Ladies, avoid THIS type of man! (Men don't watch this...)

There's all types of reasons why relationships aren't working right now, but one big reason is MEN. Ladies, let me be your guy friend today. Don't ignore these red flags in men. These types will ruin your life!
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Chapter Markers
0:00 - Intro: So Ladies
0:33 - This Is The Deep End
0:42 - Everyone Has An Opinion?
01:30 - We've Made It A Cultural Idol
02:19 - It's Better For Some of Ya'll to be single
02:32 - Choose Your Hard
03:52 - First Things First - Kill All The Noise
04:51 - Download The B-Side App: BSIDEAPP.COM/COURSES
05:56 - I've Been Both Single & Married:Both Are Hard
06:14 - Let's Talk About Relationships
06:30 - Much Of The Problem Is With Men
08:00 - Men Don't Know How To Lead
09:09 - "The One"
11:04 - Compatibility & Wise Considerations
12:09 - "The One" Is A Myth!
12:30 - Get off the RomComs
12:58 - Ladies, I Want To Help You
13:34 - Men Have To Mature
15:28 - Let's Dispel An Idea
16:31 - Men Have To Realize The World Does Not Revolve Around Them
17:22 - Life is Not About Him
18:39 - Men Have to Realize They Are Not In Control
20:49 - Men Have To Realize They aren't Going To Live Forever
23:04 - Listen Up Ladies
24:17 - A Man Who Wants To Be In A Relationship Understands 3 Things
26:48 - Some Just want Euphoria
27:41 - Love And Marriage
28:07 - A Man Has Got To Have A Mission
28:16 - Women Want Security (And More)
29:31 - 3 Things Continued...
30:40 - A Good Husband
32:14 - You're An Enabler
33:01 - A Story From Lecrae
35:40 - What Not To Do
36:16 - What You Should Do
36:51 - Encouraging Toward Vs Discouraging From
38:49 - Sweep Your Side Of The Street
40:10 - Supernatural Patience
41:19 - To Conclude: Trust The Father
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[@LecraeOfficial]

What's the biggest red flag for you? 👀 🚩

[@thatomofolo452]

I can see you 👀👀👀

[@daniellaamani7465]

bad hygiene!

[@sobyntahondi]

If she can't use her brain

[@KatieThompson_MissionStudios]

When they try to hide their phone... 👀

[@jeremiahmoody4828]

I can only imagine what this is goin to be about. Cuz I was that man for 45 years. God touched me February 24th 2022 and changed me now forever. Now I truly truly love my wife and everyone that I see in this world.

[@doreenlane2370]

Being single is easier then being married to a person who doesn't know how to love

[@SickofbabykillersleepgoneTRUTH]

“That person is going to turn into 5 different people no matter who you Mary over the course of the relationship.” Doesn’t know how to love say it one more time. I hate that imma quote how to love by lil Wayne on a Christian video

[@wagderlinroman1432]

I hear man change every 5 years!🫤

[@carrmanrivers969]

Amen

[@tonyahayes9229]

Absolutely 💯

[@julietruesdell.371]

​@@wagderlinroman1432sad, we are to everyday..grow together

[@PoSHEmediaglobal]

Red flag is when a guy comes into your life not knowing fully what he wants plus zero intentionalities. All he’s got is attraction to you. That’s how the caos of situationships start.

[@SILVAbums]

yesss

[@LuvKitKatt]

Yep

[@BlessedBaeLLC]

You ain't lie!! Omg thank you❤ confirmation

[@juanitamarievalencia8007]

💯

[@carriebell3566]

Absolutely true

[@MsElleDluv]

Single isn’t as hard as being with a toxic person! lol

[@KFontLab]

When you are healed and single it’s actually not hard at all. I pray everyone that has not been married yet get to experience that season before joining to someone else.

[@HeyTash]

🗣️ looooouuuud

[@shalalala868]

Tell me about it!!

[@PoSHEmediaglobal]

Word!

[@mariahmartinez9121]

For realssss

[@sydneymichelle272]

Saying he’s a Christian, but his actions say otherwise

[@cassandragrayes6149]

This is the one!!!!

[@michellesmallwood0513]

Your name is My husband and I name together lol his name is Sydney mine is Michelle

[@nora398]

Totally! Dealing with that too.

[@NewLife4GVN]

Actions speak louder than words.

[@victoriangreen3964]

Exactly

[@coffeewithcharlie]

"Single is hard. Marriage is hard. Choose your hard."

[@mjones4348]

It's not when you let God guide you what is hard when you go against marriage and have no discipline in you in the marriage when you should have learn that while you was single.

[@kSwissh007]

Single is more fun and more freedom but being in a relationship is more beautiful and satisfying especially when its going good

[@clairehenry1009]

TRUE 👍

[@ScarlettClark-id5it]

Being single can be beautiful and satisfying as well, especially when your focusing on The Lord. ❤

[@kSwissh007]

@@ScarlettClark-id5it i agree

[@1920Steele]

A red to me is when people think the world revolves around them and they think they can just treat people less than

[@noowejean3183]

Exactly

[@Rattex239]

I can agree to this

[@rhargrow8399]

My supervisor is like that, I don't think she's happy unless she's in control or bossing someone around.

[@eclipsedawn9]

Turn off for sure

[@Richiko06]

Yep a narcissist 😅

[@23kppadilla]

My red flags are: video games, gambling, clubs, drinking, smoking, emotional eating, always tardy , mommas boys, don’t know how to cook, clean, wash, or iron. Don’t have spirituality, don’t like animals, you don’t read books, you don’t exercise or eat healthy. Jealousy, don’t understand boundaries.

[@Anointed1s_TV]

😂 sheesh this is on point 💯, but take it easy on the cooking part 😅 as long as the man can grill and bring im the food

[@jenniwats2806]

So true, spot on . I been through that and saw the signs too late so sad

[@rocachick860]

Video games aren’t all bad. I have a relationship with God but I’m also a gamer. I wouldn’t mind a man of God that I could game with instead of going out all the time.

[@truthspeaker1508]

Exercise and not liking animals aren’t red flags z maybe deal breakers… but red flag means toxic behavior.

[@theeroyalkt]

You hit the nail on the head with this one! I used to be so in love with my ex, believing that I did him wrong because I didn’t stay with him. In reality he never came to my games, never supported me, never knew what I accomplished, how that hurt me. He was ALWAYS focused on himself & what I didn’t do for him or what I did to him. To this day, he’s running around the mountains searching for HIS happiness. No leadership or accountability whatsoever. I had to forgive myself for believing that was the man for me.

[@indigoshivers5721]

You’re not alone with this thought. I unfortunately had my ex kid and till this day he swears his idea of making millions real quick will happen. No accountability of how to keep it coming or start it but everyone “hinders” him. My daughter and i are thriving in our community and he’s still with his mom.

[@A.P.Q]

God bless you Queen 🙏🏾👑

[@dionnasimpson4021]

He sounds like a narcissist

[@carrmanrivers969]

I been there it hurts but that pain of realty has made us stronger and wiser

[@WillNeNe]

This was good stuff.

[@lashaydavis8593]

The biggest red flag is him being too controlling or deceptive

[@smithrosheka]

Yes

[@AuthorLHollingsworth]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@user-nu2xv6mt1z]

Facts

[@ctdope]

Women always use the "controlling" word to say, THEY are the one not doing what they should be doing, and the man having to tell them or remind them what there role is.

[@abigaillopez1410]

These type of men cheat the most

[@Niubriid]

Inheritance is what you leave 'to' people. A legacy is what you leave 'in' people. Everything you said man. This is deep stuff. Thank you for this.

[@kSwissh007]

🙏🏾💯🫡

[@johnwilkes01]

If you hellbent on leavin that legacy then you aint got that hunger yet. My Brother

[@BrittneySharde15]

Yessss

[@hj0628]

⁠@@johnwilkes01I think this comment goes over a lot of ppls heads. Very profound, very true. Thank you, My brotha

[@kSwissh007]

Respect is EVERYTHING when it comes to a successful relationship

[@rockinrollin8306]

Well, this man has some intelligence, but when he starts teaching that men rank higher than women in marriage for the sake of "flow" or because the bible says so. I drop out. Women have come too far and have worked hard to be automatically put in a lower position than her partner as soon as she says "I do". Just be respectful to each other. Equal partnership. Learn to get along with humility and mutual respect. You don't need titles and no one gets the last word!

[@victoriangreen3964]

Yes

[@stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax]

That, and two people working for the same thing. You can say you want the same thing but if the effort on both ends isn't there, it's just empty words.

[@rishardasamaria]

“Legacy is not what you leave TO people, that’s inheritance, it’s what you left IN people.” Whewwww.

[@SoJesusChristMusic]

🥳

[@Autonomous111]

For Some men, the only thing they can leave in anyone is their weak sperm.

[@starbabylight7879]

Yeeeeeeesssssssssssssss!!!! This is it right here

[@Tend2Rose]

Thank you for this message. I had to walk away from someone I still love. 7 years of not being appreciated, making me feel like a place holder. No more

[@Anointed1s_TV]

Were you two married? God allows separation for sometime in some situations, but within that separation period we're supposed to be praying for deliverance for our spouse and remaining faithful to the marriage. Divorce and remarriage against a living spouse is not the will of God unless there was a case of someone commiting adultery. God encourages forgiveness and restoration, especially when children are involved within that marriage.

[@fannybindeki7686]

This IS toxic positivity. Its staying in an Illusion.​@@Anointed1s_TV

[@fannybindeki7686]

U deserve better..good, tht U understood n acted in it. ITS Worth it. Believe me.

[@Jaycarbrownie12]

Why do you love him ?

[@Memetopia123]

Imagine if Lecrae himself loved my comment and responded. Man what a dream.

[@LecraeOfficial]

👋🏾

[@Memetopia123]

@@LecraeOfficial 😐

[@Memetopia123]

@@LecraeOfficial impossible 😱♥️

[@placefeature5329]

Some thing about seeing this makes me so happy

[@Andyice]

​@@LecraeOfficialyoooo, I've been watching your story ups and downs for 13 years now while also being on my own journey with the church and God etc. Your story and open dialogue for the past 13 years constantly inspired hope and faith in a God that transcends church

[@chewie221b]

"Love does not sustain a marriage, marriage sustains love." I'm not even married nor am I in a relationship, but this sentence really changed my perspective about what a marriage is and what it can be if two people persist in their commitment to be married and/or in a relationship. Because you can still love someone and not want to be with them anymore (breaking up, divorce etc.), I know many people in my life who went down that path. Thank you Lecrae for this tidbit.

[@isaiahgreen53]

Thank you for explaining this, I got a little confused on that part.

[@Sassymaria77]

God is love though. you saying he aint enough ? stop soaking up things that conflict with who God is .... .. the whole reason why mankind fell was because they stepped away from God . he is the only one that does hold stuff together. its a matter of people trusting in love (which is Jesus himself) to do what he does. most people look to themselves which is how you end up with hard marriages and hard singleness like mentioned here. let love hold it together , if it doesnt hold its no love in it, because love never fails . PERIOD

[@chewie221b]

@@Sassymaria77 I don't think you fully grasped what he meant when he said that "marriage sustains love". The concept of love within the relationship is NOT the problem, it's the COMMITMENT to keeping that love alive. And having that commitment is the key to sustaining your relationship/marriage with your significant other. This quote was never about doubting God's love or what He can do to sustain a marriage, this is about what YOU can do to keep your marriage alive. Because again, God can do ANYTHING, but He also won't force you to do things you don't want to do. That's the essence of this quote.

[@Sassymaria77]

@@chewie221b no I don’t think you grasp what and who love is . Go read the word . Learn to believe it . Most don’t which is why they won’t have him . Pretty simple

[@chewie221b]

@@Sassymaria77 Ok sassy Maria, sit down and be quiet! No one forced you to come here to give your opinion on what I THINK I GRASPED from what Lecrae said. This is what I got from what he said. So don't sit here and "preach" to me in my comment section about my relationship with God, because I could care less about your opinion if you're gonna talk down to me like that. If you're gonna add in to a conversation, be nice about it, don't crap talk in your "holier than thou" attitude about other people's relationships with the Lord saying that they don't read their Bible. You don't know me and I sure as hell don't know you. So take that attitude somewhere else!

[@tehewhatthe]

You had me at “most of the problems is…with men” 🤣😂 I’m kidding but it was funny.

[@miriamcollins7587]

If they are to be the head of the marriage - the leader - it would make sense that they also have most of the responsibility for the success or failure of the marriage. You can’t have leadership without responsibility. I feel like most modern churches (led by men) miss this and harp on how to be submissive as opposed to the actual hard part, which is the leadership.

[@loridori]

@@miriamcollins7587 well put 👏 ❤ thank you

[@Smotezz]

I think he technically meant; Ur men lol 😂😂😭😭

[@jalicarenee]

"I wanted to be successful to escape dysfunction" 💯😢 that hit at the core.

[@Allah_Loves_Forgives_and_Saves]

Single is peace, freedom and happiness for women ❤

[@Jessy_06901]

I agree ❤️.

[@rockinrollin8306]

Yeah, and not some man that's telling you the bible says he's the boss!!!

[@lilianakeya9868]

Yes ❤

[@serafinhumberto9016]

​@@rockinrollin8306well first the bible does say that the men is the head of the family because men is made in Gods image literally and the bible also says that a woman who wants to lead is fill with the spirit of jezebel, now saying that a men needs to lead by example.

[@rockinrollin8306]

@serafinhumberto9016 Well God sounds like a man.....

[@Pacifica74]

Men mature slow, but here's the difference. When they finally get it together, they will go and get a woman 10 years younger and be set to go. Women on the other hand, many have been mature from the start, waiting, and end up getting passed over. That's why so many women just surrender and grab a hold to any man that comes along hoping that he'll mature along the way while at the same time he's locked in. It's the gamble we've all taken.

[@stefaniakonstantinidou981]

I did not gamble. I saw my husband was a reliable man and only after I was sure of that, did I commit and we got married. Marriage should not be a gamble

[@mjones4348]

No what women are doing level up and now these men seat around playing with themselves and looking crazy with they homeboys playing video games. Now these women got 6 figure income and stop having babies with these men and buying home and traveling. Now you seeing they with these Asian men A Tokyo man or a man from the Island they are in Africa right now boo up and they get married overseas to Jamaican men. And they are during International Love. Go my sister's 😊 In one country had to shut down First graders because they didn't have enough kids to put kids in school Women saying okay we just take care ourselves because men don't want too

[@truthspeaker1508]

If that’s your outlook then that’s what you’ll get. Every man doesn’t do that. As a man thinketh so is he.

[@ashleyvaughn5213]

People who are near death are very interesting to talk to. I got a chance to speak with a doctor on his death bed and it was very eye-opening because he helped a lot of people but regretted not spending time with his family. That must have been a hard thing to internalize when you know your life is almost over. It was sad.

[@placefeature5329]

I’m 14 I still ( probably Lord willing) have a lot of my life to go. One think I feel like would help me is talking to someone who’s old and near death to see what they would do different

[@ashleyvaughn5213]

@placefeature5329 If you don't have any elders in your family you can probably look into being a sitter at a hospice, hospital, or nursing home. You can read to them and just keep them company. Look into it, you probably may need to be a little older but it's a life experience worth having.

[@cassandraclemmons6267]

Marriage is not easy but it helps when you equally yoke We been married for 32 years & 2 young adult daughters my advice Love Covers a multitude of faults be patient & forgiving.❤

[@MiaAshley97]

Any tips from dating? Like daily communication? Did you let him contact you all the time?? I’m struggling never dated in the past and interested with this one guy but don’t went to overthink him because he means well

[@C.387]

❤

[@user-hj8um4lk5l]

Been saying this, sometimes gotta choose Your hard,but life should be healthy, and pretty simple. Love doesn't hurt.

[@noowejean3183]

True, love should never hurt

[@benmwaba2735]

In all honesty, I've never liked how, as a society, we expect men to be leaders and providers, but we do a terrible job of preparing boys to be so. I dont think girls inherently mature faster, they are just held to a higher moral standard from childhood than boys are so they are pushed to mature quicker (and in all honesty, many aren't really mature...they just know how to act in a way that won't attract punishment. Those two aren't the same thing). Society (particularly Western and Westernized societies, from what I've seen) just sucks at raising boys.

[@Nunya-bp5sw]

Okay, then leadership would mean (in this case) admitting this with HUMILITY and allowing his woman to guide him without it affecting his masculinity. Which is then toxic if this is the case.

[@rockinrollin8306]

@Nunya-bp5sw I don't think a woman always wants to be led by a man either, especially when they have the title of leader, over her, while she's supposed to submit. That's pretty toxic to me. I think both genders can live together and guide each other and lead each other. It doesn't have to be a hierarchy.

[@doreenlane2370]

As a woman, I know for a fact that females mentally mature sooner. Look it up on the Internet. It is true

[@Anointed1s_TV]

​@@rockinrollin8306Our Father in Heaven is a God of order. God created that hierarchy for a nuclear family. In the Trinity between God, Jesus Christ, and The Holy Ghost, there is a hierarchy with God being the Head. That hierarchy supposed to be upheld by love instead of legalism. God made man to lead and gave women to help man discern situations. It's our natural function and strengths within society.

[@Anointed1s_TV]

Well it's due to sin in the world. Not every boy grew up in wholesome household with a mother and a father. There are a lot of boys being raised within broken homes due to some uncontrollable circumstances like death of parents, divorce, incarceration, and abandonment. Some fathers are just toxic and terrible fathers. We have to get to the root of the problem, sin. We have to fix the things that are accessible to fix (marriages), if we want boys to become men by hold couples accountable to their marriages and treatment of their spouses. We also have to fight against the injustices that fathers face (being targeted and railroaded by the law and government). We also need to be honest about the majority within society not wanting to help raise fatherless children. This is why we preach about the Father to the fatherless, because He is the best example of masculinity for boys.

[@NonoKhumalo-jc1jl]

Hmmm ... so true ... the obsession with Relationships and marriage are one of the most overlooked idols in the church. 🙈

[@laurens.5701]

It is so true. Many have made marriage, the one they want to marry, or their spouse an idol.

[@junetaylor8396]

Wow You said it!! It really is idolatry. And an obsession as you say! Jesus has no place any longer in our thoughts. We look to other people and conventions. We don't depend on Him or focus on our relationship with Him.

[@user-ge1cz6ry7j]

I agree with him. I've been single for a long time and I love it I remember a lady at my Church told me that she was praying for me to have a husband. I didn't like that. Maybe that's not what I want. Marriage is a responsibility that I'm not ready for. I had a guy tell me that dating was not his thing and when I told him that I wasn't ready for a relationship,. he got mad at me and stopped speaking to me and this is a Christian man. I was very insulted by his action toward me and this showed me that even if I was ready, he wasn't. I get it, nobody likes rejection but when a person is in their 50s, life should have taught you something about rejection and how to handle it.. I expect this type of behavior from an unsaved man. He hasn't apologized for his behavior toward me and God won't allow me to check him. This too, is a red flag. It shows a form of pride but underneath that pride is a form of fear. So I had to give the anger I had toward him to God. I still struggle with what he did but Im also thankful that I saw this early on. God saved me from unnecessary heart break. Not saying he's not a nice person but he's not the person for me.... I don't have children and Im not going to raise somebody else's child. Plus he has mother issues and there is nothing worse to deal with when a man has mother issues.... Its so sad. I like being friends with men but it seems that I have issues with trying to be friends with them because their flesh get in the way. So my choice is to stay single because I am content where I am....be blessed...

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

It may be your calling to be single ask God for dicernment.

[@user-ge1cz6ry7j]

@@carolinpurayidom4570 I honestly believe that. That entire situation was weird. He asked me to go out for coffee and when I got to where we were meeting, I heard tell him this is not that.(God's way of saying no). I was cool with what God told me. I had a lot of things going on in my life at that time. God knows when we are ready. His reaction to me is what threw me off. I wasn't expecting that. Yet, I found out later that he went to our lay Pastor and asked him if he could date me but then he says to me that dating is not his thing. Ummm, ok. He was previously married and was married for many years. I asked him how long he was divorced and his answer was, God is still working on me. I didn't ask him that but some time later he told the entire Bible study group how long he'd been divorced. Ummm, ok. Divorce is a hurtful thing to go through. When two people marry, they are joined together to make one flesh and a divorce tears that apart. That's why divorce hurts so much. It like being spiritually torn apart. The entire situation hurt my feelings but the Scripture says, the blessings of the Lord makes one rich and He adds no sorrow to it. We weren't in a relationship but yet he acted in a very selfish and self-centered manner. One Sunday I was at Church and he saw a ring on my ring finger on my left hand. When he saw it, he told me congratulations. I said what are you talking about and he pointed to my finger. I told him that I'm not married and if I was, I would tell everyone about it. My thought was, why are you concerned about me being married and even if I was, that's none of his business. Like I said, I forgave him but he mishandled me. I'm almost 60 yrs old. I don't have time for that. I was married years ago(my own doing) and it took God years to grow me to where I am today. I am too old to be making mistakes like that. A relationship has to do with our souls and we can't allow just anything or anyone to enter just because we get lonely out we want to have sex. Thank you for saying that. I wasn't looking and I don't look. To be honest, I believe that it was a distraction. I know when the enemy is trying to come for me. When I see him, it difficult for him to talk to me and the reason why it's difficult because he knows what took place. Regardless, he is still my brother in Christ. I'm not mad at him but I'm wise when I'm around him. I've been saved for over 30 yrs. I won't make time for foolishness.....I chose my hard and I love it....

[@user-ge1cz6ry7j]

@@carolinpurayidom4570 I believe that and I am fine with that as well....

[@mashiralee1]

Amen ❤

[@crippleripple]

As a man - big ups to you Crae. Keep bettering the world and its people. Love ya big man

[@LecraeOfficial]

Thank you man.

[@chariivy]

You spilt the tea all over the Tube. Thanks for all the input, I agree with everything you said. As a single woman I came to realize and accept that not everyone is meant to be in a relationship, no matter what my desires are, I am open to whatever God pleases for me, relationship or not, it's whatever, what counts is my journey in becoming the woman God wants me to be. Wisdom over desire. I ain't sayin that I am not allowed to wish for things but I must stay vigilant and not force what doesn't seem to be right and wise for me at all costs, and that's valid for every aspect in my life, not just relationship. God got me, and that should always be enough, no matter what

[@HollywoodofSuburbia]

As a man, i need to know what NOT to do.

[@bernetajohnson3296]

@Holl Don't cheat, don't lie and if you must play never play in your own back yard.

[@dii-N-sd]

When you treat your partner with the same respect that you want to recieve, it will eliminate a lot of confusion and unnecessary drama.

[@dinnerideas1626]

Do not live a life without God.

[@Sofia-wx2ht]

Do not lie. Don't be materialistic. Don't be above the Law...😉👍🏽

[@ilsedemolder3973]

Don't cheat. Don't lie. Dont string her along. Don't be passive and all the while enjoying the ride while she is doing all the hard work.

[@ajr7940]

Single is not hard. It's bliss

[@elofton8215]

When you have joy in being single, you have strength to know it's ok. 🙏💛

[@laCarrentals-of9qd]

Show me your ways… maybe it’s hard because I have kids

[@B6gmxy]

@@laCarrentals-of9qdthat’s it definitely

[@donitabrown8100]

"Which persons brokeness do you want to deal with for the rest of your lifetime?" that was a great question..... #food4thought!!❤

[@collettedaniels3884]

It perfectly coincides with something I said to my younger brother. I had a male coworker that would say that all of his exes were crazy. It got me to thinking 🤔. I told my younger brother that all women are crazy. You have to decide what level of crazy you are willing to deal with.

[@buttalove498]

This is crucial advice. I've been struggling with how to lead my family. The key issue is I haven't figured out the mission until now. Hopefully I have the discipline and consistency of being a true Man of God.

[@ajlocs2361]

Lecrae thank so much for this word. I have been praying to God and asking him to send someone to help me to show my 16 old son what it looks like to be a man. As mother I know he is compassionate and empathetic and he has the biggest heart. He is always asking me to do bible study with him and I love that he wants to know God. Please consider doing something like this for mothers and their sons. We really need a man with Gods character to help us out here. Much Luv from H- Town

[@SoJesusChristMusic]

👏

[@heritageroyal3399]

From JAMAICA THIS IS REAL TALK!!

[@jssberry]

Now you know you gon' have to do a part II warning men about women they shouldn't date. 🤣 Real talk, this is exactly why I value having male friends. I've learned a lot about what traits and characters I should look for in a man and what kind of men I should avoid altogether. Fellahs--your input is appreciated!

[@jssberry]

SIR THAT FIRST PART!! 😭😭😭 The looks I get when I tell people I've never dated (I'm in my 30s, btw) and every time I get that stare like, "Something must be wrong with you..." Or maybe God needs me in a space where it's Him and me for a minute!

[@firstarchetype]

Lecrae, thanks for this. It’s 3:30am, and I’m a 32 year old husband who was watching this before sharing it with my sister who is single and searching. I felt so convicted. There are things I know I’ve needed to let go of. I viewed you so differently for a while after that while stupid drama over BET, and to hear you say such spiritually matured, God-inspired wisdom made me realize how much I have been hung up on not letting go of the boy in me. It’s going to be hard, but thank you for this push. Gonna talk with my wife about my new mission in the morning.

[@LecraeOfficial]

Respect brother!

[@delmi864]

Many congregations will not give you a position of leadership if you're not married.

[@burgersbiblesaeh849]

Im 36 and just now finding my wife. Getting married this year and I was single for years before that. My lady and I are long distance. But that will change soon. Unfortunately for the longest time women in the Church would set the standards so high where they never end up even trying because they are " wating for this perfect man " thats doesnt exist. Im thankful my lady never made excuses. She realized im not perfect and she isnt either. We are both growing too.

[@annafilk5544]

Thank you for posting this, Lecrae!! Biggest red flags for me are impatientnce, moving fast, no respect for my boundaries, being a hypocrite (not actually being saved and or being led by Jesus but pretending to be), not gentle, not a good leader, proud, bad temper, big ego, not good hygiene, lustful and deceptive (lying about who they really are). Also, not having a job. I am single and i long to be with the right man for me but i know for now its best to stay single and serve God instead of wasting my time trying to look for the right one. I know am not ready for a relationship like that so i stay on with God and keep praying for healing not necessarily to be ready for the right one but to be able to serve God better and be happier.

[@LecraeOfficial]

Hope this helps!

[@annafilk5544]

@@LecraeOfficial yes it does 👍

[@smithrosheka]

You need to have discernment

[@annafilk5544]

@@smithrosheka yes I know, I pray for that and wisdom everyday!

[@lala5061]

Temperament is very important to watch for! I agree...

[@WillNeNe]

I love the honesty, that’s how we grow and learn. Each one teach one.

[@taialcreid]

Thank you for this! As a single woman, and single mother battling things in my mind and heart this was everything I needed. Your statement at the end about wrestling well and God promises brought me to tears. I gotta keep going ❤💯✝️🥺

[@indigoshivers5721]

Same here!!!

[@lusharncolvin98]

OMG same here! It was the "wrestle well" part for me too❤

[@DashaTheDivineDivah]

This should be called GROWN ASS MAN TALKS cause ... 🙌🏾‼️ the jewels dropped here especially in understanding a good woman's heart in todays relationships. I love this talk and the real world approach to Bringing in the word without the soapbox. You should do some with RC Blakes....yall would vibe fr

[@annieb8521]

I just found your channel, you offer allot of wisdom 🙏 As a christian woman who is struggling im very greatful,the reason you speak the truth is because you are a man of God.

[@mjhawk73]

That control is so hard to let go.

[@tomcoop9750]

This issue has much to do with society minimizing the importance of father figures and male role models. Boys are falling behind in reading, writing, mental health, etc. Very few people advocate for men without suggesting that men are the primary problem. The school system is biased against boys and very few teachers are male. This has a huge ripple effect- but it’s politically incorrect to advocate for boys because they are seen as “patriarchal”. As a man, I have noticed a lot of anti-male sentiments in the media. This might surprise some, but boys are behind girls in nearly every metric. And yes, this is a systemic issue. When male issues aren’t taken seriously, they are more susceptible to being radicalized. IMHO, this has led to the rise in the red pill communities (the bad ones) and MGTOW groups. Ironically, this ends up hurting women and children. As long as advocating for boys is seen as misogyny, we won’t move forward- and much of the issues you mentioned will not be resolved. 😢 When good men abandon boys, bad men fill the void.

[@AnaMC1]

The school system was created by men for boys. So no, the school system wasn’t bias towards women. Women were just given the same opportunity and that’s all it took for girls to get ahead. Not surprising for us women. We already knew of our intelligence. But the problem has always been the burden of childbearing. That’s our kryptonite. Ruins our focus and our future. Specially if you wanna be a good mother. But guys have the advantage in the physical strength, which apparently grants you the power to overthrow those who are weaker than you. That’s why idiotic guys demand respect. Just because they are men. Not sure why they expect it from women but not their male friends. Hypocrites.

[@georgejean8376]

God bless you

[@AdriennOnita]

What came first men abandoning families. Teaching boys that the only feelings they can show is anger. That being the tough guy is more valuable than an education. This was a patriarchy society came first. Could taking advantage of the male leadership played the biggest role in flipping things upside down. Now men are claiming victim. Men can change things around with men being honest and teaching each other and holding each other accountable. That's why post like this is important. Now these females are a whole other mess I could speak on so they don't get a pass. But everything has a start, a root.

[@Faithtestimony]

Well thought out comment

[@liabooker9480]

THIS!!

[@youarenotalone5532]

i was tuned in from Zambia in Africa. i watched this during my three days of prayer and fasting and i must confess, God spoke through you. my mind has been transformed. thank you so much!!!! keep theses videos coming

[@lombechewemukulu3767]

THAT CLARIFICATION OF ENCHANTMENT AND COMMITMENT PHASES, DEEP THANKS.

[@LecraeOfficial]

Thanks for tuning in!

[@lombechewemukulu3767]

@@LecraeOfficial 🙏

[@louisa4669]

felt like my big brother was talking to me. thankyou for this

[@MrChucksbaby]

The red flag is how he was spending less and less time with me. Everything else came first. Then this gut feelings god gives you. Those feeling would not go away, this went on for over two years. I kept praying god would show me or let me catch him and he did. Thank you Jesus!!!

[@joiecelriviera4134]

I feel this.

[@latoniasmith7164]

He looks so young. I can’t believe he’s been married for 17 years.

[@danovenchjean5716]

These videos are so well-rounded and encompassing. Love them!

[@googleuser7349]

I absolutely loved this! I'm sharing it with my teenage son. Thank you sooo much! God bless you and your family.

[@MissKaygee101]

This was such an edifying blessing to hear. Thank you for this Lecrae

[@laurenminter7306]

No coincidence that I’ve never watched one of your videos but I woke up this morning and this was the first video on my feed. I had to hear this message! Thank you so much 😊

[@debbieh.9933]

THIS IS TRUTH!!!❤ THANKS FOR WHAT YOU DO LECRAE

[@orangeslices990]

I’m taking notes on this! This is powerful and so insightful.

[@ItstheGodinme_]

Solid advice! 💯 Thanks Lecrae. The time flew by when watching this one.

[@roachdoggjr4648]

I loved what you said about "the one", been saying all that for years

[@katerinasmusix4774]

I needed this, thank you Lecrae for sharing your wisdom with all of us. Not just woman but guys as well. God bless you and your loved ones always!!

[@ShayAlexander.]

Dropping knowledge back to back. This is really good🤞🏾🔥🔥

[@fondusportfolio]

Went cray with this one Crae! Heard stuff that I haven’t heard anyone else breakdown quite as truthfully as this.

[@officialpriincesean9684]

I be looking forward to Tuesdays every week 🔥

[@justasamoanpanda]

Dear Lecrae, Thank you for being an answered prayer. Prayers filled with so many why’s and how’s and tears. You are the brother, friend and father so many of us women need and deserve but never had ❤️🙌🏻

[@qmz6472]

Lecrae, Thank you for your encouragement. I needed to hear this. I was at the concert at Greensboro Coliseums yesterday 02/24/24 it was a good time being in the lord presence.

[@jocelyn316istruth]

I needed this encouragement….so much. I’ve been so miserable because I’ve been focused on the wrong thing. Can’t will someone else to want to be better but I can work on me and be a source of loving encouragement. Thank you for this.

[@andiG2444]

LOOKING FORWARD TO THIS ONE🙏🏻

[@michellei.857]

Thank you, Lecrae. I was so down and this message has helped me. Please continue doing the deep end show.

[@annettepaul3584]

The most solid and sound coaching video I have seen on relationships and self so far.

[@kayredeemed116]

Good to hear from a man's perspective. Thank you for the encouragement bro! Amen!!! Praying for wisdom and the man I'm seeing/ and serving along side.

[@gautana]

THIS MAN HAS BEEN DROPPING BARS. VERY POWERFUL AND INSIGHTFUL.

[@chelseafree4875]

You NAILED IT !! Excellent talk

[@briannaarnold9403]

Thank you for being so raw & sharing the testimonies that shaped your perspective. ❤

[@J.L.Baptist]

Spot on analogies. Choose your hard!! I’m married and sometimes lament about the time I wasted in my single years worried about marriage when I should have embraced the unique blessings of singleness instead of focusing on the hardships.

[@SistahJay27]

Thank you Lecrae 👏🏽 My mom and I watched this video together. Great video! You held both men and women accountable 💪🏽 you gave us some great pointers on encouraging men. Jesus! Sweep your side of the street. Wow! My mom said, “clean your own house.” This video was very educational

[@krosado1114]

THANK YOU FOR YOUR EXCELLENT TALKING POINTS ON BOTH SIDES. 🙏🏼❤💡

[@christinerene9351]

I really appreciate this conversation. Thanks for not being afraid to talk about your successes and failures and share an updated version of relationshiphood.

[@SoJesusChristMusic]

Women tell me I’m not a man SO IM WATCHING 😂

[@LecraeOfficial]

🤣

[@veebliss1266]

❤ you’re already doing great! Keep learning and growing! Self awareness is key !

[@jfaustin1742]

😭😭😭😂😂😂😂

[@Richiko06]

They are most likely wrong ❤

[@madelinebigio7565]

Wow this is so much wisdom for me as a woman of 60 years old and giong through a lot and single and it is hard! Thank you 🙏 for the insight about men and women’s behavior! Also thank you 🙏 for the encouragement! I needed to hear this coming from a man 🧍‍♂️

[@char4795]

This was well needed. God bless you brother.

[@allybean416]

This advice is priceless and need to be on repeat daily. Thank you!!

[@charitymendenhall3189]

Very well said. Advice I could have used in my previous relationship but have come to learn by experience. Thank you!

[@ayanabrownson7786]

The music at the end like a preacher wrapping up is hilarious. It probably wasn’t meant to be funny but I’m cracking up

[@Canvas_and_Erth]

Or, like at award shows when they want you to wrap up the speech & gone get off the stage. 😅

[@CROWNEDGOLDENBEAUTY]

Whew! All of this.. especially the end❤️ great job lecrae!

[@adventureempress8196]

Appreciate you sharing King. Put a new perspective on the knowledge of a solid foundation

[@truthspeaker4852]

I am learning so much and have been searching for this information from a real, transparent man my whole life 🙏🏽🙏🏽God bless you Lecrae

[@deadserious313]

Thank You for the words of encouragement brother

[@naichai7163]

This is awesome! I appreciate you being my “male friend” for the day ❤

[@thomasgordon3965]

Lecrae keep going good brother. Sound, applicable, and sincere teaching. Blessings!

[@Jonokile]

Thank you so much for this… what a blessing 💯

[@briannaarnold9403]

Im saving this in my breakthrough folder for when im in marrige! Im prepared for the journey into it now!!

[@placefeature5329]

Good luck I’ll pray for you now

[@beautifullyimperfect-fyere6125]

Beautiful! I loved this and shared with some single friends. Absolutely on time. Good for married folk too!

[@DesiLu4Life]

You said a key thing, If you get married you have to serve that person for the rest of your life.... Are you ready to sacrifice? Some are not!

[@christopherroyer7635]

Please keep doing these podcasts! So good thank you!

[@LecraeOfficial]

Thank you!

[@Psalms1914]

THANK YOU!.. Finally a big brother putting lil sistas on game❤

[@heykanhey]

May I say, this is the best thing I have ever heard when it comes to relationships! I am so grateful you made this. I have sent it to bout 20 people. This is amazing!

[@tjheavensstorm1295]

That was the best video I have listened to in a long time. Wise, truthful words that watered my soul. I wish this stuff was taught in senior/high schools. Not enough is taught about relationships and contracts, which is what a marriage is. Very beautiful ❤️

[@daniellaamani7465]

im excited about this one!!

[@SuckerPunch92]

This conversation is very good. I almost married a man that wasn't a wise choice.

[@Iamlindagraham]

You answered sooo many questions that I have to rewatch and take notes ❤

[@user-lu8og8kv3r]

Wow Am so highly moved n greatful for this message.My heart is softly crying because it's the soul food I needed. Thank you so much God bless you n family 🙏🏽