LGBT Adoption: Redefining Family

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i’ve always wanted to adopt one day, but i really no idea where I would start that process. on top of that, some LGBTQ+ people face unique challenges when trying to go through the adoption process - which fascinates and frustrates me, because at the end of the day, hopefully the goal should be to give kids the best home with the most loving parents, possible. i had the best time meeting both families, to hear their adoption stories and witness the power of lgbtq+ adoption. enjoy! please like, share and subscribe :)
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[@CodyWhitlock]

My parents are lesbians and I’m adopted so this literally made me cry! I’m so happy he did this 😱😱

[@rafaella9700]

I love your videos

[@ellenl.r.p.obrien4661]

💜💜

[@elsakristina2689]

*sigh* I'm not gay or anything but my favourite couple is a gay couple and my family is conservative and I really wish I could be adopted even though I'm an adult

[@nuuraabdulkadir2780]

Cody Whitlock did you have grandparents and aunts and uncle

[@dragonflymoon8020]

elsa1942 Awe. We’ll adopt you! Lol. We appreciate allies and non-judgmental people. I think deep down we all look for that.

[@mezed322]

i haven’t grown up in a family where queer topics were discussed a lot, but i know my family and my chosen family love me for who i am. 🏳️‍🌈

[@StephaniAnson]

The fact that someone would rather have a child stay in an abusive system rather than going into a loving family just because they are LGBT+ breaks my heart

[@avanevarez4520]

@Alec Stanton I know I'm late, but what about children from single parent families? Should they also not be allowed to have children?

[@avanevarez4520]

@Alec Stanton I'm so sorry this really isn't meant to be rude but children raised by a single, straight parent only by have one gender raising them and mosdt of them turn out fine, so my question is how is that different from a homosexual couple raising a kid? Again not meant to be rude just putting it out there

[@Kim-sn6vs]

Alec Stanton I don’t understand you at all...what you said truthfully doesn’t make any damn sense but ok go off 🤷‍♂️ as someone who’s been through that awful system I can tell you that ur dead fuckin wrong and that I’d MUCH rather have been adopted by 2 gay guys over had anything to do with that.

[@pokemonjourneyzippy]

I've literally had heated arguments with people about this before, ex friends included. It's fucking ridiculous

[@kir7611]

That argument makes no sense at all

[@TylerOakley]

thanks so much for watching this episode of chosen family!! these families warmed my heart & i hope you enjoyed hearing their stories as much as i did :)

[@HollyHodges]

Tyler Oakley I absolutely loved it!! :) Keep it up Tyler! 💓

[@annieb3359]

Tyler Oakley ❤️

[@JeffCfreeradiorevolution]

You are a VERY bad person Tyler... made the deal... I hope you pay dearly...

[@vickiehitch6436]

I am listening to your series and I find them inspiring. I live in a small town in B.C. and I know of lesbians that that were couples and have children and run businesses in town and they r accepted. one couple runs 3 licenced daycares plus raises 3 children. People r people no matter gay or lesbian, black or white. by the way, learned of you by watching Superfruit and u being a guest. learned of Superfruit by listening to Pentatonix.

[@SomethingAboutShannon]

The end of this video is so important. The fact that Tyler was saying it is on US to elect government officials who will help LGBTQ+ people thrive in society is so important. Just another reason that I love Tyler Oakley.

[@Chaemiller]

As an adoption social worker the amount of ignorant and bigoted questions I have had to field over the years about the many adoptions I have done for same sex couples is ridiculous and infuriating.

[@sandygonsalves4646]

Chae Miller, I bet it's all worth it once the kid ends up in a loving home though. Keep it up Chae, im sure you do great work.

[@sophiamartin6007]

Being fostered and then adopted myself I can honestly say that children just want a loving home. It dosen't matter if your family looks different then what "normal" families look like, every kid deserves to be in a safe and loving environment. This series is so important, so thank you Tyler for giving more exposure to the diverse families out there. You're gonna be a great dad!

[@mariellamolina1683]

The fact that all this discrimination is happening is heartbreaking. Everyone is human everyone can love. And the fact that people are denying someone from caring and loving a child who needs that love and affection is unfathomable.

[@TylerOakley]

this is exactly why i wanted to cover this topic!!

[@sophiaduncan1596]

It's really sad to see discrimination against same sex couples when they're trying to give an innocent child a better chance at their childhood. It's more than a lot of people do, and what gives anyone the right to say you're not "worthy" of being a parent? This video was amazing, and I hope it brings some awareness to this issue!

[@victoriab98]

Derek Cliff Crane no it's actually not

[@lounajushpe4906]

Derek Cliff Crane a lot of straight parents aren't adequate to have kids but still do and they end up in orphanages sometimes. Homosexual couples are like the heroes to orphans when they can only adopt. I think they should be allowed and even encouraged to adopt all over the world

[@sandygonsalves4646]

Its amazing what faith based organizations THINK god wants. I'd rather believe in a god who would want a safe and loving home for all children regardless on who's willing to provide it. but idk

[@ShadowOfRahl]

Derek Cliff Crane - Your inferior ilk fears science, so please keep your tongue still, child. Science was, is, and always will be against you.

[@sandygonsalves4646]

Derek, i think you're saying that on purpose.

[@loobeeloou]

There is absolutely no justification for depriving a child of a loving family based on the fact that their adoptive parents are not heterosexual. Your sexuality/gender does not affect you ability to love and raise a child. It astounds me how people still think this way in 2018. I’m thankful that the rules surrounding this area are slowly changing, as is evident by these beautiful families you have showcased. Hopefully one day it will not be an issue at all. Very proud of you, Tyler. The Chosen Family series has been eye opening for me. I’m very much looking forward to seeing you be a dad one day Xx

[@iris6975]

Tyler, you are going to be an amazing Dad someday

[@labonnemedia]

Hi Tyler -- I am single gay man and foster parent working to adopt a teenager from foster care. Its the most exciting, terrifying, challenging, and reward thing I think I'll ever do. I am really happy that you are reaching people about this cause. It means so much to me and I just wanted to thank you for using your platform for something so amazing!!!

[@TylerOakley]

this makes my heart so happy!! congrats and thanks for sharing YOUR story!!

[@samriwelkeish7981]

Andrew LaBonne Aw.

[@curlymol123]

I absolutely love the chosen family series and this episode especially really hit me right in the feels. Me and my wife just got the news that there is a wonderful little boy waiting for us in Korea and in just a few weeks we will be flying out to bring him home and we can't wait for the moment when we finally get to hold him in our arms and know that he is ours.

[@txrap01x]

That’s such a beautiful story, all the best for the future for you and your family 💜💜

[@sandygonsalves4646]

congratz ellen. i wish your family happiness

[@jeztramol]

Congratulations Ellen - and to your wife also! Another lucky baby who will grow up in a secure and loving home; who could ask for more than that? Enjoy every moment, my daughter is 14 now, and those moments when they’re little are so precious - and so much more fleeting than we realise when we’re in the midst of diapers and teething! Much love to you and your family xx

[@nuuraabdulkadir2780]

Ellen Marie did your parents know you lesbian

[@morganchampagne7153]

Personally, I’ve always wanted to adopt, whether I marry a man or a woman, and I’ve always wanted to adopt older kids to give them a chance in the system again. Stories of adoption are so inspiring and amazing and hearing these ones made me really happy. I’m loving this video series. Keep making more!💕

[@azyawebster5736]

Morgan Winchester DUDE I KNOW YOU!

[@morganchampagne7153]

Azya Webster stop stalking me Jk hello friend

[@shelbsey]

I am an adoption worker and was able to match one of my couples (two gay males) with a birth mother and their baby boy is two months old now! They are the best dads and it makes me so happy.

[@asdfghjkl-gd3uy]

@Franco Cavalli you should be illegal

[@MyspaceEmo]

@Kitalia the kitsune What's ironic is that the fashion in which the LGBT community operates can be likened to that of the morally contradictory religious right that you supposedly condemn. The hypocrisy of it all.

[@LindseyRH]

This series makes me so emotional

[@Martinplayssocfer12355CHI]

Tyler, this is so important. You don’t know how much this means to so many people. Personally, I grew up being afraid to be myself because I wanted a family. And I didn’t even realize that being gay and having a family was an option that was available to me. But seeing real, beautiful, thriving families raised by queer parents gives me hope and so much joy. Thank you for this.

[@c.w.r.794]

I guessed it right! Adoption is what I plan to do

[@Kim-sn6vs]

judaspreistvlct literally what r u talking about bruh

[@LaloMacKenzie]

Thank you so much Tyler for putting in all this work for our community. This is interesting, educational, and powerful work. This series and your impact is more meaningful than I think the whole of us have grasped until now! 💖🙏🏽

[@lilyfraney4152]

“Mama I wanna stay with my family.” Ohhhh my god, he broke my heart! This is so important, and honestly just precious 💕🏳️‍🌈❗️

[@morazullr4760]

My hearts lights up whenever I️ see people with such a pure heart. Love is love and family is family.

[@kurtsiecolferites2160]

I love this series so much, Tyler. This episode moved me. Gay couples have just as much a right to raise children as straight couples. As long as the children have loving parents, that’s what matters.

[@scarletm69]

Exactly ! It is unfortunate that the same sex couples are discriminated against when they adopt a child .

[@ipsaveros2709]

Hey Kurt. How do they have just as much a right? Just because they want one? Why cant same sex relationships produce offspring? I'm confused. Thanks

[@mcgreger8091]

Ipsa Veros Because they’re a human who should have equality with other humans??? Why do you even need a reason?

[@lulu5803]

Ipsa Veros So infertile couples or single people shouldn't adopt either? They can't reproduce biologically either. I know one of the couples featured and they are some of the best parents a kid could ask for.

[@shannonmitchell7634]

You're going to make an amazing dad one day if you decide to be, and that child/children is going to have the best dads

[@natashazani8739]

I really love what you've been doing with your videos. ❤ You use your platforms to make our world a better place for all of us, helping us understand so many things. 😘💕

[@sarahentingh7380]

Tyler, you will make an AMAZING father ❤️

[@morganblack5848]

Just from watching this video, I can see just how amazing of a dad you're gonna be some day. 😍💜💜

[@ArefinSiddiquee]

this series is one of the best internet series there are

[@k.j.m.b2243]

Arefin Siddiki Agreed! I love this series

[@l.1934]

This video no just informed me but it also made me so happy because like...happy families. What else do u need to say lol

[@emmadale1314]

Tyler would be such a good dad

[@Emma-pp4jy]

Ibby M The *literal* whole theme of this episode is adoption.

[@femmeroo]

Emma The amount of sass in your response oml😂😂

[@femmeroo]

M H I have literally never read something so hateful in my life. Just go away.

[@femmeroo]

M H I’m a virgin and I’m not gay.

[@femmeroo]

M H And it’s not disgusting. These are actual, living people you’re talking about.

[@coccinelle5512]

This has to be my favorite chosen family episode! As someone who is lgbt and wants to adopt this hits close to home

[@skyicee4801]

I’m crying because this video made me so happy.

[@anibrooke222]

My favourite episode so far!! Tyler, you’re going to be an AMAZING dad!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@savithaar2866]

These kids are the cutest! Season 2 has already touched upon so many important topics, can't wait for the rest of it!

[@tinasae2668]

The way you were playing with Nate was so cute !!! You'll be an amazing dad some day and I can't wait to see that. 💕 this episode and the whole chosen family series are so precious. Thank you so much. I love you so much !!!!💖

[@ryleebuskey4795]

I think this might be my favorite episode. Seeing these families get to be so happy made my day💓

[@lucindajeansonne2032]

Rylee Buskey same

[@sydneyboyle8435]

Oh my God! Tyler you'd be such a good dad!!!!! ❤❤

[@rosechatqueen]

OMG Tyler you just made my heart beat then melt with your moment with little Nate 😍😍😍😍😍💖💖💖💖💖 So adorable I'm LITERALLY in tears

[@dandy6754]

this may be the cutest episode yet

[@KaraJuku]

This brought a lot of different emotions to me. To actually believe I can have a happy family one day. I was always curious about this, thank you Tyler for doing so much for the community.

[@reecehopke4167]

This hits so close to home!!! My cousins are aadopted by two moms and I love how you did this episode! I love this Tyler, thanks!! ❤❤❤

[@cjchalmers3133]

As a trans guy who wants children in the future. This has really helped me! I’ve always struggled with the fact that I won’t be able to have my own biological children, but this, this really hit me in the heart... knowing that it can all be okay in the future makes me smile! 🙃💯

[@Breerox108]

I can't wait to be a mom with my five adopted children :)

[@mariahrichardson1745]

Sabrina Spencer Me too!!

[@maxlambert55]

This is really making me think about my future with my girlfriend ❤

[@HollyHodges]

*TYLER THIS IS ADORABLE*

[@claudioferro8801]

This is so inspirational, all that matters in a family is love ❤️, nothing else.

[@claudioferro8801]

Why so judgmental? First, AIDS does not discriminate straight or gay people. Second, there are already ways, including medicines preventing the transmission of HIV. So, yes, the most important thing in a family is love and sharing. I hope you understand that the type of comments you made only hurt and destroy people for no reason, not giving them solutions, love, freedom, and hope.

[@aralynnrose8924]

Tyler is so cute with kids!!!!

[@WhattheBeck]

I love this series. I cry a bit every episode...

[@calmccluskey4655]

you're going to be an amazing father!!

[@HannahG-nk2mf]

You'd be an amazing father Tyler, and I can't wait for you to have your own family. Thanks for bringing attention for these important issues related to our community

[@aubreyanthony]

Your videos are so inspirational! Love you!

[@jonnysetzler5859]

I’m gonna cry these families are so cute ahhh I can’t wait to adopt someday with my husband 💕💕💕

[@zackisback8047]

I hope you are able to adopt without any discrimination when you decide it's time and you will be the best dad ever.

[@bea3440]

Yes!!! Tyler with kids! What more can I ask for? Loving the series so far, keep up the great work.

[@rebeccarodgers4149]

Love this video idea. 👨‍👨‍👧👩‍👩‍👧 Update: Tyler liked my comment and I’m freaking out more than I should.

[@zoemurray6815]

You inspire me so much tyler! This video is just another piece of evidence to prove that you will be a SPECTACULAR father!❤️ this has to be the best episode so far but I will probably say the same thing about the next one!! I love you tyler , and you continue to bring me joy each and every day ☺️😘

[@elizas5068]

I love these videos. I feel like the projects you’ve been doing recently seem so fulfilling and are really important.

[@Jana-qm7og]

This hit hard. My family didn't cope well with my coming out. I don't feel at home with them anymore and that is a feeling I want no one else to feel. I've wanted a family from a young age and that didn't change as I realised I'm a lesbian. I can't wait to marry and adopt a child with my future wife. I want to give a child the loving and supporting family they deserve and that I don't have anymore.

[@binghamguevara6814]

You’re a woman. Have a child the natural way -not the unnatural, state-sanctioned abomination way.

[@vanessalegena13]

this video opened my eyes to the possibilities i have with a future involving a possible girlfriend for me and that brings me so much joy

[@unnamedcryptid2827]

This series is amazing and educational and beautiful and I LOVE IT SO MUCH

[@ruthcousins3110]

This means a lot for me to see. One of the reasons i knew i was a lesbian is because i could never picture myself having such a deep relationship with a man it was always another woman who I imagined coming home to, loving and growing old with. Seeing lesbian couples inspires me to know that i can have that love to and any life I want. If I ever have kids my first choice is adoption because love makes a family ❤🏳️‍🌈

[@gabriellepuckett6437]

By far my favorite so far this season

[@amy-ge9sv]

I've been waiting for this

[@franciscomartins2656]

Thank you for this! The world needs to hear the message of tollerance and acceptance 🌈👏

[@franciscomartins2656]

M H Doesn't*

[@AnnaD123]

getting emotional within less than two minutes into a video has become a weekly thing now

[@478mpatrick]

AHHH THOSE ARE MY NEIGHBORS!!!!!!! YAY YAY YAY!!!!

[@rachaelmiles4712]

You’re going to be an amazing Dad one day

[@sandygonsalves4646]

One of my favorite episodes yet. this and lgbt homelessness

[@nieknee]

You really know how to make me cry😭 I love u so much

[@angiemorales6761]

What an incredible episode! Thank you so much for telling these stories 🌈

[@cloudyngray571]

you’re such an inspiration, thank you so much for doing this series! much love💚

[@HannahMairead]

This is such an amazing video, definitely my favourite so far! Thank you for creating content that is informative and inspirational! ❤️

[@megankidd4671]

I will use this series to educate my family who need it.

[@megankidd4671]

M H elaborate please

[@callmemelly3482]

Ainsley Kidd Same

[@erenluin8122]

Ainsley Kidd ignore the idiot.

[@_asmrafterglow]

I LOVE KIDS SO MUCH AGH

[@mollymcardell]

DM slider me too! I’m a pre-k teacher!

[@lounajushpe4906]

DM slider Me too!! My ovaries are exploding from watching this video haha

[@nieknee]

Ipsa Veros go home with your homophobic self because not one person wants you here. "Oh no!1!11! A child gets love from people that are the same gender1!" If it's against your religion, just know the Bible also says not to cut your hair, not to eat shellfish, not to wear jeans and so much more. Funny how you're picking and choosing which ones you listen to. You tried though sweaty, You really tried. I'm straight, but I support the LGBT community. Surprisingly, that's a thing. You should try it

[@nessa3651]

Oh gosh,this was my favorite episode so far ,and honestly Tyler I think you would be the best dad ever!!💓💓

[@sarahjessop7459]

I've never understood why people think lgbt+ people shouldn't adopt. As a foster kid I would LOVE to be adopted by a lgbt couple! Nobody asks what us kids think though. I love you Tyler and appreciate everything you do for the lgbt community ❤

[@brynnelamb7281]

Amazing! Thanks Tyler for being a light in these dark times!

[@dawn3989]

growing up looks scary right now but this video made me so happy to find a wife and adopt a bunch of kids one day

[@liamogorman3039]

Nate is soooooo cute!!!!❤️❤️❤️ Your voice is so important Tyler and I love it

[@IsaiahLawrence]

As the son of two lesbian women I want to thank you for making this video. Growing up having two moms was such a normal thing to me though I saw absolutely no other representation of LGBTQ+ parents besides my own. There are no two people I love and respect more than my moms, who have been there for me at every stage of my life. Thank you for putting this video out there and allowing others to see that what matters when it comes to parenting has nothing to do with orientation or identity, it has to do with love.

[@Glickstick]

Tyler I'm really glad you're making this series. keep up the good work!

[@bookworm1691]

This is so beautiful! I love this series!

[@jacehutchison6592]

I absolutely loved this video You'd make a great dad tyler❤💛💚💙💜

[@itsalybwithanadditionofcp8286]

This is my favorite video so far ❤️.

[@TheVitzy]

saaaaaaame :)

[@kaleighblatz1581]

Thank you for being an amazing inspiration. What you’re doing is amazing. I love you keep up the good work!❤️

[@mckennasuorsa6455]

I want to adopt because there are so many children without homes and loving families

[@kevinandersen8090]

Love the serie, you are really inspiring !

[@rhia8593]

You are amazing Tyler. You did a really nice thing.

[@OLDS98]

That video was great, but that is a lot of work! You can see the work you put into your video. I must say it was impressive to hear the stories. It was in fact touching. Thank you for sharing.

[@reganperlman9926]

My friend is lesbian and is married and adopted two girls. They call one mom and the other momma. One time one of the girls had to say that they were best friends!I thank you for doing this Tyler!

[@maxslook5177]

You are so inspiring Tyler. I’m so proud of everything you have achieved and are still achieving within the LGBTQ+ community 💗

[@avamaldonado9112]

Tyler is so adorable with kids!! Aw he the best.

[@devore0394]

This is such a great episode! Thanks for everything you do Tyler!!!

[@bidilili264]

Watching these videos makes me so proud! Of the community, the individuals, and you Tyler for shining a light we all need to see.

[@FaroeIslandsRocks]

thank you SO much for this entire series. i love you so much & i can’t wait for the rest of the series 💗

[@FaroeIslandsRocks]

also you were so sweet with nate i’m sobbing please be a dad

[@yannickeike5355]

I appreciate so much that you are making the content that tv and radio and so many other platforms are lacking. You’re bringing light to so much wonder and I could never tell you how much that means to me, let alone to everyone else who watches your videos. Thank you for making a second season of chosen family xx

[@vilma3642]

I’ve always wanted to adopt so this video was really important and inspiring for me

[@em-bt9fz]

this is so so sweet and lovely!! im loving this series SO much, love u Xx

[@alyssasoutherland7033]

I’m already crying over this and I’m only a minute in I love you Tyler thank you for doing this series i know it means so much to me and other people❤️

[@Craig_Sings]

I love these videos every year Tyler! They are so powerful and so important. I’m so grateful for your presence in our lives and the voice you give to our community. Keep it up!

[@landynistrash9378]

This warms my heart!!!