Man Snaps After Another Man Answers His Baby Mother’s Door While Dropping His Daughter Off

[@TheBlacGhost2093]

Now she's still gonna have other men around your child, and it's nothing you can do about it at this point. 🤷

[@stacyj3850]

She called them over because she thought the daughter would be away with her father and had no idea he’d bring her back so fast.

[@missfreda7374]

That's right!!

[@kje73]

It used to be back in the day when a young girl got pregnant, they would go and visit a relative out of town, it used to be a sign of "fastness " to get pregnant as a teen,it was a stigma to be pregnant outside of marriage, man times sure have changed and not for the better

[@kingofmyhonor2879]

@@kje73during those times, women still were getting pregnant outside of marriage and self-aborting their unborn. I don’t know why people get up here acting like the youth created the guns, baby’s out of wedlock, murder, etc… This has been going on for decades.

[@maxwalker4326]

Jody is patient

[@kevinlawson3313]

The fact that the baby father was a crash dummy and he now is sitting in the joint and your baby mother is still out there doing whatever she wants to do with whoever she wants to. And ain't one thing you can do about it but feel stupid 😭💯

[@kimberlydill8059]

He's the baby daddy. If he loved her so much, he would have wifed her.

[@mrmaze2463]

Getting married doesn’t mean you love her. So clowns do that just for status lol

[@northmain803]

​@@mrmaze2463I agree

[@justherefortheglitter1121]

She was single. She could do what she wanted. Too bad many black males like him think they own women and won’t even get custody of their kids. This was never about the kid only the women

[@supreme_vida]

@@mrmaze2463a lot em become clown to get that status too😂😂

[@icdaloot]

Smh some folks Feelings aint set up to be in any kind of relationship

[@SKILLZGAMING5]

It don't be about the kids it be about control

[@ColetteF-c9t]

Don’t it doesn’t.My daughter was getting tied up by her mother boyfriend.And I tried to let him be around my daughter but he was abusing her;and dumb women doesn’t think about that and only the fathers seem to care about the child safety.

[@teresacollins9218]

But the daughter wasn't in the home,she was with him and the mother stated she wasn't expecting him to bring her back so soon, I call BS,he still had feelings for the baby mama and was trying to be controlling and he was simply jealous,it had nothing to do with their daughter,he could have simply left with the daughter when he saw the mom had company and brought her back later.

[@lemanueldumas3071]

Rite...now u make more sense..could have easily left and who knows he probably still having sex with her... half and bm wit baby daddy's let em hit... ion trust nun of em unless I see otha wise

[@aprilshorty4094]

I completely understand about having different men around his daughter but she has the right to live her life and date other people as long as she's protecting her daughter

[@alphaomega1351]

Now dat day out da way, me n his baby 👶 muffa getting it in. 😳

[@daniellereid7576]

Ryte

[@jimmyjay689]

How is she doing that exactly?

[@bbryant2503]

She waited until the daughter was out of the home to have company and he came back sooner than expected without notice. Likely to “catch” her. Now he’s in jail, hopefully for several decades.

[@shebakesitluv9832]

They started fighting because the bm was playing games..she had BOTH men believing they were the dad. They jumped Ant when he came there AFTER the bm called him to bring the baby home because she saw him on ig with his gf and the baby

[@pewe0422]

Women do shit like that all the time. They won't speak on that. It makes women look bad

[@FredoMiller-ei3lq]

Facts thank you

[@shebakesitluv9832]

@@FredoMiller-ei3lq ❤️💪🏾Ant is a good dude. I had to at least try to correct the narrative on this one.

[@Plutoetheestarr]

This is what I speculated something shady.

[@talktometv9393]

how you know this bro? I mean if you are right that shits crazy

[@callmechad5915]

Boy 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️. Let this be a lesson Fellas of ALL ages.. Leave these Baby Mommas ALONE! It's not worth it Fellas! No single Man without kids should be even entertaining a Single Mother please value yourself more than this Fellas omg 😟.

[@quincyb8565]

Amen

[@Valerie-t7f]

Some of the men you're talking to made them single mother

[@callmechad5915]

@@Valerie-t7f Who? The 16% of Irresponsible Men who got 72% of the Women who are Single Mothers now? I'm not even speaking for them. I'm speaking for the 51%-55% of Men who don't got kids. You have the address that with the Pookie Clan and Tyrone Mob. We didn't make you Single Mothers 🤷🏾‍♂️.

[@ResseDfa]

@@Valerie-t7ftake accountability you laid with those men to become single mothers you’re not a damn victim 🤦🏾‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️most of you ignore all the red flags even before the child is here so cut that nonsense it takes TWO to make a life unless you’re a victim of SA I’m not trying to hear that

[@CarloWilburn-w9z]

​@@ResseDfaThis crash dummy had packed his pistol to visit his daughter!!!

[@kevinlawson3313]

I have enjoyed this series of the Baltimore Way. Keep it up my friend 💯💯

[@Tony2times]

Appreciate you fam thanks for tuning in 🙏🏾

[@commanderinqueef]

So it's not cool for her to have other men around his daughter, but it's cool for him to instigate a fight and shoot someone dead in front of his daughter?? Can't even begin to make that ignorant shit make sense🤦🏽‍♀️ Now she's gonna have as many men as she wants around his daughter while he's locked up for the rest of her childhood. Great parenting, dad🫡😮‍💨

[@christopherhayes1478]

Yeah he just don't want anyone in the way of his opportunities to Git wit her.

[@Grow_2_Blow]

Yeah he should've caught dude around the corner!!!

[@dirtyface-capone7622]

He snapped.Some people have thinner snap barriers.Don't take much.Stats prove most child abuse/SA happens at the hands of the mothers new boyfriend, not the biological father.Some men don't play like that.They're not willing to take the risk.Especially when they have daughters.They'll take you out on principal.

[@gregwhite7852]

THE MORE YOU KNOW🌠

[@jimmyjay689]

She choss to birth a child from that clown...what a great person...doofus!!!

[@stacyj3850]

Why is he mad about her having men around the daughter when she only called them over because she thought the daughter would be away & nit returned that fast. He was mad about a man in her house period.

[@kujoegoodie]

Never date a woman with kids...NEVER! If you do, DON'T play STEP DADDY! And DON'T be around when they have to do the kid exchange.. Stay in your lane.. It is NOT WORTH it... Now for him to snap like that.. I GUARANTEE YOU she was still having $ex with her baby daddy AND HE WAS MORE THAN LIKELY HELPING HER WITH MONEY... AND THAT IS THE REAL ISSUE... Just because a woman lays up with you does NOT MEAN you have to put ALL of your hard working TIME AND MONEY into her. If you have a kid...TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILD and act like she doesn't even exist unless it's a comment about THE CHILD.. It has to be like this now.. Look at how the man was KILLED that easy and then the woman STILL tried to make sure her baby daddy didn't go to prison by NOT telling the truth... Its pointless to even attempt to be a step father... POINTLESS!

[@tyrkegreen8837]

Smartest man on the internet !!!

[@deejai1173]

Didn’t care about his baby that much, to get into a fight and let shots go while she’s there.

[@bige8799]

If you don’t want other men around your kids you need to stay with that woman

[@Crazy-kk9jt]

Just another tragic situation smh and you mean to tell me that you willing to crash out over a female smh it don't make no sense.

[@HansumTrini]

All I'll care about; is if my child is RESPECTED and treated properly, and I'll make sure she respects the man. I grew up that way!!!!

[@Puddles7777]

She’s not a friend at all!!! I hope that man live in her head rent free!

[@gemayeljones248]

You can damnsure live in mine rent free, lol👀

[@Puddles7777]

@@gemayeljones248 lmao

[@JRT55]

Yea, sounds like her and the baby daddy were still screwing & dude shouldn't have got in the middle of their business, sad.

[@Puddles7777]

@@JRT55 nah just at the wrong place wrong time smh.. everyone is not your friend!!! All that man did was open the door smh 🤦🏼‍♀️ some ppl will use you for they messiness 🙄

[@jackiechun5817]

@Puddles7777 you can live in mine,but you Betta have your half come the 1st...you still cute though 😉💯💯💯💪🏾🧔🏾‍♂️

[@tayhollins8666]

He a 🤡

[@nebulatoni9316]

In the past I would argue that a woman can date just like the ex. And I know that the ex had the children around the new lady in his life. But now after seeing so many children being beaten to death by the mother's boyfriend, I say no. All over the news we hear about children being attacked in this way. I agree with him on this one. However, I have a question: You said he had picked up his daughter and decided to bring her back earlier than what was planned? Was the male friends over there when he picked her up?. If not then she invited them over with the understanding that her daughter was going to be with her father for the day right? I'm sorry it just makes no sense that he would get upset over it if that's how it happened. I'm so tired of seeing young people lose their lives due to their inability to think logically. Well, it is what it is.

[@therealdondada3208]

I was with my wife of 18 years with 6 kids. She divorced me and moved her new man in her mom’s house with her. She was granted full custody of my kids. He has 3 BMs and 4 kids of his own. It’s hard having another dude around your kids especially when you did everything as a man to make sure you was the provider and kept a roof over your families head, but god doesn’t like ugly and you reap what you sow. I wanted to crash out many of days and do what he did but I thought about how my kids would look at me afterwards. The kids see the madness and they love me even more.💯

[@Chris-ou2zp]

Women has destroyed nations

[@sweetpetergeda]

In her mom's house 😂. She was a joke from the start. How did you ever fall for somebody like that

[@therealdondada3208]

@@sweetpetergeda Young and dumb. I was 17 she was 15 when we met.

[@AntisocialblackMan365]

That's controlling behavior!

[@moedinyu7172]

To be real....as a co parent partner.....it don't really matter what you like or dislike your ex doin! They gon do it anyway! Jus pray they don't do nothin to directly hurt the baby! Think about it! What can yo ex tell YOU, about what you doin now!!?! See?! Jus gotta be fair!!! And remain calm!!! Ask questions! Be kind enough to get by!! Love yo child! Dont allow yo ego to be invited to the issue! It makes EVERYTHING sour!!!!

[@jrizzle51]

Brothers make peace with each other, enjoy some crab cakes and chill

[@yolandawilson6619]

It's not just about other men being around his daughter but in the home if it's not a serious relationship. If it's not a serious relationship, you don't need different men in your home. Simple as that.

[@srmmak4255]

Old school use to call it *The Green Eyed Monster * aka Jealousy aka Soft Batch of Cookies!!!

[@marshabright8473]

My condolences 🕊️🕊️🕊️

[@landsharkbang]

Why would you answer a woman's door 🤦🏿 for another man

[@edenhajas1445]

Sad 😔

[@almondereid9905]

If you’re not with your BM/BD you can’t stop them from having others around your kids. You can get mad and pout all day, but for what?

[@williamdaniels9337]

Been there, I knew how my BM was when it came to my daughter. She didn't allow my daughter to sit on ANYONES lap and had a problem with her sitting on mine so with knowing that and respecting that I had no worries. And did not want a problem with her because I was dating also, so I gave the respect that I wanted in return. It wasn't perfect but we had NO problems there.

[@shaybabyhughes]

Senseless once again!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@kayn8252]

🚨The daughter wasn’t at the house when the bd got there, so how is she having men around the kid if he had the kid. The truth is it has nothing to do with who was around his child.. the child’s father just wanted to know if the child’s mother moved on or not. Controlling behavior. Rip for the man who lost his life for nothing and his family. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@franknitti1190]

These women will set you up for failure.

[@Poppa-Lobo]

N's set they self up wit all this f'n outta wedlock. Nobody talks about this tho. Everything is just a big 5*ck fest. 🤷🏿‍♂️

[@Mad-UpperCuts]

I have to appreciate the fact that the narrator humanized the victim, and described his life and positive details of his life, instead of bringing up negatives of the man's life

[@slr-streetlegalrevenue899]

Your videos ain’t pop up on my feed in a minute‼️I gotta hit that notification bell 🔔

[@ihatecasuals5065]

Dude lost his life for a eater smh

[@derrickeverfield9543]

U can't give a grown woman orders about who she can't have at her spot at all,when y'all not a couple...men gotta understand you don't control another human, cause they are free too do wat they wanna do

[@MrMonopolistic]

304s will be 304s 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@jimmyjay689]

Are they free to get abortions or not pay child support?

[@derrickeverfield9543]

​@@jimmyjay689if the courts tell her too pay CS don't mean she will,and abortions that's her body my boi so wat u gone do cut the BBY out her? Crazy ass questions

[@donnawilliams6627]

I think she is lying she just don't want to be the blame for sending her child's father to jail. I am so sorry to the family for the loss of their Baby I hope and pray that the man who did this will rot in prison for the rest of his life. You do not have the wright to take a person's life your not god, If your are not with the kids mom you have no control over who the lady have at her house. She knew what the baby's father said to her why would you allow another man to answer your door. and now you don't know nothing your a$$ should be locked up to for not telling the truth.

[@Here1965]

The mother is lying her butt off. She just don't want to go against her child's father, but she's dead wrong for that. God will punish her for that.😢

[@sweetpetergeda]

Stop answering for God. You don't know nothing about that

[@jamiecottrell2631]

If I was the friend I would've not said anything to the baby daddy for what if I'm not dealing with the baby mama

[@Mrs.Cherall]

Thanks so much for sharing 💜

[@SKILLZGAMING5]

Difference between friends and associates

[@joevailes3258]

Glad I seen this I could see myself in a situation like this I jus meet my kid somewhere else let me know the environment before I come especially to drop my kid

[@b-morecareful4155]

Content 👍🏾💯❕I’m from Baltimore City u on point❗️❗️❗️

[@josianneash4553]

He shot the man becuz he couldn't beat him. Learn how to pick your battles. He's going away for at least 25 years. That's a shame.

[@anteup75]

Quintez lost his life for not shutting the fuq up. Shoulda minded his business. But I’d have just taken my child and left

[@srmmak4255]

How you start a Fight, but can't FIGHT🤔

[@JayLee-x8z]

Ain’t no way that shit should’ve went that far she should’ve answer the door and let her baby daddy know she has guest in the house to avoid any bullshit sometimes you gotta stop shit from happening before it happen

[@silentone4u2]

Damn, another one! You are on fire!

[@jeremiah1966]

Y'all better stop letting these people play games with your lives!

[@marquiesseonline]

Single men this should be an example cause i learned from it bro gone & she switched up

[@MrCalverino]

man I went thru that phase, Thats some tricky shit because if she does something he doesn't like, the new dude could harm her and the child

[@pgppe9488]

Two demons raised by single mothers fighting over a single mother. You can’t make this crap up.

[@ChrisTEAna43]

Is the issue the single mothers or the Dead beat fathers?

[@pgppe9488]

@@ChrisTEAna43 well, the mothers knew they would be single when they chose to cohabitate with losers. Yes, the fathers of the kids are responsible but it is the women’s body, so why allow losers to ruin your life. Why add all of the unnecessary stress in your life for a man you knew would leave from day one?

[@quincyb8565]

​@@pgppe9488amen

[@Stashketchumdc]

Cap. Single mothers have also created legends. Jay z, Drake, Kendrick Lamar, lebron James. Stop projecting. Just cause you’re a single mom that doesn’t make you a bad one. That blame sole goes on the man. Idgaf how many excuses you come up for the dead beat learn how to accept accountability 🤡

[@Lee-ed9wv]

​@@ChrisTEAna43trying to have it both ways is a trait of a three year old mentality. If its your decision to have the baby. Its your responsibility. Only children expect someone else to pay for what they do.

[@tanktaylor1222]

dear bM's & bD's ..hell even husbands & wives .wen the shii is over it's OVER!! MOVE ON .& .GET OVER IT!! u DO NOT own that person .u soooo concerned about who's going to be around ur child SEEK PLACEMENT either joint 0r full-time!! do urSELF and the children/families a fuq'N favor tho and get over yaself😒

[@jamalh6740]

Why I mind my business, she should of called the cops

[@thesmoothblackfalcon6460]

Now he isn't around his daughter at all. Should have taken his whooping and moved on. Now some other dude(s) are definitely going to be around his daughter and there's nothing he can do about it. Homie chose the wrong battle. Another case of dudes not thinking and a child having to suffer behind it.

[@danewoods644]

The Baltimore way alright. Ridiculous.

[@leomahoney7307]

Yo, I don't really don't comment that much.... However, keep doin ya thang! Love yo shit bro and when the Miss on too. Love it. Thank y'all... keep grinding, yall got it. 🍻

[@moniquespight8667]

If they made an agreement then she shouldn't have had another man around his daughter... Plain and simple.. These guys out here ain't wrapped to tight so i feel him...he shouldn't under any circumstances did what he did ... That could've been one of her girlfriends man he didn't know.. But like i Said an agreement is an agreement.. But with multiple people being there he shouldn't Even been tripping😢😢😢

[@nataliebradybroaddus2373]

A friend should be ok and everybody always talk that shit

[@NA-ko4ub]

So many ppl making poor decisions.

[@lesaineback9536]

Now who gone protect your daughter

[@cliftonjohnson2945]

I can tell you it raising a happy household with a mom and a father Tony God bless you😅

[@kje73]

Back in the day it was a stigma for a girl to be pregnant outside of marriage, she was considered "fast" if she got pregnant her parents would send them to visit relatives out of town until she gave birth and then she would say she was babysitting for her aunt for the summer, now these teens look at having babies as a badge of honor, it's difficult to find a girl 17 up that don't have a kid, I personally know a girl with 4 kids and only 19 years old ,the system has really brainwashed our communities and it is working just as they intend it to

[@underdog7495]

Facts. However, I don't believe it's a certain system that caused this. It was the feminist movement in the 70's and the influence in the media with these female rap artists that caused this spike in single mothers

[@LeaningOnJesus]

It's not about the bm/bd, it's about the child, and children don't need to be in grown folks business. He/she can come by as Uncle/Auntie, or he/she can come by when they're sleep/not home. Unless you're getting engaged to be married, ain't no need.

[@jayceonmorrow8383]

Me being a father and having a couple BMs we have an agreement that we want bring anyone around our kids if we don't plan on being with that person for a while. If it's just someone we having fun with hell no and we have to meet that individual ourselves to get a good feel of them.

[@Mistroemtm]

I like how you just took MY SLOGAN THE BALTIMORE WAY

[@tishawnabenjamin6824]

This was around the corner from my house😢😢😢

[@cynthiafreeman2995]

I respect him for not wanting random men in his child’s presence. “ catching a vibe having drinks” he should have kept her w him

[@shykilhayes6747]

Anyone you are certain is not going to be a permanent staple in your life should not be around your children although they should know you have children they should not even be able to lay eyes on your children until they made a commitment do their character over a period of time that they are trustworthy enough to Deem their commitment genuine

[@ayeasten]

it couldn’t be about the daughter if she wasn’t even up in there when he pulled back up he was definitely just jealous and controlling. now she gon have whoever tf she want around her and it ain’t nothing he can do about it 🤷🏽‍♀️ straight crash out mission smh

[@natenasaa1775]

She did wait until the kid was gone so she wasn’t wrong but it the kid was there and that was going on I could see him being upset because I’ve had something happen to my bby because of her mother’s decisions with a lame ass dude also that man should’ve stayed out their business u don’t tell another man shit when it comes to him and the kids mom let them sort that shit out

[@srmmak4255]

Not Child's Mother at fault, it takes two to Tangle and one to move.. Crazy comes in all genders all colors, young and Old

[@joannecahee2367]

HOW SAD!

[@SchuandraYoung-os2ll]

I wonder how much time they gave him

[@lesd2885]

If he was so concerned, why did he not marry the mother of his child and keep his family together?

[@Youngdouda]

Marry her🤔 bro this don’t even make sense

[@CarloWilburn-w9z]

Who's around his daughter now. This is spite and emotional jealousy. Man grow up!!!

[@LarryBrown-xi2gx]

All that lame had to do was see she had company and took his daughter with him to like adults later rest up doggie

[@terrionlacy976]

1st Degree for WHAT. He came to the scene and started to fight. They only charge us in cases like this mostly.

[@godsnotdonewithyouyet6955]

Just said dude was just trying to help and what she shouldn't even got involved!! Then she didn't want to cooperate at first and then the dad is a clown this is just sad😢

[@PrincessCashmonie]

What did I tell you? He’s not in charge of her.

[@renegadereid84]

I wish Quintez never stepped in because this dude was trouble 💯

[@davidtrent1245]

Controlling weirdo

[@FredoMiller-ei3lq]

That’s not what happened

[@stevenallen1567]

then what happen?

[@shebakesitluv9832]

@@stevenallen1567 they had BEEN broken up..The bm had BOTH men believing they were the father. Ant didn’t know this until SHE CALLED HIM TO COME TO THAT HOUSE THAT NIGHT. SHE locked the door when he came to get the baby that wasn’t even there. That dude Reds and his homie jumped Ant inside her house.. and well the rest is the rest.

[@313drepeso313]

How many years did dude get?

[@shebakesitluv9832]

30

[@ShaunWilson-zz1ir]

That shit definitely gone happen you gotta expect that

[@mmac6454]

She should of answered the door n should of told him she had company pior to him coming.

[@beanzmccalvin]

As long as they don't put their hands on my kids, they'll survive💯

[@Valerie-t7f]

He may have been trying to protect his daughter.... But the way people at today. This man could have been saying that to keep her from dating anybody. He didn't ask any questions. I mean, do you know the guy you can pull her to the side? You didn't call her that night on the phone. Waited out talk the next day. So it seems as if he's coming from a horrible space and she didn't want him to go to prison but think about it. This is the man you want to raise your child. He already hates you. He hates you enough to commit a murder in front of that Same child that he said he loved so much, And was protecting, but the child can see a murder???? You got to , wonder what was wrong with him. What did he really want? And she was just chilling with her friends. So now she can't even have friends definitely. She has to be protecting her child. As well, but he wasn't supposed to be bringing her back so soon and maybe the men would have been gone. You can't just guess!!!! which is what he did. He also had options. He could have told her. I'm gonna take her for a little while longer. While you chill with your friends and gone back to his mother's house. Or to his new woman's house or to his house.HE HAD OPTIONS!??? BUT WANTED CONTROL.....He could'VE TOOK her to the park.Spent more time with her....Its your kid that you care so much about right??? HE COMMIT MURDER IN THE CHILDS HOME To me neither parent was good enough.They're crazy and look what the child has to go through.Mother will be traumatized and so will the child her future is in danger

[@jim_doles410]

Main reason why I don’t go over women that have kids houses! Saves me da trouble

[@dionpage3710]

Im trippin over the fact that he died defending her and her loyalty is still with baby daddy?? Bruh should not even got involved. Rip.

[@danewz7]

That's some sick evil next level jealousy. Dude should get the penalty 💉 . And she knew what type of dude she had around her friends

[@corbinnoble5469]

You sound like a good Martin Lawrence

[@latoyalangley8179]

Omg 😮😢

[@lamarthompson9194]

Wow this story i definitely wasn't expecting to end like this.But iam not even going to speak to much because i understand how he felt but the problem i have is they weren't together and he had no right to tell her who she should have in her home especially if he wasn't paying bills there.And in the same breath i also understand that his concern was the men she was entertaining in her home because truth be told you do have to be careful who you bring around your children.Because you can't trust nobody today in this world we live in.But at the end of the day the violence that people tend to use because they dont agree with someone's decision doesn't make it any better.This could've went so many different ways without the violence.But when your in the heat of the moment you don't think with a clear head.Now he's sitting in jail and another life is gone.My condolences goes out to the family.😢

[@tinaross7037]

Oh, that's her house. She can do whatever she wants in her house.He was wrong on all levels

[@WilliePizarro]

Rest in peace " QUINTZ " May your soul REST in peace with our Lord JESUS CHRIST IN HEAVEN 😢😢😢 🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙🙏💙 condolences to the family and friends ❤❤❤❤❤❤ Note- I I know lots of females that have children and not together with the baby father , BUT yet it's best to still have a relationship as co parents raising the children, But to do it in a way that are friendly to everyone around, man or woman just get along for the Children SAKE ❤❤❤ Let the old love feeling for each other go away for good and begin pure friendship thoughts in, for the children well being.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 , LET'S PRAY.

[@Bigreddd4286]

Can't dictate what goes on at the other parents house despite fun having a pt about men being around his daughter. Now he's in jail & slither child is without a father over nothin 🙏🏽🕊️

[@shakebkqueen5846]

And then she wouldnt even tell on the bd in court so just screw the other guy smfh stay awY from women with kids and stay away from they house

[@franklinmckinney6805]

You can't control your baby mama's life now the system is controlling you're