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- Leah
0:00 - it has been brought to my attention..
0:51 - 恭喜发财(happy new year)！
1:26 - first & foremost..
3:00 - comparison is a train
4:24 - confronting myself in Paris
8:48 - full moon journaling
11:35 - talking to myself in a car (affirm yourself!!)
14:28 - secret super awesome quick tip
15:09 - AVOID the man in the white van
17:02 - use jealousy to find expanders
18:52 - u r worthy, u r awesome.
Thanks for Watching!

[@HitomiMochizuki222]

I love you Leah! I’m SO proud of you and your growth this past year. Your spirit and authenticity in the world is absolute medicine for me and everyone who receives you ❤️ thank you for sharing with us. I support & love you unconditionally. You’re an Angel and that’s that

[@Lisa-io9rn]

ameeen sister

[@stargirl11zz]

i love youu angel

[@toumeigirl9293]

"Go at your own pace." - is something that I keep telling myself. It started when I was climbing this steep hill on my bike and some of my friends were so fast that I couldn't match the effort they were exerting, so I always take deep breaths and whispered, "Your own pace". And guess what, we all got to the top of the hill. They may be faster than me, but hey I did it, and I couldn't be more proud of myself.

[@ashleyguzman2479]

I feel the same way! I am proud of myself for being where I am right now. I hate comparing myself to my friends because I always bring myself down but in the end we all reached the same destination.

[@SB-lc5qg]

I really resonate with 16:16-16:44 - life is about stopping and smelling the roses! Why race to the end? When I find myself wishing I already had my life goals accomplished, travel, fitness, relationships, career, etc. I take a deep breath and remind myself that life is a journey. Every day is a step. Enjoy the walk!

[@SB-lc5qg]

Also, bask in being able and alive! Revel in the joys of life! Hug your friends, hug yourself, make art, nap in the sun, read good books, sing and dance and just be alive!!!

[@leahsfieldnotes]

yes! yes! yes! more basking and revelling! it's a reminder i need to give myself often 🤗

[@papitacriolla69]

I remember noticing that everyone was in Paris during that time and I was like is this planned ?? lol and obviously no hate to other channels but your videos always stand out to me and feel very authentic, genuine, funny, and tender. You've been my fav channel for years now, but I completely understand those feelings. I am at a place I thought I would never be, something I worked really hard for but I thought would never come true, and now I am here frozen because of comparison. Seeing this video as a sign to keep walking when I see that van.... anyways, sending love to you!

[@leahsfieldnotes]

aww thank u 🙏 i'm so proud of u for getting there! i guess it was the exact same thing for me too bc i would've never felt comparison towards them otherwise haha say no thank u to that van and let's keep going at a nice strolling pace together on the sidewalk !

[@maridradn]

omg yes ???? i was like wtf why is everyone in paris. What's happening.

[@masterculturedunkerque7918]

@@maridradn nyc, London crowded and hella expensive. Paris is too but good for rebranding for the anglosphere youtubers?

[@foifoifoi610]

Who are the other KZbinrs

[@00001Iza]

@@foifoifoi610 i remember alexa losey and moya mawhinney but there was so many more

[@anyascrap1138]

there is a war in my country(im from ukraine), Only now im starting to cherish my old life..and how ungrateful i was. and I have been in another country for a year now. The constant comparison with the fact that people have a home, and a family ..Its soo draining( But this is not available to me now, it makes me depressed. But your video is very comforting, everything changes and after the rain there will be sun.!

[@jjstarrprod]

I'm feeling so bad for you Anya (the fact that an anime character who's got the same first name as you, in Spy x Family, is having the best found family in recent fiction sounds very ironic to me). I really wish for you to find some dear people again in the future, that you can one day call family, and, knowing what you're missing now, you'll cherish them dearly, then.

[@dearbhlagraham3734]

I'm so sorry Anya. This time is dark, but there will be sun again, and I promise that you will appreciate it all the more for everything you've been through and survived :) all of my love and best wishes for you Anya xx❤️

[@laurinewbu4080]

I love to repeat to myself “I am unique. I deserve to be loved as much as everyone else” as soon as I wake up :) it helps feeling better about myself and my journey

[@homemadevideos...]

You are so gifted with the way you can connect with people through a screen. Such a genuine spirit that you share with everyone around you♡ Thank you for sharing and uplifting those around you!!

[@leahsfieldnotes]

awwwww thank you 🥺❤️ appreciate your encouragement 🫂

[@bangtanslove]

This video made me emotional😔 I'm 25 years old and still struggling with my studies and finances. I always compare my self to other people a lot. Seeing most of them living successful life in their mid 20's and I'm sitting here like a piece of sh!t😶. Instead of getting inspired by successful people i tend to be unmotivated easily by seeing them. I always feel pathetic about my self. I found my self procrastinating a lot recently and doing nothing. Even when I'm writing this comment the only thing that roaming around my mind is "what am i doing with my life?" "I'm such a loser". Hmmm... I don't know. I'm going to watch this video again try to catch myself before it's too late. Thank you leah. ❤️

[@leahsfieldnotes]

it's never too late! you're doing great! just keep strolling along and searching for little joys!

[@jjstarrprod]

Sooo, 25 is such a wondertastic age... That's also rife with traps and mindfucks, like the famous biologic clock ticking abit more intensely for most young women, or the comparison game between more successful peers of the same age, as well as the starting constant nagging of closed ones and relatives about both issues. Something that most people kinda fail to realize is that circumstances of your surroundings and environment heavily impact who you're gonna be, and nobody is born under the same circumstances, nor has the same family/friends. 1 : are you born in a rich family or country/city/district, or middle income, or strugglingly poor ? All these things heavily weigh on the balance of how succesful you can get, and how early or late you get there. 2: Are your family/friends supportive of your endeavors, cheering you up, or pushing you forward ? Or are they dragging you down with a constant barrage of questions, judgements, and comparisons ? Are they creative, imaginative, curious, risk-takers, and basically open-minded ? Or are they narrow-minded, conservative, playing it safe, always downplaying you whenever you feel like doing something they've never done, telling you'll never make it, coz that's how the world works (whatever that means)? Are they sticking their neck out for you whenever you take a risk, and help you however they can ? Or are they condescending and judgemental when you tried and failed ? Regardless of how tough someone can be, being in the wrong environment can have tremendous impact on one's self worth assessment. Some people might rise up to the challenge (I lost count of successful people thanking all the people who didn't believe in them, so they could prove them all wrong, and take immense pride in it), but most people crack under the weight, and just start feeling miserable about themselves for not being "enough" compared to the expectations of others. The real question is "who do YOU want to become ?" Not from the expectations of your family, your friend, your lover... YOU ! What's your dream, what's your purpose, is it anything with art, with math, with science, with religion, with discovering the world with travels... Etc ? and if you haven't figured them out yet, what is it in the world that you find of importance and you'd want to help and contribute to (be it social like fight against poverty, hunger, or racism, or more global like climate change) ? Try to envision the overall direction you want to head towards (which is a great first step already), then realize that even if you're heading there, it might take you years if not decades until you get there (if you ever get there, coz there is no guarantee for it), so instead of wailing over how slow you are to get to the destination, savor each and every step of the journey. Also, realize that if you feel like correcting course over the years, coz you find your initial direction you initiated in your 20's doesn't correspond to the you in your 40's, then sure, it's ok to steer course and try something else, even though it's much scarier to try something else in your 40's 50's than in your 20's, coz you don't have as much energy and time left by then, as long as you're in peace with who you are and your values or your own family, you'll be able to wake up every morning at look at yourself in the mirror say to yourself that you're doing what's good for you and your dearest.

[@bangtanslove]

@@leahsfieldnotes 😘❤️

[@smiltron98]

I rarely comment on youtube, but i felt like I had to because I was relating so much to you. I’m 24(almost 25) and i’m also struggling with finances and career. My bf of 2 years recently broke up with because he thought I wasn’t driven enough in my career and I was and still am struggling with a shopping addiction. You’re not alone and we have to remember that everyone is going thru life in different pace and that’s okay.

[@GraceLum]

im so glad that your here cause im about to be 25 and i feel this so much 😭

[@weknowlah]

"going on walks is just as important as getting my work done." omg this sentence hit me. i've been struggling so much with work/life balance, feeling too guilty whenever i take a day to chill so i'll end up working anyway. love this video though! so many wonderful reminders to be more gentle to myself and to those around me. thank you leah

[@amiracapric6627]

omg what u said about being in a relationship/being single is the bane of my comparison issues. I've never had a boyfriend and I'm 22. I've been on dates and had flings, but i never met someone i really wanted to be with long-term. i always feel horrible about it especially because people always react sooo shocked and question why when i tell them. i hate it!!!

[@leahsfieldnotes]

you’re just waiting for ur ultimate cutie!!! I’d wait til 50 tbh there’s no rush! Life is pretty fun as it is already ⛵️ ❤️

[@ft.anellym]

I understand you! I’m going to be 20 this year and just like you, I never dated anyone. That was something that used to make me feel so lonely and sometimes I find myself getting really sad about that topic, but I’m really trying to get on the mindset that right know my life is not about being with someone.. it’s about getting to know myself better and learning more about the person I wanna be, and I’m already working on that! So I hope that you can transform this moment of your life into something beautiful and that you can learn a lot and grow whit that, wishing you the most beautiful things in life. 🙏🏼🤍✨

[@amiracapric6627]

@@ft.anellym you are the sweetest omg. thank you sm, i really needed to hear that :) someone someday will be so lucky to have you! for now, ur blessed with getting to know yourself, you already seem like such an amazing person. wishing you the best life has to offer!

[@leahsfieldnotes]

answering ur most frequently asked question 🐢bc you're doing amazing!🐇happy lunar new year !🧧here's ur red pocket: www.friendlybureau.com/ what are your plans for the next week??

[@adennilozkul4310]

I’m at my hometown and I’m trying to stay as sane as possible since people are so conservative here, I really needed a new video from u thenk uuuuuu!!

[@ferrenlorencio5923]

thank you so much for the cutest red pocket! happy lunar new year Leah💗🧧

[@abhis.377]

@@adennilozkul4310 it's tough but you got this 💕

[@adennilozkul4310]

@@abhis.377 thank uuuu I hope so 😊

[@amiborabee]

Although sometimes I'm overwhelmed by technology, I'm so grateful it let me know you in this unique way. Your words and kindness always impact me in a real way, and I can honestly say that meeting your channel has made my life better. Thanks for being like a big sister; i definitely look up to you. Or as you put it; you expand my horizons as to how I can be! 💓 And thank you as well for always offering us your beautiful videos without neglecting yourself 🤍 I hope our comments can also cheer you up in return🌷 Love you!!

[@leahsfieldnotes]

🥰 thank you for the such a sweet and encouraging comment! i feel your love right back! love being ur internet sis hehe❤️❤️❤️

[@bru-ra]

"So whenever you see the comparison man-van coming around town, you just keep walking on the sidewalk, you just say - no sir, no thank you, I'm not interested in this candy" hahaha this is golden ❤ Thank you so much Leah for your gentle caring energy, for sharing your genuine experiences and thoughts. It is actually so comforting just to know that we are not alone in this. And also, it is completely normal to feel that way - people, please know that those are natural phases of growth, nothing is wrong with you! Sending big hugs 😊🧡💗🌧⛅🌞🌈🌺🌳🌍🪐✨

[@leahsfieldnotes]

awwww thank u love! 💗 i'm glad my random comparison man van idea stuck hahah 🫂

[@bru-ra]

@@leahsfieldnotes it made me laugh, so it did! 😁🧡

[@TochiUdeh]

Honestly I only notice that it whenever I look at other people on social media or other girls my age that are really getting it .i feel so down and start comparing myself to them or feel like I’m behind , use to think I’m the only one that felt like this , but hearing Leah talk about it is so warm I dunno I’m glad I’m not the only one that feels like this someone can relate to me

[@dearbhlagraham3734]

It's so hard to look around and think that everyone else has got it 'figured it out' - just remember that no one has it figured out, it's your own pace, it takes a lot of courage to just 'be' - wishing you all the best❤️

[@boominsystemu-uptytracktyt7803]

I was trying to find something relaxing to watch, since i love this channel. Ended up having a deep moment with myself, cried thinking about the past and how much I've improved. Also felt sad for the child i once was... I went around my house and found a wonderful picture of me when i was younger. Love that idea.. Thank you wish you happiness and health Thank you once more 🌸

[@onestepatatime7412]

this video came at the perfect time, i just talked to my mum about this… feeling like you're not good enough when you're surrounded by amazing people. but then you have to remember that the reason why they're friends with you is probably because you're pretty awesome too :)

[@aakankshamukherjee65]

i haven't even finished watching the video but can i just say i MISSED these sit down talking videos that are more podcasty and also UR HAIR??? stunning. it's giving whimsical fairy princess. 💗💗💗

[@leahsfieldnotes]

hahaha aww thank u! i wanna do more of these

[@sabrinahy0324]

Love these podcasts!

[@jjstarrprod]

@@leahsfieldnotes Agreed ! They take much less time (and pressure) to produce and edit (could be done in a single night or 2) and therefore, are not one month late but can come up almost immediately (so you don't feel bad about being late). On top of being more in depth and emotional connecting because you take your time to just sit down and talk about your own thoughts and emotions at length in one single sit. While I don't think your channel should be only that type of vids (I'm still very much in love of your visual journeys vlogs), these are definitely welcome each time they happen, and I would certainly love to see some more. They could be a good way to alleviate your pressure of editing a longer vid, without adding too much on your workload so that you can actually have more time to edit the vids that take longer, all the while still giving us some quality time with you. I'm actually also thinking if you ever considered doing live chats ? That could be messy, but fun too.

[@oliviacopeland-uv9rq]

she is so amazing. I really needed this, I feel like this is a topic that needs to be talked about with a lot of KZbinrs since mostly their life is romanticized and everybody thinks they are perfect. I am so proud of people who come out of there shell and what some people call ''overshare''. You are someone I strive to be knowing that you don't let your imperfections define you. This may mean nothing to you but I hope this reaches people who need this ❤

[@arianneclairerivera5705]

EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED! FINALLY! I CAN'T WAIT! HAPPY LUNAR NEW YEAR, LEAH!!!

[@shiuli1132]

This video helped me get out of my bed today. It's crazy how much unhealthy comparison and always feeling behind can paralyze you to the core. Thank you so much for this🤧

[@marthaatakora1650]

this came at such a good time you don’t know how much this helped. i literally cried watching this video

[@t0nkeui]

omg, i am ready for this! happy lunar new year

[@katherineashby1381]

Thank you for this talk ❤ I am in my final year of my BFA and my entire world has revolved around the fact that I am “going through college” , that I am “getting done in 3 years”, and that “my parents must be so proud”. But over winter break I somehow realized that so much of my personality and my goals in life are designed to appease other people. I wasn’t a bad kid growing up, but I made some choices that hurt my parents and from then on I always felt like I had to make up for my wrong doings. In my little mind, the best way of doing that was to succeed in school. I did every AP course my dad suggested, even the ones I hated like Biology and Calculus, and cried every night because I couldn’t figure out why I was doing well but felt so empty. The same mentality carried over into college. I am getting a BFA in Painting like I always wanted, but the topics I paint revolve around what I think my family or professors would like. I somehow managed an A in every course, including maths and sciences (my hardest subjects), yet I feel so empty. As I’m getting ready to graduate, I’m looking into MFA programs and comparing Comparing COMPARING myself to everyone I know who has gotten in. I realized I don’t know what I want to do with my art. I know what I want to do commercially, but my current concepts and style are not my own. Your video is very comforting to me and it gave me the push I need to take a deep breath and force myself to slow down and, as you said, be kind to my younger self. Because I’ve realized that this entire time I’ve been trying to forget about my younger self, and it wasn’t really her fault for what happened. I made mistakes purely because I never knew better. I received fair correction, but never let myself feel like I had actually been forgiven when my parents told me so. I held onto useless guilt and shame and now I can work to let it go and heal. So, sorry about the long rant and any typos, but thanks Leah 💖 P.S. if you ever come to America, specifically Virginia, I would love to walk in a park with you and talk or draw 😊

[@annejoleneiran]

i love these sit down talks. they’re like podcasts and i’m a person of words of affirmations and this is a really good thing to listen to ❤

[@athenaclark]

Perfect timing Leah. Every time I’m down you seem to put up a video that resonates with me and helps me a lot. Love you so so much, keep it coming we love it ❤

[@beingENCHANTED]

this felt like a warm hug and GOD you got no idea how much i needed it. Thanks Leah

[@terenaworld]

loved the cozy vibes & how true and authentic you continue to be in every video!

[@sheselle]

i needed this so so much 🥲💓 thank you for being such a light in this world, leah :')

[@kattensilverregn340]

This is so sweet, thank you for being so genuine leah. It`s such a privilege to be invited into your growing journey. I appreciate you a lot angel

[@estelle1262]

I’m so so so glad that you started this channel and that you still have it! I feel like I can relate to it so much, when life gets too much I always come to your channel cuz it kinda feels like home now! You’re so great, we all are in our own ways, that’s so true! Much much love xx

[@bass.ang2la]

Cried about this topic this morning. I literally needed this.

[@marjorielee4329]

I cried watching this. Thank you for this gift Leah, your words mean a lot to me right now.

[@taylormauldin9609]

loved this. it is so easy to get on the comparison train. its dizzying and glittery and eats away at you. thanks so much for this Leah! your kindness, generosity, and authenticity are true gifts. happy new year!

[@niri6514]

how can i not shed a couple of tears after my leah talks. yoou've beeen so so so encouraging to me leah, you will never know. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH SO FREAKING MUCH.

[@anushmitapaul492]

im going through a really rough couple of days and i just wanna thank you for being so kind. Your channel makes me feel better.

[@hannahrobertson2947]

Thank you so much for this video❤❤ I love your perspective, it’s so mature and kind. I can see the amount of work you put into yourself, you are glowing!

[@073dikshitadwivedi5]

Tbh this literally helped me feel better I feel so grateful that Ik ur channel like for real

[@lailaurbina8479]

I loved this, this format of a sit down video is so comforting, thank you so much

[@garance7307]

Omg Leah I love your honesty so much ❤️❤️❤️ I love you and I love your videos because of that, it makes me feel so close to you, to your emotions!! And your videos are Like diamonds for me, I can't compare them to anything else!!! WE LOVE YOU ❤️❤️❤️

[@shafanyi]

As i've always said, your channel is somehow like a safe place (still it is) and i'm so grateful for discovered your channel back then!!! I'm so glad you're here with us, leah ❤️

[@beamartins4659]

hello leah! recently i found your videos and this year i didn't really start my year right and i've been trying to improve my mindset when it comes to myself and my life and i ended up finding your channel that way! i've been struggling with comparison and jealousy for quite some time... especially when it comes to others having things that i don't have and being able to travel and go to concerts and things like that and felt very bad since i was jealous of them! most of these people are people i consider friends so i think it makes it even worse bc i end up feeling like i can't talk about it bc someone will be offended! i am happy for them i truly am it's just like.... i wish i could also have those opportunities and as much as i tell myself i am bad person for being jealous i think it's very normal and human to feel that way sometimes as long that i don't use my feelings of jealousy to be an awful person! but it has been a journey to deal with these feelings so seeing someone talking about it really made me feel seen that it genuinely made me tear up so thank you so much for doing this video 💗

[@stayupnaddie]

thank you so much for this 🤍 badly needed it. watching this feels like talking to my sisters or my best friends. love you!

[@ruhi6592]

Hey Leah! Tysm for putting this topic rn in such a beautiful way you're an absolute amazing human being I am a student and currently studying to pursue my dream job it's been almost 2 years and all my friends have started their work life! I used to compare myself with them like I'm here broke as hell and look at them getting ahead in life but guess what I am trying my best and only this should matter to me! I love you!🌸

[@sabrinarose6612]

Such a genuine, heart-felt video. Thank you for sharing the oh so relatable spirals of the mind, really resonated with your Paris comparison experience

[@centimix]

out of all your videos, these kind are my absolute favorite. where we just figure it out together. ask questions. reassure ourselves. thank you for your hard work and being candid.

[@nasbrush]

Your videos/sharing thoughts is soooo helpful and putting me back into gentle and grateful living.. they have such a special and calm vibe that I want to hug everything I see💕💕💕💕

[@atinaj384]

This came in at the perfect time because I recently experienced the same thing - after i stopped comparing myself to my friends and other influencers (whilst still maintaining the level of admiring their wins and all) my life got exponentially better

[@yue-rx5fb]

omg luv u leah i was honestly feeling so burnt out and burdened by the people in my life and this video really brought me solace to know im not the only one feeling this way. thank you for bring so brave to sharee

[@Isabellacappa18]

Thank you so much! You are an amazing being human, and I´m grateful for your videos and for everything you bring to my life. Thank you and happy new year!

[@tiii8363]

hi leah~ this video made me feel so relieved, like a weight was lifted off of my shoulders. i think its because i really needed to hear all of this. i think i've been wanting to tell myself these things. that its okay, to go forward at my own pace, to stumble, to walk slower, to just exist. and hearing you say these things, its really like a friend is telling me this. thankyou so much for being so honest and sharing all of it here anddd offcourse for creating this space.

[@aakankshabaijal]

I am so proud of you and I love your vibe so much🫶 Please take care of yourself, and I love how you share your healing journey. I can relate to you so much😭❤️

[@marianaoliveira1933]

This video felt like a hug, i've struggled with comparision all my life. The funny part is that i told to myself most of my life that i don't compare with other people, bc is a emotional loop and sometimes not even ourselves are aware of it. You told so many things that i've been struggling to tell to myself. In college i feel that i'm always competing even with my besfriend for see who study more, who's more productive. Thank so much for your videos Leah, kisses 🫶🏻

[@rotscha220]

this is one of those videos where i just sit, watch and nod my head repeatedly with literally everything you say. i am on my knees preaching - i am so happy to have found your content because your words resonate with me on so many levels!! thank you for this leah!

[@elodiewang562]

love this type of chat video

[@billythebill2470]

It just feels so good to watch your videos, like a warm blanket or a hot chocolate on a rainy day. This energy you irradiate is so soothing. It really calmed my anxiety about some academic validation issues and I am really thankful for that. I am so proud of seeing the young and beautiful woman you became over the years. You created something beautiful, a universe. Treasure it :)

[@willa_clare_truby]

Ah absolutely so happy I woke Up and watched this this morning… Last night was really hard with comparisons and letting go of people so this is a much needed reminder to turn inward and continue going along the dance of life!🥰😘🦋 thank u Leah!

[@kuria1268]

this video came really in time with my current struggles, I was just kind of hurting alone comparing myself to others and how why i am unsuccessful and then your video popped up and it made me feel a little better. thank you. i enjoy your videos and i needed this rn :D just seeing someone talk about their own sturrgles makes me realize it is not only me.

[@rebeccaf346]

I was journaling today and reading through some entries from the past year and realized how much compassion I had for the person in the pages but no compassion for my present self. To see this today feels very intentional. Thank you for sharing 🫶

[@phuongha7579]

omg it's like whenever I have problem with comparison, this is what I will watch

[@ChrisKoh0610]

No music. Just sincere and deep conversation 🙆❤️ thank you so much Leah 🙏

[@leahsfieldnotes]

gotchu 🤍🐰

[@The_sabik1488ggg]

got back to watching your videos after a while, and boy oh boy do i feel healed!! thank you Leah

[@williamdono]

Thanks for sharing this with us. Lately, it's been rough for me. I'm also 25 and it's so easy to see people around you have their life together and be "happy". Love is a skill to be learned and it starts with myself. I really appreciate the video and how you added little jokes here and there, it felt very authentic:) By the way your Ink Rabbit is very cute!!

[@fridakahlo894]

Leah you made me tear up. From May to August I was in a pretty bad state, writing my master's thesis, feeling like I'm a failure - not able to do solid academic work and also not able to enjoy summer as everyone around me. I remember clearly how I watched your Paris videos during this time and felt like you were going to something similiar. We had very similiar strategies, like forcing ourselves to sit a certain time period at the table to quantify productivity or to leave the apartement. A lot of force in general towards ourselves. I could see my own harshness in you and it made me feel a bit better that other people seem to struggle with similiar things as I. I have finished my degree a few months ago, travelled a bit on my own and regained a lot of calmness and softness. So hearing that you indeed felt the same self rigor as I and that you were able to leave this place makes me happy and reminds me that I'm on a good track. I'm trying to find a job right now and I promised myself to not stress too much about it and fall back into old habits. Whenever I'm going to feel like I'm not "doing enough" and "are a disapointment of adulthood" I will think about this video.

[@HCK_11]

I'm so grateful that I found your channel!! the amount of comfort I get from ur videos is crazy Thank you sm!

[@phyycxis1159]

The childhood photo part hit me different. Thank you for being so open and sharing your thoughts with us. ❤ reading other comments help as well

[@inarahalkar7177]

this video reached me at the best possible time, thank you Leah I hope you have a wonderful 2023 :) !!

[@paul967]

This was very nice to hear. I have a very hard time finding self worth, and your videos have jump started my life again! I have a regular bed time and morning routine! I use the journal prompts you gave us in a previous video. Your videos have put so much confidence in myself, hopefully I can keep it up. Thank you so much Leah 💫❤

[@bm-k9546]

This video was absolutely a therapy session for me and I watched it at the perfect time! Thank you so much 💓

[@withlovelucis]

thank you🌸 i've been in the rut, and this helped 🌸 happy lunar new year🧧🎋!

[@ashstafford7521]

loved this style of video 💓 happy lunar new year!!

[@emma69019]

Thank you Leah. My thoughts are a little jumbled rn but thank you for being like my mom, big sister and best friend in one. You’re helping me navigate my break up and this new life by myself

[@sarasvane418]

needed to rewatch this video

[@la_marie]

i’ve been struggling with comparison and jealousy a lot lately lately, as my friends are good at and have achieved things that i’ve wanted to do, and i would hate myself for not improving enough and thinking that i would just never be good enough, and it has created a deep downward spiral of negativity inside my brain that isn’t healthy, so i’m so glad and grateful for this video and the way that you’ve discussed these thoughts and feelings, and how to address them and be kinder to ourselves. your videos always have the most gentle and sweetest vibes and spread the absolute most compassion and peace i didn’t even know how much i needed this video, so thank you 🤍

[@Ployje]

Oh my gosh! Leah I feel you! everything you talked about, I experienced the same before. Wanna give you a virtual hug❤ we are special in our ways and we dont have to do anything to proof it 😊

[@sumonnaing620]

Thank you Leah. I'll try to love myself more & more as you said we all are unique and good enough just the way we are..🌱

[@susanwright6168]

Its so easy to forget that I actually have the choice and the agency *not* to compare myself! I think I'm so used to doing that dance that it feels like it's out of my control but that's only because it is so familiar. I can take the step back, shift directions and then take a step in a different direction. Best of luck to us all!

[@miriamwilkins6554]

this is a really nice thing to listen to, especially to folding washing and preparing for work after a moderate doom scroll. a lecturer once told me that everyone is on their own path at their own pace. thank you Leah

[@oatlatte2632]

This came at the perfect time 💕 Been struggling lately as I feel like my job isn't "good enough" but I need to remember that I'm grateful for everything in my life and that work doesn't define a person

[@lh3517]

this felt like such a different video but i loved it! with the one setting and no music, felt like we were literally just sitting opposite each other and just talking deep talks at 2am 🥰✨

[@castaspeIIa]

hello!! i found your channel a few days ago and they are the highlight of my week! love you and your content, leah 🤍 thank you for your cozy, calm, warm and amazing videos

[@leyrelabarga3426]

You have no idea what a blessing this video was. I just finished a very stressful exams week. I always watch your videos because it gives me so mush energy to keep going and caring about myself and comparing myself is one of the things I do too much often. This helped me a lot and I thank you for everything to share and the way you are real and sincere

[@celinhe]

thank you so much for this video. i needed it. i was crying during the whole video. i love you leah

[@arinakarpovich455]

girl 1 pm is so early to me lol😭😭 also this is so crazy how my favorite content creator everrrrr has this kind of thoughts about herself :( i’m so proud of you Leah and i’m so grateful i found your channel you literally saved my life and my mental health back then. thank you❤️‍🩹 sending love

[@leahsfieldnotes]

Aww I love you! 🥺❤️ haha trying to sleep earlier even 1am is a win for me

[@marammaaroufi6093]

Thank you so much for this! And for always being your authentic self💗 love you so much Leah! You’re the best! May you have a great month!

[@daphne-bai]

Thank you Leah 👏🏻👏🏻🥺♥️ this video could not have come at a better time: for those who celebrate Chinese/Lunar New Year, the holidays can be a truly distressing time as parents and relatives *politely* compare the achievements of their offspring and many teens and young adults have to sit through hours of unsolicited advice and uncomfortable questions. Getting to sit down and chat with you after the hustle and bustle is such a relief, and your presence feels like a warm hug 🥰 thank you for the 紅包！

[@leahsfieldnotes]

ahhh so true! i didn't even think of that!! my brain has numbed itself everytime i get asked if i'm getting married soon lol sending u the TIGHEST hug 🤗

[@jjstarrprod]

Haha, I just watched a funny music video on this exact topic by Annette Lee, a pretty big Singaporean Tiktoker/youtuber, it's called Passive Agressive Question Avengers, and it's hilarious.

[@abiantoni8392]

I needed to hear this! Thank you for the inspiring words. I moved to a different office in the same company in a different country. My last day of work in my previous office ended in disappointing tears which left me question my worth as an employee and had this feeling of disappointment towards myself. Fast forward here in my new office everyday I come in the officewith the goal of having to prove myself and let people see that I’m good enough. To be honest I’m already exhausted both mentally and physically. I just came home from a lovely weekend with my partner’s family and the one thing on my mind while driving home was to open my laptop on a Sunday night and work. I need to stop setting up unsustainable expectations and be kinder to myself. I need to say more to myself I AM ENOUGH!

[@cutievante8987]

i really needed this. thank you, leah ! looooove u 🤍

[@zoelicious1301]

The lighting in this video is amazing

[@Foxykkj]

I think this is quite eye opening especially as someone still quite young in the academic scene the pressure is constantly there when those around you are thriving and even though you put effort in you aren’t. But I think self-development and not comparing yourself can just be something that allows you to ignore that realm of anxiety and fears ;especially at a young age this is so scary to me. I’m trying to get better at this, not dwell on my past triggers and trauma and your perspective and view has really helped me try and reflect on how bad my comparison to others has got you are just so mature and inspirational I hope you know how many people you help Leah

[@butterrflyrose]

this is exactly where i'm at in life right now ..... like even though i put in so much effort , i did not get a good grade in my exam . hurts even more when your best friend got more marks than you in a subject that ur a ' topper ' in . its just so scary and it feels like everyone around me has got their shit together like .... i can't even sleep these days knowing that i got such a bad mark in a subject that i love . sorry... i just had to get these feelings out .

[@NiharikaGuptasings]

I saw a reel a few days ago, which talked about how important ‘intentions’ are and it really made sense. It depends so much on how we talk to ourselves regarding something. So basically we can ask ourselves these 3 questions before doing something or making a decision: 1. Is this desire coming from a place of Lack? 2. Will this lead to my growth in anyway? Or just egotistical surface level pleasure? 3. What part of me am I running away from while chasing this? This way, we can really set intentions in the right way and set ourselves to have a positive outlook towards anything. Love the video, thanks Leah. Really needed this ❤

[@boooouloser]

thank you for this. i’m currently going through healing and this really really made me realise how much i do compare myself to others. i had to drop people in my life that weren’t good for me and have hurt me, as well as breaking up with my ex and i have felt so down and comparing myself to how he’s doing great and how my ex friends are doing wonderful. i compare myself so much to them that my depression has been on an all time low. i wish you so well and pls continue to make these videos as i have felt sooo much better watching your videos 🤍

[@cxtesugahhr8200]

omg tysm for this video, I'm new to your channel but the way you talk makes me feel so much better, it's not just your relaxing voice *I really want to talk as quietly as you since some friends of mine said to me multiple times that my voice when I talk quietly sound like asmr but I tend to talk loudly* but also the way you turn such an harsh topic into a life journey we should face in a relaxed way, that's so comforting. Keep going and thank you again, I get the feeling that watching your videos'll benefit both my mental health and my English skills ^^

[@jellyfish0232]

This video was so sweet- thanks you for sharing your wisdom and experience! I feel the love ❤

[@littlediamond93]

I've been a quiet viewer for quite some time, but I feel the need to thank you, dear Leah. :) I found your channel a year ago when I was going through a tough time. My 6 year relationship broke up last year and your videos about "navigating a break-up" made me feel less alone and made me realize that I have to move on and appreciate/remember the good old times we had together. I recently turned 30 and you're such an inspiring young girl at the age of 25 who is taking her life into her own hands (e.g. traveling alone). We all feel insecure sometimes, but everyone should go at their own pace and we definitely should have more self-love.

[@trulysarah]

i feel so seen with this video and I'm so glad you posted this! really need this atm!

[@lioboerefijn4458]

thank you so much Leah! I think you just accidentaly bettered my life in 19 minutes and 42 seconds.

[@user-zu1xb4ew1k]

oh my god seeing this vid a year later, i didn’t even know that i needed this. it makes me feel so much comfortable as i’ve been struggling so much to study and have been stressing about comparing myself to others. thank you so much

[@stephyedo3481]

Thank you so much for posting this video!! I need this advice so much!!

[@hyyhchlo]

thank u so much leah

[@rasi3625]

☹️💗 i really need this. thank you leah. love u