I honestly have a very bad social anxiety that I don’t know what my real personality is.
@gymtwins49495 жыл бұрын
This is something I struggle with too! It can be hard to find who you are/be proud of who you are when society highly favors extroverts. Just know you are not alone! I have a KZbin channel with my twin sister and we post some anxiety/mental health related videos and we're trying to promote our channel to people who might potentially relate/find that kind of content interesting! I would love if you would check us out! :)
@jackhanma23425 жыл бұрын
Aïcha Salvatore dude, your real personality comes out when u are alone ✌🏻
@suigeneris26805 жыл бұрын
Eduard Sokcevic true facts
@mimi-zu3sy5 жыл бұрын
The Buhler Twins You can have social anxiety but still be an extrovert but it would be the reason that holds u back from it. I’ve heard people getting treated with it and they were extroverts
@ddonsaintlaurent5 жыл бұрын
Aïcha Salvatore me too , its like my personality changes depending on the type of person I’m around , I’m starting to think we do that bc we feel like no one likes us or wants to be friends with us so we try to change our personality similar to theirs to get them to like us , if that even makes any sense 🙄 idk how to explain shit without sounding stupid which is why I never say anything in the first place .
@thanushan39815 жыл бұрын
Does anyone else feel like everyone is just staring at you and no matter what you do they still stare at you at public places?
@danielodonnell38015 жыл бұрын
Yes 100% i rarely even go out anywhere now
@SilentNightkiller9695 жыл бұрын
I'm legit a hermit now because of this.
@tameramoss3225 жыл бұрын
YESS
@senyau5725 жыл бұрын
use a hoodie or get a glasses
@myouiess3724 жыл бұрын
argh i feel you :( i can't even walk normally without thinking everyone is staring at me and trying to judge me. 🤦🏻♀️ i hate it.
@alexminigun24385 жыл бұрын
I hate that part when you go to a new class an teacher says every body come in front of others and introduce yourself I really really hate that moment
@JimmyStruthers10005 жыл бұрын
alex minigun i literally skip the first day of classes solely for that reason
@JimmyStruthers10005 жыл бұрын
*sips tea* get a mechanical pencil thats what i did 😂
@ava-tc7no5 жыл бұрын
i couldn’t even say my name in my seat when the teacher asked. i don’t wanna do this anymore. life seems pointless :/
@AShakur0355 жыл бұрын
everybody hates that tho, not only people with social anxiety
@yuhloic5 жыл бұрын
*sips tea* samee
@jinnielinlin54885 жыл бұрын
Whenever I walk around I feel like everyone is staring at me and I have to look at the floor or using my phone I can’t even make eye contact 😖
@iluvu75515 жыл бұрын
Accurate
@avalynn93645 жыл бұрын
Honestly i can relate to this so much i feel like everyone is looking at me and judging me
@logicrealty90865 жыл бұрын
same
@markwilliams5155 жыл бұрын
Best method for lowering anxiety and curing SAD: www.MootSpeak. xyz
@marybethdix89605 жыл бұрын
Same here. Sometimes I know that people aren't looking at me, but my mind decides to make me anxious and tell me that everybody is
@kallicpe5 жыл бұрын
I’m so comfortable around my family but when it comes to anyone else i feel so awkward and I can’t talk to anyone without getting anxious and without constantly thinking “am I being interesting enough” like ugh idk
@sabrinaconkova44045 жыл бұрын
moon baby i get what u mean
@kallicpe5 жыл бұрын
Love Music ❤️
@markwilliams5155 жыл бұрын
Best method for lowering anxiety and curing SAD: www.MootSpeak. xyz
@Jacob-ye7gu5 жыл бұрын
Yeah, you are extremely different from most people there. You need to hear it. Most people are a little shy around new people, but nothing like this. If you ask them, because they have no idea what it's like to be you, they will start to talk about how incredibly awkward they feel as well. But this is pure bullshit, when compared to the anxiety that you feel. They have no idea what it's like to experience the real terror of a panic attack. They just have no standard of comparison. They can only compare one moment in their life to another, and they lack the depth of empathy and introspection to realize that their awkward feelings are truly negligible by comparison to the feelings of someone like you who is actually crippled by them. Once you recognize that you'll realize that there is something fundamentally wrong with you. You need to know it. It's not that it can't be fixed. It will be hard to fix and will take a lot of effort on your part, but it's not impossible. But if you don't acknowledge it for what it is then you really have no chance. They are living in a different world than you, one in which they are generally free to do as they please as long as they don't disturb the peace. You are constantly scanning for what you are and are not allowed to do, and you create false barriers and rules for yourself about what you specifically are and are not allowed to do. Like I said, it's going to take a long time for you to figure out the unique destructive thinking patterns you've built up and try to change them. It's really hard to change habits, especially ones like these that you don't even recognize exist.
@rossanagarcia46505 жыл бұрын
Jacob I’m really shocked because what you said totally described my struggle with social anxiety. I got therapy and I started seeing major improvements. I could talk in class, I made new friends. Whoever reads this I just want you to know that rn in that bubble, it feels like your going to be this way for the rest of your life. Your not. It’s going to be very very hard and you need to try your whole absolute best to try to beat this. The thing that they don’t tell you is that YOU really decide to get over your anxiety. No one is going to do it for you. It seems harsh but I was always “waiting” for a cure. But that waiting is the problem. You need to tell your parents, go to therapy, figure out the negative thought that go through your head and force yourself to think positively. It’s not gonna happen in 1 day. You’ve built habits over the years that make it so you need to build them down again over a period of time. Focus on trying to made deeper connections with your parents, your siblings. Most importantly, Get. A. Freaking. Therapist. I love you and sympathize with you and I will send my strength to you. You can do this.
@MollySkupine5 жыл бұрын
I hate forced conversations. Small talk..it drives me nuts, makes me super anxious 😬
@Tiawia5 жыл бұрын
I know right!? Small talk is the worst, please let's talk about something important
@suigeneris26805 жыл бұрын
Same but based don your profile picture I don’t see why anyone would stop talking to you. You’re beautiful 😍
@ShortGirlsClimbCounters5 жыл бұрын
Ugh, completely agree!
@Xscape1285 жыл бұрын
@@Tiawia yes
@josilync.25265 жыл бұрын
I run cross country and my coach does this thing on Fridays where she pairs us up with random other kids and we have to walk the 3 mile course and make small talk. It’s literally a nightmare😂
@hal21665 жыл бұрын
Im completely known for my anxiety “oh its quiet girl” “you talk like asmr” “wait you can talk” “why do you not talk” ive heard it all
@aaAa-bp1yd5 жыл бұрын
Do you want to talk to each other over KZbin about this? I'm going through the exact same thing as you, and it caused my grades to go down. I don't want to talk to my mom about it, she'll get worried and it'll make me more anxious. I also don't have a lot of friends at school, and my teachers pretend to care about what their students go through, but it's obvious they don't. If you don't mind, I'd like to discuss my feelings with someone random over the internet, and hopefully we can help each other. ❤️
@rachie24565 жыл бұрын
Same honestly.
@zoezoe7275 жыл бұрын
@@aaAa-bp1yd which grade are you in? ( If you don't mind me asking )
@aaAa-bp1yd5 жыл бұрын
ZoE ZOe No no, that's fine! I'm a fifteen year old girl who is in the tenth grade. I said eleventh before on accident, but I'm actually in tenth grade.
@aaAa-bp1yd5 жыл бұрын
JaxCatisawesome! Of course! We can talk about whatever you want to talk about. There's tons of things which we each can try to tell each other about, since of course... the guidance counsellor doesn't do much help... but hopefully this will!
@purpdist23555 жыл бұрын
My biggest fear in a group is being told why are you so quiet? In front of everyone. I have a huge trauma with that. It kills me.
@amymor75 жыл бұрын
Just say why are you too loud
@kisigma11025 жыл бұрын
I remember those moments especially if ur a guy
@thebeautyofannihilation5 жыл бұрын
@@amymor7 lmaoo
@ShadowIL_5 жыл бұрын
Everytime I talk in a group with people I don't known my ears get red 😂
@kiera3525 жыл бұрын
Same. I used to have a group of 'friends' who would always say "why are u so quiet???" "why don't u talk???" "u need to talk more" and it made feel even worse about myself so I stopped hanging around with them
@eeviybee3325 жыл бұрын
what i really hate is when you feel like people are staring at you and you suddenly forget how to walk
@baileyhall90984 жыл бұрын
omg yes or like i’ll be at the gym on a treadmill and then remember that there are other people around and somehow physically canNot run lmao
@mayallyourbaconburn71334 жыл бұрын
eeviy bee I have that standard. I gotta go through the cafetaria when I arrive at school and work is same as well. And I always look at the windows to see if I’m walking normally and usually try to ‘walk normally ‘ till I have passed it.
@unknownv84624 жыл бұрын
Lmao so true but so funny
@becauseican50174 жыл бұрын
I have this worry that if I look up, i may trip and get extremely embarrassed! At the same time, I keep walking faster because normal walking would mean encountering more people.
@Gdjyncl4 жыл бұрын
Yes
@Lalaa22.5 жыл бұрын
It sucks when you’re dealing with social anxiety and have to do a presentation in class 😫
@PixelYouTube5 жыл бұрын
I usually can't breathe and my voice gets shaky
@mqchi_thetic36365 жыл бұрын
Citlali Banda ikr it’s the worst
@mqchi_thetic36365 жыл бұрын
Pixel same :c
@angelicaramirez15995 жыл бұрын
I hate presentations tbh, I remember I had to do one for speech class and I couldn’t even speak. It was so embarrassing and terrifying. 🤦🏻♀️
@blacklist88985 жыл бұрын
My legs and hands always trembling and my classmates saw it....hm
@crystallight64885 жыл бұрын
I hate having social anxiety. I can’t even eat in front of people without overthinking about it and getting anxious
@aasxleyy4 жыл бұрын
Kae sameee
@4leurz4 жыл бұрын
same same😔😭
@salma-pf5sj4 жыл бұрын
I have terrible social anxiety, yet somehow I was able to eat by myself in high school and I’d sit with strangers to blend in, and not seem like a loner
@averyjones2754 жыл бұрын
I relate :( sadly
@temsuinla3 жыл бұрын
Hey I totally get this I was like this as a child My school years sucked coz of this Now that I'm 18 I have come to understand that people aren't exactly looking at me all the time.. However the anxiety is still lingering :/
@serayah82615 жыл бұрын
I feel like I have waisted away my youth because of my anxiety. All the things that I have missed out on, the missed opportunities and people ...
@vl26634 жыл бұрын
Me too. I didn’t get to finish high school from how bad my anxiety got. And now I’m not going to college because of this too. I can’t even hold down a job. I hate this
@Greg128394 жыл бұрын
I missed out on a potential relationship because of anxiety
@markl77524 жыл бұрын
@@Greg12839 I've missed out on soo much it's not funny, it's actually quite tragic, all because of my mental health
@Greg128394 жыл бұрын
ML 19 yh i still think of her but i think she thinks i never cared or liked her but i was truly just too nervous to speak or even make eye contact
@IamINERT4 жыл бұрын
How old are you? I am 18 and honestly I am trying to change so bad
@zooweemama47585 жыл бұрын
i came in the comment section to find people to relate to...
@stevensanchez20325 жыл бұрын
Same
@amw19015 жыл бұрын
Same
@Alex-tf8fr5 жыл бұрын
Same
@Raven-sx4ql5 жыл бұрын
likewise
@alorena_025 жыл бұрын
Too
@ivanvargas78935 жыл бұрын
I feel alone, who else feels alone? I hope I’m not like this forever
@zolan26635 жыл бұрын
Nobody even liked your comment :(
@ericgiordano54885 жыл бұрын
Ivan Vargas Jesus loves you so man man Believe in him you are never alone he is with you man God bless you.
@danielodonnell38015 жыл бұрын
You aint alone my freind
@allysonfranklin57075 жыл бұрын
hey try your best you arent going to be alone forever i know its hard to open up/ feel in place, but I promise, you got this. ❤️
@anneodi38774 жыл бұрын
I agree with Eric Giordano man u aren't alone. Jesus loves u and he's always there for u, if u will just notice that. And hey, I'm here, we're here💜
@NoahClevinger5 жыл бұрын
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been socially awkward. A loner. An outcast. The shy kid nobody wants to talk to. And even at 20 years old, I still have a hard time making eye contact and talking to people. But it really does make me feel better knowing that I’m not alone in this struggle. It makes me feel better knowing that other people are going through what I’m going through. It’s tough a lot of the time, but I keep pushing on. Thank you for this video.
@anxietina_5 жыл бұрын
Me rn at my 2nd semester
@genza7085 жыл бұрын
Where all struggling together bro life is a fight and we’re all in separate shoes but we gotta keep on truckin. I’m trying to get better everyday in public I like to have that idgaf attitude you know . Cause we’re all gonna die anyway who cares you know . I wish I was this motivated more frequently 😂😂
@teespino3455 жыл бұрын
And here I am 13 years old wanting to make some friends and get over this.
@rachie24564 жыл бұрын
Its like no one understands what we go through. The way we want friends, but no one gives us a chance because we're the quiet kids, the shy ones.
@ogueyratogeyrat74484 жыл бұрын
I have milion panic attack , my heart wont stop beat and cant stand
@ErikaK5 жыл бұрын
When someone is mean and rude to you means that they don't know how to manage their emotions, the problem isn't you, don't take it personally and don't let their negativity affect you ♡
@ashley__c5 жыл бұрын
Very well said! Thank you
@gymtwins49495 жыл бұрын
YES! This is so true!
@ErikaK5 жыл бұрын
@@ashley__c ♡
@ErikaK5 жыл бұрын
@@gymtwins4949 ♡ :)
@Itsrobroman5 жыл бұрын
very very true!!
@Devoted_believer5 жыл бұрын
10 reasons why social anxiety causes depression. 10. Wanting to find a significant other, and never finding him/her Anxiety undermines our human relationships, and prevents them from being as successful as they could be. 9. Avoiding situations even when we want to hang out and be friendly "I can’t go because I’ll be too uncomfortable and I’ll feel inhibited and self-conscious. It’s easier for me to just stay at home.” 8. Not feeling like we are part of a group or family We all want to feel like we belong, especially with other people who share the same interests in life, but anxious feelings block this from happening. 7. Lack of meaningful friendships People with social anxiety want to have many friends and acquaintances they can spend time with and relax around, but the anxiety prevents this from happening. 6. Not being able to pursue our desired career “I’d like to take that promotion, but then I’d have to manage people and tell them what to do. I can’t do that!” 5. Inability to participate in professional or informal activities Those of us with social anxiety feel a great deal of fear when we must attend informal or professional events with other people. We feel as if we will do something wrong and make a fool of ourselves. 4. Not seeing light at the end of the tunnel “I’ll never get any better - I’ll be stuck with anxiety forever." 3. Beating ourselves up We get down on ourselves and focus on our perceived shortcomings. We often feel as if we're not as good or capable as other people. "Everyone else is enjoying life and having a good time. Why can't I?" 2. Comparing ourselves to others We feel other people are farther along in life than we are. “Everyone has fun and interesting friends they can hang out with - except me." 1. Feeling like we can’t do things The anxiety we feel makes us feel restricted from participating in everyday activities. “I can’t go to the party because I’ll feel too out of place and uncomfortable."
@featherylight10925 жыл бұрын
This is so accurate it hurts 😔
@imwinningthisone76135 жыл бұрын
Damn :/
@diorshawty7675 жыл бұрын
Scarface92511 ahhhh this made me want to cry
@jiyoungchang81435 жыл бұрын
I been suffering social anxiety and depression for a while now. This hold true in my case.
@mxalm57355 жыл бұрын
You literally just summarized my whole life
@samanthamutsekwa51845 жыл бұрын
The worst is when someone you're not friends with asks why you're so quiet it gets on my nerves and makes me feel uncomfortable
@norkagonzalez34084 жыл бұрын
Hello the greatest results that ive had was with the Seans Shy Program (i found it on google) - definately the most useful idea that I have ever tried.
@pluto313374 жыл бұрын
Yes! I hate when that happens so much
@johnnyjoey60623 жыл бұрын
Yeah I dont know how to respond when they ask me that
@loxish44935 жыл бұрын
Social phobia is literally ruining my life... I don’t know what to do
@samb28144 жыл бұрын
try to see a doctor if you want some help
@wholesale73864 жыл бұрын
same
@msMuffet.4 жыл бұрын
Same :) I'm homeschooled so it's pretty good, but it's stopping me from going to public school. Inspirational quotes, wearing clothes that make me feel confident, music, and positive thinking help me. I haven't told my Mom about it yet, but my brother knows bc he has it too, but he goes to public school and I don't think he has it as badly. Facing it helps. Do the things you're afraid of. Take deep breathes and be yourself. Let's get through it together :)
@erlikhan42174 жыл бұрын
@@msMuffet. same
@vl26634 жыл бұрын
I understand perfectly because it ruined mine. I haven’t had a life in like 5 years now and lost majority of my friends. I only have like one friend to hang out with now and it sucks because she goes to college and I have no one else to hang out with. I’m at home isolated majority of the time and it’s hell. I don’t wish this on anyone. I really hope you have supportive people in your life to help you out. Barely anyone gives a shit about me and that’s why I’m like this now
@LameGeneration915 жыл бұрын
I feel like dying each time someone approaches me to begin a conversation. This anxiety is ruining my life. I don't engage in anything to minimize social interaction. I would've communicate in writing only, if I have the choice.
@trinibee095 жыл бұрын
M Alota same here
@briellejade._5 жыл бұрын
M Alota me too
@teespino3455 жыл бұрын
I feel like my anxiety is getting worse and now I can't even talk to my own parents without being awkward.
@wholesale73864 жыл бұрын
same
@wholesale73864 жыл бұрын
@@teespino345 same
@browngirl59055 жыл бұрын
That’s why I don’t tell people stuff anymore because they use it against you . 🤦🏽♀️ Thank you for making this video.
@owlknickerknots26075 жыл бұрын
Browngirl I know people are really mean ! It’s time to stop the stigma
@alexandralummeofficial5 жыл бұрын
Cheers. I need to learn 🤦🏼♀️ it’s like you need to know the amount to tell, and pick the ones you trust. The REASON to tell people- I was told this summer- is so people can WALK WITH YOU through what you’re TELLING THEM ABOUT. So literally, it might be better to think telling someone something personal as more of an invite for them to enter into your life and walk with you through this specific thing. I found this to be a really, really freeing thought. And it builds friendships and makes people feel free to do the same with you’d
@bellybuttonring15 жыл бұрын
Definitely
@mqchi_thetic36365 жыл бұрын
Browngirl same honestly
@---fh6em4 жыл бұрын
Yes. Thanks to a bitch I called friend and who used my weaknesses to bully me I have serious trust issues and don’t ever want to try make any friends anymore. And that’s why I don’t talk about myself much with colleagues or people I know and sometimes hang out with
@nim56855 жыл бұрын
WHEN I'M WALKING I'M PRETENDING THAT I'M TEXTING WITH SOMEONE 😞
@funniestglike35065 жыл бұрын
Exactly! The worst place is when ur walking down a hallway 😩
@nim56855 жыл бұрын
@@funniestglike3506 YEAHH😭😭😭 TOO CONSCIOUS AND WANT TO LOWER THE BRIGHTNESS BECAUSE UR THINKING THAT SOMEONE IS JUDGING OR WATCHING U😭😭😭
@funniestglike35065 жыл бұрын
위드nim I KNOW RIGHT 😭😭🤦🏾♀️
@nim56854 жыл бұрын
@@mikeyooz HAHAHAHAHA
@fazeless_sam_13274 жыл бұрын
That’s literally me at the store 😩😩
@2ne14eva95 жыл бұрын
The word we all hate when the teacher says..... *Partner up with someone*
@lupin92095 жыл бұрын
BLACKPINK exactly I hate school so much that I sometimes hope something bad happens and we don’t have to do it
@Gamer_Monke215 жыл бұрын
̇ ͜ʟ ̇ 👀
@Gamer_Monke215 жыл бұрын
̇ ͜ʟ ̇ just don't shoot up a school plz
@pastelnekoz67594 жыл бұрын
this gave me fight or flight
@baileyhall90984 жыл бұрын
BLACKPINK IKRRR but tbh i did online school and it made my social anxiety even worse bc i had less practice with ppl and i feel like i can’t even interact normally with my own friends now sooo i’m going back to public school lmao
@josilync.25265 жыл бұрын
I feel like since I’m so scared to talk or make any friends I’m just wasting all my highschool years and I feel like I’m growing up too fast and I can’t catch up with everyone who’s so good at talking and making friends. Im just afraid I’ll always be stuck like this
@hifi.david.5 жыл бұрын
I feel you I have this problem too, turning 18 soon like omg. 😣
@nanana89285 жыл бұрын
my in thing same the from suffered I it, about worry Don't
@emmaa51975 жыл бұрын
Same😭
@mari-iw6gj5 жыл бұрын
im a senior and in all my highschool years i havent made any good friends, just some acquaintances here n there. my high school experience was NOT at all like they say
@alexandralummeofficial5 жыл бұрын
It’s really up to us whether we stay stuck or not, whether we choose to reach out, and care... but it’s like, a major step to take and takes one to be so brave. I relate to feeling afraid to be stuck. I’ve had that for a long time.
@emiiiiiii4 жыл бұрын
i don’t understand how all my friends are so good at talking and i’m just there..
@averyjones2754 жыл бұрын
Same :( it’s so hard to watch
@esmeralda14463 жыл бұрын
Yes.. All my "friends" are so good and I'm like: Why I can't socialize well??
@tashaemma_3 жыл бұрын
@@esmeralda1446 so trueee......
@d.l.44115 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy you made this video. I have EXTREME social anxiety, and it’s crippling.
@ReneeAmberg5 жыл бұрын
Try pushing yourself a little bit each and every day. All the small successes eventually add up to a HUGE one! You got this xx
@whitneymarkley39015 жыл бұрын
I give out love to you and definitely do some of the things Renee said.
@Blissful165 жыл бұрын
I also suffer from crippling social anxiety. To the point I've been off work 3 yrs. I don't go anywhere alone. I can barley make my therapy meetings. You not alone
@Sophia-mh8iy5 жыл бұрын
@@Blissful16 im sorry! I hope it gets better for you soon!
@mijkwgeblwxz68535 жыл бұрын
flowerchild . Since ur anxiety prevents u from working how do u make a living? I’m just curious. Thanks
@JMT342375 жыл бұрын
As a socially anxious person I couldn’t imagine doing a KZbin channel. EDIT - My comment seems to have created some confusion so I wanted to clarify. By saying this I wasn't judging her or implying that she doesn't have "real" anxiety. My thought when I watched the video was simply "I couldn't imagine doing a KZbin channel" so I typed that. I wish all of you the best. :-) Jason
@KaitlinBelle5 жыл бұрын
Frischeparadies I normally don’t reply to comments but saying this isn’t cool, especially when the video is literally talking about having anxiety of being judged. People experience social anxiety in different ways and at different levels, just because she’s doing something other socially anxious people can’t doesn’t automatically mean she’s talking bullshit. Please think about the impact a comment can have before posting it online
@timklafke7535 жыл бұрын
KZbin you're talking to a camera it's not as bad as talking to ppl in person, that's my view of it as having social anxiety its mostly face to face that fucks me up
@justinefh97555 жыл бұрын
I suffer from very bad social anxiety and failed almost all my classes because I couldn't even raise my hand in class due to the panic attacks I would get. However, I'm an actress and I love acting on stage and in front of a camera. Everyone experiences an illness differently.
@catblog_5 жыл бұрын
Frischeparadies what.. i trust my family but they don’t fully understand what i’m going through. seeing that there’s somebody who gets me and faces the same fears and anxieties i do makes me feel better. also she stated that her social anxiety has lessened and she is visiting a therapist now. the whole point of this video is her telling her story and giving tips to HELP people.
@nofood15 жыл бұрын
@Frischeparadies you sound dumb ASS FUCK. There's celebrities who have anxiety but still follow through because they love their job.
@wholesale73864 жыл бұрын
whenever i go outside, and when i return home, i bust out crying. the social anxiety is killing me...
@WashSakeFilms5 жыл бұрын
“Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
@user-pc3vs3bd4j4 жыл бұрын
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@msMuffet.4 жыл бұрын
Thank you🙏🙏
@DanielaGarcia924 жыл бұрын
I love this. thank you for the reminder.
@xBlacShawtyx4 жыл бұрын
I so needed this reminder, thank you. God bless ☺️
@rachelg60163 жыл бұрын
❤️
@lettucebaked4 жыл бұрын
I have social anxiety too and it really sucks. Everywhere I go I feel like everyone is staring at me and judging me :(
@eileen663 жыл бұрын
When you don’t have social anxiety( like when you’re alone or with people you feel comfy with) do you find yourself judging/making fun of or talking bad about other people? If you do realize you do that and stop, it will help your social anxiety. It worked for me. I’m not saying it completely cured me but when I go back on social media I find myself judging others like omg if I was in that situation I wouldn’t do that or why would this person comment that they’re so wrong ect. That’s judging because we’re all humans and we’re all equal, no one is better than the other and none of us are perfect. When you realize that and use it, it will help. Also Jesus is the main help accepting his love for me and following him changed everything for me I probably wouldn’t be alive right now.
@eliagarcia80625 жыл бұрын
It just sucks that people who are shy or quiet are called differnt and weird not everyone needs to be an extrovert. Some people choose the people that they want to surround themselves with and keep a small cirlcle you know. Dealing with anxiety since i was 8 and now im 29 and it comes and goes but thankfully its under control right now. You just never know when itll peak and living like that is awful . The thing that helps is spirituality and just working on self love.
@keiron.46125 жыл бұрын
I'd much rather be friends with a shy person than someone who thinks there better than everyone else
@eliagarcia80625 жыл бұрын
@@keiron.4612 I totally agree! Shy over the ones who think they are always right because they always have opinions. The ones that act like they are God.I rather focus on me than anybody's else's life.
@keiron.46125 жыл бұрын
I've been around people like that and it's always guys in my experience especially if there's girls around don't like guys like that someone who wants to be the centre of attention are no better than anyone else I find quiet people really adorable actually
@ElaysiaAriel5 жыл бұрын
I have anxiety and my mom always says "Stop, people are going to think you're weird." and it just makes it worst.
@keiron.46125 жыл бұрын
That makes me so angry people are gonna think your weird it's an illness omg we don't choose it
@Snikercoodle5 жыл бұрын
Breathing techniques, stepping outside in fresh air, dog cuddles get me through my anxiety 💛
@ReneeAmberg5 жыл бұрын
dog cuddles always help!
@Tiawia5 жыл бұрын
dog cuddles are the BEST! and so is nature
@gymtwins49495 жыл бұрын
Okay I couldn't agree more with the dog cuddles! My dog can always put a smile on my face no matter what I'm facing! Also going for walks and listening to positive/self help podcasts really helps me! I have a KZbin channel with my twin sister and we post some anxiety/mental health related videos and we're trying to promote our channel to people who might potentially relate/find that kind of content interesting! I would love if you would check us out! :)
@Itsrobroman5 жыл бұрын
I love dog cuddles! It seems you have it downpacked with is great. Keep the fight!
@indrakamalyadav29215 жыл бұрын
Dog cuddle help Bullshit
@creolela5 жыл бұрын
Are there any black women around 20 - 30 that has social anxiety . I feel so alone because in the black community so many aren’t scared to be social I never see anyone at my job that’s so closed off as me . That’s something that makes me a little more anxious .
@pinklipstickx195 жыл бұрын
Hey girl I’m the same way I’m Hispanic and we don’t believe in anxiety even tho I have it we don’t talk about it either so don’t feel left out depression and anxiety is something in our community is not talk about at all so your now alone in the same way .
@bellefairydust5 жыл бұрын
Yes I’m Black and went through a lot of social anxiety it consumed me. I am over that period now. I still get anxious but I will not let it stop me living my life! Message me if you wanna talk about it! I feel people think black women are all loud and confident but everyone is different!
@creolela5 жыл бұрын
bellefairydust I’m getting a lot better too . Glad you’re doing better ❤️
@bellefairydust5 жыл бұрын
LACreole ah that’s good to hear!
@brianamarshall65895 жыл бұрын
I have social anxiety. I'm 23. You're not alone.
@skylarwhite43975 жыл бұрын
this comment section is very reassuring that you're not the only one dealing with these issues.
@rachelg60163 жыл бұрын
Fr
@lanalvr24135 жыл бұрын
Why does no one talk to me in school but when a new person comes they are their best friends
@shellyvlogs11825 жыл бұрын
its exactly what's happened to me , there was this new girl came to our school , in our class and she became my friend,, everybody talked to her , they dont even talk to me , just talked to her , when we are together, boys only talk to her , and not me , maybe I am not cool or pretty ....
@lanalvr24135 жыл бұрын
zenab amin Girl stop you are pretty don’t worry about them because when you grow up you will be way better than everyone and everyone will want to be your friend :)
@shellyvlogs11825 жыл бұрын
@@lanalvr2413 thank u so much , do u have instagram , can u give me ur instagram , i want to talk to u
@lanalvr24135 жыл бұрын
zenab amin sure! It’s fwrachell
@shellyvlogs11825 жыл бұрын
@@lanalvr2413hey there are a lot of fwrachell , which one is urs
@keiron.46125 жыл бұрын
I do hide my mental health because when you talk about them nobody wants to know I have social anxiety when I'm around certain people I'm not always comfortable
@ReneeAmberg5 жыл бұрын
I get that. Recently though, I've come to the conclusion that I don't really need validation from others. Me speaking up helps someone who's struggling with the same things feel less alone.
@keiron.46125 жыл бұрын
For me it's the people you'd think would show some feelings towards you like family vthey never do your so right you helped me because everything you said I related to 💗
@whitneymarkley39015 жыл бұрын
I definitely know that it's not easy but, I have found people to talk to even with my bad social anxiety, and it truly helps. It can be hard to find those certain people though, I understand that.
@holisticleedriven85325 жыл бұрын
Or claim that you're just making an excuse with some "made up" disability just because you want to "get out of being with them" or "(fill in blank)"!
@rosie53485 жыл бұрын
David Parkinson i talk to my mom about it and she makes it even worse , she would say i’m weird or i made her mad
@JayI-_-I5 жыл бұрын
Am I the only guy here ? Hello ladys :) Males suffering the same way :(
@JimmyStruthers10005 жыл бұрын
JayJay 92 nah im here bro
@blazzing43215 жыл бұрын
I’m here bruh
@ateez_stan7775 жыл бұрын
I'm here along with depression aswell...
@kenshiro9355 жыл бұрын
You're not the only one my dude
@kayanashields82545 жыл бұрын
Heyy:) glad to know we suffer from the same
@Moonlight-gs7ti5 жыл бұрын
I lost all my good friends Bc of social anxiety now I walk through the halls staring at all the other kids laughing with their friends thinking how that use to be me and how I would do anything to get that real enjoyment back
@synthia40205 жыл бұрын
I relate. I remember last year there were so many people that would wave and greet me in the hallways, I constantly had friends to talk with during class. But this year my anxiety peaked and I distanced myself away from everyone. I believe they think i don't like them bc of it, and I wish I could explain myself. But I know I won't.
@passthebutter60375 жыл бұрын
Moonlight Same I use to be really extroverted and outgoing in middle school but once I hit highschool I just completely shut down
@EmoniPrettyGurl4 жыл бұрын
Shrek2 OnDVD OMFG this is me as the years passed by in high school all my friends just faded away and I was lonely
@rntutorials3444 жыл бұрын
Shrek2 OnDVD same
@Moonlight-gs7ti4 жыл бұрын
Synthia I’m the same exact way:/
@yuh62714 жыл бұрын
High School just makes social anxiety way worse.
@minamina92175 жыл бұрын
sometimes when I force myself to be talkative, I get anxiety attacks because I look at others who is/are listening in the conversations and I start thinking how stupid I am for trying to talk and that they're making fun of my accent, the way i talk, my voice and all that. I go home feeling like an idiot and thinking about all the things that I shouldn't have said and then everytime my bf would look at me and smile and say that he is proud of me for talking and that I looked really cute when I try and I forget about the things Im worrying about. Sometimes we just need someone who would understand us and tell us that it's going to be okay.
@一脸滑稽-k5v4 жыл бұрын
I,,,, I wish I have someone like that to help me O_o
@izzytalkington97354 жыл бұрын
I’m so shy I feel like I’ll never be in a relationship or that I won’t be entertaining enough to someone or pretty enough. So I have anxiety about never getting a boyfriend. Is this just me? Is it true? Like if u relate
@Lavenderforestfairy4 жыл бұрын
Yes im 20 and had never had anyone. I cant be myself at all
@izzytalkington97354 жыл бұрын
Lavender Fae somehow we’ll get through this I suppose there will have to be an answer
@mayallyourbaconburn71334 жыл бұрын
Bella T in my case I have more anxiety about being weak in front of ppl. Love is weakness it’s opening yourself up entirely and allowing excess. Giving that person access to where they can hurt you most. And they will hurt you even if they love you. I once accepted a person who said he liked me but the idea of a relationship made me avoid him completely till he broke up with me. The idea of getting out of my comfort zone and being weak is so scary to me. This part of my anxiety goes as far as not being able to relax among ppl at all. I can’t even be in my laptop or phone. We once had do do a game I which we had to follow commandos and I couldn’t do that, I couldn’t lie on my tummy or back in public. I just couldn’t physically.
@vl26634 жыл бұрын
Girl I’m 21 and haven’t had a boyfriend either and feel like I’m not pretty enough to have one. Social anxiety only makes it worse cause I can’t even make eye contact with guys without having a panic attack 😂😭. But for real, this shit is really depressing to me and I really pray to god that I won’t be alone forever
@vl26634 жыл бұрын
Lavender Fae I thought I was the only one in her 20’s who still is a dating virgin :/ I honestly fear I’ll waste my 20’s being alone. I really want to experience love and a relationship and sex and all that stuff while I’m still young.
@nidhivaidya64855 жыл бұрын
My anxiety has been awful recently, having just gone back to college. Thank you for this, Renee, it's not something most people would feel comfortable talking about online or even in person, so I really admire you
@zestren58305 жыл бұрын
I'm starting my freshman year next week. Any tips on how to settle in? Social anxiety really doesn't help...
@nidhivaidya64855 жыл бұрын
@@zestren5830 Try and remember that everyone else also is in a new situation and is open to making friends. Try not to isolate yourself because that can make you feel worse. I know putting yourself out there is hard but I promise it helps
@AntonioRios35 жыл бұрын
Same. Especially because we have to network (the word itself makes me anxious).
@user-mc5lv3lf6e5 жыл бұрын
I can't even raise my hands in school even if I am almost sure the answer is right. And I can't ask someone when I don't understand something because I am afraid of my teachers and afraid of being judged. That's why my marks have gotten really bad and I am afraid I won't get better and fail. I also can't talk to people and that's why they often think I am boring or don't want to do anything with them. I think it is a little bit because of my friends since they always picked on me which made me feel depressed and I often thought about what they said afterwards although I knew it was just fun... I always think a lot about what people think about me and I don't know what to do about it because I am afraid that I will get depression from that and that I will just be in my room the next few years cause I am afraid to go outside. Also when I am in public I don't even know how to stand so that I don't look weird and I don't know what to say when I am with my friends because I don't want to seem weird or boring but that is the case most of the time..
@alexsmith12075 жыл бұрын
You know what all that happened to me. And same to me i never raised my hand actually in school except less than 20 i say during all those years
@isabellahenderson5665 жыл бұрын
All of those things are so relatable - there are often people who i think are so cool and really wanna be friends with but during conversation with them im so nervous i cant think of anything to say and then i just come across as boring :(
@uvotmin5 жыл бұрын
Even when I make myself raise my hand and say the correct answer, I keep thinking about the way I said that sentence and how it must've been super awkward and that everyone is judging me silently
@samb28144 жыл бұрын
i feel you
@user-mc5lv3lf6e4 жыл бұрын
@Majorette Dance Club thanks that's good advice :)
@aimeegardner97365 жыл бұрын
Strange to me that when you experience a new start you aren't as anxious. Meeting new people and starting in a new environment sends my anxiety through the roof and that makes sense according to what social anxiety is. It doesn't just suddenly leave you when you start a 'new life' it's always there.
@marielamarco68735 жыл бұрын
💔😭 i feel this every single time
@kiera3525 жыл бұрын
yes i completely agree
@baileyhall90984 жыл бұрын
everyone’s anxiety is different:)
@mayallyourbaconburn71334 жыл бұрын
Aimee Gardner I once changed schools and I made no friends at all. It went as far as my teacher looking for friends for me. But I liked this way better bc even though it sucked having friends proved to be a different kind of stressful I kinds enjoyed some moments.
@mayallyourbaconburn71334 жыл бұрын
Aimee Gardner I mean the eating lunch on the toilet sucked same as making groups and that one time I leaked but apart from that I kinda enjoyed it.
@char60813 жыл бұрын
I’m sitting here reading these comments and I’m starting to break down into tears. It breaks my heart that we’ve all had to go through this. Social anxiety has literally ruined my life in this past year.
@shesadiamond51673 жыл бұрын
😥 ikr
@ct56955 жыл бұрын
I find that my social anxiety is usually triggered by my own judgement. I've grown up in such a critical environment that I've pre-conceived boxes in my head and they seem immutable. When in reality, I'm the first to tell my friends and family that we can all be whoever and whatever we decide. Recently, I've moved in an area that is very important to me and reminds me a lot of my childhood. And as I was walking, there were so many sychronicities, it blew my mind. It got me so excited I overwhelmed myself and started feeling anxiety creeping in. The feeling is like this: it feels like my body is filling up with a thick boiling liquid, from my feet to my head. My vision gets blurry, tears come up and my legs start shaking. I know how to make it go away relatively quickly, but it usually takes me to walk away from the situation or get silent and numb. If I'm with people, I just nodd and smile when they look at me, if I'm in a crowd I step away. What's so frustrating is that usually this particular situation is exactly where I want to be. It's not the fear of not belonging, it's the fear of my own excitment. I'm afraid it might be too much, I might be too much, as I've always been told I was as a child. I feel I'm progressing. Yet sometimes I take five steps back. When I come back to reality, it's like I have to start all over again. It's exhausting and frustrating. BUT this life thing is so AWESOME, like leaves, skies, architecture, the fact that there are some brillant minds, the fact there's a universe... I mean, I wouldn't be anywhere else, in any other shape. I love being human and I love life.
@ReneeAmberg5 жыл бұрын
omg literally I have so much of the same things. The one thing I didn't mention in the video is a bit private but I was also told about how I have a box and how I was ridiculed when I was younger when I went outside of this (unattainable) box. I also moved back home and I feel worse, I wonder if its because that's when my anxiety kinda formed. so interesting thanks for sharing!
@ct56955 жыл бұрын
@@ReneeAmberg me too! My dream as a teenager was to live my home, and as soon as I graduated, I moved across the country. I did so much of healing being away, understood and clarified so much, talking with my parents on the phone and just sharing about lots of things. It put the past into perspective. It was almost like re-living my life in a way. Four years later, I came back home, feeling ready to confront this. And I'm so proud of how I did! I felt suffocated at first, tumbled into bad habits but because of the practice I put in place being away, I was able to notice the patterns and phewww take deep breaths. Now I literally feel my anxiety as a thing that's not me. We're two different entities. However, any sudden move and it creeps right back in, and it takes awhile to emerge from it. It totally feels like being in the ocean and a wave pulls you in, I swim and wait and then I breathe again. But for a quick moment (that can feel like eternity) I kind of black out. Do you visualize your anxiety too? Where do you see it going, like how do you imagine the course of your experience with anxiety go in the future?
@GoldGaming2195 жыл бұрын
Caroline, you seem like one of the rare few who can have a real meaningful conversation. Do you mind if i ask you questions regarding social anxiety?
@DSLolgamerDG5 жыл бұрын
i feel exactly the same
@kailyemma6385 жыл бұрын
Today in my English class we had to stand at the front of the class and talk, and I promised myself that I’ll talk because it was worth a lot of points. And when i got at the front I couldn’t get anything out I couldn’t talk I couldn’t say what was wrong with me. I couldn’t look at my classmates eyes, I couldn’t tell the teacher to excuse me, I couldn’t walk away. I was just totally stuck and when they teacher asked what was wrong with me I couldn’t answer him. But I started sweating, and my heart beat went up. My thoughts: “they are laughing at you”, “they think you’re stupid”, “TALK”, Talk or fail”. I wanted to cry but i was scared and I don’t know what’s wrong with me. My teacher told me to write down what was wrong but I didn’t know what was wrong with me. :(
@aaAa-bp1yd5 жыл бұрын
Hi Emma. I would just like to say that you are incredibly brave for putting up with that. My teacher once told me that people are never going to focus on other people, because they're always focusing on themselves. People who are extroverted will never judge you, because they have put themselves out into the world numerous amounts of times. To them, it would only make sense if everyone else did the same. Since you were in a scenario where you couldn't say anything, you should not blame yourself at all for being anxious. Nobody chooses to be that way. I hope you know that there are many people in the world who love you, regardless of whether they have seen you or not, and I hope you know that sometimes, it can be very hard to find yourself in a better position than the one you're currently in. Be patient, and stay calm. ❤️
@kailyemma6385 жыл бұрын
aa Aa thank you soo much❤️
@aaAa-bp1yd5 жыл бұрын
Kaily Emma No problem :)
@bhkfg8cvd5945 жыл бұрын
It's so hard to live with this problem...
@oliviamerritt15665 жыл бұрын
my teacher: “Am I really that scary” Me: “oh yeh hold up Imma walk out the room come back in without social Anxiety it’s Gucci”
@buttermycroissant22233 жыл бұрын
Lmaoo a teacher also once asked me jokingly if I am scared of him because I wasnt able to say much and couldnt look him in the eyes for more than 0.001 seconds even though I tried ..
@Zeke-di7ib5 жыл бұрын
I thought that I was the only one like this, I am always super nervous an awkward when talking to people and even sometimes my friends I am always scared to say some things and do things because I think that I will be judged and that is why I will never act like myself besides with my family.
@nickc70145 жыл бұрын
Baller Nation me too only with my family I am myself I wish people were more open to different types of people but of course not
@vxmpxre54124 жыл бұрын
Same 😭
@catygzz195 жыл бұрын
i blush with everyone it got so bad this year for me😔
@kisigma11025 жыл бұрын
If ur a guy it worst I had that problem too when I was in elementary thru out high school
@catygzz195 жыл бұрын
im glad you dont go throught that no more.
@kisigma11025 жыл бұрын
@@catygzz19 thx
@kylaliz5 жыл бұрын
Girl same like I just think when I'm doing something normally someone is judging me. I hate getting called out or talking about boyfriends and doing presentations. I'm light complected and it suck the most
@catygzz195 жыл бұрын
Kyla Alizabeth people just think Im mean because i dont talk to them. Which is not even the reason I just avoid talking because of this phobia. 😩
@jolyalda13295 жыл бұрын
everyone here is talking about their anxiety, and im just stitting here thinking she's so pretty
@bleachneech3 жыл бұрын
Aha same that was my first thought
@ktia5 жыл бұрын
i have symptoms but i'm too scared to talk to my parents about getting diagnosed because they'll just tell me social media is getting to my head :(
@conquersocialanxiety5 жыл бұрын
It seems like there are two sides of the coin when it comes to social media and social anxiety. On the one hand, people with SAD may end up isolating themselves even further through excessive social media use in order to meet their social needs. On the other hand, social media allows sufferers to connect with other who are going through the same, which can be a healing experience in itself.
@mayallyourbaconburn71334 жыл бұрын
yoongisandr0id MY mother is a god damn psycholoog and she told me to stop acting autistic. My parents say things like I’m acting, being weird, dramatic or they tell me to get over shit. And I really believed I was just weird for a long time, just shy.
@vxmpxre54124 жыл бұрын
Same my mum wouldn’t understand
@DainoDynamo4 жыл бұрын
@@mayallyourbaconburn7133 hey you if need somebody to talk to about that i can help, fellow person with social anxiety but my parents cant help and they just tell me to get over it and push the wall but i can..t? Anyone that wants to talk about SAD My insta is:SociallyG0ne and i have 0 0 0 for the fact i don't want people following who don't understand.
@mayallyourbaconburn71334 жыл бұрын
FoxienTalks yeah same my parents keep saying I just have to get over myself that it’s easy to solve. They blame me bc I avoid confrontation and refuse their help. But at this point I don’t even wanna mention anything bc they just sit me down and have a talk. I’m 19 now and I’ve had trouble as long as I can remember but I always thought it was normal and I was just making problems that weren’t there and till now I believed that bc my parents told me this much. In stress situations I completely shut down and avoid any responsibility I might have. And even now I wonder if I’m actually just lazy. But at some point I figured it couldn’t be normal. But I don’t dare to get myself tested both bc of my parents and bc I don’t want to face that I have a problem fully. I don’t care that getting scolded by teachers almost makes me cry, I don’t care that my legs shake if I get attention I don’t control myself, . I don’t care that social stress makes me incredibly immobile. I don’t care that i can’t make calls to make a doctors appointment, can’t ring the bell of a house, don’t celebrate my birthday etc. What I do care about that simply feeling as if I’m being judged or being watched or graded makes me panic to the point of forgetting where I even am. But I’m gonna live like this and I don’t think I’m ever gonna get tested ( bc I can’t call or email without stress, and confronting this shit is even more stressful) I do hate how it affects my personal relations like I don’t even feel at ease with my parents. Do u have a story u might wanna share ranting to u just now kinda helped me and I would like to return the favour...
@alina11895 жыл бұрын
Everytime i have a presentation in class even if its like 2 weeks away i will always think about it
@beth15054 жыл бұрын
Alina same, I have one in like 3 weeks and I’m already thinking about it. It’s the worst feeling in the world having to stand in front of everyone, shaking and panicking until it’s over.
@carleanicole70944 жыл бұрын
Beth Cherry I know how you feel but once it’s over just know that nobody is thinking about if you messed up or anything, they are probably thinking about their presentation, not yours. You got it
@anllycastro76874 жыл бұрын
I'm so embarrassed to talk about my social anxiety to others. I feel like they're gonna think I'm weak and not worth talking to. You inspired me to share this part of myself and seek professional help! This is not something worth hiding anymore.
@admirbarucija20185 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad you made a video about social anxiety!! ❤️🥰 It’s really hard for me to go out and talk to people, I get so drained when I have to talk to people all day at school and work
@waelfaraj67055 жыл бұрын
You can resolve problems ...
@Tiawia5 жыл бұрын
omg i know! i am always so drained after work. too much human interaction..
@admirbarucija20185 жыл бұрын
@@Tiawia it's really difficult! most people don't understand the effort it takes to do it every day on repeat.
@kisigma11025 жыл бұрын
@@admirbarucija2018 for real I feel u and then they tell u too grow up it worse for men cause society expect us to be perfect
@admirbarucija20185 жыл бұрын
Ki Sigma I agree completely, a general lack of empathy and understanding makes the problem even worse
@bellybuttonring15 жыл бұрын
I just opened up this year about my Social Anxiety, Generalized Anxiety, and Agoraphobia. Such a relief to stop being in denial, hiding and being ashamed. After being diagnosed this year; I've started working towards my mental health. It definitely started as extreme shyness during my childhood, at least, I believe it was extreme shyness.
@comfqrtedits5 жыл бұрын
as a kid i was more extroverted and could EASILY go up to strangers and say hi and start a conversation but now i’m the opposite and i actually like myself this way then ‘the talkative stranger who goes up to everyone’ i don’t remember if i was soft-spoken as a child but definitely from grade 4 onwards i’m extremely soft-spoken and introverted and paranoid and i started getting social anxiety last year and it just washed over me this year to be honest, i don’t mind my personality but i want to be able to feel comfortable in social situations without being the ,ost awkward, anxious, paranoid person ever because i ALWAYS worry about what people think of me. the best thing i did this year was the biggest thing i’d ever done everrr, making friends. especially with the social anxiety, it was NOTTTTT EASY AT ALL. i had so much dont built up in my mind that i was struggling to see if they were actually my friends, but when i put all the puzzle pieces together i realised they were my friends, i asked myself questions like ‘do they talk to you’ ‘do they sit next to you in class’ so on. it’s also very hard to concentrate in class because i’m a maladaptive daydreamer, always stuck in my imagination. i also had a 5 month depressive episode this year and last year and this year were the crappiest, most horrible years of my life so far (making friends was 1 of the positives though 😁) hope this helps xx
@lorelynalaska90154 жыл бұрын
Saaaammee I mean I’ve always been a little shy as a kid but i wasn’t like how I am now. Now I’m always worried about what others think and I’m such a people pleaser. I can’t say no to people. It’s just making it worse because people call me such a suck up
@adrianexee5 жыл бұрын
*Am I the only one guy here who's having a social anxiety.? :(*
@elijah35695 жыл бұрын
I do as well, to the point where I cant go out to the mall with my friends for fear of being humiliated or judged. There are many other examples but I wont go into much detail. You arent suffering alone!
@MysticAstru4 жыл бұрын
You are not alone dude
@_sleepingforest_75855 жыл бұрын
I once told someone who had asked me why I don't talk a lot that I'm just bad at interacting with people. They asked if I had Social Anxiety, and I said yes. And, I was at a new school, so this made me even more nervous so I tried to push myself to interact with people that would talk to me so that I wouldn't be completely alone. So, I hung out with their friend group. I didn't talk at all, and if someone spoke to me I would just respond with a short answer not knowing what to say. But, every time I didn't talk very much this guy was like "You should talk to us. We are nice people." I said, "I know." When I wanted to say, "If it was that easy I would have been talking to you guys." I texted my friends from my old school everyday, I met them before I had social anxiety and they never judged me. So, when he asked me what I did over break I responded, "Text my old friends." He said, "If you can text your friends, why can't you talk to us?" I felt like he didn't understand what social anxiety is. I know he didn't have it, and it's hard to get why I act like this, but he just made these remarks that he had no idea how I felt about. If you don't have Social Anxiety, you'll never understand how we see things. Please, try to accept people with Social Anxiety, and maybe help them.
@Unknown-ej6np2 жыл бұрын
i am a dropout of uni and I really wanna go back next summer just to get a degree but I just can't mentally... how are you doing today and any tips on getting through school?
@_sleepingforest_75852 жыл бұрын
@@Unknown-ej6np I completely forgot I wrote this comment, I'm surprised I was brave enough to. Well, my Social Anxiety hasn't gotten any better but I'm hoping to start therapy soon and see if that helps. I'm enrolled in online school for my junior year, which I think is a great alternative for people that really struggle in person. I start September 6th, this upcoming Tuesday. I did download some social media, like TikTok and Discord which has helped me open up to people online. On TikTok I can find people that relate to similar issues that I do, and with Discord I can make friends and join servers with people going through the same thing. I recommend to try doing virtual college and see if you can get anywhere from there. Maybe think about therapy, and find people with similar situations online that can help give better advice. Sorry if I couldn't help too much, but you aren't alone ❤️
@sarahsarinsky5 жыл бұрын
You’re so strong talking about this. I suffer from social anxiety too, I Guess It’s more common than we think . I love your channel. You’re an amazing person 💕 Kisses from Italy 🥰😘😘😘
@lizangela20755 жыл бұрын
my college professor who has a PhD in psychology said that i was the “dark energy” in the room for having social anxiety. when he out of anyone should know how sensitive the human mind can be and how any little thing you say can hurt someone immensely. I have worked so hard to be the most positive, and high- spirited person that i can be, despite my depression & insecurities for someone to come and knock all of that down for no absolute reason.
@audreymusic095 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry that happened to you. This person is obviously very insensitive to others (which is ironical, given their field of expertise). I hope this won’t get you down too much and that you have someone to talk to. Never lose hope.
@seren47403 жыл бұрын
lol he/she was projecting for sure. He proved he was the one with dark negative energy when he said that you, so uncalled for
@onelove333333 жыл бұрын
I used to think dealing with social anxiety at school was bad, now that I work full time I can tell you that it is 10x worse dealing with social anxiety when you have a job...
@Poppyellah3 жыл бұрын
thank you for being so open and vulnerable, these type of bullying experiences are so common yet not talked about because of fear. It's helpful to have something to relate to
@samantha67615 жыл бұрын
My anxiety is so bad that I sweat terribly whenever Im around people.
@EmoniPrettyGurl4 жыл бұрын
Samantha as soon as people start conversations with me and everyone starts looking I start sweating
@mayallyourbaconburn71334 жыл бұрын
Samantha I start rambling and get cold hands and feet. And a slight stutter.
@ryrez44784 жыл бұрын
Same and my face turns red 😑
@kelisrobinson99815 жыл бұрын
When I tell you I related to EVERY SINGLE THING you said in regards to your social anxiety. Whew Chile the COURAGE.😭 I Stan QUEENN
@ariellaaanyaahtv48085 жыл бұрын
My anxiety is bad that I have to wear sunglasses to hide from people making eye contact scares me it’s crazy when I’m in a busy place the anxiety gets crazy
@kisigma11025 жыл бұрын
Facts
@uvotmin5 жыл бұрын
I even feel uncomfortable wearing sunglasses because I think people will judge me even because of that
@studywithanna5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video. Since starting university my social anxiety has gotten really bad. Makes me feel less alone to hear others talk about it ❤️❤️❤️
@rionpereira54075 жыл бұрын
If I knew people like you in person... I'm sure i would get over my anxiety
@ibebre104 жыл бұрын
Wow, these comments make me feel like I'm not alone. It's so great to know that there are people out there that are going through the same thing that I've been feeling this entire time. I feel like if I met any of you, you'd all just be such amazing people. Thank you Renee, for sharing your story with us and giving us a platform to share.
@katelynmichelle41175 жыл бұрын
I suffer from social anxiety as well, extremely similar to you. I really recommend reading the book "First We Make The Beast Beautiful". It's crazy relatable.
@tyburgel2795 жыл бұрын
What sometimes helps me with my anxiety is to just take a deep breath and try to realize that what you’re feeling is irrational. Everybody else is too focused on themselves to worry about you anyways
@sirmarkus25 жыл бұрын
I appreciate your story. I am in my late 30s and am only discovering my issues. I've looked around for someone with similar anxiety and found your story run parallel to mine. I was self-isolating myself. The problems I had with my professional career are all centered on SAD. I'm grateful to have found you. Thanks!
@alexandralummeofficial5 жыл бұрын
One of my to-go-to’s for self care when I’m coming home with built up anxiety or stress is candle lit showers with chill music playing from a playlist. I have no lights on in the bathroom besides the candles. It’s amazing, highly recommended. 🕯
@shelyn81665 жыл бұрын
I just realized i have social anxiety i've always been a shy girl when i was young and i only talk to the person i know around me sometimes i hate when someone just stares at me but of someone talks to me first i would probably get along well
@smnthrynd29905 жыл бұрын
Same
@uvotmin5 жыл бұрын
Um maybe you're just shy? Social anxiety is way more complex than that
@shablabh5 жыл бұрын
I get anxiety attacks everytime before going out, I cannot do it at all
@wholesale73864 жыл бұрын
same
@mayallyourbaconburn71334 жыл бұрын
Swift's nerd I have them after interacting with ppl. When I’m alone again
@xannyphantom12074 жыл бұрын
Yo wtf me too
@wholesale73864 жыл бұрын
@@mayallyourbaconburn7133 same
@shablabh4 жыл бұрын
@@mayallyourbaconburn7133 i have it before and then whenever im talking to a person my heart is beating fast and I cannot keep up a convo for the sake of life
@gghfbd74165 жыл бұрын
ummm... i told my mom i thought i had social anxiety and she said that i didn’t, that i was fine.. 💀
@jessicakhan15484 жыл бұрын
Ggh FHb yoooo my mum said the same thing 💀
@tihutchings4 жыл бұрын
my mom told me i gotta learn to turn it off
@hsksjsks99704 жыл бұрын
My mom said:" no you're autistic." Like she's a 100% sure I have autism
@seren47403 жыл бұрын
I love when people think they know more about other people than the people themselves 😂
@ahagqgwvisn98795 жыл бұрын
I find it really hard to leave the house, it’s just so scary. Everyone is looking at you, and you could see someone you know, or worse, have to talk to someone you don’t know. I also ALWAYS go to the self serve tills in shops, even if one isn’t available I’ll wait.
@ogueyratogeyrat74484 жыл бұрын
Holy fk same it feel like tiger chasing u
@vl26634 жыл бұрын
Same here, I haven’t been able to leave my house for long periods of time for years now :/. Social anxiety ruined my life. I lost most of my friends years ago and haven’t been able to make any new ones because I can’t handle being around people. I’m alone and isolated most of the time and it’s the worst thing ever. My family isn’t supportive at all and i only have one friend but she goes to college. Shit feels pretty hopeless at this point and I get anxiety and depression from how long I spend here in my room
@ahagqgwvisn98794 жыл бұрын
Vee levenstein same it sucks my friends have all left me too. And my family refuses to help me
@tahjlebron4 жыл бұрын
I feel anxious even around my family because I feel I’m not being the best brother/son I could be. I try to change my ways but feel like I’m trying so hard that it makes my awkwardness/anxiety worse.
@bellahernandez65003 жыл бұрын
I have axciety around my family too it sucks
@PastelJulia5 жыл бұрын
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@jennygutierrez25465 жыл бұрын
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@shellyvlogs11825 жыл бұрын
thank u so much 😘😘😘😘
@uhlyssuhx5 жыл бұрын
Since i was 9 i’ve had ocd (now i’m 25). Not the ocd thats thrown around where people state it as an adjective or something quirky. Its an extremely debilitating, misunderstood disorder. It negatively impacts my day to day life from the moment i wake up until i’m finally asleep. And although i feel many people are starting to understand the reality of mental disorders, i still feel as if they are treated as something to describe things not even close to what they truly are. Such as depression, anxiety and ocd. Its refreshing to see someone who is relatable, seems down to earth, and true to open up about her struggles and where they stem from. I look forward to every video you post and whenever i watch your videos they definitely keep the monster in my head away for a bit :) i wish you well on your journey to dealing with your struggles and thank you being you!
@GoldGaming2195 жыл бұрын
Emphasis on "extremely misunderstood". I cringe when people say they have ocd & talk about how they have to have a clean counter or something in a certain spot. Unless it truly takes over their life i don't think it counts as ocd. When it becomes a struggle to turn off a light or leave the house thats when its ocd.
@uhlyssuhx5 жыл бұрын
Gold219 yes it definitely hurts a bit when people misuse it 😕 a disorder is something that disrupts your life. Plenty of people misuse the names of so many disorders in ways that they feel apply to small everyday things, which is not right
@GoldGaming2195 жыл бұрын
@@uhlyssuhx Yeah for sure. At the end of the day it doesn't really bother me if they misuse it, i just think to myself "lol, if only you knew". Do you happen to have a ig i could message you on, i would be interested to hear some of your thoughts and chat about it (i have never really talked to anyone about the struggles because to others its just laughable nonsense and only someone like yourself would understand). Im 23 now but have also struggled with it the majority of my life, my guess is since i was around 7-10.
@uhlyssuhx5 жыл бұрын
Gold219 i actually don’t have any social media. But have you heard of the ocd community through the iocdf? Its on an app called health unlocked and you can write posts about anything really related to your treatment or stories or advice/resources. I’ve been using it for a couple months now just as an outlet to express myself and it has been nice to communicate with others who deal with ocd as well
@GoldGaming2195 жыл бұрын
@@uhlyssuhx Its cool, i understand! I don't have any social media myself either, i only have my business's instagram. I havent heard of that but dont really wanna write a post to have a bunch of people chime in, more or less just thought it would be cool to talk to a single person.
@aaronnaboa7915 жыл бұрын
Im shy at school every day :(
@Emonerd-fn1el5 жыл бұрын
Same
@shellyvlogs11825 жыл бұрын
me too
@thebeautyofannihilation5 жыл бұрын
same
@saranicegirla5 жыл бұрын
Me too. Just be brave
@Lauren06xo5 жыл бұрын
Same...
@rodyrod745 жыл бұрын
You really helped me today. Having a very long day with just sinking feelings of how I act in social encounters and just feeling too self aware.
@sophiestokes93944 жыл бұрын
I can just tell from my social anxiety that you have it just from you speaking about the moment you start speaking about it you speak up in your speaking x
@kaylamarie95845 жыл бұрын
I'm the same way and it is crazy that I had the same thing happen to me. A friend that I thought was my friend, actually kept judging me and was mean. I feel like I'm not good enough or my personality is unlikable, so I'm quiet around new people.
@danielasolis90845 жыл бұрын
That’s how I feel too! I feel like they wouldn’t be interested in listening to me and I will get judged 😟
@riesnatt5105 жыл бұрын
Same! Happened to me in middle school w these bunch of girls...still kept in touch with them now n we're in neutral terms. Still had that anxiety tho.
@danielasolis90845 жыл бұрын
hey you keep smiling yes! I know exactly what you mean! Btw are you bts fan lol
@riesnatt5105 жыл бұрын
@@danielasolis9084 yes lol
@danielasolis90845 жыл бұрын
hey you keep smiling me too!!! 😁
@danielodonnell38015 жыл бұрын
All these ppl in the comments i can relate to its crazy but i never see these sorts of ppl in real life, feels like im alone with it out here 😞
@hehebbshens6234 жыл бұрын
That’s how I feel. Everyone like you know “well”, like they have everything under control
@nanamionitsuka40035 жыл бұрын
This helps me a lot. I'v been shy and quiet since elementary and I thought it's normal at that time and I became worse when I reached College, then until at my new job someone teased me to be very quiet and it hurts me a lot that I felt bullied and made me quit my job without sending a resignation letter and that's when I thought something is wrong with me. And what you have described perfectly fits what I was dealing with. I'll try to put what everything you have said on my mind. Thanks!
@clairetriplett13035 жыл бұрын
Never watched your videos before but I really appreciate you talking openly about your anxiety, I suffer from it too and the more open people with a following are the more we can get rid of the stigma.
@a.j.78244 жыл бұрын
it’s the worst when your friends get mad at you for it and don’t understand why your nervous. they don’t understand they are just making it worse by yelling at you for it
@KanYhai5 жыл бұрын
Does anyone here have a heart attack when they have to do a presentation?
@KanYhai5 жыл бұрын
Lulu what grade are you in?
@KanYhai5 жыл бұрын
Lulu that’s probably why
@bunny-bs7xi4 жыл бұрын
superbrutime12 what? Lucky! I’m in grade 6 and I have a lot of presentations. As well as speeches...
@shaniaa21454 жыл бұрын
yes i hate them so i’m like skipping them most of the time ...
@no-ss2dw4 жыл бұрын
i legit cried n my teacher failed me bc he said “if u can talk to freinds to can present” tf
@anke42935 жыл бұрын
I'm like you I'm not shy in front of my fam but new people I get literally nauseous thinking about meeting new people
@ash_79315 жыл бұрын
This video came at just the right time for me. I just started a new job and it requires me to speak with a lot of different people throughout the day, and for someone who has social anxiety, like myself, this has been extremely difficult. I have panic attacks and cry as soon as I get home because social anxiety tells me that I am an incompetent idiot who can't communicate with others without being completely awkward, jumbling my words and just acting all around uncomfortable. I am struggling. It seems like everyone around me can just be outgoing effortlessly and I have to work so hard at it.
@nurelissa30124 жыл бұрын
Ashlee Joleen i feel you. I even cried on my first week of work. It was so bad that I had to take a medical leave because of it. To make it worse, i was also bullied by an experienced colleague too. Sucks to be a newbie at a workplace. Everyone else will start to take advantage of you.
@razorsharpplays2619 Жыл бұрын
I didn't realize how bad/irrational my own fears were until I actually started thinking about all the times I avoid doing something out of fear of being judged. I literally didn't want to take out the trash, do my laundry, go to the cafeteria to eat sometimes, go for a run or exercise, felt like I was being judged or watched while walking down the sidewalk, don't want to raise my hand to answer questions in class because I always get physically scared and start sweating and my heart starts beating and I don't like reaching out to my friends to do anything fun because of fear that they will judge me or just say no. I'm not diagnosed with social anxiety but I'm starting to think I just need to force myself to go back to my counselor to talk to them about it.
@sabrina31385 жыл бұрын
I have to replay the whole video again and again because of the amount of comments I can relate to that I have to pause to read. And I usually scroll and watch but this comment section has my full attention.
@HarmonixHeroine5 жыл бұрын
Same!!!
@bananananawoman4 жыл бұрын
I have a great family life, I haven’t really been bullied, just pushed around and to everyone I seem to have the perfect life. No one believes that I actually have a problem and that my anxiety is getting way too out of hand for me to handle. No coping methods have worked and since I tried going to others for help and they ignored me, so I never tell anyone how I feel anymore. It’s awful feeling this way with no one believing you do since you are “perfect” to them.
@ok.36195 жыл бұрын
Hey person scrolling through the comment section...STAY SAFE ❤
@laurajstevens90095 жыл бұрын
Such a great video, I suffer with fear and anxiety, thank you for sharing, so true xx
@sumlikethaat5 жыл бұрын
You have no idea how much this helped me during my anxiety moment. Literally I was struggling so hard to use every coping skill and I felt at peace watching this video. Thank you so much honestly.
@SuperHeroine045 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! I lived and felt the exact way + had similar experiences but now I’m starting to put it all together whilst reflecting on my self and my past experiences. It’s not easy to live w social anxiety but I feel like it becomes more bearable once you are aware of yourself and the people around you. Slowly you will cope!