The best way to deal with Black Tax,avoid emotional blackmail and end generational poverty | LNN

[@LynnNgugi]

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[@reine924]

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[@patrickodero1622]

Need discussion on giving in Church too

[@CharityOsebe]

Hallo My Dear Am here to request 🙏 if you can reply to me so that I can resight my thoughts 💭 humble 🙏

[@Welovejesusandjesuslovesyou]

Hey LNN, what a great show, very informative and timely. I have registered after watching this show. Looking forward to joining tonights session. Wapi discount code mami?

[@DrMaureenB]

You look amazing Lynn!! The updo on point! Content always a blessing. We appreciate you

[@hummingbirdbirdie6418]

This episode was meant for me. I live in diaspora and I don't have parents unfortunately. I came back home last November, and I came to a realization that my aunties, etc feel entitled to my diaspora money since I do not have a family. But honestly, I have enabled the behavior. Hii mwaka hata shilingi situmi. This is for me and all about me. Thank you Lynn for this conversation.

[@gitgenKE]

When the student is ready, the teacher appears.

[@hummingbirdbirdie6418]

@@gitgenKE Most certainly. Thank you.

[@Blues2965]

But again, let me say this first, when I first came to US, I went to college. The first two years i didn’t pay for fees. When I find out, I came to realize that it was paid by individuals who wanted to support students who did well from the minority group. The point I wanted to say is that, you can come up with a structured set up that makes sure that the money you send goes to programs that are worthwhile. Pay fees for a kid that is in need. The point is do something that is not strenuous to you. Sorry for the typos if any.

[@zablonreuben]

Me too won't extend a hand anymore

[@doreenkmugambi1396]

😅 ❤

[@MiriamShiketi]

My take home, your emergency isn't my emergency. Ready to learn, unlearn and relearn ❤

[@NomsaSemata]

Me too!!

[@joyceatieno6446]

This really will apply on who is asking you for money and how often do they always ask. Some emergencies are real. I also don't give immediately though

[@clementawendo6699]

You are being mislead by idiots

[@LYNNETEOIMBO-s6m]

@@joyceatieno6446for my dad and mum, their emergency is more emergency than my own.

[@GitauEvans]

Black tax has made us stagnant in this life especially us who are in between age 25-40yrs

[@bellaolum9768]

Woooosh, this topic is a thorny subject for Africans. I watched my parents support my grandparents to the end. Then we took care of our parents after their retirement till they left us in 2014 (D) and 2020 (M) respectively. I think my generation (Gen-X) will be the.first ones who won't depend on our kids. We are breaking the curse of dependency 😮

[@keepitreal335]

What!since when caring for your elderly parents became a curse?maybe you are a curse to your parents

[@bellaolum9768]

@keepitreal335 the curse of dependency, not of helping our parents! I hope it stops with my generation, we should be leaving an inheritance for our children. The Bible speaks of this in Proverbs 13:22!

[@chepngenoviola5468]

Exactly, we should leave an inheritance to our kids

[@happinesslugiko2150]

The bible too says you have to support your parents. Read the letters from Apostle Paul you will see. Please love your parents. The invested much on you, or else they would have abandobed you and keep their money for their old age. You were a black tax to your parents, but they supported you anyway. ​@@bellaolum9768

[@dennismawanda9121]

Exactly

[@rosemumbua8817]

I fought the "saviour complex" at a very early age. I'd seen how abused my parents were by their families and I knew I would NEVER be like them. I still contribute yes, BUT only to genuine cases e.g. hospital bills.

[@catherinendinguri6595]

That's so profound, right there. You cannot play God's role in people's lives. Very sobering

[@joyobessa1364]

Correct ☑️!

[@ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood]

This was my take home 💡

[@truqqy]

Juliette, you are very well spoken, easy to listen to and make a lot of sense. You speak graciously into a very difficult topic. May you soar and may God extend your territory.

[@syprosegwako8297]

I agree, very brilliant and gracious lady!

[@avonelleeloi8216]

Indeed. God continue blessing her

[@planetI911]

Millenials should listen to this..

[@doctorrees4473]

How I wish I knew this years ago, I would be very far. The black tax always left with me almost nothing for myself and the feeling of entitlement is the most annoying. Anyway, it is not too late to restructure my life and stop being the savior. Am going to pull myself from this dark hole called black tax and yes, "your emergency is not my emergency" . Juliet is spewing a lot of wisdom. Thank you so much Lynn and

[@LynnNgugi]

We are glad this is helping you restructure your life and we're here for you on this journey! 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@JaneNgure-l3u]

Me too last year l was exhausted, extremely exhausted, until l come to the point of saying this year sitaki stress...

[@irenemukumu]

Stop being the Savior! Wow💯

[@Bettydian07]

@@JaneNgure-l3u tuko pamoja, this year henceforth, it's about me,

[@joycemumbe6868]

Tuko pamoja this year

[@faithruru1011]

Thanks for having this conversation Lynn. I have prayed to God and also actively working on it that my child should never feel the need to help me in old age. Breaking generational poverty!

[@bwari01]

I sent money to my mother while working as a gas station attendant and going to school in diaspora. She didn’t do as we planned. When I asked her why she didn’t do as we agreed, she responded “ so that small money of yours is why you want to question me?” That was 15+ years ago. That was the LAST time I ever sent her money. I’ve also stopped sending money to anyone back home coz I sent it and it was wasted. Now, I have peace of mind and planning for my child’s college and my retirement. Ungrateful and entitled. We are not here in the west to slave for the comforts of so called relatives! Wakwende na huko!

[@kingfestus]

even in America you are still vulnerable to Financial Crisis , Wars. So you'll come back to your relatives or parents who you question right now. getta outa here mehn

[@elizabethkaraba6393]

​@@kingfestusyou clearly sound like one of those people who depend on handouts from your relatives. 😂😂😂😂

[@bellaolum9768]

@@elizabethkaraba6393 😅😅😅

[@Sophi25444]

@@kingfestusI think you completely missed the point of that comment.

[@consolataogola976]

So sorry dear weuh...I have a similar scenario.God help

[@pwangui443]

This is so speaking to me. I have been branded as the bad egg by siblings as a result of being too kind and when I put my foot down I become the devil. The entitlement is on another level.

[@Me-xoxoz]

All you have to do is plan your retirement so that you do not depend on anyone financially.

[@thembekasemane7373]

This is a very relevant topic. What I find disheartening is when this "help" is taken for granted. Especially not considering that it's actually from a point of sacrifice. And this part of being turned into an ATM is a sore one. But once you determine enough is enough, the "saviour complex" gets out of the window. I think that there is also demonic spirits that attach themselves into this

[@kekiplus1andonly]

It's just draining,THE ENTITLEMENT is what makes it worse

[@susuilu]

It definitely is from a point of sacrifice, so much so that if yoh have kids of your own, k9w your own kids have to compete with the ones you are sending resources to (in that case money)

[@AmBlessed426]

My take home...don't take the Saviours Position. Thank you for this, i always ask God to give me so i can give to my family what they need.

[@reggaelvr68]

I listened to the entire episode. Child of the diaspora from 🇯🇲 and this hits home. Its worse when siblings do not agree on how to care for an aging parent. 😭😭

[@joyobessa1364]

Hugs 🫂 to you hun 😢

[@ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood]

So true

[@LYNNETEOIMBO-s6m]

True. I took it on my own and I feel good.

[@leahmwendwa563]

One thing that really worked for me, and thanks to my sister Regina, get NHIF for parents, it's such a big win. Remember when parents get old, they need more medical attention.. then now send them just a fare and remind them to go for check ups.. I realised how much NHIF saves us.. hope it is sorted quickly and we get back to the system

[@celestialfogo7274]

I help where i can when i cannot ill help in prayers ,i used to constantly help to a point i myself couldnt take care of my son financially ,i have a special needs child and medical bills are expensive but still i was sacrificing and it still wasnt enough .this year am cutting that off no more sending money and it feels good no more stress for me .

[@jackiesithole4185]

I hear you and learn. We always talk about black tax with my friends. For instance, my parents are old. They don't have pension to sustain them. In this case, I feel it is the children's responsibility to provide for them. I agree when it comes to extended families.

[@ashlineobeto4784]

It's not your responsibility to help them

[@vaniasomenya3256]

Just remove the word responsibility

[@SusanKamau1]

I was doing promo jobs here in kenya, i saved up 20k and sent it to my mum to open a mama mboga business, i was struggling so much, ngl. When i came back home and asked why she hasn't done that, she said she used it to buy food, i was shattered, never again.

[@Iamessliey254]

Working here in qatar I use to send money home to cater for everything until am done with my contract Sasa niende home Wueh my own parents walinifanyia madharau I felt like am a burden nikiwa kwa iyo nyumba I was even scared to eat coz my dad could complain food inaisha haraka Wueeh I got sick no one cared 💔💔💔ilibidi nirudi gulf tena second time the thing I never wished for gulf is hell but I nilirudi uko this time round niko macho I thank God for bringing me to this video I will learn aloot

[@marym1866]

This second time, think about YOURSELF first!

[@Urembomileleofficial]

Pole sana yani pole inauma

[@bwari01]

@@Iamessliey254 pole! They did that to make you feel guilty and go back to work and send them more money. You will be their slave if you don’t stop sending them your money. They, too, can come to gulf and work same way you are working. Ama?

[@bettyabuu2103]

The terrible habit is that they demand and specify when they need the money. They rarely call to check on how you're doing. I always know when the call is about money since no one calls to see how you're doing. You truly feel used, which is not a good feeling.

[@ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood]

It hurts

[@MJ-ye7dd]

This is 💯 accurate

[@kisleyakis9006]

Wonderful conversation, am bold now to say NO. Thank you❤

[@godsbeloved23]

I’m in diaspora and I’ve been helping my people as the Lord enables and I like the fact they are very appreciative of whatever little or much I’m able to give them. I’ve not seen that attitude of entitlement and for that I’m very grateful. Hence I don’t view it as tax or a burden. I’m truly happy to help, not only my people but even others who are in need. There are however, cases where I’ve said no when I don’t feel led to help or simply because I don’t have. My hope and desire is that I can help them settle in meaningful sources of livelihoods (if it’s God’s will) so that they can also help others as 1 Corinthians 9:8 says that God is able to make all grace abound so that in all things having all that you need you will abound in every good work.

[@wanjafaith]

Just wondering if you're Kenyan. This doesn't sound like the average experience regarding family finances.

[@salomebaker121]

Lynn, Lynn! How many times have I called you? This very raw for many. 😢😢 Thank you you for making these uncomfortable conversations comfortable. Love your show and deserve your flowers.

[@ogolakay]

This video is God-sent. I am researching a book on the Black tax phenomenon and how it impacts our progress. This video is sooo informative. Thank Lynn and our guest ❤️❤️.

[@christinekayongo1295]

Black tax is a real curse which must be broken. Other races while working, plan for their retirement. The black person think that the child will look after him/her. This is selfishness

[@bellaolum9768]

@@christinekayongo1295 You can't even plan or save for retirement if you have been helping relatives all your working life. I always pray to never be a burden to my kids.

[@LynnNgugi]

We are glad you found this episode helpful, you are the reason we do this 🙏🏾

[@bettya4601]

The stories I have about black tax and the hell family has put me through!! Not to mention I’m a first born! 😢

[@victormani3141]

Firstborns ndio junior parents 😂😂

[@Dinah5822]

Pole dear . I'm a second born but only one gone to university in my family and mehn!.. sometimes black tax is a necessary evil ..but it's too much

[@nitanita1828]

We are many 5 years in diaspora but sina savings, the first 3 years my mom was accessing my account she withdrew all my savings nikienda vacation I found nothing 😢😢

[@Itsafirefly7706]

@@nitanita1828 woi pole sana

[@jadedqueen3619]

I sent money to my dad to buy me land in my name. The land was bought but not in my name. Go figure. That was a loss and l never made such a mistake. I have properties now and no family member knows what is going on expect my partner and my lawyer.

[@WanjiruMuya]

Lynn, can you also bring someone who can talk on how to tackle gambling? Many families are breaking up due to excessive gambling & even people borrowing money that leads to huge debts. Our parents are mostly affected ama tuuze tv's and Radios😭

[@puritytianta5560]

Plz lynn do

[@faithgathua7883]

The Bible says if your eye causes you to sin, cut it off. Sell the radio. Also, help them with tools that show you how much you have sent to a particular paybill. Just seeing the amount has a sobering effect.

[@brendakaunda2262]

I really understand how worse betting can be,it has destroyed families

[@wambuialice957]

Two beautiful ladies having an important conversation. Am in norway still struggling to break the shackles of black tax, woiye it is depressing

[@ConstanceNgenda]

My take here in Zambia, is the part of scanning a certain group of uncles - drunkards and in most cases womanisers! Time to forget about these good for nothing folks!!!

[@ConstanceNgenda]

I totally agree the regular recipients of your black tax are your worst critics!!!😢

[@brendajuma-sj7rg]

This is what I needed to hear this year. Thanks Lyn. Black tax has kept me stagnant, no growth etc....

[@sintoyiapulei9105]

❤

[@joyobessa1364]

I agree! That bank account monthly statement can make one shed tears because it’s full of money sent!!!! 😕😬

[@Capt_David]

Please bring Moesha Kay to the show. She touches lives in a very incredible way.

[@njeri88able]

I am overcoming and breaking the shackles of black tax this year

[@manderson7421]

Ditto 🙌

[@faithgathua7883]

This conversation is so useful. One thing we need to appreciate is that our money management skills are not the same, for our generation and the previous one.

[@gspia]

Hi Lynn and team, great new intro "Learn, Unlearn, Relearn". Excellent topic and conversation! I am neither Kenyan or African, but as Caribbean woman living in the US, so much of this conversation is relatable and relevant! It's been a few years since I unsubscribed to the concept and behaviours of Black Tax. I realized that it was costing me not only financially , but emotionally and mentally. I learnt that I could't move forward effectively and efficiently because I pulling and shoving other people to move forward with me. I've lovingly dropped the weight of other people and have experienced more abundance and ease in my life!

[@LynnNgugi]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and we are so glad this conversation was relevant for you. ❤❤

[@IMADOCBO]

This is one of the most educative topics Black people/Kenyans should listen,unlearn and learn from. Wacha nijiokoe mapema,im learning best! Thank you ladies

[@poppyncokoane7483]

i took care of my younger sister since she was 4 years old when our mom past on , then when she got her first university qualification, i told her that from now on i will start loaning you money for everything i do for her, until she is able to get her own income

[@tefolinchwe3738]

Wow! I am literally blown away! Wow! This woman unpacked every aspect! Whew.

[@lucywambui8797]

I really enjoy watching every episode that you upload some of us have lived paying black tax all our lives when you think you have finished your have orphans to take care of God have mercy

[@annwanjiku5360]

Your emergency, not my emergency, true ❤❤lyn

[@yayo_mfalme]

Black tax has kept many a youth stagnant in poverty especially those working tooth and nail in the diaspora in deplorable conditions only for relatives to enjoy life at home like royalty! And the worst bit is when you loose your job! They're the first to bad mouth you! I am tuning in attentive 👂 anyhoo RUTO MUST GO 🇰🇪✊😤🤕

[@RuthKerry-dg4lf]

This is same me am working gulf as a house maid am the one in charge of my siblings mind you am only 23yrs am even Wondering when am I gonna make it 😢

[@yayo_mfalme]

@@RuthKerry-dg4lf it's so sad 😢 take heart my dear! It shall be well ❤️‍🩹 even Joseph son of Jacob was in prison for 13 years but eventually God raised him to prime minister only second to pharaoh! Ipo siku yetu 🙂❤️ anyhoo RUTO MUST GO 🇰🇪✊😤🤕

[@RuthKerry-dg4lf]

@@yayo_mfalme yeah am trying my best but it's hard for sure our parents now know when we have work we are supposed to sort out all their bills including school fees 💔🥺

[@Flourish_today]

Someone said that some of those youth back home call you when they are in a club that send some money. You can literally hear the music playing the back ground.

[@yayo_mfalme]

@Flourish_today walai 🤦‍♂️ it's so true.. people have no shame! Alafu they'll get mad if you don't send

[@ChristineTamale]

I like the way these guests quote the bible and make meaning to what they teach us.God bless you Lyn and your team

[@wueehke]

It is a privilege to be able to give. But I believe one should budget for it

[@WanjiruMuya]

Juliet is a spitting image of Wangari Mathaai😁ama niko jaba? Your emergency is not my emergency

[@wambuialice957]

kabisaa. beautiful ladies

[@sospeterodongo6966]

Anakaa Gladys Wanga

[@josephinekiboi186]

I did a double take, they do look the same

[@akinyiokeyo4618]

Hiyo jaba Yako ni legit😅😅😅 but they look again together..

[@silviangari3291]

Until you mentioned wangari mathai I was like huyu dame anakaa mtu najua 😂😂😂😂eiiii

[@derickgloremunoh6677]

Beautiful to see 2 women intensionally having money conversations❤ I love this episode Lynn!

[@AfroGeordie]

So glad l found this video Paid the tax when l worked in Africa. Infact my parents said l had to pay since they paid my school fees and l was the oldest. Then they taxed me when l got married and then got worse when l traveled outside the country. It was so bad l used to send money home and then borrow money to live on. When my circumstances changed and l couldn’t send they didn’t speak to me for six months .l agree it’s difficult to get out of it once they have got used to it but there’s always a way to minimise it.

[@Me-xoxoz]

The same happened to me used to send money and pay for my younger sibling's school fees at Uni. Then l left a toxic marriage and had to start afresh which meant my circumstances changed. That is when my mom's true colours came out when l could no longer send. What really bothered me is that l was a young mother so l had a child as my priority with no family nearby in the diaspora. She has passed on now but l learned my lesson and am now in a better place career and financially on my own.

[@basilloch919]

this discussion was focused around other people's needs. All my family members are toxic and I will be going no contact

[@bettya4601]

You have to for your sanity. That’s what I’ve done

[@gitgenKE]

Take the responsibility to be a better leader, God put you in that system for a reason, abandonment is not the solution.

[@bettya4601]

@ it’s not easy to understand when you’ve not won the shoe. You have no idea!

[@irenekawira4902]

Timely I’m about to block a few, so far 2

[@Phyl9923]

Been planning to do this After setting up my farming business they decided to sell everything without my knowledge and not thinking that I don't have a stable job😓 It's almost a month now and it has really disturbed me emotionally

[@NomsaSemata]

Watching from South Africa.What an informative interview!Some of the things we see when they are pointed out by someone.❤❤

[@charityitonga5875]

Asanteni sana ladies for the great advice 😢Am a diaspora who has been waiting for this!!! “have been a volunteer victim for a long time “👏👏👏🙏🏼Thank you Lynn for everything you’ve done to us.💐💐💐

[@ItsWorkingTogetherForMyGood]

Retirement planning is very important.

[@Smodestar]

I am the Enabler but I thought I was helping, kumbe to them in their minds they took it as MY RESPONSIBILITY 😢. mnipee tu glucose nilambe as I RESET. Juu hata ukiwaambiwa come join me tufanye Job huku, hawataki Ati, gulf watu wanauliwa!!! GLUCOSE GUYS Glucose 😂😂😂

[@bellaolum9768]

🤣🤣🤣

[@huddahmunny5001]

Chukua Tende /Dates Hapo Kwa Thalaja My Dear

[@Me-xoxoz]

Once an enabler too, I was appreciating all the sacrifices that mom made for us. I used to send large sums of money to her and helped pay my youngest sibling's fees at Uni thinking this is my gratitude. Fast forward l left my marriage starting afresh which meant my priorities had changed. l decided to stay home study, heal and take care of the young child while emotionally realigning myself. My own mother changed because l was no longer of value and was so passive-aggressive with snide comments that l would reach retirement while studying. Initially, l did not think much of it until you could tell she wanted money but she was not getting it from me. Mind you she was not poor or struggling and l was going through my own challenges in the diaspora. Today am stronger have a better career and am more focused on putting myself first from all the lessons l have learned from my own family. Now l know l have to save myself first. l help with a limit.

[@jadedqueen3619]

You need boundaries and remember "NO" is a full sentence.

[@Smodestar]

@@huddahmunny5001 😂😂😂

[@Eunice2136]

I love discussions on black tax and the speaker made me understand the background, consequences and realistic ways to deal with it. I wish all of us dealing with black tax can watch it. Please share share share…

[@MATATAOFFICIAL]

We have a song about this topic called TUMA MADOO

[@bellaolum9768]

Is it on your channel, I would love to watch it

[@rafaelmasinde9174]

Tuma kitu, khaligraph jones

[@judithokello2857]

Tutaipata wapi

[@bellaolum9768]

@@judithokello2857 channel yao

[@JoanKiara]

I was just saying this...the visuals were crazy btw 👍

[@emmanuelsanankaksusachair5541]

powerful show. Thanks to God that I have come across this. God bless you both.

[@translationafrica2629]

Black tax ilinimess in my early youth. Still trying to recover

[@judymwikya52]

A silent follower since 2022,learning, unlearning and relearning Lynn God bless you and your crew❤

[@sarahmwaniki7581]

Tuned in till the end..I wish we can be brave enough to share such links to our parents coz wueh... Some will threaten to curse you if you dnt send the black tax 😢😢😢.

[@dennismawanda9121]

Some don't even great us if u don't send them money they are entitled

[@VelmaKhandenje12]

I thought about this 😅 I can imagine the response only 😂. Wueehh

[@JudyNzinga]

I feel you😅

[@JaneNgure-l3u]

Oooooh my lord this topic is myne, this year l feel exhausted, na saidia watu na still wako pale pale tu😢😢😢😢

[@ErenceRaseruthe]

I achieved a lot when it comes to doing projects like building, I remmber last time I watch the show ,this lady said ..u can save money to one million as long as u dnt have a goal for that money u are stil going to misuses it. Name money for your project...I save my money for furniture for example as soon as money mature ull go and buy furniture.

[@gitgenKE]

Theory of manifestation, set clear goals, universe conspires to help you get them.

[@VkeyBiyinzika]

I saw this episode the very day it dropped and refused to watch it deliberately because I know it’d be piercing! Anyway I’m braving my self to watch, learn and God help me implement.

[@abbiemumbi]

Wao! Lynn you never disappoint! What great conversation! It is all true, saviour complex- as a first born severely parented child I had to navigate all these steeples in ignorance. How empowering to overcome this complex; OR (at least be aware of the motive and drive and or psychological foundation of my jumping in as the fixer)and realise God is the help of us all? And you can help no one sufficiently until you help yourself? Thank you for this is very impactful conversation. Boundaries is a must in every interaction and every relationship. Helping time line or expiry! I am blessed

[@wangui0011]

She had beautiful complexion… gorgeous lady 😍 and smart too!

[@LynnNgugi]

Thank you for noticing, we are always working to uplift each other! ❤

[@BeatriceBodo]

Julliet, you are knowledgeable as far as finance is concerned

[@Gorgeous_254]

@Lynn Ngugi. I like how you give a listening ear to every guest you host. Passionately and authentically. Keep soaring ❤

[@hawakaovore6868]

Lynn is a good listener.Calm and collected!

[@LatifahNsubuga]

Very educative conversation ✍️✍️✍️✍️

[@blackrose8643]

This is an interesting discussion. I help my family when I can. They are always grateful and not entitled. I've had more issues with random people, like so-called friends. Thanks for the zoom link Lynn.

[@mtndrone]

This episode is eye-opening!

[@evahmuchiri4000]

Thank you Lynn for bringing this great lady with great information

[@ejechiemmanuella189]

Thank you for showing us how to handle black tax, like you said everyone's situation is different that being said the power to empower it negatively is also in the hand of the sender.

[@peterkebwaro4635]

Great conversation, money is a complex component that can make things great or break them depending on how you handle it.

[@carolinekogi9352]

There's something i always say if you are building for others build for yourself too..ukiwamwagia lorry moja jimwagie mbili...i learnt from some lady who was helping her family but when she was in need one of those she was helping refused to come through the other one was willing but didn't have means...sadly she was not saving anything for herself.

[@Peacky_pie]

Time to learn again... Much love Lynn ❤

[@winfredchepkwony9072]

Awesome conversation, very insightful for us diasporians 😊 The trick not to send money immediately is 👌 Your emergency isn't my emergency

[@silviangari3291]

I intentionally changed my number n took a sabbatical break from FB/whatsup ...I just want my life private in a way they cant access me 😏😏let me handle my finances with my mum pekee

[@elizabethndungu3956]

I was once a victim of black tax but it reached a point i made a personal decision of choosing me rather than those ungrateful black tax collectors...Am now very peaceful and building myself pole pole tu

[@brianoyando6968]

Thank you Marion for sharing the link to this show. I have enjoyed every minute of it. I will definitely benefit from it. Formidable ❤

[@nelshiro]

I believe in supporting my parents 100% regardless but all else it is not my responsibility whatsoever so entitlement is uncalled for. I will sacrifice for my parents only period! If I have extra, I will definitely give anyone if there is a true need. Otherwise kila mtu ajipange. It's sad that most people who feel entitled to other people's comfort would not even help if the roles were reversed. They don't even speak or care when their "sponsor" is sick etc Most of them tend to be very selfish and insensitive human beings.

[@alicengumo]

Thank you so so so much for validating my thoughts! I have been saying this for so long!!! We have to break these cultural prescriptions and unlearn so much!!!

[@miriamken3571]

On the question about feeling the need to sacrifice for your parents because they sacrificed for you....I honestly think that it's not our responsibility to take care of our parents, but it's their responsibility to take care of us, as their children. They sacrificed for us because that's their responsibility! My responsibility is to build my life, take care of my children, and sacrifice for them, not my parents. For parents, we just support them where and when we can, but they aren't our responsibility. I as well don't expect that my children will sacrifice for me because I'm sacrificing everything for them. That time, they'll have their own responsibilities to sacrifice for, and I'll not be one of them. We really need God's wisdom on how to set healthy boundaries for our parents, not forgetting to be compassionate at the same time.

[@mirckianke]

Kikosi ya you need to take care of your parents itakujia. But actually I share same thoughts with you.

[@DoreenNdirangu]

Wow this is it now👏👏I fully support this idea💯💯

[@Chebet254]

Exactly you talk my minds

[@yayo_mfalme]

@@miriamken3571 I disagree! Reciprocal is the nature of love! If they took care of you.... **Exodus 20:12:** "Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you." This is the fifth of the Ten Commandments and emphasizes the importance of respecting and caring for one's parents * **1 Timothy 5:8:** "But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." This passage emphasizes the importance of caring for family members, particularly those in need, such as elderly parents.

[@gitgenKE]

What do your parents really need anyway?, just make sure they have food.

[@mwangistephen8139]

Wow, so enlightening...I like this lady's eloquence ad well articulated information

[@erickotieno5593]

Very educative. Small You tubers, let's gather here.

[@Rackels-p4v]

Amazing,amazing,amazing,,,this year is promising, Lynn God bless you so much for this nuggets of wisdom ❤❤❤❤❤🎉,, Flowers 💐,,, all the way from saudi Arabia

[@wambuikaranja2701]

This right here hits home 👏👏

[@JaneRuno-bq6md]

Love the topic.thanks Lyne and Juliet

[@princessmahar4340]

So liberating , personal experience

[@jacobkom5249]

@Juliet Odhiambo , thank you very much, @LynnNgugi, I have subscribed, I am grateful, I am blessed by the work that you and your tribe are doing to change and improve an untold number of lives. I want to suggest to you that the powerful messages in all your interviews touch the lives of people all over the world. I worry that those of us that are not fluent in Swahili might miss out on some important information. I am 100% confident that this topic of black tax affects everyone in the diaspora and not only people from the continent. The wisdom shared in this interview has been powerful and profoundly helpful to very many. 🙏

[@sylviawairimu4228]

This is such a powerful discussion.

[@malojamal3038]

My kids and Wife will always be 1st...hii mambo ya black tax ju niko abroad nilisema hapana

[@Tripleexel]

Ah black tax. When I was growing up you mainly sent money to help now people expect to be taken care off. Ever noticed how the people who help others tend to produce less kids than those getting handouts?

[@dennismawanda9121]

Very true

[@naomiwangare754]

Wallae unamake sense

[@baulitious1710]

Woi.😂😂😂

[@QueenBKJ]

This was for me. Ms Enabler herself. 😭😭😭

[@LauraSaru]

It's a new day again☺️ to learn

[@wildamondestin1593]

Very informative to describe our reality with families & money. 🙏🏿🇭🇹

[@gracenamale9257]

This conversation is soo amazing. Thanks Pesasavvy for this. Lynn be blessed always🎉

[@jadedqueen3619]

Thanks Lynn, your guest is articulate and easy to understand

[@amandathemane5458]

Beautiful conversation, I am in South Africa 🇿🇦and I can relate.

[@jonathanmbogo2567]

I was waiting for this topic thanks for bringing it,am a victim of savior syndrome ,very well taught hopefully i learn and implement what is being taught…

[@mugishajeanclaude2949]

Thank you Lynn for bringing Odhiambo

[@gathoninjiiri9161]

You have delivered me, I have( now had ) savior syndrome , am now free .

[@risperkariuki1459]

Wow. Amazing conversation. I Loved it.

[@clem7708]

Excellent content as usual. Sharing with friends and relatives for the wonderful and relevant content. Thank you both for educating us so!

[@StellaShyamala]

Go Juliet, always nice listening in on money matters

[@ariseandshine]

Touchy subject yet very current in my life and others I know. Some family members will always take take without the desire to allow those in the diaspora to also break away from handing out. I blame those in diaspora for who don’t say NO!

[@rachaeljoel2157]

Thank you so much for this conversation it is very helpful