Letting Go.. || Father Knows Something Podcast

[@Joy_Dabih]

For the girl that keeps getting cheated on, I would recommend seeing a therapist and figuring out how she might be attracting/holding on to toxic partners. And I’m not blaming her, but like Jerry and Morgan said, there are usually signs. There are patterns that we overlook. The same thing used to happen to me and until I went to therapy and realized that my low self worth was allowing me to accept A LOT of red flags. I didn’t even recognize the flags because I didn’t realize that when something didn’t feel right to me, it was because it WASN’T and i deserved better. After that therapy session I found myself in a very healthy relationship and I never even knew I could be loved that way. I actually learned to love myself more through how much he loves me and treats me well. Once OP starts to love herself, she’ll be absolutely REPULSED by any reg flags that come her way. They’ll be incredibly easy to spot

[@Violets-and-Roses]

As someone who’s chronic illness popped up freshman year of high school, then senior year everything became severe- feel those feelings. Grieve if you need to. I sure did. I was an angry 17-18yr old. Lots of self hatred and medical gaslighting led to me pushing my body too hard and now have repercussions for it. At some point you’ll realize that feeling angry doesn’t feel good and doesn’t help and you’ll push past it. Best wishes for any fellow spoonies reading this!

[@guadalupeayala6615]

Hello Poppa Jerry! I needed this one today…last week I posted about not getting into my dream school and I had time to “let go” (wink, wink). I got accepted into my second choice college. I’ll be attending San Jose University for my bachelor’s in studio arts🎨 Thank you so much for your advice ♥️ love you guys!!

[@TwoHotTakes]

Congratulations!!! So excited for you. You won't be calling it your second choice much longer ;) you're going to be so much fun.

[@MarisaSoto12]

Congrats on getting into SJSU. It’s an amazing school!

[@guadalupeayala6615]

@@TwoHotTakes Thank you so much!! I love you guys so much!!

[@guadalupeayala6615]

@@MarisaSoto12 Thank you!!! I’m so excited!!😭

[@SCordova19]

For the sister who is the scapegoat…my advise is to move out and then initiate this conversation. If they can’t be respectful during the conversation go low/no contact until they can have the conversation respectfully. Your boundary can be ‘if I’m not spoken to in a respectful manner, I will be leaving this conversation/situation. This is not up for debate.’ Having a conversation with a therapist even with everyone would be great! Definitely go individually at least though!

[@ivylovesrunning]

1st relationship/Breakup: I agree with Justin. Complete communication cut. You need to find yourself without him. At 19, you're still learning who you are. I've been through a situation like this. You'll be happier knowing who you are and able to find someone who will fit well with you.

[@Young.Mad21]

To the 19 y/o who is having conflicting feelings about getting back with her ex, I would agree with what everyone had to say. Trying to hold two ppl together that have conflicting views on big parts of a person’s life, like religion, rarely works out blissfully, in the end. I dated my high school sweetheart for 5.5 years, and it was so extremely hard to finally fully separate. Morgan was right about those rose colored glasses; I truly never realized that I had them on until we separated for good. I broke things off because I started prioritizing myself; this was so hard to do as a people-pleaser😅. It’s so hard to stop communicating and wanting to be around the person that has grown up beside you during that period of life, but in the end, you’ll be stronger and learn more from what occurs once you put your needs and wants first, and stand firmly on what you believe in. After being separated from him for 1 year, I personally feel like I know myself better, I’ve had new experiences that I never would have before, and my ex and I have even conversed since then, and we can both agree that it was the best decision, and we’re both better because of it. Best of luck to you!

[@evaandersen7595]

I feel like the breakup with the first love is the hardest (I'm 30yo). But she needs to cut contact with him completely. One does not move on with the lingering.

[@heathersherr3904]

For the story with the person with type 1 diabetes and hashimotos, I am exactly in your boat. I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at age 12 and hahimotos this year at 22. When I got sick with diabetes, my parents and doctors did not listen to me as I begged for more testing. They thought I had strep throat, but I was vomiting, constantly peeing, and I lost 20 pounds in a month. I will tell you that I have a complicated relationship with doctors, but therapy has really helped in sorting that out. Best of luck to you!!!!

[@ieshameza5140]

I came here to say the same! I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes 3 days before my 21st birthday and Hashimoto’s around 25, I am now 33. Three things I’m going to recommend. 1) Always, always, always advocate for yourself! If you live in the States it feels like you are constantly going to battle whether it be with Dr’s, insurance, etc. 2) Therapy does help! If you don’t vibe with a therapist you can always get another one. 3) Look for community! There so many type 1 diabetes patients (we call ourselves diabuddies) that are struggling and thriving and going through the same stuff you are and will go through. Look for us online, social media and in person. Having a community will definitely help, no one understands T1D likes a fellow T1D! It helps to share your high’s and low’s (literally and figuratively) with someone who also goes through the same struggles and challenges. I hope your journey gets better! ❤

[@CyannEdens]

My parents are different religions (baptist and atheist) and they raised me and my sister with all of the knowledge about not only theirs but multiple different religions and let us find what we were drawn to, for me that was agnostic, and my sister is a christian. I loved that they did that for us, i think it made us much more accepting and open to differences even really young

[@Anemicpanda]

I'm binging on all of your videos! Love from Canada. ❤🇨🇦

[@candiedolives5340]

Time stamps please

[@sydneyjackson8564]

To the girl in the last story missing her ex, I was in the same boat but the feelings were reversed (about the same age too). My bf decided he wanted to go back to religion and I was firm that I did not believe the same. I broke it off because I didn’t want him being with me in hopes I would believe someday. He was sure that he wanted a white who was also Christian. And I didn’t want our kids thinking poorly of me because they would be raised in church and I wouldn’t be there. Since then, I have broken up with people early on because I knew in the long term, our values didn’t match. Core beliefs are usually very important to individual people, and in the long term that is an important part of the relationship. You have to think of the long term and if beliefs are a problem, it’s likely just not a good match of personalities and values.

[@shaylasneed]

IM SO EXCITEDDDDD💓💓💓 i love all of the father knows something & two hot takes podcasts 💓

[@alovesoamazing]

Omg. Jerry’s “advice” to the girl who keeps getting cheated on was painfully out of touch 😵‍💫 A lot of people cheat because they get off on the forbiddenness of it, to just simply be like “I want to be monogamous 😌” will stop almost no cheater from cheating like??

[@husky8204]

Right! Like damn how can someone act so wise and so naive at the same time. Sometimes being optimistic isn't the best option and this was one of those. Cheaters don't give a shit how you actually feel as long as they can get away with being disgusting.

[@jenniferharrington917]

Sometimes y'all miss important details of these stories....

[@sydthesloth3698]

Like what? (Curiously asking because I thought they covered things pretty well)

[@jenniferharrington917]

@@sydthesloth3698 the fact the first one I think is neurodivergent... Did not ask about talking to dad, but about writing to him, probably if at all like me and some others, unable to vocalize certain things... Just one of the things I noticed, but there were a few.

[@TwoHotTakes]

But that's the importance of the community and people like you that don't miss details. You can come comment your advice and thoughts. Teamwork makes the dreamwork ya know

[@alysseileen6071]

For me a type means energy, if I feel your energy and personality and it’s comfy then we’re good if not then can’t do it haha 😊

[@tiffmitch702]

Watched all episodes but luckily i have honey hearts too watch

[@Swedishpanter38]

Lets gooo! New pod

[@caseyhaley2684]

She needs to see the endocrinologist every 3-6 month's to check hwr A1C its a test that shows your average blood glucose range over a few months and its important to keep it as low as you can to avoid diabetic complications as you get older

[@crazyinnocentturtle]

For the last story I think the girl can attempt to explain that while she did blame her trauma on religion that she will respect his beliefs , after that it would be up to him to agree that he wouldn't hold it against her if she decided not to follow a religion

[@angelatorres1682]

For the last story’s girl, I had a partner at 19 and when we broke up it felt like I was going to die of a heart break, it’s normal to feel attached but is not healthy for you to hold on to a person. You are so young, go and date other people, you might now shitty people but also nice people, it is too son to decide he is your person. Let him go, live your life, try new things and new people. If he is really your person eventually you guy will be able to find the path back together to each other when you are both mature.

[@miah1518]

Have never been this early to anything! 👋hey fam.

[@charlottelewis4936]

Just so we are abundantly clear. a PA is never ever a specialist. You have a right to see a doctor, and you should ask for one.

[@melinda3413]

One of my nieces is the “golden child” in my husbands family- I think no one ever noticed her constantly rolling her eyes, every time my FIL, and his wife would brag in front of her- turns out she can’t stand being that to them! The standards are so high, and she is constantly judged! Maybe that “golden son” actually hates it, and sister is constantly pushed to the edge, so she can’t even see it!? It’s crazy to be under that pressure! I wonder how much he has to pretend to be perfect around the parents- since they treat you like crap, he just goes along? Sucks…

[@carmen.a.mendiola]

Story 4: I'm surprised Morgan didn't suggest therapy. I know it's not easy to recognize the signs, but therapy helps you set clear boundaries. A person can be sh*tty and do whatever to you, as soon as you find out, you can just leave. If another person says "I just want friends w/benefits", you can say "no thanks, not what I'm looking for" and leave. All those little moves that don't even seem like a decision, can change the picture. And well, if you believe in that, people sure of themselves can "attract" other likeminded people. In my opinion at least.

[@elis-kristeltahtvali3829]

She suggested therapy actually in story 4, maybe you missed that part

[@ccmmenter]

i disagree with the saying people with different religious/ political/ cultural or any other values can't be in a relationship, because "they will constantly fight". but what if they can just respect each other's ways of thinking? i have numerous examples in my life of this, it's definitely not something to always break up on. yes, in this case - i notice the guy isn't really mature and can't accept his girlfriend's believes, but this shouldn't be generalized.

[@sarahmeier10]

I agree with this. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 1/2 years and are very happy. I have Christian beliefs and he has none. We respect each others beliefs and do not let them separate us. We’ve also never fought about it. So yes. It is def possible. But these kids are def too young and are unsure of what they want or how to go about it in a mature way.

[@caseyhaley2684]

Wow my daughter is a type 1 diabetic and it came quickly within a month she was 9,i had no idea it could develope slowly ive researched and its called LADA she needa to see an endocrinolgist there are so many devices to assist like CGM which is a continous glucose monitoring system usually worn on the back of your arm that monitors blood sugars and alerts you to high and low blood sugar.There is also an insulin pump which stored insulin and acts like a pancreas.A low carbohydrate diet can help keep sugar levels stable in adults there is no hard and fast rule its going to be trial and error but you will get there and feel better

[@MrAlwaysOnTen]

49:25 I cringe at this everytime she brings up her almost fumbling the bag on her only good relationship🤦🏽‍♂️

[@ChronicallyMichelle1995]

32:31 I’ve been very sick since birth I’m 29 now. I could never gain weight and I was struggling to eat at 14, my dietician decided I had an ED. When I shed out of children’s hospital at 18 and got a new GI doctor and I have gastroparesis which means my stomach is paralyzed, I’m feeding tube reliant thag goes into my small intestine and I’m 95Ib (5ft) we never thought I’d reach this weight. I hate that dietician but my mom and grandma (she was my second parent) never believed I had a ED. Now I’m in Canada I can’t imagine having to pay for doctors. I ba e 16 diagnosed chronic illnesses/disabilies. 4 being in my lungs

[@michaelsullivan6245]

I'm trying to look up the sick nose but I think I'm spelling it wrong. Can you help me Morgan.

[@sambee6086]

Can someone post the time stamps

[@sh3lbynicole]

Jerry this episode is angering me. 🙃

[@paulamarshall3810]

Why?

[@jerrysiegel3354]

Please share with me as sometime I do miss the mark.. remember I’m not Ai. I did have a day! Before we sat down to record. .. So I am sorry if I angered you, remember we can open a dialog.. Dad

[@sh3lbynicole]

@@jerrysiegel3354 I get you’re doing best and not trying to say you did anything wrong. We are all different and perceive things differently. Sometimes I feel like you toe the line of toxic positivity. Between the religious trauma and the cheating story it felt very dismissive of what the writers were trying to say. To me it seemed like you were blaming the girl for not finding better men and not the men for cheating in the first place. A liar and cheater is not going to tell you they want to cheat on you. The religious trauma I’m glad Morgan spoke up and said that religious differences are non starter. Morals absolutely come into effect because some religions and extremists of religions don’t see women as people and demonize lgbtq+. I couldn’t overlook someone’s religion if that’s instilled in their beliefs to hate and condemn. Some of the takes were just not what I expected and that’s fine.

[@jj2071]

Why does Morgan keep bringing up her ex’s? Have some class and respect for yourself and your fiancé. Hope you know if feels like a dagger in your heart when someone you love talk about an ex. Good or bad

[@TwoHotTakes]

because my experience lends itself to the advice I give. Justin is not phased by this. I think he has a lot more confidence in our relationship and love than that. But if that's a boundary for you thats cool!

[@sarahmoore7886]

I think it's healthy to talk openly about past experiences, so long as your partner doesn't express that it hurts them.. it's fine in my eyes. You get to know what your partner has been through, how they dealt with it, and what their expectations are, it's also possible to bond over similar experiences, open up and connect. My husband and I discussed our exes, it's not even about the ex really, it's about getting to know each other and yeah, maybe it was with someone else but hey, we all have a past and shouldn't feel like we have to shut off from it. If my partner expressed they weren't OK with it, I wouldn't discuss it.

[@rosemarieparfitt4849]

First ❤

[@taystowe9498]

Okay?

[@rosemarieparfitt4849]

@taystowe9498 first time I was that early, got excited 😄