Gender dysphoria: definition, diagnosis, treatment and challenges

[@bonk9263]

i have a friend who has gender dysphoria and i tried to support them as best as i could. after learning and understanding what gender dysphoria is i hope i can help them better with their journey through life.

[@afrin565]

i also have a friend... i suggested 10000 hundred times.. pls lets go to a therepist... she doeant agree still

[@darklightgaming918]

Same that's my goal for 2021 to help my friend

[@رجل-خ7ه]

@@darklightgaming918 they must be lucky having someone like you

[@darklightgaming918]

@@afrin565 yep and if anyone needs help just comment

[@anon_lsr3252]

People like this give me hope :) thanks m8, keep being supportive

[@kluu880]

I love how when I looked up "face slimming exercises" I got this 😭✋🏽 called me out deadass

[@sophon238]

Just lose the fat lol, I also have a fat Face but I'm overweight

[@edsweet2858]

@@sophon238 not always I am definitely not overweight but I’ve got a rather round face

[@ZippyUnderstands]

Lmfao my laugh if the day 😂😂😂

[@reginafranco8355]

What the fuck this is my actual case I hate my fat face And my body

[@apreil4821]

@@reginafranco8355 I did face exercise for a week and my face slimmed and that lasted a month. I could only remember how to do two which was double chin and cheek excessive but every time I was alone in my room I’d do them. My face slimmed down a lot. It’s not much to help you but I just want to tell you it works.

[@hamocheese710]

I’m not diagnosed but I am almost 100% sure I have gender dysphoria because ever since I hit puberty I have found it hard to be happy. I can’t take showers, go swimming, get changed, or get deadnamed without wanting to die. I just hope one day I can be a boy for sure.

[@iieliop7187]

Omg this comment made me cry finally someone who understands me. I can’t change swim or shower without having a mental break down and crying.

[@SomeOne_1409]

Professionals like Psychiatrists will understand you and your feelings better.. If you think you have the symptoms pls don't hesitate to meet a doctor.

[@iieliop7187]

SmokeysTTV your not a scientist buddy

[@hamocheese710]

SmokeysTTV Right, and I was born mentally a male

[@iieliop7187]

SmokeysTTV um..ok? Doesn’t make your point valid.

[@daisyb5646]

I have felt that I am female for many years, and it is often so profound and helpless that it makes me cry. I want to be myself so much, but know that I never ever can, and that is absolutely soul destroying, and I just cannot stop crying.

[@richardbedford6657]

I have felt that way for most of my 78 years on Earth. Yes, it is very painful. The GD cudgel is brutal but purposeful. The self wants you to give up the male persona, heed the Siren's call to go be her. That is why your father expelled you as a sperm in the first place. You will actualize as female eventually if you stand up to the dysphoria, Go ahead and cry you have the right to. SRS and HRT are counter productive to your growth as a female, in irony.

[@daisyb5646]

@@richardbedford6657 thanks for your reply. You maybe right about the feminine side within growing stronger by the year. She is just so strong at present that I just want to fully embrace her and let her be me, as I know in my mind, heart and soul that I am her. The reality of being a woman in a male body is just so confusing and painful. I have only ever interacted with the exterior world as a man, and my body is undoubtedly male, albeit with a feminine mind and self. I must struggle on and just accept but hide my feminine side, my real self, hard as it is.

[@daisyb5646]

@@ajnichols6959 thank you Angelina. Beautiful name by the way :)

[@ajnichols6959]

David B thank you, my name is actually AJ but my parents won’t let me change my email yet

[@daisyb5646]

@@ajnichols6959 sorry AJ. All the best for the future.

[@Sam-wb3fq]

To everyone reading this having a hard time figuring out their gender. I love you, you will make it trough this and it will have a good ending. Stay strong and remember important people or things in your life that give you life!

[@lilyanahall2466]

Thank you

[@joelvaldez8688]

Not that hard. If you were born with a peepee, you're a guy.

[@Rmhartley]

@@joelvaldez8688 why are you here if you arnt discontent with your gender? I dont want to start a fight just curious why you want to put this comment here next to people who might be very confused of vulnerable, if this was just a joke its not a very good one.

[@Rmhartley]

Or*

[@joelvaldez8688]

@@Rmhartley I'm here to strike up an interesting conversation about gender dysphoria.

[@kane-111]

This is such a huge problem in today's world. Barely anyone talking about it and so many clueless haters when it comes down to the subject. Great video and beautiful voice!

[@TheAS687]

Yeah because elf social programming

[@MHPAM]

Because of society being like "BEING LQBT+ IS A CHOICE" No, it is not. It's an urge to be a part of it, an urge you can't escape unless you be a part of it.

[@Phatnaru0002]

Nothing about this video clarified anything. You're hearing what you want to hear. Not feeling comfortable with how others see you is not confirmation that you have a different brain. When I was growing up, I imagined myself as a handsome hero that saved lives and was adored by everyone, and was often disappointing by the reality that I wasn't. That's not because I had the brain of a handsome hero in a loser body. It's simply because I wasn't being realistic. I was dreaming, which isn't a bad thing. Dreaming is how you set goals. However, believing that your dreams are reality, and that the rest of the world are the ones wrong is NOT normal. That's insanity. A disconnection from reality.

[@hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894]

You can not feel male or female. Trans masc or feminine. This should not be taught to confused teenagers as 89 to 90 % grow out of it

[@codysutton1154]

I know many cases of gender dysphoria start basically from childhood. However, for me I just (noticed) started having it. I was born as a male. It was (and sort of still is) small things at first such as playing as a female in games. Its weird though because the whole entire time I have been customizing these characters I act as if it is me. I put on nice dresses and try to find good heels or necklaces in some games. I used to be attracted to women. But honestly, I think it was forced on me because of the cultural climate I live in and non supporting parents and being laughed at by my so called "friends". Even if I wanted to switch (more and more everyday I do) I cant right now. I live in the south with toxic parents and I don't have enough money yet to move out. However, do not let my story tear you down. Even if you live in an environment like me DO NOT let that suppress your true feelings. Do what you want, be what you want. This is your life, no one else's and its time we start seeing it that way! Have a good day and remember, you are you!🌈

[@iamtrash9995]

Same!!! I started to realized I might be trans only recently.

[@wisdom8282]

@ wth🤣🤣 bro that's not what we r discussing why bring it up😂

[@atsushissuspenders157]

Exactly, I started realizing I choose male in games, I’m always role playing as and making my profile male anime characters, never making anyone call me she/her online, etc. On games, I tended to put what I liked on the character as well, like dresses and skirts and stuff despite the character being male. The only reason why I feel so comfortable as a girl psychologically and socially is because I grew up for fourteen years this way. Just a year ago I began wondering if I really want to be female. I strongly believed-and still believe-that my behavior is more masculine than feminine. Not just my behavior, but the way I talk, stand and sit. I always looked at girls and went “oh she’s so cute/pretty, I wish I looked as good as her”. But always looked at guys and went “oh he’s cute, I wish I looked like him”. I’m still having trouble with my identity and wondering if my opinion on my gender is valid-and I’m especially wondering if it’s okay for me to still be as feminine as I am while transitioning.

[@wisdom8282]

@@atsushissuspenders157 hello there from personal knowledge you sort of sound gender fluid you are valid in every way shape or form I'm not sure if your quite mtf but you definitely could be Or mabey your non bi just remember gender is how you feel on the inside it doesnt matter what clothes you like because you can where whatever you want no matter your gender but if you feel a way on the inside definitely try and talk to someone

[@atsushissuspenders157]

@@wisdom8282 Thank you ☺️ I’ll keep that in mind.

[@alphabetboy8569]

I have gender dysphoria because sometimes I look at the mirror and look at my body, Sometimes I notice that my body is more masculine and at later times more feminine At this point, I don't know if it's Dysphoria or Dysmorphia, I sometimes cry because I don't know, understand and even sometimes identify what I see on the mirror, I consider myself as non-binary because I personally look androgenous, and I don't care of what people adress me as, whether it be a "he", "she" or even "they" i accept all names because just as long you adress me with kindness and respect I will always accept it, but then again I am not trans but many people do suffer with this mentality but I am not bashing other trans folks, I'm just sharing my strugles as a person whom experience body dysphoria (also my user name is just a song so yeah JIC someone ask why I identify as a "Boy", nop it's a song)

[@shellyfiguereo6016]

I'm sorry you're going through this. It can be really hard to navigate the differences between experienced gender, gender identity and gender expression. But I hope you have the support system to help you navigate these differences and live your best life. However you identify, you deserve to be respected and loved ❤️ I also express myself in an androgynous way, and it's difficult for me to know if it's an identity thing or just how I feel at the moment. Also, nb individuals are often identified with the trans community since they don't identify with the gender they were assigned... But it's really a matter of how you're comfortable labelling yourself. It's okay if that changes! We're all just trying our best.

[@alphabetboy8569]

@@shellyfiguereo6016 Thank you so much, it gives me so much hope that at least some people understand me.

[@AllyZuzue]

Thank you for sharing this, i feel less alone. Also- *M e l a n i e ?*

[@alphabetboy8569]

@@AllyZuzuealways remember that you're not alone, also YES, wassup my fellow crybaby

[@AllyZuzue]

@@alphabetboy8569 Yaaaaas- wassup fellow crybaby :DDD

[@orion9772]

I've felt masculine for all of my life (I was born a female) but it's starting to get so bad I can't look at my homework, look into a mirror or go outside in the living room and be perceived as female because it makes me feel so disconnected from who I actually am. It started with identifying as bisexual, then as lesbian, then as non-binary, and in every stage of life I seem to be climbing this ladder to become who I really am. This time though, I'm scared to express myself, because of my parents, those around me, change, and this is the first time I have ever been scared of being who I am. I don't want these feelings to last forever because they are stopping me from doing what I love, so here's to hoping I can battle through the dysphoria.

[@UnKnown-hl4ev]

I’m in your same situation.

[@kriskabin]

Be gentle & patient with yourself. Pls realize it's society that has the problem, NOT you. The culture we live in is still woefully stuck in simple minded binary thinking. We are all raised to wrongly believe that there's only 2 genders & 1 sexuality (hetero) that humans naturally come in; THIS IS FALSE! Seek out good/positive info & find similar people to yourself to get support. ***And, realize in other cultures through the ages, people such as yourself were highly regarded & VALUED leaders in their societies. These were HEALTHY cultures that KNEW how SPECIAL & GIFTED people like you & myself really were,.. & are still! 😉 Hang Tough💕

[@alyssapetell5047]

I know exactly how you feel cause latley I can’t stop myself from wanting to dress masculine and I’m uncomfortable with my boobs and my female body I hate it but I’m so scared of what others would think if I tried to change it cause one time I told my friend about how I think i was born in the wrong body but she said it was just a phase and now I think I look stupid I don’t feel comfortable even talking about any of this but I need to vent I have no one to tell this

[@User-cz6jp]

its so hard i sob every time i look in the mirror ugh ppl expect you to eventually accept your natural body but that isn't how it works once you experience dysphoria from that moment till you die u will have it. u have to transition for at some point for peace of mind. i have to wait 2 years for hormones.

[@youarehere7284]

Work on loving yourself without labels, without panic, and you will find your true self. Be calm and seek self-improvement in a way that is completely non-gendered: Who is the best human you can be? Aren't you equally as deserving of love as any other person? Find that, and you will find your answer. Take a deep breath, don't put so much stress on yourself. We are all works in progress. I recommend the book- The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching: Transforming Suffering into Peace, Joy, and Liberation by Thich Nhat Hanh. Wishing you peace-

[@purpleamethyst.2158]

I am not diagnosed with gender dysphoria, but my Ex boyfriend is. In our relationship it was more like I was the boy and he was the girl, and I guess it was just our personalities. I now understand what he went through, and I started love him, even if he doesn’t love me.

[@jogle9013]

Are you misgendering your ex?

[@skipper3102]

So you’re telling me... it’s *_not_* normal to constantly wish you were the other sex? Oh.. well then

[@heiwiik8744]

Kowalski, analysis

[@aspiknf]

@@heiwiik8744 My sister and I say that a lot lol.

[@str.nickxx]

Real

[@redplaybuttonuser]

It isn’t.

[@endmeeeeeeeee1836]

My body is literally that of a female stereotype and I hate it so much. I’m a small, short, weak girl with a high pitched voice. I hate it so much.

[@User-cz6jp]

give it to me please i will pay you to give me your body lmao u can have my male body eww ugh since i hit puberty i've been depressed asf and angry at the world but after time went on i couldn't anymore and just let myself be feminine its so hard when your brain is one way and your body is another way they won't ever get along

[@User-cz6jp]

its literally like being trapped in a cage and the door keys are lost.

[@1c0nic_player]

@@User-cz6jp the first part of ur first comment out of context- btw, have there been any updates?

[@Ash_Was_Here]

I’m over here crying when I’m reminded that I’m seen as a woman, feeling utterly repulsed by my body, and not feeling comfortable when described as a daughter or sister, but still asking myself if I’m just overthinking things and am not dysphoric

[@arturo165]

Seek professional psychiatric help

[@natejohnson7601]

Yes you are dysphoric and seek a medical professional

[@rynnaissance2480]

You aren't crazy love and your feelings are valid. Cisgendered people don't question it that much, and I don't think you're overthinking. Experiment with yourself and what feels right, and know that you have plenty of time to figure it out ♡

[@1c0nic_player]

@@rynnaissance2480 hi, im one of the cisgendered people you mentioned and would like to understand it better. whats the difference between being a masculine female or a feminine male and being trans? not to be transphobic

[@rynnaissance2480]

@@1c0nic_player Well most people who are just gender non conforming are still comfortable being seen as their birth gender. Trans people usually aren't and prefer being seen as a different gender.

[@mascotwithadinosaur9353]

Thank you for clarifying these things! I do not have gender dysphoria, but ever since I was in kindergarten, I was always told to be more feminine or that I'm ungirly. I never understood what people meant because I feel very girly. It gets to a point sometimes where it's just tiring and frustrating, and it made me question my own gender identity. I started thinking "Maybe they have a point? Maybe I'm a boy?". When I was a kid, I used to wish to have been born as a boy, because I knew I wouldn't have been treated as an outsider to my own gender if I was a boy. I looked up "gender dysphoria" to see if I have it, but now I think the feeling I get sometimes of being an outsider to my own gender is because of how others treat gender roles, and not because I'm inherently uncomfortable. I look in the mirror and I'm happy to see a girl. I think about being a boy and something about it makes me dreadful. I think about being non-binary, and again, I feel dreadful. But when I see myself, I feel like this is me. This video explained things in a way that was easy for me to understand so thank you for making it! To those who do have gender dysphoria, I wish you all the luck you need and remember, you are strong! You can make it! Hugs and kisses! Also, society is weird.

[@mascotwithadinosaur9353]

@@Vividlyforgotten Where I grew up, I was still told very often to "man up" and "stop being girly", but these came from the grown men in my life, while all the "you should be more girly" came from the women. If that sounds confusing and contradictory... yep...

[@mascotwithadinosaur9353]

@@Vividlyforgotten I just realized, I think you misunderstood what I meant when I said "I wouldn't have been treated like an outsider to my own gender". I was saying that, with how I expressed myself back then, I would fit in more easily with the boys than with the girls. If I were born as a boy, but had pretty much the same personality, I would've fit in with others of my own gender much more easily than I fit in with the girls. Not saying that boys and men don't have their own problems. Just saying that I acted more like the boys and men around me than I acted like the girls. And yes, I also would go to other people and tell them to "man up", "stop acting girly" and "crying is for stupid little girls". No one of the other girls would say such things, but I did, and so did the boys. I was already only hanging out with boys, if I would've been a boy myself, it would've been "perfect" (not actually, because I was a huge misogynist and I was incapable of communicating my emotions). Anyway, sorry for the long comment. I agree that men and boys have their own issues. I wasn't trying to deny that. I hope you understand.

[@2shy2guy52]

It sucks when you're at home still and you don't have the strength to tell your parents. It also feels like it's coming out of nowhere for me! I recently came to terms with being nb, but I feel like I should have felt this before now. Stay strong, we can do this!

[@hydraxon6940]

It feels like its coming out of nowhere, because it *is* coming out of nowhere. You probably know the Alex Jones memes, "they are turning the frogs gay". right? At this point I am pretty sure thats whats happening. Just instead of gay, its "gender dysphoria" Why? Because the transpopulation is multitplying each year. Its not something unusual anymore...its actually becoming the norm now. A few years ago I thought "trans people are rare but its normal. It just happens to some." Now, after meeting more and more trans online, and even seeing one of my friends turn trans, I am 100% sure this is something made by humans, for humans. I wish you power and strenght, but rethink your lifechoices.

[@yonthepersonwhodraws]

Yea :(

[@1c0nic_player]

@@hydraxon6940 well at least u rnt toxic :) i think it probably gets a little bit exagerated by how common it is but i feel like for the most part its genuine

[@englishmuffin7]

I know I'm just a stranger but i support you. When I first came out to my mom, I needed support even if they were miles away. I hope things worked out. My situation isn't terrible but mine doesn't fully get it. Hope your situation is a little better!

[@jogle9013]

1 year update?

[@purpleavatar5350]

This video was amazing up until the part at the end where "Bob" gets misgendered.

[@pepebabushki9376]

@@Krispysquare please grow up :)

[@DunderHead.5000]

One problem is the idea of (I'm paraphrasing from a doctor here) ' the discomfort of how the world sees them versus how they identify on the inside'. The cure here is working on why you worry about how the world sees you vs seeing yourself and being happy with it or changing the things YOU want to change for YOURSELF. I can guarantee that if you're trying to please the WORLD and everybody else you will fail and be miserable in the process. Do what you gotta do but do it for the right reasons: because it's the right thing to be doing for YOU.

[@NopeSecret]

Dont speak logically to these people. They are not looking to get better they are looking for acceptance lol.

[@honestone4306]

Although I do not deal with these issues and don’t understand them I have to keep in mind that we are all human. Everyone deserves to be happy. Please consider therapy for your mental health before you make a rash decision you may regret. I hope you all find self love.

[@projectacuhope]

Please consider spiritual healing in a good church. Seek God first and foremost and ask the Holy Spirit to come into your heart.

[@Elatzy]

@@projectacuhope That´s a good solution too =)

[@ChannelZero1031]

This is interesting because technically "Dysphoria" alone means "A state of unease or general dissatisfaction with life." So in the case of Gender Dysphoria, the individual is dissatisfied with his assigned gender. Just needed to break it down for myself.

[@hankblanc4586]

As a transgender woman, I find this video explains dysphoria like a textbook from decades ago.

[@iszatso]

@Im Insane bruh

[@Based-Anti-Theist]

@Im Insane Shoo, peasant.

[@RsWePVM]

You are still a man don't lie to yourselves.

[@Based-Anti-Theist]

@@RsWePVM And the heck do you care?

[@shirleysilvadunnigan6377]

They have stopped and discouraged professionals from further researching into it. It’s really strange but our information is definitely not growing and this is the most extensive research we have on it ;/

[@milanchandarana786]

If anyone is wondering what it feels like it is like being buried alive.

[@arturo165]

Seek professional counseling. I do hope you are doing well. I wish you happiness and love.

[@gastperkaswaki5296]

Yes exactly

[@gastperkaswaki5296]

Reading the comments made me cry and happy. Crying because I can feel many peoples pain and happy because I know many of you understand me. Since I was young I always wanted to be a female. I want to wear a dress, I was to have female body, wearing high heels, be treated as a woman etc. it’s been more than 10 years and now I can’t handle it, I look older than many people, can’t go to the gym because I have anxiety from my gender, I can’t even communicate. I cry majority of the time and ask my self when will I leave this world but then I hold myself back and pray to god to guide me.

[@allisonbaker-t5z]

you got this gastperk. just dress and look beautiul. you'll be the best version of yourself.

[@atsushissuspenders157]

• A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary AND secondary sex characteristics. • A strong desire for the primary AND secondary sex characteristics of the other gender. •A somewhat strong desire to be of the other gender. •A strong conviction that one has the behavior of the other gender. All of them have lasted since August - but the fourth one has lasted for a VERY long time and the second has lasted for a year. Does this mean I have gender dysphoria?

[@atsushissuspenders157]

, I started realizing I choose male in games, I’m always role playing as and making my profile male anime characters, never making anyone call me she/her online, and recently found out exactly how much more I like princes than princesses. On games, I tended to put what I liked on the character like dresses and skirts and stuff despite the character being male. The only reason why I feel so comfortable as a girl psychologically and socially is because I grew up for fourteen years this way. Just a year ago I began wondering if I really want to be female. I strongly believed-and still believe-that my behavior is more masculine than feminine. Not just my behavior, but the way I talk, stand and sit. I always looked at girls and went “oh she’s so cute/pretty, I wish I looked as good as her”. But always looked at guys and went “oh he’s cute, I wish I looked like him”. I’m still having trouble with my identity and wondering if my opinion on my gender is valid-and I’m especially wondering if it’s okay for me to still be as feminine as I am while transitioning. ( commented this on another comment thread as well. )

[@blahajenjoyer208]

It might, I'm a trans girl and I didn't have a desire to actually transition until around 8 months. I haven't been diagnosed with gender dysphoria, but I have talked with a therapist about it. When puberty started hitting me a lot, which was when I'm 13 and I'm currently 14 right now, is when I felt the strong desire to actually transition, wishing I was born a girl and thinking about it in a more serious way, etc. I am 90% sure I have gender dysphoria because I doubt a "phase" would last this long. Anyway, In no way am I saying, "Yes, you do have gender dysphoria," but I just wanted to tell you that I experience similar desires and feelings just like you when It comes to this. Edit: I didn't read what you posted in your reply section, so sorry about that. So, I have a question, do you still currently feel like a girl? Because if so then you're probably a tomboy since you like to be masculine as well. I don't know you personally, so there is definitely no way for me to give you the right answer to the question "Do I have gender dysphoria?" So my difference with what you're experiencing is that I 100% feel like a girl. It just feels wrong to picture me in the future as a guy. And I don't like masculine or "clothes for men" because it makes me feel dysphoric. I always smile when I see feminine or "clothes for women" because I wish I had that to wear. I'm only talking about this because you said, "On games, I tended to put what I liked on the character like dresses and skirts and stuff despite the character being male." You also said that you liked dresses, skirts, etc, but does that mean you don't like to or wouldn't like to wear clothes traditionally worn by men? Do you picture yourself in the future as a guy, but you're also wearing clothes traditionally worn by women? Also, for your last paragraph: Of course, your opinion on gender is valid. Gender, by definition, is a social construct or more fluid than sex. While sex is really just your reproductive system. And hell yeah you can be a feminine guy, It doesn't matter. Feminity and masculinity are really just personality traits that were labeled by society. It's totally okay to be a feminine guy or a masculine girl. Yes, society pushes it onto people that If you are a guy you must be masculine or if you are a girl you must be feminine, but that doesn't make it true. Please oh please correct me / disagree with me on anything. I am in no way shape or form an expert on this, this is just from my experience, my opinions, and what I've heard from other people.

[@avrilllllaaaviiigne6053]

@@atsushissuspenders157 I really recommend checking out Dorian Electra, they are a non-binary artist who moves in between masculine and feminine traits. I have found seeing them do their thing incredibly validating

[@atsushissuspenders157]

@@avrilllllaaaviiigne6053 Thank you, i will! :)

[@avrilllllaaaviiigne6053]

@@atsushissuspenders157 woo! if you happen to like them lemme know if that's not too weird :)

[@maximilianbrauckmann2302]

making a video explaining male to female transgender* "why would you call her a he?

[@eremin1515]

omg thank you I am so fucking lost as to why they would do that

[@peaceandtolerance557]

I was assigned male at birth, completely traumatised by it and now after treatment and correcting my sex to be as a female I feel so much better and happier in my reassigned sex.I I have had sex reassignment surgery and waiting for facial feminisation surgery and related surgeries.

[@hopesy12u4]

الله يهديك و ييسر عليك بس...

[@plutomaniaa7]

G luck

[@whamzap]

i’m so happy for you. i support you even though i’m a stranger. i hope things have went well. love you.

[@vhawk1951kl]

Do you not realise that you will always be a fake or caricature and never the real thing and will have to take steroids for the rest of your life destroying your immune system so that any passing virus or infection will kill you. Is that what you want?- And all that just to be a bad copy or fake.

[@DroppDuhBass]

When i was 5 yrs old I thought i was a boy and when i found out i was a girl of course i was very disappointed 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@yonthepersonwhodraws]

I never really felt like a gender TwT

[@mkaiser29]

You have an AMAZING voice! Well done!

[@aspiknf]

Her voice sucks ass.

[@voiadark8073]

A good quote is "I had never felt feminine but I had always felt female." That really struck me as I realized being feminine is learned and practiced. I have felt female ever since I hit puberty. And now that science is actually starting to prove this with more scientific study on the brain being conducted I have more courage to finally start embracing who I am. However, it is always a good idea to move at your own pace. So I have always been taking it slow. Finding out more about me and being able to love myself will allow me to love others better too.

[@nigerianbaddies2240]

I want help but I don’t know how to get it I’m to embarrassed to bring this topic up with my parents again..:(

[@leonievasa]

Maybe talk about it to your friends or look for centers that provide counselling? Or a teacher that you trust? I'm not sure. These are just some ideas. I hope you find someone to talk to and are able to get help from a professional. You are strong and beautiful. ❤️

[@silver4831]

Man I gave up speaking to mine, they are as transphobic as it gets.

[@iwantcake7703]

@@uniqoEnEsp Shut the fuck up, you do not know their parents, nor do you know anything about them. Stop making shitty assumptions

[@iwantcake7703]

@@uniqoEnEsp Same to you dumbass, look who you responded to human, you assumed that their parents HAD to be just "uninformed" and not actually transphobic. You are the one who does not realize not everyone is in your situation. Get a life

[@donnagonzales6056]

@@iwantcake7703 You have little comprehension. Original commenter is telling about getting himself/herself some help, original replier tells OC that his/her parents are transphobic which makes zero sense why? How can someone or people react and be transpobhic if the person they love wants to get some help for himself/herself on his/her gender dysphoria? Transphobia means that they're disgusted/hate a person on a person which transitoned or transitioning.. The replier is obviously replying to the OC which it implies that he/she wants to gets some help too. It's not transphobic, it's called confusion, A person can't have hatred to a person when they don't know what the word itself means.

[@aratitudumandi9482]

Yea now I'm 1000% sure i've Gender Dysphoria..... But I haven't told my parents bcoz I'm a bit afraid that what they will think of me! So can I stay with my dysphoria forever?

[@crowwithanxiety5459]

Hey it's been 7 months how are u coping?

[@james-zl5vv]

Same:(

[@paraa2443]

I think i had gender dysphoria ever since i was very young. I used to play woth cars alot as a child and when i started hitting puberty when i was 9, i kept crossing my arms to hide that area because it made me uncomfortable. Only recently it's been getting to the point of me wanting to harm myself.

[@selfproclaimedcowboy8587]

i can’t wait to move out, i want control over my body. but until i can get my hands on any treatment to help my dysphoria i have found something that helps my dysphoria a little bit. When i’m going to take a shower or change clothes i look in the mirror and take a stance that looks masculine to me. it helps me stop feminizing myself mentally.

[@vhawk1951kl]

You understand that dysphoria simply means not liking- it is the opposite of euphoria? Face facts chum, you are*Never* going to like absolutely everything so some dysphoria or not liking is the lot of all men(human beings) including and in particular the slaves of the functions and one function in particular. Your problem is - as we say in England, you want jam on it; expect too much, or in short, you*want* and seem in particular to be in want of wits.

[@diseasedv_]

I can never tell what gender I’m happy with, sometimes I want to be female and not change anything, or I want to be male or non binary and change how I look. And sometimes I see haircuts and all that I really like but people will judge me for getting them because it wouldn’t match me. I also live in a really toxic situation with my family and idk what to do about all of this :( I really try to be happy with myself but it gets harder everyday, can anyone give me some advice?

[@youarehere7284]

Work on loving yourself without labels, without panic, and you will find your true self. Be calm and seek self-improvement in a way that is completely non-gendered: Who is the best human you can be? Aren't you equally as deserving of love as any other person? Find that, and you will find your answer. I recommend the book- The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching: Transforming Suffering into Peace, Joy, and Liberation by Thich Nhat Hanh. Wishing you peace-

[@1c0nic_player]

@@youarehere7284 yooo a wholesome comment bot thats cool

[@natsuki9656]

i think i have had this 'disorder' since I was 14yrs old, and now I am 22 years old and still have this thing on me, I still behave like normal people, the society including my friend was also seeing me as normal, i also often join religious activity too, but when i was alone i express this feeling by cross-dressing or imagining something like that, is it still treatable if i seek help in psychiatric now? because i find myself spending more time with fulfilling my imagination and temporary pleasure rather than doing work like studying, etc. Also, if my family finds out i am doing this kind of thing, i literally will begone; they work as a religious teacher and doctor, so its also impossible for me to go to the hospital and go to psychiatric

[@natejohnson7601]

This needs to be taught in school so people can get help and proper medication

[@hydraxon6940]

This is already being taught in many schools, lol. Why do you think the average trans is between 11 and 16? lmao

[@averageboi5195]

@@hydraxon6940 it's not. the internet exist & this is where most trans people look for proper medication. try asking people who are still in school if they teach gender dysphoria & the answer is always no.

[@1c0nic_player]

@@hydraxon6940 yea its not. i go to school in california, and its still only mentioned occaisionally (by teachers at least), although there are lots of trans people.

[@mr.random8447]

absolutely not, stop indoctrinating children. Keep it simple, go by your chromosomes/genitals. It blows my mind, how this is one of the first things people of think of to solve their unhappiness. Its an incredibly low level of self-awareness. Its like people never thought, oh I'm unhappy maybe because I don't have hobbies. Or they not happy abut their body, ok then just go to the gym.

[@aoibh5310]

I Hate knowing I have this, I'm so sure. I could never fit in with other boys, I always grew out my hair, even my first friends in life were girls. But the worst part is knowing my parents would never try to help me. They hardly see me as a person, why would they care. Now I'm at the beginning of puberty, knowing I can do nothing but hate every second of it. And I feel awful for all the other people on the same helpless path as me.

[@PappyMandarine]

Your parents most likely love you, mate. You not realizing it is a common feature among young adolescents. It's just a feeling - a sort of misunderstanding if you like. Now I'm not saying they're gonna accept your "true self" with the highest spirit of tolerance, I don't know them and can't judge. I'm just saying that your perceived impression of them about you may and is probably exaggerated. Wish you the best of luck :)

[@villvbeloved]

recently ive been feeling like my body isnt mine, but i know it is.. if that makes sense. when i look at my body it feels just not right. is this gender dysphoria?

[@aspiknf]

Laoise, wait until puberty and see if your mind changes. You need to wait many years and then see what you think, don't be forced to rush it...that's the agenda nowadays, they transition the kids way way too early which is not right. Because then there will be regret. Professionals might talk rubbish, you gotta be careful about them. I'll tell ya what buddy, if you've got any problems just talk to me. You might have Gender Dysphoria, but it's too early to say. Just try and be proud of your body, if you can't be then just tell me buddy. Good luck and have a good weekend.

[@quixiion7064]

@@aspiknf that's good advice arran ! if you have any for me rhatd be cool because im 26 and i want to fucking kill myself everytime i look in a mirror :((( . everytime I see myself and all of my feminine features i feel so sick like I want to throw up and i want to die so bad constantly if u have any help answer pls haha ^^ thx friend !!!!!!

[@aspiknf]

@@quixiion7064 Hi, you're a beautiful human being and don't ever feel sad because the universe is on your side friend :-)

[@youarehere7284]

​@@quixiion7064 Work on loving yourself without labels, without panic, and you will find your true self. Be calm and seek self-improvement in a way that is completely non-gendered: Who is the best human you can be? Aren't you equally as deserving of love as any other person? Find that, and you will find your answer. I recommend the book- The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching: Transforming Suffering into Peace, Joy, and Liberation by Thich Nhat Hanh. Wishing you peace-

[@hydraxon6940]

Diagnosis: too much anime.

[@claudeme7100]

I was born a male and at age 20 I grew to as tall as I would ever get; 5ft 4 inches. This has always disturbed me and at times it made me depressed and unhappy, esp in my younger years but no matter how much I wished it I knew I would always be a 5ft 4in short male. That experience taught me a lot. Most human beings, unless they're extremely lucky, have things they wish they could change about themselves but cant. Pretending that the rulers I used to measure myself were just one persons truth and not my truth didn't help. So did I have short man dysphoria. Well if you go by what the word dysphoria means then the answer is absolutely yes. But I tell you what one thing people with so called "gender dysphoria" have over me. They can choose to live as they want to live. If they're men but prefer to live in a way that a women would live her life, they can. But in my case no matter how hard I try to live the life of a 6ft male, I will have very little, if any, success. So I ask this. How come the source of my unhappiness and discomfort (my short size) doesnt get a special category in the DSM5, like gender dysphoria does. More particularly, why doesnt the dysphoria people feel about the multitude of other characteristics they're unhappy with not get a mention in the DSM5 (small breasted woman dysphoria, bad acne dysphoria, speaking with a lisp dysphoria). Seems to me that there's a lot more politics at play here than we care to admit.

[@M00NCHLDRN]

they get to choose whether to suffer with gender dysphoria for the rest of their life or reduce the amount of dysphoria they feel by transitioning. if someone feels like a woman, they are a woman, not a man. what you are describing here are insecurities, that both cis and trans people have. however, gender dysphoria is not only tied to appearance, but to the way other people and society as a whole perceives you. I'm a 4'11 trans man and my height bothered me even before i realized i was trans, but now that i know, a new layer of discomfort has been added on top of my insecurity - "height dysphoria", which stems from the fact that being short is a trait typical for women, and when people see me, a short person with other secondary sex characteristics of a woman, they go "ah, woman", even though i'm not one. however, if you ever felt insecure about your height *because* it's associated with women, that is what gender dysphoria feels like. if you feel insecure about something typical for the gender you identify as, we could call it gender dysphoria as well. you've named some really good examples of gender dysphoria in cis people - short men, women with small chests, men with wide hips and so on. even cis people do gender affirming things to make themselves feel more comfortable in their body and to further affirm their gender (chest implants, working out to get the body shape typical for your gender, you name it.) as for why we need gender dysphoria in the DSM-5? well, if you want to medically transition, you need the gender dysphoria diagnosis. if we lived in a world where you wouldn't need the diagnosis and could just medically transition after signing an informed consent form, then yes, the diagnosis wouldn't be needed anymore.

[@claudeme7100]

@@M00NCHLDRN You say: "they get to choose whether to suffer with gender dysphoria for the rest of their life or reduce the amount of dysphoria they feel by transitioning" My reply: Exactly, but people with "short person dysphoria" don't get to choose whether to suffer with the source of their unhappiness. They can't transition from it, they're stuck with it, unlike gender dysphoria which has options. But notwithstanding this the popular culture is conditioning us to think that so called "gender dysphoria" is this special category which is somehow more tragic and more hurtful, which frankly I don't see any evidence for. You say: "if someone feels like a woman, they are a woman, not a man. what you are describing here are insecurities, that both cis and trans people have. however, gender dysphoria is not only tied to appearance, but to the way other people and society as a whole perceives you." My reply: See, this is one of the many reasons why people rightly reject your claims about gender dysphoria. There is a physical reality out there that you can't just simply wish away and expect the physical world to conform to. Im 5'4 and no matter how much I tell myself and the world that Im really 6 foot, it won't change that. You say: "what you are describing here are insecurities, that both cis and trans people have. however, gender dysphoria is not only tied to appearance, but to the way other people and society as a whole perceives you". My reply: See, here you are trying to tell us that the source of your unhappiness is somehow "special" and more tragic and hurtful then the source of unhappiness that the rest of us feel about the physical reality of our being, and it's not. You're hurt is not special and just as likely to be about your insecurities as my unhappiness is about my height, which is also tied to the way other people and society as a whole perceive short men. You say: I'm a 4'11 trans man and my height bothered me even before i realized i was trans, but now that i know, a new layer of discomfort has been added on top of my insecurity .... My reply: I didn't say that we're limited to just one attribute that makes us unhappy. Many of us are deeply unhappy about many things about ourselves. Many short people also have "physically ugly dysphoria" or "physically, not particularly attractive dysphoria". Im average looking but in my younger years when I couldn't get women I used to get very depressed that I wasn't handsome. It occupied a lot of my thoughts then, as it does many people and it has zero to do with a sense of "insecurity" and a lot to do with wanting the benefits that come with being good looking. As for the rest of your post on this point I must admit I didn't entirely follow it. But I did note a fundamental contradiction. You say at the start that "if someone feels like a woman, they are a woman" and yet at the end of your post you bemoan the fact that society attributes your shortness to a typical woman's characteristic "even though i'm not one". See, this is what gender theory does. It deliberately remains vague about what gender actually is so that it can vacillate between denying the reality of our physical sex and relying on the reality of our physical sex depending on what stage of the discussion its suites the "gender advocate" to use. And this brings me to the fundamental problem with gender theory. We don't need it. I have no doubt that much of the unhappiness (dysphoria) people feel about their physical characteristics is due to the standards that society imposes on people about what a real woman and what a real man is. But by the 90s we, as a society, were well on our way to breaking down those social norms and allowing people to be and behave as they wanted to be and behave, regardless of their sex. You're a man who prefers to wear dresses, than be a man who prefers to wear dresses. But then gender theory came along and decided that it would approach the problem differently. Deny the reality of our sex all together and replace it with a vague, imprecise term, "gender", so if the ruler says I'm 5'4, I can just simply change it for a ruler that says I'm 6ft. But it doesn't work and we all know in our hearts that it doesn't work. And what's worse is gender theory has been a retrograde step. As I say, we as a society were well on our way to accepting that people should be allowed to live their own lives, as they wish to live them free of social stereotypes but now "gender activists" have tied that objective to a requirement to believe that our sex differences are just a social construct. Understandably that has alienated many people who would otherwise be allies and thank god for the people who rightly refuse to accept this dogma since it's patently untrue. So I say, we urgently need to go back to and build on the winning trajectory we were on in the 90s. The human race fundamentally consists of two sexes and 8 billion individuals. Note I use the word 'sex" rather than "gender" because the term gender is a grammatical term that has no place here. You say: "as for why we need gender dysphoria in the DSM-5? well, if you want to medically transition, you need the gender dysphoria diagnosis". My reply: The problem is its given rise to a belief that "gender dysphoria" is something more than it really is and given rise to a dogma that has no basis in reality and in my opinion generally harmful to people who already have enough heartache on their plates.

[@claudeme7100]

@@koffiecake You have no idea what I went through so stop telling me what you went through was worse because I don't accept it. And I do know someone who was so traumatised by his small man's dysphoria that he was always depressed and had episodes of being suicidal, so please have some empathy.

[@claudeme7100]

@@koffiecake I'm not mocking you and nothing I said was making fun of suicide, but I dont accept that what you went through is worse than what many many people go through about so many other different things about there physical form.

[@claudeme7100]

@@koffiecake We will just have to disagree Im afraid.

[@artistic_chips]

is it normal for dysphoria to cause su1c1d4l ideation? because everytime i think about it, it leads to "maybe if i --- myself, i'll reincarniate to being MY gender this time!" or just me? i dunno but i think about it a lot it makes me feel very shitty :/

[@victoriaschneider7310]

I hope you are feeling better and that you were able to pass those thoughts. You are strong and you can do this. Do not give up on life.

[@DivineZenkai]

Im low-key confused cause i was born male and i feel male now but recently after seeing a post about how people are closeted trans i keep wondering on if im a girl and now i hyper analyze everything i do and try to see if its masculine or feminine

[@_solarshade_]

I have these random thought of like “yeah I could be a guy” and “I want to be a man it would be so much easier” but I feel uncomfortable being called anything over then she/her also I don’t like my feminine body and I would prefer be a man but then there times where I think “no no I am female I was born like this” and then there’s times I just ignore my gender and I don’t even care. I thought i was gender fluid for a bit but it doesn’t sit right :/ anyone know what it could be? Edit: this is the easiest way for me to put this in words so some things aren’t perfect

[@agentshadow4460]

That is exactly how I feel too. I think the only way to figure this out, is to go see a therapist that specializes with gender disphoria.

[@_solarshade_]

@Agent Shadow I’m glad I’m not the only one 😅 but yeah seeing a therapist would probably help thanks!

[@melissavezzoli2554]

hi, I always feel like I'm faking it cause I don't feel so bad about how my body is now even if I want to have top surgery, I'm too scared that the doctors will say that I can't have it since I don't have enough body dysphoria. I haven't came out yet to my parents since I don't know how I feel and I don't think they would understand. I'd appreciate you answering me with your own experience and what I should do, thanks.

[@melissavezzoli2554]

I also don't feel completely male or agender, I identify as demiboy

[@taranhartell2459]

Don't worry, dysphoria comes in different levels. Personally, due to trauma I'm not really aware of my body because i shut it out, most of the time, and then my physical dysphoria is quite low (my social dysphoria however stays pretty bad) But when I'm reminded of the fact that i have a female body ( I'm ftm) Then it suddenly flashes up. It's a wrong stigma that you actually HAVE to hate your body in order to be trans. A feeling of discomfort of the general knowledge that this isn't your body should be enough in my opinion. On bad days i still don't want to kill myself because i have chesticles or cry my eyes out because my hips are too big, I do feel bad about it and wish I could change it. ut that isn't to say that you can't have those feelings so heavily. I personally believe dysphoria comes on a spectrum and not everyone has it as heavily as others or in the same places. hope this is a bit clear and that it maybe be able to help you a bit

[@artgamer431]

I feel the same. I don’t know what to do.

[@robinavarin3693]

I also feel the same about not being sure if I'm dysphoric enough because I just recently figured out I'm non-binary even though I've disliked my bobs for a long time and I did have some issues with being feminine as a kid. It's a bit on and off for me and I only really had the time and information to really think about things. For me, I'm still uncertain but I have considered the idea of gender dysphoria. I do experience it at mild levels and specific situations like: wearing masculine clothes, growing out my hair after having it short for so long, and smelling makeup or something that smells like it on myself. And even then it's usually some intense dissociation and disconnect between me and my body or in the case of makeup, the smell's origin (being me). My relationship with my chesticles is better understood like this: my chesticles is like that one classmate I cannot stand because their existence makes things inconvenient for me. I find them generally annoying to be around and the efforts I made to forget theyre there usually fails. I dont feel a strong desire to never see them permanently (intrepret that as you will) but if I had the opportunity to, I will. At the very least I tolerate their presence until it becomes inconvenient to me because of something they did. But I cant do anything about the fact that I have to be in the same classroom as them everyday and I probably have just gotten used to it, but lately some things they do make me want to commit a crime. I hope that helps :D

[@vhawk1951kl]

body dysphoria means nothing more and nothing less than not liking your or a body and since the one you have is the only one you will ever get , you might as Ewell get used to it. From the moment you were born or first drew breath you embarked upon a process identical in all possible respects to either jumping or being pushed from a great height with only one possible outcome and it does seem a more than a little foolish to concern yourself with the trivial and incidental reactions of your functions on the way down unless of course you have a note from your mummy stating that diddums is excused gravity.

[@hobeferris7677]

I am still in the process of having a gender identity crisis for nearly a year now. on top of this, i have multiple mental disorders. The sad thing is that i'm raised by a family of homophobes, and i dont have any actual friends so for the past 10 months, i spend hours in my room alone, isolated, and depressed, feeling as though i need to take all matters into my own hands and essentially challenge the entire world all by myself. the nights in vero over the summer were the absolute worst. i remember going out on the beach at 3 AM and being the only person on the whole beach, contemplating whether or not i wanted to even live anymore. i got sexually harassed a few days before this whole thing started and i still cry for hours over it.

[@ItsAstie]

It feels awful, like torture, I can distract myself but it gets so much worse at night.

[@bigbrainalien3403]

I can’t tell if I’m struggling with Gender Dysphoria. A few months ago, i identified and came out as bigender (2 genders) where i identiyf as both male and female. Fortunately I didn’t struggle with this transition which now thinking back makes me feel like I’m overanalysing and making things up (which is the general idea I get from my fam). Now I’ve been trying to change my appearance and every so often I look in the mirror and things feel off but it feels good at other times. I sometimes feel like I’m too female appearing or to male. Its very confusing. Idk if this counts as dysphoria though

[@lornocford6482]

Sounds like exploring your own style.

[@vhawk1951kl]

Why not struggle with mortality dysphoria- not liking the fact that you must(for yourself) be destroyed forever? Does that not put not liking other facts(dysphoria) into perspective? Any kind of dysphoria or anything beginning with dys-it only means bad as in dyslexia or not liking as in the opposite of euphoria or dysphoria, is not a medical condition of any sort but just another of the endless silly little labels that men stick on the unknown to confuse themselves even further. Gender - actually the word is*Sex* dysphoria means neither more nor less that diddums doesn't like something to do with his or her sex-there is no magic in the word dysphoria which only means not liking. Face facts sunshine you are*Never* going to like everything so some sort of dysphoria is the fate of all slaves of their functions and one in particular. So diddums does not like something, so tf what?

[@cristinacindy7520]

This video almost made me cry because it pined pointed exactly how I feel. I suffered from deep depression when I was going through puberty. I even felt suicidal because I was Unhappy with myself and how I was born. I hated being a boy since I was 4 or 5 I don't remember exactly when. But as I transition I still get Gender Dysphoria and I am still unhappy with how I was born. I often cry and feel sad how unfair it was that I was never asked what sex ir gender I wanted to be before I was born. My dysphoria hurts a lot inside. Surgeries have helped but not yet cured my gender dysphoria. I feel sorry for myself sometimes because of how much I have suffered my entire life.

[@gennymikel4296]

Dont hang on to the past. My mother was an abusive monster and it continued with my ex, but now I live alone by choice and when I go out I traditionally wear high heels, chokers, fancy skirts and blouses and my appearance screams Goth Girl. The losers are behind me. Let the past fade into the fog. It cant come back.

[@rag1242]

I am comfortable with being a guy, but I am *extremely* curious as to what living as a girl feels like, and I'm not sure when it started, whether it was when my parents told me they didn't think I was gonna be a guy at birth, or watching an ITSV documentary where the commentator said "how would you feel if a different version of you was walking around, doing the exact same things you are, but was different, and all of a sudden, you cross paths" any comments?

[@lornocford6482]

Sounds like you're imaginative and could be part of your empathy.

[@datatalks4629]

Tiffany Jones’ 2023 book argues one needs to consider not just one’s experience of gender dysphorias which are common beyond trans communities especially for girls, but also one’s experiences of gender euphorias - pleasure in the new identity, or other identities (or community connection, institutional inclusion and other factors). library.oapen.org/bitstream/handle/20.500.12657/61860/1/978-3-031-23756-0.pdf

[@leatherguru8904]

So the naming convention was changed to continue being touchy-feely.

[@dragonslayer101]

I just want to state that gender dysohiora is no longer considered a mental disorder in the dsm-5 because it does not fit in all of the criteria that is considered a disorder. However, it is a psychological condition which may have some correlation within the hypothalamus where one's gender congruence may reside. Edit: Also cisgender individuals (people who identify with the gender they were assigned at birth.) Can have gender dysphoria as well, not just transgender individuals, (peoples whose gender identity does nor correlate with their gender assigned at birth.) This is usually manifested by social or cultural conditions pressured onto individuals to fit those standards encouraged to them. For example a masculine man may feel uncomfortable wearing a dress or any feminine wear and may associate that with womanhood that discomfort may be gender dysphoria or toxic masculinity. A woman can feel uncomfortable if she grows noticeable facial hair making her appear more masculine, this may cause gender dysphoria due to the association of facial hair to manhood.

[@GoatedEazyE]

I am having a hard time figuring out my gender it's really hard to deal with ;-;

[@youarehere7284]

Work on loving yourself without labels, without panic, and you will find your true self. Be calm and seek self-improvement in a way that is completely non-gendered: Who is the best human you can be? Aren't you equally as deserving of love as any other person? Find that, and you will find your answer. I recommend the book- The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching: Transforming Suffering into Peace, Joy, and Liberation by Thich Nhat Hanh. Wishing you peace-

[@sapiera0917]

While this condition can be treated back to normalcy, today's internet generation has given dysphorics a voice and an audience. Plus, the latest medical and surgical technology has given these patients the option to choose wether to fully transform or not. A generation ago, the dysphorics did not have this luxury. They had to suppress these emotions for the sake of not being labelled by society as outcasts. This generation is lucky thanks to modern technology.

[@mve6182]

The term "assigned gender" is misleading and incorrect, because it implies that someone decides what you are, a boy or a girl. This is false. Nobody decides whether you are a male or a female, because you are simple born as such. If you are born as a male or female, this is not assigned, but simply a fact. A man who feels like a woman is not a woman, but a man who feels like a woman. He/she can make the personal decision to go through life as a woman, which is fine, but that still doesn't change the facts. Off course I will respect peoples choices and I will respect the desire to be treated like a woman (so no trans-phobia!).

[@hydraxon6940]

I agree with every word you typed out. This stuff was invented by guys like "John money" in the 1920s and its in full effect now. I will never stop speaking out against this, I lost a friend to this "dysphoria" bulls. She turned from a cheerful funny girl into a depressed mangirl obsessed with her jawline. In only a half year. I met a few trans on the internet, one in their 30s. And I don't wanna encourage people to become like them. The 30 year old trans told me: "I am a lesbian. I am a trans woman but I am attracted to lesbians." He didn't want to realize that lesbians are attracted to other women, and not to whatever he is. Of course, I met him in a videogame, which he plays all day, every day. Sad..

[@1c0nic_player]

@@hydraxon6940 the original comment was pretty chill and then u just resaid the original comment but made it transphobic :( i kinda disagree with both tho. people who transition at least are technically the other gender, but were just born male/female. also have you seen the new survivor season? theres a guy on there who i would have never guessed was trans if he didnt say. also u said ur friend was a "depressed mangirl", so even if you dont agree or understand the reason why, can you at least accept them and not misgender them versus most likely contributing to the depression? "whatever he is" *she. you can be lesbian and attracted to a trans woman, and you can be gay and attracted to a trans woman, and you can be straight and attracted to a trans person of the opposite gender.

[@remi3936]

Dude, I think you are mixing up the terms “gender” and “sex.” Male and female are terms used to describe the XX and XY pairings of chromosomes. This will determine, for example, what private parts you are born with or will develop later in life. Gender is the social construct build around each sex. So, if you were born as a male, your assigned gender at birth would be that which relates to your sex, so in this case, your AGB would be that of a man. Now, you cannot change your sex, but you can change your gender. Because, again, gender is a social construct, and sex is your chromosomes. You sound pretty accepting towards trans people, so don’t feel too bad about not knowing the difference. Many don’t.

[@mve6182]

@@remi3936 After birth, can the doctor do anything other than determine the child's sex? I believe not. So when the doctor concludes the child is a boy or a girl, does the doctor refer to their gender or sex? I'm pretty sure it is the latter. So the term "assigned gender" is false, no gender is assigned after birth.

[@remi3936]

@@mve6182 but… a gender is assigned. In the womb, when a child is developing, they are either a male or a female. There is no gender assigned to them. When they are born, they get assigned a gender that correlates with their sex. If you are a male, you will be seen as a boy. Your parents will pick out clothes they think is fit for a boy to wear. People will refer to you as he/him. If a child experiences gender dysphoria, they can choose to deviate from their assigned gender at birth, aka, the gender that correlates with their sex. So if that boy, no longer feels like a boy, he can change his gender. But his sex will remain the same. Gender can change, sex cannot.

[@ollypebble]

I wish this discussion had explored beyond the binary. gnc individuals are included; they can and do have dysphoria as well.

[@skr8choppas]

smh my head im not diagnosed but im 714727692728268247727% sure i have it

[@harpiesnest7752]

I'm so happy for Bob 👏🏻

[@themoon2988]

I have visited doctor in age 12 almost when reached adolesnce period but was just words for advice while I started feel my calamity of difference with the physical and emotional changes. It was very hard experince for me!

[@hydraxon6940]

How are you doing now?

[@themoon2988]

@@hydraxon6940 Secretive life alone, Only God with me.

[@hydraxon6940]

@@themoon2988 Not a bad choice, especially in these times. Stay safe fren, and don't do stupid shit.

[@themoon2988]

@@hydraxon6940 No dear, I just wait my real lover who deserve to share me the soul and body.

[@hydraxon6940]

@@themoon2988 Thats romantic AF

[@SarahJean5891]

I think it's a great video, but one critique... If Bob is a transgender female, shouldn't she be referred to as she at the end of the video instead of "he"? Just an observation. If we're trying to educate people, and we get upset when we aren't gendered correctly, we should be cognizant of that when trying to educate the rest of the world about this topic. Other than that I thought it was very informative and I appreciate the time that went in to making this video. I think ultimately, at the end of the day, this will hep a lot of people find themselves. Thank you.

[@CoolKaius]

Gender dsyphoria IS NOT a disorder. Dysphoria is a fancy word for discomfort. Being uncomfortable with yourself is something I think most people can relate to on some level.

[@vhawk1951kl]

Now now you are going to spoil all the mad Nancy boy's' fun if you go around telling the truth like that.

[@marieheenan6817]

Does anyone know the ratio between men wanting to be woman and women wanting to be men? I know a woman who had surgery to become a man. I am curious about the ratios.?

[@theprehistoricpoet]

A very good point! I suppose I have spoken to both, I have written poetry on trans & dysphoria, also on other gender & orientation issues, I do try and keep to gender neutral terminology, allowing people to interpret my poem as referring to them. Regards David 🦖🦋

[@theotherway1639]

The book "30 Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels does a great job addressing depression.

[@IsaacX18]

Misused terms througout the video

[@uglyrat705]

I just watched a puberty video about male puberty they banned puberty blockers in the uk I really want to die so bad rn

[@hopesy12u4]

Calm down. Wait till you’re 20, before doing anything you can’t undo. Remember: enjoying ‘feminine’ things as a man, does not mean you should be a woman. Make-up and heels were chad-level masculine 400 years ago. If you are not physically intersex, you don’t need to transition. Being Thoughtful, quiet, shy, anxious, or loud, impulsive, aggressive, competitive --are neither feminine nor masculine. They are human traits. Just because u are surrounded by assholes who think you are less ‘of a man’ or an ‘inferior woman’, doesn’t mean u r one

[@GalaxyGal-]

Sending love. I started transitioning at 19 and am starting to pass. You're gonna be okay.

[@aspiknf]

Tavistock Clinic was shit anyway, they didn't know how to really do medicine.

[@aquachicken9297]

I have a friend who is going through this, and I don't know how I can support/help them... I don't have this myself, so I can't relate. This is why I'm asking if you people have some good advice... Plz help

[@arturo165]

Tell your friend to get professional psychiatric help

[@rynnaissance2480]

@@arturo165 Unfortunately most people can't. Doing so would require coming out which a lot of us can't do because we could literally get our asses beat

[@rynnaissance2480]

The best thing you can do is make sure you're using their correct name and pronouns and encourage others to do so as well. Stand up for them when you can and be there for them when they're feeling dysphoric.

[@aquachicken9297]

@@rynnaissance2480 Thank you for the advice :)

[@blackriver2531]

Yo it's not called crossdressing if you're transgender. That's bigoted.

[@dudeman3]

maybe she's talking about before diagnosis

[@aspiknf]

Lol you extreme lefties like to call everyone a 'bigot', she may have made a mistake, chill out. You really are an angry river.

[@amygriffith8224]

Learning about the LGBTQ+ community and gender dysphoria has changed my life, since ive found out im trans ftm and bi, even though im not diagnosed in any way, im 99% certain i have gender dysphoria, because for the longest time ive never wanted to do anything for no particular reason, i never really pointed it to gender dysphoria or anything like that, but i was so confused, now im pretty sure my questions are answered. I came out to my parents, thier highly supportive, but still Learning about the community, i decided to give them time to learn more before i keep telling them to call me a boy and stuff.

[@You-wp4ic]

So your self diagnosing yourself? Listen bud think about the decision and see both sides of the lgbtq rabbit hole.

[@amygriffith8224]

​@@You-wp4ic Sorry for the late reply, but no I didn't self diagnose, I was saying I was 99% sure, sorry if my comment confused you.

[@vhawk1951kl]

For what does "LGBTQ+" stand -what does it mean - is it some sort of sports car?

[@edvincalderonjr]

Wonder if this is due to a chemical imbalance. Seems awfully strange for people to behave in such a manner.

[@danielcarlsen9228]

Some studies have pointed towards a neurostructural cause.

[@mikesmith6594]

Don't think I have gender dysphoria but I do however think I am sometimes confused on what gender I'm attracted too .

[@theprehistoricpoet]

Possibly bi sexual 🤔

[@zeng58]

I’m facing this right now. I feel mentally a female. It finally came up to me hidings it for so long

[@Kapplerartbloomingdale]

My doctor just diagnosed me.❤

[@daniellejoylucido6464]

I view health care including mental health care mainly as a means of fulfilling patients’ desires, whatever those are. :(

[@SM-hf4vz]

So the diagnostic term was changed respectfully and acurately to "dysphoria", while autistic and Adhd people still have to endure to be labelled "disordered"..... 🤔

[@Mercy1-]

Sigh I want to know if this can be prevented by eating healthy yes or no sigh

[@Satera1]

lol no

[@eternal-z2h]

No it can't

[@Mercy1-]

@@eternal-z2h sad so why do people hate transgender people if they were born like that?

[@eternal-z2h]

@@Mercy1- idk

[@PatientPerspective]

I know gender (not sex as in, say, anerexia) dysphoria is an actual condition. But why use "assigned at birth" and not "biological sex?" One reason GD has a lot of stigma from conservs is because the new terms are unnecessary and highly politicized.

[@fabiospasiano9885]

Even though gender dysphoria is derived from the assignment of gender at birth we should still raise our children as their biological sex until they can choose their identity. Raising children without a gender is in my opinion very unhealthy as the child won’t have any foundation to socialise with people that have one gender or another, not talking about how they won’t have an actual foundation of life expectancy and development of the personality, as they don’t know what it means to be a boy or a girl, it will make it only harder for them to choose. Raise your child as a boy if he’s a boy or as a girl if she’s a girl, if they don’t feel comfortable with it then they’ll be able to change, just don’t tell them they are stuck with their gender identity if they tell you about their uncomfortableness.

[@yeeeety6730]

Oh this is very well said! As someone recently diagnosed with dysphoria so young myself, I couldn’t imagine how difficult it would have been to recognize my condition if I wasn’t raised with gender roles.

[@kriskabin]

A wise Native American philosophy: Let your children SHOW YOU who they are. Anotherwords, be careful about assuming who your children are, & FORCING YOUR dreams of who they should be on them. My dad did this with me & it drove a bitter & resentful wedge between us. Children DO NOT come into this world as blank slates.

[@joshescobar6043]

✔️

[@vneger2377]

What I don't understand is why is Body Dysphoria (anorexia, bigorexia etc.) treated by "re-connecting" the image that one has in their head with the biological reality of their body, while Gender Dysphoria is treated only by transitioning therapies wich are expensive and unhealthy. I don't mean to sound like a bigot, sorry if someone reading this might feel offended, I just have a legitimate question, I hope that someone will answer me.

[@kyu4662]

because CBT (used to treat eating disorders etc.) doesnt work for people with gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria is more than just a mental thing, its physical. Only a physical change can "treat" it (more like reducing symptoms).

[@vneger2377]

@@kyu4662 can you find me a paper that says that? By googling I found that CBT can indeed cure or at least alleviete GD.

[@aspiknf]

Don't worry, you ain't a bigot. Those morons on the extreme left who just shout 'bigot' all the time when people are just asking genuine and valid questions should just shut the hell up. Your question was fine buddy, you ain't a bigot.

[@beefrx]

i just wanted to know what gender dysphoria is

[@ReoAard]

Relate to the subject : "(...) The report highlights a profound lack of evidence and medical consensus about the best approach to treating gender dysphoria in children. Yet the NHS’s specialist Gender Identity Development Service (GIDS) takes a child’s expressed gender identity as the starting point for treatment. This “affirmative approach” leaves little space for exploration of the potential relationship between their dysphoria and neurodiversity or psychosocial needs, including those arising from childhood trauma or internalised hostility to same-sex attraction. GIDS has compounded this lack of evidence with its own failure to track patient outcomes. - Young people’s gender identity can remain in flux until their mid-20s, but there is a lack of data on regret - As referrals to GIDS have increased, capacity has not kept up, meaning that children face unacceptably long waits for care. Also, it has been applying the affirmative model in a looser form than in the Netherlands, where it was conceived, and to a patient group whose characteristics have changed dramatically from those for whom it was developed - teenage girls, whose gender dysphoria has manifested in adolescence rather than in early childhood. The majority of young people now referred to GIDS have other complex mental health issues or neurodiversity, but GIDS has failed to assess these needs in the round. (...) " (Source : The Guardian dot com).

[@charmoon]

How is this different from schizophrenia? and why in dysphoria the body has a problem and it is recomended to change it, but in schizo the mind is the one with a problem?

[@counselorguy5481]

@@koffiecake Most schizophrenic people are delusional, not necessarily hallucinatory types. Some have both, the negative symptoms are usually the most challenging to treat.

[@zettovii1367]

Although I can understand the extent that people may not always be comfortable with how they look, while also possibly having preferences that doesnt conform to the standard gender roles.... What I dont understand is the need to go so far as identify themselves as the opposite gender. Like, there is the desire to change your look, the preference to behave a certain way, but then it's another thing to go so far as changing the language and lable of things to support the idea that one isnt just a "feminine man" or "masculine woman", but rather full on *is* the opposite gender. Why go that far?

[@rynnaissance2480]

For me, being called a woman in general makes me incredibly uncomfortable. I know it's possible I could dress like anything else and just be a woman, but even being called a woman in any shape or form makes me uncomfortable. And it's the same for a lot of trans people

[@zettovii1367]

@@rynnaissance2480 Yea, but why? What about the pronouns makes you feel different?

[@rynnaissance2480]

@@zettovii1367 Frankly, I don't know. They just do.

[@zettovii1367]

@@rynnaissance2480 Could it have something to do with what either gender means to you?

[@rynnaissance2480]

@@zettovii1367 No, I don't think so. Again, I have no clue and frankly the reason doesn't matter too much to me. The only thing that matters is the fact that it is. No matter the reason, I still feel uncomfortable being called or seen as female. And feel much more comfortable being neither gender. Just existing, genderless.

[@sonuroy-xp8ff]

I am a girlish gay boy. I have gender disphoriya. I am trapped in a wrong body. I want to be a girl.😢😢😢

[@hayloe9373]

You are valid

[@sonuroy-xp8ff]

@@hayloe9373 thanks

[@fingersinyourass9527]

Btw being girlish doesn't mean shit its a personality wait until you're 20 and mentally mature because it's a life changing decision

[@aspiknf]

@@fingersinyourass9527 Well said

[@aspiknf]

@@hayloe9373 I'm sick of this 'you are valid' bullshit. Everybody is valid, I'm tired of hearing this lefty far left liberal stuff i.e 'you are valid'. Yeah yeah yeah I get it, homophobia is wrong, biphobia is wrong, transphobia is wrong. But why the heck does everybody start off with the annoying ass line "You are valid" every single fucking time dammit! Like that John Quinones show WWYD, the girl immediately goes "You are valid" like we get it!

[@endieemendii1933]

The music is too loud making it hard to hear what you're saying

[@JadetheGoober]

So is race dysphoria a thing because *man*

[@silver4831]

Clearly, it isn't.

[@JadetheGoober]

Asking a variety of autistic persons of color; more often than not they’ll tell you they’ve experienced a sensation of not understanding the concept of race therefore being “raceless” almost like a dysphoria.

[@hopesy12u4]

Might be, at this rate.

[@yonthepersonwhodraws]

Yea...there is people that wish they was this race

[@1c0nic_player]

@@yonthepersonwhodraws there was somebody who was transracial and got a bunch of plastic surgeries because they were a kpop stan humanity is smart

[@oliverreynolds1558]

im pretty sure i have this should i tell my doctor or therapist?

[@eternal-z2h]

Yup

[@arturo165]

Yass

[@user-bp9mz5pe9u]

Yes, well, in my case, my therapist is the one that brought the topic but yes

[@oliverreynolds1558]

@@user-bp9mz5pe9u actually just today i told my therapist lol

[@user-bp9mz5pe9u]

@@oliverreynolds1558 That's cool, what did they say about it?

[@mintisntfunny4427]

MALE OR FEMALE??? WHAT ABOUT HP LaserJet Pro 400 MFP M425 PCL 6.

[@aspiknf]

Well a printer can print all the colours of the rainbow.

[@splawshy3346]

Omg I support you and your pronouns 🤗 This is also a joke btw incase i scared you for some reason

[@hotbirkin973]

I have gender dysphoria for 2 year now and it really hard I just wish to get breast and all, and I always saying the same thing it’s so tiring.

[@rigzinbhutia7467]

King for a day,princess by dawn, King for a day,in a leather thong, King for a day,princess by dawn, Just waitt till all the guy get a load of me.

[@alexisa.2795]

GREEN DAYYYYY!! dang I love that song! King For A Day slaps

[@Frankie343]

I have this. I feel very alone. Good video.

[@jennylynn8314]

The fact that this went into the children is absolutely disgusting.

[@aspen-rose]

i am... pretty certain i have it. i have 5/6 of the characteristics and have had them since april at the earliest. i do understand that having symptoms is different from actually having gender dysphoria though...

[@vhawk1951kl]

You understand that dysphoria merely means dislike and *absolutely* nothing else? the word is Sex, gender is reserved for objects in languages where objects can be either male female or neuter, so for animals inc. humans, the word is *Sex* and as to that men (human beings come in two flavours or sexes; men or beings of the active sex or women or wombmen(men with wombs)n beings of the passive sex or females. No womb, not a female or woman, simple as that Not liking than or being dysphoric about that which is and cannot be different does seem just the tiniest bit pointless. mad Nancy boys that imagine themselves to be women or anything that they in fact are not had best ask themselves what they would do or have done had they been born a hundred years ago when none of the contemporary pandering to perverted self-indulgence was possible. However it is only a recently invented and thus temporary fad or fashion and fads and fashions come and go.

[@aspen-rose]

@@vhawk1951kl that comment is two years old ❤️

[@vhawk1951kl]

@@aspen-rose Shrug, so what? most of the whingeing wets will be dead by now?

[@acu5703]

I was self diagnosed my self with condition

[@haze4840248]

I can't wait till my consultation. I wonder how many genders they will give me to choose from

[@coolworx]

This is a cult.

[@noahnayem8532]

Why you gotta make my name look bad dude >:(

[@Imperfectio]

So, i need help. I hate my feminine voice and long hair, i hate that someone sees me As girl. I like he/him, or they/them. But i like my female body, sometimes. I am so confused. But when someone call me by my deadname, like Yeah its not comfy not my, but its not that bad. Ig What i am supposed to do? I am totaly lost.

[@donnagonzales6056]

First of all, ask yourself why do you hate your voice? Is it because it's too pitchy? Too hoarse? Too heavy? Too light? What makes you hate it so much And why do you hate your long hair? Does your voice or your hair reminds you of someone does it make you uncomfortable? There are tons of questions out there. If almost all of the answers are negative go over them again. Why are the answers negative what makes them not you, will changing your voice makes you feel better? Will changing your hair make you feel better? If the answers are positive then do what you gotta do If the answers are unsure then go over them again, will changing somepart or turning yourself will make you feel better? Coz the truth is, your insides and your personality is more important than physicality, as world that is full of self centered people, would it matter if you change yourself or not. Your loved ones will accept you whatever you choose, the people you try to please wouldn't.

[@hopesy12u4]

Calm down. Wait till you’re 20, before doing anything you can’t undo. Remember: enjoying ‘feminine’ things as a man, does not mean you should be a woman. Make-up and heels were chad-level masculine 400 years ago. If you are not physically intersex, you don’t need to transition. Being Thoughtful, quiet, shy, anxious, or loud, impulsive, aggressive, competitive --are neither feminine nor masculine. They are human traits. Just because u are surrounded by assholes who think you are less ‘of a man’ or an ‘inferior woman’, doesn’t mean u r one

[@whome6415]

I identify as a gender neutral avocado.

[@palmtrees9474]

I am a tree, palm tree. That's my gender

[@splawshy3346]

I identify as a soda can bottle

[@ZONE-fj8ly]

I use to play pretend as a pirate but thank god nobody recommend me for an eye removal or have my working legs be replaced with wooden ones.

[@natonaa9681]

I live in a country, where every noun has it's own form. Female, or male. There's also like one in between, so that makes me a little bit happier. Unfortunately there are male and female forms for verbs too. When you say for example "I ate dinner" you have to say it in a form. Male, or female. This time there is no in between! It's so frustrating. I don't feel as a female, nor a male and I hate both variants. (Don't know if I explained it well. If not, I'm so sorry.)

[@tstarr2399]

My son now thinks men can have periods thanks to all this damn confusion in the world

[@ѕтоие]

Cool

[@belphiespillow2268]

Your son's smart

[@alexisa.2795]

Biological men can’t have periods, as you know, but trans men do have periods.

[@alexisa.2795]

@Diamond Princess He should tell them that biological women have periods, not biological men, but trans men can since they are biologically women.

[@actuallynotbw]

But they can

[@lizzywinner2321]

What do you think would happen if gender roles did not exist

[@arturo165]

Dating would be very different.

[@1c0nic_player]

probably transgenderness also wouldnt but idk

[@gangsterghost7200]

This is Child abuse

[@ѕтоие]

How

[@alexisa.2795]

Here are the differences: Child abuse: pushing your kid to be of the opposite gender they were born as against their will to make them think they’re trans. Not child abuse: A child that experiences gender dysphoria and later tells they’re parents they’re trans and their parents help them through it. Big difference.

[@ZONE-fj8ly]

@@alexisa.2795 Here are the differences, Diseases like the Coronavirus can cause damages or death, but a person's gender hardly classified as a danger to human health since its not a virus, injury, condition or disability. This whole gender dysphoria is nothing but a psychological condition due to human perception based on social life.

[@tori4770]

@@ZONE-fj8ly are you educated on this subject? unless you are educated on it , have studied about it or you have faced gender dysphoria yourself , i am afraid whatever you say is just an opinion and a stupid one at that.

[@1c0nic_player]

@@ZONE-fj8ly maybe but that doesnt make it any less real. it was a thing during like roman times

[@Solaire_of_Astora13]

To date I still don't understand what gender is. I've researched and researched and no answer seems to satisfy me, at least not in a way that could make sense out of the trans identity. I used to be extremely supportive of these issues but now I'm not sure how to feel about it.

[@justacat165]

Gender is what you feel like on the inside/what you want to be referred as while sex is male and female

[@Solaire_of_Astora13]

@@justacat165 thank you, but that doesn't really answer my problem. What is the thing being felt in question? I guess it only makes sense to me if dysphoria is counted as the consequence of the "brain sex" not aligning with the body, though I don't understand where Non-binary people enter in this equation. It's a "live and let live" at the end I guess.

[@1c0nic_player]

@@kasperz123 well u can like somewhat change ur sex, but not all the way i dont think