Let Them Hurt You

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[@liliya_aseeva]

These things are real. I often think - what even caused me to troll someone? Why I slipped into a very confrontational mindset with someone? But the truth is usually that happens when they somehow provoked me. And I still think that everything is okay! Only on next day I realize I simply didn't like something in someone's behaviour. But when talking to them of course I don't let such thoughts into my mind, because I'm not usually into open conflicts. It makes me passive-agressive and worst of all, unconsciously passive agressive!

[@NoThing-wc3cs]

Wauw, good insight, very applicable in my life. Being honest with myself has been something that’s very hard for me, I haven’t opened up to myself, which is weird when I think about it. But the hurt is too real, god it hurts so much, I have no choice but to heal it or watch myself crumble away which is just miserable.

[@filteryourmindpodcast]

you got this🫂

[@MrWaterbugdesign]

I'm male so for me this is obvious. Males learn very early that being delusional about ourselves can ruin our lives. We have choice but to perform and improve ourselves or we have no money, few relationships and endless trouble. Females have a different path. An 18 year-old woman has the option to create a career or find an older successful man to marry and be taken care of. Females can afford to tell themselves they're all 10's, all better than everyone else and their life is still pretty good because there will be a line of men giving resources to them. It only starts to be a problem later in life for them. Strangely men can afford to be delusional later in their lives as they become more wealthy. Elon Musk for example is starting to think he's a god and lot's of people support him in that. When he was young he would have been ridiculed for that behavior. It has to do with a person's true value. Delusion with low or declining value is dangerous. A people could delude themselves into stay in a declining value path. With a higher or increasing value path some delusion can help a person continue to increase value. Letting people hurt you is a weak position. It's not complex. You don't want to be weak.

[@filteryourmindpodcast]

Very interesting position, I was excited to learn this point of view. That’s true that finding a sugar daddy is one of the ways for a girl to secure her life, although in 21th century don’t forget about sugar mamas and boys who also choose that path. Of course it does not seem cool to do this for a man, but it is still possible. If you want this, you choose it. It is your choice and pressure and stereotypes are just excuses to justify it. As a human being I can do whatever I want, if I don’t want to be judged, I choose one path, if I choose to not care n be happy I choose another path. It is true that lives of men and women are different because of culture, stereotypes, families and friends a person was next to, it definitely influences choices being made but it does not take away the person’s power to make a choice. When talking about hurt, I was not reffering to being okay with being hurt. No, I do think one should prevent being hurt by others. What I was talking about is an action that was already done but a person keeps rejecting it because “if I admit it, I am weak”. There is no weakness in accepting what happened, only strength to face it again and let it go. That’s how healing looks like, making sure that the hurt doesn’t eat you from the inside and is not repeating itself again.

[@flay.a]

New subscriber from this video, both your message and yourself are so beautiful. Thank you very much 💕.

[@filteryourmindpodcast]

thank you🫶🏼

[@alwynjimmy5990]

Should I let my volleyball team hurt me?

[@filteryourmindpodcast]

Yes! No pain to gain buddy

[@Chudspath]

Your video brings to light the crucial role of emotional intelligence in our growth as people. It's truly enlightening, and offers such valuable insights on how we can deal with our emotions effectively. Looking forward to the next video.🫡

[@filteryourmindpodcast]

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