Learning From Those Who Have Mistreated You | Live Reminder

Often when we talk about how to deal with those who have harmed us, we immediately have a conversation about forgiveness. But what else can you learn from the experience of having been wronged?
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[@iratri7239]

I have forgiven everyone that has mistreated me, in the past, present or future, whatever they have done , do or will do to me, they are all forgiven for the love of ALlah

[@mahmed3451]

Subhanallah sister

[@user-vu8pm4dw6d]

You are so strong to do that Alhamdulilah. I am still emotionally wounded and traumatised from it all. May Allah grant us strength in moving forward from it all. Ameen

[@safiagabure2722]

“Treat people how u would want Allah to treat you.” That is honestly so true. What you do to others has a way of coming back to you. May Allah bless u for this inshallah, very well said!

[@_hanana0362]

Praying for your relative who is going through surgery 🤲🏽 May Allah help them through the surgery and help them heal quickly ameen ❤️

[@yasminmohammed8752]

Ameen

[@User.11236]

Ameen may allah bless him

[@greencarpet4639]

Ameen

[@jamilasuleiman7373]

May Allah grant shifa and afiya. Amin

[@dhemana4456]

Somehow your talks always touch on exactly what I’m experiencing subhanAllah. Thank you for these reminders! JazakAllah Khairan

[@mehwisha7517]

IKR!! That's what me and my friend were discussing last day too. BarakAllah

[@XsafzX]

Same here

[@noormohammad969]

SubhanAllah

[@phonebndkrksojao2748]

Yes

[@sumeralakhani4224]

P

[@oromtitiwbo5078]

its so hard to forgive 😭😭😭 esp ppl who hurt u in extreme ways that traumatize and they never change 😭😭😭

[@AUFR_]

I wgree

[@syedaamreen5557]

True it’s very disturbing

[@anonymous1531]

I understand, what helps me is that they are human too and make mistakes. Allah created us in a way where can commit mistakes, but he also created us in a way where we can apologise and take accountability. If they do that, as the Prophet saw advised, forgive them. If they don’t, love them and forgive them, so that Allah will have mercy on you both. This is all temporary, Allah has been, is, and will be forever.

[@nedmilburn]

This talk is basically narrating the story of my family life. Thank you brother. May Allah bring blessings to you.

[@notarussianbot8157]

Clicked on another video and this started playing. I needed to hear this. Jazak Allah taala khairun.

[@Saleh-Ru]

6:46 is important. "Hurt people hurt" is a lazy excuse. I/we always have to work on ourselves and rise above that...

[@jamilasuleiman7373]

May Allah bless you for your work on justice. I live in Nigeria and see injustice play out day after day. This has inspired me to pick as study for my PhD thesis, the subject of justice to female victims of GBV by unknown perpetrators. What is the cause of justice for such persons. I'm concluding inter alia, that in the spirit of community responsibility, we need to support such person so that we build equitable communities that we desire. So imagine my excitement and gratitude when I listened to this heart warming talk from which I have boosted my thesis and my thinking about how to make our communities better for the most vulnerable.Jazakhallahu khairan brother Omar.

[@Anna-pn7qz]

Sister @jamilasuleiman, your project thesis spoke to me. I would love to connect. I live in Canada

[@zaakirahkhan7978]

I always ask goodness and hidayah and forgiveness for the people who everyone I know

[@organicvoyage]

I was expecting you to speak on exactly this topic because I'm in the spot feeling why did I let that happen to me .how can I take revenge. Alhamdulillah I'm on track now will never do that to anyone. Jazakallah shaikh OMAR

[@saburabdul-salaam2418]

May Allah reward you for your very important words of wisdom.

[@rochellewilliams9864]

Sooo amazing knowledge marshallah butifull🙈🥰

[@nazrarahiman7849]

Alhamdulillah Islam is so beautiful. I just wish Allah would give us victory soon over our oppressors aameen.

[@mehvoshakhtar3210]

May Allah swbt allow us all to be amongst the righteous ones and implement what you say Sheik. Ameen

[@sabinapatel9029]

Salaam hurt noone so noone may hurt you.prophet Muhammad pbuh I said last sermon..patience and painful is a key balance..don't hurt with your tounge action ..wake up and shake up look in the mirror and change your self before too late

[@FarhanaAliArt]

Salam sheikh I cannot thank you enough for all your videos, it’s changed my life. I am addicted to listening to Yaseen talks , it’s helped me on a daily basis for the last few years. May Allah reward all involved abundantly and give you more than you ever could dream of wether duniya of akirah or both ameen

[@rasheeda1303]

Forgiving myself 😕 Ameen❤

[@ratnaariyanti483]

Powerful reminder , syeikh. Jazakallah khair. Sadly, me & my family are in a situation (at certain times each day) where we feel we’re being disrespected /zholim for the last 3 yrs by our own neighboring brothers in their mosque (located about 2km from our house). Their loudspeaker is extremely loud not just during azan, they even put up some kind of fajr prayer wake up call along with islamic preach n quran recitations @ early hours (bfore 4a.m)every day in shocking loud voice. ! My husband who’s a lecturer had no choice but stop his lecture/online class whenever this occured. We’ve been living in this neighborhood for more than 20yrs now, and this abnormal “noise nuisance’ is just taking away our peaceful life that we had before this started. Once we had some guests n we had to wait til the loud speech stops for more than 30 minutes bfore we could have a decent conversation . We’ve prayed & asked Allh to open the hearts & minds of the peple in charge there, that they would come to their senses & remove their ignorance towards their neighbours (muslim & non muslims). Thank u again for sharing this beautiful message, syeikh.🙏🏻

[@kilowellness560]

والله يا شيخ اصبح الالم ملازما لي و لا يتركني ..ادعيلي شيخ فبعضنا يمر بابتلائات عظيمة

[@toqahassan6786]

Subhan Allah, I really needed to hear this! It is perfect for everything that's happening to me and my family right now!

[@islamicinsight6148]

This was so beneficial jazak Allah khair sheikh may Allah reward you with the highest levels of jannah🤲🏻

[@marthagarcia9737]

Wend somebody hurt you is easy to slap them but is harder to only pray for them and don’t do nothing bad for them exactly right Omar

[@furahamossi3199]

Thank you so much sheikh jazallahmuahairy

[@speakoutyourissues7626]

I love that! Thank you! So timely! I have been doing that already! Alhamdiduallah!

[@shaheedawilliam498]

May ALLAH(swt) bless you abundantly Sheikh! Almost always, your khutbas answer questions that I'm struggling with. AlhamduLULLAH!

[@zaraayeshaa]

subhanallah, exactly what im going through, what i needed to hear 🥺 jazakallah :’)

[@lolladegrace2529]

Waalaikumsalam. Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh..Jazakum Allah Khayrun Sheikh...

[@caramela9198]

5:00 Yes subhanallah I am in that situation Wright now. Elhamdolilah and Thank you for this video.

[@nahidx]

It's really hard to forgive mistreater.

[@h.malik.s]

This is such a life changing naseeha

[@bahiaabrahams2734]

Algamdulillah,Shukran for inspiring words,Ameen .Allah forgive,guide and protect us all,Ameen.

[@shameemabanu6302]

Subahanallah subahanallah wat I really needed at the moment Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah.

[@sweetpapayasourpeach]

Wa alaikum asalam brother. Jazakallah khair for sharing that perspective and for putting emphasis on the need for justice. Ameen to your du'a.

[@rosek.9797]

Ameen

[@nigaralinayak2644]

MashaAllah... Please keep us in your duas.. Much needed.. Stay🙏🙏 blessed🙏!

[@sabashuttari773]

Salaam thank you so much I need It to hear this these days because iam going through this right now. Because I think all kind of people hurt me. Because iam so innocent. I. Was born cp

[@daydreamendeavors3695]

Thank you.. InshAllah I can turn the pain I’ve been though to help others.. keep me in your prayers.. InshAllah. Salam

[@reffaanindyaputri2517]

Ameen Allahuma Ameen

[@barcangel22]

MashaaAllah thank you so much for the daily advice from you. so beneficial... May Allah bless you and your family in this world and the next.

[@NinaAsmoni]

So beautifully worded. Thank you so much

[@entertainmentvedios9483]

Sheikh JazakAllahkhairan,,thank u so much u have answered my questions,,without me having to ask ,,may Allahthallah bless me n u ,,ameen ya rabbulalameen

[@rashidsifat1986]

Excellent advice..... I pray to ALLAH for the wellbeing of Shaikh

[@Mercy7]

Envy destroys everything. Motivation for life in Eternity. Press on logo, please.

[@CeciliaCarleen_Stories]

As Salaamu Alaikum Shaikh and to everyone I battle with forgiveness for myself because I forgive others and the same people in return hurt me over and over and I pain so badly but I do not pass the hurt to anyone I am learning to separate myself from the these cruel people. Thank you Shaikh Omar You are sincerely a Messager from Allah Thank you.

[@claudiacabarcos7869]

Shukran

[@islamic_thoughts4237]

Ma sha Allah ❤️❤️ Subhan Allah ❤️❤️ ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@farrukhhafeez1337]

Most beautiful ❤️ Scholar (Champion, Superstar) of Muslim Umma MashAllah JazakAllah

[@nazajalal8094]

May Allah reward you

[@bulbuulo320]

WCS true sheikh Omar jasakumuallah Amiin

[@hassanawale3576]

Jazakallah kheir

[@musamuhammad7581]

Alhamdulillah, May Allah Give Us Hearts To Forgive People. Ameen

[@musamuhammad7581]

Thanks Appreciate Sir, May Allah Grants Us Patience To Forgive People. Ameen.

[@Si-cw3fo]

Assalamoalaikum wa rehmatallahi wa barkataho brother Omar Sulaiman.. Jazak Allah Khair May Allah bless you with the best 😊

[@habibhibba2382]

Allah give me strength to stand I forgive so you can forgive me Alhamdulillah

[@bakiatukoroma398]

Aameen

[@Layla6793]

Ameen ya Allah

[@J_El_Rey]

A beautiful message ❤️

[@MalikaNura]

Just trust in Allah Almighty and remain silent and Allah will do justice inshAllah

[@khalidal-subaihi9827]

May Allah give you Zakina as you gave me in my decision

[@maryambrahim82]

Wow i needed this video ❤❤

[@marthagarcia9737]

Definitely I learn

[@MalikaNura]

It's too much money, pride , arrogance, ignorance, suppression, oppression, ugliness, etc .... the world is full of it

[@jibrilali2953]

Allahuma Ameen •••!

[@muzamilali9398]

Thank for beautiful remained brother

[@ahmadtariqghafoory7154]

subhanallah

[@aminamajeed9061]

Thanku brother

[@missma2092]

Amazing speech mashallah

[@latifahabdullateef6863]

Subhana Allah. Allahu Akbar. I have been trying to figure out how I would ask such a question to you Sheikh. May Allah reward you, JazakaAllah Kheir. I have an answer now.

[@aryan-lo8ri]

Subhanallaj

[@AfeeraKhan4]

He concluded the issue in a few minutes .... By using a Single word "IHSAN" . Yes no doubt people are mostly stung by their closed relations... So observe Silah Rehmi ...it would be considered as IHSAN(A Good Deed inside out) which Makes Allah Happy.

[@ming33100]

I always searching your speaking on karbala and imam Hussain , did you have any speech on this topic, by the way, you are one my favorite speaker

[@soniasomasundaran1173]

🙏

[@aneeznovelist2176]

Assalaamu alaikum everyone!😃

[@justworship0570]

❤️❤️❤️

[@momosworld2700]

There is a limit to how many times a mistreater can get away with mistreating us. Are we not recommended to not bear someone’s oppression towards us?

[@oluwakemilatifat4853]

Assalam'alaykum brother Omar. Thank you for this beautiful lecture. May Almighty Allah increase you in beneficial knowledge... In a case of a spousal continuous emotional abuse, even though the one being abused is willing to keep forgiving and taking it all in good stride, hoping for Allah's reward in return; is it not okay to also put into consideration the kids that would be brought up in such kind of atmosphere, by walking away from such toxic relationship, so as not to continue the cycle of narcissism? Even though one might be strong enough to forgive and let go, what about the kids that might grow up learning the narcissistic behavior of the said parent, how can that kind of cycle be broken?

[@muppet7095]

You're right about walking away from toxic, abusive marriages, esp one involving a narcissist or NPD. No knowledgeable scholar will advocate putting up with spousal and child abuse in the name of forgiveness. Even if you decide to endure it, which Islam doesn't ask you to do, sustained stress of this kind inevitably leads to chronic disease. It benefits no one.

[@rumarnaki6218]

Mia you are wright chronic stress can lead to physical illnesses and disabilities, also children of narcissist's can become one themselves if their in that environment too long. Forgiveness doesn't mean you stay with them, you can leave them and still forgive them for what they did previously, whilst making sure you don't do the same to others or your own kids. I think forgiveness is moving on, it's takes a lot of courage to too that.

[@meccayt6333]

Love you vide

[@berrovalentina7073]

Salamaleicum WR WB Can you please explain in another video how exactly can someone overcome this?? Because i’ m dealing with this, for years... from very close people in my life... This repeats... with dif type of people...( it’s strange...🤔) İ realised it, but don’t have the power to change anything, but to take distance... And this is not the solution... i know... but still... i don’t have any ideea how to act & how to manage... Thank you in advance... JAK 🤲

[@RudyDuncan]

i am the first :) why this video doesnt has any ads ustadz ?

[@noornhossain2443]

Assalamualakum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatohu!

[@lindadivon8500]

Amen! OUR FATHER WHO ART IN HEAVEN HOWLED BE YOUR NAME YOUR KINGDOM COME YOUR WILL BE DONE ON EARTH AS IT IS IN HEAVEN LEAD ME NOT INTO TEMPTATION BUT DELIVER ME FROM EVIL FOR YOURS IS THE KINGDOM AND THE POWER AND THE GLORY FOREVER .😒❤😷😍😘

[@CatsandAnimals213]

Really saddened to say this here but i have to... my mother mistreats all of us in the house. She is the worst with dad. She has become a kind of extremist when it comes to islamic teachings. She even abuses us and also dad. If we say something in his favor she gets furious and if we dont listen to something shen she demands something ss a result a of her anget, she threatens to leave the house (she knows dad will stop her). Its all vry complicated

[@gabarsomali946]

Your mother needs support love and care you should listen to her and make her feel like a queen the queen she deserves to be . Mothers are blessings listen to her see what happened to her talk to her hug her kiss her as she is a mother

[@CatsandAnimals213]

@@gabarsomali946 its not easy... sometimes she demands things that are completely non islamic... like do backbiting with me, scold ur dad, dont listen to ur dad cuz i have more rights over you. And u should not listem to parents if they talk non islamic..but at that moment if we dont she gets furiois

[@gabarsomali946]

@@CatsandAnimals213 am sorry you are going through a tough time may Allah make it easy for you and your family As for you mother has she started acting like this recently .if yes there is something big that has happened in her life that made her be like this it could be mental wise or anything Allah knows the best try reading surah baqara in the house .if you notice any thing else try convincing her to visit a doctor . If this has been her nature as long as you knew her then this is a test to you and your family be patient with her As regards to her telling u to do non islamic things then don't obey her . I pray for ease and calmness in your life .

[@busyairahsydali8139]

I'm in a state I hv started vomitting when receive email from the person (manager at work) whom has been mistreating me. It started with pain on the right back side of the head.

[@busyairahsydali8139]

@Pink Salt I have applied to leave. The Uni gave me a departure date on 20th November. Feeling like it is a Very long way to go 😣. Alhamdulillah ala kulli hal.

[@rumarnaki6218]

Insh'allah it will go by quickly, meanwhile try to have less contact with this person as much as you can given their your manager, and now that your going try telling them that you will not tolerate such behaviour and of you continue I will report it to human resources I am sure their is a complaints procedure at your place of work. Do dua also sister for Allah accepts the dua of the oppressed.

[@rochellewilliams9864]

marhallah butifull🙈🥰

[@meccayt6333]

May god forgive you

[@marthagarcia9737]

I always like to share but people judged me for that to

[@Izzy69x]

I love you for the sake of allah my Brother 🫶🏽

[@hifzashafiq5507]

Why subtitles are not available for this video 😕 😢

[@karimajibriil2267]

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[@rahaomar8769]

Ws wr. S.A.W