disgrace that they forgave their child's killer.

[@SherLock55]

Good guy? This "good guy" used to go around with his mates looking for fights because they enjoyed it and they were also drug dealers, sure he has turned his life around but good guys don't need to turn their lives around, they don't go out looking to bash people for fun. I respect that he turned it around but wouldn't have been necessary if he wasn't such a piece of shit early in life.

[@MAarshall]

He punched a guy who was arguing with his friend, he never saw it coming and never had a chance to defend himself. Cheap shot coward.

[@peanutbutterbruv]

@@SherLock55 I have a sneaky feeling you did not grow up where Jacob did. I grew up somewhere similar and 19 year olds like him were not the exception.

[@SherLock55]

@@peanutbutterbruv I grew up somewhere worse, I know the type real well. And what is your point exactly because it was normal for young men to do what he and his friends did that makes it ok? SMH

[@Aquarius444K]

"even if somebody said they forgive me today, it's okay if they don't forgive me tomorrow". What a powerful incredible statement.

[@TheSouthIsHot]

My twenty eight year old brother was killed in 1995 when the driver of an approaching vehicle fell asleep and hit my brother's car head-on. I was 26 at the time. The devastating, suffocating pain I felt was unbearable. I have never forgiven the other driver because there was nothing to forgive. It was an accident. Twenty seven years later, I am still occasionally flooded with sorrow and sadness. I will always love my brother and I will always miss him.

[@merochicago77]

❤️

[@subrosa9467]

fuck man, that shit is so scary to me. losing a sibling isn’t something I could live with. Thank you for sharing this.

[@pHofsevn]

May he rest in peace ❤❤❤

[@TheMarioMen1]

This has nothing to do with one punch killers or the video in any way, why did you share this? 🤔

[@felixbostley5358]

@@TheMarioMen1 venting is an important part of the healing process... Please don't be a douche. The similarity is it was an accident and it sucks.

[@DewgNews]

I knew a guy back in Philly who was acting up after a night drinking. He got kicked out of a bar and wouldn’t stop running his mouth. A guy he knew was trying to calm him down and get him home safe but at some point had enough of the verbal abuse. Hauled off and punched him. He fell into a stop sign then hit the curb. Woke up in a hospital a week later after severe brain hemorrhage and needed surgery. Has a huge scar on the whole side of his head. He had to learn how to walk and talk all over again. He’s never been the same and his friend who hit him wishes to god he’d have just let the trash talk go. It’s never worth a lifetime of guilt and self hatred just cuz some guy is acting tough.

[@MICKEYISLOWD]

My cousin Steve was stabbed to death in Spain and this all started with a couple of drunken guys kicking the wheelie bins over. My cousin came out of his apartment all angry and aggressive which led to him being stabbed many times in front of his girlfriend on his doorstep. The apartment was located below the main road and he tried to make the stairs to the road to get help but died halfway up. One minute there is peace and then there was despair, horror and grief. The guy who stabbed him ran off and wasn't apprehended until 8 months later. He committed suicide in a Spanish prison.

[@MICKEYISLOWD]

@@christga100 A thumbs up is OK with me. If more people read what happened they just might think before they act. Take care:)

[@edwardtherhea6818]

I'm glad the killer died a pathetic, lonely death.

[@metamorphicorder]

I mean either way he comited suicide, or... he didnt. Bad things happen in prison. And either way the story is instructive.

[@Meeckle]

I want to watch this, but I can't bring myself to. I suffered a traumatic brain injury from 1 sucker punch. It destroyed my life. I have epilepsy, next to non-existent memory, severe PTSD, cognitive and dysexecutive function issues, balance issues.........the list goes on. I was 2 days from starting uni to be a nurse. I bought food for a homeless guy, and some arseholes didn't like that, and sucker punched me.

[@sarahvegangarden4822]

That's truly grim. I hope things get better for you, friend. I think you may find this video helpful, if you do choose to watch it. Blessings.

[@JustNicole6400]

I’m so sorry 😞 You are stronger than you know. The brain is incredibly resilient and I hope you can heal as soon as possible. This guy has not had a happy life because of his actions, karma will always come for people who hurt people.

[@AndroidSpirit]

I’m so sorry.

[@alhen9023]

Lol

[@H3len50]

I have no words other than I am very sorry this happened to you as you sound like an amazing guy and the world needs more men like you.

[@robroy488]

I had a pal who got punched for absolutely no reason by a guy in a kebab shop in North Yorkshire. He hit his head on the tiled counter top on his way down and spent weeks in a coma, nearly died. The monumental prick that did it served no time and actually bragged about it despite the worktop doing the damage. There's some true wankers out there.

[@AC-wz9tx]

Scarborough?

[@daquaviousbingleton9763]

Like this guy

[@airshredder7314]

we call it a coward punch in Australia.

[@Jumbo344]

@@daquaviousbingleton9763 Clearly not ..

[@Anteater23]

@@Jumbo344 13 months is basically nothing for killing someone.

[@RJ-wx3fh]

i remember coming out of my flat new years day to pick up a few bits from the shop and finding the area around a nearby taxi rank taped off by police. I was saddened to learn an older chap lost his life trying to break up a fight (getting hit in the process). It's a damned shame that something so frivolous in the moment can affect so many lives so deeply. im glad hes been given a platform to spread his message to walk away rather than risk harming someone else so seriously and the personal impacts if you're the one swinging.

[@talkingrealitypodcast9715]

There are so many young men who need to see this. Ultimately it’s a very sad story, but perhaps people viewing this would alter the way they look at fighting. Well done Ladbible

[@ryu7964]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has kept shifting, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway" and "Yes", are the words that enable me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I say: "Yes, I apologize to myself anyway." And I apologize to others, if it is my choice. And I use these two methods. In which I either apologize to the people personally or within me, whichever I choose.d

[@diablohorer]

Men AND women. Just 4 months ago a 26 year old girl shoved an 87 year old lady to the concrete in NYC (don't remember her name but she was a well known vocal coach, she died from her injuries 5 days later)

[@talkingrealitypodcast9715]

@@diablohorer fair point, I feel like this is a problem we associate more with men, however, you make a very good point 🙏

[@davidmansell5986]

It ended the victim's life, but clearly wrecked the life of the guy who in a stupid drunken moment, made a bad decision. A tragic story.

[@NazriB]

Lies again? One Inch Punch

[@jaimelock3966]

it s not tragic it s just dumb and you see these people everywhere praising their ignorance. The brain stem is as small as your thumb

[@poopyfartboi]

@@NazriB what tf are you talking about?

[@banned0404]

@@NazriB bodoh ke?

[@TheEddieStilson]

@U it’s not difficult to understand. Back in school all of our teachers taught us about lies again one inch punch.

[@ResonantRTS]

It is never worth getting into any confrontation especially when drink is involved. A friends sibling died just a couple weeks ago from this exact thing and the thought of how avoidable it could have been is devastating. Isnt worth it at all.

[@michaelhawkins7389]

oi Resonant please make more music :( I love your Mount blade vidoes

[@michaelhawkins7389]

@ConfusedOilPainter its because he was in shock...

[@donhectorsalamanca]

When alcohol is involved, you are not thinking rationally. The risks dont cross your mind

[@kasualbeauty309]

Sometimes there is no avoiding it

[@scottnever8732]

sometimes no matter how hard you try to avoid it it happens, a wise man said to me that ' win or lose you won't change that persons opinion , so what's the point?'

[@tracygrey8781]

I respect the fact he's taken responsibility & is sharing his story in the hope others can learn from it & realise one punch can kill! He appears genuinely remorseful... The best thing we can do with our mistakes is learn from them & be better!

[@sethhowerton1489]

Yeah, still fucks him up from the looks of it.

[@KayosHybrid]

These interviews are incredible. 16 Minutes is one of my favourite interview series currently available. Letting the subject speak organically, not focusing on the interviewer. Provocative, raw, real stories of real people who matter, who have struggles and demons and experiences that are valuable. Conversations that need to be had. Real life, real people. I commend ladbible for actually legit fucking legit journalism????? Please make sure you continue to uphold these interviews as interviewee focused, organic storytelling from real life experiences, people who aren’t heard from very often, and non exploitational.

[@kingcouch4799]

Brudda you talk like a dictionary

[@fucksusan.fuckcensorship.874]

@@philipreid2542 fr im new to the series and the title dont even say that anywhere its "minutes with" is the series title. The persons point still pretty valid. I used to love channels like vice before it became another buzzfeed propaganda channel. These types of interviews reminds me of Andrew of channel 5 news. He justs lets the story speak for themselves. the "real" news outlets nowadays publish glorified opinion over actual peoples stories, and on top of that instead of letting the people speak these loser journalists act like they have the place to speak for whole groups of people. So i highly respect this kind of unbiased content where the story tells itself and the narrators/interviews arent just interjecting their own agenda. Think about when controversial public figures get interviewed the hosts goal is never to get the real side of the guest, its to get them to slip up. Jordan Peterson is a good example of when interviewers try to inject their own narrative but he doesn't let himself get backed into a corner. Wish there was more down to earth content around like this stuff.

[@herman-phillipkleingeld2578]

Check out " the soft white underbelly" channel. Better than the knockoffs

[@DjDolHaus86]

In a lot of these stories I get the feeling that the person is making excuses for their actions or trying to reflect themselves in a slightly better light but this guy seems to have taken the full responsibility for his actions and everything that comes with it.

[@JoeCool90]

@@n-as1012 ? What do you mean? Why does he have to use language that YOU want him to?

[@aceyyyy]

@@craigyboy4770 that's not true, even if they know the punch is coming and it knocks them out, their head is hitting the ground hard, that's what does the damage

[@sneekz07]

@@craigyboy4770 You're doing too much. He told us everything we need to know. He went in swinging without even asking what was going on. The rest is self explanatory.

[@b1nary_f1nary]

​@@n-as1012 Why would he have to use that word?. What I saw is a man who doesn't even know the right words to use to refer to what happened to the other lad because it's so horrific in his mind

[@yyg4632]

@@n-as1012 why would he feel so guilty if he didnt see the guy as a victim? Words and body language have nuance. You should be able to put together the idea without hearing the exact words you need.

[@WestIndianAK]

I think this is the kind of story that *everyone* (especially all men) needs to hear. Too many people think that violence is a game, at least as long as it's done with one's bare hands and doesn't involve any weapons. In truth, the human body is quite fragile, and you can do an awful lot of damage to another person-even unto death-with just your fists or other body parts. People need to understand that *violence is no laughing matter,* and stop treating it so cavalierly.

[@garydixon6315]

Media portrayal of violence contributes to this problem alot... Thugs and bullies are revered , while men who are quiet and reserved are thought of as beta males or somehow less of a man... untill the perception changes nothing will change.. It takes more of a man to walk away.. True saying...!

[@Jesusluvz]

The human body CAN be quite fragile. People somehow survive after taking a shotgun blast to the chin all the time. Hell, a man took an entire rebar through his brain and lived for years afterwards while still being able to speak and everything. This is just a freak accident. Nothing more.

[@kariay50]

Well said

[@jiggnorth3593]

I know more violent women than I do men but other than that you are correct for sure.

[@hearmeoutbro]

Why all men? I know more violent women than I do men.

[@AmmaLove24]

He's obviously using what happened to become a better person and help others become better. Some people have very bad intentions and get away with their actions and some people like him, just make stupid mistakes (like lots of young people make) and they have terrible consequences. You can't change the past, you can only learn. I hope he heals from the guilt, this man truly has a big heart and tons of humility. 💕

[@snoozyq9576]

I was so shocked when I learnt that you can just accidentally kill someone with one punch. That is so scary. Can't imagine having to live with that.

[@Lafoochen]

A lot of times it’s once someone gets punched and get knocked out, they arnt able to brace the fall and hit their head which is usually the main cause of death

[@joebloggs6922]

It's the impact of the fall not the actual punch that kills them. If you are knocked out and you fall like jelly and hit your head on the kerb then you are screwed. I saw one story and where this happened after one man punched another out of pure self defence and went to prison for ages.

[@thereportoftheweek.6978]

@@Lafoochen incorrect depending on the blow they're dead before hitting the ground the brain hits the skull with brute force. Unlike TV simulations lead you to believe your head needs to be cracked open with lots of blood in order to die.

[@thereportoftheweek.6978]

@@joebloggs6922 wrong

[@hemmydall]

@@thereportoftheweek.6978 whats wrong about the comment? Its very common for the knocked out person to smack their head in some way, and a hard surface like a bar floor or street concrete can and will crack your skull open or cause internal bleeding.

[@jimross4914]

Jacob is the reason I stopped fighting. I had never thought of the possibility of ending ones life as a consequence to throwing punches. Jacobs story really hit home for me and now I do everything possible to deescalate or walk away. I am very sorry he went through this and has to live with it in his mind, but I appreciate his experience and it changed me forever

[@Grassmpl]

He shouldn't have punched.

[@caseycamachoperez7774]

Jiu Jitsu isn’t a bad option for avoiding head trauma

[@hemmydall]

@@caseycamachoperez7774 still way too dangerous. Watched a streetfight and one dude started grappling the other guy, then a 3rd party dude stepped in and knifed the bjj guy. BJJ works great in a guaranteed 1v1 setting, but in a public fight that's never guaranteed.

[@Old_fart_gaming69]

Man got 30 months in jail but will spend the rest of his life reliving that one moment of madness. Props to him for trying to turn his life around & to the parents for their understanding.

[@HashiAkitaPuppy]

LOL, he deserves life in prison, he is a monster.

[@zahidshabir4038]

I think his life was pretty normal before the kill. He just got involved in a random drunk argument and ended up throwing a punch on the other guy who ended up getting knocked out in one hit. I mean that could have been anyone who got a little angry with someone while drunk. The thing is that the punch happened to be a lucky one (lucky as in it happened to hit the right spot to kill him not lucky as in it was a good thing that had happened). I mean if anyone was riled up they could have drunkenly unconsciously hit someone and not know what they were doing since their mind wasn't even in the right spot when they were involved in the argument. It's not like the guy had a messed up life leading up to the kill he was just drunk one night and punched someone in a fight with them and it was a one hit KO.

[@oahuhawaii2141]

@@zahidshabir4038: Jacob wasn't in the bar when he got the call to get involved with a fight his friend had started. It seems Jacob wasn't drunk, and I get the feeling he sucker-punched his victim.

[@HeartInitiation]

Jacob, you are paying for James's life through this awareness and work in prisons. Thank you for doing that. May God bless both your souls.

[@drewyetti]

That was a difficult and heart wrenching story. One of my school friends went to prison for accidentally killing a man with one punch during a argument outside a nightclub. He showed remorse like this man here and it shows how drunken fights can change one’s life forever and when to solve it without violence before it gets worst.

[@ryu7964]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has kept shifting, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway" and "Yes", are the words that enable me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I say: "Yes, I apologize to myself anyway." And I apologize to others, if it is my choice. And I use these two methods. In which I either apologize to the people personally or within me, whichever I choose.d

[@techroach6343]

Oh your "poor" killer friend went to gaol for killing someone. Oh boo hoo yeah he's the real victim here. Disgusting

[@mikelitorous5570]

I’ve lost a friend to a street attack after drink was involved and he got hit twice and died. He was always one of the ‘harder’ friends. It’s crazy how fragile our bodies really are. People don’t realise how bad street fights can end

[@kafoop]

This is why I carry a firearm and avoid confrontation at all cost. Literally a simple hit can kill you, even if you are trying to get away from someone. I just do my best to never put myself in those positions, be respectful, and I am fully ready to use my firearm if someone attempts physical violence on me. Shit is just not the same as it was anymore, and I’m not going to die or eat from a tube because some drunken fool wants to come at me. You are catching rounds if you try that dumb shit

[@thefridge7335]

It's crazy how fragile masculinity is

[@LimerickWarrior1]

@@thefridge7335 Let me guess trans or a vegan?

[@thefridge7335]

@@LimerickWarrior1 hmmm no. Bisexual and vegan. You guessed right! However if you thought I'm an "SJW leftist" you are wrong. Very wrong... This only proves my point btw its men, getting drunk, to prove they are men and they start fighting because its "cool" and "macho"

[@katiekorell9776]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[@liftfreakzz]

The flashbacks he's getting is clearly visible. That trauma that hits you back just breaks you everytime

[@nicholasjohn7964]

Do you show this much compassion for his victim?

[@DevRSVR]

You can see how this man is suffering. I know his victims parents have a life sentence and that is horrible but its obvious hes living a life sentence too. Very sad all round. As a man in my late 40s when i think back on my youth i feel extremely fortunate that things didnt go that wrong. God bless everyone out there. Stay safe.

[@andrewlaw]

I served on a jury at the Old Bailey for a young man who killed a love rival. He was a childhood sweetheart with a girl from a very young age but eventually they split when he was 19yrs old. He spotted her out with a new flame a few months later and confronted the new boyfriend. A fight broke out and he was a highly ranked amateur boxer, one punch and the new boyfriend was out cold, he fell backwards, hit his head on the kerb and died instantly. He ended up getting an 8yr sentence for involuntary manslaughter, it ruined his life and ruined the life of his ex girlfriend and the friends & family of the lad that died. All because he didn't stop and think about the repercussions of his actions.

[@suicidebylifestyle9267]

I've never been in a fight in my life, which many people are surprised by based on how I look, I went to a kinda rough Jr High school (grades 7-9 in Canada) a kid actually got stabbed and died a few years before I attended. of the handful of fights I witnessed I never saw someone get hit in the face, it was always nothing but body shots, I asked someone I knew and he said they do it so A, teachers won't see damage etc and B, it's really easy to accidentally kill someone. For a shitty school the fighters were at least that smart.

[@baldrick650]

Samuel monteith by any chance?

[@XRioteerXBoyX]

As someone from the Jury, do you feel the sentence that was passed was worth the seriousness of the crime, or do you think that a longer or shorter sentence would have been more appropriate. The reason I am asking, is because I have seen some examples where sentencing of crimes are affected more by the publicity of the crime, than the actual nature of the crime itself, and it always made me wonder as to how much that plays a role when it comes to the jurors that are doing their duty in the courtroom.

[@suicidebylifestyle9267]

@@XRioteerXBoyX Personally I would say it was adequate, it's a reasonable sentence, it clearly had the desired effect of shaping up the offender. There's one case in the US, a kid killed his horrifically abusive father, to keep him and his family safe, the deceased was well known to everyone in their town for being a complete monser to everyone, suffice to say prety much no tears were shed when he died. after the fact the son took the victims wallet to pay for groceries, rent etc. The jury was very sympathetic, they found him not guilty on the murder charge, but guilty for robbery cause he stole the wallet. The judge gave him a life sentence for stealing a wallet off a corpse, because he had a weapon at the time it was considered armed robbery....OF A CORPSE ...many members of the jury, said they would have never found him guilty of that charge if they knew the judge could drop a life sentence for it. So I think the potential sentence among myriad other things, effect a given jurors decision.

[@XRioteerXBoyX]

@@suicidebylifestyle9267 That's a very interesting case. I'd be grateful if you could tell me more about it, or what to search to find out more about. About what you said at the end, about there being a myriad of things affecting a jurors decision. You definitely make a very good point. As for the judge handing down that sentence, it brings something else to mind. About there being a precedent among potential jurors for future cases that may come to that judge's Court room. If they knew how that judge made that decision on that particular case, would they even be willing to participate as jurors in his court room, if they feel that the judge is not fair in his decision making. After all, armed robbery is a serious offense, but armed robbery of a corpse, I'd hardly consider that to be a lifetime offense and neither would any other juror with a good sense of mind.

[@alienum77]

It's incredible how your body will suffer from an experience like this. He's like 2 years younger than me, but he has been worn out by grief and stress. I can't begin to imagine what he feels like, besides what we can see. I wish him strength, and I wish for better days for him, his loved ones, and the victim's loved ones.

[@marks2997]

A gentle reminder that he took someone’s life and made the decision to throw that punch. Before you offer another round of sympathetic comments, ask yourself if you would say the same things if you witnessed the incident? Best wishes.

[@DonnyS997]

@@marks2997 young lads do stupid things out on the lash, no excuse for it but these situations happen all the time, it’s just horribly unlucky someone had lost their life in this instance. Violence should be avoided at all costs, as there’s always the risk and this bloke learned the hard way

[@olafschoen4774]

@@marks2997 ive only been in a fight once, which was when i saw two guys rolling on the ground fighting, and i thought one of them was a friend of mine. I ran up to them and pulled him off, turned out not to be the guy i thought. He tried to hit me first and then i hit him once in the face, he fell to the ground and i just ran back to some friends. Im honestly not a bad guy, but if luck werent on my side that day i couldve had the same faith. So its not as black on white as you make it seem i think

[@Kawabongahlive]

@@marks2997 emotion gets in the way of rational, productive solutions to situations.

[@DonnyS997]

@@imjohnfreeman not exactly what I said, and I wasn’t saying he should be excused for what he done. What i’m saying is these situations happen everyday from lads acting like idiots, so in this instance it’s tragic all around that someone lost their life and for him to live with the guilt of one stupid mistake.

[@warrenmason1582]

I know the feeling, I was involved in a car accident with a pedestrian using the roadway to skateboard at 8:30 at night. We were just both in the wrong place at the wrong time and it ended with his death. It was ruled an accident but I remember everything like it happened just a few seconds ago. I also remember thinking in the following months how I deserved to die for what I did and I thought somehow that would make a difference. Like a life for a life kind of thing, but as time progressed I slowly became more self reflective and realized that sometimes things just happen that we have absolutely no control over and all we can do is try to survive the event and pick up what's left afterward. I still struggle with it sometimes and if I am watching a movie or TV show and someone is hit by a car I will zone out into the memory.

[@JackieBaisa]

I'm so sorry. Life really can literally change in a split second. It's devastating. I'm glad you've become self-reflective (instead of self-destructive). I hope you forgive yourself and go on to live your best life. Living steeped in guilt is no way to honor the other person. Thanks for sharing your story. I can only imagine the pain. Take care.

[@stevejanowiak1982]

Sorry to hear that, brother. That’s gotta be rough. Peace to you.

[@steviejrr]

Will never understand how ppl wanna end their life, most stupid thing to think of.

[@xenophagia]

@@steviejrr Well I truly hope that you never end up understanding. At the same time, I hope you do learn to understand that being an edgelord serves no purpose and is just cringey. I also hope that if (god forbid) a person you care about becomes suicidal , you are not the person they call for help. At least until you learn a little bit of compassion. You're clearly young and don't have the maturity to speak on things like this. It could be beneficial for you to learn to keep your mouth shut/keep your fingers off of that keyboard before attempting to speak on something you don't understand. It's very important to know when not to speak and know that just because you can say something, doesn't mean you should.

[@tylerkelley3400]

@@steviejrr maybe you won’t have to

[@john.hughes]

Oh wow. What an honest and heartfelt account. You still deserve to be OK. Good on you for educating others on the dangers of a single punch.

[@tanickasinclair7035]

This man is honoring the man that died by having the courage to be interviewed and facing the world with this with his fear and shame and guilt. Beautiful human being.

[@KnightoftheLord1]

He punched a man who couldn't really see it coming, then ran off leaving him to die. He also went on holiday right after the event. He sounds like a nasty piece of work to me.........

[@ryu7964]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has kept shifting, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway" and "Yes", are the words that enable me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I say: "Yes, I apologize to myself anyway." And I apologize to others, if it is my choice. And I use these two methods. In which I either apologize to the people personally or within me, whichever I choose.h

[@tanickasinclair7035]

@@ryu7964 You are beautiful. Only beautiful people are that tortured by the mistake. An asshole would not care at all. You are beautiful.

[@tanickasinclair7035]

@@KnightoftheLord1 It is my understanding that he was not aware of the results of the action. Secondly, consciousness and true sorrow is what matters. This guy has massive consciousness and true sorrow. Darn, most of my friends/relatives don't have his consciousness!!! Thirdly, it is easy for you (and I and anyone) to sit back and judge him....because our own sins are hidden from society....swept under the rug, hopefully "forgotten", eh?

[@ryu7964]

@@tanickasinclair7035 Wow, thank you so much for this. It means alot to me. It hasn't been easy living with guilt. And when I found a way to redeem my guilt, I had to share this wisdom in hopes to redeem others as well. Thank you so much again and I wish you all the best on your journey. ❤️☯️🙂

[@Redmen1983]

I'm happy Jacob is honoring the life of this poor guy who lost his life by doing all this good. And I respect how beautiful the parents are to forgive him. They are far greater humans than me, to loose my son in this situation would be to much for me. I don't think I have it in me to forgive that.

[@slsthewriter1299]

Yeah, and I think a lot of people feel that way too. The thing is though, which I think is the main reason why the parents forgave him, is that they realized he never meant to kill anyone and literally threw one punch. It just so happened to be a punch that landed _just_ in the sweet spot for that kill. Like it's a total freak accident. Neither were even sober. It's like blaming someone for accidentally sitting on their needle in a haystack. Like why blame the guy who legit didn't mean it when there's people out there who do despicable things because they want to, with a sober mind. Like I'm sure it was difficult for them, but considering the circumstances, I think it makes more sense why he was forgiven compared to other stories of murderers being given that parental forgiveness.

[@sponish0]

@@slsthewriter1299 I don’t think that’s fair to say it’s a freak accident and like sitting on a needle in a hay stack as that suggests it’s just an innocent accident that happened that’s nobody’s fault. He punched the guy unprovoked who was unaware, doing that that always has a good chance of causing a serious injury and although he didn’t mean to kill him, it’s still his fault he died and he’s far from innocent. Kinda like someone who drink drives and kills someone’s on the road saying it’s jay a freak accident just because he didn’t mean to kill doesn’t make it a freak accident like sitting on a needle on a haystack.

[@slsthewriter1299]

@@sponish0 ?? Nothing in my comment said that he wasn't innocent. What I said was that the parents probably forgave him because he didn't mean to _kill_ their son. And that, compared to other murderers who kill people in horrendous ways _sober,_ it's understandable how this guy was forgiven. Also, no. "Sitting on a needle in a haystack" is a play on "finding a needle in a haystack." That phrase has nothing to do with innocence and everything to do with _dumb luck._ People get into bar fights all the time, especially British because alcohol is a huge cultural thing over there. Well, at least pubs. So yes. It was unlucky because, as so many other comments point out, a lot of chaps do the same thing and end up coming out of it fine without anybody dead. So, again, don't know what you're going on about. Seems like you picked up something that wasn't there and are now going off because…something something internet literacy.

[@slsthewriter1299]

@Mac Definition of freak accident: "An incident, especially one that is harmful, occurring under highly unusual and unlikely circumstances." Nothing to that has anything to do with whether or not the action that initiated the incident was intentional or not, it's purely devasting turn of events with low probability. As in, you intentionally shoved your friend onto the balcony, where he was then promptly struck by lightning. A freak accident, because unless you're Merlin, what is the probability of shoving someone into a bolt of lightning? Or or, you're out shitfaced with your friends, start some trouble, and punch a guy. Turns out, he died. The punching wasn't a freak accident, but the fact he died was.

[@ronanhyland1738]

@Mac but these things happen all the time on nights out and nothing gets done about it unless the person actually end up dying which is very rare

[@richiedarko]

When you're 18 you only care about your friends is absolutely spot on. When you're older you get the wisdom but how do you get through to a group of 18 year old friends the consequences of their actions.

[@anglerfish1001]

Most 18yr olds just want to have fun. Not commit violent acts. The violent ones were few and far between and were pricks.

[@el34glo59]

@@anglerfish1001 Not true at all.

[@anglerfish1001]

@@el34glo59 What’s not true?

[@sallymenezes]

This is so refreshing to see and hear. This young man is incredible and I wish him well. So many today don't ever care about the pain and suffering they cause. Its also helped me understand this need that people have to connect and share their pain and loss with the person who has caused such tragedy. I have always thought I wouldn't want to give the abuser or the killer more, I have never thought it might just save them. So thank you LADBible

[@adamsharp201]

This young man is incredible!!!!???? He should be in prison for years. Stand by your actions and stop with the crocodile tears

[@adamsharp201]

@@TheCraydee I was being sarcastic

[@MentrA7X]

I saw this today in the morning in my shop, later in afternoon, I had a client completely out of her mind saying that I've keep 20€ last week witch is false. Long story short she was pushing me all the time then stole some stuff and because of this video I decided to call the cops and not throw her a punch. Thank you Ladbible for sharing this stories, they inspire!

[@edwardmason119]

This happened to a friend of mine at a bar 6 years ago too. Sadly he was epileptic and the punch gave him a lethal seizure. They never found the guy who did it either.

[@nonkululekongqola4568]

Im sorry for your loss

[@ryu7964]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has kept shifting, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway" and "Yes", are the words that enable me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I say: "Yes, I apologize to myself anyway." And I apologize to others, if it is my choice. And I use these two methods. In which I either apologize to the people personally or within me, whichever I choose.h

[@eriomnyc6073]

I’m sorry you lost your friend Edward

[@vicarious7858]

I've met a few people in my life that this has happened to. It's far more common than you would think. More awareness need to be spread and people need to learn to walk away from a fight if possible.

[@eelick1978]

@@kikc say hi to Bono for me ;)

[@sunnyjoy229]

So overwhelmed to hear this, tearing up. Making the best out of your life is a wonderful decision you have made. May you find joy once again.

[@brianallen858]

My uncle Padge was killed in a one punch attack in the early 70s, we forgave the 2 guy's, it was the best way to move forward, they were friends, they made a mistake, yes my uncle died, and his brothers wanted blood, but eventually things and people change and life is better than constantly wanting to seek revenge and justice, no man should die, but no man should suffer for his whole life for a mistake, we all need to accept, that nobody is perfect, my mother suffered a lot because she loved her brother, and as kids we suffered because our mother was changed, but we are all good people we have kids and grandkids, we moved on, you need to forgive and move on....

[@pabowieful]

That's a lot easier said than done. Especially this guy's parents. We accept that people aren't perfect but we also accept that people need to be held accountable for their actions. Yes he's suffering from his feelings, but it's brought on by his own actions and it's well deserved. That's what going in half cocked will get ya. He may not find peace but at least he can find solace in knowing that the parents forgave him because honestly, their forgiveness saved this guy's life because his own guilt is destroying him. I"m glad he learned a valuable lesson even though it screwed his life. This interview is the one good that came of this situation.

[@freakychick1978]

When my dad was a teacher he had a public school student who was bused in from jail to school as he awaited trial for manslaughter. The kid had shoved another teen in the school cafeteria and the other teen fell backwards and hit his head on the lunch table, killing him. I think things like this happen a lot more than people think they do.

[@SilverFlame819]

Apparently. We had a one-punch death happen here in Utah in July, I thought it was the craziest thing I'd ever heard. And now every other comment in this comment section is like, "Yep, happened to my friend." How common is this?! Apparently really common! Crazy!

[@tiesjaja2938]

@@SilverFlame819 it’s quit common I’d say.. but most people don’t realisme it, and that’s why it stays common…

[@user-ui7tn1fq2b]

@@SilverFlame819 Probably because the people who searched up this video are the people who have a relatable experience to this person

[@SilverFlame819]

@@user-ui7tn1fq2b Possibly. I was just watching random videos and it popped up in my recommends. KZbin is weird like that. :D

[@user-ui7tn1fq2b]

@@SilverFlame819 Me too, it’s interesting how every viewer comes from a different video or a slightly different search and now we’re all here together.

[@stevebailey5591]

I'm going to show this to a group of year 10 boys who I teach next week.

[@eyes5226]

as a y10, please do - you’re doing gods work as a teacher and I hope you help kids my age even more than you already do

[@stevebailey5591]

@@eyes5226 Thanks, I appreciate that.

[@mrsw5623]

Please look into the victims family more than this does too for the sake of the kids

[@stevebailey5591]

@@mrsw5623 I understand what you're saying but I think Jacob's journey as a perpetrator will probably be far more relatable to young men whose sense of masculinity is still forming. The victim's family are on a whole other journey which, of course, is far harder than Jacob's but which might be less enlightening for the audience I'm talking about.

[@BK-vg3el]

Much respect & thanks to this man for sharing his story. His telling it is not only a testament to his constructive journey from a bad place; but also a tribute to James & his family, by passing on some learning from the horrible incident.

[@HeAD-CRuMBs]

I think this is the first time I've ever truly seen the sorrow and regret in someone's eyes. Hang in there brother. Respect 💙

[@nonyabizz1219]

I can see how uncomfortable talking about this is for him. The PTSD is real. Keep moving forward, honestly this is the reason i stopped fighting around 13 years ago. 1 punch can kill me or them. Life is too precious😇 i'll pray for you and the family of james. God Bless You All 🥰💙

[@MasterFatness]

Terrible situation for anyone involved. To clarify for anyone in doubt, it's not the punch or the knockout itself that kills a person, but rather the impact of your head, particular the back of your skull, on solid ground. This is why sucker punches in the street are so often deadly. Let this be a lesson, don't get into fights unless absolutely necessary, and even if you knock somebody out who might deserve it, always call the paramedics before you leave the scene. Untreated head trauma might not always be fatal, but it can cause terrible brain damage. Whatever causes an altercation on a night out, it's never worth a life lost or taken. Always think before you decide to get violent, or this is what may end up happening, whether you wish it or not.

[@robsonbobson7839]

Sadly while this advice is practical to a sober person, when the dick swinging begins between two drinks a fight is nearly always the first logical place the smooth brain takes them.

[@daquaviousbingleton9763]

Or just don’t sucker punch people unless they are threatening you physically he threw a punch at a guy who was just arguing he’s pathetic

[@cotillion]

@@daquaviousbingleton9763 28 year old arguing with an 18 year old... think about it.

[@daquaviousbingleton9763]

@@cotillion yuh but who died tho 😭

[@supernova7848]

True. This happened to my neighbor’s boyfriend. He got into a fight with some guy on a night out . He punched the guy , the guy fell backwards , head smashed onto concrete floor , knocked out , was taken to hospital, turns out the guy can’t walk anymore. Suffered severe brain damage. My neighbor’s boyfriend was jailed for 2 years for GBH ..

[@hahahaha-yp2dx]

use this and what u have left to do good, for the family youve hurt, for the person youve killed, and yourself, i believe in ya

[@helenjeanotterstroem7240]

Yes, couldn't agree more, right on the nail. Live your life now in the best possible way.

[@barrysteven5964]

I spend a lot of time trawling through KZbin and most of it is pretty low quality. And then you stumble across something like this. It's stunning. Not just the deeply touching story related but it's wonderfully shot and edited. A real gem of a film.

[@jononeil2392]

Happened to me. A random drunk guy, and I mean DRUNK, came up to me on the street one night and asked me for a cigarette. When I explained I didn't smoke, he just snapped. Started getting aggressive as fuhg! Got millimetres from my face, screaming his head off, calling me a cheap liar, (well, that's the polite version), then he stepped back and I knew he was going to swing, so I pushed him. Did't even punch him. I just pushed him so he wouldn't punch ME first. He went backwards, landed awkwardly, caught the back of his head against a wall. Next thing I know, I'm facing a third degree murder charge and 7 years minimum in jail. CCTV footage saved me from prison.

[@prodbysoulja9795]

cap

[@nawee6801]

Thanks for sharing. I hope things are better now, for you and for the guy's family.

[@jononeil2392]

@@nawee6801 yeah, not gonna lie, I was pretty terrified. Thought of 7 years in jail for pushing someone was a nightmare. Plus, knowing my actions took another human life is something that will haunt me every day for the rest of my life. I actually got pretty close with his parents during the proceedings. They were unbelievably open minded. Made no judgement until the trial had finished. Then, after I was acquitted, his Mum came up and hugged me and said "I knew if the alcohol itself didn't directly kill my boy, it was going to cause him to put himself in a situation which did. I'm sorry." His Dad even shook my hand. I cried. Not gonna lie about that, either.

[@kirbyd]

@@jononeil2392 wow. reading this comment made me tear up a bit.

[@littleboots9800]

@@jononeil2392 what country did it happen in?

[@sarahfellows3074]

My Dad was killed this way when I just turned 20. Died in agony, far too young. Was a really intelligent special, caring man. I've been physically ill all through my 20s and 30s as a result of the trauma. I also understand the mistake and the trauma of living with such an action is horrendous too

[@v.t.5278]

I am so sorry to hear this.

[@sarahfellows3074]

@@v.t.5278 ❤️ Thank you

[@croissantlover1]

sorry to hear for your loss and what you went through.

[@sarahfellows3074]

@@croissantlover1 ❤️❤️

[@leanne5851]

I’m so sorry about your loss Sarah.

[@gp9552]

I've practiced martial arts for a good amount of years by now. One night while being drunk, i hit a guy in the breastbone. He went pale, puked and fainted, he didn't move, no matter how much you shaked him off, he wouldn't react. I swear my life went through my eyes. Thanks to god, he gained colour again and started to move. Since that day I decided to never let a moment of anger get the best of me again. Thinking the worst could've happened gives me the chills.

[@fenlandwildlifeclips]

My brother died from a single blow to the side of the face. The people responsible were acquitted after a six week trial for complicated legal reasons. It has made my personal life extremely difficult, as I have to work & I don't want to bump into any of them. I cannot move either for equally complicated reasons. As a family we have always felt that the people involved have to live with the guilt & we wonder how they can live with it...It would have been Michael's 32nd birthday today. EDIT: As Michael's family we just want to know the truth about that night & we want justice to be served.

[@CB-gr5qr]

I’m so sorry for your loss, I can’t even imagine what you have been going through and what you continue to go through. I just want you to know that I’m sure your brother is watching down on you, RIP ❤️

[@shannoninalaska]

I am so sorry this happened to your brother, and you and your family. I pray you will find peace and forgiveness - not because the act is forgivable, but because it allows you to move on from the hate and anger you probably keep close to your heart. Don't hold on to that because it blocks other good things from entering into your life. Your brother would want that for you. 🙏

[@X.R.808]

R.I.P Michael

[@flyingcatpack]

Sorry

[@fenlandwildlifeclips]

@@shannoninalaska What a strange comment. There's no hate we just want to know the truth about what happened that night & we want justice to be served. As for forgiveness, how can you forgive when there's been no explanation & no apology?

[@insightdeville5334]

Big up this guy for the journey he’s been on. This happened to a friend of my friends. He was killed by someone who was supposed to be his friend drunkenly sucker punching him from behind. Went home thinking he’d just knocked him out. It destroyed so many lives. And left a little boy with no dad.

[@techroach6343]

Yeah let's celebrate a murderer 🤦‍♂️🤢

[@wcjcnc]

A friend of mine saw a lady being beat up by a man in a parking lot. When he tried to stop it, the man fell backwards and hit his head on one of those concrete bumpers you see in parking lots that you bump your car tires into. It knocked the guy out. My friend called 911 for him. The guy died. My friend spent 12 years in prison for murder. Your life can go from fine to nightmare in seconds.

[@flyingcatpack]

wtf that is so terrible

[@KiLLJoYYouTube]

The main lesson here is to stay the fuck away from conflict. Deescalate, Always.

[@harveyevans8135]

This really brought a tear to my eye. The fact that one silly decision in his brain led to a lifelong sentence of guilt is so sad. Its so sad that someone's son was just there at the wrong place at the wrong time too.

[@bigmartin]

Grant interview.. I’ve done door work/security for 25 yrs, I’ve been involved in literally hundreds of fights over those years and one thing I’ve always said when someone brags about knocking someone out ‘’if you brag about knocking someone out, then you’ve never done it’’. It’s one of the most sickening things I’ve ever done, and without exception each and every time the first thing I’ve though was ‘’shit I hope he’s not dead’’.. It’s an immediate feeling of dread and wishing you could undo your last actions. Off the doors I’ve never been in a row, adults just shouldn’t ever resort to violence, simple.

[@smb.4900]

That is if you do not have any psychotic/sociopath instinct. But yes, same for the chokes when your sparring partner/opponent passes out, the "Is he dead ?!" is quite a visceral reaction !

[@bigmartin]

@@smb.4900 you’ll get used to choke’s, unless you’ve intent to fuck someone up then chokes are very safe. I can’t ever remember being concerned for someone I’ve choked out, sure they’re awake but disoriented in second’s

[@smb.4900]

@@bigmartin I rarely do hard sparring and usually we tap before going out. But on every occasion I had to complete a choke, it always felt wrong to see and feel the body going lifeless

[@bigmartin]

@@smb.4900 the onus is on your training partner to protect themselves and tap early

[@jonathanbartlett1098]

I worked as a security officer at a hospital for a while and had to deal with all kinds of trouble. Whenever I met new guys or spoke with younger security guys, they tended to talk about how awesome they were because they handled situations with violence. It was pretty obvious that they were trying to brag for respect, but the irony is that their attempts only caused them to lose respect with their peers, because 95% of the situations that we handled were resolved with de-escalation techniques, and the remaining 5% were a mixed bag where we tried to avoid going hands-on at all costs. People who have never been involved in a violent altercation often think that they would handle it easily, but the reality is that violent situations are dangerous and you never know exactly how things are going to go down. I am glad to say that so far I have never had to seriously hurt anyone, either on duty or otherwise, and I honestly hope I never hurt anyone.

[@MrJocky82]

What a tragic event for all involved. Such a waste of life. Total respect to James's mum for forgiving Jacob, and well done to Jacob for making something of himself, I think you can see he is truly sorry for what he did. So sad.

[@ryu7964]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has kept shifting, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway" and "Yes", are the words that enable me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I say: "Yes, I apologize to myself anyway." And I apologize to others, if it is my choice. And I use these two methods. In which I either apologize to the people personally or within me, whichever I choose.h

[@shadow_entity9191]

Always remember that when it comes to a bar fights, being the "coward" usually is the wiser choice.

[@misshulabuloothe1st953]

You’re right. I’ve come to realize that that’s the case with a lot of street fights too. If you’re not sure if you can take someone else, then don’t. -Especially in the US where so many idiots don’t take the responsibility of carrying a gun seriously.

[@KNM17_91]

Well said

[@Ceerads]

I feel so bad for Jacob and James and their loved ones. It’s heartening that Jacob is using his life to try to prevent other such deaths or maiming. I wish him all the best.

[@max.8063]

‘It’s okay if they don’t forgive me tomorrow’ - Massive respect to you my friend.

[@vernonbear]

As an angry young man I was involved in altercations in Manchester, I thought that displaying my anger and unwillingness to back down was both normal and in some weird twisted way attractive. That stopped completely when a friend was killed in a manner not too dissimilar to this one. He reached out to help a young woman who was having some trouble, her partner appeared out of nowhere and punched him, he fractured his skull when he hit the pavement and he ended up in a coma and subsequently passed away. The loss was devastating. The whole incident made me evaluate my whole approach to my anger and my life. I’ve not raised a hand to anyone since, I’m calmer and more aware of my place in life. This lesson was learned at great expense to others, I’m the lucky one who got to live and move my life into a healthier and more stable position.

[@MrXBOCAX]

Learning from others mistakes or actions is true wisdom, in my opinion.

[@JaneDoe-xi6ec]

I have mixed emotions watching Jacob. As a human being, I feel so much sadness and admiration for him having come out the other side, but as a mother I feel heartbroken for his family. I think it's rare to come across someone who made such a stupidly bad decision and who has reflected so deeply and meaningfully about his actions and done something good with it. Perhaps that's why I struggle to process it. R.I.P James x

[@nofox777]

Most men have fought multiple times at some point. It could've happened to anyone.

[@AreMullets4AustraliansOnly]

So many people throw punches every day, are knocked out every day. People don’t realise that it’s not the punch that kills you, it’s the hit to the back of the head from a 5ft 10 fall straight onto your skull, onto likely concrete or a club floor, which shakes your brain up and either permanently causes brain damage, or paralysis, or kills you almost instantly. It’s not physically difficult to accidentally kill someone with one punch, because it’s not you, it’s the floor after they’re knocked-out and can’t stop their fall, their head literally leans back, and unless you’d seen enough videos or heard enough stories you’d think nothing of it as an 18 year old kid. Boys prepared to pick up a battery charge for their friends but not believing they ever COULD kill someone with a punch let alone try to.

[@AreMullets4AustraliansOnly]

One-punch killers aren’t the ones who fight on grass.

[@victorialloyd1341]

Toxic masculinity has a lot to answer for. The whole rhetoric in the comments that "most lads get into fights" is petrifying. What are they trying to prove and why? So pointless and tragic for all involved. Society should do more to address this pandemic. Showing this video to kids would help for starters.

[@Prawnsacrifice]

Yeah it's quite relatable I think all guys do this tbh 😁

[@roadkillavenger1325]

I'm almost 40, and I did something when I was 15 that makes it hard to fall asleep at night. It was an accident, but now I'm paying for it everyday for the rest of my life. Regret is torture sometimes.

[@wkasi]

You killed someone or something? I’m joking, you don’t have to tell us, but if you haven’t already, make peace with yourself.

[@why_so_serious]

What have you done?

[@roadkillavenger1325]

@@why_so_serious I killed an extremely friendly dog. Okay? I hit it pretty hard in the rear with a stick because my uncle threatened to kill it if it ever got near his house. I was only trying to dissuade it from following me to his house. it turned around and walked away, so I thought everything was okay..... But the next morning I was informed that the dog was found dead laying on the steps of me and my friend's hangout spot. I was trying to save it's freaking life and ended up killing it myself by accident. It absolutely kills me to talk about it. I wish I could take it back every single day. From that day on I started treating dogs like they were my own child. It changed my life. I can't even go deer hunting anymore because I can't stand to hurt animals. Yes, it made me a better person in the end, but I have no other regret that bothers me remotely as bad as that dog. I might not even be responsible for it's death because I have no idea what happened between the time I hit it and the time I found out it died, but my gut tells me that I'm to blame. I can't take it back. I wish to God I could. I'm being haunted by that poor dog. I was a horrible person that day. I'll never forgive myself. Ever.

[@20the20]

@@why_so_serious this is the youtube comment section, not a confessional booth. stop being such a nosy chump

what are you doing to try to make up for it?

[@LongLiveCoffee]

One of my biggest fears ever, being 6' 5" and 225. I always try to seperate fights and not engage, just run away. Just the thought of hurting someone freezes me

[@teraxius6155]

I’m 6’6 and in the 220s as well, it’s a shocking experience the first time you realise your BIG. When I was about 15 (a few inches shorter and a few pounds lighter, but still big) I got into a fight at school and shoved the guy who’d been bullying me half the year. Sent him flying clean over a table, knocking over school books, and putting him on his ass at the teachers feet across the table. Must have been 3-5 feet he’d been pushed back and then fell further off the table. I don’t think anyone in that room was more shocked and scared than myself

[@yukiefromoz2573]

Yeah, best to stay as far away as possible from such scenes as you could easily become a scapegoat being that size whether you did anything or not.

[@phoebeel]

Don't even try and separate. My friend did it once but it was dark and the people fighting thought he was trying to hit someone. Suddenly everyone was on him and my boyfriend at the time. We were lucky those assholes didn't have knives. They were those kind of kids that just brag about violence and deviance.

[@frankie1136]

I grew up with my parents preaching this to me. 1 punch can end it all. Defend yourself but never seek it out. Doesn't matter if you're big or small. 1 hit in the right spot. One hit and falling over just right can kill anyone. Life is not a movie.

[@yos.5684]

I practice kung fu and this is what they tell us too. Avoid confrontation, maintain distance, de-escalate, never use your knowledge unless you've been attacked and your life is at risk. We know how dangerous a punch or a fist can be, either given or received.

[@dvpuk]

Wow, a story that shows how one action can change a life (and end one). Obviously this was a horrible accident but Jacob clearly is a good guy who was extremely unlucky. Amazing that the parents changed their direction and helped him. These interviews are incredible, every single one is so hard hitting.

[@sab1924]

Not true, him and his mates were the violent drug dealer types. Just a guy coping with literally ending someones life and guilt tripping the victims parents into 'forgiving' him.

[@dvpuk]

@@sab1924 how do you know they were violent drug dealers?

[@Vaginaninja]

He didn't somehow accidentally punch a guy without provocation...

[@dvpuk]

@@Vaginaninja extremely stupid and ridiculous thing to do but how many drunken idiots throw an unprovoked punch without a fatal consequence. Didn’t say he was in the right did I…

[@sab1924]

@@dvpuk Search for the guardian article about him, they would go out in groups carrying knives just looking for fights