Making friends in your 20s, dating & feeling lost

[@Akta]

Thank you so much for being here ❤I want to make sure that I create content that brings value into YOUR life so I'd love to get to know you better! ✨ If you've got the time, please could you fill out this survey? It shouldn't take too long and there's a little surprise at the end: hcm03u2p5h0.typeform.com/to/YSvmd943

[@PetterHughes]

3:28 "Stop taking life so seriously, and live life more serendipitously" Love that! Being lost in life is something I'm struggling with and working on

[@Akta]

Thank you so much, it’s my new motto!! I hope you enjoy wandering and exploring through this lost phase :)

[@Real_Matt]

As someone who did PTYA cohort 1 with you. Really good to see your growth because you seem like such a nice person.

[@Akta]

Thank you so much Matty 🥹

[@Youtubeu2869]

U r such a beautiful human inside n outside 😇

[@Akta]

Thank you so much Shaiza 🥹❤️

[@annaspeaks373]

Thanks for Q&A 🥰 I struggled a lot of making friends “purpose” and now I have friends because I am not looking for any. Actually doing youtube helps a lot because here I found lots of amazing friends ❤️

[@Akta]

This is honestly the way! When you stop looking, it comes and finds you ❤️

[@annaspeaks373]

@@AktaYeah, exactly❤️

[@ZensDojo]

I found your channel yesterday. Just wanted to say thank you for being you, and bringing your own story. I'm taking a similar path and I want to move away away from my career in engineering into full time Content Creation next year. Hoping to finally post my first video soon! Your content is so relatable and puts me at a sense of ease knowing that it is possible, and you're such a great example and inspiration. Keep up the amazing work!

[@Akta]

Thank you so much that is so unbelievably kind of you 🥹 that’s so exciting that you’ll be posting your first video!! Good luck with the journey, it’s a fun and crazy ride :) xxx

[@anomie1000]

loved this video, it was so helpful. I recently graduated uni and am starting my career feeling a anxious. My friendships are also changing so its going to be an interesting transition

[@Akta]

I’m so glad it helped and I hope you feel less anxious about your career and the transition you’re going through in life :)

[@MishalJKamdar]

Awesome. Keep up the good work 👍

[@ericlakota]

I want to thank you for making videos i personally find it hard to film my self

[@khadijaomer1261]

Now i watched many similar videos. But trust me i don't remember any of them. I only remembered yours. They've helped me a lot. Thanks for making your good content. Your calmness and acceptance of yourself is contagious.

[@Akta]

Wow thank you so much, I’m so glad they’ve stayed with you ❤️ it means a lot to me :)

[@shannontongg]

I loved this video, so relatable! Thank you for being so open with your responses 💕

[@Akta]

Thanks for watching Shannon 🤗

[@Yanisspiano]

Thank you for those insights Akta it was a wonder to learn from you!😊

[@Akta]

Thanks so much Yaniss! :)

[@jk22222sd]

9:15 I appreciate that comment you made on age. Coming from a nearly 27 year old guy without much dating experience, it is frustrating and difficult to meet people in real life. Age is just a number

[@Akta]

I’m glad it reassured you :)

[@agirldiary]

You speak about so valuable things. Thank you ❤

[@Akta]

Thank you so much ❤️

[@_shumba]

In a conversation a while ago, I expressed to someone that I desired a partner but didn't really have many friends. The person I was speaking to wisely responded by asking me, "How can you expect to have a girlfriend if you don't really have friends?" Since that conversation, I have worked on many traits that hindered me from developing healthy friendships and now find it easy to converse with the majority of people. I also read a really good book which was crucial in identifying errors that i couldn't see by myself. I think a lot of people need to figure out how to become a good friend before trying to get into relationships. Finding a partner should then become quite straightforward.

[@Akta]

What was that book? This is a really nice perspective to have, thank you for sharing :)

[@_shumba]

@@Akta "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. I was hesitant to buy the book at first because of the title but ultimately, it taught me to stop being selfish in conversation. I haven't finished the book but I've already seen a major difference.

[@Ari_diwan]

Thank you for replying to my comment, happy new year 🎆

[@Akta]

Of course! :) happy new year to you too lovely ❤️❤️

[@mystique2595]

when you say check in with yourself what are some ways you’d suggest going about that?

[@nirajshah8023]

This video confirms why this is my favourite you tube channel :) another great video Akta! I write a blog focusing on similar topics to you.

[@Akta]

Thank you soooo much Niraj that means a lot to me!! I’ll share your blog here in case anyone wants to read: niraj.home.blog/

[@VN-qm1qy]

What to do when you are alone in your life I mean by spiritually or by believing in God you can find the piece but when you realise that no one is with you , you have been alone in your university or school . Forget about any partner you don't even have a friend. Then how could someone spend a better time. Loving your content ❤️

[@Akta]

Think of it as phases of your life that come and go like the moon. So grateful you love my content :)

[@alanr.4812]

Love your content. What's the camera? Sony? Canon?

[@Akta]

Thanks so much Alan :) Sony! My gear is all listed here: www.aktavibes.com/gear

[@Isaiah11823]

❤️❤️❤️

[@Akta]

❤️❤️❤️

[@kalki-13]

Your energy is like darshan. 🕉

[@Akta]

Thank you :)

[@kalki-13]

@@Akta Do you do shadow work?

[@heyadora6348]

I‘m 19 and sad

[@Akta]

Sending love and light ✨ hope you have someone you can speak to

[@heyadora6348]

@@Akta omg thank you sm for your comment! I‘ve watched some videos of yours and I found them really helpfull because you are so open with your emotions and thoughts which is very brave and beautiful. It‘s so good when people show their vulnerability because that’s when other people dare to also Open up and Not put on a mask (like on social media). So Yeah I just wanna appreciate you for this. 🥲

[@Akta]

@@heyadora6348 you are so sweet ❤ thank you so much for saying this 🥹

[@Dalapuppy]

I love England ❤

[@Akta]

Aw I’m so glad :) there’s some really nice places here :)

[@fallenstar358]

Hello Akta I love you let's be friends

[@Akta]

❤️❤️ so grateful you’re part of this community :)

[@nc08aaa]

Feel like you have lost weight! Great video! 😁

[@Akta]

I think it’s probably the top I’m wearing, I don’t usually wear much colour 😂 thank you so much I’m glad you enjoyed it :)

[@Sarah-pw9bb]

Purpose is just being alive? I think you need to rethink this

[@hansanaik3835]

Being a pretty woman in India is very hard. All girls and women get touched by creepy men in public places but pretty women have a much harder time. They are stared at, stalked, threatened by men of all ages. Men even spread rumors about pretty women just so that it makes it harder for the women to find husbands and that gives them better chances of getting these women. Some pretty women are scared to even go out by themselves. I knew a girl whose mother would go with her to college and stay with her till she entered the classroom. This is why they have women's only compartments in trains, women's only schools and colleges and child marriages (although illegal now it still happens). It is worse in South India because there women have to not only deal with extreme harassment from men but also face jealousy from other women.

[@Akta]

Hey Hansa, I can’t even imagine how tough that would be. I’ve only visited India once for a very brief trip and I remember how uncomfortable I felt when being looked at - I figured it was also because I wasn’t a local though. I wonder what needs to happen for that to change and I wonder how it varies across different parts of India

[@theking8347]

You can't meet people in real life anymore. There are no places outside of work and home where people can hang out without spending money.

[@Akta]

I think that’s why apps have opened up the possibilities though, although maybe a bit too much that it’s overwhelming

[@theking8347]

@@Akta Apps cost money though.

[@Akta]

@@theking8347 all of the dating apps I know people use e.g. Hinge are free unless you want to pay for extra features