Making peace with egg donation | my final round of IVF over 40

Final episode of a three part series where I share my experience of IVF "egg farming" and how I'm finally at peace with using donor eggs to start my family.
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Egg "Farming" Episode 1: • Egg “Farming” | IVF ov...
Egg "Farming" Episode 2: • Second "egg farming" c...
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[@geemarrero1485]

You are so brave. I just started my IVF process and I am over 40. Thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate it

[@lauraellerman9443]

Good luck and God speed 🙏 with your journey and with donor eggs ❤ … sometimes the journey itself was the “reason why” all along, I know the Mom I would have been 5-years ago when I started trying is not the same Mom I will be when my time finally comes . There’s just so much that I don’t understand about my own infertility struggle, I think I never will, but I have found some peace in the grand lesson of patience for both myself and for others that this experience has given me, as well as a new foundation built on the back of a surely formed and well-toned perseverance muscle … something that just can’t be taught.

[@brittneyjonvlogs]

Yes, exactly. Stories like these highlight how strong women are - well toned perseverance muscle indeed!

[@jennylundphotography]

"Statistics don't tell you how you're gonna feel.." Spot on.

[@nubuckshu]

Thank you for sharing for your experience. I wish for the best in your journey to motherhood. I too am 43 and I’ve completed three failed cycles. I’m in the process of my fourth. Our diagnosis is female and male infertility. It doesn’t stop us from wanting a family of our own,but if this cycle fails, it will be our last attempt and we will not go the donor route. We won’t adopt either. Good luck to you and I hope to see some good news soon.

[@asadis81]

Amazing. I am 43 too (in 2 weeks) and have completed 3 failed cycles, and am in the process of my fourth cycle. I am on a "mini-IVF" protocol due to diminished ovarian reserve. Round 1: The stimulation didn't work. Round 2: One aneuploid blastocyst Round 3: Two immature eggs Round 4: In progress... Just hoping for 1 golden egg🤞 Brittney, thank you so much for sharing your experience. At some point you said "I felt like I know what I'm doing this time", it hit close to home. Every round I feel like I got the hang of it, and then I'm hit with a different curve ball than the round before. @brittneyjonvlogs and @nubuckshu, I wish you both all the strength in your journey.

[@nubuckshu]

@@asadis81 thank you for sharing yours. Good luck to you too. As a last attempt i am opting for transferring day 3 embryos. I respond well to stimulation, but my embryos struggle to reach blastocyst stage.

[@asadis81]

@@nubuckshu Thank you and wishing you lots of luck with your transfer!

[@manjupande9636]

God bless you with a beautiful child 🙏🏻

[@brittneyjonvlogs]

Thank you ❤️

[@Verasevos]

What will you do if you get 8 embryos? Will you make them all implanted? Like you want 8 children? or do you need only one child?

[@brittneyjonvlogs]

Thanks for the question! It’s incredibly unlikely that we would get 8 fertilized and genetically healthy embryos. If we did it would be a blessing because even then there is still a chance of losing them in transfer and implantation. I would be happy with just one but I welcome the opportunity for more, should I be so blessed 🥰. Thanks for watching!

[@rebeccabay6806]

If you want to be a mother, adopt a baby, there are plenty of beings in need of mothering But you want a baby And there's a difference between wanting to "have a baby" and wanting to be a mother This is just spoiled, selfish, narcissistic behavior (hairflip! giggle!)

[@brittneyjonvlogs]

Do you also crush flowers in bloom because the joy of the plant offends you? Would you consider the lotus just a plant that “has petals” because it grows in the mud? There is also a difference between empathy and bitterness. Perhaps try removing the log from your own eye before trying to point out the speck in mine. I hope you find peace with whatever it was that struck you wrong in this video - thanks for watching.

[@rebeccabay6806]

@brittneyjonvlogs way to admit that I am right🤣🤣🤣you're not a flower, you're not a lotus growing in the mud. You're a selfish lady who paid thousands of dollars for medical procedures to end up with frozen eggs that won't implant inside you. Your biblical analogy also makes zero sense, my children were conceived naturally and born at home What struck me as wrong with this video is that you're a selfish narcissist who wants a baby with no concept of what being a mother is, you probably just "want" a baby to be a family vlogger, anyway. Your welcome for the engagement and thought provocation that is totally wasted on you

[@gigim7540]

So sad to read this kind of comments…. Heal your heart. Only someone who has gone through IVF procedures will understand the physical and emotional pain women face. Brittney you are STRONG, courageous and super brave. Thank you for sharing your experience and keeping it real.

[@rebeccabay6806]

@gigim7540 You are absolutely correct. It takes a certain kind of woman to decide to take the most expensive, medically invasive path to "have a baby", usually narcissistic women make that decision and break their own hearts wasting money time and energy that could better serve others elsewhere, but they're to self absorbed to realize that Are y'all the women voting against women's reproductive rights because you think they don't pertain to you while you pay to store frozen fertilized eggs in some warehouse just to abandon them, soon there will be laws against that, too, because it's worse than an abortion, a result of a very calculated plan to "have a baby" by very selfish women, and men who capitalize on you, over and over and over again Mothers will mother any child, just give them a child, and there are plenty of children in need of fostering and adoption by women want to be mothers, not just "have a baby" I do not believe that immature, selfish women should be becoming mothers just because they want to "have a baby". Women like this usually end up regretting having children and are not good mothers because all they wanted was a baby, they didn't want a 7 year old, or a 17 year old, just consumed with baby talk, and baby baby baby, when babies are babies for a very brief time and it's basically just keeping them alive, after that, they're actually individual people, I really don't know what lala land women like this live in The doctor says my heart is strong and beats like a drum, maybe stop projecting and heal your own heart, whatever that means to you. Here in reality, it means nothing.

[@brittneyjonvlogs]

Now that you have delt a solid blow to one cheek, let me offer you another... As I say in my video, you are truly blessed to have realized your potential as a mother during the time that it was natural. I did not, and perhaps it is selfish of me to want something back that I feel I have lost. There is only one who can judge that, and I will suffer whatever consequences that brings, should I need to. This video was not made for you. It is for the women who have walked my path, and feel that suffering. It was meant to give us strength in solidarity. Because we are strong, and it is these kinds of journeys that remind us of that. So although I appreciate your watch time, and your comment, until you have walked in my shoes you do not belong in this circle. I wish you well.