Losing a parent - Jane

[@philippahall2510]

Jane, I’m so sorry that you lost both your Mum and your Dad at such young ages. I’m very grateful for you doing this interview and video. It has helped me see the deeper impact of grief and to consider getting therapy in the future. I have just lost my Mum a month ago and I feel right now it is too early, but for me her loss comes on top of a history of Complex Trauma from my childhood and I’ve been scared of what the impact my Mums death may have on top of the trauma. So far I seem to be coping well, but it feels a bit too well and I think if I break, I’ll never stop crying or grieving. Thanks to the Grief Trust too for this video and I will go and have a look at your website too.

[@sionyevans]

Philippa Hall I wish I could sit with you and listen..I lost my dad when I was 13 and it's been 24yrs and Iv still not processed that trauma...it's like it's dragging behind me all these yrs...ball and chain....!!! It feels like a splinter that no where near the surface and the skin long since healed over...it's made/making a mess of who I used to be and I can't go on much longer ....it's been so long and it's changed or modified the essence of who I am in my soul because of so many different coping mechanisms and re enforced thought patterns that have evolved through cannabis use and also through my job as a gardener and it's ruining my business too now...oh and I'm trying to keep hold of my dwindling gardening business...I live and work on my own and the state my life's in is what keeps my depression in a loop...over winter I was referred to mental health who were completely detrimental to my mental health and ignored and signs of childhood trauma being at the root of my situation...I was ignored for 4months and then they closed my case...passing me into cruse bereavement services and cais who are another counseling service...(highly over loaded from mental health service cases) both organisations highlighted childhood trauma and unresolved grief disorder....Iv recently found out mental health services (Wales) are in special measures....sorry I'm babbling now ..I do wish more was done to help people struggling...I hope you get the support you need..

[@michaelkourtoubelides1684]

That really helped me. I lost my mum last year . Therapy helps but you as an individual can make it and faith in God

[@sionyevans]

I wish you every happiness in your future life.