The Heartbreaking Saga of a Hasidic Matchmaker

[@TzippyTzippy-fx9iq]

This episode did to me and my wife away more than what our therapist tried in the last 2 years. After watching the full episode we made our commitment even stronger to be there for each other and most important to be there for our kids. I wish that we can contact him for a personal session.

[@BenSkyLakewood]

That's nice

[@weeklydaily4775]

Wow. Thats wonderful

[@esthermpungu3963]

Wooow, keep to your commitment 💕

[@shimonrosenberg1943]

I grew up with yonasen schwartz albums. My father passed away when I was 13 years old in 1998. At that time he gave out his gite besirah album and he has a song of a child that sat by his father sick bed and then the father passed away. That song gave me so much chizuk. I was literally crying every time I listened to that song.

[@annonimiss6422]

Some divorced parents hate their spouses more than they love their children. It's heartbreaking to watch those children lose so much because of one or both of their parents' hatred towards the other.

[@avideblinger2492]

The guy is absolutely brilliant. I can't even count how many times I said to myself that this was worth listening just because of this line. So many great lines and amazing wisdom.

[@ralphfenortner3026]

What an inspiring interview! So much good advice and direction for a happier life from a man who seems to walk the walk. Thank you so much!

[@judithfleischer1531]

What a smart man. I was involved in one shidduch. The mother said no. So, I went directly to the boy and mentioned it to him. When I told him the girl's name he said that it never was mentioned to him and I told him why. I told him that his mother said no. I said it's only one date. If there is no connection then you don't continue. But there is no reason not to go out at least once. They are BH married and have married children.

[@Tali5899]

What a wonderful start to married life.I hope his mother gets along with his wife and everyone lives happily ever after.

[@danielsmith-mm2qj]

you are right.i agree with you

[@shimonsurkis9626]

Yakov I have been listening to a lot of your podcasts from day 1 and this is the first time I'm commenting on this epic episode. I grew up listening to Yonoson as well as whatch him do so much chesed in the community and I never new his personal life story, this gave me so much more appreciation for this incredible person. May he be blessed with Siyata Dishmaya in all his endeavors.

[@surimutterperl2525]

I’m blown away by this podcast. I would love to speak with Mr Schwartz. This was EPIC

[@angusseletto1511]

Possibly the Kindest way possible of saying "Don't let life's problems determine your future happiness".The Brain has to be Stronger the the Heart to prevail.

[@yaffadonath953]

I agree with him 100% that it is very painful but true. Sorry for the ones who got offended by it it is hard to hear the truth. I heard him in the Yiddish podcast as well he is a brilliant man who went through a lot in his life, and instead of getting depressed he built upon it. I loved this episode it was definitely EPIC!.

[@angusseletto1511]

So so many lessons to take away.A Very wise man. Epic show. I hope you read these comments. Im lucky to have found your channel.God Bless You

[@ChayaFellerman]

So inspirational. Thank you!

[@josephklein8692]

Yonason Schwartz is EPIC!!! we can learn from him that whatever a person is going through they can go on in life and leave it to hashem to run the world...I totally agree with yonason... Thanks so much for this episode.

[@aaronminz8829]

Epic Thank you I love Yonesen, my old neighbor and a friend.

[@beans4853]

The shidduch crisis is a symptom of a much larger issue. We have become the most judgemental community, judging people for silly external things that have no meaning and no basis in Torah. Thats causing families to struggle with getting kids into schools/cheder/yeshivas, kids going OTD, and many more issues were facing. The shidduch crisis is also a product of that. Instead of looking how we can make everything assur, lets focus on the basic halachas like loving your fellow jew instea of being oiver on that in the name of mishigasen

[@Tali5899]

Hear hear!!! Bravo!!! Judgemental is not the word!!! People need to look in the mirror and See they're not as unique and amazing as they're ego leads them to believe.

[@d.l7457]

This is one of the most inspiring episodes to date. (No pun intended;) Wow I am blown away by his Sumchas Hachaim. Will have to listen to it again BE"H.

[@bobgross3183]

EPIC guy, EPIC singer, EPIC lyric writer, EPIC interview, EPIC podcast.

[@tuvylemberg]

Incredible interview

[@Hadas705]

תודה על השיתוף, סיפור ממש עצוב. יישר כח

[@TheGoverdi]

EPIC! Though this is a word used way too often to describe events that may merit lesser descriptions, this podcast is truly EPIC! AND TRULY INSPIRING!

[@yitzchokroth6168]

Amazing powerful episode !! Keep it up!!

[@wholovesyababy5574]

Fabulous interview! Thank you!

[@merrynhopkins1162]

Fantastic interview Thank you

[@FrankyJew]

EPIC! I think the message was a little bugled because of the language barrier. However, he is a special yid who means well and he's actually trying to make a difference.

[@rochelbrown6597]

Epic. Definitely epic...so much wisdom...I feel that today's society has been influenced in subtle ways (as well as not so subtle) to focus on 'what's good for me?' When we think like that we are not a vessel for a mutual relationship. Even if one doesn't agree with every word it's worth listening to. I think he's an amazing man B"H. Blessings to him and to everyone to find their true spouse and their true path.

[@oraclehaveacookie9737]

Nothing surprising that adults abuse kids thinking they wont be called out. It happens everywhere. 😢

[@letsgettserious]

How does someone get in touch with Reb Yonasan?

[@טליהגרינברג-ה3נ]

Thank you so much!!! So insightful ❤

[@havivahgoldsmith8052]

Yona san is right on u have to believe. It cuz I'm a Savta Rabba who knows about love at first sight! Been there done that and it worked for 60+yrs 🎉

[@newsigmundfreud3023]

*Parental alienation is an epidemic growing by leaps and bounds and is destroying entire families! Mr. Schwartz should direct his attention to reverse this trend.*

[@beans4853]

Why? He is doing something positive that he's passionate about, he can't fix every problem that exists. There are many issues that are getting worse and destroying people/families in our community. Why don't you stand up and work to fix this one if it bothers you so much?

[@144Donn]

A very painful terrible thing which I underwent for 6 years.

[@IJK205]

Btw, he actually does speak & address this very sad topic. I follow him on certain platforms. Its a known thing, If you follow him closer. God Bless

[@jlabmaster1722]

Great video thank you so much

[@Brenda-is9mo]

Epic! I appreciate you enlightening us on this subject.

[@brethenson3]

He is a briiliant mind burech hashem thanks for bringing him on . Indeed epic . !

[@ramban1]

Epic. Another really great episode.

[@sabineelvirejung8121]

Epic! Thank you.

[@ttee6990]

Yup, rav a, Miller said rule #1 be realistic in marriage. We’re human, give space for others shenanigans. You have them as well.

[@YochyMiller]

Brilliant man listen carefully and nothing still is being done about the age gap

[@MsMuradova]

Amazing as always!!

[@MottyTeitelbaum]

Agree 101% with Yonason EPIC!!!

[@juliebabaev2826]

Amazing speaker Very talented,wise and inspiring!!

[@artbya613]

Epic. Make sure to always remember that Hashem is the One and Only Shadchan!

[@chulenttup1]

Amazing and true words

[@ciuzdamm]

Rabbi Yonason Schwartz has the most wonderful voice and music. Shalom over Israel

[@bonnieschechner9476]

EPIC! A most fascinating man.

[@alsnov19]

Gr8 episode thanks for having him on

[@mottyfrankel3823]

EPIC (He had me up on till he said It's OK the lie especially on this topic when the truth is vital)

[@ShuiHaber]

the TW was totally unnecessary - his presentation is very good - not harsh at all, more realistic and honest

[@AnnDrew-fv1ci]

Well said

[@shelleyshub3593]

Eye opening. Tragic. But needs to be said and heard. Thanks for highlighting this. #FOLLOWFORLIFE!

[@annonimiss6422]

Towards the end, when Yaakov is saying that some people are not going ahead with a shidduch becasue of their fear of divorce, it sounds like Yaakov is trying to decribe what might be more accurately termed as a fear of commitment.

[@antoniajane5442]

Those people that abuse others need to be named and shamed to the police.

[@annonimiss6422]

Wow, really an incredible episode. Edit: Epic! (haha almost forgot that 😂)

[@sr3676]

Epic! Very inspiring!

[@relaxingcalmmusic]

Incredible and amazing lessons. Well said

[@Shanestarr100]

Wow! Thank you

[@KhinMarWin-nn6vp]

Please, mention the song title by Mr Yonasan Schwartz.... Be Blessed the team....Mr Elli Always watching from Myanmar

[@SH-yo6em]

I think he said it's menchen

[@tottymommy8197]

Absolutely amazing...

[@user-nc2wh1un8h]

wonderful . thanks for this episode. but... perhaps someone can get to the root of the problem. why? why are parents (or whomever ) being so picky? are they overly concerned of what people will think/say? why do they need to impress others? is it a lack of self esteem? or is it something else?

[@Tali5899]

Ratrace. Keep up with the Jones's. "What will people say". "But we are baalabatishe people". "We are choshuv". .....take your pick!

[@kalesdesign]

amazing episodes (please continue the hebrew/expression translations throughout whole episode)

[@שושיסגל-ה4ח]

תודה רבה

[@louigm]

Wow! The last half an hour or so was life changing. Such חוכמה! When I heard he’s a talmid of Rav Avigdor Miller ZT”L I realized why he’s such a wise person.

[@janesmith9024]

Your religion allows divorce (mine Catholicism does not - I got a very very very rare "annulment"). I don't agree divorce is usually worse. My parents were married until they died - 50 years and they really were not happy together . It was so sad for us to see particularly as teenage children. I was not prepared to put my own children through that so we divorced after 20 years and for us it was the best thing.

[@Harryson67]

Epic and excellent

[@SouthAfricanIBTeacher]

Wonderful!!!!

[@chanierapoport8628]

any way to get in touch with R' Yonasan personally?

[@feigyshtein1207]

Amazing!!!!!!!!!!

[@bsimcha690]

Is there anyway I can contact R' Yonasan?

[@abbyk36]

Epic. More chassidish guests please.

[@eliblum9461]

Amazing

[@dowhatisright]

Please let us know how we can reach Reb. Schwartz about shidduchim. I have several older singles I am trying to help. An interesting interview.

[@TheSureled]

how can i contact Yonasan Schwartz

[@EliM100]

On this person Chazal said, כל מילה בשקל! Every word worth its weight in silver

[@cslurzberg]

I wish he was my Shadchan...I worked with people who did not care quite as much... BH I've been married for ten years, but dated for five years and it was terrible...

[@borsht321]

Can you please send me the contact information for Yonasan Schwartz? I would like to contact him in regards to shidduchim.

[@itsnotme-x3f]

I cant understend how can some one not get divorce if no love

[@kingsleyunogaozirigbo8901]

well spoken my dear Rabbi

[@lulmul4698]

You didn't understand the chasam soifer! He says that to say hatoiv vihameitiv it has to be considered from hashem, yet since there is only one that you want and you want her to say yes FROM HERSELF , therfore hatoiv vihameotiv isn't the blessing As you want her to say yes Not hashem making her say yes And that's in addition that its how you need to see it from a perspective That's what he adds

[@miriamkayman1846]

He is a great person

[@catsun90805]

I love mitzvah kinder! So cute !When we shop I always want to order a set for my son. Would you ever make a Sephardi tamani set. ? 😊

[@rrm41]

He dose kinder velt. Mitzvah kinder is someone else. It's kinda the same. Competition.

[@Valdesgreen]

Hello, what is mitzvah kinder, kinder velt? Are they toy stores? thanks! I'm a teacher.

[@PearlLandau]

Epic!

[@CheskySchwartzProductions]

Epic❤

[@irothman9269]

80% of shiduchim always happens thru friends and family. That's something that has always been. One day I will also discuss shadchan abuse stories. Yuh yuh

[@rileyfox4001]

Face facts. Some people just don't want to get married and will shoot down all proposals.

[@LL-mj5ij]

EPIC 😊

[@Gil-n1n]

My wife zichranah livracha made 3 shiduchim i think. She died 3 mothes ago I need a shuduch

[@courtcounselor]

His story is not "tragic"... Quite the contrary.

[@Ozziemisha745]

Needed to be reminded that Hashem runs the world. EPIC interview.

[@d.rothenberg8295]

Absolutely agree with this fascinating, brilliant, insightful man! He's intuitive to a very positive degree. Which is why his epic success in whatever he chooses to do is not surprising. The ilk of Rabbis Sachs and Wallerstein - and Miller.

[@danielrosenberg887]

Epic🎉

[@cslurzberg]

Also need more education for Shalom Bayis, pre-marriage.

[@Tali5899]

Another thing; its ironic how R'Yonason says he went through a bitter divorce yet cauations others against it.Either he should have taken his own advice or accept its easy to saywith hindsight. Third, does he think maybe his doing gigs every night and gallivanting all over the world on the first few years of marriage may have contributed to its demise? How about a few words to the young about priorities? Kids look up to singers in the Jewish world yet many seem to have serious unresolved issues in their personal lives.

[@arsalanmirza3411]

A very sad story indeed.

[@rogermoore27]

2:40 - what??? In 1969? And you have such a large white beard? Wowww! I'm just comparing myself because i was born 1974 but i don't have much gray hair myself as yet.

[@rileyfox4001]

Positive!

[@AishesChayil]

Granted that Shidduchim may be a crisis, but parental alienation is an epidemic growing by leaps and bounds and is destroying entire families. Mr. Schwartz should direct his attention to reverse this trend

[@newsigmundfreud3023]

*YES!*

[@beans4853]

There are sadly many terrible travesties that are becoming widespread in our community. He's focusing to correct one that he's passionate about. He can't fix everything

[@IJK205]

He Does! people should do just a bit more research before commenting blindly out of emotion.

[@zsavetsky]

"Obviously I was taken advantage of physically emotionally and sexually etc". Is it obvious that a kid is gonna be abused if there are no parents involved in the ultra frum community, what a shanda!

[@myopinions1]

Yeah! There aren't any good or organizations that help or protect orphans.

[@חיזוקלפרשתהשבועריונתןשווארץחיז]

There is good and bad everywhere, Focus on the positivity. The real Shanda is being negative.

[@tamarfischer283]

Anyone else would have blamed his father or grandparents. Just because he said ' obviously' that doesn't mean it is really obvious. There were plenty people left in the world who could and should have protected him

[@zsavetsky]

@@tamarfischer283 the people who should've protected him were the ones who abused him. His roshei yeshiva and rabbeim!

[@ShuiHaber]

This was in the 70's. No one spoke about these things then.

[@Gil-n1n]

Sometimes a person makes a nader for example he tells an poor person i will give you money and forgets about it and punishment the talmud says that chas vosholim his child dies or his wife HASHEM could sweeten it by making the child instead of that person not married or poor or finicky witch is is like death becouse being poor is like death ect.

[@steveneumann32]

Epic

[@rivkagurevitz9019]

How is his toy different from Mitzva Kinder? It's also Chaseedish

[@beans4853]

Competition. His is slightly uglier

[@OsnielRozen]

EPICCCCCCC

[@zip19692000]

So you say you have a mother who won't give out her two daughters to Shidduchim till she gets exactly what she wants, and the same with a father who won't let his daughters out unless the boys are like his first son-in-law. So, is that your Shidduch crisis in a nutshell? A few mental cases? Because if that's all you have, then we're in pretty good shape. Let those few parents work out their own issues while the rest of us go play golf. As far as there being thousands of girls piling up in the Midwest and the West Coast, I can confirm that this is not true. My brother, who lives in the Midwest, tells me there are plenty of weddings, and most graduating classes are all married by age 23 or less. I live in Lakewood. The thousands of single girls you say are not true. Especially not in the high 20s and older. And BH for that. And the girls over age 25 in any city will tell you themselves that their problem is not in getting dates, but in getting the "right" dates. Yes, many parents and many families are picky and have specific hang-ups, and they are too quick to turn down ideas, but that can not be the communities crisis. Those parents and those families have to figure things out between themselves, their single daughters, and the family therapist.

[@Amatchmadeinheaven-kj9kg]

I wish you are right. As a Lakewood Shadchenta I can tell you that you are in a fantasy world. Of course there are 1000's of weddings annually and even in the Midwest there are plenty of weddings but this doesn't change the fact that Lakewood and other cities have a hangover of 1000's of girls that are in Shidduchim for over 3 years. When is the last time you checked Montreal and Toronto? LA & Chicago, Switzerland alone has over 90 girls that are over 3 years in Shidduchim, Even the Lakewood Rosh Yeshivos finally woke up (little too late) and are trying to do something about it. Thank God that someone like Mr Schwartz finally brings up a crisis that is shoved under the rug for years and you are talking about playing gulf.

[@beans4853]

It's a small percentage, but because he deals with them every day he thinks it's way more. That's how echo chambers work, they create an illusion of volume. On the other hand, every single person who suffers is a whole world and it's great that there's someone trying to help them