How to Stop Being Shy (Communicate with Confidence)

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In today’s video, I’m going to teach you my 4 tips on how you can reduce your level of shyness when talking to people, including co-workers, your boss or anyone you meet! Shyness is a completely natural reaction and you shouldn’t beat yourself up because you tend to be shy in front of others, but today, I really want you to understand where shyness REALLY comes from…and teach you my 4 tips on how to overcome it. If you've been asking "how do I get rid of my shyness", "how to be less shy", then this video is for you!
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[@LindaRaynier]

Are you someone who identifies with being "shy"? 🤭Do you feel nervous when talking to others, telling yourself that you simply just "don't know what to say...?" Share your story below and tell me how you've overcame it or if you haven't yet, what tips you will be using to do so!

[@vantimnguyen8055]

Linda Raynier Thank you verry much

[@FlamingBasketballClub]

@Ancient Tomato Damn cuh too savage 😂

[@FlamingBasketballClub]

Did you get a tan?

[@kadijatuanifabangura1330]

Yes am shy and when am asked question I became nervous to answer and even during presentation

[@tarigadam955]

Thx so much dear Linda Wen speaking with someone and his full focus with me directly I m getting confuse and stop speaking Please help me with this

[@marceljadepadua1883]

I am shy but I am talkative. You know that feeling?

[@mak0076]

I know what you mean 😂😂😂

[@joycewambuinjeri3491]

I am 2

[@dianemagallones8840]

Hahahaha same here 😂😂😂😂

[@shifanashifana7793]

same here

[@cxtrxy425]

same

[@michaelabanks8786]

I think being shy sometimes can be lack of confidence, or worried about what people think of you

[@mangv__]

I always feel that

[@hopechinyere83]

Am always shy , i even find it discuss to speak

[@cabalogia]

If you are not an evil person nor wish bad karma on anyone why hold back and close yourself to others? Accepting that got me past it and also realizing that the base of life are relations. We are all a product of human relationships at different levels and nothing could get accomplished without them.

[@jesushatsunemiku6165]

michaela banks Y E S

[@floricacreciun2575]

Im a very shy person even when i walk up infront of people i think that they are talkin abt me

[@smohammadhn]

Usually, there's a person in the comment section summarizing the video and getting tons of likes. let's see if that works!! a brief summary of the video; 4 tips to stop being shy: 1. Adopt a curious mindset (shift your attention from yourself to your partner) 2. Elaborate on your responses to your partner (explain more; not just one word) 3. Have a story to share (especially a hilarious one would do the trick) 4. Be present and listen intently (Listen to what your partner is saying and stop being out of the picture) Hope you guys enjoy! :D

[@cam0987]

Liked!💚

[@KM-sf6zy]

ATLEAST IT'S BEEN A DOSEN OF LIKES :)

[@smohammadhn]

@@KM-sf6zy haha ... Yeah better than nothing😂

[@irisespanola560]

Not all heroes wear capes lmao thanks dude 😂

[@densiefleuridor956]

Thank you 🙏🏾.

[@timburtonisthebestprovemewrong]

My shyness started when I was 8 Bc when I was gonna preset in front of class I stuttered and everyone started laughing at me I almost cried in tears, and I continued my presentation. When I came home my thoughts keep saying that I should stop talking , but I'm very talkative to my close friends and family I'm trying my best to get rid my shyness 🤗. Take care y'all ♥

[@iamsfrequenciesofthought5222]

The same exact thing happened to me! I was probably about 10yrs old... I too, am very talkative 😊 Have a great day!

[@flimedbylia]

My shyness started when i was 9

[@nz1264]

Being shy is really effecting my everyday life, I blush so much when talking to people

[@Je11keng]

OMG SAME!

[@teroyselfhelpjourney3661]

In my experience there's 2 phases to overcoming shyness. The first is the obvious one, putting yourself in more social situations (which makes you more comfortable/confident in them). But for some people, we'll start to put on a persona and become too agreeable even when we don't want to be, and hold back our true thoughts or opinions. The 2nd phase is forcing yourself to just speak what's on your mind. That second phase is important for true freedom, and speaking authentically what you truly want to.

[@omaogoke4673]

I am such a shy person, I can’t talk in public and I don’t like that. I want to be confident in addressing people or presenting anything at all.

[@ciel0533]

im one of these people so shy, by the used of vlogging im starting to overcome it. not focusing on my self but by other people. not to be afraid of being judge and what people might say instead im starting to embrace my flaws.

[@pamelafaye6407]

i am quiet person i dont usually a social person i only speak when needed. thanks for help

[@jeccym8715]

Me too

[@muhyadindahir3188]

Same

[@arireactsssz5662]

Same

[@junisyangbo5777]

Me too

[@lolololo-jx3ie]

so Introvert

[@binkyfaith]

I'm severely shy and my eye contact is horrid. I ramble and laugh at weird times due to nervousness

[@wymabajdirnd5905]

binky Faith looks the person in the middle of there eyes that usually helps

[@shhviana]

....same

[@dunkinnatalie]

Saaaame

[@georgiah52ver63]

Lol u funny

[@uhdobo7]

This may sound funny but it helps to practice and imagine yourself having a conversation with your reflection in front of a mirror. Maintain eye contact as long as possible and get comfortable with it until it becomes natural to speak to someone that way.

[@amethystessence]

These are really useful tips on how to stop being shy and becoming really confident. A lot of people do not realize that shyness can be dealt with. First, it has to be an intentional decision, then an acknowledgement and willingness to move out of your comfort zone. I find this relevant because I have been through a similar journey of moving from reserved to bold and confident and thankfully, I am more than willing to often share the useful tips that made me confident and vocal enough to engage on various platforms.

[@wannaonemissyou3564]

I was too confident when I was little . Because I wasn't insecure I wasn't pretty back then coz I didn't knew what's the beauty standards are So I never payed attention to that but my confidence level went down coz as I grew older I got acne and facial hair which were terrible it dragged my confidence down . As I grew older I started to groom myself and now I look at myself in the mirror and I feel beautiful I tell myself I'm beautiful it really helps 😊❤️ . I am still alittle shy . But I know its okay and I will again become that confident girl I once was .

[@adoumhellouabdoulaye5857]

Hello

[@ayanna_mx4613]

Same here 😭💔

[@taliw7736]

Me too ! I was super bold now I need to let go of my insecure parts of me and my nervousness

[@mk-it7ms]

You looks good tho

[@nicnak5506]

I feel like i have nothing to add to any conversation bc im a super homebody!

[@kaiteeet7325]

Nicki B omg yes! I have no stories to tell😭

[@almacastro6657]

Same,i dont know what to say😔

[@kemarrobinson1912]

Yes

[@dinapadillatumanda2268]

I suggest telling them interesting stories when you were qt home or when you were little and be curious about his/hers also. As an example.. i talked to a stranger classmate in highschool qbout my gradeschool where we(elem buds) had a group project and i brought earthworms to class , thinking those were part of the project.. i then asked him of his embarrassing momments at the same time reasurring he is not feeling akward and such... then before i knew, we became lost in our own little convo..

[@dinapadillatumanda2268]

I also suggest talking about your qnd their hobbies, likes or dislikes , fav movie, embarrassing experiences,what their doing now, what ..etc 2tip:Be determined enough to overcome your anxiety.. convince yourself (Also give a little prayer in your mind that you may communicate well with others qnd overcome your social anxiety) Cause these are what helped me overcome my social anxiety..heh i still have some left right now.. but not as much as before :>

[@myinnerthoughtsvoiced]

I am also a shy person and I agree with all the things that you discussed and its very helpful for me

[@_strawberry_2971]

When I was a kid all teachers were happy that I never talk or play in class, and they would said that I was a saint and good kid. And I start believe that if I want to be a good kid I don't have to talk, only the necessary. And now, with 16 ( in 6 days 17) it's so complicated to be or to do something else. But now, no one thinks that a kid that doesn't talk is good. I feel uncomfortable at any place that's not my house. I have lost many friendship and the opportunity to make more because of this. But I going to start to change this!!

[@aejaypk5332]

I love this! It really fits in my current situation. I moved here in the US and I just got my dream job, but the problem is that I am way too shy, to the point where it’s giving me a hard to connect with people. I agree with what you mentioned in the video, that I tend to focus too much on myself, being way too much worried on what others will think about me and the result is that I am actually putting myself in an awkward situation. I need to “delete” this shyness in me. I have to move forward and be curious! Glad that I have found this video! 😊 really helpful!

[@Astrothenix]

status?

[@pitpit7694]

Thank you. You’re really a big help to us. Im so shy , i get nervous when i speak to someone im not close with.

[@maryantonetteb.lukban1374]

Hi Linda! You really have that CHARISMA thing, which helps us to enjoy your advice and tips without getting bored or irritated to the speaker. Thank you, your videos are helpful!

[@__thedeagle___2021]

I’ve been diagnosed with asperger syndrome in middle school, so I just accepted my being shy like a part of me, I just avoid every social events and limit myself to do long lonely walks

[@mrbiggs1170]

I tried hard to speak to a guy in my working place and then feeling nervous. The upper week we met at work again on the same spot but I step out to dodge myself thinking he will be talking to the other guy Indoors. Do you know he came out and joined me outside but this time we spoke very good for hours and I feel more confident and comfortable with him. Next time I hope it will be more better Smiles 😊😊

[@MissMani]

@2:39 How she just read my whole social life like that?

[@Susan_001]

Miss Mani me too

[@tamie341]

Bruh she knows U

[@nicholasmorley2719]

This is brilliant.. You are so helpful. I use to feel lick I was trapped when in a meeting with my boss and other co-workers cause u are right I was focused on how I feel not about the topic at hand.thanks Linda I'll do what u said in this video thankyou.

[@ogochukwuagaratha8449]

I am still shy

[@amarachiubeh4041]

I feel sooo shy honestly 😌 But I always feel free and comfortable when I'm alone

[@aaugus91]

...we build to many walls and not enough bridges...good advice!!!!

[@hugobernabe]

The only gate I know, is the golden gate bridge.. smh lol

[@freeapp6266]

I am also shy person during I speak to someone I don't know how can I speak 😊

[@kheleecebrown1799]

Most definitely a lot times l would do that especially if don't know the person.I use to be outgoing and friendly but now a days l am careful who l would enter into a friendly conversation with.

[@shainamorel576]

I'm still afraid to seem weird. I still think people aren't interested in what i say, that's why i put myself aside, and stand me away from people. Sometimes i can't stop being shy. It's a kind of shield.

[@noonexx9346]

I feel you

[@jazzyl7986]

I get shy and nervous when I talk in a group setting. Working on overcoming my fear.

[@arsueyein789]

As student, i have a lot of opinions to share with teacher and friends, however i am not confident. After watching this tips, i am more confident to talk and share my opinions to others . thank you for the tips .

[@fatin1731]

We build too many walls and not enough bridges! Linda, i love that quote so much!

[@GrowbyJoe]

Confidence is the key! Thanks Linda

[@evaprebil4396]

Tips, tricks, struggles, funny moments were basicly all over youtube and everyone Just had the same vibe making these vids

[@McJ-ft1nn]

Wow,,I really enjoyed this lesson,,infact,I used to be shy but u know I like participating in class also school meeting but the moment I start my speech or presentation I jst made it quick/speed which is sign of shyness

[@marieanne1989]

I’m shy when i like a guy and can’t speak or be myself 😩this can give the impression im lack of confidence or dump or boring

[@jamespaz4333]

Exactly! But here is the thing. In your own shyness ideas don't come up easy and you start giving simple answers: "Yes, of course", "Absolutely", .... etc.

[@jamespaz4333]

The key is to break the walls. Please share something about this 😅

[@Ben-dd5dg]

I get so shy and awkward in front of people and when also of people look at me I die inside and I have no confidence. I always get the “Why don’t you speak” “ I didn’t know you were there” You’re so sweet”

[@azkasafira5203]

I feel that 😭

[@paulagabriela8399]

Great video. You are totally right. When socializing, I'm mostly focused on myself and how I am doing, that I forget to listen intently and of course, I get more and more anxious. Well, try to change I guess 😊

[@renz1092]

I think what you've said is basically right and true, Raised by a humble and quiet family will turn you into shy and lack of confidence to communicate with others, but if you want to be good like others you need to break that wall, a humble and shy into confident person.

[@gordonnicol9542]

Have just started watching this and I really love your energy Linda. You have such an honest, open bubbly loveable laugh : ) I'm looking forward to losing my shyness.

[@throughthestorm3852]

When people ask me how I am, I always say “good” I can’t stop please help me.!!!! ☹️

[@saradeen3984]

Yeah you are not alone l hate my life nowadays😏

[@ameliaroach7995]

U could still say good, but ask them how they are, and what they've been doing lately, and if they ask u that, elaborate 😉

[@supriyagune5225]

I am very shy to talk but I was very talkative and very confident.. I think so many are like me

[@byebye2627]

Same

[@Courtney-of1po]

I was horribly shy for most of my life, all the way into my early 30s. I have been wanting to move up at work ($$ hello). I was continually told to break out of my shell and speak up. It was so frustrating. I joined toastmasters at work to build my public speaking skills. The first few meetings were honestly terrifying. My first speech I could barely talk or breath. But something happened after my second speech, I began to grow in confidence. I actually began to like telling my stories and connecting with other people through speech. Fast forward two years, I just got my first promotion AS A TRAINER! I am beyond and excited and can't wait to begin. I still get the butterflies before speaking but I no longer feel like public speaking is debilitating. My personal advice, find a local toastmasters group to join if there is one near you or any kind of opportunity to speak to a group. Make sure it is an open and supportive environment. Force yourself to get up and speak. You won't die, you may stumble or shake or forget most of it but you will live. Then continue to do that over and over until you build the confidence you need. It's not easy but it's so worth it!

[@l0ver526]

me: watches video me: OK! *goes up to people and talks to them* them: starts judging me me: anddd thiss is why i amm shy :((

[@sulliandwhatnot]

Ohsnapitsakatt that did not happen

[@l0ver526]

JordanOfMaryland I wish it didn’t

[@saltylemon8203]

OwO oof, sorry. I’m gonna push myself to talk to people and make friends since I start school literally in two days.

[@viv5745]

JordanOfMaryland proof plz

[@pls-gg3fy]

u shouldn’t care what ppl think abt u, accept yourself, love who you are.

[@andreagouws9892]

you were very helpful and what you said was unbelievably true

[@ntvrnc]

The moment I've heard your discussion, the subscription button was click right away! Love it. Big help to human like me hehe

[@chloejanelle9412]

Anytime I am around new people my brain wont stop thinking of things to say, but my body just won’t say it so I have this internal struggle we’re my brain is just yelling at myself trying to get it to do or say something. But then before I finally decide to do something the moment has passed and the person has left

[@joyceannvlog3678]

I am always feel shy I am not confident enough with my self And if i am attending party or simple gathering i cant talk to them i dont know what to say

[@joanjoyquisay1776]

Hi Cristy Ann! I have the same problem and when I watched Velody's video it helps me a lot. You can visit Velody Official channel. She posts helpful videos on presenting & camera confidence every Thursday & is quick at answering questions in comments she can definitely help you! All the best!

[@Jhoyce602]

Me too, i hate being a shy type person,😑😑😏, anybody here to please help me how to overcome my lack of self confident.

[@alfan8788]

@@Jhoyce602 dear if u read my comments,are you ready to join with me

[@Jhoyce602]

@@alfan8788 yes po

[@Jhoyce602]

@@alfan8788 how to join po? Maam

[@sadiqrasaq8269]

I am the shy type, but thanks to tips from different people and from Linda Raynier's own to overcome shyness. But to me, one needs to be shy, but not to the extent of not striking a conversation with people nor communicating with others. But still, a big thank you to Linda Raynier.

[@livelaughlove2102]

I think being shy can be outgrown. Thank you for your very interesting topic.

[@vj-episodes8039]

Hahaha, how can I argue with this. I acted as crazy in Russia, I have a video about it if you are interested. Hmmm I heard an alien sound at 0:07 and you?

[@darlaandson6595]

One thing I struggle is that when someone at work try’s to share a interesting thing that happened. That thing I struggle is that I give a quick answer like oh nice…now I realize gotta learn how to really communicate back and ask questions about that situation and sound more fun

[@saralight8634]

This is exactly happen to me! Thank you for your tips, it's help me to be confident

[@paulryan5701]

I’m not that much of a shy person. I have gotten better over the years, but I am shy around different people like my uncles and I am comfortable around certain people like people I don’t meet much, like my swim instructors and other people like that.

[@cosmic_ghostbruh]

Thank you so much! It's currently 8 at night where I am, and I am looking for something to help me for tomarrow! Middle school is hard, and i'd need to toughen up if I'd ought to survive!

[@nisanuggets5413]

Can your give us tips on how to improve our english speaking skills and how to properly pronounce

[@hearttrice2315]

Hey, have you found any help or tips on improving English speaking skills and properly pronuncing words? Thanks

[@n3yn333]

I'm a shy person that I look down when walking.. I've tried but I always find my head looking straight down... Where do I start?

[@juliataylor-pearce2614]

Me too

[@zipporahadeke6288]

practice looking up

[@ReZoDriZzLeYT]

I have practice making at least a second of eye contact with people and taking it as saying hi to them.

[@SachinSharma-cz7kn]

Neema could you talk to me in English. If you don't mind. I'm also shy person. I'm from.india.

[@n3yn333]

@@simplyaryaa thank you so much ..this really helps

[@riinygiir]

I'm also a shy person so nice to hear you more things Stay blessed 🎉🎉 Thanks you so much

[@krystalcorona5461]

YES! I've been way too lost in my own thoughts in my head to be able to connect or speak with others.

[@arizl.7876]

Since English is my second language, I tend to be a lot more shy when I speak English than when I speak Spanish.

[@Aveejai]

Feels❤

[@amandacolmenares5003]

Same

[@ellienavarro819]

Same

[@mpumenkomo7]

Zira Zoe,I have the same problem.

[@isawthat3564]

Somehow I can kind relate... I ended up learning english first so I can't really say what I wanna say in my native language because I get self conscious about my accent :(

[@h.n2826]

I’ve always wanted to talk to people but when they do actually come up to me, I want them to leave so bad... not because I hate them, but cause I’m scared I’ll mess up and regret ever trying to interact with someone again 😔 I want to try and change by becoming more social, and I say this every year, but I never do...

[@mushroommagic1697]

Thank you ! It helps me alot. I also started practicing speaking in front of a mirror. It helped me because, I do not stop awkwardly and i can make a phrase. The bathroom mirror is ok because, i can see my body language and i can keep eye contact. I practice daily and i do it for a small time, as much as i can, i do not push myself. I had a small talk with a person and it wasn't awkward.

[@evelynaguilar3946]

Thank you Miss Raynier

[@legionx97]

Many people are shy because of lack of confidence and social anxiety (AKA scared of being judged and negative feedback).

[@julystylez5087]

Linda is the best no cap

[@writeart7636]

This appears to me as tips to improve your communication skills while being shy may prevent you from communicating effectively how do you work on being assertive?

[@ReZoDriZzLeYT]

The reason why I dont talk much to my co workers is because all they do is talk about trends, celebrities and unnecessary things. The only time I talk to them is about work and I am not shy I just dont like to talk about those things as I am not interested about them, I enjoy when we are talking about how to improve the job environment and how to make job easier but other than that nothing else.

[@whyamitrending8205]

Same

[@ibrahimyahya7598]

yeah very important too many people shy when we go another country

[@merwincosta9862]

The first fact is so ON POINT

[@chloejanelle9412]

I feel like I need to prove myself to everybody, so when I first meet someone I don’t want to talk or say anything in cause they get the wrong impression of me. After I have known someone for a while though and they already know who I am I can be really confident and funny.

[@hotma041086]

Thank you, it help me to build my confidence

[@ZulcanPrime]

I am not shy. I am an introvert who doesn't like talking to annoying extroverts who interject and interrupt your conversation. It's all about developing trust and being confident speaking to people.

[@englishmadeeasy6141]

Confidence is the key to learning any language.

[@VishalKumar-vm2ef]

It is very helpful for me . Previous time i am a very shy person but after watched this video i feel confidently.

[@yvonneperrott2458]

Thanks for sharing Linda

[@jenniferramos1592]

Love you beautiful you’re amazing with what you do 🥰❤️

[@phmediaPHArtDesignerPro2706]

yes,of course , especially when I am talking to my girlfriend or in public

[@extraordinary_woman]

Yeaaaa, the less you think about yourself the more helpful you become to others. Loved this very good and useful ❤️🙏🏾

[@anishprasad834]

I can't believe she just said my thoughts from inside.

[@CinemaFlix-hn7rc]

I used to be shy and maybe i think im clumsy ,it always breaks my self-confidence the way i want to express myself

[@oouzgee]

You just talked about me in this video. Thank you for help, I'll try to overcome it. The hard part for me is that my home and outside character are opposite .

[@madisonsanchez1155]

When some of my friends that I dont know them with a eye contact "I just say what are u looking at do u have a staring problem"🤣

[@gtrdxz]

Shyness can be learned and unlearned, therefor, confidence can be learned and unlearned. Shy people, remember you are competent enough to take small steps to (re)learn how to be confident.

[@02-apajessa17]

I am shy to interact others because when I speak in front of many people it already come in to my mind that make a mistakes, I worried to make a mistakes.

[@sheniquafleming6910]

You hit every nail on the head

[@rani1634]

Thank you great suggestions to stop shyness and become confident person

[@tsumugi677]

Its y graduation practice and when I bow to the stage bruh..... My teacher says that redo it again and it became akward then shyness

[@anonymousbear530]

I Feel shy and at the same time nervous when my teacher told me to resite in front of my classmates...THeres a time that im not nervous but when im infront of them ..I am "Mental block" and i dint know why... why!!!???

[@familybenitez559]

I feel the same too

[@familybenitez559]

It kinda like you're afraid of judgement of the other.

[@Xireal]

I was shy since I was 6 years old when I got transferred from a church school and I was so shy I couldn’t talk to others just because I’m too shy… I’m now 12 years old and still I’m shy 😞 even I watch videos like this it won’t get away the shyness of myself 😞

[@tamimahatoum351]

exactly! When I'm shy i overthink when I'm in a conversation and i zone out.

[@mimi-cd8lq]

I’m shy to other people but to close friends and family. I’m like a whole different person...more talkative, cheerful and not afraid to speak. It’s just I have to get used to the person. This is weird but I examine them (not intentional). What they like, what they don’t like..I want to talk to other people and be the different side but thoughts and fears that I will embarrass myself overtook me.

[@dreameryoung38]

Omg so glad I came across this video,I can talk to people easily on the phone

[@orrmmuzulu]

Well to think I was blushing 😅 I can only agree with you ... Linda

[@mehakfatima9875]

very nice😃👍👍 it's so helpful

[@aparecidoferreiravais321]

Hi Linda Happy New Year for you and your family 😉👍

[@JG23175]

Thank you so much, I'm a shy person but right now I learn from you

[@favouronyeisi7100]

Love your Teaching and head's up ma'am 😊, i feel like I'm already overcoming been Shy! I see people i do like to talk to, but I'm so shy to talk to Them! But watching this video, I feel elevated from shyness.. Thanks ma'am 😊

[@desireedagoc7580]

when ever im nervous my stomach hurts and idk why...😶

[@vershanji]

lol same

[@oliviarita7553]

I'm a shy type but when I'm around people I'm comfortable with I loosen up

[@tataghengnoraapianyui5650]

When I'm found in a new environment I don't easily get acquainted, like easily make friends because I'm really shy. I hate it. I'll love to easily get along with people

[@rakibulmahmud3253]

4 key steps to reducing shyness and speaking confidently are as follows:- 1. Adopt a curious mindset. 2. Elaborate on your responses. 3. Have a story to share. 4. Be present and listen intently.

[@danielthegreat3715]

i am 24 now, am so shy that i cannot date any girl. shy to express my self

[@danielthegreat3715]

thanks a lot