Lub Kua Muag Tseem Niaj Hnub Los. 12/27/21

[@Karena312]

No husband or wife is worth losing my child to. I would rather be a single parent than having a spouse who don’t live my kids.

[@nkaujhnub86]

I will never choose a man over my children! If their dad doesn't love them, I will!

[@jillvang3091]

Aunty, I cried while listening to this because it's my story too. It's not as easy as people say. Nobody will ever understand our pain and our guilt of missing just one moment of our kids because we are a broken family. Nobody will ever understand the pain and the guilt that comes with being divorced. I'm very bless that my kids are still here and still I fight the same demon everyday. May God comfort you and give you peace. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@auaumvhj5355]

tu siab tshajj li os

[@sindielee8129]

Don't be too hard on this mother. You will not know unless you've walked in her shoes. Clearly she is a good mother to her children. Otherwise, her son wouldn't have loved her that much. I have not walked in her shoes, but as a mother, I know how much I love my children and I'm sure she does too.

[@mayflower1987]

So true.

[@Focky446]

...But you can choose to be with your kids no matter what. In this story she didn't choose her kids all the way that's why it happen the way it did. Listen to it and see her behavior from the story.

[@MaiProject2024]

@James Thao it is the stupid tradition and culture that caused all this. Whether she picked her new husband or not, her exhusband won't do the wedding without the son and dil actually moved from home to live with the exhusband. Her ex-husband has the choice to just do the wedding and didn't need to have the son moved. We have to identify the main cause of the problem, not point finger at this woman. Remember, She can't do a wedding without a clan/father family Hmong wedding makes this very complicated that's why many Hmong moms stay in toxic relationships and get abused.

[@nkaujhmoobvaj1491]

It’s sad that it takes a life for us to regret the action we have taken. Such a sad story. Regret is the biggest sorrow in this world.

[@kanetoews7747]

So true

[@mayas08]

I'm gonna keep it real as a mother myself NO man is Ever going to be worth more than my child 💯

[@etee8361]

Exactly! This is the 21st century, I hope we women don’t chose this path

[@maipha8560]

I agreed 100%! I fought life and death to bring my children into the world. I will never let a man stand in the way of loving children. If I was a single mother and my son needed to get marry, if the Hmong culture is to harsh and unaccepting, I guess we'll just have to go to the courthouse and get a marriage license for the two kids. Life is too short to live a life of regret. Love, support, and cherish our children because tomorrow will come but we may not be here to enjoy it.

[@_milly]

A parent losing a child is the most painful thing ever. The saddest part is knowing that they are lying there helplessly and have so much to say (to us) but are unable to. So all they can do is think about it until their very last breath. Tu siab dhau lawm os.

[@HleeWai]

I’m not a mother but my mom has walked this path. My mom never remarried but when I got married it was the saddest day of my life. Life of being a living orphan is the hardest mountain I’ve yet to climb. These kinds of stories always makes me so sad. 😢

[@souathao4816]

P

[@hmongsiabzoo]

I’m sure she loved her children and tried to do what she thought was the best. We often make wrong choices or decisions based on our emotions. We as women need to be strong, independent and not depend on anyone so that our children will no go through what this poor woman’s children went through. My heart breaks into a million pieces for her son. He was so disheartened and broken; being rejected on both sides of his families. Sad sad indeed 😭😭😭😭

[@N.Ly00]

She loved her kid, yes, but she didn't do what's best for her kid. She picked a guy over her kid's happiness.

[@rebeckalor1216]

😭😭😭

[@Eureka21567]

My heart hurts so much for this mother. I really pray you find peace. I cried so hard throughout the entire story I couldn’t swallow.

[@lisvaj7375]

My ❤️ hurts for your son 😭. This is why if you can not love someone else kids, don’t date or marry someone with kids. The kids suffer the most.

[@kevinher3546]

Agree

[@dyte9180]

My heart breaks for this mother. The step father is evil, heartless, & selfish.

[@nkaujhmoovaj9832]

Even his own father too so sad

[@ncouazooxwbya1552]

I am crying by listening to this sadness story!! I have 3 boys, when my older & middle son married, I had to do whatever it takes to taken cared for their wedding even my husband doesn’t cared! A mother stand firm and protect her childrens whether others disapproved!!

[@waatchdogs6184]

My heart so broken for you. You're a great mom. *sending hugs and prayers

[@johnbarron4843]

O shit. This one’s too real.

[@hx7161]

I don’t understand how men and women can choose their new spouse over their children. How sad.

[@xiameevang9131]

So heart breaking for you sister.🥲😢🥲😢🥲😢🥲😢🥲😢🥲😢🥲 I’m so sorry for the loss of your son 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 that my God comfort your heart and wipe your tears.

[@onglee8796]

Divorced is a painful thing to watch our children go threw as I walk in this path myself. I am thankful to have a partner that doesn’t stop me from loving my children but still hard watching my children having hardships between two separated parents. 😢😢😢

[@MissPeachie]

Sorry for your loss. I have a son too and I can’t imagine how it feels. Your son passed away from Covid-19, meaning this story takes place recently. This is the 21st century, why haven’t you guys evolved yet? Your story sounds like all this happened in the 90’s. If my new husband refuses to accept my kids, I am walking out. Also, teach your kids that education and career come before marriage. If you still live with mommy and daddy, you are not ready to have a kid. Use protection!!!!

[@evabhmongocadventure9831]

Very sad story for step.children don’t don’t get love from the step parents. Why our Hmong step parents are so heartless and not care for step children.

[@thedark-_-lord8285]

It’s not only Hmong people only- Its pple in general across race, culture or heritage.

[@monkeybanana9269]

It's everywhere not just Hmong. It's unfortunate but at the same time if the biological parents can't even love or treat their own children any better, why expect an outsider to do a better job? I rather just stay single with my kids than to bring in extra complications.

[@pajlis5886]

Husband's and wives who lose their spouse are called a widow, children who lose their parents are called orphans...but parents who lose their children has no name because there's word to describe them. Traditions make it hard on children who were raised in a country rich with different beliefs and values. I hope that future generations can over see some of these traditional ways someday.

[@maivzebvaj4303]

This story is so sad.. I'm like tearing up.. thanks for sharing your story..

[@hmoobqabteb7943]

Dang. N. Ntsuab Teev, you made everyone cried with you in this story here. 😢

[@1418tym]

What a sad story. 😢😢😢 Please love your children and protect them with all your hearts and with everything. Do not wait until something happened to them. Then you would do something about it. It’ll be too late and you won’t ever be able to forgive yourself. I’m sure this mother loves her son very much, not saying she doesn’t love her son. But she failed to protect her son. She allowed her new husband to mistreated her son knowing that her son isn’t her husband biological child. Her husband doesn’t love or care for his step son. That is why I do not feel bad for mothers like this one. Or feel bad for fathers who acted the same way like this. Always remember whether you are a mother or father. If things do not work out with your first marriage. If you guys decided to remarried again. Please make sure to take the time to find the right one not just for yourself but for your children as well. Who will love your children along with you. It is your responsibility as a mother/father to protect your children from any harm. Stand up up against to those who have the intentions to hurt them in any way. Love, care, and support your children. Everything you do make sure it is what’s best for your children as well. It isn’t all about what is best for you and your own happiness. If things do not work out between you and your spouse. You can always find a new one. But your children is something you cannot find or replace.

[@LilyXiongChannel]

Leej twg tsis raug txoj kev no tsis paub. Yus tus menyuam yog yus nplooj siab yus nco tshaj plaws mob siabtshaj. Nco ntsoov tias tej niag txiv tshiab no yus yuav nrhiav thaum twg los tau tiam si yus tus menyuam yus nrhiav tsis tau nawb mog. Yog tus txiv neej twg hlub tsis tau yus cov menyuam ces cuag li nws yeej tsi hlub yus ib yam..kuv tsi khe yuav los yog tham. Peb cov pojniam txhob ua siab muag2 thiab txhob ntshaw2 txiv maj mas nrhiav mas yuav yeej tsis lig.

[@colleenchan9872]

Ntuj aws cas peb cov niag neej lwj siab no yuav tu siab ua luaj li os! Ua tsaug koj muab koj txoj kev lwj siab no tuaj qhia rau peb kawm os mog! Kuv los ntshe yeej yuav tau taug koj txoj kev lwj siab nyuaj siab no thiab os!🥲🥲pab koj khuv koj tus me tub kawg os mog.. txhob quaj heev thiab hlub cov tseem muaj txoj sia os nawb!

[@nklee6154]

OMG, my heart is broken listen to this story. I know the hardship you went through. I am a girl but my mom had to fight hard for us on our weddings. I know you have done your best to protect him. May God with you and please be strong. Please do not end your live. They are still need you! You are blessed to have him and he is in heaven with peace.

[@nklee6154]

Being orphan is hard but being Hmong orphan is harder. Wish I could give you a hug. Please know that you are not alone. They are so many single mothers and Hmong orphans in this world are in your shoes. Please do not blame yourself. You have raised them alone and done your best.

[@tophatmellon5739]

Wow its soo sad. I have 2 son's with my ex. I still have my son's and they r grown men now but, I'm hurting with this mother. May, u are the only story teller that has true feelings when telling a story, I can't stop crying.

[@maykerlo7026]

So sad for this mom. I'm a single mom myself. Me and my kids has gone thru hell with their dad. I will never choose a man over my kids. Hopefully this mom will find some peace.

[@kevinher3546]

I’m proud of you stay strong love you kid

[@cvang8715]

So sad 😭 I can’t even listen to the whole story. I can’t even make through halfway. My heart aches with you aunty. Only people like you can understand and feels the same pain. Words can’t even describe how you feel deeply inside. Be strong for your other children and stand for them because that’s all they got.

[@arlenemoua6460]

I'm so sorry for your loss, sister. Please don't be so hard on yourself. I know you did your best as a mother. I wish you all the best.

[@godness7770]

When it comes to choosing, I will choose my child over any man. I so sorry for your lost my dear sister. This such a sad story that made me cry missing my dad. Thank you for sharing. May God be with your Son, grandson, you and your family.

[@กันยาแซ่ท่อ]

Zaj neej neeg no cav yuav tu siab ua luaj li o kuv mloog kuv lub kua muag los 2 thiab hlub tus me tub no kawg li o

[@ynulau7364]

Niam laus aw mloog koj txhua txoj neej neeg koj hais nim nrog koj quaj txhua zaug thaum koj quaj , txhawb nqa koj txhua txoj li os niam laus

[@nkaujhmooblischanel7580]

Wo... tu siab dau li lawm kv nyiam kj cov neej neeg tu 2 siab no heev...

[@youathao3628]

My heart breaks for you mama.

[@chongxiong340]

OMG thus story make me cry so much

[@maileemusicchannel3588]

What a sad story 😢😢😢

[@Loves_GodSR]

Oh my. I am crying my eyes out. I'm so sorry for your loss, sister. It's so hard in that situation. You have to walk in your shoe to understand. I see your son loved you so much. You're a good/great mother enough for him to love you so much. May you learn to forgive yourself. May he rest in peace.

[@chaiteavana2749]

Ca koj yuav hais tus siab tshaj plaws li OS. Zoo ib yam li yog koj kiag li thov txhawb koj lub zog moog.

[@niamzajdabneeghmong6475]

I think, you are his best mother for him!!

[@daengxiong1370]

Tu siab tiag tiag li o lawv aw 😭😭

[@maiyang570]

As a mother I feel your pain. 😢 😭 😢 😭

[@kiamoua7038]

To the Mother of this story. I can relate to you. Don't beat yourself too much dear. I too lost my first love, my oldest child, my daughter this year to covid. It's very hard, we tell ourselves to move on because we're suppose to but it's so hard. Take it one day at a time, Mama. He probably knows it was a very hard decision for you and I believe that he's not mad at you. Take care of yourself and the little one.

[@kayherrs9876]

😭

[@iavlauj1]

wow. it's so sad. I start crying since the mom read the son letters. just can't hold my tear back. felt sorry for both the mom and the son.

[@blueberrysmilie1]

Tu siab hlub liag raug lawm os. When your parent aren’t dead that you can cry and tell them your struggles at their grave and people will sympathize. But they are alive but its like you have no parent and no one who will listen to your struggles, bc they refuse to allow you to say you are orphans. Orphans have no feeling of home to belong, when their parent throw them around. If you can’t love your children don’t bring them into the world because they will wait for your love forever.

[@lubpajchannel]

Tu siab tshaj plaws li os

[@tshuakoj3053]

sib pab caum koj lawm

[@yervang8968]

Niam hluas me zaj no koj hais tau tu siab kawg. Kuv niam nrog koj quaj quaj😭😭😭thiab os. Thov kom tus niam tsev no hlub hlub nws tus me tub nawb.

[@brendayangvang9756]

😪😪 tu siab tiag2 o ib leej niam nplooj siab yuav ploj ib ib txhis mas mob tiag2 o mog

[@leelor9411]

Niam Ntsuabteev, zaj no koj hais tau tu siab tiag, tiag ua rau peb teev tsis peb lub kua muag li thiab. Nrog tu me niam tsev tu siab ua tus kab mob Covid-19 no tau coj koj tus me tub lawm.

[@mimyaj669]

Kuv no kj cov dab neeg kuv tu siab hv li os nyiam hv li os

[@kuelee9184]

Losing a child is the hardest thing ever is like losing a prot of your self we can have any man any time so don't choose a man over our children because one's they gone we can't find them anywhere 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@Focky446]

.....After listening to this story, the boy in here died directly from COVID but 80% indirectly from the divorced parents fault which resulting lack of love and supports. The boy just wished to be loved and have support. Listen up new parent or parenting, if you're single or have no kids you can do whatever you want but once you give life or have kids it's not all about you anymore. I'm sure this boy had alot of questions before he passed. The way he wrote all his last notes to his mother, he probably went through neglect of love from the two divorced parents. Sad to have a child passed and ended their life before the parent wake up.

[@VivoVivo-ox3hs]

Zaj neej neeg no tus siab tiag2 li mloog g taus li o mloog ces lo2 kuas muag li. Lub neej nos ces niam tau txiv me nyuam g tau txiv, txiv tau niam me nyuam g tau niam ua lub neej lwj2 siab lwj2 Ntsws li o. Hai txog thaum twg ce lo2 lub kuas muag.

[@chaiteavana2749]

My heart goes out to you

[@zookawgliyay1476]

Niam tai nrog koj tu siab tshaj plaw li os cas yuav hlub koj tus me tub ua luaj os

[@yogkuvxwb7219]

Viv ncaus aw, koj zaj neej neeg no mas tus siab tshaj li. kuv mloog mas kuv quaj222, mloog nrog lus kuas muag, Sorry you have to go through these pain, as a mother I feel your pain. Cas uas ib leej niam es yuav tus siab uas luaj os viv ncaus aw. Txob tus2 siab lawm os, vim uas tsis taus li cas lawm, take care koj tus kheej os mog. Mu heart break for you. tus siab tis siab rau lub neej no dhau lawm.Please thiank of your other children and your self and them. Your son will never come badk. Sorry.

[@maoyang2061]

If she was good to her children she will do her son's wedding on herself whatever she can...that's too late lady..I very disappointed on a mother like this. She said she love her son but told her son to go live with the X-husbund....she is a cawer.....

[@niamtsevxeemvwjchannel2797]

💞💞💞💞

[@puayang2506]

so sad....you did the best that you can.

[@msi.l.v4464]

Sim neej no peb cov niam tsev yog peb tej niam txiv tsis sib hlub lawm txhob mus yuav txiv ntshiaj lawm os mog peb mus yuav txiv ces peb tau txiv es peb tej mi tub minyuam yuav tu siab mus tag ib sim neej os lawv aw😢😢😢😢😢

[@dreamwithme247]

Yog tshaj li os sister aw. Yog nyob tau ces yug nyob nrog yug cov menyuam xwb zoo tshaj os. Txhob xav tias yug mus yuav txiv es yug lub neej thiaj kawg no os. Yug mus yuav txiv tshiab ces yug tabtom tsim txom yug cov menyuam xwb.

[@douayang2163]

Zaj yog zaj top of Hmong sad storied the year 2022.> txhob sib nrauj lawm hmoob aw!!!!!!!

[@etee8361]

Never chose your new spouse over your children. You can replace your spouse, but you can never replace your children. If you are a divorcee, never remarry a Hmong man. Just my opinion.

[@Focky446]

...Wrong about the part never remarried a Hmong man. You can. What should a divorce woman do before she ger serious to be a relationship with a divorced Hmong man?? You should not be hurry into the relationship but know the history of a man before married him. Hang around with him, test him. Get to see how he handles challenges or difficulties times. If you're ready to remarried, have terms and if she or he still doesn't love your children, stand your ground, leave.

[@etee8361]

@@Focky446 Hmong men never forgive. It’s true to test the waters before jumping into a relationship, but Hmong men likes to bring up the past. She will never have peace in that relationship.

[@Focky446]

@@etee8361 Wrong again. You based your view and opinion by what you've been through or experiences. Not all Hmong men or all men will do the same thing. True, most men will bring the past that's why she shall have conditions, terms and compromises before she remarried. That is, if he ever take her for granted and brings her horrible past to present, she can leave. She must stand her ground and believe in herself if she had to leave for a toxic man. Like wise, there are men who cheeris life, children and family oriented.

[@etee8361]

@@Focky446 exactly! My views are based on my experiences. Maybe you are not one of those hmong men… but I am sure you have heard of the many emotional abuse these women divorcee goes through when married to another hmong men. Again, speaking from my experiences and maybe, just maybe, raising awareness to my hmong women who are seeking a healthy relationship.

[@saibtsisdhuav933]

Tim 2 tus txiv xwb os. Tim txiv yug thiab tim txiv tshiab. Hmoob txoj kev ua cai quav dev. Tu siab tshaj plaws.

[@สุเนตรแซ่ยะ]

Niam ntsuab teev zaj dab neeg no kuv poob kua muag tshaj plaws

[@jorvang1420]

Nrog koj tu siab kawg os tus me niam tsev aw tsis quav los lub kua muag lo es nrog koj hlub thiab tu siab kawg os

[@yervang1654]

Nej ua rau tus tub tu siab lawn nws thiaj kis Kab mob Los Mas pab nej tu siab thiab hlub nws kawg li

[@chinhthao4741]

Ua cas yuav pab tu siab thiab los kuas muag ủa luaj hlub koj tus me tub kawg lis os

[@nkaujhmoobtushaibhaib4677]

Tu tu siab li os lub neej zoo li no txhob mus tom ntej lawm nrog me nyuam nyob yog qhov zoo os

[@maithao1139]

May - I cried with you too. So sad!

[@pebstories]

So sad!!! I’m crying at work. 😢 RIP

[@gabbyabbybby]

Omg me too!

[@amyvang3673]

Me too 😭

[@khamphengthor2256]

txoj kev tsuag ntxhaw niam thiab txiv txoj kev hlub tshaj li os kuv hmoog tus niam no lus neej tus22 kuv siab ua luaj ua rau kuv quaj2 kawg li os nim hnub no kuv niam pem lus neej ces zoo ib yam li koj tus ua niam lus neej thiab os mog txhob tus siab os mog peb cov me nyuam hlub leej niam tshaj li os mog

[@lt2784]

Qhov no lau! Thov kom nej Txhob sib2 nrauj lawm mog

[@maivlis1120]

Ntuj aw..tus me niam tsev aw cas koj zaj neej neeg yuav tu siab ua luaj li os ua rau peb nrog koj los los kua muag thiab hlub2 koj tus me tub kawg. Cas peb ua ib tug khaub ntxhais es nim tsis zoo li lub siab xav...thov kom koj tsuas ntsib txoj kev noj qab nyob zoo nawb mog. Hlub2 koj thiab koj tub me tub neb kawg li os

[@ylauj3523]

Blood is thicker than water everyone’s should know that

[@juliehawj3385]

Tu siab ua luaj os. Yus menyuam yog yus txoj siab tiag2 li os!! Peb cov poj niam yuas tsu nco ntsoov tias ib tug txiv tsis yog peb txoj siab es txhob tsaws2 ib twg txiv tshiab uas tsis hlub peb cov menyuam ntsuag.

[@kabtawstsau613]

Such a sad story...I hope things get better for you sister.

[@l3eautifulflaw87]

Nrog koj tu siab tshaj

[@blakhang7104]

Tu siab ua luaj os, kuv mloog mas kuv quaj quaj kua muag si lawg xwb

[@shounathao8697]

Niam Tais Aws… nrog koj tus siab os mog. But don’t be so hard to yourself. Tseem Tshuav cov nyob nrog koj es av tsij hlub lawv mog. Lesson learned. Hopefully you will stand up for your kids next time and don’t let this happen to your next kids. Love and hugs rau koj os mog.

[@AppApp-fn9lp]

Nrog koj tu siab os😥😥😥😥

[@ntxhiandnomlwmchannel7785]

Tu siab ua luaj os tus sister

[@mmmlomzemkawgliiosrrt2566]

Tu2 siab mloog g tau li o niam ntsuab teev aw ...

[@nkaujshenglauj4978]

Tu siab ua luaj li os lawv aws cas nim yuav ua rau peb quaj txhua tus li os mi tub txawj xav

[@shirleyyang4158]

Our children are our life and soul.. 😭

[@palo7079]

Such a heartbreaking 💔story. I 😭 throught the story.😭😭😭💔💔

[@nkaujzoomuas8059]

Tu siab tshaj plaws hais tsis tau qhia rau leej twg paub hais tias mob npaum cas…. kuv txiv los kuj xaim rau tus kab mob 19 no thiab os…

[@nengthao1207]

This story is so sad.

[@AnLongFL]

Yus niam thiaj hlub yus xwb 😭😭😭

[@caaspasvang7427]

This story was so sad😭😭😭😭hlub tej me nyuam dhau lawm os

[@poheu9307]

niam txiv tsis tau tuag cas cia me nyuam ua ntsuag ciaj vim yog koj xwb tus niam tsev.

[@khiavdimvang9481]

This story make make me cry so sad . Hlub koj mog me vivncaus

[@โจ้งแซ่โซ่ง]

Zoo hlub kuv 😭😭😭

[@hlubvimkoj4320]

It’s ok to CRY!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂

[@lifewithbrayden9135]

💔💔😭 you were not a bad mom. It was just the hmong life we live, I'm so sorry for your loss, I'm crying with you. 💔💟 hlub koj os.

[@sengsyvang8285]

When I listen this sad story my tear is also filled out.

[@alisonyang6698]

Omg I can't even imagine losing a child. You're not a bad mom. It's the hmong system that held you back from doing what you know in your heart is fair for your son, but the hmong system is messed up and that is why you feel the guilt. But you're not. Bad mom. I can't imagine what you are going through. I can't leave my house without my son hugging me 10x before I step outside. So I understand a mother love. I hope you find peace in your life. Covid has been unfair to so many people and their families.

[@pebtsevxeemthoj3391]

Wow..,,Kuv nrog koj tus ua niam tusiab heev os…cas koj yuav xaiv tus txiv dev siab phem thiab siab mes ko os. I not saying anything because your son said it all…I just hurt and crying with niam Ntsuab Teev.

[@kayherrs9876]

I cried so much ... like he was my own.

[@yd2819]

So sad for the the son….it’s not the children’s fault but the consequence of a broken marriage always affect the kids. How sad