LOBOLA NEGOTIATIONS AND OTHER STUFF

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[@NokuphiwaM]

You’re right Sibu, it’s different for everyone. At the end of the day what’s important is the relationship/marriage 1. Month 8 of dating we started premarital counselling 2. Month 11 of dating he proposed with a ring, then sent the letter a week later 3. Month 12 of dating he paid most of the lobola, my culture doesn’t allow complete lobola at the first negotiation because some cultural things have to be done at the conclusion, and we need to prepare 4. Month 13 we signed at Home Affairs with our friends and siblings 5. Month 18 he came back to complete the lobola Happily married for almost two years now, and our families are asking for traditional weddings. We are busy trying to pay off the current house to rent it out, saving for a bigger house and will give them small weddings when we can

[@makomalesego_]

Like you've mentioned, I really do not think one should propose to their partner if they do not have any plan to marry them soon. Of course we cannot put a timeframe to this but it's always wise to ask them when they're planning to marry you before you say yes to them❤. Otherwise they'll just propose just to reserve you to themselves but they do not wanna commit or whatsoever

[@kuts.thwala]

“Life is not a group projects” facts!

[@langaonicca]

I was engaged for 1 yr 6 months, I picked my engagement ring and he also did. Such a happy moment. We're 7 months in marriage now

[@ndo__desire]

Sending a letter and then proposing makes so much sense, love that🫰🏽

[@zinhle__z]

Dated for three years got engaged with a ring , two weeks later he went to deliver the letter ; three months later it was lobola , three months post lobola we went to home affairs to sign with family and friends. 2years in still not sure if I want the big celebration and it’s not driven by finance . Imitshato ayifani so do what works for you and have fun/create memories 😅

[@NamkaZ]

“Some healing needs to happen in community and not isolation” Paraphrased your words there Sibu but woah! Genuinely so happy for you! 🎉

[@MoreMpanza]

❤️❤️❤️

[@tshepisomokhema8391]

You’re so right Sibu I also don’t foresee having an extravagant party before securing the deposit to my house with my future husband. I’d even push it as far as saying I’m not having the white wedding before moving in and having the house ready

[@karabelokhophoche1958]

You should definitely be proud of yourself... it's amazing what you going through

[@MoreMpanza]

Thank you! 🙏🏿

[@Elle_Tee_MrsM]

I didn't get engaged. He sent the letter in May, no engagement ring either, first week of December they finalized and two weeks later we had a traditional and "white" wedding. It worked out perfectly for us but sometimes when it's mampara week, I wish I could get all that wedding money back 😅😅😂

[@MoreMpanza]

Mampara week will make you regret every cent you’ve ever spent 😭

[@zimasambonelwa]

🤭🤭i opened youtube at the righttttt time, NICE!

[@nothemba-gumede]

This video ate bandla. It brought me back out of the fantasy of relationships and how society expects them to work. Really everyone must find a method that works for them as a couple, qha.

[@dubsy_mshika]

Imagine Wasabi as umkhonki 😂😂😂

[@NompumeleloDove]

A wedding celebration is a luxury but the ceremony of saying vows infront of witnesses is important. That can also be done during the Membeso ceremony.

[@leratonkalaa]

Lobola is marriage!❤

[@Elizabeth-vu1tb]

Siblings can meet; but introducing to PARENTS.. heart palpitations. Maybe when the time feels right. I can invite him to a family braai

[@sisiphoskweyiya1384]

Sibu this is so heart warming ❤️❤️ congratulations 🥳 may your union be blessed!

[@Browneyes_]

You have grown so much,it’s so beautiful to witness ❤ from a married woman I’d advise you to do what works for your union you will be the happiest couple.May your union be blessed.You deserve all the happiness and love. uThixho anisikelele marriage is beautiful .

[@KhumoSematle]

Hello. Congratulations on the soon to be nuptials. A number of young people are in the same predicament, not having enough family members to help through some of these rites of passage. Would you be interested in doing a YT Lobola Series (with people around you) on their ideas around it and the different cultural practices, among other important conversations on the matter. Just a realistic approach for the young masses

[@mbalib2694]

Love what you said, doing a big wedding before buying assets will always be a no no for me

[@Elizabeth-vu1tb]

I just want a letter and lobola ( real live walking cows) .. 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 engagement and weddings etc aren’t my thing. I’m not promising ANYBODY a huge party. Even an engagement ring isn’t my thing. Give me my wedding ring after lobola and then we live happily ever after.

[@MoreMpanza]

Real cows??? 😭

[@Elizabeth-vu1tb]

@@MoreMpanza Yes.. 🥹🥹 I want to hear cowbells on my wedding day🥹🫠🤣🤣

[@philamtshizana2754]

You did it right actually if her family gave u blessings then u can propose.Also the union is between you guys and combining the 2 families once those are done u are officially married. The rest is extras.

[@rendi__rm]

I'm glad that you posted this video! I'm getting closer to this time as well. This was very insightful

[@KeneuoeMonyatsi]

So proud of you.

[@ndo__desire]

I always have to ditch another video for you, always!😂❤

[@MoreMpanza]

🫢❤️

[@zanayduplessis8087]

Life is not a movie🙌🏽

[@somethingwithsina]

Sendilinde iparty pack....congratulations Sibu🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@yonellalitshethu7135]

Mine was two years engagement and us waiting it was not because of financial problems qha we felt like waiting for no reason😂

[@thejourney5730]

the only thing I'm thinking about is "utjile umnyeni wam" 😂😂😂😂

[@preciouschauke3109]

I'm so glad I watched this movie I needed it and I didn't even know it, thank you for sharing ❤❤❤

[@MoreMpanza]

I got you. ❤️

[@nombasambeleki7179]

Notification gang 🎉🎉

[@KabeloEmilyNell]

Couldn’t agree more on not overspending on a wedding because it’s actually not necessary Also love the ring conversation, I actually dream of trying on different rings with my partner before he proposes, so we can see different options etc.

[@zimmiejotile6679]

First one here😂🎉❤notification gang

[@nondumisomhlongo]

Excited that you’re sharing this part of your life with us. All the best on your engagement & subsequently your marriage ❤

[@thandekilebuthelezi8779]

Congratulations guys !

[@minenhleramokgonami4760]

I’m remember on the first date telling my now fiancé that I don’t want an engagement ring or engagement party it’s lobola then wedding that’s it and that’s what’s happening. He sent his family and now we preparing for the wedding 🤍

[@Khomotjo_Maifo]

Taking notes as a chronically single hun 😂 I agree with the therapy part. It really does opens one’s eyes about a lot . If it wasn’t for therapy I probably wouldn’t have this YT channel right now 🥹

[@Brandedbymelissa]

This is so heartwarming and you blessed for your friends and family ❤

[@nomceboDlamini-ip6nz]

Liked before watching as usual 😊😊❤❤

[@MoreMpanza]

❤️❤️❤️

[@LeeMohlala]

'South africans love hence' 😂😂😂😂 i find weddings to be expensive so I'm not interested in a wedding,guy must finalize lobola and then we're married. Congratulations, you deserve all the good things life has in store for you 🎉

[@olwethu_n]

Super Bowl rings 😭😭😭

[@untamedalien]

Irings zobekezela😂😂😂😂

[@sinelottering9634]

Loved this conversation ❤ Goodluck Sibu

[@bonangdew5122]

three tier cake of a ring ???😭😭🤣🤣🤣

[@MoreMpanza]

Sorry 🫢

[@CVWyk]

I felt that "shut up!" at 04:56 all the way from Namibia 🤣

[@theo-doll_masuku]

I say the guy should say for lobola first then propose if he wants it to be a surprise, the proposal mayihambe ne letter

[@aviwemnikina7942]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 that "shut up"

[@pm4594]

Yo Sibu! This was a really nice sit down vlog. Also, any chance you can caption when you don't speak English? I'm also trying your language Sibu

[@LethoHali]

I think it’s wisdom to prioritise a home over a wedding. When all is said and done, weddings are really an unnecessary expense. Us ladies love them though 😂. But starting a married life journey with wedding bills is truly not ideal. Transitioning into married life can be hard enough without the additional financial stress.

[@inathimazwai9888]

So happy for you Sibu!!

[@tkthakaneschannel3883]

🎉🎉🎉

[@vuyelwambelekane2860]

I liked the video after hearing you say you googled😂😊

[@lussylupindo1093]

I love you Guys mina ❤🥰🤍

[@kuhlebukani2996]

You so intelligent its not gonna make sence to do wedding but u dont a house for yo wife i agree with yo statement🎉🎉🎉

[@khetho405]

🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@nokwandamasikane9083]

Not Super Bowl rings😭😭😭😂😂

[@ManketsiMakgalemele]

We don’t want to know your little boyfriend 🤣🤣🤣

[@tulz123]

❤

[@DK1MM]

I also would like a proposal after the letter,makes sense to me cos I'm that black 😂 also i know my family, my mom won't approve a ring before the letter

[@OM-ii6hr]

As for “Doc”😂😂😅

[@shireenmonama5765]

❤❤❤❤

[@ladyqngomane]

I was engaged for 9 months then we got married.

[@munyadziwakeorapetse5198]

ene life is not a group project hey. I also believe lobola is marriage.

[@neliswanqiwa8458]

@more mpanza, as squad sika sis Vuli we are so proud of you. You iskolo sonke besizakumanyeliswa le video. MAPHIRI is proud of you ndoda. You are doing great.... Nomvulazana is proud of you ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@mziwendukuntsele671]

I'm concerned you may be in limerence. You just mention emotions a lot.

[@MoreMpanza]

Oooh Limerance is a v interesting concept but enjoying talking about your feelings/emotions & loving your partner ≠ Limerance. No need for concern. 🤞🏾

[@daboys7983]

Sibu is Zulu? Hayibo thixo wam life is a lie

[@Amahle361]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@lulz_kobese]

Nam I'm so shocked 😂😂 or maybe he's half Zulu angazi shem

[@mziwendukuntsele671]

He has mentioned it before

[@Phela.Radikeledi]

This was so beautiful to watch hleng! 🥹🤭 I also believe in the - Rommela lekwalo - Propose - Makgadi timeline. At the end of the day you're writing the newest chapter in yours and your partners lives and you're wanting that it be one to look back at it with so much joy and contentment, so do as you both see fit 😌 And congratulations once again, le bantle go re!!! 🤭 PEACE ✌🏾

[@MoreMpanza]

Enkosi 🥹❤️

[@lucricia_mokgolo]

❤❤