Why I DON'T have a Wedding Ring + Why I DIDN'T have a Wedding

[@megd1435]

I didn't have a wedding . And I don't regret it . I have my husband I'm happy.... I wasn't paying all that money for people to watch us kiss.

[@jessicam.149]

meg Gabrielle I didn't have a wedding either! I knew I couldn't afford the wedding that I wanted so I didn't want one at all Lololol. That's just how I am. I am also introverted and have a hard time thinking about getting all of that attention lol. So my husband and I went to the courthouse. I have thought about maybe doing a big reception with a wedding cake and all at our 10 year anniversary. Just no wedding lol

[@SaloneDutchess]

Jessica M. Thats also the way i think lol if things like this dont go my way i dont want it lol...

[@temiadesina]

exactly I just wanted my husband. y'all can have the rest hahaha

[@temiadesina]

lol I def feel you Jessica the courthouse was where it was at lol

[@Kells7928]

😂 this comment made me chuckle. So true tho!

[@temiadesina]

Just to be clear. I am NOT telling others not to have a wedding or wear a wedding ring. Nor am I judging/bashing anyone that does it. I am just giving my personal views on why I decided not to pursue either

[@iamhermonica6331]

A lot of people want to get married instead of be married.

[@loulousworld92]

As a Nigerian you are one of a kind, our culture is Obsessed, I repeat !!! Obsessed with marriage lol but I like that you are different and you stick to your decision.

[@temiadesina]

exactly Motunrayo and Loulouella I feel like its even more pressure being Nigerian but I aint got time lol

[@lillianushurhe9124]

yes all my family is like when is the wedding they actin like i aint get married at the court house lol

[@ghanwin]

This is so true ! I don't even want to get married..

[@tesskamuanga8789]

I think it's all Africans, I'm Congolese and we're also OBSESSED with weddings and marriage.

[@deborahakhimie3144]

I agree but I married my hubby without family. Just the two of us.

[@beckysilky2868]

Oh my...My whole attention has always been on your hair that I barely noticed you don't wear a wedding ring. I believe in people doing what works for them than following trends or doing what anyone does. I do love your simplicity really ❤❤

[@temiadesina]

thanks so much.ur always so supportive

[@beckysilky2868]

❤❤

[@annettemint]

I got married in April. My husband is originally from Ethiopia and I'm from a big Southern family. I immediately knew that I didn't want to have a big wedding. We got married at a small intimate chapel with just my parents and a close friend. Now a wedding ring is a different story..haha I have several rings. (don't ask) Now a lot of people tried to invite themselves and few were upset...but we did what was best for us. At the end of the day I was looking for a marriage, not a wedding. Great video!!

[@miss.prissss]

annettemint we’re about to do the same thing and my mom is not having it, but oh well... we just wanna get married already and do not have the money for all the extra stuff

[@mwatts-riley2688]

Perfect. Simply perfect. M, il.

[@ashafuller6798]

Wedding rings don't prove love nor marriage. The proof is in the people and the love and loyalty they have for one another. Me and my husband got married intimately just me him and our son. No ring..

[@Windgoddess78]

I'm also on the extreme end of the introverted side. I go on vacation by myself and had no problem staying at the hotel. i only went out to get food lol! And I really don't want a huge wedding, i would elope if I could. And yes I am not about that wedding debt life. I am here for this video, thank you for this!

[@temiadesina]

thanks so much for watching. lol when my husband leaves me home by myself when he travels when I tell you I be starving because I refuse to leave the house girl when I pick him up the first thing he has to do is take me to get something to eat before I pass out lol

[@Windgoddess78]

NaturallyTemi Bahahaha I feel you! That's why next time i gotta do the all-inclusive joint so i can never leave 😂😂

[@cdmccaffity]

+NaturallyTemi yessssss! I totally get it. When I tell you I will starve. I will starve. 😂😂 It feels good to know there are other people that understand.

[@eybaps9177]

I totally agree. I feel like America put all the pressure on for weddings and rings. My grandparents didn't have rings and they were married for 64 years. It's about uniting not all that extra stuff.

[@Hannah-sy6pw]

E Bap It goes back to Rome

[@monyc1004]

My husband is Nigerian and I'm Jamaican. When I heard of the traditional Nigerian wedding I was like oh hell nah lol. I'm to much of an introvert for that. So we went to the court house and had our reception at IHOP with our two whiteness. We have been married for 6 years and together for 13. To this day his parents still say we HAVE TO have a wedding lol. I'm not about spending that money either. I can totally relate to you on so many levels. I thought I was the only one who shared the same thoughts as u lol.

[@temiadesina]

lol ur def not alone. Girl our parents wanted us to at least do a traditional I'm like NO. Im glad your husband was supportive of the decision cuz I know how these mother in laws can be lol

[@mommyjudith1358]

@ NaturallyTemi u didnt have a white wedding nor a ring for that one i understand. But also not a traditional wedding so how did u guys married ? i'm trying to figure it out how did your wedding date go ? was any pastor involved ? plsss i really want to know :)

[@Deafmomof1]

I don't blame you girl!!!

[@preyekwalmi3251]

Did he pay your bride price?

[@mirandaokon]

@@mommyjudith1358 🗣She probably went to the court house with two witnesses. Forward 5 years and now going through a divorce🧨 Hmmmm

[@nythebest1]

Anyone can have a wedding, but not everyone can have a marriage. I also plan on not having a wedding. Or if I do, it will be really small. I'm Ghanaian, so I might be burned for this at the stake, but fuck it lol.

[@temiadesina]

lol hahaha very well said

[@EvelynKlompmaker]

nana adjoa am a Ghanaian too. and I didn't had a wedding only court married and the small traditional thing. people talked about it but I am happily married with perfect husband and beautiful 4 kids😊

[@lillianushurhe9124]

nana adjoa. chai all the aunties go die ooo lol. but do whats best. for you. I haven't had a big wedding yet only court wedding

[@Brwniee95]

lol I'm from Ghana too & im thinking the same I want something small, intimate or not at all 😅 can't stand the attention

[@beatbynatasha4488]

nana adjoa fuck it Mann u just do you !! Weddings are overrated 😭

[@treegreen7206]

I love your uniqueness & individuality. I'm a firm believer in not wasting money. I told my hubby not to bring me flowers because I can enjoy those in my yard.

[@temiadesina]

lmboooooo hahaha yeah my husband use to hate that he bought me flowers and the next day it'll die he was like dag can you at least put it in some water and act like you care

[@ebengah13]

NaturallyTemi tr

[@itz_tocalana]

Lol i always said flowers is waste of money ...2 to 5 days and they go to the garbage...no ring for me i do like vacation so my preference is the honeymoon, no body will eat and drink my money 😁😁😁😁

[@maggiekabongo843]

When I saw the title of this video I was omg Temi you don't want a wedding or a wedding ring! Then I watched the video and it opened my eyes that people spending a lot of money on 1 single day... then I remember when Kim kardashian had that expensive wedding and was only married for 72hours....my parents never had a wedding and I never understood whyyy but you help me understand that it's best to have a secure marriage then have a successful wedding.

[@Deafmomof1]

because many people get divorce because of financial issues since they spend money for their wedding.. smh. that's why i never want to have a big wedding and ring.. no thank you.

[@ladybeans153]

Weddings start so many issues I know. Finances being one

[@renecialbrewton9859]

I don't wear a wedding ring either. I carry myself as a married woman so that's how men know I'm married.

[@theresatoomer5578]

That' s interesting. I am single. I don't wear a wedding ring but men don't think I am married. They ask if I have children or if I am married.

[@Christimony222]

amen!

[@loisamy15]

I've followed you for a while and I love your videos , but this one is one I'm really grateful for you uploading because I can relate to this video. I'm not about the big African wedding or the ring . I told my bf if he wants to do the ring thing he better just buy a band and keep it pushing . People put too much pressure on the ring and make it seem like it's the most important thing in life . I need a successful marriage not a piece of jewelry that I might lose in the bathroom sink 😂.

[@Windgoddess78]

Amy Nya I feel the exact same way! I thought I was the only one that felt like this

[@temiadesina]

EXACCTTTLLLLYYYYYYY our parents were like you have to at least have a traditional. I said how you gone get me to show up?

[@loisamy15]

Windgoddess78 get me to show up 😂😂 that's funny. But our parents want too much

[@Windgoddess78]

NaturallyTemi 😂😂😂😂😂

[@notwrongorright2853]

Amy Nya 😂😂😂😂

[@adrianadye123]

I love your honesty! I, as well, did not attend my prom for the same reasons. I didn't have friends in high school. I worked a part time job while attending high school. Ironically, I'm drawn to people who are extroverted because I'm an introvert. I LOVE the 3 friends I have because they know I HATE going out. I'll meet up with them one on one...not in a group setting. I work nights just to avoid as many people as I can. TRUST, your views and opinions are not strange because I have them as well.

[@temiadesina]

lol I use to work shipment in the back before the store opened so by the time the store opened up I would be clocking out. Dealing with people has always been draining for me but its something that I'm working on lol

[@latoyaskinner3310]

My husband and I didn't have a wedding and we do not wear wedding rings either. I'm with you 100% on everything said here.

[@inga.simone]

Watching this video was like watching myself!!! I am an introvert also! I tried to "plan" a ceremony for maybe 2 weeks and it drained me. Hubby and I said F this and went to the courthouse. People would keep asking "Don't you want a real wedding?" I've been to weddings and the marriage didn't even last! We have no regrets 7 years later 😊

[@asnoguenld]

yeah man im nigerian as well, and is like you do the wedding not for yourself but for other people. i just wanna be married to my husband and maybe make a little tour to meet family and friends all over the world. plus at wedding there are so many people that wont be there for you anyway

[@therenee2467]

I was never the girl that dreamed about her ideal wedding and didn't see the importance of having a wedding. I always felt that people would put more effort and energy into that one day than they would on the marriage itself. I allowed my mom and mother in law to persuade us to have a wedding, but it wasn't extravagant and we didn't incur any debt from it. At the end of the day, I think people should do whatever makes them happy, but I could have done without it. The ring, however, was a MUST! 💍

[@Wanjiro81]

So glad there are other people like me who feel this way about weddings. I've NEVER been interested in having a wedding! I'm more of an introverted extrovert, though. I love being out and about, but I equally love being home by myself in peace and quiet.

[@temiadesina]

interesting so your in between

[@vickyd9584]

N Williams are u aries? lol because am aries and just want to be alone most of the time.

[@Wanjiro81]

Yes! It's crazy.

[@Wanjiro81]

Nope! I'm a Sagittarius. I'm very outgoing, but also very introverted. It's weird. I go through long spells where I just don't want to be bothered, and I mostly like going out by myself.

[@alwaystatiana595]

N Williams I'm a Sag too and the same exact way

[@LizardAMcC]

As someone who is Nigerian.. I can definitely agree with having strict parents. It has made me a shy person and someone who is reserved and rarely likes to go out.

[@simplyevanescent]

Elizabeth Akindolie I thought my family was the only one. I always knew other African parents were strict, but in my family it was a whole other level. My parents did not even want to associate with "family" so we do not know anyone. It is just me and my siblings. We stayed at home all day, could not go anywhere even in high school. Now my parents wonder why I don't have many friends. 🙄I suffer from the same anxiety being around people, it makes it so hard for me going through life especially in fields where you have to interact with people. Thank you Temi for sharing this because I thought I was the only one with this upbringing. It has made me somewhat resentful and I'm working on changing things as an adult. I feel as though it has affected me a lot.

[@LizardAMcC]

I couldn't agree more. My parents still to this day do not associate with others. They're always suspicious of others lol. Idk if you know how that goes haha. Lucky enough I have an "auntie" here in the states whom I'm pretty sure is my mom's only friend. It can be difficult to deal with as a young adult especially since this millennial generation is all about going out and being social. Although, I'm glad that I can recognize it and learn how to be better in social situations.

[@TheInsiderBeauty]

I agree with you! But I do want a ring. Lol

[@paulayator985]

i feel you about the whole wedding thing. i am also that girl who never dreamt of a white wedding and so never did. married 8yrs now and happy with my decision. had my civil wedding and of course no white gown or anything close to a gown, with only 6 people in the room, and that includes my husband and i. being an introvert too, i am very private and have a close circle of friends, we invited relatives and friends for lunch to announce our marriage at my parents house after my parents insisted. if not for my parents that luncheon would have never happened either lol

[@GloryOkings]

I'm half Nigerian and most of my friends are Nigerian when I tell them i want a small wedding they look at me confused.

[@nedrabell6339]

Such a great video! I completely agree! My husband and I just got married in January and we went to the courthouse. We were not trying to spend all that money on one day. Its not that serious! We are more concerned with making our marriage last MANY years, rather than spending all that money for ONE day!

[@naakai6397]

You are right. It's all about the actual union, not the extras. I stopped wearing my ring cos it got tight and now gives me rashes when I wear it. my hubby's ring to tight and he took it off. we've both not been wearing rings and neither one of us have an issue with it. Love is all that matters.

[@temiadesina]

yes yes yes love is the main goal, I'm not too concerned with anything else

[@Deafmomof1]

i m gald you took your wedding ring off...I learned about wedding ring has behind message. I was like wow!

[@soulfullyroyalnita]

I didn't have a wedding either, I respect those Queens who dream of that day and wish them well! But having my main squeeze out of the deal satisfies me! Keep that amazing content coming!

[@temiadesina]

thanks beauty

[@dundermifflin1888]

i completely agree w you when it comes to not letting others push their thoughts onto you! great vid! girl as long as your marriage is Happy and it lasts who cares if you didnt have a wedding or a ring?

[@temiadesina]

PREACHHHHHHH

[@PurpleReign413]

Many people say I'm not a true introvert because I do KZbin videos. But the gag is I don't mind talking to a camera by myself. Didn't attend prom and didn't have a wedding. So I feel you on so many levels. P.s. Many people say we look alike, we're both Sagi's and we have a lot in common. How scary is that? 😩

[@angelface4774]

No prom, didnt even attend graduation, n did a courthouse wedding. I started w a small ring, n then asked for an upgrade, but once i got that upgraded ring, i hated the attention it brought! Stopped wearing it altogether.

[@Nwadiogo]

I do want a wedding and a ring but I just don't understand the fuss over diamonds. There's so many reasons to avoid them.

[@queentosheable]

You are so brave to talk about all this & THANK YOU!! OMG I am the SAME way!! We just went to the court that's it! I didnt like the stress of the wedding planning, the money, I didn't want the attention!! I'm still like that to this day... I'm more of a introvert!! I went to prom though!! I understand all that you talked about...you're not alone girlfriend!

[@temiadesina]

yay thanks for sharing you own story. I CANT be bothered lol

[@queentosheable]

NaturallyTemi okaaay?? Right on! me too girl, me too!👍👍

[@jelicianorwood24]

I am the same. I just don't want wedding and I don't like being in the center of attention.

[@devinhenderson1127]

I believe it is absolutely amazing that you follow your heart and don't allow anyone to mold your thoughts, parents, friends, or colleagues! I also did not have a wedding, I married at 20, I felt sure but I wasn't really sure if I had made the correct decision and I wasn't willing to put my family in debt over my uncertainty! And we are here still standing 10 years into our marriage! As long as God recognizes your union, weddings and rings just don't matter! Good Luck Temi😘 You are so beautiful and smart! Best wishes!!!

[@temiadesina]

thanks so much and I'm so glad you shared your story. Even tho you were uncertain I am glad that you and your hubby is still together

[@JamCanGurl]

This video just totally changed my point of view. I didn't have a wedding and I thought I was missing something but I'm not. Thank you!

[@lydiadavis1763]

I had a nice wedding. We did it within our budget and kept it simple, so we didn't have to charge anything or have debt when we got married. The best wedding is however you want the wedding. If you and your husband are happy with how you got married that is the best wedding. I have a wedding ring, but the wedding ring is just a symbol. You took your vows before God and that union is permanent. No ring need. All these things are just material things. The most important thing is honoring that vow you made before God.

[@KiboBetts]

this was a new perspective for me... Im african as well as was raised similarly. I would like to have a wedding but small because i only want close friends and family and not trying to go into debt. I respect your decision because i also know how much Nigerians dont play with their weddings and you took a stance for what you believed in no matter what!

[@MuzikPerson]

I admire this, especially because of your cultural background. I clicked the video to see your perspective because even though I have thought about my wedding for years, my ideology around marriage and weddings have vastly changed, mostly because of the history of marriages, society's expectations and my role in my family. And I also have anxiety lol. I think it's really dope that you made that decision and that you and your husband stuck to it together.

[@ladydiamondt891]

I'm EXACTLY the same way but because I KNOW A LOT of people, many refuse to believe that I'm an introvert to the max! My exhusband refused to believe it. So once we began living together, it became VERY clear to him and even though we BOTH worked mad 12 hour shifts, his meals were cooked, house and clothes were clean, EVERYTHING was in order no matter what, BUT because I am the way I am, he had the audacity to call me lazy! THAT did something to me and nothing was ever the same after that, and needless to say after 14 years together, 10 years married, it ended. I agree that NO ONE can judge another, it simply is what it is. No matter what Temi, be happy doing you, and it seems as though you are. I've learned that the way people love you is for them, and how they love you satisfies them, and at times, they act as if they're doing YOU a favor. If people cannot love you how you are and where you are in life ~ BYEEEEE! Continue doing and being the best person you know how to be without dealing with the status quo's expecting everybody to be down for whatever they're down for. Much love.

[@ninahurd5371]

Your husband didn't appreciate you at all all that cooking and cleaning you did he's call you lazy I'm glad you left him be yourself let nobody tear you down have a wonderful life

[@sankaryl10]

I came across this video looking for words of encouragement cause I am in the same predicament. I’m West African as well and currently planning a wedding but my heart is just not into doing all this only for an event that lasts several hours. The marriage is most important. Plus I feel the exact same way as you introvert to introvert lol. I love weddings, but just not for me. I don’t feel like it’s really worth it. After talking to my partner we both decided to just cancel the big Shabang because it’s not who we are and it’s not what WE really want. We were intimately doing it for our parents. We haven’t told them our decision YET, but this video boosted my confidence so I’m just here to say thank you.

[@folakemiokiji6140]

Loved this video!! You really don't need a ring to signify you're married!!! Yessss!

[@temiadesina]

thanks babe you're so right

[@queentosheable]

Are you a Pisces?? I am & we are sooo similar... I'm so private & march to the beat of my own drum too...curious

[@temiadesina]

hey boo I'm a saggitarius

[@queentosheable]

NaturallyTemi Hey Boo! Oh ok thank you! ha! same sign as my daughter! ❤

[@olliebee-dk9fq]

Queen Toshe lol it's true!

[@cdmccaffity]

+NaturallyTemi I knew it!!!😂😂 I am one too.

[@SusieSue242]

I'm a Pisces Sun and Sagittarius Moon & I feel the exact way she does.

[@CUBS83]

I feel the same way. I'm introverted. I love ppl, but prefer one on ones. I don't believe in unnecessary stress and performative customs so... yea, I'll take the marriage & skip all the wedding woo woo. :) But yes-- good to be open to more based on flexible comfort points.

[@bahatiyake8347]

You're fine, I also didn't have a wedding & no rings! we're doing good & am happy.

[@lovelypuff9]

I never dreamed of the traditional wedding either. My husband and I also didn't want to do a court house wedding. We went to the national parks and got married near a river as pirates.

[@stephanieosei3775]

This is definitely an interesting POV and a different perspective altogether. I have watched you over the years and I agree with you that no one can make you do something that you do not want to do and it isn't practical to go into debt for a wedding or sometimes even spending the money within your budget for others to come and chop. I understand from your perspective how you aren't big on jewelry unless its like a glam choker or a special event or KZbin, however, for me I think that perhaps a wedding band may be my only piece of jewelry in marriage because of that. I agree that a man can try to talk to you wedding ring or not (smh). It is symbolic of the institution of marriage despite the fact that it isn't in the bible lol - I'm young so this perspective can change as a I get older as well. At the end of the day, the marriage and maintaining and growing that is what matters - I pray for partner who is understanding of my thought process similar to yours and above all, supports and respects it. If I may ask, how old were you when you got married and did you have a traditional wedding or just went to the courthouse? Thank you for sharing! 💕

[@rosettelillehei7730]

I got married 12 years ago and spend $ 25.000. After spending all that money we went to live in appartement. I regret spending that money even today. We could had put it on down deposit and get our house.

[@kamaaiiyah8768]

Same here never thought about my wedding day. Got married no ring either. Simply put a ring and a wedding is not a requirement to get married. Feeling you 100%

[@sieshadees]

I love your way of thinking as far as your moral values you still got married you just did it your way!!! That's good to me

[@azumi19able]

I appreciate your beliefs. Thanks for sharing.

[@sophierees9208]

well,to each its own! if that works for you,then do it.I am very traditional so i like all that Serenren.

[@theresabrown1636]

just curious! how did you meet your husband? and how did you get to the point of wanting to share you personal space, time etc with someone forever (being as though you are an extreme introvert).

[@Brwniee95]

Theresa Brown good question she has a video on how they met but I would love to hear the POV of her being introverted lol

[@mwatts-riley2688]

My wedding cost 440$. We were married at a court house, (30$) had 14ppl, my little white dress, his best suit, a few candles, two cakes and a Crock-Pot of Italian beef, Mac salad, and a fruit plate. That's it. M, il.

[@ZenLioness]

This video makes me feel better about not wanting a wedding. I've been trying to figure out compromises in my head, such as a small outdoor one but I'd be happy without even that. I'm introverted as well.

[@temiadesina]

awww make sure its fine with your honey first lol

[@GretaMimi1]

i wish my parents will let me do my thing.everytime i say i want to get married in a jean and wite t-shirt i always receive a slap. now i am force to make them happy by paying for a wedding.

[@justcyleen6721]

i wont lie, your comment cracked me up😆😆😆😆

[@asialeslie1995]

U not forced to do anything. Gotta break out of the year of your family and just cling to your husband. Y'all should do it the way y'all want to do it.

[@RB-kv8my]

I RESPECT THIS SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm Nigerian too and I want a HUGE wedding, but I TOTALLY let everyone around me DO THEIR THING. I am SUCH a strong believer in letting people do them 👌🏾 love this

[@monkey.dchomsy9464]

I've mainly followed you on insta and I'm a big fan, I mean you are basically my hair crush, my hair goals, my hair everything! I love all of your tutorials however, I'm so glad you made a video about this as I don't see many people with the same mindset. I like your honesty and the way you tell it like it is. Tbh I'm not really into relationships at all and haven't been since birth but based on the experiences my friends had, I'd like to think I would make the same decisions if I became interested. I'm an introvert too (introverts unite!!!) and I also had strict African parents just hope I'll soon be as fabulous as you.

[@Maybe-daquavious]

#TeamIntrovert ✊🏾

[@popvmonv97]

I grew up with the same type of household. I have anxiety too, I'll literally freak out on simple things and I'll make things 10x more complicated than it actually is.

[@MissmayaV]

THANK YOU ! When i tell and explain people i dont want a 'big ''wedding, they don't understand. No need to feed people there eyes for a few hours. And the stress that comes with it ....:/

[@Cocoshort2257]

Love all your videos! And your lippies! I know this video is older but if you see this what lipgloss is that? I love your make up as well as a your hair styles. Would love to see some GRRM make and hair videos.💖

[@reebar1364]

Thanks for sharing, me and my husband have been married for 8yrs and we don't wear rings but i do regret spending unnecessary money on our wedding though.

[@voodoochile4147]

Your puff is everything!!! Congrats on your marriage and kudos to you and your husband for planning wisely. Your children will thank you.

[@TishaNewbyEsq]

So interested in knowing which brand of makeup are you wearing?

[@africanodyssey4805]

As a fellow Nigerian and introvert who had a very similar background to you in not being able to go out to friends houses thus further shaping my introverted-ness, I've had the thought of not having a wedding either. But at the same time I want one, all extravagant and Nigerian lol. On one hand the thought of spending so much money and having everyone one looking at me and potentially judging me is off putting and scary, but I feel like I'd regret not having one. I've always dreamt about my wedding since I was a kid celebrating with fam and friends and I'll prolly end up having one, but I resonate with you on not having one or having a wedding ring.

[@user-xt3gx5yu3b]

I agree with you 100 %. I've always said I march to the beat of a different drummer. I do my own thing.....regardless of what other's want to TRY and push on me.

[@niccpatrick964]

New subscriber, here, and already, I love your channel! Although I'm equal parts introvert and extrovert, I completely agree with you on this topic. Most people think I'm crazy to not want a wedding ceremony, when it truly isn't what's most important! At the end of the day, a wedding is, simply, a way to include your loved ones in the process, but none of the guests will be necessary to sustain and maintain the marriage. Also, the ring is just a symbol... If you lose the ring, it breaks, or is stolen, the love remains. 💙

[@GracefullyKaren]

I mean it's always good to see things from a different perspective. My parents did a court wedding but had an engagement party. I know a Nigerian girl who got married/had a wedding but doesn't believe in wearing rings. Everyone is different. To each is its own. If a man wants to holla, you just have to let them know you married. ✨😊

[@FavoredOne-f9s]

I love you girl! I love your personality and I can really relate. I’m an introvert too but I’m very outspoken

[@Veelovely28]

Nice video and I totally agree with!! But i saw your picture on IG (the one where you talk about the same subject) and let me tell you that IM IN LOVE with the hair style...I would love to replicate the same for my own wedding next year. My mom wants be to put a weave (uuh ..hell no..i did not went back natural for no reason) but i want to rock my natural hair. You looked gorgeous and you are!!! Xxx

[@Christimony222]

I completely agree ! Not tryna spend all that money for one day or just to perform for others benefit lol Marriage is about union with two people and God. That’s all I need ! I would like a vacation together as a honeymoon :) but it doesn’t have to be immediately. We can just put money aside until we have enough to go.

[@jaimonae1881]

I love your authenticity. Great video.

[@Eddiecation]

You really nailed it. It comes down to tradition. Most people are followers and will do things because "it's tradition" and not question it. I'm an extrovert and I still knew I wasn't having a huge wedding or wearing a diamond ring. LOL!

[@crescenta3528]

Love this video. I'm a firm believer in not having a wedding, but in having a marriage.

[@gloriakolley9306]

You have very valid points Temi. Thanks for sharing xxx

[@hannahn7375]

OMG!!! This is my first-ish youtube comment but I just had to drop a note on the wedding and ring thingy as a fellow Nigerian. I don't understand both in general and have never cared for them. My boo and I have been together for about 11yrs now, we don't wear rings and only did a Trad wedding just to introduce him and his family to my culture. He's not Nigerian. So I feel you gurl, you're definitely not alone in your views. By the way... I'm in love with that hair. xoxo Hannah.

[@lunafoxglove5711]

you're my twin! I feel this way and my family just doesn't get it.

[@butterflyt-y2727]

So true! I like your perspectives.

[@Karlisa]

I loved thisss, continue to live in your truth!!

[@innerworkpodcast9929]

My fiancée wats a big wedding I want small,though love my ring and I can't wait to get my wedding ring.

[@staceychellz]

I totally respect you. It's great that in this world we live in people have a different perspective on how they want to live their life. A wedding and a ring does not warrant the love that you and your husband have. It will not increase nor decrease it. The most important thing is love and respect between the both of you. I wasn't raised the way you were but I totally understand it and respect it. Stick to your values girl. And YES the Bible does not say a big £\$ 20,000 and a ring must be done for a couple to be married. 😊😊

[@temiadesina]

lol thanks so much sis. yea the different mindsets is always crazy and its always good to get someone else outlook on things.

[@nataliesugar1837]

I feel like I got to know you so much more and I am the same way. When you don't wanna follow tradition, people have a problem with it. Continue living your truth, Temi!

[@thechrissiewise]

I feel you boo! And Yessss strict African homes are no joke!! My mom (is Liberian) and she didn't play that so I know the feeling girl!! lol! But I wouldn't have it any other way!

[@temiadesina]

girl I would have it another way lmboooooo only slightly tho

[@yellacreole]

that is so true I am so much like you home is where I'm comfortable but it makes it hard for me meet anyone. the way a child is reared does affect who you are as an adult.

[@jennyxyz]

Why can I relate to everything in this video? From being extremely introverted, to how your household was. Great to know someone can identify.

[@mimip2704]

I applaud your honesty and how you staved off the naysayers, very ingenious lol. Be you, that's all that matters. I'm not an introvert but I share a lot of your views, I prefer to do what I want not what's popular. And to respond to not wearing a ring and being approached by men...well, your mouth/heart can speak better than a ring can. You have people who wear rings and do what they do. It's just an extra expense in the "tradition" of it all.

[@ingrida3718]

I like the way you think. You're diffirent. This is exactly how people must think. Different!

[@oliviaa985]

You really said it girl! I would like the attention a bride gets on her wedding day but I will not be sacrificing thousands of dollars when the people I really want there couldn't care less where it happens. I love your opinion and it has actually opened my eyes to a lot. Thank you!

[@bastet1667]

I appreciate you. I am the exact same way. I am glad to know that I am not alone.

[@ArewNDmh02]

This is soooo good!!! Was just talking about this with my friend and what is actually in the bible. Thank you for sharing Sis, stay blessed!

[@TCToni]

I grew up in a Trini 🇹🇹 household the exact same way. I was homeschooled and had 0 friends and my parents had no friends. Couldn't go anywhere and I lived in the country with nothing to do. I have terrible anxiety in public. It has gotten better and sometimes I enjoy being out but my boyfriend is the only one that can make me feel at ease when anxiety kicks in.

[@241Genevieve]

interesting I feel the same but mainly not wanting a western white marriage. I just want a tiny tradational one, so we can be married in culture. (not sure if that makes sense). however because to make it legal in the UK I always plan on having a court marriage. it's a shame even in Nigeria that we need to do this for marriage to be deemed as legal.

[@mayodada655]

Totally agree with you because everyone looks at me when i say i don't have an idea of how a wedding should look like and how outrageous it is for one to have a big wedding

[@temiadesina]

lol yes ooooo some people just aint built that way lol

[@_sochima]

I love this video Temi! You're so real and your face and pineapple on point 💖

[@princesspink5944]

my husband and I got married at the court house in a private ceremony with our moms present. This what we both wanted. We are both very happy! Don't worry about other people's opinions, do what makes you both happy.

[@nahoga]

Love your natural hair. Keep wearing it ;)

[@ElleAyeCurlz]

I enjoy getting to know you more. Also, although I would want a ring and wedding I wholeheartedly agree with you in regards to goin broke for a bunch of people who won't even be there when you experience the ups and downs of marriage. I always preferred intimate not so flashy settings/accessories/clothing etc. Every now and then it's cool to go all out but At the end of the day it's the marriage that matters not the wedding.

[@B.Christine_W222]

This is how I feel when folk try to force their beliefs about having kids😡😡😡 on me!!!

[@LawrenceDailyVlogs]

I didn't have a wedding either, we just celebrated our 8th year wedding anniversary yesterday actually! Girl it was a mess planning my baby shower so I know planning a wedding would have been even worse, nor did I want to spend a ton of money when that money could go towards bigger and better such as the home we purchased and the next home we're going to purchase. So I feel you.

[@AlexaNicolexo]

I appreciate another woman coming out and saying she doesn't want a wedding. I would much rather put the money towards my savings, down payment on a house etc. I see people have these lavish weddings they go into debt for, and they barely get to enjoy them! It's mainly for other people. Plus the waste of food and beautiful flowers and other resources is appalling to me. I could forego the whole marriage part too. Makes no difference to me. I do have an "engagement" ring though, because yo' girl likes some bling lol. People compliment me on my ring all the time and then ask me when I'm getting married. The looks I get when I say "never." 😂

[@ngarubiram]

I hear you girl. Hubby and I were pressured into having a wedding. We went thru with it and I did not enjoy my "special day". Neither did he...