Learning to Forgive with Ken and Tabatha Claytor

Struggling with forgiveness in your life? You're not alone. This week on 'Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha', we navigate the complex and often winding road to forgiveness. We share personal stories of hurt, betrayal, and the journey towards letting go. We explore how forgiveness is not just an act of love, but an essential step towards healing and personal well-being. Join us as we open our hearts and share how forgiveness has helped us become more like Jesus.
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[@sandrabraziel8271]

It's not dumb to forgive. It's what God did for us by sending Jesus to be our Savior. To free us from our past, present, and future sins through his death and Ressuration. A free gift to all who choose to believe in Jesus, and His finished works on the cross. Amen

[@erinmorgan5514]

🤯 Tabitha definitely blows my mind. She is such a great example of a wife and a child of God. I loved when she said she loves how much Ken loves God FIRST!

[@Mrsdeepdimples1]

The way you guys have blessed me I’m beyond grateful for the both of you. Your transparency and wisdom Tab is mind blowing.

[@mojisolaaluko-olokun6099]

You two are a real blessing to marriages, I’m proud to call you my mentors ❤

[@beautifultruth4777]

When Tabitha didn’t understand the question of why it’s hard, I really needed to hear what she said, even though that wasn’t what he meant by the question.❤ Thank you for that!

[@MsSexiiBayon]

The way Pastor Tab explained why she would forgive Pastor Ken "IF" he ever cheated just made me cry. She got me rethinking my whole marriage foundation. Like I've always said if my husband EVERRRR cheated, I'm gone ! But whew she just shook me into another perspective of love and forgiveness. Thank you Pastor Tab!!!

[@nma78112]

Thank you Pastors for this topic. When Ken touched on ghosting, I knew the Holy Spirit wanted me released and get understanding on forgiveness. I have been ghosted a few days ago by someone I had forgiven years ago, they had reached out to me recently and needed to apologise. I allowed them back into my space for them to ghost me. I forgive them for that in Jesus Name! I am not allowing them in my circle again, though.

[@Contentwithme]

This blessed me. I searched for unforgiveness specifically on your podcast because I knew I’d get the prospective shift I am praying for. Even when you know something it doesn’t always make it easy to do. Blessings

[@shanneljoneszy9534]

Tabatha is dope for this nd how she exemplify and demonstrate her forgiveness. Blessing to the Both of you 🙏 😊

[@joyannamarmar2145]

Glory be To God. Thank you for this powerful message. I am blessed 🙌 😇

[@TrueWisdomTV]

I am a new subscriber to your channel and my husband and I have been married for 30 years and you guys have inspired us to start our KZbin channel

[@kshennel]

Welcome. I’ve subscribed to your channel. Looking forward to your content. ❤

[@IconicIRose]

Hello I just subscribed to you guys, God will bless your plans in life

[@KathyHenderson-iz1wc]

May God continue to bless you and keep you, and his face shine upon you. Protect you and your family in Jesus Name. Thank you for your ministry it has been a blessing to me I came upon it about 3 weeks ago when I was looking for God based material to teach our teen girls about sex and purity in a realistic way from a biblical perspective I prayed and immediately God led me to your teaching on Soul ties and I’m excited to share with them then I found your podcast you are beautiful couple that reflects the Lord and your wife is so beautiful inside and out the grace and love and wisdom that pours out of her when she speaks. I just want to say thank you. Please continue these podcast and pray for me as I begin journey of teaching our teens about sex and purity. It’s uncomfortable for me but I know it has to be done🙏🏽🙏🏽 Love you guys !!!

[@Kiai808]

I can really see how gods presence is with tabitha whenever she speaks.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Thank you!

[@TiffanyJefferson-vy8wu]

Powerful!!! Thank you for sharing the visual power of forgiveness.

[@mariapaul8165]

I just adore how they talk to each other with so much understanding and love. It's really inspiring❤

[@Jermailchenier-yw5tm]

Amen need to listen to this 😊it help me on today forgive is the number key help me to walk in love 💕 and overcome unforgiving .🙏❤️❤️✊✊🙌🙌😄👂👂👍💯💯😘

[@Queenbelieveit]

God does allow you to forgive freely for He forgave us. 🙏🏽

[@ashleysharingthegoodnews]

I’m dropping mind blown emojis 🤯🤯🤯 this was sooo good! Thank you both! ❤ this is really preparing me for a Godly marriage

[@sunflowermama4297]

This was such a blessing to me, thank you so much! This podcast was the catalyst I needed to send an email to my ex husband, forgiving him for cheating, giving up on the marriage, and all of the other sins that he sinned against me. I realized that my unforgiveness has been hurting only me for the past 10 years and I need to let it go! I now feel so much lighter, and feel open for God’s blessings. Thank you again for all that you both do! I will continue to pray for your ministry and for your well-being! ❤

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

So glad that our message impacted you enough to make some big choices!

[@wandayates4622]

This was so awesome!!! This gives me so much hope for true genuine love ❤

[@Dr.Cherokie]

‘I remember what you did!’ When pastor Tab got into this part I really felt seen. It really helps to hear how to get over THIS part about things. Thank you for this tangent. And I really love hearing how to build this muscle of forgiveness

[@maameodeadu-gyamfi7913]

From Ghana......God bless you Both

[@mary-janedavids6605]

Wowwww Tabatha wowww you just touched something in me I didn't know I had ❤❤🔥

[@tash7084]

This is right on time, my estranged father reached out and invited me over for the holidays recently. We haven’t spoken or been in contact in over 7 years. And at first I was so angry that he didn’t apologize or tell me what I felt I deserved to hear. But regardless of that I need to forgive, I mean really forgive and let go of those low emotions. thank you for this video, only God knew this was going on with me internally and this popped up on my feed. God is a healer and God leads us to our answers. Lead me to this video 🤍

[@MrJR82]

Blessings from North Carolina.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Glad to have you here!

[@paulamarizyumul1869]

Got married a month ago and your videos are really a blessing. Many times I have been rebuked by what you have been discussing in your videos.

[@britneybovell9899]

This is an incredibly helpful explanation. I learn so much from your channel. ❤

[@MyQueendom8]

OMG! God led me to your podcast a month ago BUT God really spoke to my heart listening to this segment. Tabitha and I have a few "pains" in common and I'm currently at the Thrown of God releasing hurt, pain and unforgiveness from years ago, the crazy thing is, I thought I had forgiven those people but the Holy Spirit searches the heart and revealed me to ME. And that's why I love the grace of God. Be blessed!

[@user-ym5qm6gc1y]

Honestly FORGIVENESS is Hard especially because you can't magically forget !

[@Lovejones80inc]

I truly felt freedom to forgive once I understood that it was for my salvation AND it DOES NOT mean I have to let them back in my life … weight off my chest and spirit truly forgiving people and understanding to keep distance because hurt people hurt people …I’ll pray for you from afar …AMEN ❤

[@braylaf]

“How do you know God’s real. That’s how you know God’s real” 🥹🥹🥹

[@margiewilliams2131]

Today i had to find out if i had forgive my husband..we had a conversation and i ask him do you think i did.He said very nice no i dont..and this really strick me.the next morning i search scrip videos..and KZbin and found you just to know i have have I unforgiveness . thank you for the scripture.😢

[@nokuthulamthimkhulu8008]

There's a part where Ken talked about 'ghosting "people who' ve hurt you, well i must confess i do that alot and that's a thing with me i heal from a distance, this is what i did currently i ghosted my ex bf because i was really toxic for me and me trying to avoid him by keeping him on my phone has not helped but what helped was keeping him at a safe distance and yes i'm still taking baby steps to heal completely but i see the devil trying to remind me of the past, the very things i want to heal from, yol we need prayers 🙏🙏

[@angeliawhitrack6320]

That's so powerful

[@sandralatimore2011]

Wow!!!

[@deirdreoutlaw1578]

Ive been meditating on the story of Joseph and how he came to forgive his family/brothers and change his perspective of the situation. This episode was so helpful! Thank you ❤

[@Rathbonek]

I needed this today. Thank you 🥰

[@staciacannalla2623]

wow Tabatha blows my 😱

[@valentine_music]

Blessings from Ireland - You guys are a blessing to the Body of Christ, these topics are very helpful - Jesus told us to Love all men - but only Trust in Him, in the Scriptures

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Glad to have you watching!

[@nokuthulamthimkhulu8008]

For me i ghost people for peace of mind not to hurt them but to restore love towards them even if it's from a distance...

[@grateful1010]

This was phenomenal to tune in on. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽 😁❤

[@mbowes7639]

Thank you ❤

[@patriciahamer3741]

This is awesome!

[@Queenbelieveit]

This was good ! God bless y’all 🙏🏽💕🙌🏽

[@robinhall3893]

Thank you for your love and kindness, your wisdom. I love you all so much.

[@alexbarongo]

You guys are amazing.. and si addictive to how you go deep and explain and explore intricate issues about life especially as Christians. God bless you and peaces be with you. Amen. All they way from Tanzania 🇹🇿 Africa. Shalom

[@robinhall3893]

Hello to y’all!! From NJ We must forgive! Not easy but it’s possibly…Great topic!! That’s what l think about ( God not forgiving me)He love soooo much He GAVE!! & LOVED ❤

[@lisablack5244]

Wonderful content as usual, thanks guys your podcast is a blessing to me, and so many others watching, please keep it coming! 😍🙏🏽💖🥰

[@Queenbelieveit]

❤

[@katrinagarrett1423]

God has used you two to minister to my life these past few months. Thank you for being vessels. God is using y'all to change lives. Much love ❤️

[@nicolenicole1105]

I haven't even listened to this podcast episode yet but I just love them. So glad the algorithm connected me with them. Lol ❤

[@Nae26Shae]

Thank y’all so much. God bless 🙏🏽

[@babeedinam8114]

I've been following and listening to you here from Ghana and I'm blessed. One thing I love about Tabatha I she is always positive and smiling ☺

[@theetyonnaashai2761]

Wow I’ve been watching you guys for a while after the virtuous woman video just recently subscribed. I am 22 years old in my third year of college 8 hours away from my home church. Just recently during the new year I was tremendously back stabbed and hurt and I’ve been in the process of forgiving as God wants me too and when you said something about praying for them hit home for me because praying for someone that hurt you to the point you can’t even look at them is hard but because I prayed and laid the situation down I’ve seen God move for me. I’ve learned that instead of saying “it’s okay” say “ Thank You” because being hurt by the people I never thought would hurt me so unethically allowed me to draw soooooo much closer to God and really trust him more than I’ve ever have since becoming saved ! This episode really made me realize that forgiving is hard but it is necessary for your next moves with GOD I Thank You for being so real in your videos and so inspiring to keep going for things of God❤ May he bless you both abundantly

[@Royaltenie]

I love love love yall !! When I’m in Florida I know I have another church home to go 🙏🏽✨

[@shaniaaliyah]

I definitely went through all of this & more, & i really struggled not so much on the forgiveness part but the healing process. I knew what the word of God says but i just felt like why did i have to go through that! That was where i was at and i think that i got so tired of being hurt and damaged by people that i just didnt want to be around people so i always tried to stop people coming into my life. But God really sent me this video to remind me once again that you need to let go and forgive.

[@kikijames333]

It shows maturity!! Shows Jesus christ ❤️

[@empresskenya3403]

Tabitha… that was the most beautiful things you said how you would forgive your husband if he ever cheated. Wow that blew my mind. Bless you both ❤

[@mawaggy1]

That was very powerful and I cannot even imagine but Lord have mercy. May God help me get that kind of a heart.

[@rubydiamond6009]

God Bless you both, IT’s definitely helping me to become a better Woman GOD called me to be ❤

[@Caileeycrystaal]

Wow! Im seriously mind blown ❤I love you two because you guys are sharing true gems for an incredible and healthy marriage! Thank you guys for being the example people need.

[@lesliepierce740]

This whole episode is powerful!

[@randolphellis2372]

Wow, what an amazing episode!! Thank you both for allowing GOD to use you even in your testimony to bless the world!!!

[@sofreshsomila]

Enjoying your podcast over here in The Bay Northern Cal! Love to see you both sharing, don't see that too often from the other half and with her own personality and substance in The Word! Go ahead PW! 💃

[@user-ir2of1pc1s]

I just started watching you guys this year 2024

[@erinmorgan5514]

I need a heart like Tabitha 🙏🏾

[@aleshamolina9523]

I just love you both!

[@mangalisopepper4507]

Thank you I always learn something new in your podcast, God bless your work In the mighty name of Jesus Christ Amen

[@nnennaezinwa472]

Thanks you so much, love from 🇨🇦

[@bridgetjohnson2030]

THANK YOU FOR THIS MESSAGE🙌🏽

[@MechelleTube80]

I love you guys thank you❤

[@marwa6215]

I really like this episode 🤗

[@kayc8088]

Hello Pastor! Today I had the Privilege to know of you!!! You see you came to my church and preached. Shepard of the Hills Porter Ranch California. I was hoping I had the pleasure of saying hello and To say how Much gladness I felt to know your beautiful wife is healthy. I wanted to say how inspired I feel to search and ask For Gods Joy- Not Mine. You Touched My Heart from the start because you said right away to let Old Relationships go except I don’t know if I can. At the same time maybe I should but I don’t know simply because we have 2 kids and my oldest only knows him as a father but in 10 yrs So much has happened n I still wear my ring 💍 I really wished I could have spoken with you but hopefully I find my answers through your Videos. My kids are 14,9,6 my boy in the middle he was so sensitive and I hate when he sees me cry because he doesn’t like to see his Momma cry but it was impossible to stop the water works especially at the end of the Sermon when you mentioned Broken Hearts 💔 my 3 kids turned and looked at me which hurt me even more because they know I love their father with all of me. But I supposed at times it’s best to Love from a distance. Anyway I can go on but I won’t. THANK YOU FOR COMING OVER TO SHEPARD PASTOR DUDLEY MADE A GREAT CHOICE. I will have your Family in Mind specially your beautiful wife. Considering I’m Scared to make an appointment myself I need to go see a Dr. 💔God Bless You Guys. Come back Soon !!!! P.S I’m Subscribed!!!

[@cameronking1424]

I love this teaching, I really needed to hear this

[@lezleycammon9339]

Awesome message! Thanks for hands on tips!

[@syntiabebongchu3316]

I love this episode. It's very encouraging.

[@robinhall3893]

Ive been watching you guys about 5 mos or so! & love YALL so much!!!

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Glad to have you watching!

[@amiraclebostick8124]

I am definitely mind blown by that statement! 😳

[@peachesmcsween8441]

Sooooo good this food! Thank you for your example couple of God❤

[@normaramirez9687]

Thank you Pastors you guys always bless my life🙏🏼

[@SheSharpNotFlat]

Woooooow 🤯

[@ireenkayira]

This was lovely , this topic has touched my heart and has given me new discoveries on forgiveness

[@AikoFilms]

their love gives me faith

[@AllAboutAndrew444]

Powerful

[@Gracewalk49]

My first live with you all. ❤I aspire

[@AikoFilms]

God bless you both

[@tarynbutler5864]

Wow what she said was absolutely powerful. My God 🩵

[@faithfulhealerpodcast]

This was really good to me. Thank you!# can't wait to share with my future hubby#

[@Thenewage-uy1jc]

🎉🎉❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉Praise God!!!

[@B-Icon]

I needed to hear this. I was recently asked by my suitor if I had forgiven my ex-husband, and I struggled to answer. He called me on it saying “I’m asking you a yes/no question and your answer is about our foundation.” Shortly thereafter my ex did something to hurt our daughter’s feelings, and my man then asked me “what’s up with him.” I responded, now you see why I struggled answering your question. However, I still need to do some work to fully embrace forgiveness. Thanks for this conversation. I will be watching it again. Peace and continued blessings for you both individually and collectively❤️🙏.

[@robinhall3893]

Please God help us!!! My goodness

[@marvah99]

Prraayying blessings for them????🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴😫 Lord, HELP me to forgive! smh.. Tab, thank you so much for sharing and teaching this❤❤ --- it's crazy how much you think you've "forgiven"... but.. to struggle with praying for them just shows there's still bitterness there😩 Thank you again guys. Your ministry is so needed

[@robinhall3893]

God has already forgiven us!!

[@wamukisaracheal4293]

Watching you guys all the way from Uganda-Africa.You have indeed blessed me in ways i can't even explain....

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Amen ❤️🙏🏾 God bless you

[@MechelleTube80]

Forgiving helps with your healing process

[@deprisedepass6914]

🤯🤯🤯

[@shantakoa8596]

I appreciate you both❤❤❤❤now that I am in a godly relationship. I want to listen even more. ❤❤❤

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Glad to hear it! Don't forget to Subscribe to our channel so you don't miss anything!

[@moniquelevy5558]

I believe when we attempt to see the unlikable through the eyes of God we position ourselves to like them.. what yall think?

[@bobbiemichaelsNyc86]

The closest that hurt you the mostest so true

[@ladyzinada5341]

Love this podcast 😊. New subscriber. SHARED, Clicked LIKED, and listening with an Wide open Ear

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Glad to have you here with us!

[@moniquelevy5558]

Great prospective of ghosting, I've ghosted someone who I realized was almost like a fly on the wall, not disclosing anything from their own life but front seat in mine... wanting to know everything and to me that's not a friendship there's another motive and whatever the motive I wasn't interested in communicating with them anymore. Before ghosting you kind of ask questions around it to confirm that you are doing the right thing. And some people can be so let leachy that a conversation isnt received 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@careydawn1974]

forgiveness does not need to be reconciliation. I might make you a plate but you aren’t eating at my table. I can put you in the balcony of my life. These are important things to remember when we are learning to forgive