LOUDLY WOMAN EP1: Nigerian churches are oppressing women.Termed too "STAINED" to wed in White.

[@hiya1529]

This show has the potential to become the bomb; it is original and informative but then , this is my candid observation; Nelo should practice not interrupting her guests when they are talking so viewers can listen and understand the contributions they are bringing on the subject matter. I noticed she kept interrupting the speakers and actually dominated the show herself. Especially towards the end, the lawyer was not even given ample chance at all to give her advise on the issue being discussed. As a moderator, you have to give your guests the opportunity to express themselves first before making your analysis. Her guests are all lovely women. I particularly loved the lawyer; her composure, dressing and demeanor was quite professional.

[@ehizibuesunday316]

Thank you the interrupt was too much

[@augusta5014]

Good tip, I was almost screaming Nelo stop interrupting, Nelo, you need to bring the Lawyer back, we didn't hear much from her,

[@Stellafrench51]

Agreed

[@Me-myself-and-Mai]

I thank God for this comment, this is 1000000000000000% correct, I was so annoyed watching this.

[@User08882]

Thank you. I had the same observation before I even read the comments

[@NezePeperempe]

This conversation was worth having.. A big kudos my ladies for getting LOUD!

[@metouguearmanda3773]

Oh Neze!!! I just love the way u talk. Love from Cameroon

[@DebbyContentsTVlog]

Me too, her voice was outstanding.

[@BanterWithNj]

Well done Neze👏🏽 I'm sorry, you had to go through all that. Don't worry, we'll be at your 10th wedding anniversary, to give you a befitting wedding!😉❤

[@selix133]

My peperempe Neze your voice is loud here ooo!

[@NezePeperempe]

@@BanterWithNj 😊cant wait my love

[@Jenny-hk6eg]

Religion never favored women!

[@mbonuyolanda3119]

It was great. Nelo, please stop interrupting the speakers. They pause when you cut them and that could affect their stream of thought or story. This was enlightening. I am an Anglican and i did not know this. More topics like this please.

[@Jenny-hk6eg]

Exactly

[@bolabintu8709]

Yes, please. Too much interruption

[@chiamakahoyeniyi9005]

Always

[@Toym2807]

Exactly! It was mildly annoying because we're looking to hear the guests too. You can wait to let them finish their thoughts pls. Great pilot though!

[@eunicemordi8995]

Exactly 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@victoriakeboku689]

Nelo Neze is saying the truth, the Igbo tradition believe that a Woman has no religion until she is married and must fellow her husband's religion. I must admit this, that Yoruba tradition treats a woman fairy more than Igbo tradition.

[@pattEyaba]

Neze went through alot, we need to organise her dream wedding for her.

[@Dailycatholicprayers]

Whenever I hear “Nwanyi enweghi Church” I remind people that in our tradition, we don’t go to church

[@janeuc919]

Loudly woman. I think this should be aired on all Tv station and radio stations because this is a master piece. Weldone Nelo for bringing this wonderful project into reality, this is really different from normal talk shows we get to see everyday. Thanks to your friends Adaeze, Barr Neze and Sotee for gracing the occasion and making it worthwhile. Una weldone.

[@SotySpecial]

💕

[@chizobaatuwaogu7963]

Congratulazioni, forza donna

[@iifyvee]

I second this notion!🙌👏👏

[@anuoluwapoomotayo7433]

Choi neze is soo cute and very brilliant, see her seating so pretty.

[@AdaUnleashed]

Love this Neze lady. She’s so eloquent and articulate. In some Anglican Churches, if you’re pregnant, you can’t wear a white dress, your veil will not cover your face (you may not wear a veil), and your father will not walk down the aisle. It was indeed a saddening experience. Gosh! This whole thing is so sad.

[@rightmuves]

She sure is!, I love her!

[@NnekaNwogu]

What a thought-provoking conversation! Well done Ladies, for bring this amazing content our way. Well done my beautiful sister, Nelo, for engineering this! I am looking forward to the next episode. Good job!👏🏽👏🏽

[@NeloOkeke]

😚😘

[@BanterWithNj]

This is, by a long shot, the best video, I've watch on KZbin this year! Thank you ladies, for having this very important conversation👏🏽👏🏽 Looking forward to the next episode.

[@Ezinneukachi]

Me too o

[@chizobaatuwaogu7963]

Nelo grazie mille

[@ittakesavillage4517]

Congratulations sisters

[@Abiola_Ige]

Neze is soooo eloquent ❤️❤️❤️

[@dera_giselle]

Wow! This was a discussion that needed to be had! I am a Catholic and up until last year, I used to believe it must be Catholic or I won't even date you😂 but after dating a very wicked and mean Catholic and also coming across some really silly Catholics, I changed that mentality ASAP! My happiness became more important than church or religion. As it stands now, I'm so indifferent about things concerning religion. I pray cos I want to talk to God, I go to church cos I genuinely want to and not because it is written in the rules of my church. Most importantly, I will marry who I want to, irrespective of the church. My Mum does not like my new mindset🤣 but I am now a preacher of, 'Do what works best for you'. Cos at the end of the day, this religion thing did not even originate from Africa and the real owners are not this extreme! Barrister Neze I'm so sorry you went through all of that 😥 Your story is really thought provoking and should be a real lesson to our parents 👌

[@marycole7196]

@Dera Giselle I am there with you a 100%. Bravo to growth and change!!!! I applaud your courage and strength. Life's too short for BS, periodt. Giiirrl, you said it loud and clear! 👏🤲🙏💯🧡

[@Abiola_Ige]

😂😂😂

[@pinkysworld7821]

Neze peperempe!!!!love you to the moon and back.

[@aj-gw1rl]

Neze 😍

[@edehjennifer4775]

I relate so much with Neze's story. I loved and still love Catholism: the resounding hymns, the seasons of the church, the vestments and participation. The thought of giving all of that up would have crippled me.

[@BanterWithNj]

Growing up, I'd always say, I don't care about what Church a man attends, cos, it's same God and all, but, I am so grateful to God, that I married a Catholic, like myself, cos, I don't think, I would have been able to change Churches for marriage, cos, I take being Catholic, very personally..

[@mayc.757]

💯💯💯

[@GhanaViAku]

Very personal oo NJ. I love God and i love my Church! Proudly Catholic

[@learnwithellaA]

omg @Nelo this is so needed I am so tired of African churches and all the scars they put on women. Even here in the UK Nigerian churches are the worse. I lost everything I knew because I was excluded from my church because I was found in my boyfriends house who is now my husband of 14yrs we lost everything friends, confidence, self esteem I mean we where like lepers in church. Doing church wedding in Nigeria as well I had to switch to Anglican, never had u may kiss d bride as well it was awful and I had already been married in court for nearly a year. Nigerian churches need to stop I mean they always control their members instead teaching the Bible

[@deladyM]

Not only Nigerian churches...

[@deladyM]

And that's the problem "Nigerian", "Zambian" etc. It should be God's church!

[@ittakesavillage4517]

You guys allow them. I know some church members who have more fears for the pastors and their wives than they do God. I have left the traditional church and now have a deeper connection to God, the ultimate one. We the pressure need to stand up against these church thugs.

[@yozareason1803]

Neze is a woman of intellect... Love from South Africa 💗

[@Viktoriousvikky1]

Neze was correct. My father would always remind me that a woman does not have a church until married.

[@nigeriarealestatechannel]

I refuse to get married in church because I saw some of these things happen to friends and close relatives. I married traditionally and in the registry on the same day.

[@lilley6965]

I quote @ Adaezespace "know the Bible yourself"...WISDOM

[@christabelamouzarmbapngong3168]

Neze is very eloquent and smart. Interesting episode.

[@SotySpecial]

Loved this episode so much!! Neze’s story was so deep! Women shouldn’t have to give up so much for marriage!! Thanks for having us!!

[@somtookonkwo8759]

Why do I hear Chimamanda Adichie in Nezepeperempe? You are awesome!

[@BeckyCultureMedia]

Going through the comments I don't know why I am the only one who believes there is no balance in this discussion. For Neze You want to get pregnant b4 marriage and force the church to throw away their biblical standards of sexual purity because of you? The church believes in sexual purity that is why such measures are in place, so caution is not thrown out of the window completely. As for dropping your father's name, it is not a bad culture as you guys made it seem. It's ok if the lady doesn't want to drop her father's name, in that case she should discuss with her partner. I know some successful couples and the woman still bears her father's name + her husbands name, I even know pastors wives who still add their fathers name till date. So it depends on what you want. Great episode Keep up the good work Nelo

[@AgozIfebi]

I was born Catholic, married my husband who was born Anglican. We got married in a Catholic church but there was no walking down the aisle and all that. My marriage will be 10 years this year and I am already planning a wedding because the first one didn't feel like one. I totally understand Neze. This is a very beautiful one. Weldone ladies.

[@u4mizzle1]

Love dis woke generation 💯😍🥰 I see u Nezepeperempe😁😁

[@BennieUzowuru]

Neze mama is so smart God! Very eloquent too. All the women here ehn!! I am so proud 🥰

[@AdaezesSpace]

Oh my! Where did you get all these beauties from? The one on the extreme left is entering my eyes😍😆

[@SotySpecial]

Close am oh

[@BanterWithNj]

😄😄😄

[@NeloOkeke]

🤣 as @sotee said abeg close ur eye

[@queenjerry2589]

My Neze with her posh voice

[@ayoolafakunmoju9616]

Very wonderful topic. My partner is Catholic and I am from a Pentecostal church. He met my mum in January and she kept saying of all the men in this world, I had the effrontery to bring a Catholic home… I don’t even attend her church anymore and I don’t even want a church wedding… but she claims the wedding must be in her church if it would happen or she wouldn’t attend. She also blamed me for not letting my light ‘shine’ on him through the years we have been together😅 and was already evangelizing and trying to convert him. Very crazy experience honestly. Still have my fingers crossed on what to do though, but at this point I decided to pend wedding conversations because I have not seen that conviction to get married in her church.

[@julietbenjamin6352]

This is a beautiful program,my kindid observation pls can a particular speaker not be interrupted most of the times ,sometimes we get engrossed with the discussion den dere is a break in conversation but all the same I love the program so much

[@vibewith_Sonia]

My best neze I love u and I can't wait to hear all the grammar

[@vio4025]

This should be on national tv

[@johannaaguh4438]

This conversation is so important and I'm happy we are discussing it. I got married in my husband's church (he's catholic) but we did mixed marriage. I only attended marriage class because I wanted to, didn't do baptism or take communion and we were still wedded in the church. I'm still not catholic but attend the catholic church sometimes because I like the order of mass and some priests are good teachers. My husband and I had this agreement before we got married and I'm very happy we stuck to it even with "side talks". Church attendance or denomination doesn't define anybody's spiritual growth in my option, it is Personal and only The Almighty Father knows who is really worshiping Him.

[@linamabitor522]

Neze never disappoint! Ada, soty baby, my billionaire sister Nelo♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️I love you all♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️! I left my church and joined my husband! No question asked! Women don’t have a church…. This needs to change! We will be loud again and again! Thank you all for this beautiful work! You nailed it♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@mercyogbonna6075]

Neze is so eloquent....and simple...

[@RukkyDINMA]

I love Love Neze!! Very Intelligent Lady, Articulate with A Great Sense of Analysing Issues! I like This!

[@NazorEzeh]

How could they say that traditional marriage is not recognized? Church/white wedding is not even compulsory. My God! They were so harsh on Neze!😫😫

[@cyndycjay]

In my parents church where I grew up its same .. no viel covering if pregnant, no matching down you ll just walk in. Alot of rules... . I love this episode.. you ladies look amazing.. I just love neze nwa❤❤

[@osahonatu]

"Faith is very personal" Nelo 2022

[@graceeze1]

Nezeville is so on point I have heard the a woman doesn't have a church thing every single time I talk about marriage

[@sandrasreality]

I am here for this and we've been waiting 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽

[@NeloOkeke]

😁

[@victorialights7667]

Seriously, with this episode...I am questioning so many things I have endured all in the name of Christianity

[@chinenyennamonunwokoye1462]

Wow! Really nice. This is saddening. I had a similar experience with Neze, although i wasn't pregnant. My husband and i had discussions about wedding and in innocence i said i would love to be wedded by my Pastor even if it wasn't in the church. He didn't seem to have any objections. In fact, he came into town one of his visit weekends and asked that we go check out some halls for reception which i gladly availed myself for. About a week after he had returned back to Lagos where he was based with his parents, his mum and i were having a conversation and she kept on mentioning though subtly that it seems like i am a stubborn person because i am insisting on wedding in my church. That was strange because, there was never any discussion of church between me and anyone that i insisted on anything. Anyway, my wedding was eventually done in my husband's family cburch and on that day, ther message was about humility and submission all pointing towards the bride. Nothing at all to the groom. A day after the wedding, my husband's mum made reference to the wedding sermon saying " I hope you heard what was preached yesterday". At that point, i just knew that a lot of conversations had propably gone down behind me within his family that were not so pleasant. That made me so sad plus some other things that happened aŕound that same time that ì was always judged with. Honestly, when i think of marriage these days, i wonder why everthing doesn't just end at the point of paying bride price. For me every other ceremony asides court marriage after bride price payment is unnecessary and just gives room to avoidable conflicts.

[@pinkysworld7821]

I love love Nezeville ,so articulate.I can't wait for the episode that will feature Asy Darling. Weldon Nelo

[@praisethelord.]

Oh no! I feel so much for Neze. May your 10th anniversary make it up to you my dear Nezyyyy. God bless you great.

[@julietbenjamin6352]

Neze is right I got married in my husbands church

[@menaogude4886]

I really want to here Neze story in depth

[@ogomsseries]

I really enjoyed this episode cos so many points are made,this is a typical example of where some Anambra parents don't want Imo inlaws or their daughters getting married outside Anambra,even inside Anambra there are some villages you can't get married to because of Land dispute or religion issue. Some traditions are still in place hindering so many marriages.

[@AnitaLoves]

Neze! Praying that you have another wedding to celebrate your 10 years married! Praying that God will restore to you the joy that was stolen from you in that season. May He make all things new, so it will feel like you’re a newlywed again! And May He keep you all, so your father can walk you down the aisle as you desire. “Better is the end of a thing, than the beginning of it... We look forward to seeing the photos one day! I told my husband no to getting married in his Anglican Church after I saw all their protocols, money to be paid, pregnancy test and dress restrictions. Churches are not meant to hold people hostage and it’s sad they get away with so many ungodly/ unbiblical things. “My people perish for lack of knowledge”.

[@SimplyZyna]

Eiya you could see that Nezeville, peperempe was almost emotional 😭😭 Me too… she went through a lot. Kai

[@ChisomAkahTV]

This discussion is so important. For me, this was the reason I didn't both with Church wedding. We decided to do Traditional and Court, and end there. So it was! We are happy. Even though some people are still waiting for our church wedding. Kikiki

[@nanyascorner]

Exactly! Family influence should come to an end when you want to marry. Though my husband switched for me but with my experience now, it wouldn’t have been a big deal. I am a Catholic too.

[@chatwithhappiness6079]

Neze is so so smart, kudos to her. To Nelo weldone

[@pattEyaba]

Great content, all this church people will just carry church things on der head like gala. 👍 Looking forward to more

[@iamhaleesah292]

Netflix Nigeria need to hop on this🔥

[@damfad6028]

I won’t even bother to get married in the church. I can’t go through this insane humiliation. Women are treated like second class citizen, we need to start speaking up for ourselves.

[@dikachiivenso]

Neze's story is so painful, but we keep learning ...... LOUDLY WOMAN

[@NazorEzeh]

I was born and grew up Anglican. I married a Catholic man, and we got married in the catholic church. I had to go through Catechism and all that.....they used to come to the house to teach me. Now as a married woman, I go to R.C.C.G😆

[@tranquilmomentswithme7643]

I'm utterly mortified by Neziville's story my God!!! Church and Politics Nawa. 😿

[@pattygscakesandtreats]

I applaud you ladies. Quite an amazing sit down chat. I love the set up of everything. Church is very political. Church is destroying so many marriages and separating so many homes. Its ridiculous how the church( Catholic/Anglicans and other mainstream churches) stop two adults that are married in court and traditionally and happen to be pregnant from receiving communion and some other stuff, treating them as outcast but you have slayers who go to club, formicate, go to church next day and they receive communion and act all holier than thou. Stain kii them there. Bear hug Neze. I agree for Neze to have a proper wedding oh. Sure u guys will shut PH down

[@DooshimaDanladi]

I questioned a lot of cultural practices when I was getting married and all the answer I got was, "that's how it's done/has always been." Fgs, 🤦🏾‍ these traditions were made by people for whom it worked at the time. Why can't we change them if they don't work for us anymore? This was so great to watch 👍👏

[@paulineezeji3620]

GOD has already BLESSED you with a good marriage keep calm and enjoy it and be thankful to HIM.

[@jennysoutlet]

My hubby was raised in deeper life and I was born in deeper life but my parents couldn’t continue attending the church because they couldn’t cope with their too many extreme rules. My hubby was attending redeem in Nigeria while in college but here we decided to find a church that balanced everything we wanted and that’s were we wedded because me I can’t stand how extreme deeper life is.

[@queenchikaandthediamonds2281]

This is beautiful but Neze, love listening to you, you sound like a British. Your spoken English makes me proud Nigerian Brithish

[@KalaAdama]

Hi Nelo, I must commend you for using your channel not just for fun but for making impact, from speaking out on issues faced and for giving a lot of voiceless people a voice, I see why God won’t stop blessing you and people won’t stop envying and dragging you❤️.

[@HelensCorner]

Even in the Bible it was bride price payment that confirms marriage not church wedding Our generation won't kill us

[@anuoluwapoomotayo7433]

I never thought in my life that I will marry a Muslim 😜 but my dear I won a jack pot 12years of marriage and still counting HE HIS a good man, and am a devoted CHRISTIAN for that matter, he has never for once complain about my religion when ever I ask him he says that my prayers give him joy that someone is praying for him 😜I give GOD ALMIGHTY the glory.

[@StellaSylvesterr]

I'm so glad women are beginning to be more open and apologetic about our choices and decision especially when it comes to religion.

[@queene1775]

Fantastic Programme; Nelo is a great visionary to not just plan this but actualise also. The single criticism of consistently interrupting the guests shows the wide potential, because apart from that....hmm Loudly Woman is a masterpiece, easily this could be on world wide TV. Kudos Nelo💐 💐💐

[@DigitalEzenwanyi]

I don’t like involving myself with religious topics lol. Skipping this for next post. We all serve same God

[@ibiyegeorge4536]

So relatable. Had such a horrible experience but thank goodness we know better now

[@xo_ijay]

Loudly woman deserves to go beyond being just on KZbin. 🥰

[@Mo_momlife]

Nelo is so passionate about this,i could tell 😁

[@Privatedairies]

Neze please you have to redo your wedding again.

[@ukamakaazode]

Argggggggggggh I’m angry on behalf on Neze. May God keep her, hubby, and their parents alive to do a proper 10 years vows renewal ❤️

[@chimkasii]

Reminder to everyone that this Anglican vs Catholic issue is Britain's war, not ours.

[@ogesplace]

Nelo should be a tv host already, love you all ladies.

[@iifyvee]

I enjoyed every bit of this conversation! Weldone Nelo and the beautiful ladies 👏👏👏 Neze Peperempe, thank you for sharing your story, I sincerely look forward to you having the wedding of your dreams on your 10th anniversary!!! I look forward to seeing you ladies at the peak of this KZbin career oh! Weldone👏👏👏

[@beautyspace9379]

I love this conversation, especially Naz feel so emotional hearing her story, she want try a lot that period,pastor pls you people should do better .

[@Beadwithene]

This is such a great topic, very interesting and entertaining. Nelo pls let them talk ooo😂😂😂😂 u keep interrupting it’s annoying biko 😂😂

[@Abiola_Ige]

I enjoyed every bit of the video🤗🤗🤗🤗.... i can’t wait for the other episodes!.

[@adycyn]

I love love this,great women. Chai,Neze's laughter can resurrect a dying spirit 💋

[@SimplyLove.]

Loud it women let's learn from each other 😀😀.. Well done ladies 🚺 for your opinions 👏 👍

[@TinaIsoa]

Oh my God. I really enjoyed this video. Neze story is very common but so illegal please

[@lyndaebere6046]

Chineze is right ✅ I heard that years ago that nwanyi ewero Church

[@oyoyosworld]

Very interesting discussion. An uncle of mine never wedded in church because the wife is catholic and my uncle an Anglican… and my uncle refused to marry in Catholic Church…Neze girl you indeed need your own wedding. Very interesting discussion ladies.

[@AmarachiDuru]

I commend you Nelo for pulling this up. This is going to be interesting. Neze your story is my story. Mine was methodist and the Rev told me I wouldn't be covering my face. Imagine the humiliation. I was traditionally married. If it was to be now I will cancel church wedding. Religion is evil. Who impregnated the woman? The woke conversation I love ❤

[@ogechukwuigbo7972]

Kudos to you ladies, funny how my husband and I are anglicans but we attend a Pentecostal church but then decided to wed in an Anglican church we don't attend ,it was just for the wedding most times these churches are just politically and also if you know someone that knows someone nothing spiritual at all .

[@jessyqueentv4381]

Neze your story really touched and created a great impact, nice one looking forward for the second episode , congrats Nelo

[@bukolagoldd]

What a deep and thoughtful discussion ladies 👏🤩 I might sound funny but for me I never liked church wedding/wedding dress, I believe in paying dowry and court wedding for legal registration. Told my hubby the very first date we had thst im never getting married in church nor wear a wedding dress ..and I’m glad he agreed ..well done ladies👏👏👏love this episode.. New KZbinrs here let’s connect ✌️

[@bluebird4815]

The whole white wedding dress thing alwayd cracks me up. A tradition that was started just coz the queen of England wore a white wedding gown. I think it was Queen Victoria. Then other women copied. Before that, women wore whatever colour they wanted. I'm not even going to wear a white wedding dress 😂😂😂. I've just always wanted a coloured dress. Either periwinkle, blush pink or sky blue or even a red wedding dress 😂😂😂. The white dresses have never appealed to me 🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️. Don't get me started on the tradition of diamond rings for engagements. 😂😂

[@ElaToby]

@20:23 "Churches fail people," hit me on a different note. Brought back a lot of suppressed memories. I just hope that one day, I'll be able to bring myself to openly talk about my story. Very thought-provoking discussion!🔥

[@UwaumaTSP]

Nice one Nelo @ Loudly Woman.Neze you rock

[@queencoolgamer7670]

Am not Nelo's fan atall. However I respect this master piece she started. It's excellent. Neze have always loved, your vibe baby sister and will always do. This is a TV series enough respect ladies. More pls

[@ATvee]

Representation matters everywhere especially in church and family leadership. We need more good and opinionated women speaking up and in positions to counter the ridiculous existing beliefs.

[@ogesplace]

as a catholic, I was already in my second trimester although I wasn't showing, the only concern and test we were mandated to run was the blood group and genotype especially for me.