Malay Muslim + Chinese Catholic: How An Interracial Marriage Works

It’s complicated enough being a Malay-Chinese couple - what more if you have 3 kids? Here’s more on how Anne and Norsham deal with issues of language, religion and parenthood in Singapore.
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About the show:
Inter-racial marriages accounted for at least 1 in 5 unions here in Singapore in 2013. On The Red Dot explores the dynamics of these marriages across cultures and religions through 3 couples who are at different milestones of their lives. Throughout the four-part series, they share their relationship ups and downs and how their different backgrounds impact their lives as couples. In each episode, we bring together one member from each couple to share their experiences and seek advice for a milestone they each strive to achieve. Their rich discussions explore everything from dating, wedding rituals and preparations, family acceptance, bringing up children and growing old together. In sharing the trials and triumphs of their inter-racial marriages, they discover that there are just as many similarities between them as there are differences.

[@pupitardanub]

Kids are lucky,they get x2 the amount of packets when it is chinese new year and hari raya

[@Pr0fane26]

Hahaha.. that's true enough lol.

[@revelbangtanexo2642]

damn true XD

[@itz_alice_chan4385]

Pupitar_YT Tatairwan ikr there so lucky

[@bluemanchestercity]

Money cant buy my religion.

[@tengkualiff]

Haha

[@arnoldgibson01]

I'm a Catholic, but i'm very impressed about how the Ustaz answered her question. Been seeing a lot of political ustaz being too one-sided with their views towards a certain religion. This one, is someone i would listen if he preached about their religion, not to convert to Islam, but to understand and accept our brothers and sisters of different religion. Hope he's always in a good health and really hope to see more ustaz/ustazah like him in the future.

[@m.syafiq2327]

👍

[@luqmanHG]

there's plenty of ustaz/ulama like him..its just you engaged with the politically inclined ustaz,that's a big NO if u want to understand about islam..a good ustaz is like a fatherly figure to you,always look up to you when u are in need 🙂

[@RendEVous_]

Sameee

[@shukormat]

Amin

[@redsox7897]

There is only one textbook message/view in Islam in regard to how you treat your parents. You have to take care of them, respect them and never talk back whether they are good or "bad" parents. Some uztaz can deliver the message wisely some others are harshly but the message is the same.

[@Aujanaa]

The calm n wise gentleman " ustaz" really deserves respect for his knowledge, straightforwardness, and humble expressions. Stay blessed tuan ustaz.

[@Maddoxxx]

Agreed, i wish there's more pakcik ustad like that, we can love our own belief but not by too extreme or fanatical,

[@louisjamaran11]

his reply to her questions about what happens to her parents after she convert is just too on point for me.... Alot would think that conversion means that you are abandoning your family, but this is not the case at all.

[@LivingLonger]

Video 1:18 why ustaz cry when the lady asked will my family feel like they will lose me as a daugther? did ustaz lied? [Quran 9.23] Sahih International: O you who have believed, do not take your fathers or your brothers as allies if they have preferred disbelief over belief. And whoever does so among you - then it is those who are the wrongdoers.

[@melodypang1627]

farisplazroblox Chowdhury agreed on this!

[@melodypang1627]

But I have one question here is: what is the religion of the kids?

[@liewjames2852]

The ustaz is so learned and fatherly. The way he answered was very patient and inspiring.The kids are really lucky to have such good loving parents. Best wishes!

[@jackalshine1369]

Sadly ustaz in Malaysia arent like this.

[@mmizan3063]

@@jackalshine1369 well yes but no...u should find real ustaz not someone that think he know well in religion...sorry if that hurt u😅

[@yusofafif]

You should not see Ustaz in political party as your references. Their minds have been corrupted and full of agenda to do anything to gain supporters. Lol

[@tiekieyhasma7511]

@@jackalshine1369 well social media ustaz is DIFFERENT compare to normal ustaz..

[@Razorbladekisses007]

respect to the ustaz

[@roarkoo4648]

Title is misleading. Probably cause if title"Malay Muslim + Converted Chinese Catholic", there would not be this much views on the video

[@Islaras]

Yeah

[@haninda10]

Totally agreed!

[@ilove2929]

Totally agree! When she said she converted, i was like ...

[@Danny-fq1rp]

"Clickbait"

[@davidliu2243]

yeah.

[@jiksbydesign733]

When the husband says "as long as he make a living honestly, no problem, he can go with my kids".. the wife face " ya ya, thats stage 1, im the final stage!!"

[@deckerdryges5526]

Misleading title. While I am happy to see inter-racial marriages, i am looking forward to truly inter-religious marriages. Where both partners maintain their own faiths and it would be great to see how they bring up their kids in a secular environment.

[@silvermochi3273]

Ikr!

[@illusionxmuta]

Not possible with Islam. So “tolerant.”

[@mirmir9368]

@Jyue An Why even bother then?

[@themann9801]

I'm sorry but in islam your spouse must be muslim or it will not be counted as marriage and just zina . And if you have problem uphold that law then you should not uphold your faith. Commited to your faith follow the law.

[@MysteryPunisher]

" zina " adultary.

[@amma656]

What you look in this video is usually happens in Malaysia.. The most surprising is, who convert non muslim to muslim in Malaysia, they be more better muslim than person who born muslim in Malaysia.. That broke my heart

[@jackalshine1369]

CHINESE muslim in Malaysia sometimes better in attitude than Malay muslim. Ebit Lew is one if them. And there are many more non-muslim Chinese that possessed good attitude in Malaysia. Its just the islamist politician painted us dark to gain support.

[@xxprogamerxx7770]

Truer words have never been spoken

[@amma656]

@@jackalshine1369 if u are muslim, i think you already learn about islam.. Islam is not only what you believe or meaner things.. But islam teaching a way of life.. Its include about politics.. Thats why politics and islam cannot be separate..

[@starryskyhighway9628]

When non muslim convert to muslim they did not do it bcus they're curious,they are not trying religon..they devoted to it and they know what they want to do in their life..thats why most of them are better than born muslim

[@eclipse221077]

That is because they seek the truth way of life and what is the true teaching in islam but for us born muslim, we are already born in islam so we dont seek the true message and teaching. We take it lightly. They maybe already know other religion teaching and can compare it to our. We cant be like that because we are born muslim. And for that we usually would take everything in islam very lightly. They seek with their whole heart and we dont. And i think they would seek the smallest thing in islam than us like for example how to clean your pants if it got little stain like urine spot when you are praying outside. I dont think many muslim know how to clean what you wear without changing it and do the prayer.

[@0ct0b4r]

Apple, Orange = fruit. Chinese, Malay = people. If its love, its love.

[@davidyong9497]

This is not fruit or thing, this is religion culture and Chinese had more than 5000 years civilization why muslim enforce us to follow and convert to them with no culture all follow and copy other ( bible copy from Catholic )

[@0ct0b4r]

@@davidyong9497 hey brotha. I got nothing but love for all. This world needs more love than hatred and division. its all good and i respect your opinion. Peace bro.

[@maiastraa]

david yong because its part of the religion's rules. You want to get married you convert lah. If dont want then dont. Why the fuss

[@davidyong9497]

Chinese culture in future will be terminated...sad

[@cuddlybears8444]

david yong some of u guys chinese singaporean cant even speak chinese somemore talk about culture lel

[@Makminah_]

Well said. Thank you for this wonderful documentary

[@YouTB1317]

I came here for the 2nd time without knowing that I’ve watched this already.

[@Aziz.M-ju5kn]

I've watched this for the 42th time

[@ahmadfarabi6234]

Mazni Mustafa i read your comment twice and i din’t notice it 😊

[@liewmengchuan478]

ahmad farabi v

[@mrzairi1977]

Lol

[@mdmdxkoh5324]

@@ahmadfarabi62349q Bb

[@fmjs5146]

Thanks for sharing this story. I see two Singaporeans who have created a loving family. Marriage and raising children is a gift and there are challenges for everyone. There is no 'best way'. So long as the couple cherish each other all will be well.

[@Ghosty0909]

The "Ustaz", this is what we called respect!

[@zaccarylee8019]

I love both my cultures Malay and Chinese..

[@KannKamiko]

Is that your own picture on ur display?? 😯

[@3TSNP]

Most misleading youtube title. She is convert and no longer Catholic.

[@hackerhacker3667]

Well,,, she used to be catholic in the first few years after marriage. So it still counts hmmmm

[@ualuuanie]

Doh! If I know CNA was doing a story on religion marriage I would have introduced them to 1 of my co-worker. He is an Indian Roman Catholic ( still current is ) and she is a Muslim ( still currently is ). He told me religion is 1 of the headach he faced until he have to call the police to stop religious people that keep visiting him and asking him to convert.

[@n.rajandrannair9513]

CNA are you listening?

[@charlielucai-woodsboro2167]

My brother-in-law had the same experience. They had to move away coz they were always on his case to convert

[@ridhwanwan3391]

I'm indian,my wife of 24yrs is malay...we have a 21 yr old son...next year is our silver jubilee...planned to go on a cruise liner....just as how we tolerated,understood and loved... cruising through the years.👌👍

[@ridhwanwan3391]

@Rich 91 does it matter?

[@TheAfrilazeeq]

@Rich 91 If you're talking about why muslim don't convert it's simple, muslim general rule is don't convert or be punished. Simple rule ey? You can argue all night but rules are rules.

[@TheAfrilazeeq]

@Rich 91 you're not making sense but ok

[@ilove2929]

With the virus outbreak, cruising is not the best idea sir...

[@zuez65]

@@TheAfrilazeeq "Don't convert or be punished" is depends on situation

[@lanjiaofei]

Malay covert to Catholic marrying a Christian would be an issue .

[@fadzrinazulghafar6197]

Apparently yeah..

[@marinanetto3791]

That's the probl4 with this religion

[@benyusof5200]

how is that an issue? u do realize there are malay catholic out there , yes?

[@benyusof5200]

@@marinanetto3791 the problem is your understanding of the word "malay".malay is not a religion

[@honeyhani1165]

true

[@stoneruler]

Clickbait title: the woman converted to islam. If you're here thinking this is a story about 2 religons coexisting peacefully, you can go.

[@youpretty5343]

Isn't it compulsory for a non islam to convert to islam once married to a muslim? Maybe the rules differ in Singapore, but in Malaysia, it is the rule here. One of the shittiest rule ever created

[@tama5890]

@@youpretty5343 the non muslim already given privillege to live in malaysia and indonesia without us muslim attacking them. They should have converted to muslim long ago.

[@youpretty5343]

@@tama5890 no. Not justified to force someone into islam. Prophet Muhammad given the quraish(quraisy) people freedom to pick between being non-Muslim or muslim. Freedom is the fundamental of islam. You speak as if you are full of hatred in your mind,and thus you cannot be called a true Muslim. Good day

[@haiqaliskandar7056]

@@youpretty5343 oh wow, so Islamophobic you are. In Islam, both husband and wive must be a Muslim. That is the reality. Shittiest rule? According to whom? You?nah.. we dont force someone to become muslim. But when it comes to marriage, the non believer must be converted to Islam.. Did it bothered you? If it does. Then why you are so entitled ? Try to understand Islam better. We muslim here are living in peace with others religion. But your comment sure pissed me off. Good day.

[@youpretty5343]

@@haiqaliskandar7056 understand islam? Bro, i studied the religion for 4 years in my school. Let me tell you, Muslims today are nothing compared to the Prophet Muhammad and his followers. You people are giving islam a bad name. Don't believe me? Ask people all around the world and ask their opinion on the religion. Prophet Muhammad used to allow freedom of religion, and now it is no more for the fear of muslims convert out of islam. Shameful, and don't call me an islamophobe

[@Charsiupao]

The title led me to believe that after marriage, they both respectfully practiced their own faiths without influencing the other to convert for the sake of marriage. It made me believe that at least in Singapore, all religions respected each other equally. Looks like I should have known better.... it's always one-sided.

[@amadeuslow9898]

yes misleading title, clickbait pooi!

[@BennieGoh]

i will be impressed only to see a loving couple with different race marry each other but stayed faithfully with ones own religion. And that's when true love really have a meaning.

[@InfernoXV]

will you be showing a couple where the muslim converts to the other religion, in the spirit of fairness?

[@SR33HkA]

impressive ustad ❤

[@ciarankelly4338]

Singapore and it’s people have to be admired on how the various races and religions get along and celebrate each other’s culture. It’s a great lesson for many other countries!

[@ariffadam5611]

Religion teach us to do good deeds. I hope they both find happiness.

[@adamirfan557]

yes....

[@user-hi7pg2bp5u]

We dont need religion to teach us to do good deeds in modern world

[@m.syafiq2327]

Religion teach the good deed, but the followers do the opposite thing.

[@adrianwakeisland4710]

@@m.syafiq2327 very well-said fact. That's why atheists are way better and truthfull than all who have religions.

[@user-hi7pg2bp5u]

I have seen many of these religious people pray hard every day but did haram thing like scamming, racist like usual. We need moral not religion.

[@gunmetabunny6283]

This might not have turned out well if the muslim had to convert......

[@KubasKlimkar]

Might be best if neither would convert and just been married together

[@KubasKlimkar]

@@a.s.l711 in most of the world you can marry no matter what religion spouses practice, being same or each have their own, or one of them or both not being religious at all. Also Malaysia is quite developed country only this racial and religious separation is holding it back, and their laws even enforce that. But it makes sense, to keep people in chceck the best way is to control their thinking and dont let their minds open too much. Unfortunatelly.

[@nafisazizan7631]

More precisely, this wouldn't even happen if the muslim had to convert. Because while Islam does not allow interreligious marriage, almost every muslim, if not all, will choose Islam over the woman. I'm a muslim and I think people should definitely be open to know a thing or two about my religion. Because Islam is actually for all 😊

[@Farhan-mn1fr]

@@KubasKlimkar lol wrong. The religion itself made it clear to not marrying someone if they're not the same religion.

[@taetaesgucciglasses3538]

Because muslims know that islam is the truth I would recommend u to do atleast a little research about islam and u will find the truth!

[@eyes7775]

I love how the integration between race and religion in singapore , this is how people can live in racial harmony

[@draxlerab4675]

Hi

[@roqfortt]

It's a very equal marriage. It's just that the girl had to make all the sacrifices on her end just to please the Muslim family. Other than that, very equal 😂😂😂

[@usebrain8189]

She's still carrying her family's name and could even named her kids with her surname. Would she able to do that if she married chinese guy with different surname?

[@mhummadswingedhorseallahha1157]

@@usebrain8189 ye cause now she is athe property of her husband. Shall i put my surname on my ferrrari? No it can remain named ferrari,

[@gabrielladantas5718]

Thought the same thing lol

[@slaiyfershin]

@@usebrain8189 Have name but lost both religion and mother language then what's the point. Like those Singaporean Japanese who can't speak a lick of Japanese. What an embarrassment and pity.

[@usebrain8189]

@@slaiyfershin the kids belong to their parents so it's all up to them, they can speak english, malay, mandarin even Indian as they like. Plus, it's their own personal choice, why you have to butt-hurt? Would you feel the same if the mother married an ang mo and chose 2b freethinker? The situation would be 'double standard' , right?

[@Bob-gr7qv]

Wow 👍 Two different cultures and I know how hard is that . Not easy.. Thumbs up for u guys

[@ErickPranata]

No comments so far? This video is so beautiful...

[@jimjohnson1305]

I guess it's like crack. I her it is beautiful when you first smoke but down the road reality hits you.

[@lcy3877]

@@jeffreykok1669 they're considered "Others" maybe

[@aziziromli9921]

Great documentary

[@alfyryan6949]

This is beautiful. Truly. The spirit of Singapore is embodied in them :)

[@aave865]

Most importantly we call ourselves Singaporeans

[@redskysaturn75]

Why convert? Have friends who married similarly but didn't convert. The silliness of it all.

[@lcy3877]

Maybe the spouse comes from traditional family?

[@redskysaturn75]

traditional or not its a marriage between two mature adults. and putting the wife in a position to decide on an option like this doesnt make sense. it should never be an option in the first place. unfortunately its the norm among muslims in singapore. why not ask the husband to convert since catholics are very conservative as well. in marriages like this it should just be a civil one. like i said the option should not be there for the wife to choose from. so now the kids will be automatically muslims, do u think the children will have a choice to choose their own. and in islam its more difficult to denounce because the stigma here. i actually know the husband as an aquaintance by the way. the questions the wife asked the ustaz are such basic ones i guess suitable for this docu. and the similarities she mentioned from the old testament is not that similar if u see the differences among the two holy books from their respective religions. so by converting she has also agreed that christ is not the son of god but a mere prophet. so this is more then traditional family values but change in belief system altogether. if she is comfortable with that then why didnt she denounce her faith even before she met her husband. totally not thought through. and she also accepts the fact that christ didnt die and rise again. not sure why one religion must instil their values on another especially even more when love is involved. dont like to rattle on this subject too much and dont mean harm, but its clear there isnt neutral ground or compromise on each's own belief system. Well to each its own and they can live with it thats most important. im sure they will have a happy married life. just that conversion is rather unnecessary. The husband also deviated from the question at the end instead to use social life experiences as an answer and not whether he will agree if their kids do convert in future.

[@lcy3877]

@@redskysaturn75 I do agree with what u said. I have a friend her mum is Indonesian Muslim and dad is Singaporean Chinese but she is a freethinker and her mom is very liberal. So she and her dad didn't convert... Well there is nothing we can do about it. The lady made her choice and if you're not willing to even go to this stage, the best would be to not even date a Malay of the opposite gender...

[@redskysaturn75]

thats true, many do decide not to date because of this factor, its such a waste as u may be able to find someone to love even from another religion

[@lcy3877]

@@redskysaturn75 :'( but definitely if Chinese and Chinese date even if they are of different religion no problem.... Though nowadays many youths still prefer to date someone of same belief as them

[@cirintos]

Love to see your video. ....

[@FrdHrs_]

Love this couple. May god bless you always ❤️

[@vincentivantanaya5115]

I thought religion were supposed to bring everyone together. Yet much of the time, I see religion acting as a barrier between people

[@strident6192]

I feel that too

[@andreas2042]

Because religion is not just one. And you can't legally have two religion both state and religion laws. In my opinion, religion is more like the guide for our lives.

[@asuszen6t00g3]

same reason our generation prefer not to have any faith anymore. sad.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

Vincent Ivan Tanaya I totally agree! Religion seems to cause more problems rather than solve them.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

andreas michael You can live a good life and be a good person without religion of any sort. Religion causes more problems rather than solve them.

[@aswararshad5804]

I have been watching this video many times and still enjoy with it...may Allah bless both of you and your family

[@e.h8097]

Adam LB Muslim Cannt convert to any other religion it says In the Quran

[@rashidsahat7442]

Is good to share about the culture... happy life forever...

[@daisybb8148]

What a wonderful couple both of you are. This is how an inter-racial marriage should be. Anne and Sham, you both are good nurturing parents/people. I like the way you both think. Others should learn from both of you. God bless both of you, your children and family 👍🙏🤲

[@hahahahahahaha5159]

I am Muslim and I Love Jesus Christ ..

[@joehouston2833]

Jesus is lord!

[@mhummadswingedhorseallahha1157]

u love the fake issa of the quran

[@Nyaksampailunyai]

MhummadsWingedHorse Allahhas2Hands who are u bro

[@allylv3257]

You should not say this?

[@kaidzhar516]

Dia ni bukan Islam pun me rosak kan nama ja.. Bertaubat la sebelum terlambat

[@cincocinco7159]

I don't agree with you saying that u don't believe in learning mandarin . U r a Chinese and ur children learn Malay and English. Why don't u make them learn mandarin as well.

[@LoQOpa]

whats the point especially when even pure chinese families in Singapore rarely enforces knowin mandarin / cantonese to their own children in the first place ?

[@haris6621]

This is where the term of "banana" created

[@gaminicyril]

It is there choice. I am indian i can speak abit of chinese, malay and japanese. So everyone can learn there choice because this is who they are and they own will.

[@cannedgorilla1062]

Eh who u. Their kids, their choice la. Alamak

[@ahmadsolehyn295]

Yea i agree with you. I believe you should take the languages that your parents speak of

[@themiracle589]

Very inspirative......

[@izzmalaysia8007]

Amazing. A role model to all

[@samirateochin3827]

Charming couple, how blessed!

[@rafifah.a]

Had a relationship with a non-Muslim guy for 5 years, can't proceed due to the different religion background. Still praying to Allah, may He bless him with hidayah & terbuka pintu hati dia untuk terima Islam. Also, pray for me to be strong to face all this difficulties

[@jacknoble8164]

Amin. Stay strong cik.

[@rafifah.a]

@@jacknoble8164 doakan saya kuat, terima kasih

[@faisalabdulaziz5026]

But why must he convert to Islam when he loves u? If he believe in his religion, it's wrong to love U? What hidayah we are talking here then? I'm not trying to be rude but this i dont understand.

[@laujiajie5019]

If u love him, why not u convert to his religion, r u trying to use the name of love to expand ur religion? Why only ask other religion to convert to urs and not u convert to theirs?

[@CrystalAmanda7106]

I am curious, what would happen if on the other hand, a Catholic man married a Muslim woman, and the woman converted to a Catholic. CNA please link if there is such a story.

[@hajamohideen810]

Amazing!

[@mfra959]

Marriage is not about Race or Religion It's about *LOVE*

[@fafafifufu]

but i also believe that religion is important to keep the institution and foundation for love to be stable.

[@GameFuMaster]

except in Islam

[@farizanroslan]

Mashaallah. This is beautiful!

[@zulman4076]

That is a colourful of life.. Respect both of them.. 3 kids already showed that they hv a happy life..

[@Eoorjeje]

Good to see that this couple managed to work it out despite differences. Just hope that in the future, there will be a video on a Muslim man converting to another faith. Then that video will gain PLENTY of attention.

[@OdirilSmallfish]

Negative attention more like, if a catholic converting to muslim got this much dislikes, I can't imagine how much a muslim converting to other faith will get.

[@dewidevi2157]

Beautiful family..the kids are very lucky to have both cultures in their upbringing💕 love the wise ustad how to explain what is Islam is all about💕

[@ddll23]

Islam , a religion of evil

[@faridmdkhalid]

Only one word to describe this whole thing. Beautiful.

[@bengguansim5154]

Yeah, we​ get​ to​ celebrate​ HARI​ RAYA​ and​ Chinese​ new​ year!

[@thatoneweirdkidwhosobsesse3494]

Can't believe the wife converted so quickly. This doesn't show interfaith

[@Prometheus574]

It is her choice whether to convert or not. If she does it so quickly, it was also her decision.

[@madnae198]

A catholic whom converted*, the title please

[@charlielucai-woodsboro2167]

Exactly

[@doodlefiddle5373]

Who care, just stfu

[@ciarankelly4338]

Wishing you and your family the very best in life -they will enjoy the best of both traditions and a greater life experience. I am European catholic married to a Chinese Buddhist and we respect each other religions and traditions and in the past months we together with our grandkids celebrated Christmas and two months later Chinese New Year and yes they got red packets! Its more important that they grow up to appreciate other people’s customs and religions and respect them and the world will be a better place.....

[@draxlerab4675]

Hi

[@kamaruddinabdulkarim3617]

love this

[@omery.8342]

Wishing a best and happy life to those beautifull family

[@catholicfemininity2126]

Catholics should be careful not to marry outside the Catholic faith because of difference in morals and values.... if you are Catholic in name only, then you shouldn't really call yourself Catholic, you are not practicing the faith. Something that needs to change. Catholicism isn't a club or a racial group, it's more than just a religion, it's Jesus' church, the one he started with St. Peter.

[@akotofiq8394]

I am a Kurdish muslim and my wife is a catholic from Vietnam. so far my marriage life is the greatest. As long as there is a common ground between couples, religion should not be a barrier to stop the couples from marrying

[@helpingbharat2806]

Why not Muslim women marry non Muslim??

[@riyanbhat6137]

@@helpingbharat2806 then non muslim man has to convert to islam

[@riyanbhat6137]

@@rezal1776 tbh I don't like such practice 🤷it is sin to marry non muslim

[@MysteryPunisher]

There are laws to be follow, not following your lust bro.

[@TTko4KKmo]

I noticed the grandchildren blessed their grandmother's hand when she arrived. I didn't know Chinese do this too. I thought only in the Philippines 🇵🇭 this blessing of the hand.

[@eamesho7723]

It is not a chinese practice, more of an islamic practice. The children are Muslims as well hence they greet their grandmothers in that manner. Actually across different continents we have alot of similar practices dating back to many centuries ago so its not uncommon sometimes we see similarities. I also notice that tagalog and bahasa indonesia have some similar words as well.

[@Haotheman]

chinese people dont do this

[@ryanoneiljohnson8743]

I could see they are a happy family. One day I would be like them.

[@kilozjin3761]

This is what people should be like Not racism religion issues skin color Discrimination of any kind Just live love respect work together peacefully and happily Animals can live in harmony for eons Why can't we humans?

[@Maddoxxx]

Annie's mom is 👍🏼👍🏼 and have a big 💓!!

[@equalrights9091]

He is eligible for 3 more wives and you can’t do anything about it.

[@DorothyYukon-vk4jl]

Singapore is such a beautiful place. So clean and nice. The mosques and temples are beautiful too.

[@kawasuky6198]

When indian and chinese baby will look more to indian. But when malay and chinese baby will look more to chinese hmmm. Malay and Indian baby never seen before 🤔

[@lcy3877]

Omg true!!

[@khairuddinazfar3954]

I think it more about dominant gene....

[@ladysweetysweety6876]

Not true unless we are Tamil but most of us look like Malays if we are malayalee or Telugu Indian 😁

[@lcy3877]

@@ladysweetysweety6876 hi could u explain to me what's telengu Indian? And the terms u just mentioned? Tryna learn abt different races

[@HeidiMarrakesh]

Lol..you've never seen a malay+indian baby.if one parent is fair,the child could arab/pakistani..if both are brown skinned,the child usually looks indian just like most indian muslim.im just saying for the majority based on what ive seen..it of coz depends on the parent's features.

[@huiling34567]

This is not in Malaysia,Malaysia is different

[@jasons4045]

This is in SG , so obvious haha

[@broart9706]

Great story

[@adamv3391]

Mixed marriage is awesome as not sticking to just one culture, language and thinking.

[@joewendkchannel4550]

Salam n hi.. aku sendiri pun beristerikan wanita chinese mix Siam . Yeahh, Don't say that all is ok , because bila 2 agama n bangsa berkahwin it's cabaran bg mereka menyesuaikan diri n terima berbagai ragam karenah kehidupan . Contoh , pandangan mata keluarga masing 2 yg mna mungkin tk pnh faham atau tahu tentang agama n adat pihak sebelah . Islam itu mudah jika difahami dgn betul . Kekangan dari soal pakaian , makanan or others adalah sbb untuk kebaikan kita sndri. Kadangkala bila berlaku salah faham , agak rumit untuk diselesaikan oleh sbb campurtangan keluarga masing2 . Papun , try to learn n respect each other sebaik mungkin. Insyallah , jodoh hingga ke akhir hayat .. aminnn

[@RImA9401]

Salam bro..nak no contact bro bleh ke?nak dengar cerita abang sikit bleh?

[@joewendkchannel4550]

@@RImA9401 nak dengar cerita abg Ker? Insyallah ...klu adik bole jadikan cerita abg nnti sebagai pedoman kpda insan2 lagi, rsenya elok sngt. Abg akn cerita tentang abg serta hidup yg abg lalui sekarang . 0137867968 abg Joe .. ok

[@joewendkchannel4550]

@@RImA9401 dlm time kul 5, atau 6 pm abg free . Ok..cerita benar dari kisah perjalanan abg . Insyallah tk ada sebarang penambahan atau pembohongan dlm story abg kelak .

[@HulkVahkiin]

Says Chinese Catholic, but she converted to to islam by the time of this video lol

[@worshipthecreator9081]

Why is this News??...interracial couples are every where 💖

[@mas8844]

So true...just live and let live

[@_.k1wee]

It's okay bruh, I live in singapore and my mother is indonesia and my father is Singaporean and 3 elderly brothers :3

[@chuarh7393]

Reotal The Android elder or elderly? Big difference leh

[@_.k1wee]

@@chuarh7393 eh English is not my first language

[@lowkeymonkey2106]

We are talking about religion bossku, not nationality. Big difference

[@roslanahmad1270]

I see no similarities between u n him

[@ikramsalaza6232]

Lol your English

[@udomshukul3383]

If it is true love, it has no need for conversion.

[@coolio24718]

Udom Shukul who are you to judge?

[@dianaahakim2001]

Grow up. Who are you to judge. Just respect and everything will be fine. Jeez.

[@aeox6818]

Im an muslim but a rarely compelete the 5 prayers thing a day kinda stuff and they call me infidel some reason lol

[@guyhero]

@@aeox6818 Why do you claim yourself muslim if you don't do them? Do you accept what are written in quran and hadith?

[@jimjohnson1305]

@@guyhero Islam is clearly about control. A muslim woman cannot marry outside the faith and a man is allowed four wives. This woman has been fooled.

[@danishh1385]

Much2 loves for you guys. In Malaysia, I have a lot of friends mix malay and chinese. I don’t really care who you are. As long as you are a nice person 💕

[@coffeeren1539]

Uhmmm... Sorry guys im still learning but i dont quite understand like is the girl on the video we saw name Anne is islam or no ? Like im kinda confused

[@karenpilo2161]

I've watched it already and watch it again now. The person that sent this link to me is gone😥

[@ZafarKhan-cj1qi]

Aww🙏🏼

[@yazid88my]

My both grandmothers are also chinese Im malay..but i have chinese blood in my veins

[@zulli3534]

u r sino malay..!

[@rainforest8893]

@@zulli3534 Are you idiot? She's basically born with chinese muslim grandparents, her parents has Malay. She can be called Malay after born because she's born in Malaysia with mix bloods and Islamic religion.

[@user-hi7pg2bp5u]

@@rainforest8893 baba nyoya. But no more due to UMNO

[@wahidashah940]

🙏From Malaysia, may this family be happy together, and made it to heaven happily together.. Glad to learn about you guys!

[@verboten82]

Giving up your faith for an earthly relationship is a very sad thing. Really sad

[@fattchee9172]

Good job

[@a.s.7996]

the ustaz is really intellegent in response to the lady questions

[@jazz076]

Will the husband love her less if she didn't convert?

[@praystation]

Love transcends all barriers

[@guru6831]

Love? Lust, you mean.

[@ilhambudi95]

How common are the opposite (marriages between Chinese men and Malay women)?

[@melissasharuddin4109]

Mom was chinese and adopted by interracial family. My dad is malay. Great for me growing up I experience lots of cultural differences. I never knew racism untill grew up. Just that because most of my chinese friends are 🍌 very hard to learn mandarin 🤣😆 need translator to talk to grand aunt.

[@arashi441xyz]

I'm a Filipina Catholic who has an Indonesian Muslim fiancee. Just checking out to see videos like this. I'm also afraid of what changes and adjustments I might go through.

[@nivabreezeetheiconic1257]

Well,when Indonesian man/girl married different religions,it's up to you,you want to follow him or stay your own religious,but mostly someone either you or him must give up on his religion to become one religion 👌 😌

[@titaniumsteel9114]

“I believe all express the truth, just in different language.” “If all religions are equally true, then does that mean you would accept everything that all religions teach?” “Yes. I might express it differently, but I believe that deep down we are all speaking the same language.” “So you agree with the Christian religion, which says that Christ is the only way to the Father?” “No.” Mary was unaware of the logical contradiction she had just expressed. She looked at me as if perhaps I wasn’t paying attention. After all, she had just stated that all religions were equally true. Why would I now ask her if she believed the exact opposite? “I’m confused,” I said, gently. “You say you believe that all religions are equally true, but you don’t believe that the Christian religion is correct in saying that Jesus Christ is the only objective means of salvation. Doesn’t that mean that you don’t believe that all religions are equally true?” Is It Arrogant to Believe that Other Religions Are Wrong? Mary became uncomfortable when she saw that she had contradicted herself and dismissed what I had said by saying: “I guess I just think it’s arrogant to believe that your worldview is right and that everyone else’s is wrong.” Not wanting to press too hard, I resisted the temptation to show Mary how her religious indifferentism was itself a worldview that alone claimed to be true while condemning as wrong all opposing beliefs. “Do you believe in the law of noncontradiction? That something cannot be both true and untrue at the same time?” “Give me an example.” “God cannot be the creator of the universe and at the same time not be the creator of the universe.” “Sure, that makes sense.” “Okay, so theism-the belief that there is a God who created the universe-and pantheism-the view that God is the universe-cannot both be true. This is one example of why you can’t rationally affirm that all religions are equally true. The law of noncontradiction forbids it. This does not mean that there cannot be elements of truth in all religions but that all are not equally true. I believe that the Catholic Church possesses the fullness of the truth and other religions are wrong inasmuch as they disagree with that fullness.” What the Church Teaches I then mentioned the passage in the Vatican II document Nostra Aetate: The Catholic Church rejects nothing that is true and holy in these religions. She regards with sincere reverence those ways of conduct and of life, those precepts and teachings which, though differing in many aspects from the ones she holds and sets forth, nonetheless often reflect a ray of that Truth which enlightens all men. Indeed, she proclaims, and ever must proclaim, Christ “the way, the truth, and the life” (John 14:6) in whom men may find the fullness of religious life, in whom God has reconciled all things to himself.

[@downtownline7839]

Stay strong in the faith, sister in Christ! We cannot do religious works to get to Heaven (Jannah) It is only through Jesus, we can truly be saved. Nothing wrong with having a husband with a different religion, but don't leave your faith in Jesus because of your love for your husband. I pray that our Heavenly Father keep you on the right path, may He keep your faith strong, may His wisdom and guidance be with you, in Jesus Name. Amen

[@hansel.2105]

In a Majority Indonesian Islamic Judisprudence It doesn't allow Interfaith Marriage , only A Minority does. If you want Interfaith Marriage with Him you can do It by Learning Islamic Jurispredence that Allows Interfaith Marriages , it is Mostly conducted abroad , like In London or Morocco for Example that doesn't follow the Shafii Mazhab. Other than That , you can Get married with him Without converting in A Catholic Church with the Dispensation that Allows interfaith Marriage ( Disparity of Cult ) . Good Luck on Your Journey , hope You love Your fiancee . Ps. Im Indonesian too :)

[@kittykitkat4968]

Always put Jesus our loving Saviour in your life and marriage.

[@KimiAlias]

Awww so cute this family. May God bless them in both dunya and Akhira

[@Makminah_]

In Malaysia, you all will regret it. And I think, Malaysia should do this. You can't force people to convert like that. .

[@ciaogiuditta]

they moved to australia haha

[@queeniemars159]

yet they convert and they are happy, now park elsewhere

[@funofboredom]

The majority race in Malaysia are blind and deaf to the hardships of people like Revathi Masoosai and Indira Gandhi. They only want to tell the world that their religion is all good.

[@queeniemars159]

@@funofboredom then go to india, eat beef and see how they'll treat you as a royal guest......lolz

[@Noa......]

@@queeniemars159 One sided sacrifice.

[@seanlim222]

Well to simply put it, if you're not a muslim and you marry into a muslim family, you gotta convert, no matter how strongly you feel against it. Period. It's a big step for anyone and everyone, especially with the many restrictions and customs you gotta follow after converting. It just shows how love can overcome all sorts of boundaries, even religion.

[@polishherowitoldpilecki5521]

Not really, one religion won out. There is no tolerance, only conquest and expansion.

[@walterchen1007]

So love only works one way not both ways ? Can see which had to sacrifice more for the relationship.

[@btsmochimi7924]

True

[@qiugezhang6847]

Some parts of this story are very sick. First, she is not identified as Catholics anymore. She converted, then they got married. Second, she doesn’t very much agree about her Chinese heritage either. She is proudly talking about her children not speaking Chinese, and denies any importance of learning it. This story should be named, how a Chinese woman converted and led her whole family into Muslim.

[@fujihues]

does anyone know how to contact the ustaz? i'm also in an interracial relationship and would like to get some explanations from him

[@neville2987]

Im christian, my mom always tell me that i can be friends with muslims but to never date a muslim

[@newsprint323]

You can read their holy book with context of the command and history.. You will get know why she told this

[@SuccessforLifester]

I am from a Buddhist family, my mother said the same thing

[@youpretty5343]

It's not a racist issue, it's just a hassle with their religion and all. I don't think your mom has an issue with you dating anyone other than a muslim.

[@SuccessforLifester]

@@youpretty5343 Yes it is a convenience issue.

[@luketv4764]

yes...Religion is the huge GAP!

[@MicaRayan]

In Indonesia, it's legit. I know this already by first hand knowledge, as my tour guide there (mind you, this was in 1994!) was a grown up male with mix parentage. So, for me it's not that abnormal. Maybe for others it's a bit off, because they never encountered it, so it's a big giant taboo. Their mufti allowed it...to break the bubbles, from one country to anothers....it differs. Not sure about the rules and regulations for now. But it does occurs. I think now, the man is in 50s

[@ildefonsocruz2370]

As long as they get along and love each other.

[@yogsothoth4005]

Mixed marriages are common in Malaysia. So what made this one special? It would’ve been more interesting if the bride didn’t have to convert and the husband was OK with that. I know of marriages between Chinese and Malays where there was no conversion and the children bore both Malay and Chinese names and did not practice Islam.

[@Mohammed-wm1yb]

Beautiful ❣️