Losing Your Parent in a Traumatic Way

CW: Death, suicide, trauma, abuse, alcoholism

[@luceypeaches7808]

I really feel you sharing this has helped me with my similar situation. It’s so hard when not many people are open about this topic and you feel like the only one. I got a call from a hospital last night about my father I hadn’t seen in a couple of years, knowing he was a heavy drinker I knew it would be to do with that. Same thing with you going to the motel room, I was not prepared for what I was going to see. He was unrecognisable, covered in blood from what he’d been coughing up and the doctors were fairly certain he wouldn’t make it until morning. You are inspirational for the work that you have put back into what you have done. But please remember, as I am trying too, no matter what you did there was nothing you could do to help. It’s devastating to see someone with an unconditional bond end this awful way, but we are not alone. Stay strong 💕

[@laurahesp2994]

Lucey Peaches wow. Thank you for sharing that, that’s heart breaking. It’s going to be a long journey for you but embrace it. I had no idea the unresolved shit and ptsd I would encounter and it hit me like a brick. I’m so, so sorry. I hope you have support around you during this, do not give up ❤️

[@sf-ob7qg]

Lost my dad 7 months ago, can totally get where your coming from

[@gregjohnson298]

Laura my God you poor woman,im so sorry.I hate to see such a lovely woman cry.Please stay strong maam,time I hope will give you peace inside again.Keep talking,you dont want to bottle up this kind of trauma.Merry Christmas to you Laura!!! My sympathies!!!

[@chrisk6764]

i just lost my mom to cancer 4 days ago on NYE and can completely relate. i fell out with nearly every family member over arguments about the way she was separated from me in her final days to receive "spiritual healing" from a false charlatan pastor. I couldn't even be there with my mom when she passed because I was kept out of the dark for over 3 weeks. I thought she would get better and return but I ended up finding out too late that she was going to pass and arrived at my mom's death bed 20 minutes after her death. I will forever regret this because I was not by her aside in her final moments. All I feel right now is wanting to die and so much guilt

[@highhorse313]

Your mother loves you and understands everything now. She wants you to do well and make it in this life. That's what I felt compelled to say to you, Chris K.

[@EBThisThat]

I lost my dad in August of 2016. Both mom and dad are gone now, but I know they're in Heaven and they do show up quite a bit in flashes of light. It's still hard though even though I know they're around me. I lost my job due to mourning and I ended a relationship I had with my best friend of 15 years because I learned I was being taken advantage of. It hurt coming to that epiphany but death can reveal things you were blind to before. I have interviews coming though, so good times are coming :)

[@highhorse313]

Be strong! I lost my mother several months ago in October 2016, so I'm repeating to you what I tell myself all day long. Best wishes to you!

[@EBThisThat]

Thank you for the encouragement. I have a new job and I'm learning the ropes of it. I appreciate this more than you could ever know.

[@highhorse313]

That's great!

[@tammy_xoxo6041]

I lost my mother on December 3rd 2016 to a heart attack despite me having strong medical training in CPR I was unable to bring her back and to this day it haunts my head of could I have done something different. thank you for sharing💖

[@highhorse313]

So sorry Tamika.

[@highhorse313]

Laura Elizabeth, you make a difference in this life to many people. How about that? Carry on!

[@iceman155]

Thank you for sharing.

[@cydneyclark883]

You are so incredibly strong and inspiring

[@meganretallick2353]

I lost my dad to alcoholism in May this year, I know exactly how you feel it's hard when not many people can relate to you

[@8492grob]

thinking of you