Let's talk about courtship...

[@gregcarlson8438]

3 Principles: 1) Date or court with intentionality 2) Date or court with spirituality 3) Date or court with community

[@acharich]

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[@Demitriavelo]

Pray about it. I have developed boundaries and an approach for dating that works for me. I've had people try to force me to incorporate a chaperone, never being utterly alone with a person of opposite gender. This however doesn't work for me due to my past, I need to see how the person I'm dating/getting to know will treat me when others aren't around (how's his integrity and character). I'm so glad I did it this way with someone I dated recently because in a couple months I saw a side of him not many of our friends were aware of and I ended things. Had we not had alone time, my heart would've invested more time, not knowing how unhealthy things would turn out to be. However, I wanted to be wise so our alone time was always outside, in public. This is what works for me, and God helped me understand this about myself. Pray, pray, pray.

[@charleedak]

Demitria I totally agree with this

[@dreamparlor3611]

Amen. I often wondered aboot this! Cos some people are so excellent at putting on a charming face when with a community, afraid to spill the beans about certain character traits...(like even if they are trivial cuz it might give em a nickname or something) sooo..how would you get past that if someone is always around??? Social intimacy & being vulnerable on your own in public makes total sense. The love you both have for Christ should help establish self control esp if youre courting with God in the middle anywayyy

[@Streetlocksmith]

Garbage

[@Leshimizu99]

My pastor gave some tips and i think they complemment this vídeo like talk about your life goals ( kids, dreams, ambitious, are they alike or not?), relationship with God (do you help each other get closer to the Lord? Does this person loves God before anyone and anything else? Does this person motivates you to read more the Bible, pray more and vice versa?) and finally ministry ( I am, in particular, someone who does a lot of missionary trips and i need my partner who loves that to and will go to crazy places, sleep with the stars above our heads and be fine with it, be happy because that's also his ministry)

[@aliciaa678]

Hey Justin and Emily, can you talk about emotional chastity and how to guard your heart while dating?

[@jeremiahhernandez4279]

I realized that we really need to include the community especially our trusted counselors because it is said that "Without counsel, plans go awry, But in the multitude of counselors they are established." Prov. 15:22 NKJV

[@synthia6428]

I agree with everything, especially number 3. Having a Christian friend you trust (or couple) to see your relationship without your rose-colored glasses is great for perspective. I remember when we fell into sexual sin, I sought advise from 4 sets or people: my sister who was single, my friend who was married for 1 year, my sister who was married for 4 years and my friend who was married for 10+ years. Now these are people who I trusted with my life not some random people who wouldn't give me Bible based answers. Even my recently divorced friend gave me advice. It was so helpful because I wasn't doing this by myself because I don't know everything! Great video!

[@acharich]

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[@ronahrollan8343]

Date/court with intentionality Date/court with spirituality Date/court with community the most important thing: Put God in the center

[@jazminforbes209]

Lauren Victoria aw, that’s sad you think that. And I pray you experience Him personally & show Himself real in your life! ☺️

[@acharich]

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[@sarahabernathy2558]

I believe there is a difference between courting and dating. Courting is getting to know someone your interested in to see if there is a future for you guys together. Dating is getting closer to each other once you think you could marry each other.

[@christopherjohansson3073]

Dating and courtship has each of their different approach to marriage. Dating is mostly intimate and rarely leads up to a succesful marriage as you have already had a taste for one and another. Courtship is like preparing for a partnership with your future wife/husband and seeing it as a stable union together so you can build a healty family.

[@adaliavasquez6552]

I think it is important when we are in friendships with the opposite gender to guard our hearts. I was recently friends with someone who indicated that he liked me and I was really praying about it, but suddenly he just got into a relationship with another girl. He really hurt me. I pray and ask that all brothers in Christ would be careful with how they treat their sisters--caring for their hearts and not leading them into false hope (if they aren't interested in a relationship). I know sisters in Christ should do the same but men are the pursuers in this area.

[@meer9098]

Well. I mean. Did you reciprocate those feelings?

[@whitemakesright2177]

Sounds like he asked to pursue a romantic relationship with him, you rebuffed him, so he moved on and found someone that reciprocated his feelings. Doesn't sound like he did anything wrong. Did you expect him to wait around for you to change your mind?

[@Joe-ew1ss]

Outstanding post, this is the first video of yours that I've watched and I'm impressed. My two oldest boys courted and are now happily married with kiddos on the way, I'm gonna be a grandpa! The important thing is that is was God centered! Keep up the good work!

[@luvall7076]

I agree going into a relationship with no intention to get to know the person is damaging to the other person and can make them feel unloved.

[@amyr4735]

I love this video- ecspecially about a “successful courtship that didn’t end in marriage”.

[@beaband3557]

Amy R yeah me too! Sometimes people get confused about it, thinking that have to marry the first one, what makes no sense. :)

[@EverittBorn]

Great tips!! I really liked the intentionality tip even if the relationship doesn’t end in marriage. Also community is often overlooked and super important! Awesome video!

[@TranceCore3]

Courting and dating are not synonymous. Blew my mind when I actually looked it up.

[@PopcornandScripture]

Good advice. There is a difference between courting and dating though. The definition of courting is to seek the affections of another with the hope of marriage. Whereas dating isn't intentional- it simply means to meet with another like- minded person and isn't necessarily exclusive. Within, the sphere of all of this it's also important to seek wisdom to assess if the person is a good steward of their time, talents, and finances. These things have such long term implications but are easily overlooked.

[@acharich]

Depends, some can date intentionally, so it feels like semantics debates sometimes..

[@janessatosh6460]

Listen to God

[@DevotionsWithDemarcus]

Great video!! We love your channel Bro!

[@imjuliamonica]

Amazing! This is so much related to EGW's Letters to Young Lovers 😍 God bless your ministry! Have been blessed by your topics. Very practical.

[@jessiska2468]

Exactly. This is a beautiful advice!! And true parents have the best interest at heart

[@preciousbees5721]

although culture has led us to believe that courtship and dating are somewhat synonymous, there are actually a lot of differently ordered priorities, that the sequence of events gives a different DNA structure to the process of committing to someone you intend to marry. Although language is not too important, I believe it is important to know that dating with intention is more than just not having sex until marriage and "finding" someone with similar values or virtues. Paul washer, Francis Chan, Allen Parr, and Fr Ripperger on KZbin and my local pastor have been very instrumental in my journey. I thank God for their knowledge I often listen to the videos more than once as many parts bring up different faults in my thinking, along with the illumination of scripture by the spirit of God. I pray for success and prosperity to all who are called to marriage and equally so to those called to singleness unto God! Thank you for this video, God bless you

[@preciousbees5721]

Also Elizabeth Elliot if y'all want something more hardcore 🤭

[@RyArmani]

Listen to people who aren't/never married and/or secular??

[@lilig5840]

I'm Christian, but how intense this all seems makes me want to avoid dating and even marriage all together

[@laurenalmeyda6916]

Marriage is intense.

[@mynameluvsdragonscancelled6759]

If I get courted, I’ll probably refer to it as dating to people who ask so they don’t get confused

[@acharich]

I feel u..

[@samuelguzleandro]

Love it! Thank you so much for the advices, it realy made me review some ideas, realy helpful. God bless😇

[@maredelacruz2304]

Thanks for this’ I so read the book I kissed dating goodbye and say hello to courtship by pastor joshua harris.

[@marshacreary2442]

How would you modify this tutorial for young people or youth pastors?

[@preciousbees5721]

Shout out to Joshua Harris

[@angelaspangler497]

I believe this video is mislabeled even though it has some good points. It does not actually address the difference between courtship and dating as the label would lead you to believe. It keeps everything vague and interchangeable. Courtship is very different than dating.

[@Iziieerose-]

Love this channel!! Keep it up!!

[@just_jimmyyt5819]

Pray for my mind

[@dimiodufote4010]

Successfully??? Not really too much vague terms

[@JerryLiuYT]

Cool. I will totally make a response video to one of your videos! Found you guys today.

[@JustinKhoe]

awesome! looking forward to seeing it!

[@msCapri7777]

Can you explain the spark! Your suppose to feel with someone

[@mariadelagarza0928]

Beautiful couple.. God bless you both!!! Great video💛💛💛& thank you for the advice!!

[@JustineMfulama]

Their advice is always so helpful!

[@missxmarvel]

I’m considering courtship.

[@Hsk736h]

YAHUSHA and YAHUAH bless your relationship

[@karlafabon8350]

Courtship ❤️

[@morgannwilliams967]

I don’t date, I court as a single woman of God. The only one to DATE is our spouse.

[@juliusdion8229]

such a good advice.. thanks!

[@claracampe5850]

Dating is not evil in the bible they use stone people becsae they were not marry the was evil

[@gradypham2346]

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[@jessiska2468]

Exactly. This is a beautiful advice

[@swpministry]

Totally agree! Great points!

[@mosesmelo5535]

God bless you both!!!!!!!!!!

[@kevinstanton7338]

May I court your daughter? Friends being allowed to emotionally beat on you two.

[@Streetlocksmith]

Wow please don’t make more of these

[@bernsabis7801]

this is awesome

[@SIRENTHEROCKER]

Agree

[@andromedamaxima1543]

gee… he talks non stop… she rolled her eyes in the beginning 😅

[@YoursTrulyChris]

Let's talk about the first shall be last comment

[@vicepresidentmikepence889]

Yours Truly, Chris I beat you by one minute

[@YoursTrulyChris]

Lord Beasley next time.

[@emilymatthea4298]

Yours Truly, Chris how do you come up with different ways to say the first shall be last every single time? It’s a real skill!

[@YoursTrulyChris]

Emily Lane KZbin will now spam the original "first shall be last" comment. Because of this I've had to get creative. It's honestly fun though and keeps you on your toes.

[@globalblakafrakanempowerme4050]

Christian identity?? What is the etymology of Christ?? What is the esoteric meaning of Krist from Krista? I thought christian corporate structures enslaved the progenitor class of Orisas, Your kemetic-Yoruba people.

[@joosuapartanen6525]

Interracial couples have an increased risk of divorce almost as high as couples who have (one or both) panic disorders. Around 30% compared to non-interracial couples.

[@Ryan-gz6ym]

Umm, based?!

[@vicepresidentmikepence889]

First comment

[@keirancollier8836]

I actually feel sorry for some of you. I'm sure that some people when they actually get round to having sex with someone they will be so scared to go through with it because you're told it's a sin to fuck before marriage. I have a few friends who were raised in really religious households and their relationships with sex are awful, they're racked with guilt because of being told they're evil and full of sin just for having natural sexual desires!! Sex is not dirty and there is definitely no reason why you should have to wait to be married before you have it. Even when God fearing people finally get married they must have awful sex lives, sex is for pleasure also not just creating life. Sorry I just needed to put that out there

[@whitemakesright2177]

You're dead wrong.

[@peterriverajr6899]

All of this is unhealthy. You people need therapy

[@claudiobrady1087]

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