Single & Alone - Distant Children, Money, Dating & Thriving

[@teresamacey7039]

It happened to me at 68. I lost everything that had defined my life. My home. My husband. My city. My income. My family, It is taking a while. I had two nervous breakdowns in two years. I have had a lot of counseling. I have done a lot of introspection. I moved three times. I have settled in a small mountain town. I continue to recover from complex ptsd. I lost family and friends because I learned to set boundaries and hold people accountable. I have discovered myself. I have new friends. I am building a new family. I am trying new things. I am reviving old interests. I am setting new goals. I went back to college at 71. I am considering writing a book. We can do this. We can all do this. I am rooting for us all.

[@nancyvelasquez546]

You are amazing

[@lolaloren1773]

@ Teresa Macey, THANK YOU, I’m 57 and I feel lonely, I’m going back to school also!!!!

[@carolbusse5803]

Yes. You are fully able.

[@littleiodine9480]

Teresa Macey thank you for sharing. You just gave me mega hope! 💌

[@dariapol5193]

You are an inspiration, 🙏 thank you

[@bereatha1]

Our stories are so very similar. I too gave up a son for adoption when I was 15 years old. I spent five decades with that hole in my heart. Twenty years ago I started searching for him and 4 1/2 years ago I found him when he was 51 years old. His adopted parents are both deceased and he was never told that he was adopted. We worked together to create a loving place in each others lives. He called me Mom the very first time we spoke to each other and I have been Mom ever since. I am a single 72 year old woman and I am grateful for the life I have made for myself. It is so important to look to the future and let the past stay there. God Bless each of you who is reading my post.

[@terrielliott5911]

You are such a strong woman! Thank you for sharing your start. God bless you too!!

[@LittlePoet]

Can I just hug you now?

[@karenamenson8751]

Bless you too sweet lady, I am so happy for you and your son. Our Lord does awesome things !

[@loriwilson13]

Oh how did you find each other?I am adopted and never met my mom ,my adopted parents are deceased

[@JasmineReiki]

I’m so happy you found your son , I wish I had a secret mom .

[@californiaglo9666]

I divorced at 23 and had a 3-month old daughter. I chose to never marry again. I am now 60 and have had a pretty good life. Sure I have had a few good relationships, but never found the right one. I would rather be alone than settling.

[@jackpetersen7545]

California Glo,You deserves better 🙏

[@tonimilstead5089]

I agree! Would rather be independent and alone, than dependent and miserable. Being alone is NOT the worst thing in the world. Being in poverty, getting terminal cancer, or having a child die or be terminally ill is much worse. People need to stay busy and stop over thinking things. I had a couple of friends I lost because they didn't agree with my politics. One of them after 27 yrs! I decided I didn't care anymore. I'm concentrating on the next life, that is MUCH MORE important than this life..... it is for eternity.

[@teresamacey7039]

I admire your commitment. There is so much danger when women bring men around their children. We hear of all kings of abuses. My daughter also made that kind of commitment. She said she would not risk her daughter ever being hurt in that way. Thank you for sharing. More young women should take note.

[@herenasaavedra9234]

That me too! Married at 19, 22 and 35 married for the last time and had a daughter, divorced again at 39. Never again, it's not for me so confining. Never found the right one, the one that would love me like my dad loved my mom and me. Somehow I always thought that maybe my real husband was killed in Vietnam in that horrible war that killed a hundred thousand men that were my age appropriate at the time. No matter, I made a fine life for myself and I'm enjoying it immensely. My Life was too precious to waste, and so is yours!! Be happy if you'll join your life. we are all alone and none of us alone in this life, there are people everywhere who are worthy and wishing for friendship and companionship.

[@darlenepaul2934]

Well you settled for a lonely life.Good luck cuddling up with your "standards"

[@saraortiz3160]

This video made me cry. The last thing my ex husband told me before I walked out of the apartment for the last time was... "You're never gonna make it on your own". Well, I worked on it and worked on it and now I'm doing better than he is and I own my own home it's not a big palace but it's mine. And 90% of the stuff that I own it's either from the goodwill, gifted or found. I scraped it, sand it and painted it or decoupage it and it looks beautiful. Thank you so much for your inspiration I love your channel ❤ Thank you ❤ Please stay keep helping people cope with everydays wonders. God bless you God has given you this Platform to help those who are really down-and-out who don't know where to start.

[@nana820able]

You're an inspiration and an amazing woman.

[@mazieswift1683]

My Ex-husband said the same to me, "I would never make it". --- Well, Ive made it on my own 12 years, single and alone. Its not always easy but we find ways to survive and then we thrive. ...... And yes! I Love love thrifting and clearance-ing. And now FB market is my new fav. * Merry Christmas Ladies! *

[@eileenmcnamee8991]

Sara, do you know the last words my husband said as I left? Not, "I love you, you are the love of my life, How do we fix this....." Nope. It was, "who is going to take care of me??? As in laundry, cleaning, social calendar, etc. Sheesh.....

[@trishalivingston1051]

My ex said the same thing. Funny thing is it was me rescuing him and his 4 children, from my savings and work.

[@beverlysatterfield6598]

@Sara Ortiz Talents and gifts can change your life! So proud of you!

[@lianeabeyta4515]

this is probably way to long but its a poem my mother had in her kitchen cabinet, and after she passed I now at 70 live alone and have it in mine. She lives alone I heard him say' who sadly cast a glance my way It must be hard when day is done To set the table just for one What does she do when twilight falls All alone within those walls Its such a shame shes missing out On what the world is all about I paused a moment in surprise Then turned and gazed into his eyes And felt a pang of sympathy For those who look but do not see Within each soul God puts a spark Of purest hope that lights the dark And each life however small The faith to muddle through it all To reach the door and turn the key And know he's waiting there for me With time for thought And time for prayer How light the burdens that I bear And though I set a place for one' He's with me til the meal is done And evermore and constantly I have the Lord for company

[@learnbyheart7]

....okay, now I am crying...I so love this poem...A place for One. Thank you.

[@lauramclaine504]

Beautiful I am in tears. Thanks for sharing this!

[@kaycee625]

Now I’m weeping! That’s the most beautiful poem

[@LittlePoet]

So beautiful.....so full of love

[@irmabazan4974]

@@learnbyheart7 I cried with LittlePoet video and now I am crying after reading this poem. Tears of happiness. Thank U for sharing.

[@sharonmardis4920]

So many things you talked about I can identify with. I am now 74 and live alone for many yrs. The pandemic turned my life upside down. I used to work out at the Y 3 or 4 times a weel, go to church, go to senior center, see many friends. Now I am so used to doing nothing, I lost my momentum. So thak you for opening my eyes. My life is in my hands, it's what I make of it. So tomorrow its back to church. This week back to the gym. I will get my life back. You, my dear Susan. are a light in this troubled world. Bless you

[@mazieswift1683]

Age 68 me too. This pandemic is much worse than I imagined 18 months ago. - I feel like well never get back to the Y and church.

[@carolbusse5803]

Single and alone at 68. I am not lonely, yet I deeply miss the tremendous love that I was wrapped up in throughout my 35 year marriage with my husband. Oh, how he truly loved the ones , the family we made, fervently, he surrounded each one of us with a strength I cannot put words to. I lost him suddenly in 2015. There's no "preparation" for abrupt loss. Then, I lost myself until Spring 2021. Completely numb and withdrawn. I am just recently coming out of that cocoon I've been wrapped in since losing the great piece of me that disappeared with him. I was a fortunate woman to have experienced a complete love like that. Your channel has truly helped me to leave the safety of that cocoon of separating from the world. How do I thank you? You have given me a gift of gingerly entering "life" once again. I'm forever grateful.

[@rrhines3151]

I can empathize with your words. This community does help, though, doesn’t it?! Our world has changed and perhaps if we might view this as a new adventure, it will help us to navigate

[@jimmielynn6829]

Carol I feel your pain. I lost my wife 4 years ago tomorrow. She was the very strength of our family, our daughter and two grandsons. Your absolutely right, there is preparation for a loss of one you love. We were married for 46 years and knew each other eight years before that. It does feel like like a cocoon. Thank GOD for my daughter. And I have to remind myself she has a family and life to live. My wife left a big hole and why wouldn’t it 54 years is a lot memories. Thank you for sharing your story. As a man I don’t get on here to often but I do because she is full of positive thoughts and a brief of fresh air. Take care, happy to see your doing much better.

[@reflect4627]

Hi Carol, loosing a soulmate in this life is a real shocker. You had the rug under you pulled away. It is a deep deep sorrow, loss. But life goes on, even though you had a few years to come out of this emotional shock and eventually start to claim back little bits of life, starting to rebuild. You are on the right track to be grateful for the loving experience you had, not everybody are blessed with this. With time you will start to see life has some beautiful moments worth living for. You are not alone in your experience. This is great place for people to share and feel connected to each other. It is healing to share, to know there are humans out there that have gone through the similar experiences. Continue to heal and come back to life, many of us are waiting for you. Lots of love to you.

[@patticakesintexas]

Beautifully worded

[@bibicheknauf4163]

We are such a huge family: lost my husband 2 weeks short of our 50th anniversary. No children. We have had an amazing love story, kind of a fairy tale which makes the loss even harder. But, I try to stay positive and concentrate on the (famous, as they say) memories. The Holliday season is a wonderful time for so many people and, it SHOULD be that way but, for some of us, it’s a BITCH😩. Let’s all think about each other’s and, hopefully it will help us go through those few weeks with a warm heart knowing we are not alone🙏

[@lynngliottone2812]

I was in a horribly abusive relationship for 18 years. I finally found myself again and got OUT. Now at 66 I have been by myself for almost 20 yrs. I live with my Labrador Brody in a small home in the country, in peace.

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

Or u marriad ❤❤😍🌷

[@marieselders1455]

This had to be the most touching video ever! I became a teen mom, married the dad, and had my second son before I was 20. After 30 years of a difficult marriage we divorced and I ended up broke and in debt (his debts which he skipped on) and I had to pay off. I was close to 50 and had to start over alone. I fortunately had a job but could only buy groceries with my last paycheck of the month. Many nights I only had vegetable soup for dinner. I eventually met a lovely man and we dated for many years but never married. He passed away 7 years ago and again I am alone. I am now 72 but I am proud that I have been able to rebuild my life emotionally and financially. Your message is a blessing to many. Much love to you and Desi.

[@LittlePoet]

That is an amazing story...you have had such a good life nad 72 is young....I wonder what is next for you! xo Thank you for being here Marie! xo Susan

[@joycealdrich]

One day, I was a stay-at-home Mom, and, in a moment, I was all alone... such a long, hard, story,...

[@nanci6134]

But your still here!!!

[@beam8250]

Feel free to open up and share some more. It may be helpful for others like myself to hear...

[@jenniferm5486]

A close relative recently said. "We don't move on, we move forward."

[@LittlePoet]

That is beautiuful Jennifer!

[@annhenry3135]

I like single and alone. The only mess in my home is one I created. I eat what I want, watch what I want, go to bed when I want, decorate as I want, and have company when I want. My neighbor is not happy and single as she had a wonderful husband. (He passed away.)I had a terrible husband so peace is precious to me. I do not want to replace him. I think the secret to happiness is counting your blessings and know that God is always teaching us. When the Hebrews complained about perfect manna in the desert, God taught them a painful lesson. Best to focus on the lesson we are to learn and the many rich blessings sent our way.

[@seventhchild7270]

Ann Henry....Wow!....I feel the same way!...Really appreciating my blessings!..My .children grown, married doing very well, 6 grown granddaughters doing well, I'm healthy, fit, spirtual, debt free, downsized my life, BUT live a nice, simple, healthy life..

[@annhenry3135]

@@seventhchild7270

[@jillangelo6039]

Loss is bad enough, but coupled with rejection is a total heartbreak. I just lost my husband of 50 years and am now all alone, no children or grandchildren, just me and my little Yorkie. It’s so difficult trying to cope living solely on SS and at my age (81) it’s no cakewalk. Makes me wonder how other women in my position, younger or older, are able to get by. Do we try to get jobs for extra income? How do we all get by? I guess it’s got to do with outlook, too. So…while I’m alive, I’m going to live! You are not alone, dear ladies, I’m praying for us all.

[@leopardappygirl]

I was a single mom working 3 jobs to support my daughter and myself. She left home when I broke my leg. She was 16 and she never looked back. She's now 37. I grieve her every single day. She has 3 children now. I miss her every day. I wish my heart would stop hurting so much.

[@jillh7403]

I'm so sorry for your pain. You are strong.❤️

[@LilyGazou]

Where there is life, there is hope. Those children may look to see you one day. And a leopard appy is a joy.

[@LilyGazou]

@aNgÉlica dEl ciELo spend as much quality time with her as you can. Go camping and hiking, share books, remember to listen actively.

[@KerryLeighBrett]

I understand you but you also deserve to be happy

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

I love u Really I like u I m single 😍❤🌷

[@dougrandall937]

As a man,it was difficult to lose my physical ability to provide and end up on early pension at 37.Been alone since then.Year and a bit until 60 pretty much used to it now.It's the sound of emptiness that claws at me at night.That is the hard part.

[@merrildegroot7862]

Hey Doug, great to hear from a man. I often wonder about the men out there who have also not had great experiences, and their loneliness. Especially as men of a certain age tend not to share. Know that you have found new friends here. Susan is such a rare beauty. Desi is great too! Keep your heart happy and grateful. God Bless.

[@dougrandall937]

@Debbie Will do...thank you.

[@pameehanson3866]

Not often talked about is the one who is a caregiver to the other person in our life. For the past 25+ years the love of my life lives with me but he is not the man I married. I am so grateful for the days when he has a spark of memory and shares a moment, then it's gone. About 3 years ago or so I found your channel and wait for the messages you share with followers. The biggest source of inspiration and hope is to read these comments that people share with you and us. Thanks so much for teaching us to get up and dress up and put lipstick on that smile. Love and Blessings to you this holiday season.

[@wandalanders8700]

Pamee Hanson , I share your life...married 51 years and have been through so much in this life. I am now caring for my husband who has dementia. He was a work alcoholic, I couldn't wait for the day when we could spend time just being together. Yes, his body is here and sometimes as you say I get that spark in him that wants to tell me about something in the past , and he tells it over and over ! But, at least , I have that. It is so hard to be with someone and yet your not ! I call it the land of the living dead. he is happy just as long as I am with him 24 hours -7days a week. I feel like I have become a mother, not a wife. My heart goes out to you and I wish you all the best. All my friends have died and my family lives 700 miles away, but I can do this. God bless you and Happy Holidays

[@sabine3769]

I understand. Caregiving feels like the loss of my own life and being.

[@kasey5973]

I lost everything at 32 years of age....everything....except my parents. I was crippled with pain. I could not stand, sit or walk. I went all over the world, with no help. I was married at that time. My husband called me up and told me I had to leave. Had I not had my parents, I would have been homeless. I wanted children, family, a career. I lived in a bedroom in a fetal position. I am now 64. In the last 2 years, I FINALLY got the medical help I needed. I had my last surgery 3 months ago and I am almost 100% pain free and functioning. I am being given a second chance at life.I can assure you, I am not going to throw away a minute. Thank you so very much for this inspiring message.

[@pamcornelius9122]

I lost my husband of 41 years very suddenly and unexpectedly on August 10th. He was truly my better half and lived his life to make our family’s life easy, always showing unconditional love and grace. He was only 61 and we didn’t get to enjoy retirement together like we had planned for. It’s difficult to find a purpose in life without him. My 40 year old daughter blames me for every mistake in her life and has turned her back on me. I’ve never lived alone before. I’m going to church again and finding hope in the Lord. Your words “we can all get through it” are encouraging. Blessings to you and Desi.

[@LilyGazou]

Those are both sad losses. I wish I could send you flowers.

[@VJAqui]

The presence of Jesus can so fill your life that you wouldn't feel lonely or sad

[@pamcornelius9122]

@@VJAqui This is so true. Thank you.

[@VJAqui]

My precious hubby died at 64 + hadn't yet made will. The Lord spoke to my heart to leave everything for his grown children. So I walked away from it all. I have no children. At first things were difficult, but I kept tithing and believing God. The Lord spoke to a few individuals to bless me financially in abundant ways. Today I can say truly the Lord is faithful. He also will help you to resist the grief. My hubby was a gentleman and fun. But I had to purpose to resist grief. Pray for others and ask God to make you a blessing to others. Also ask Jesus to fill you with Holy Spirit. The joy of the Lord is fulfilling. Blessings.

[@pamcornelius9122]

@@VJAqui I really needed to hear this today. God is indeed faithful. May the Lord continue to bless you and keep you from harm.

[@janefriel6895]

Having been married for 37 years and now single for 3,i much prefer single life. I don't know any happily married couple, infact most are miserable. It takes courage to live alone. I love my own company. No one needs a second person to validate who they are.Fill your heart with the love of your children, grandchildren. It feels amazing.

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

Hi ❤❤

[@cats2ish]

My daughter and I have a strained relationship plus she lives in Europe with my now adult grand children. I will probably never see either of them. So I have resided myself to being alone. My husband after a 48 year marriage is telling me he wants a divorce. So, I ask myself, what the hell, you buy a clasic corvette, you get some attention because of said corvette and now you throw me to the curb. I am determined to servive.

[@sunshinehaydeeify]

Ahh… this reminded me when I didn’t even had money for a cup of coffee at McDonald’s. I would save my cup and waited inside and had my cup refilled! It was hard I didn’t have money for insurance tags but I knew that my Savior would get me Thu. I didn’t have a jo but I tutored people how to speak Spanish and some people who didn’t know how to read and the Lord bless me abundantly!! Little by little I got Thu! My advice take it one day at time, do the best each day and you will see! Blessings beautiful video!! As always!! 🎈❤️

[@LittlePoet]

oh yes.....you put that so beautifully....we remember those days when we were poor...a woman without money or position is so vulnerable but not fragile. We are so much stronger than we know...love to you and yours, Susan & Dez the singer!

[@sunshinehaydeeify]

@@LittlePoet 🎈❤️💋

[@GS-st9ns]

This comment is so beautiful and humbling. I can't imagine myself doing that, but who knows anything is possible in the big scheme of things in a positive way. I am proud to have read your comment even though it's made me feel a little bit sad.

[@catmama54]

Wow what a remarkable and very touching story. I never had kids but at 67 I so regret that very much as I really have no one. It’s lonely.You see everyone getting together for the holidays and I admit I’m so jealous. What keeps me smiling everyday are my 2 senior cats and yes they are my children whom I love so very much❤️

[@ritasanders7499]

I am alone too now at 62 so I will be with you mentally for the holidays. We will keep each other company 💗

[@catmama54]

@@ritasanders7499 aww that’s so sweet. I watch Hallmark Christmas movies which I love but wish I had family to be with

[@nanci6134]

Listen families come in many forms Yours are furry. Knit sweaters for dogs at spca. I do. Feels great giving gifts

[@graceb]

I feel sorry that you feel lonely. Hang in there dear lady. You sound very kind, and have given your cats love and a home, they are lucky to have you. Sending my best wishes to you. Have a lovely Christmas 🎄

[@sunshinehaydeeify]

Just remember your never alone! God is with you watching over you and over me! Find someone at a home care place and go visit someone God will put someone in your mind and path! If you ask Him!

[@joannvannek14]

Tears, I have never seen a video where separation/estrangement from a child has been addressed. I needed to hear this. You see/hear so many people enjoying their kids/grandkids, and you wonder, why me, why us. I went through it for 2 years, things are better now and I am grateful. I know that pain. Sending a hug to everyone out there who knows it too.

[@leeann6107]

Sending hugs back to you Joann.

[@joannvannek14]

@snowdrop Thank you for sharing. I will check out Dr J and YT. I wish it didn't happen to you too.

[@carolbusse5803]

Yes. Many of us truly know that singular, unique pain. Nothing at all compares.

[@nana820able]

I'm sorry for all of you that have gone through that kind of heartbreak. This happened to my brother and a close friend of mine. My heart hurts for all of you.

[@wildflowerwind6941]

I think this is one of your best videos. I have felt exactly the same. My husband died when I was 50 and our son was 11. My husband was the bread winner. Then had my son evaluated when he was 12 and they diagnosed autism. Family lived in another state. Struggle, struggle, struggle. Now my son is leaving college without graduating. The most I can hope for him is that he works a part time low wage job. I am 61 now and I expect he will live with me the rest of my life. This is not how I expected my life to turn out.

[@MidLifeSuperStar]

@wildflower wind - your son does not have to obtain a low-paying job because he did not finish college. There are many fields/job that a person needs specialized training or certification not a degree. Many community colleges have workforce programs that offer specialized programs. So many are starting over at 50, 60+ to focus on something new....including me. We can do this! God bless!

[@sweetcinnamoncottage7942]

Your comment touched me 😊 Please don’t settle with your son’s future career. There are many opportunities for him, and there are great adventures to come. 😊 My life came to a grinding halt, and after many tears, I pulled up my big girl pants 🥰 and decided that I was worthy of great things for my life and children 😊 Little steps first as it can be overwhelming but reach out as there is help and guidance. I wish you all the best 🙏 Wishing you and Your Son A Very Merry Christmas 🎄🌸🎄

[@mariabolt3881]

My girl is 20 and severely autistic. She will never work, her processing of language is very basic at a 31/2 year old/4 year old level. Her understanding is maybe a 10 year old, but even that can fade in and out of fantasy and reality. I don't know where she eill end up or who with. I just pray the home and people who eventually care for her are KIND and humane.

[@takecontrolbeauty6402]

You are so encouraging to so many ! You know I came from a domestic violence marriage and to get out was tough but I did it 9 years later and two little boys but I got out ! I had no education except I was a hairdresser! Back then it didn't pay much but I plugged along happy, safe and my kids were safe ! I was blessed that my mom and dad helped and I had an Uncle Pete who was my salvation for helping buy my boys with not only toys but food and warm coats ! I survived my boys survived ! Then I met my new husband Who was my son's baseball coach. I didn't even want him to play baseball but I heard a voice tell me that I needed to do this for my son he needed to be around male companions so I signed him up for baseball and the rest is history. I've been married to My hubby 48 years I was blessed ! But I remember those alone days afraid no money no food on the table and no car or transportation. But here I am 78, strong positive and healthy ! I have experienced many ups and downs in my life but I stood with two feet planted on the ground ! I lost a son but unfortunately he passed away this August and talk about pain! Wow! I guess we can lose our children in many ways and carry hope they will return ! I would have rather lost him that way than death! I pray for everyone here to stay strong positive and keep goals no matter ur age and by all means be the best version of yourself ! Love you Susan ! Barb ❤️

[@jackpetersen7545]

Take Control Beauty,You look cute 🌷🌹

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

Hi ❤❤❤❤

[@finallychristine]

Oh, Susan. What a powerful video. You’re more than a creator-you’re a true luminary. I especially loved your reference to looking at the same stars and sky as your son. When my daughter was young and would go on trips with her father I would tell her to look up at the moon and know that I would be looking at the same moon and thinking of her. She’s 26 now (the youngest of my 5 kids-the 4 others are sons) and she still talks about it. Thank you for a beautiful video. ~Christine

[@LittlePoet]

Your kind words just amaze me...thank you so much for being here...yes, the same sky...it makes me feel we are all connected...:) love to you! xo Susan

[@janadickey4378]

Yes 🙏

[@doloreslott7135]

Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could have a lot less Real Housewives on TV and more Real Life. A show that could speak just like these UTubes to all the real life challenges, experiences, hopes and dreams along with shared knowledge on how we all get and got through this things called life? There has got to be a lot more of us out there totally unaware of this bond and comoraderity we all share. Bless You and Your Courage Little Poet.

[@LittlePoet]

I think you are 100% right Dolores....I sometimes wonder...who are those folks that give cars to each other when so many I know can't afford peanut butter and the jelly in one week....Love to you always, Sues & Dez

[@seaglasskaz6314]

Couldn't agree more!!!!!! Xx

[@christinadaggett6024]

I love that idea, of a community where we could share our life experiences.

[@annhenry3135]

When I watch those silly, fake rich women, I am thankful that I do not live around people that shallow. I believe very little of what I see and wonder what has happened to them in their lives that makes them want attention so badly that they will make fools of themselves to do so. I agree with you wholeheartedly!

[@myozbubble]

Real life would be too boring for TV watchers. They have to have over the top drama. And, watching someone else's drama keeps them from dealing with their own drama. Those shows are watched as if they were real life. But, they are not. I don't watch them because my boundaries keep me far away from train wrecks; IRL, TV & social media.

[@Amy-hs1qe]

I'm married living with my husband but have been "alone" for decades. I'll be leaving him in a few months and I feel hope, something I've lived without for too long. I'll have to work on my regret of staying this long and all the lost years and what could've been if I'd left when I was younger.

[@valeriemeza4080]

Amy I’m currently in the same situation. I’m 47 and I have regret of wasting many years . Hope all is well ❤

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

I like u Really I m alone 👧👧😍😍❤❤🌷🌷

[@geraldinebowbia5176]

Love ❤️ the decorations I did my house so beautiful 🤩. I love all different Santa Clause and nutcrackers. I put up twinkle lights like you have. My dear friend I lost my son. It took me a long time to go on with my life. The pain is unbelievable. Devastating 😢😢😢. I divorced my husband after that. I am alright being alone. I am divorced 34 years and still breathing. It’s the power of the mind. I had nothing and started from scratch. You can do anything you want if you set your mind to. I had everything. But did I really. I wasn’t happy. My son gave me the strength got my smile back and moved on. Alone can be powerful. Women don’t be afraid you can do it.

[@dawnenegrin5366]

So sorry , I also lost my son, keep the faith.

[@learnbyheart7]

I love that statement "alone can be powerful." It truly can be so.

[@iceprincessone7168]

Thank you for this heartfelt video, In so many ways I can relate. My first husband of 2 years was very abusive. A year after our divorce he took his own life. Luckily we did not have children. Got married again but that also ended after 20 years in divorce. We are ok though and both of us show up at every daughters and grand children birthdays and X-mas. We had two wonderful girls and now 3 wonderful grand children. As I live in Scandinavia I could support my self after the divorce and now almost 20 years later, at 68 I am ok financially and have my dream home. I do not have many friends though and I am a bit of a loner. Most of the time I like that but lately a growing feeling of loneliness has been creeping up on me as my retirement is approaching. I don´t know how to go out and meet new friends or bother with a man. Sitting alone on my couch for the rest of my life scares me though. Sorry for how long this is but thank you ever so much for telling us your story. It calmed me and moved. Life is good and we just have to make it our own I know. Hopefully I will find a way. Forgive my English and God bless you.

[@rhonda6791]

These suggestions may seem obvious but perhaps looking at your retirement as an opportunity that you can start preparing for from now. You don’t have to have a huge social life but look into some of your interests, if it’s reading you can join a book club or a gardening class. Sitting on the couch alone is not fun. But volunteering somewhere is. Think about the different things that’s available, it’s your new life that’s starting. Good luck.

[@elsiesalas4673]

I'm single and alone at 64. My girls have their own life. My Ex- husband is the only person that still calls me every day. Have been in counseling for several yrs now. However, I pray every day and have lots of hope and faith that I will have what I have longed for many years now. At times the loneliness is so real. However, something I have learned is that it's never to late to start all over again, no matter what age. Thank you for your videos, they help so much. 🥰

[@wandalanders8700]

I guess his calling everyday is good ? But, it is a way to keep you from moving on. I will be 70 soon and have never been so alone as now ! Always had a house full of people, I have my husband but, he is more like a child I care for now. He has dementia and it is getting harder everyday. God bless and keep you. I wish you joy and happiness !

[@marguerittetwinkle3624]

Girl, if he calls you everyday, he's probably still in love with you and waiting to have a new chance...😘

[@blueseptember2174]

Why does he call everday?

[@parisbear1818]

Self reliance is key to life. You never know what will happen. Start young regardless of whether you are home maker or outside the home.

[@jackpetersen7545]

Paris Bear,You got a lovely smile 😊

[@LoveFlatfootin1]

Agree 100%. Important to have your own job and your own money whether you're in a relationship or not. My priority was always to live comfortably in old age by working as long as possible, making saving a habit and investing wisely.

[@jenniferthehappymaverick]

I totally agree!

[@cindyauton4859]

I been alone alot of my life. Been in a couple marriages that didn't last long bc alcohol. Have 2 son's, so now I'm getting ready to turn 62 Monday. Since my health went down hill this yr. I don't have much of a socialize. And that hurt bc I love people and going places. I love you and happy for you Susan 💛

[@ruthmarynelson2274]

This is my life too.

[@kzf8978]

Happy birthday Cindy🎂

[@LilyGazou]

May you have a wonderful birthday. ❤️🌺

[@ruthmarynelson2274]

@@LilyGazou Thank you so much 🙏💜

[@jenniferm5486]

I'm literally crying- this is so touching.

[@jackpetersen7545]

Jennifer M,You got a lovely smile 😊

[@denisebrown4933]

Thank you for sharing so much of and about yourself, Susan. You didn’t have to tell us about Home Depot, or the son you’d lost at 15 and I so admire your courage in doing so. You’ve helped to make it safe for women to say, “Look, this is the real me. All I’ve been through and every choice I’ve ever made brought me to this moment as the woman that I am today. And I am fabulous in all my flawed perfection!”

[@gabrieledrewery5910]

6 weeks ago my daughter announced she and her family no longer want a relatiinship with me. I cried every night. Finally I have a mantra, Let go, let God. I say that a lot and it doesn't work all the time but it is helping. Her father, my husband, has been sick for 30+ years and we lost our house and everything in it to a fire last year. But sonehow we continue. I have a hard time understanding how family can abandon you like that! We did everything for my elderly parents. Times sure have changed. It's all about boundaries now and " what I need in ny life"!

[@LilyGazou]

This makes my heart hurt even just reading this. I’m sending you love. I wish so much that my mother was still on this earth. Don’t give up hope. Her heart may open up one day.

[@ninajohnson6578]

This was brilliant. I just keep telling myself I have made it through tough times and I will make it again…somehow.

[@suzanne296]

Nina keep going! Never give up.

[@connielouhoo]

I have a son that I had not seen in 20 years so I ended up on his doorstep. I did not reconcile our relationship but I at least know I made the effort and I got to tell him I love you son. He is 51 now.

[@geraldinebowbia5176]

One more thing. I have a beautiful daughter grandchildren. Never lose your smile. I never show anyone I am depressed it’s not a good thing. Ladies you don’t need a man to move on with your life. Make a log and keep writing ✍️. I did and trust me it works. My son helped me also I would hear him say mom you can do it. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@debmarrett212]

What a touching video! I'm sure i wasn't alone in shedding a few tears when you shared your story about your son. Blessings to you and Desi from Midas and me!

[@joyce7520]

No you weren’t the only one shedding a tear. 😊

[@LittlePoet]

Thank you so much Deb for being so kind...:) IT's so good to see you! Happy weekend, Sues & Dez

[@pennysue8926]

I'm drying my tears... what a beautiful video Susan. There is one thing I would like to share here, and I think this video is a good place to share it. I realize that there are so many women hurting from failed relationships and loves... and all the alone-ness that comes with that separation. One pungent thought keeps with me, because I have personally experienced it in my younger years in a long-term relationship. This thought is: A heart and soul can feel as completely alone (as so many others who have seen the demise of their love and marriage) whilst being in the very middle of their relationship. You can be with someone... in a committed relationship... and still feel 100% completely and utterly alone. So thankful for the joy and smiles that Desi brings to your tales. A wonderful balance. So thankful you "rescued" each other! Match made in heaven! Hugs to you both... Penny

[@carolekellypearce1667]

Susan, that was beautiful. Thank you for your story and I'm so thankful your son found you! Within a 15 month time span, I lost my husband of 42 years to early onset Alzheimers and my youngest son to complications of type 1 diabetes/flu. It was the hardest and saddest time of my life. But I have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, and He has and continues to help me get through each day. And I trust Him because He says I will see my loved ones again. So I would say "Try Jesus". He will lift you out of that hole of despair and give you hope.❤️

[@LilyGazou]

❤️

[@sirtedricwalker2979]

AMEN!

[@janetsalter9606]

Two losses in my life. The love of my life passed 10 years ago and a fiancé to suicide 2 years ago. It took me a little while but because of my faith, a girlfriend and a great son I am doing great now! With men sometimes comes drama. I'm happily single now and don't need a man to complete me. Life is good!!!👍

[@pattyallen5313]

Thank you, Susan, for once again sharing your heart with us. I am 66 like you and living alone. I lost my dear, sweet husband 6 years ago of a sudden heart attack and brain bleed. We were married for 41 & 1/2 years ; when I was just 18 and he was 24. I still cry more often than anyone could ever guess but I do lead a full life with my art, 2 children and 9 precious grandchildren. It has taken me years to find out who I am without him by my side and now I certainly am not the woman I was before I lost him. My daughter, more than my son, has had a hard time adjusting to the difference in me but I know she loves me so much and she just hates to see me alone and worries about me withdrawing from others, which I truly am not. More than anything, it would be a blessing for others to simply be proud to see us living alone and making a new life for ourselves.

[@LilyGazou]

You are showing her the way- a good example.

[@joycealdrich]

Your vids are superbly photographed, Susan!

[@TheBeautygarden]

You will help so many women with this video. Thank you, your love for us just pours out of you.

[@LittlePoet]

I do love you all so much...you made me so happy when you said that...I do want it to show and shine...! xo Sues

[@jennyritzman9954]

Susan you are such a special person and an inspiration to me for the kind of woman I would like to be when I get older. I am 42, no children by choice, and I left my ex husband in 2010. I lost who I was and I was miserable with myself. I moved back to my hometown with literally a dining room set and no bed, no couch, a pot and 1 pan to cook with, and got my own small 1 bedroom apartment. I took my job with me but after commuting 4 hours a day in a car to get back and forth I had to quit my job and take a job close to home. Finances and food were hard and I slept on a mattress on the floor for a year until I finally could afford my bed. Flash forward to now 11 years later I love the woman I am. I got a better job I have had for almost 10 years and I am happy with myself and no longer crying myself to sleep. I have been in a relationship for the past 5 years whom I met online. We make the choice to make our life better. We have that power and as a woman I have that power to dream big! Thank you Susan!

[@cathyhermanson10]

I cried and cried over your story about your son, Susan. Thank you for sharing with us. I have had money and no money at all. Becoming a Christian helped me with it all. If it had not been for that, I do not know where I would be. I have had friends leave me, too. But, I let them go. If they truly love us, then that is a friendship. If we are not what they think we should be, then that is not love or friendship at all. By the way, It's a Wonderful Life is my favorite Christmas movie. I just adore it. Every time you hear a bell ring, an angel gets his or her wings. Merry Christmas to you and Desi!

[@isabellaross1049]

Thank you for putting into words my story!

[@pamlamb892]

Love your videos. I am a widow with no children living in a town we moved to for retirement in 2013. No family close to me. Please keep making videos,they are such an inspiration to me.

[@joanellebracht5311]

I needed to hear these things today ... what a blessing. Thank you! 💜

[@jackpetersen7545]

Joan Ellebracht,You are beautiful 🌷🌹,Hope you are with a good man!

[@joanellebracht5311]

@@jackpetersen7545 thank you.

[@jackpetersen7545]

@@joanellebracht5311 You are welcome.I am Jack from USA 🇺🇸.You?

[@joanellebracht5311]

@@jackpetersen7545 yes also from the U.S.

[@jackpetersen7545]

@@joanellebracht5311 Wow!😊,are you on WhatsApp so we can always talk?

[@rosalindstanley5252]

Writing my poetry is something that gets me through the rough times When I feel there is nohope to life, which as a clinically depressed person I often do, I write and I feel that is a little something of immortality from me.

[@LittlePoet]

Happy Sunday Rosalind!!! It's always lovely to see your smile!!!

[@teresafendley5491]

So many things to relate too. I was a single mom at 37 with 3 children to continue raising. One full time job, a returning student to achieve my goal of a college degree, and two sometimes three part time jobs. Wow it was a roller coaster. I remember the first Christmas not being able to buy the nicest tree on the lot but taking the Charlie Brown one, we decorated it with homemade snowballs, made from cotton and styrofoam balls, hand strung popcorn, etc. you get the picture. It was a glorious day! So along comes the man of my dreams and with 2 teens and 1 preteen we marry and along comes our child, yep at 40 I had a new son. Life was a struggle but we did it. The love of my life passed almost three years ago and I start each day with pain in my heart. The loneliness is ongoing. I don't like being by myself but I am. Oh I have four children and two stepchildren but they are all scattered living their own lives as they should. The but, is the emptiness and the loneliness is there. Yes my friends have their lives, it is amazing once you are a single, imagined or real, you are the odd person out. I don't think family and friends do it intentionally but that is how I feel always the odd one out. Am I looking for someone, no, do I long for someone to share coffee with, yes. Do I do anything about seeking that one person who would be there to help overcome this loneliness, nope. I guess I want it all to fall into my lap!!!!! I am 78 years old and am trying desperately to overcome the obstacles that lie ahead. I like you have my constant little friend Sheldon, (mini doodle) who always knows when I am depressed or just sad I share this post because watching your videos I always find something to take away that pertains to just me and it is encouraging. I must say to this, when you find that one special person in your life who respects you and treats you as his equal, hold on and cherish each moment, life is short and ends in a blink of an eye, I know because he was gone very quickly. I am getting a bit windy now so I will close with thank you for introducing me to thrifting, money management, lifes struggles and the idea of hope. A very faithful follower...

[@carolsailer1395]

I was a single mom of 2 children at the age of 28, when my alcoholic husband left us. All I could think is who will want me... Found the first man & what a mistake...our marriage didn’t last long when I had to leave & divorce him.

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

I love love u so sooo much real and true 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍❤❤❤❤❤ I like u I m alone

[@cherries1952]

This was a beautiful video. I can’t imagine what heartache you had giving up your son at 15. The smart thing you did was write him letters. The beautiful thing is you have a relationship with him & his children. I never knew the joy of motherhood. My arms still ache when I see a child. I still cry thinking about children. I never thought of adopting. I think I was probably too old & not in good enough health to try to adopt.. life just didn’t work out the way I wanted. I’ve been estranged from my brother for 8 years. He’s had a lot of depression & not great health. Out of the blue 2 weeks ago he called. He has even worse health & also a bad memory. It was so wonderful to hear from him. He was in such good spirits. I can’t go see him. He’s unvaccinated & probably the people he lives with are also unvaccinated. I’ll just have to talk on the phone. Love you, Lucy

[@LittlePoet]

Oh Lucy I am so excited you talked to your brother!!!!! WOW!!! You're one amazing lady with such a gift with the written word....

[@lauriesmith561]

I want to have a little home with a postage stamp size yard. I don't know if it will happen. But I will try. Happy holidays.🌲

[@pollymorriss3001]

Like so many others I had a beautiful life until 2011 when I discovered my love left for an 18year old.we tried again but by then affairs were a new norm for him.i stared out good.got a job nursing.started dating,working live life but in 2016 things seem to slowly fall apart. My children decided they wanted nothing to do for me but called if they needed help or money. I was one 7 my last 2 siblings passed in 2019 and 2021. Now I have absolutely no one.covid has taken my livelihood and soc sec does even come close to have a home of my own.i had some friends that allow me to live in one of their bedrooms. It seems life really isnt worth living I wait all week to hear your sweet voice and see your handsome sweet Desi. Your videos help me to feel like a can visit a friend and sure the ups and downs with someone who understands. Have a beautiful, safe and peaceful week.until next week.

[@colquhountess5573]

Polly .... just wanted you to know I read this and I hear you ... hang in warrior sister ❤️❤️❤️... with love from Australia

[@LilyGazou]

It’s not for everyone- but life on wheels has a few bonuses. You can work as a camp host, for example.

[@susan5301]

I'm going threw a rough patch right now, almost a week ago I had to help my almost 17 year old pup cross the rainbow bridge. I am still shattered by this as she was my family. 😭I have no family either and this year is going to be especially difficult. Hoping everyone has a blessed holiday season.............

[@rhonda6791]

It’s very very hard to loose your furry friend, I’m sorry. But the thought of them crossing a rainbow bridge is a beautiful one. They are always in our hearts ♥️

[@annlagrande5963]

I'm so sorry you lost your precious pup. Take solace in the fact she was so loved by you.

[@LilyGazou]

That is so hard. Nothing prepares you for that particular grief. A friend who had a near death experience after falling in the ocean in Alaska said the dogs were the first to greet him on the other side- he walked up a hill and a relative told him-“ not just yet.” He was never afraid to die after that. So that comforts me- that I’ll see my horses and dogs again someday.

[@carriekibner4340]

I get you, ladies! Lost my Mom in 2015, my 36 year old son, nephew two years younger than my son in 2018. I'm 68 and God willing 69 this month. I was never able to grieve my mother's death due to family members who turned on me. That broke me. I was also all alone when my son passed away. Never got over that and probably never will. I got real sick beginning February of this year. Urinary tract infection that went through my body, and to my brain that I was hallucinating, which I don't remember. I quit eating, lost about 20 pounds from 110 pounds and spent 4 months in hospital and physical rehab. Depression started it all and I let it get so bad, I think I gave up. I have two sisters; one hates me the other I was extremely close to until Mom's death. She lives on East coast. I'm not working and don't intend to go back but retire. I raised a grandson from infancy and he is now 21. He moved to RI to live and meet his dad for the first time. He needs to live his life but he also moved when I needed him the most. I know I said too much but I have no one to talk to. God Bless everyone!

[@jerseystotler3615]

I had to isolate myself from everyone for awhile Now I am going to turn into a beautiful butterfly when I come out of my cocoon 💖 Also my only child has not spoken to me in 7 years I am glad she has a beautiful life and 4 beautiful children, my grandchildren !!

[@lauramclaine504]

I love Butterflies you fly high and pray your Daughter will come around prayer for you!

[@Marys-Channel]

🦋 I just wrote a song 'Butterfly' ".....He never sleeps. He just stops for a rest. His life is short. But, he Lives it to the very Best!!!" Ukulele Butterfly 🦋 That's what I'm doing! Tick-tock goes the clock. I'm making the best of what God has given me. I lost 'everything', 'everOne' and my health. Like the butterfly, I had to learn how to nibble and learn how to crawl before I could Fly!....High! Things change Everyday! I'm not the same person as I was when I was 12!!! Change can be challenging. But, it's good. Even the crummy parts. That Butterfly 🦋 went through a lot to get those beautiful wings. You can have them too.*

[@loritaylor8126]

Wow! That is a beautiful song. I hope things start getting better for you soon.

[@Marys-Channel]

@@loritaylor8126 Thanks! Happiness is a choice.🦋

[@lauramclaine504]

@@Marys-Channel Beautiful 💕💕

[@eileenmcnamee8991]

Started over 4 years ago after 43 years of marriage. I left him. Took me a long time to recognize the gaslighting, the control, the verbal and psychological abuse I took for the past 10 years. I was scared to death, but I could no longer live the life I was living any more. There was no way I could live a possible 20 years more the way I was living. Took more courage that I never thought I had. But I survived, not only that, I am thriving. The collateral damage (from immediate family) was a more than I expected, but I survived. My self esteem is in check, I am living alone (and likening it). Pursuing hobbies and interests that were frowned upon and outright ridiculed when I was with him. But, Susan, PLEASE have a video dedicated to how you managed to navigate online dating. How do you structure the "tell us about yourself" profile? What did you honestly say that was your objective and what you were looking for? I have only met one man who was charming and decent, the others I have "met" where a total waste of makeup. Love you!

[@sharonholiday-jr8kk]

I know your comment was 2 years ago I just found Susan last week I love little poet. I have been viewing them and love them. So your comment hit so close to me. I've been married 44 years and will be moving on next year by myself finally. It's is a lonely marriage. So it's is preparing me for my life a head. Loved your comment. Moving on down the Road.. 🎈

[@southernrosetiadee]

I LOVE that you are forging a path at this point in your life. I know a lot of older women struggle with this transition because society, families and popular culture do not prepare us for these inevitable changes. Spouses die or leave, children grow older, bodies start slowing down, and there is no one out there teaching these realities. Our society deifies youth so it’s no wonder that navigating life solo/learning a “new normal” isn’t shared widely. So, to see you capturing your discoveries and wins is far more inspiring than you could ever know. You are doing a divine work, Susan ❤️

[@jaegirard8175]

I am grateful every day that you are here. It is really hard when your world is pulled it from under you. The hardest part is the internal self-doubt and the shock….the extreme disorientation. It’s like when you wake up in a hotel room then realize its not your bedroom….but its your life, not your room. And it’s months and years, not a seven day vacation. Your gentle positivity and reassurance keeps me grounded. Thank you.

[@LittlePoet]

Sending love to you Jae :)

[@juneghasemi7589]

Living alone is the worst a human can experience , I know , my beloved husband said , we should never as humans be left alone, how right he was, he passed away 3 years ago, I will never be the same ever, he feft me well ,financially, but my soul and heart are forever in a grieving state, loved him , sooo much❤️.

[@greatnation4328]

"Mother l am home".... sounds so soothing. Thanks again for sharing your own personal experience. It is an impactful sermon.

[@donnastephenson3865]

Susan, what a wonderful group of subscribers you have! I had the high powered career but illness took that away. The loss of money and position doesn't bother me as much as the people that I lost with it. Now I know they didn't care about the real me just the external trappings. Oh but those few that still stay by my side! They are so dear and wonderful to me. I am grateful everyday. Lots of love to your family, you, and sweet Desi. Hugs, Donna 🕊

[@corneillececil9437]

Thank you for sharing a part of your story. My husband got really ill nearly five years ago, subsequently we had to close our business, bankruptcy, lost most everything, became his caregiver, then found out I had cancer. Some days I felt like looking Heavenward to say , "REALLY??". Continued to weather the storms until we both caught COVID which took my husband's life and has had me recovering for months. During all that time I saw my 'friends' and business associates fade away as if we didn't exist...I suppose we were too painful to watch. But then there was these very tiny group of gals that really just hung in there, sending me a note/ a letter here and there, it has meant the world to me. My tiny friend group now meets once a month, on a Saturday for lunch at little inexpensive restaurants or in someone's home to stay connected, they , and my children, have helped me so much to continue living.

[@donnastephenson3865]

@@corneillececil9437 Thank you. My best to you for your continuing health and happiness. Glad you have those loyal friends and children. They make all the difference. Hugs, Donna 🕊

[@odileepps5533]

Thanks so much to share your experiences as a mother and a woman. I feel like I have a new friend. I really enjoy watching your show and it makes me feel good and more positive about life. Thank you. Have a nice weekend and I wish you the best. It's so wonderful how you found your son and it looks like he was ready to come home to his mom

[@M33773377]

Hi Susan You are such a Strong Sweet Lady. I lost my family too, my husband was abusive. I struggled for such a long time until I figured out I am the only one that can make myself happy. I now surround myself with positive happy people. God Bless you and Dream BIG🌺❤️ Desi is the Sweetest ❤️

[@viktoriapettypiece5953]

Thank you so much, I needed this today. We often have similar stories, and they have no boundaries. I live on a small island in the north Atlantic, and I can relate so much to these stories of all you strong woman,. I thank you all for your inspiration... and thank you Susan for your stories, your honesty , your truth and your sense of humour, I look forward every weekend to see you and Desi..take care ⚘⚘⚘

[@Rubiastraify]

Your comments about your son remind me of the Linda Ronstadt version of "Somewhere, Out There..." That song has also helped me through my single-ness many times. I'm divorced also, and I miss the joy of sharing my life with someone. So, sometimes it helps to think that he's looking for me, too. (my "someone"). What has carried me through the rough times is my sense of humor, my resiliency, my creativity, my curiosity. I had an "Ah HA" moment when I had successfully interviewed for a new job. I thought about how self-critical I usually am (I see all my faults), and usually feel inferior to others, and compared that to how I described or projected myself in an interview. I would NEVER say to a prospective employer, "Oh, I'm not that bright...I make a lot of mistakes...etc." NO! I showcase my skills, my expertise and my experience! So, now I "coach" myself differently. To paraphrase Dr. King, you don't have to climb the whole staircase at once, just take the first step. And, remember --- even those who climb to the top of Mt. Everest do it...ONE STEP AT A TIME. So yes, Dream Big!

[@Jacq-qv4yu]

To be able to pick yourself up when you fall, always look forward to tomorrow and to truly enjoy your own company are the most important survival skills you could learn.

[@cynthiamathew3036]

I am in tears listening to your beautiful story. I love you so much!!

[@MsHope99]

I just found you. I'm stunned by your honesty and your optimism. But mostly, I'm stunned that there isn't a line of smart men knocking at your door. Thank you for sharing.

[@PATRA81]

At age 65, my husband of 30 years I had found I never knew at all. He betrayed me for years unknowing and more in the nearest. In ways too dark and bad to say. I honestly never deserved any of his behavior.I lost my home, my parents, my dog, insurance and funds. I used food lines . I started over and felt for past 5 years completely shattered. God is mending and rebirthing me. I am no longer that lady. I am wiser , confident, braver and stronger woman. I’m sad still to not share dreams and no longer have dreams or goals. I do enjoy each today. Yet I am so far better than the old me in those circumstances prior. I must say, I thank you and appreciate you. It encourages me.

[@TheKatherine1958]

Such a beautiful and touching video Susan. Thank you! …and that handsome little Desi! He’s so perfect! I get through my life one second at a time. If I start to worry about something I tell myself: “not now. If you need to worry about this you can do it between 3:00 PM & 3:15 PM” (or whatever time). Chances are I forget to worry during that time. Don’t change Susan! You’re such a blessing!

[@shelbyholden7562]

Just like you, I found myself alone and single at 55. I bought a little Cape Cod-style home through FHA, and my grown children loved it and called it a dollhouse. I've since found that an apartment is better for me, as I lost a lot of money on repairs and etc. on the house. I was reasonably attractive and wanted to marry again. I was engaged once to a man I'd come to love, but the situation wasn't Ideal and I broke it off. I SO relate to you and have a lot in common with your creativity and your wonderful hopes and dreams. . Now I'm 81 (but look younger) and Superman still hasn't found me, but I don't care. I' m happy in my one bedroom apartment, I'm not dead, so Superman may still come. I'm still young in my mind, weigh about the same and have but few wrinkles!. Thank you for being so honest and sharing so much of yourself to all us "sisters".

[@penelopepivots3156]

I laughed, I cried, I fell in love with you even more!💞 what a heart warming video this was! What a loving community this is!💖I'm so grateful to you Susan, you warm the world with your love!🥰

[@gigi1332]

Thank you Little Poet. I needed this SOOOOOO MUCH. I am now Alone and sad after 64 and it's horrible. This gives me hope. I once had EVERYTHING. Together with your family here we can get past this. Thank you

[@LittlePoet]

Hello my dear friend!!!! Happy Sunday!!

[@gigi1332]

@@LittlePoet Hug Desi for me 💞🙏 🐕💞

[@nancyfarias3985]

One of your most beautiful videos ever. Wish I would have had someone like you to listen to 34 years ago when I first divorced and started my journey as a single mother of two daughters, age 2 & 4 years old. I have a wonderful relationship with them, but listening to your message now, it certainly would have helped me through the day to day struggles of my single life.

[@sheilam7587]

Susan I'm so happy that you are willing to share your life with all of us. How wonderful that your son found you! Hope you Desi have a great week.

[@jackpetersen7545]

Sheila M,You got a lovely smile 😊

[@homehelpheart7440]

I think believing in myself has helped me get through some tough times. I started life with very low self-esteem and that followed me clear up through my twenties probably into my 30s. And now, at 69, I am so the opposite. Authenticity is so important to me--being exactly who I am and saying what I mean. It is empowering to know myself and be myself.

[@LittlePoet]

Hey sweet friend...I agree with you about there being a good reason why some children can't have contact with their parents. I have lived this myself...I never let my Mother's brother off the hook for his abuse and I had no contact with him when I turned 30 and I have no regrets. I hope we can talk more about this...love you to the moon and back! Sues & Dez

[@christinat.7171]

So glad for you in persevering through the tough times and reuniting with your son. Life can be so challenging at times. So many twists and turns. Usually unexpected. An old friend from childhood contacted me. And when we emailed each other all I could say was "Well, I'm still alive." Lol. Sometimes just staying alive is a big achievement. No one ever talks about that. When something happens and it changes the trajectory of your life. You give us such heartfelt, deep meaning talks. Thank you for sharing your life here. See you next time Susan❤❤❤

[@jackpetersen7545]

Christina T,You got a lovely smile 😊

[@prettymess1952]

Thank you. I’m 53. Recently divorced, alone. A little scared. Lonely. Your videos are a blessing.

[@annawhite2572]

I relate to being alone too!! 💔 Thank you Susan! You have a gift! Blessings!

[@jackpetersen7545]

Anna White,You got a lovely smile 😊

[@BetsAnderson]

Although I'm alone I have God. I always talk to Him, feel Him comforting me, being with me, loving me, providing for me. He is my best friend. He is an awesome God. Kind regards to you and sweet Dezi. From Johannesburg, South Africa

[@rosemaryburford7607]

Susan, life can be so darn hard and you have not had it easy..... yet you stayed strong and weathered the storm. I am so happy for you and the wonderful life you have built for yourself and little Desi. I am going to be making some big life changes soon and I hope that I am as strong as you. PS..... I am absolutely in love with Desi. ❤️

[@lolita748]

I wish that I can have the same courage as these wonderful women here. At least half a courage. Life has hit me in so many ways. I've fallen and gotten up, fallen again and got back up and when I thought that I had it all figured out BAM! fell all over again. I'm tired, but I'm standing again.

[@julieb2398]

I can relate. Some how some way, we stand up again. Taking one small step at a time. For me it seems as though when it rains it pours. Life gets better, we think we are doing well and boom, down we go again. We stand again, and try our hardest to start back with those little steps that are a little easier after the last fall. We can do this. I just KNOW we will do this. Brightest blessings.

[@soni05131]

Stay strong!

[@candacefife6763]

Me too…as soon as I think things are ok I get thrown another curve ball. I’m only 65 but I’m so exhausted. I was also one of the workers included in the great resignation. My job was so toxic and with Covid and the isolation I knew I had to stop. Now what 😬

[@lolita748]

@@candacefife6763 All we can do is hold on and try our best to stay strong. My best wishes for you and a great hug from me to you.

[@nicoleelbin9701]

I'm only 26 but the fear you explain about making it on your own as a woman in today's day and age, especially post-pandemic, is very real. Whenever I doubt myself or my future, I think of your videos fondly and only hope that I will age half as gracefully and beautifully as you have, Susan.

[@ritaking8827]

I simply love you (not in a creepy stocker way) but in the way, thank God I found you, and your channel. You my dear, are a true treasure.

[@LittlePoet]

Big Sunday Hug Rita!!!

[@lauracicero-miller3238]

Wow just Wow, yes, I have had to rebuild my life a few different times. I have lost 4 of my so called friends as well. I started to put up some boundaries , lost weight , quit my job, starting working on myself. Watch out for jealous friends !! One by one there true colors came out.

[@lightbearer3643]

Dream one size too big, love that! Beautiful Susan you have done well in life you turned the page to begin a new chapter of self sufficiency. What does not break you makes you stronger. Look at you now your a role model on life showing others how you navigated through hard times and succeeded. Prioritizing the right to look after and nurture oneself without apology. Speaking from the heart of truth to dear friends, family and others with the intention to come to a place of understanding. Glad your son got to read all those letters it helped him understand and love you even more. Thankyou Little Poet we love you too!!!

[@cynthiagiles3178]

Thank you so very much..I too have had a life of suffering. So much suffering. I lost my daughter also because I was not as up scale as her and her husband wanted me to be .I cannot see my granddaughter and so much more..I was a good mom and did not deserve that but anyway..love the sharing on your site..God be with us all !!

[@teresamacey7039]

I want to thank all of you for sharing a part of yourselves with all of us. All of you have been an inspiration to me. What I am attempting to do at my age is unusual and sometimes I think slightly insane. In 18 months I should have a degree in Human Services and hope to help women such as all of us and those who are coming out of prison who are starting different lives than the ones we knew for so long. Let's pray for each other and that we will each find our own path.

[@LittlePoet]

Count me in that prayer circle Teresa!

[@jenniferthehappymaverick]

Good for you!

[@PaleOpal21]

Reading these comments and you Susan give me hope. I'm 52 years old and at this point I feel things will never get better. I lost my job, have depression/anxiety, had nervous breakdown, filed bankruptcy, my 94 year old mom had a heart attack from being overdosed on blood pressure medication that she didn't need by her doctor. No husband, kids or friends. Just my mom. I feel like things will never change.

[@sandraking956]

Sending you a hug pale opal. I hope that things begin to turn around for you. There is always hope and some light on the darkest days. Look to the light. 💗

[@em1503]

I feel exactly the same. Can't see the light at the end of this tunnel at the moment. This time around probably due to age I find it hard to be hopeful

[@gailzchannel]

I'm very sorry. Sending you a hug and holding space in my heart for you for healing and strength.

[@suziet1925]

Wow Susan. What an amazing chat we all just had. That video should come with a warning - Tissues required! ❤

[@judithmitchell4667]

A beautiful, beautiful video Susan. So much truth in these comments. So much to think about in my own life. Thank you for sharing your life and perspectives. Thank you for making this a safe place to comment, listen and support each other. I hope you feel how much you are appreciated Susan. Have a lovely weekend. Blessings - Judith 🎭🎵

[@Kathy-20J-73]

Gosh. Tears Susie I am SO glad your son found you What a treasure those letters came to be Blessings beautiful lady As always thank you 💖

[@Cayuse2009]

I see similarities with you. I will be 66 in February. I was married 30 years, raised 3 sons, then my ex-wife got back into drugs after being sober for over 30 years and when I wouldn't give her money to support her habit, she filed for divorce and took over half of everything. I am surprised she hasn't OD'd by now as it's been 2 years now. I was in shock for a while, but now have peace (she was a narcissist) as I am happy again. I believe you cannot be happy by yourself until you are happy with yourself. I had to reidentify myself as a single man and after being responsible for other people for most of my life, it's so freeing to be only responsible for myself. We all have only one life to live and it is just a little gleam of time between the eternities after birth and before death. Make the most of it.

[@lr6844]

Susan, I have so much enjoyed your videos for quite some time and I thank you for sharing your moments with me. You are like a good friend who is a wonderful addition to my life. When I was in my fifties, a very traumatic incident happened in my life. For a long time, I felt like I was just floating in my life; not really living....just kind of existing. I finally realized I needed to tune out everyone and everything that made me feel badly about my situation. I needed to move on and that meant losing a lot of weight, getting out of my chair and going back to what I did in my youth to make myself happy; which meant I became active in my life again. I could not just sit idly and watch the world go past me any more. I began by going to the library and reading books and joining book clubs again. Of packing up our old tent and going camping on weekends enjoying nature once more. Of fishing again.....I had forgotten how much I loved to fish and truthfully, it was not the act of actually catching a fish, it was the act of being outside and smelling the clean fresh air and listening to the breezes in the trees. I dusted off my bike and began short rides around the neighborhood and then longer and longer rides. I noticed the more I stayed away from the computer (except to pay bills) and tv reality shows, the happier and more contented I felt. I am in my seventies now and although I no longer go camping by myself and no longer fish every week, I still stay away from the tv reality shows and am very selective on my computer activities. Thanks again for being such a sweet friend to us all.

[@LittlePoet]

I think this is amazing advice LR. People get caught up and don't realize they have lost themselves. What a beautiful thing to share..tapping into you again is inspiring to me! xo Susan & Dez

[@gardenroom65]

Same story, 16 yrs on I’m teaching around the world. Rely on yourself. No time to trust again.

[@dloveofgod8269]

So good to see you tonight Susan. You look so lovely & I see you hopeful and happy. Great advice & you help so many. I look forward to your videos every week. I love your twinkly lights & beautifully decorated home. You are an inspiration to us all. I do appreciate you sharing your heart and journey. God has turned this not only into a livelihood for you but a blessing for others. I am 4 years older than you and see a little of myself in you in some of my journey. My life changed dramatically several times and the last 360° turn illness led me to not be able to fix all things myself. I lost job, health, home, and little did I know I'd lose my family too by moving away. God's grace saved & has sustained me. I no longer have the things I wish I did but all my basic needs are met. I thank God for each new day just waking up. Not everyone has the privilege of making it to 70. So many precious women share the pain in their journey here and I say a prayer for them; though I don't share specifics I can relate to the deep pain & loss. Thank you for another video sharing your twinkle lights and the light in you. Desi is so adorable I wish you had the time to make a weekly video of the life of Desi.. God bless you and yours 💕.

[@candacefife6763]

Thank you for being an encourager instead of an influencer. It means everything to me. Exactly what I look for on KZbin. ❤️

[@manycats9943]

Thank you Susan for sharing these personal stories with us. It can't be easy. It's lovely to see you moving forward and making a new life for yourself. I learned to be self-reliant financially as a young adult and learned to never, ever rely on a man to take care of me. It was one of the best things I did for myself, and a lesson I taught my daughter as well. Women are still falling into this trap of thinking a man will take care of them and then are often left without money or support when the relationship ends. I've been through rough times in my life, including divorce, but at least I was always able to support myself and have a roof over my head in a house I bought myself--no boyfriend or husband involved! PS - Desi is looking adorable as always!

[@loriyearwood3059]

Your vulnerability made me cry, as I relate so much to starting over from nothing. I literally had nothing -- not even an extra pair of underwear. Today, nearly five years later, I live in a little on-bedroom apartment that I am working on "making pretty," thanks to your decorating videos! I bought the little modern lamp that you have (on Amazon) and I just love it. I think it was $24. I still don't have the circle of friends I wish I had, and honestly have no idea how to go about creating that community, as I live in a family-oriented city where everyone seems to have established lives that don't have room for anyone else. You have really pulled yourself out of a lot and I really respect when you share the details of it. Thank you!