Living in a care home: A positive outcome for a person with dementia

This video illustrates the value of high quality care homes for people with dementia. It highlights the key areas of improving quality of life and it shows what good care looks like. Learn more: www.scie.org.uk/dementia/supp...
The video shows a daughter’s dilemma. Her mother has dementia, but she has her own family to care for and cannot provide the amount of care that her mother needs. She recounts her mother’s life story and describes the reality of the effects of dementia since she was left alone following the death of her husband. There is a positive solution to her dilemma. Her mother moves to a care home which meets her needs and improves the quality of her life.
This video was first uploaded in 2012 as part of SCIE's dementia resources.

[@regietorbeso641]

She’s very lovely grandmother she always smile how i wish to go in london and care lot’s of grandmother like her…❤❤❤❤❤

[@vanessasimmons1175]

I worked in a Methodist home. A supposed not for profit charitable status, although the directors etc were on substantial salaries! The residents had to be self funded and when their money ran out their families were asked to find alternative accommodation if social services would not top up fees. I was disgusted.

[@amaliagrassi6870]

Oh my. How scary. 😪

[@LittleCharliesadventure]

Absolutely loved the video.

[@shaguftahussain6374]

a very enlightening video simply explained

[@patriciagruteke6033]

I found this very helpful 🙂

[@amaliagrassi6870]

I am so scared. This home seems unique. I've heard homes are terrible and frightening places and am so anxious about what may happen to my Dad should he ever require one. Also there is no mention here about how you pay for them. As someone on benefits I would not be able to pay. So what does this mean for Dad? That he would be placed wherever the council/social services tell us? This is all so scary.

[@janetfishwick8887]

My 93 year old mother has stage 4- 5 Alzheimers and has lived on her own for 31 years since my dad died. Mother has carers twice a day and is under Adult Social Care Services whose care package includes a cleaner hairdresser and chiropodist. Mother has a huge dislike for change and will not join in with any community events in Residential Homes. She is anti social to the degree that she only goes out shopping with my brother or sister once a week. Mother has been assessed for entry into a Care Home due to her decreasing ability to self maintain. We were told that in her present condition with a predominantly negative attitude and unwillingness to comply, she was not eligible for entry into the Care Home system. Mother would however, be considered entry into a home for EMI patients. Mother is presently in her own home but her mental health decreases rapidly and we have concerns for her safety. Social Services say that mother still has " capacity" to manage herself. They do not see as the challenging, stubborn and problematic mother that we do.

[@ed7519]

Janet Fishwick: What is an EMI patient and home?

[@janetfishwick8887]

@@ed7519 An EMI Home is for the Elderly Mentally Impaired. This is for people who have ongoing mental issues and require specialist help. My mother does not currently need this depth of help. It is her stubborn attitude and unwillingness to comply, which need addressing.

[@ryankeenan3374]

I feel for you Janet. My grandmother is approaching 87 and she cannot care for herself on her own. She doesn't want carers and won't accept any help from any of us. She has severe memory problems and can't remember what she has told myself, my mum, aunt and uncle what each of us are doing each week which means none of us know if either of us are to go shopping for her etc. It is becoming a real risk for her as she feels like she can fend for herself and cook her own food. Last year she forgot she had a chip pan on and it obviously caught fire, she threw this into her sink and the kitchen sink, blinds and ceiling were severely fire damaged as a result. I don't know what to do as every time she see's her GP she tells them that she is fine even though clearly she isn't and they just take her word for it.

[@janetfishwick8887]

@@ryankeenan3374 Hello Ryan. Good to hear from someone who has similar problems to mine. My now 94 year old mother is finally in a Care Home after a fall in June this year. Mother refused to go to hospital and after a significant decline some 2 weeks later, she was eventually admitted . Mother got Covid whilst there and spent 3 weeks in recovery. After being assessed by the Adult Social Care Services, mother was Dee Ed unfit to look after herself or her home

[@janetfishwick8887]

Mother was deemed unfit to look after herself or her home. So she remains in her Care Home, asking to be let out every time we visit. Mother will remain here indefinitely and we now, as a family, face the enormous problem of paying for her Care Home fees.