LET'S TALK ABOUT COLORISM | dating preferences, skin bleaching, light skin privilege

So let's talk about colorism. In this video, I get really candid on the effects of colorism when it comes to dating preferences, the rise of skin bleaching, light skin privilege, and colorism in media. Colorism is a topic that is heavily spoken about, but I don't believe well listened to enough so I wanted to put my spin on the topic. Let me know your RESPECTFUL opinions in the comments on colorism and the points I made! Love you guys so much and thank you for watching!
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[@miesha.b8740]

I used to hate my skin color but now I’ve embraced being darker and I thank God that I didn’t let society make me go to the point of bleaching my skin. It’s really sad man…

[@rodb66]

Excellent!

[@rodb66]

Yes, imbrace your melanin.

[@geekedmaxx]

That's good so embrace yourself and mind your bussiness about what other people do with there skin color, it's there life

[@princesstiauna]

Good, your dark skin is beautiful and your image will always be the TRUE standard of beauty

[@frrfee5721]

❤❤

[@theone7778]

I hate how Hollywood has this obsession with light skin or mixed actors and as a lighter complexioned mixed person myself, their NEEDS to be darker skin representation and a wider range of shades for black actors, especially women

[@spaghettimonster5650]

What is wrong with that? I want a light skin kid myself. So i al definitely going to marry a white woman

[@anisha6067]

colorism is also a big issue among south asian communities

[@unapologetic7281]

I’m guessing it derives from your pagan caste system.

[@kathleenking47]

@@unapologetic7281 they did that BEFORE colonialism in India. That just made it worse

[@CanopusLux]

@@unapologetic7281 it's a problem everywhere on this planet. In almost all African countries, especially Nigeria, Ghana etc people risk skin cancer. Jamaika & Brasil as well. In china, India, Korea and jn Japan having milk skin is a beauty standard.

[@johnballard6725]

Please don't let us have that tired old prejudice that only whites display colorism.

[@damnkevindeaderthanamf3297]

@@johnballard6725 I'd say black people do that alot but we gotta. Paint white people as the problem only

[@larad100]

Colourism is real man I’m a deep brown skinned female, and my God I experience it all x

[@myrainezdawriter6024]

You’re beautiful 😘

[@jagdeepkaul1261]

The part of the video where she talks about casting lighter skinned Black women for dark skinned fictional characters is 100% true and REALLY annoys me!!! There are plenty of dark-skinned women out there more than perfectly capable and playing Storm from the X-Men, WHY NOT USE THEM???? f**kin give them a job! hire them!!!!! I want to scream this so bad. But instead they want to cast f**kin Zoe Kravitz or Card B (basically any light-skinned Black woman) for the part. It makes my blood boil!

[@aliengringolandia4114]

It happens in latinoamerica too, not to the point to get bleached ( is not common) but we have micro discrimination in our society. They thinking having lighter skin is more “ beautiful”. They even use “ poor color” o “door color” as an insult.

[@damnkevindeaderthanamf3297]

Yep. Haiti have bad skin bleaching 🙄

[@rodb66]

Sadly, I lot of us have absorbed the white standards of beauty causing self-hate as well as trying to erase our blackness. There are too many dark skinned men who go for light skinned black women, biracial or white women cause of it. Personally, I never used skinned to for my preference. I was attracted to black women of all skinned tones and eventually married a brown skinned black woman.

[@mauricemosley7362]

I agree, the darker the brothas, the lighter they want their women, like they hate there own skin or something. I also have dated from mulatto to very dark women, I literally don't have a preference and my wife is chocolate. That colorist brainwashing starts early in the psyche of young black boys with the lack of chocolate representation in commercials, film, and TV. If more women like Amara L'negra, Kenya Moore, Lupita, and Teresa Graves were plastered all over media the brainwashing could slowly get reversed. We just need more representation and we need our ABSOLUTE BEST.

[@CC-pu6qn]

Dark skin men know they’re choosing lighter women.

[@spaghettimonster5650]

Dark skin women are just not attractive. Get over it. It is not that deep

[@Truth4reality]

Nice video format. I love the voiceover talent. A lot of people don't understand narration is pretty hard to master. You did a Great job

[@ToniBryanneTV]

Thank you so much!! Definitely still room for improvement!

[@Black.Girl_Melanin519]

This happened on the Tyler perry TV show "Meet the Browns" when they replaced the dark skin Brianna with a lighter skinned one

[@kizzieball1256]

I don't know about anybody else but I love my skin tone it's beautiful

[@aishaluminsa6505]

I grew up with Dad who hated bleached women. And am glad I new a'm beautiful in my dark skin.

[@Rebecca-jh1ct]

I see it all over TikTok it’s so sad it affects so many minorities. If you have Eurocentric features you’re automatically deemed as more attractive that’s why I have a problem with ppl who say ‘dating preferences’ because it’s typically goes back to colourism but a lot of ppl will not admit to this it’s very sad. It’s not just on TikTok it’s on everything dating shows especially it’s sad. This why I stay off socials it’s mostly all rooted in colourism. I’d like to think we’re making a change for the better but let’s be real here companies are only making a change because if they don’t they’ll be cancelled they aren’t doing it cos they want to they’re doing it so they’ll profit from it. I also find Gen z and other generations like to think that we’re being inclusive but are we tho? Cos if someone doesn’t mean their standard of beauty which is normally a Eurocentric beauty of standard they’ll be so mean to that person and clown them when that person hasn’t done anything wrong. So it’s very hypocritical that’s my problem especially with gen z. I am wise enough to know not to do that I don’t clown ppl for their looks because honestly what’s the point? Does it get you anywhere? All you’re gonna do is cause that person to be insecure wat do u get out of that it’s weird to me if u don’t like something why not shut up and not say anything. There’s a place and a time use ur brain that’s why you have one unless u don’t oh I forgot most ppl don’t. Btw I am part of Gen z so it’s not like I have some kind of vendetta against them I am literally one of them but I’ve just noticed these things and yeah Ofc I will cuss and call all of those colourist ppl out cos it ain’t right at all. I’ve seen colourism in real life and how it affects ppl in real life and it’s sad y’all it will really affect that person for so long in their life and they really feel like they aren’t beautiful because they don’t meet this toxic standard of beauty which is heavily rooted in colourism and Eurocentric standard of beauty I’ll never suport that how about we learn to appreciate all types of beauty not just one specific look. It’s not right. One thing I will say is if you have a child please give them words of affirmation telling them they are beautiful, go to a diverse school, teach them about their culture this is soooo important! Watch movies, if you can afford it go back to where your ancestors are from, eat your food! Look at examples of ppl who actually look like you who have your features, getting them dolls that look like them, teaching them to love their skin colour etc you get it. Because If you don’t do this and the kids grows up in a less diverse area they will go through a identity crises. This is why it’s so important. Especially if you’re kid is mixed teach them to love both parts of them speaking from personal experience it will help them so much especially in the future on how to deal with ppl, situations, people fetishisating their skin colour cos that happens a lot! But any person of colour please learn to appreciate your unique differences it’s what makes you you! No one should take that away from you! Stand in your truth and be you.

[@ruthy107]

This is so sad😔. Sad that some people bleach because they don't feel good enough! They are enough! Our melanin is beautiful 💕💯.Colonialism ruined the world.

[@kathleenking47]

In India, they had colorism before colonialism. Also, the whites years ago would use lighter skinned slaves inside because they were relatives

[@Val17282]

​@@kathleenking47 While colorism was preexisting in Asia, White people's colonialism and media worsened it nonetheless

[@mhamma6560]

About 3 years ago there was a black pastor that got a diverse group of average citizens together and partnered with a large PD to go through use of force training. They then put them into simulated shoot / don't shoot training scenarios and the end result is that everyone shot the black subjects more often, with the black folks actually shooting the black subjects more often than the white folk. The scenarios basically involved going into an environment with limited knowledge about armed subjects in the area, and then people appear from behind objects and they're either armed or holding something random. It's designed to get officers used to suddenly seeing an individual kinda in a startling manner while having to quickly ascertain if they're a threat or not. Reactions are so quick they're almost subconscious which is why the training is important. May be something deeper in our brains that's the result of long ago threats we've yet to evolve out of. Humans are the result of 10s of millions of years of evolution and that type of stuff doesn't just go away from the subconscious in 100 years.

[@cassandradowns7662]

Thank you so much for this video. I was shocked that skin bleaching was so heavily utilized and the products such as dark spot correctors were actually whitening creams. Thank you for educating people like me who are not exposed to things such as this, truly appreciate it.

[@hhh1234h]

I’ve actually been told multiple times by white people that majority of black women are mixed and/or light skinned and that darker skinned black people were a minority! And they continued to argue with me. They weren’t even saying there are less dark skin actors and actresses but black people as a whole!

[@charmaineespeut4627]

They really need to go outside and touch some grass. There are millions of darkskin people

[@curlygyrls2428]

Skin bleaching is a horrible practice. I can't believe its still in use

[@beavertheteaser]

I wish you showed Black women as examples and not mixed women

[@spaghettimonster5650]

Dark skin women are just not attractive. Get over it. It is not that deep

[@damnkevindeaderthanamf3297]

Glad to be brown/dark

[@pauljonas4539]

Thank you for this 💕

[@nms6431]

🗣☝🏽THE BEST AND MOST COMPREHENSIVE VIDEO ON THIS TOPIC!💪🏾👂🏽👌🏽

[@ladydslay]

I definitely agree on what your saying. Especially when it comes to tv shows/movies. It’s sad 😞 on how it’s still colorrisim to this day

[@ToniBryanneTV]

So sad! It fr feels like we aren’t that different than how things were 300 years ago

[@ladydslay]

@@ToniBryanneTV right

[@miesha.b8740]

Yessss like, it’s 2021 this needs to stop 😭😭

[@miesha.b8740]

@@ToniBryanneTV yes, you got that right

[@_the_little_mermaid_]

​@@miesha.b8740how is it gonna stop if black people keep hyping up light-skinned black girls? Zendaya is actually very light-skinned in real life and in tv she looks darker as if she was tanning on purpose or something

[@manuelsteele2651]

The Spanish Casta was rooted in colorism in Colonial Spain. It still exists to some extent in countries like Mexico and the Dominican Republic. I know this because I am Apache.

[@jessyjay9801]

Hey,I just saw your knuckles and I got encouraged cuz people I know and friends always ask me why my knuckles are dark and because of those questions,I decided to bleach it but it got worse... seeing your own has encouraged me to leave it that way, that it's natural.

[@amandaprewer2755]

This didn't start in europe. It's much older than that of bleaching skin. People used to have slaves that locked like them. And were the like same race as them. So they used to bleach their skin. Even in the greek era.

[@sweatyfro6531]

Amazing video!

[@Covid-lv9zz]

I was already born light skin man 🙄

[@mopifan5054]

I’m a guy and glad I was born light skin 😭😂

[@kjphantom3445]

@@mopifan5054 …..

[@keithdontmiss6714]

Same

[@Sarah_321]

And there you gooo. Yall can't handle it when you aren't the center of attention. If you have never experienced colorism, well maybe this video isn't about you🤯

[@Dewolowonubi]

I love this video

[@ToniBryanneTV]

Thank you sooo much!

[@CjBlk]

One girl got mad at me cus i said she was black. Shii i was offended she was offended like wtf wrong with black

[@purplelove3666]

If she was biracial THEN SHE IS NOT BLACK

[@CjBlk]

@@purplelove3666 she was dark skin. Plus if u biracial u are black. Deal with it bruH

[@CjBlk]

@More iz Lyfe If somebody is having a event for blk ppl n ur friends decide to go are u going to say u cant go bc ur mixed. If ur mixed w blk its ok for somebody to call u blk, if u mixed w asian its ok for somebody to call u Asian. The fact that a person have a problem being refered to the ppl they come from is scary lol

[@rosalynbeatty8310]

@@CjBlk Race divides us all. It's a made up fake concept & lie. Only 1 race -- the human race. I call mixed people -- bi'ethnics' or mixed ethnics. On applications under race I check 'other'. Then I write human. I don't care about how people see or class me.

[@ghettogreenbeann]

@@CjBlk biracial is TWO RACES. so ur not a full blk person smart one. Stop with the one drop rule crap bc u keep that up other races of ppl are going to try to claim blk when they really aren't. That biracial person STILL has a non blk parent.

[@johnballard6725]

Over 40 years ago in Toronto I dated a lovely immigrant lady from Guyana and was horrified that she used creams to lighten her skin.

[@jamalgordon8883]

Latina and Hispanic and Arab and Middle Eastern and Asian are olive skin

[@darylifillifill1677]

I do have issue with how Karen Beecher bumblebee looks in DC superhero girls

[@Ntombi_Majara]

This is sad😭I even edited my picture to make me seem lighter 😢

[@beauxanges]

LOL

[@FNFNFN99KKK]

To me, ara looks black and not biracial compared to the mixed ones in this video.

[@ejakaegypt]

Very interesting video

[@DOLCEKAYEXOTICAL]

I’m light skinned and I wish I was darker

[@mypoppafly4084]

I'm dark skinned and wish I was darker like Seal or Wesley Snipes

[@beavertheteaser]

cringe

[@beauxanges]

@@beavertheteaser it's giving "kid"

[@winstonthespartan5593]

We should all love ourselves, regardless of our skin tones.

[@MaiKA1.8]

It’s the same thing as someone saying they wish they were lighter

[@user-ub6xp2ve5m]

Colorism causes people to pull out their " crazy card " 😂

[@Nana-pj6fy]

Saying that something didn’t exists because you have yet to experience it or see it occurring with your own eyes is very problematic

[@melonelon.]

hm

[@LoveMafae]

o such thing as a light skin black

[@Sarah_321]

Dawg, you can't be that ignorant

[@kam6390]

Bro my cousin has brownskin parents and came out lightskin and all her siblings are brownskin. They exist idiot.

[@chulostrijpp7509]

Love to be a lightskin men

[@doboy8368]

People think yall are soft and gay though.

[@tazzy4624]

@@doboy8368 no one thinks that that's colorist insecure JEALOUS darkskin men that be perpetuating that and along with some bw who are also colorist.

[@islandpersuasion4690]

​@@doboy8368True 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Sarah_321]

Wow....

[@blacklyfe5543]

Yeah I have a reason for my light skin preference but it's not for the same reason you have in this video. You can't tell me what I am or am not attracted too.

[@MaiKA1.8]

Just out of curiosity what’s your preference because I like light skin men because I find them attractive.

[@theejcharles]

7:51 Not you repeatedly saying “skinned-ed” 🥴

[@Booyared1]

Umm there are plenty of dark skinned successful actresses in Hollywood. Why do people pretend that doesn’t exist.

[@dimitrescucrncevic9746]

People think I’m crazy when I say, I firmly believe ethnic groups should live seperately. Blacks with Blacks, Whites with Whites, and so on. It benefits everyone it is not racist to see that people will never get along. I’m pretty sure when you are watching Tv it sucks not to see someone who represents you; I mean for example if you are black and watching superhero movies with a majority white cast. When you are Asian and see whites do yellow face and representing your heritage. Doesn’t that not suck; I love western society and it’s ideals, so why can we not implement them to the rest of the world but in form of our Own cultures and Heritages. Somewhat how the Japanese embraced western culture. Listen this isn’t racist just a suggestion I don’t hate anyone; but I really believe life would be better for folks if they were seperated. Around folks like themselves; they’d feel more at home.

[@rosalynbeatty8310]

People must see ethnicity & color as beautiful varities. Boring world if we looked alike. Marry/friend people due 2 character. Segregation isn't the answer. It causes racism & war.

[@aidsensemen5950]

so u support segregation

[@mypoppafly4084]

We (black people) tried to separate and do our own thing, minding our own business...and here come white folk to burn us to the ground because we were happy and successful at doing our own independent thing...but that was a problem too. WHO AM I??? I AM BLACK WALL STREET

[@willtheethrill]

Such biased commentary. There are plenty of darkskin women in roles. They are just not the representation that darkskin women want. You mentioned the loud sapphire or mammy which is correct. There are waaayyy more darkskin guys represented in media than lightskin. You “coincidentally” left out darkskin guys in media. As far as relationships, don’t include lightskin men in your rants. I am glad you corrected yourself by specifying that your dark skin guys are what this is really about. Darkskin women are very colorist towards light skin guys but cry when they get rejected by darkskin guys. The harsh reality is that the bleaching, rejection and everything else won’t change until darkskin guys , darkskin girls and lightskin girls have a paradigm shift.

[@breasialyons3779]

It's clear that you wanted her to focus more on black men and how they are affected by colorism. There is a surplus of lighter skin actresses in the media. Dark skin actresses are not as famous they don't get as much recognition and it's harder for them to get roles. So there isn't a lot of representation of dark skin women in Media. And this video is made by a woman so of course it would focus more on the black woman's experience versus the male. If you want an in-depth discussion about how dark skin men and light skin men are affected by colorism you should probably go look that up or make one yourself but don't try to invalidate someone's experience

[@entertainingblackmanvideos7691]

@@breasialyons3779 light skin men are not affected by colorism they still have women chasing after them they get plenty sex because of the light skin

[@entertainingblackmanvideos7691]

@@breasialyons3779 Black men brown and dark skin are affected by colorism on negative stereotypes being seen as aggressive or dangerous

[@entertainingblackmanvideos7691]

@@mikaylakaylaa Probably the people they known in there lifetime or past life

[@ava7802]

There are way more dark skinned successful actress, than light skinned ones. Our top black Alist actresses are all dark too Angelia Bassett brown. Viola Davis, Media Mogul Superstar, Oprah Winfrey, Sheryl Lee Ralph, Naomi Campbell, Nina Simone, Janet Jackson, Gladys Knight, last but not least Whitney Houston, Loretta Divine. People wake the Hell up......

[@pr1.8ijmk]

Black people come in all colors. they originally had dark people in fresh prince and my wife and kids and thenext ones happened to be light. Looks like they either left or where let go for other reasons not removed for a light person. They had a light and a dark. What did you want them to use only dark people? I don't think these are good examples and you're going to far with these.

[@cedricholden1409]

Lets be honest. Colorism is in the head of black women more than anyone else...They always try to turn their negative self esteem issues on someone else, ex: in this video they mention how black men want children with white women so the children wont go through this colorism stuff. Again colorism is more in the head of black women, So is this the reason she wants kids with a white man ? But we don't talk about that do we. See what I mean by how they try and flip the script.

[@courtneywhite6036]

Dark-skinned black men are colorist too

[@cedricholden1409]

@@courtneywhite6036 like a said, it's in the black woman head more than anybody else

[@xiamariansupreme72]

@@cedricholden1409 You're clearly a dusty. Colorism runs rampant everyday, its not in anybody's head. You're just a colorist gaslighter.

[@xiamariansupreme72]

@@cedricholden1409 Hollywood replaces darkskin actresses with lightskin actresses. They have lightskin actresses play the roles of original darkskin characters. They attach demeaning descriptive words the most to darkskin women, such as "angry, aggressive, manly, uncoorperative" way more than lightskin women. Even Hispanics and east/south Asians admit that colorism is real, as east and south Asians spend billions on bleach products and promote being as pale as possible to be labelled as attractive.

[@xiamariansupreme72]

@@cedricholden1409 Do yourself a favor and get lost. You're a typical gaslighter, ignoramus and darkskin woman hater.

[@TrevonGray]

I can't blame this on slavery when I never lived in it or been around it. In my opinion a lot of mixed people and racially ambiguous have even features high cheekbones things like that has nothing to do with me wanting to be white or whatever like that I think people like what they like and people are mad.

[@mypoppafly4084]

The effects of slavery is a major factor that is still with us today....and in 50 years there will be a global population of less melinated people and that's really sad because it's being done deliberately...

[@TrevonGray]

@@mypoppafly4084 i feel you that I think people like what they like 🤷🏾‍♂️ me liking what I like has nothing to do with an era I never lived in.

[@doboy8368]

So the white people interviewed by Lance Hannon were biased towards the light skins because they found them more attractive and not because of internalized colorism?

[@TrevonGray]

@@doboy8368 I'm not sure what your comment went or if you chose to delete it because when I go to the main comment section in this three and I don't see you, but when I'm on the outside of it I can hit reply to respond 🤷🏾‍♂️. Everything isn't eternalized colorism the way people try to make it.. it seems like the ones complaining or talking about it are the ones that don't fit in a lot of the preferences people have 🤷🏾‍♂️. I myself can appreciate someone of mixed race because of the combined features that they have it's the science part that I like. But it has nothing to do with internalized colorism people like what they like.

[@beauxanges]

@@TrevonGray shocker it's you saying it

[@tatlertom3090]

i think likely lighter skin, generally, is more attractive to men. just like wide shoulders in men is more attractive. height in men is more attractive. less hair on women is more attractive. lean is more attractive. A good jaw line is more attractive. colorism is not a "huge problem," any more than lacking those other features are "huge problems." Like a shorter man, or a pear shaped person -- we have no choice but to basically accept the basic realities of our genetic heritage. This video stokes fears, instead of simple acceptance, or some remedies if your color really bugs you.

[@FreeBLKWoman]

This is demonic commentary you're spewing.

[@beauxanges]

What is this comment this video is talking about how colorism is a problem

[@smexyangelmike3117]

wtf

[@blacklyfe5543]

Facts

[@Sarah_321]

And that has nothing to do with skin color? A darskin woman can also have these features. What you said is just an example of the prejudices out on us

[@dickweedstarchild]

❤

[@Melanie-wi9is]

First of all, I love your content. That being said, I need you to practice pronouncing "light skinned" correctly though. I heard you say "light SKIN-DED" multiple times (7:28, 7:45), which makes my ears bleed and frankly does not fit the highly intellectual tone and intent of this video. I'll even accept just "light skin" with no "ned" as it sounds better than "skin-ded".

[@courtneywhite6036]

COLORISM goes both ways

[@aidsensemen5950]

no it doesn't

[@Kay-sc9se]

You sound slow...

[@breasialyons3779]

It is true that colorism affects both black men and black women. If you want a video that focus more on black men and how they are affected by colorism you should probably search that up

[@courtneywhite6036]

@@Kay-sc9se You're the one that's slow because it's the truth, Truth Hurts

[@courtneywhite6036]

@@aidsensemen5950 Yes it does