[M4A] BF Comforts Your Self-Harm Urges By Distracting You With A Marker [Calm] [Self-Harm Comfort]

[@RainStarr1119]

Him: r u holding some surprise? Me: Surprise! I'm mentally ill!

[@ItsJaysmr]

heyy, thats okie! things can be hard sometimes, theres nothing bad about it. I'll always be here for ya, love

[@RainStarr1119]

@@ItsJaysmr Thank you, ur asmrs always make me happy and I'm sry I replied so late ;-;

[@ItsJaysmr]

aww, no problem! i'm glad i can make you happy :) but heyy no need to apologize, hun

[@joonieborahae94]

As someone who is 6 years clean, and still have these urges years later; thank you for this. Thank you for showing those who need a distraction, and making an audio that they can always return to. No one ever did anything like this for me during these 6 years I'm clean (and I stopped on my own completely back then), this means a lot to me.. that you show those who really need it, some help that they might not get anywhere. So a huge thank you from someone who is 6 years clean, and I hope you know how loved you are, my guy.. I hope you know that we'll be here, and if you neef anything in return, tell us and reach out to us. These 6 years clean on my own have been tough, but it's people like you who gives us hope and support. Even if it's through a screen... It makes our recovery so much easier. So again, thank you for this ❤️ And I'll aim for 7 years clean this year, which I will be in august - when I reach that, I'll come back here and give everyone a little bit of more hope ❤️

[@ItsJaysmr]

heya, im sorry that im getting to this so late. but no problem at all, love. im always happy to comfort and be here for all of you. and love, I want to you know that you're so incredible. being 6 years clean and being such a bright light for everyone else who is struggling is truly amazing and I think thats so wonderful. I also wanna say, thank you so much for being here for me too. that means so much to me. I wish you only the best, and im so happy for you and how far you've come. stay safe, love

[@ari9313]

I'm proud of you!! 💕💕

[@TotallynotAddie13]

I’m so proud of you! 6 years! Holly keep going! Your my inspiration

[@februarycookiecoo]

It must be nice having someone pulling you off the edge. I just self harmed last night and found this like right now, wish I could have found this before. it's a relapse after 5 years but what's worrying me is that it is urging me again. don't know what to do. it is hard 💔 but at least I get to hear your calming voice now atm.

[@ItsJaysmr]

hey thats okay, love. you've been clean for 5 years, and that shows how strong you are. you are so so strong, and i know you can do it. i care about you so much, please remember that. stay strong, love

[@sarahyeates]

Babe it doesn't matter how long you've been clean, relapses and urges can still happen, this isn't something that you can just get over ❤❤❤

[@Charlotte-lz1ij]

I just relapsed a few minutes ago bit next time I'll listen to this thank you :)

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem, Charlotte!! i hope you're doing well now, love

[@Charlotte-lz1ij]

@@ItsJaysmr :)

[@charlottetugman6282]

I’m proud of you

[@lowqualitywaffle8765]

@@charlottetugman6282 me too

[@gremblygunk7933]

I've been really struggling lately and I mean really fucking struggling. I relapsed a month ago after having two months clean and haven't really made it past a day ever since. I cried my ass of watching this ngl- no one does stuff like this for me in person and it actually makes me really damn happy listening to this. Knowing that you've made multiple videos about this trying to help those struggling means the world to all of us. Thank you Jay♥️

[@dash7lee]

Hmm I love this video I have felt these urges before I tried to stop myself but I am glad I stopped and come by and listen to this audio thank you soo much! 😭

[@ItsJaysmr]

anytime, sweetheart! i hope you're doing well now, stay strong love

[@sxdness]

I've been having these urges a lot recently... I live in household that isn't exactly the happiest place to be at... I'm always super stressed out due to school and friend drama... I'm really glad that this is here because I've been really tempted in hurting myself recently... Thank you Jay... Thank you for posting this video because I don't get this type of support from anyone and this really means a lot.. 💗

[@ella_gacha0707]

I wasnt prepared to cry happy tears at 06:00 AM but here we are! Nice video it really helped!

[@ItsJaysmr]

aw

[@TWDobsessed69]

I relapsed a week ago after being three months clean, this really made me smile, next time I feel like I need to, I'll definition be listening to this. Thank you Jay, for the lovely things you do and continue being amazing!

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem, i really try my best to comfort as many as I can as best as i can. but thank you so so much! im so happy to hear that you find so much comfort in my audios

[@sugar5927]

Thank you so much for this.. I relapsed a day ago and everything around me is going so fast.. I feel really overwhelmed and yesterday I asked my mom to stay home from school, she asked why I told her bc I didn’t feel well, that is mentally bc I felt like absolute shit but she forced me to go to school and told me to take pain killers (she thought I was tired physically). It’s just sometimes everything around me gets way too overwhealming and I’m gonna start exams tomorrow and I’m really scared about it.. and with my family problems getting out of hand I’ve been thinking about kms.. Idk anymore but thank you for this, it really helped

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem at all, sweetheart.

[@sugar5927]

@@ItsJaysmr thank you, this really means a lot, I sometimes really need to hear this from others.

[@mayaac104]

Wow… I’m honestly bawling my eyes out right now, as someone who has been “clean” for 4 hours, this actually makes me want to stop, the way you help me is amazing and I feel like I’m actually getting the comfort I need that I haven’t been getting for the years I have lived in hell, I probably won’t be able to stop saying thank you to you. I know I probably sound like a teenager, because of how i am expressing myself right now or how I am wording my sentence, but I’m not even, surprise that I am only 12 and a half. As someone who has been getting abused since they were 6 years old, your words make me cry like something that could hurt me would, but not tears of pain, tears of relief and joy that even though through a screen, someone out there like you exists.. honestly… just thank you..and I really do hope that you keep on helping and probably saving peoples lives. As I cannot say this saying enough.. Thank you, with every love I have in my soul, thank you.

[@user-df9qn3pp7r]

Holy shit I did not realize how much I needed this right now.. I had a relapse earlier today, and this is helping me calm down a lot... thank you so much, Jay..

[@Mewl22]

I’ve been struggling with this pretty bad recently, and it kinda just feels like no one cares, I’ve been struggling with it for years, and I just feel like everyone’s just fed up with me, like it isn’t a big deal and I’m just being overdramatic. So, thanks for making this, so I can pretend someone cares

[@ItsJaysmr]

sweetheart, I care. I may not know you personally or have seen you before, but i still care more than you could ever imagine. anyone who has belittled you for this simply do not realize how challenging it is. its never easy and i can assure you that you are not being overdramatic. I hope you're doing well at the time of this message, hun. much love and stay safe

[@hannamiros]

How can this be an improv?? It's so good, better than many scripted audios I listened to. Keep 'em coming, your work is great ❤ Edit: and your voice and tone are so comforting and heartwarming I can't 😪

[@sammybee5441]

...i was just having those urges again..I feel called out..hopefully this video will stop me...thank you.. Edit: the fact there isn't any yelling in this..than you... it always seems so difficult to find comfort asmrs about sh that don't include yelling or sounding angry.. thank you..

[@GlitterCatz]

Jay is just amazing like that rly good at comforting:)

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem at all, sweetheart :) i hope you're doing okay now, and please dont forget i care about you!! stay strong

[@frogy6853]

Thanks a million Jay !!!! You have no idea how helpful this is , you're amazing and I wish you all best good in your life ♡♡♡ Also pretty proud I didn't do it last night lol

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem, frogy! thank you so much, and im happy you were comforted by it! stay strong, i care about you so much

[@lamarasawyer850]

Not trying to sound repetitive, but I was just having these urges again, too. Tysm.

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem!! im happy that i was able to help out a bit :) stay strong, love

[@cassidy1718]

you’re srsly underrated

[@ItsJaysmr]

tyy, im happy to hear that you enjoyed the video, love

[@pete9034]

i requested this one! Thank you Jay!

[@ItsJaysmr]

ofcc, no problem!!

[@stevie68]

I have been clean for a little over 5 weeks now. Im struggling bad again this last week and feel a lot of sudden urges. Thank you for making videos like this, it helped me through another night. Stay stong

[@김유성-l9p]

i am crying uncontrollably

[@ItsJaysmr]

oh no :( im sorry, sweetheart

[@김유성-l9p]

@@ItsJaysmr Happy tears🎉

[@ItsJaysmr]

aw

[@alayna550]

Woah your so sweet 🥺 I teared up watching this. It felt so real and the little giggles you were having when you were writing all those nice things 🥺❤️ I love you so muchhhh your vids are really comforting ❤️❤️💖💖 your voice your words everything is amazing ☺️

[@ItsJaysmr]

aww, thank you!! I try my best to make all of my audios sound real and as comforting as possible, and im so so glad to hear that you were comforted so much by it!

[@alayna550]

@@ItsJaysmr 💖❤️❤️🤗🤗

[@Idkhonestly657]

That was so comforting, I told to my friends about sh and they made fun of me in front of everyone. It was such a traumatizing experience, I was about to break my record (it was 5 months) but you saved it ! I will never know how to thank you enough! Thanks you very much

[@DyslexicWitch]

Thanks man I really needed this today❤️

[@ItsJaysmr]

ofcc, no problem at all! i hope you're doing well, love

[@DyslexicWitch]

@@ItsJaysmr thank you

[@wicketmoon2255]

Thank you

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem at all, this means a lot to me too because I'm so so glad to hear that I could help out like that. I care a lot about you, love and im happy to hear you're feeling a bit better. stay safe, hun

[@applepie9525]

I've been clean for three weeks, the longest I've ever gone, thank you for this video

[@greenhousesubs]

a little bit over a month clean now, urges are here to say hi all thanks to some transphobia, homophobia and anxiety ab school. used to it now but it still fucking stings. thank you thank you sm, you are an angel on earth istfgs

[@animalgirl5773]

Thank you for making this comforting and loving video of support. There are so many who struggle with self harm. I did in my teens briefly, recovered, and relapsed again in my early 20's. I reached a point where I realized I could never be truly healthy as long as I gave in to those urges. Attacking yourself is only going to hurt you even worse, and the relief is temporary. Everyone is worthy of love, health, and recovery. ❤️

[@dj.k4467]

Listened to your audio with one of the music bots in discord

[@ItsJaysmr]

aw, im glad you're doing better now, Kai :) take care!!

[@simp785]

I'm 2days clean and having urges currently, this vid helped a lot. Thx so much for making this ❤

[@Giannad8718]

I relapsed last week and stress is just bad and almost did it agian today till I found this thank you for making this

[@sydneymahan]

this helped me so much, i listened to this when i was about to step off a very high platform. ilysm this really helped 💗

[@oheggwoo1800]

i really needed this rn thanks dude :)

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem, hun :) im alwaysss happy to comfort you

[@blueademongoose9361]

I've been clean for 4ish months now and wanted to thank you for an audio that douse not include yelling ( I have sensitive ears and yelling brings me back to some trauma) This also reminds me of something my sister would do with me when she notices I have the urge to cut, she writes little messages that mean a lot to me since I know she means them and it help distracts me from the urge.

[@Pipinpatilopicis]

(Hey I know you may not see this) but thank you for this I was crying my eyes out and had those feelings and I wanted to put music on and I saw this and now I'm listening to it and it is making me feel a lot better

[@ItsJaysmr]

no no, i always see my comments!! im so sorry I got to this late, but im so happy that i could make you feel better, love. please remember that I love and care about you, more than you could imagine. stay safe, love

[@Pipinpatilopicis]

@@ItsJaysmr thank you jay

[@romydeaquino4097]

Tysm for this I've lately felt like this too so it very much felt like a hug

[@ItsJaysmr]

aww, no problem at all! im happy i could comfort you so well

[@Kai-qe9mh]

Kinda late but I have been feeling like relapsing for a while now and I have been trying my best not to because I have been clean for so long so this helped in a way thank you :)

[@user-lg1bo6df5w]

Thank you for making this

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem!! i'm happy to help, and yup i'm having a pretty good day ty :) i hope you are doing well too

[@aaliyah6583]

I literally LOVE ur audios theyre so comforting, out of all people who are doing this asmr type of videos, u are my fav (like no joke‼️). I will definitely come back to this video everytime i have the urge to sh again:). But i really appreciate that you make these type of videos to help people. Im pretty sure u helped so many people out there who are dealing with sh.

[@bellac3992]

thank you so much i have been trying to be clean and it has been driving me crazy and i don’t know what is wrong with me but this really helped me and thank you so much you were one of the only people i found on the topic that i searched up thank you so much you don’t know how much you are doing and helping me and others sorry if i have bad grammar or spelling

[@oliverruhlich9787]

I'm 9 months clean

[@guywhoreads892]

Almost 1 year clean, im trying really hard to make it to that big milestone and this helped me a lot so thank you ❤️

[@haleyboren6128]

Clean as of past Sunday. Feeling strong urges.

[@ItsJaysmr]

aw, im so sorry to hear that you are feeling these urges. but i am happy to hear that you are clean since Sunday. stay strong Haley, i know you can keep going

[@jemma3486]

i love u so much for this

[@ItsJaysmr]

[@PrincessNinjaFighter]

Near the end it sounded like a yoga session- I almost fell asleep actually.

[@PrincessNinjaFighter]

Like the “focus on your legs, and arms…”

[@ItsJaysmr]

haha, i really did try to make it as relaxing as possible! but im really happy you enjoyed it, love :)

[@CreationofChrist]

Thank you for showing me support yk. I hate getting all soppy like this but yk it's nice. Your voice is nice and I never got this kind of love just pepole telling other pepole about it thanks

[@ubepandesal7370]

Incredibly underrated

[@ItsJaysmr]

aww, thank you so much!!

[@Mcdonaldzjai]

Bro his voice when it first started caught me so off gaurd I flinched so hard

[@JustMe-dh6zq]

I’m so glad I found this in time. Yesterday I finally got to one month clean and I’ve had the urge ever since. Thanks for your help :))

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem, im so glad i could make a difference :) and you're doing awesome, im so proud of you! much love and stay safe, hun

[@toni9099]

22 hours clean

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem, Toni

[@toni9099]

@@ItsJaysmr ❤❤❤

[@greenhousesubs]

so proud of you man, progress is progress, how are you doing now? either way im still proud for how far you’ve come

[@toni9099]

@@greenhousesubs 4 days clean! Thanks for asking ❤️

[@greenhousesubs]

@@toni9099 i know it may not seem like much but im so fucking proud of you

[@funangameforever6669]

2 months clean but still feel the urge but I don't have friends this times so thank you

[@ibishupessima_]

Definitely gonna try to stop next time but it feels really good

[@ItsJaysmr]

love, please dont do that. i want you to be safe and out of harms way so if you need a helping hand, theres always help out there. one place is here, www.crisistextline.org please know that i care about you, and others do too

[@jocelyn7796]

thank you so so much ☹️☹️☹️☹️❤️❤️

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem!! i hope you're doing well, love :)

[@Haexy]

I am clean for 11 days noww but I think about doing it so many times a day... Thank you for this video it's gonna help me to stay clean :)

[@kendalsatterfield8251]

I just got out of a short but very abusive relationship and I am having these urges but trying to ignore them and remember I’m okay now bc I’m not with that person thank you

[@ItsJaysmr]

no problem at all! im sorry to hear that, but im happy to hear that you are doing better now :) stay strong, love

[@kendalsatterfield8251]

@@ItsJaysmr thank you you so much I’m trying ❤️

[@Kayla-xh1iq]

I have been trying to stop cutting and it can be very hard to stop, but actually use markers too I will get washable markers and I will draw on my arm where I would want to cut. ❤️Hope this helps❤️

[@Persephone.Underworld]

I just relapsed to keep myself from doing a worse thing, this is comforting since my boyfriend is asleep and I can’t wake him up

[@MikaePark-6]

I'm sure he would understand if you told him.

[@khawlakafka4123]

🤗🤗🤗You're just amazing 💜💜💜

[@ItsJaysmr]

aww tysm, sweetheart!

[@tecopoplead7903]

This really helped me last night I listen to it and it destacted me and let me for get about it and I fell asleep really fast

[@ItsJaysmr]

aw, im really glad to hear it could help so much! luv ya and stay safe!

[@unl0vedblues126]

him: Can you read this? me: What does it say him: Now read it out loud me: What does it say? him: What does it say? me: Thas what i’m asking him: It says i love you me: Yayyyyy

[@CharliemacD]

God I wish this was real

[@ItsJaysmr]

hey, i believe it can be

[@milff6969]

TW maybe?? so i’m 73 days clean. but my urges are so bad. i don’t really have anyone i can go to because nobody knows i struggle with this. i’ve always just worn lots of bracelets so nobody knows. this is the longest i’ve been clean in a while. but doing this alone it really fucking hard.

[@MaskMastic]

It's actually 8am I've been struggling all night

[@angiehammoud5295]

I have been clean for 4 weeks and this last few days I have had some urges and I'm really scared 💔💔 Going on 5 weeks still clean and scared 😟💔

[@ItsJaysmr]

hey, you're staying strong! keep it up, i know you can do it

[@devmnxx]

30 seconds clean😂

[@-Ray_Moon-]

I had a disagreement with my partner and he’s mad at me, now I’m here haha. I wish I knew how to cope with people being mad at me when they’re people I love.

[@Rayne-v3h]

Just lost a clea streek to them smell of cigarettes and perfume on my shirt after hugging and talking nto my mom and the fact she wout let me grow up like im treat ed like a kid

[@Natalie-bc9re]

im 7 months clean td!!

[@ItsJaysmr]

so so soo proud of you, love!!! 💛💛💛

[@b0xbrain]

"If you haven't looked at the clock, it's ten pm" It's literally 3:52 am and I have work tomorrow but hey whatever works right? 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@ItsJaysmr]

aw, please be careful on such little sleep

[@b0xbrain]

​@@ItsJaysmr The day went well, thank you. And I used this video as inspiration and drew on my legs. I went to work with some sick ass temporary tattoos :P

[@CrystalMermaid6]

❤️

[@ItsJaysmr]

❤️❤️

[@GlitterCatz]

I just ended my 2 week streak and I want to sh again so fucking bad😭

[@ItsJaysmr]

aw, im so sorry to hear that, hun. please know that i care about you, and others do too. stay strong, i know you can do it, love

[@minor_nico]

Ok so I just realized that it has been 6 months since I’ve sh, and I was bout to break that… oops I didn’t tho. I do have a time limit on my phone so I tried to called the save my life hot line right and I tried calling… but the time limit so I am here texting my gf who has no idea… and I’m lmao but bro this shit funny man well better luck never

[@ItsJaysmr]

im really glad to hear that you were able to stop yourself, love. thats amazing, you're really strong for that and you're such a sweet person. the way that you let others know that theres help out there and how they can stop themselves from sh. I wish you only the best, love. stay safe

[@NeveahHankins]

Im two weeks clean 🎉

[@ItsJaysmr]

awesome job, love :)) i might not know you personally, but im still so so proud of you ! 💚💚💚

[@alanabueno7080]

Bruh, I'm not even ugly why can't I get a boyfriend who won't cheat on me?!😔

[@caymannicholson4848]

I can’t make it more than 20 days but I try

[@ItsJaysmr]

hey, thats a long time. even if it doesnt seem like it, it really is. And not only that, but its progress too. Taking it 20 days at a time isnt bad at all. so please dont be too hard on yourself about it, love. You're doing great

[@hailiesleeth7487]

1:30 am watching this because I just had a urge to sh

[@kailaniloveshellokitty]

im breaking down right now and i was struggling to find my pencil sharpener blade and couldnt find it, i decided to just try to calm down bc my mother would end up finding the marks, does anyone have methods to stop self harming? its to the point where i cant wear short sleeves anymore bc of how bad it is

[@ItsJaysmr]

aw im so sorry to hear that, and im sorry that I'm so late to this. but there are some ways you can distract yourself. you can talk to a loved one/friend, and it doesnt have to be anything relating to how you feel either. it can just be a plain conversation, just something to get your mind going. another thing you can do that may help is to do something you love. i know its really simple, but really it can make a difference. and the last way i want to mention is to get into a new hobby/tv show/book. this is a bit of an odd one, but sometimes getting into something new can help you get your mind off of it momentarily. but of course, these arent things that just stop sh. I would recommend you find professional help, as that would be the best thing you can do. i wish you the best, Kai. I care about you and love you

[@gaynessaware6822]

I relapsed a few days ago and almost again today...but I'm working on it and I had gone a whole 4 months...celebrate in the replies lol