Van Life Q&A | How we met, north woods winter, and more...

[@KatieG2634]

I can't be the only one stressing out while watching you talk with your hands with a large knife just swinging around!! 🤣🤣

[@GodDogPassport]

I was just about to comment this!

[@heartdawg]

I'm 66 and I totally agree with you on the whole retirement thing. We never know how much time we have. I have no retirement and live off grid in a converted shuttle bus with my two dogs. I realize it's not for everyone but what I wake up to each day is priceless. So.....get busy living or get busy dying ❤🤗 I loved this video!!

[@leighscott1877]

I am no help with board games cause they suck. But I love you guys . Best of luck in all you do.

[@greenmonkeynews9186]

so why aren't you sharing ?? ??? joined your channel,want to see your Pups...

[@kittycat1302]

I’m also 66, well…in a couple of weeks. Living in a camper van . . . still finishing it out. And I also have no retirement. I injured my back badly in a car accident in 1977. Spent a lot of years working and trying to work while in pain. I never really made enough to invest. I finally applied for disability in 2017. After 4-1/2 years, I won my case and start receiving SSDI. I used most of my backpay to buy my van outright. I’m really needing to supplement my income and I’ve been thinking about starting a KZbin channel. Or some kind of online business. Perhaps a website combined with print on demand. Do y’all have any thoughts on me doing something like that at my age? I have pretty good computer skills.

[@marymccowan6629]

It's like being in a house where your in your room he is in his room. Your parked right next to one another. Let's face it your an old married couple. 😂😂😂😂

[@marymccowan6629]

Chris if you know your not going to ge t you money back , should something happen to bus, why don't you create an LLC and get commercial insurance and insure for what it's worth. I don't know off hand it would be to isure but it wouldn't hurt to look into it I worked insurance for 13 years I am 66 yrs old. I envy you two so much

[@alanaward6584]

P.S., I love the dynamic between the 2 of you. It's probably the best I've seen since my parents. No jealousy, complete confidence in yourselves & each other. That's so special!!

[@kristamccullar5128]

This is the epitome of a healthy, respectful relationship, THIS should be everyone’s “relationship goals”. The world needs more of this example you both are setting, thank you for sharing !

[@penelopep5356]

Wolf man you are as cool as Linnea! 67 year old here. Live your life!! I❤

[@Deane14]

90% of the time I was fixated on that knife swinging around and yet Wolfman is the one who gets cut 😂 Loved hanging out for the hour, you guys are cute n fun

[@natalieservello4101]

lol

[@sheripride428]

Lol

[@larissapienaar2436]

Lol Wolfman

[@Deane14]

@@larissapienaar2436 we'll see if i get banned 😄

[@MPulicci78]

Notice she couldn’t cut and talk at the same time…. Lol

[@brendongrice6234]

Chris was one of the original you tubers that I used to follow, and I just had such mad respect for how well he dealt with life issues having an RV that would break down. His amazing ability to stay positive was really an inspiration. This match makes so much sense, hope you all continue to have as much happiness as possible.

[@darianmarshall4262]

I stumbled across this video and Chris looked so familiar I knew I recognized him from videos I watched along time ago. Does he still make videos? What's his channel?

[@h33-q8w]

@@darianmarshall4262 the off-grid skoolie

[@h33-q8w]

Chris travels is the actual name of his channel

[@cathytaylor7708]

I’m so happy the two of you met. Everything just fell into place. Your relationship works for your individual lives. Your paths cross, merge, branch off but are never truly separated as they converge back to one another.

[@bethanymay7186]

I just wanted to inject my own perspective on the dynamics you two have in your relationship... First off, I confess that I took some time checking you out once I realized you and Chris were an item. 🤣 I was like, 'who turned his head and is she a good fit?' 🤣 I don't even personally know Chris, but have been watching him, Wess, and everyone encompassing his life for the past 5 years and my protective instincts kicked in, I couldn't help it. 😜 So, after subbing to your channel and binge watching your videos, I can totally see why he fell for you. You are an amazing person, inside and out! With that being said, the dynamics you two have is awesome! You both came together knowing and loving yourselves, both of you were actively pursuing your dreams which are very similar if not identical. This led to being able to come together respecting and honoring each other, understanding that you have two different lives (four, including your fur babies). That is huge! You are sharing life together, rather than becoming consumed with one or the other's life. There's a lot if emotional maturity and stability in that. I could go on and on about it, really... Too often, one person in a relationship will conform to the other and the balance between them is lost. I don't think many people understand that as individuals, you should always be individuals when it comes to living out your dreams and purpose. If two people can do that, in honoring and respecting their partner, it's the healthiest relationship you can have. It will be successful. You both can bring something to the table. I am so happy for both of you!! Now Wess needs to find his person. I volunteer myself, but I need a few more years to get stuff together. If he's still single in a few years, I plan to introduce myself. 🤣🤭 I have had a crush on him for years! It makes me mad that he's been with some very shady women whom have hurt him. 😑 Anyway, I love you guys, you are my favorite YT couple. Here's to many years together! 🥂

[@KnitsFromTheVoid]

OKAY so with this apple slicer I personally would most definitely do dried apples as an additional source of preserved apples. I borrow my fruit dryer from a (former) neighbor who can part with it for a few days a year.

[@vanomadcyclist3474]

Wow, such in depth and interesting content. Thanks for sharing. I feel like the universe puts us right where we are supposed to be. You are old souls living your best life and I appreciate you taking us along for the ride. 🙏🏼

[@tammydemis7851]

Backgammon, cards, Yahtzee…some of the older & simple ones. I don’t want to be boring & keep repeating myself on how inspirational you are Linnea, how I love seeing you so happy, etc., so I will just say you are my all time favorite vlogger. You & WM’s (Chris) relationship is so magical. Including the relationship the dogs have. I truly believe this was a “match made in heaven”! Give that sweet Akela a hug from me! ❤

[@pamtaylor6076]

I love that. Do what you love and the rest will fall in place!!

[@boothebus]

Y'all are just adorable! I am loving watching you learn new things and grow together!!!

[@justifiedcountrygirl7181]

Thank You So Much Both of You for Giving Your Time to Us. I am Nervous and Excited for The Winter In The Woods Adventure, But I Feel All 4 of You are going to Rock It and Learn A Bunch from doing it 🥰

[@skepticalmom2948]

Been following Chris for a while, I'm glad to see that he has found someone to be with!

[@tomfowler3653]

You guys are awesome together! Chris is such a cool dude!!! Glad you guys found one another! Universe brought two awesome people together!

[@naynay3174]

I love your channel, Linnea. Just wanted to remind you that you deserve to be with someone who shows genuine enthusiasm about being with you. Someone who tells you how beautiful and amazing you are and how lucky HE is to be with you.

[@Java-Junky]

I absolutely loved this! The compatibility you two have is incredible! I found myself nodding and saying ‘yup!!!’ throughout. That communication is SO important to ANY kind of relationship. The absolute beauty of having your own rigs is having that ability to truly take time for yourself. Again, I am loving your channel and I am so looking forward to your winter adventure!!

[@karpenterk]

It sounds to me like you have the ultimate mature, trusting and loving relationship. Very few people EVER find that.

[@no_worries_van]

I love the fact that you don’t tie each other down and are open to each others freedoms, wants and needs. It takes a unique and special person to be like that and I think y’all will work out fine and if you don’t, you’ll most likely be friends. One main thing I hated when I was married was NO freedom and that is why I’ve been single ever since and probably the rest of my life. I hope the best for you both and I can’t wait to follow your travels and adventures! I’m so happy for the dogs too!💙

[@sherriewoods9538]

I really enjoyed this video, you guys have such a bright future! And Wolfman is pretty good helping the the apples!

[@naomimalave2308]

No hate for your response to retirement; what works for you is special & I respect it! So happy I found your channel! As an animal & dog lover I don’t miss an episode since I found you! ❤😊🎉

[@starfire8221]

So glad you found each other and the dogs have adjusted. I am excited to see how things go for you during the winter. At 78 I like the idea you have about living for today and not too worried about retirement. Do the things you want while you can.

[@Lara-Darling]

You two honestly are great to watch. It's just so natural and organic. You have certainly opened my eyes to what goes on my list for a healthy lifestyle and relationship. Thank you 😊

[@natalieservello4101]

Battleship is a good game to play when you are bored. Poker is good too. I was wondering when this day would come. Y'all did not disappoint, you are both so fortunate to have found each other, enjoy the present. You both have such great character and to me, such sweet souls. I look forward to watching more this winter season. Take Care!

[@6smokey66]

BOTTOM LINE: YOU HAVE AN HONEST RELATIONSHIP AND IT'S BEAUTIFUL. GOD BLESS...

[@sammyinbrooklyn]

This feels like the most wholesome and truthful channel I’ve found since 2011. Edit: since 2007! 😊

[@georgiapentland6836]

Your videos are the perfect Sunday escapism. You're lifestyle and perspective on things is admirable and the coolest thing ever. Akela is the sweetest girl and I'm so happy for you guys. My favourite channel on KZbin, keep rolling in the adventure and staying out in nature, much love ❤️

[@mybestlifeever]

I love your videos…i have been following you for a while now, funny thing is, I’m not a van lifer, don’t have a bus, and I don’t live off grid. I live in an apartment in California but I’m somehow drawn to your way of living. I live vicariously through you. First there was Linnea and Akela and then came Chris and Kobuck. You all are the sweetest little family. I see the kindness, respect, love and space you give to eachother. I’m happy that Akela and Kobuck do get along. It’s like this was all meant to be. I can’t wait to see further videos of all of you together again.

[@millierader2517]

Your retirement plan is spot on. You have savings, you live frugally and you do the things you enjoy. I did the work, work work and I am now retired, healthy and enjoying my life, but with a do-over, I would do it your way. Keep it up!

[@Linneaandakela]

Thanks for the support! :) And congrats on achieving retirement!!

[@rougeroadie1193]

I 100% stand by your view on retirement. I have always felt the same way! being someone that has been through something very traumatic, I am so hyper aware that we aren't promised tomorrow and it seems unreasonable to not live your life and do the things you love NOW. to me it scares me more to think I could die "before my time" and not have enjoyed, than it does to think of being older and having to still work.

[@sheilajo5]

I am 71 and have been widowed twice. We weren't able to do anything we wanted to. I tell people all the time to do it now, don't wait. You don't know what each day will bring. I bought a class C to live, not merely exist, with my 6 Shih Tzus. I am not full-time but desire to be.

[@RickCecrle-ep9ui]

Here today gone tomorrow! Enjoy every minute. Less stress less worry, sounds fun.

[@traveldog1]

There are so many things that make your connection great. The two that stand out are respect and laughter! Good for you both.

[@penniswift]

I love your individualism, your unity is even better!

[@RickCecrle-ep9ui]

No attachment disorder here! All we need is LOVE. All looks so fun🎉

[@singingspiff]

Best Q&A I have ever seen. Thank you!

[@teslah2997]

I LOVED this vlog! It was really eye-opening…..and I just really dig you two even more now!!!

[@kmossuto]

#1. When the question was asked re: what are you going to do with your “free time” made me laugh a bit. I think you will be working hard to ensure food, warmth, and improvements are continually sustained for your family (the 4 of you). (What I’ve witnessed watching Linnea since beginning her home (vanbuild) is her inability to sit still if work is to be done.) Excited to see the shelter builds, etc. #2: Your man (Cris, wolf/part wolf or not) 😂 makes Linnea smile with goo goo,love in the eyes and she appears even more at peace with herself than I’ve witnessed over the last several awesome years of watching. 3: I’m 10 yrs from “retirement” and you hit the nail on the head!!! Don’t wait for tomorrow. I did. Tomorrow turned into months, months into years, and now over 2 decades have gone! (I wanted to live the nomad lifestyle before it was cool and accepted) My body is shot, all the activities I wanted to do are not possible due to my arthritis, being overweight, and feelings of being “stuck” in a work environment that doesn’t allow even pt remote work. Your KZbin videos bring me hope that it’s not too late. Lose weight, arthritis will dissipate and I may be able to get out there and explore with my pup! Until then, please know how inspiring you are and I’m super excited to see Chris and your growth. Sorry this was so long winded. Thank you for giving this nomad in heart hope. 😊

[@AnneWilkynson]

I just love your choices, I'm retired and did a lot of backwoods camping etc, I miss it. So I'll live vicariously through you guys!! ✌️💜🇨🇦

[@Linneaandakela]

Aw I'm so happy to share them with you!

[@hamradiocomms]

I think permanently having the 2 vehicles is really ideal because they are basically rooms in a house. Just like we wouldn’t want to live in a 1 room house, we’d like to have a home office to go work etc so you are doing that here. And I would say that the outdoors is another space you have to share, and it’s often changing allowing you to live in different spaces. Amazing!

[@simplyboppingK]

I think this is my favorite video of yours because you both click SO WELL. And I can tell you both respect and appreciate each other which is very important in a relationship.

[@avakuklis4427]

Thank you for answering my question! I agree with not waiting for retirement to experience things. I was wondering since I'm interested in living a similar lifestyle and my family was curious. It is reassuring to see someone I look up to not be concerned with what the future could bring and who is living in the moment. Can't wait to see your upcoming adventures!

[@katievolk5205]

I'm a retired truck driver, people don't get how heavy these big vehicles are !! Used to hate when 4 wheelers pull in front!! Love and Gratitude!! Binging on your story Love ❤️ 😍 💖 ❣️

[@anamcneil1780]

Think that Chris being nicknamed “Wolf Man” is soooo cute!!! 😂😂😂 I love the both of you .

[@antoniafoster8264]

Enjoyed this video. Nice getting to know Chris better. The entire time you guys were peeling and cutting apples, it seemed like apples were growing in the box! 😂

[@michwenz8413]

And your dogs merged pretty seamlessly 👍🏼

[@mariepalkiewicz852]

Absolutely thoroughly enjoyed this video. Thank you for letting us in!

[@anniedavis4569]

I think ye both are a wonderful couple and compliment each other so well. I’m so happy you met each other

[@aprilcooper5888]

I really enjoy playing Rummy or Rummikub. Loved the Q&A and I'm so excited to see the videos you'll be coming out with!

[@jennyferguson5583]

Enjoyed meeting you both! ❤️Following your Adventures!

[@MikeD-ig4zw]

Casually displaying your platinum KZbin award 😆

[@ttinkers1062]

I’m so happy for you two. I love Chris and have followed him throughout the years. Congratulations!!

[@gregbva1234]

He is a good guy and very understanding. Take your time but don't let him get away

[@sovereigns1grace]

I totally get and support your view on the 'deferred life plan'. I'm 66. I spent 30+ years 'investing' in retirement. 2008 happened and everything is gone and there were no jobs for people with my qualifications. I'd made too much money and no employer wanted to pay that much AND they felt I wouldn't be happy working for less money. All I own is my van which I'm currently building out (obtained with inheritance money) and a very small Social Security income. So yeah ,.. live for today. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. Live simple. Live good. Love this Q&A and this relationship. So cool.

[@shelby1188]

Your dogs love each other and that’s sweet!

[@hailahafley-kluver2052]

Thanks for sharing. Great game Rummy Cube. Farkle is a dice game...and very fun.

[@loriflatland3142]

It was cool getting a peak into your and Wolfgangs time together. Thanks for sharing.

[@neil2809]

TRUST IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF A RELATIONSHIP ! ! ! ! ! ! Take Care !

[@ccdriftajvideography9384]

Binging your videos for the past 2 days after watching videos on how to do my van floor.... no experience, not sure if you'll see this comment but wow this video spoke to my soul. Everything you guys said makes sense. 100% trust in yourself and the life you live the past got you were you are the future isn't for certain embrace the present cause in reality that's all we have.

[@ccdriftajvideography9384]

P.s wolf man

[@erinamurph9646]

This video makes me so happy! You both are so wholesome and sweet. Your dynamic shines through and its truly amazing to watch. Thank you for sharing!

[@mscattale]

I think y’all did a great job with this. Would love to see more. An hour is a great time length as y’all really answered a lot of questions!

[@adamcook5474]

Play Fast Track! We made our own board with a Tupperware party bowl with dividers from a thrift store, decks of cards and push pins! There are lots of versions (check them out online), and it was fun to make our camping/travel version with our kid...we used actual geometry to create the playing layout on the lid with Sharpies! Linnea, I have been watching your videos since your build. I am a teacher on the Olympic Peninsula, and I installed a Maxx air fan in my travel trailer because YOU gave me the confidence to do it on my own! Thanks for brightening my world every week! ❤

[@JenGrant71711]

Thankfully this is your life and you get to call the shots. Continue to live life your way!

[@debbieconklin5897]

This was awesome! It was fun to watch you multi-tasking with the apples. I feel I know Chris/Wolfman so much better. You two are adorable apart and together. This old lady is inspired by your adventures and life philosophy. Be safe and soak in each other and your time alone in nature!

[@ashleygarrett7926]

Congratulations on breaking 100k! I saw this coming back when you first hit the road! Not too surprised to see that plaque shinning in the background, you deserve it!!

[@leannelynch3546]

Thank you! Loved the long video! It was nice to hear from Chris.

[@raudhampton]

Enjoyed watching on my way home from work. 74, not retired, planning to after my 17 year old daughter is secure through college. Love that you combine hunting, canning, rtc

[@andreaprochnow7355]

I know I am late to the game and you guys are already up north…but Yatzee is a fun game that doesn’t take up much space. A deck of cards is also very versatile! I was watching L swinging the knife around and was worried about Akela at one point! 😆 You guys have a great relationship! I love how you trust each other and push each other to be the best you can be! The mutual respect and compassion is wonderful to see! 😊

[@JB-kd5uv]

Awesome. Love you and Chris together. Great dynamic and respect of each other.

[@judywaymire5756]

You two are so good together! ♥️ Love to watch you both!

[@jessicahickey4527]

I really appreciate the length and depth of this video. Thank you for sharing

[@suezaple4950]

awesome question & answers such and great relationship you two folks have and relationship the doggies have , thank folks for this

[@brentwalden6215]

I met Chris, years ago, at a tiny home festival outside Denver. He had just finished filming a tour of a tiny house. I said hi and told him that I follow his channel. He was very nice and gracious! I look forward to watching this experience.

[@djskum]

As a train hopper, that is definitely the relationship attitude. There is so much to see but two people may not want to see the same thing at the same time. With a phone call or instant message you quickly communicate and soon you are together again telling each other about the adventure you had.

[@thesplinteredfinger]

Enjoyed every minute Linnea and Wolfman!

[@lethiapage4767]

Love that slicer! Love your relationship. So grownup and healthy. Re the dishes thing Linnea...not trying to change you or anything but sometimes all ot takes is a reframe to make a hated chore more palatable. In your case 1 a bigger sink might become a bigger dirty dish holder but be the grownup and use it as a more convenient vessel to get dishes in and out and wash them without bring cramped for space. 2 cant emphasize enough to focus on the warm soapy water....feels nice! And nice smelling soap. 3 music or podcast or conversation to distract. 4 run a bit of dishwater when you start cooking and wash as you go before the stuff sticks etc. 😚😘

[@sarah_n_tank_girl]

Oregon Trail and Cribbage are great board games! I'm excited for winter in the woods and I would forget something basic like a splitting axe or warm hats. You two were meant for eachother. Your hearts and ability to work together will get you through anything. Much love!

[@pamtaylor6076]

Jealousy is not a fun trait!! Good for you guys!!

[@ANGELINAA]

Yall need to get Bananagrams! Such a fun little word game. Rooting for you two this winter ❤

[@ldosucowboy3279]

Two really awesome people doing the right things and just enjoying each other and life. So special. Thanks for sharing. New viewer who is really enjoying all of your videos and Chris's too. Oh yeah, originally from Wisconsin, so especially love the North Woods videos.

[@teslah2997]

Haha….I LOVEthe “stubborn”….”hard-headed” dynamic between you two! I have been accused of both…..and I see the value in it!

[@Lyssa72]

You two look perfect together and its so nice seeing so much happiness. You all are exactly right too, you have to have trust in each other to have a good and solid relationship. I was fortunate to have married a man that trusts me 100% and I trust him. You are right where you say you can’t put someone in a cage - it just won’t work. We have been together for almost 25 years. On a side note, I told him if he didn’t like dogs, we couldn’t be together because I have had dogs (German Shepherds and Labs) my entire life. We have 5 GSD’s now🙄🤣You all are living your best life and doing it right❤️ Also, I love my Apple dohicky thingy🤣 I use it for potatoes too - deep frier and then do melted cheese on top (haha, I’m in the south and everything is fried🤦‍♀️🤣) Will you all be making your own breads too, while living off grid?

[@Thetinyfit]

Amen to your thoughts on retirement. My dad was healthy, but kil led at 62, about 4 months after he retired as a really well loved physician. He helped his community and kids and his church and he didn’t get what he deserved. All that said, he made time to vacation, hunt, hike, fish, camp and spend time with his family and whoever else wanted to join. Still bitter he didn’t get the twilight years, but he spend so much time doing what he wanted and a lot of people don’t do that. I say this guiltily because Netflix isn’t a hobby and for a lot of people we are just trying to get by. To get to tomorrow and the next day. Kudos to you and your infinite wisdom of just going and doing. I feel like whatever life hands you, retirement wise or other, you will absolutely land on your feet.

[@brittanythompson4082]

I feel like my partner is very independent and in turn I've become more independent. I think it's great! You support one another together and when you're apart and there's way less jealousy and resentment. You have more freedom and even more trust while you can be your own person and make your own decisions. I like that you've shared your life with each other on your channel. You both make a great team.

[@sandrahunt199]

Chris, you are so right about not doing something different. I became disabled at 50. This can't be it for me. I raised my kids and worked all my life. Live you lives. I wish I would have showed a different perspective to my kids. Lived a different way with them. They do the grind for the rent.

[@sandrahunt199]

I am alot older but I see you both mesh so well. You both need your space. Linnea I think it's smart to keep your van. Chris is the perfect guy for you because you are a lot of woman and he is enough to take it lol. I'm so happy for you both. Akela to. Playmates forever. Love your video. You are both pretty amazing. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@LovingAtlanta]

👍🤩💝Ooooh snap, wait a minute, that’s CHRIS…he looks different….I knew I had recognized his face. I didn’t realize he wasn’t with the other girl “G” anymore - or maybe I did know but have forgotten because it’s been several years and I don’t keep up with other people’s life. Oh well I watched many of his videos from years ago and I don’t think I’ve seen him so playful & happy before. Wishing you both the best. 💝

[@DarcieRobertson]

This was so fun! Like hanging out with you two and getting to know you better. Found out Chris likes many of the same things my husband likes! I especially appreciated hearing your thoughts on trust and interdependence in your relationship. Your perspectives on that sound very healthy and sustainable. Wishing you all the best on the remainder of your prep and in remembering everything you need to remember. :)

[@TS-rd7oy]

I'm happy for you both. Many blessings to you. You are an awesome young woman, and not to sound egotistical, you remind me of myself from my youth. I'm 62 and was building things, climbing electrical poles for my job in the 80s. I was the only woman, in my early 20s and took a lot of crap!! But there were a lot of great times to it also. Now I'm building out my van and follow your videos from 2 years ago.

[@helenguy9475]

I think you have the best of both worlds. I think it’s nice to be able to have some space in a relationship, to create some anticipation and appreciation, when you see each for date night 🤗 even if you do live next door to each other. Also, both of you keep your independence and identity, which is really important for a healthy relationship. I’m 65 now, and even if I fell madly in love head over heels, starstruck, found a gentleman that took my breath away. I would still keep my home for all the above reasons. As my dad would say, life is not a dummy run, so you guys have fun.

[@blackbirdfpv1981]

Found your smaller post on you tube and absolutely love what you both do so new subscriber and I offered a few ideas as I think u might find helpful. Enjoy life it's amazing and the world. Safe travels and look forward to watching more of your channel.

[@chababartz6679]

Great job Wolfman!

[@havaswede1]

Thanks for sharing your true feelings, you are inspiring to me. Keep up the good work, I will be watching.

[@kathleencomyn5228]

Chinese checkers is fun, so is hop scotch, draughts, and pictonary. I enjoyed this Q & A, and I look forward to your adventures on The Land at winter

[@Laura1221]

Loved this! You two are perfect together. As for board games, I love, love backgammon.

[@marirose19]

OMG! Chris you’re part of Tiny Home Tours?!? I /love/ that channel & watch it frequently! Awesome!! ✌🏼🌀🤟🏼

[@hannahsgrace4U]

That knife is scaring me!! Watch out, Chris. 🤣 I totally get the stress of driving a big rig...mine's a 30ft Class A. After watching Linnea and the whole van lifestyle, it's looking better and better!

[@jenburns6265]

I agree about retirement. My husband passed away at 48. Enjoy your time now. You never know when you won't be here.

[@musicmarlene]

Great video, sounds like you two have a good relationship. You are both secure, strong snd confident.