Manipulation tactics of a narcissist

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Soul GPS

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@SoulGPS 2 жыл бұрын

Polska versja/polish version: kzbin.info/www/bejne/omSXaaGfpKeieZo

@handle13699 2 жыл бұрын

Wow haven't got a Soul GPS video in my feed for a long time, nice to see this new video 🤗

@edgreen8140 2 жыл бұрын

Find a partner not a project! They choose to use these victim or hero roles. Always something wrong with others ; but not them; blameshifting.

@echopathy 2 жыл бұрын

radical acceptance.. depressing to see folks unfold eventually into people who simple take. no reciprocation. especially those who i once admired as heroes growing up. sad.. and there's nothing i can do to change things, just keep myself in check. open doors for new people. thanks again~!

@edgreen8140 2 жыл бұрын

When you cannot communicate and are lazy as they are; they use infantile techniques. Primative defenses. Don't take their guilt! This clinician believes they are chronic takers of others ( exploitation). If they are not violent they are like emotional 2 year olds. This is the last person you should fear. They either play the hero or the victim. Many are silver spooned whose parents did everything for them. Some were abused. Don't fall for the pity play!

@zion367 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making these video. I notice that a lot of people are not able to see the evil in others because they do not understand that people act from such dark place. The thing that helps me see it is when i uncover my own dark aspects. For example when i look back at small manipulations that i have used in my past to make sure i got what i wanted. When i see it in myself, i can see it in others. But when people supress their own dark traits and they remain hidden in the subconcious, then they will also less likely to see it in others. Ofcourse our job is not to accept and live out these shadows we carry, but understand the needs they represent and then seek for healthy ways to ask for them to be met. Or in other cases take a risk of being rejected... that also happens. In general its mindblowing how few people see the shadowbehaviour of others. I am in a few fb groups and there i also see it happening in the comments. People who are trying to get rid of their own inferiority by calling others "honey" or "dear". It looks so innocent, but if you look at the context it is clearle a way of putting themselves above others. I notice all these type of behaviours and it really annoys me when i see it. Another off topic question; Could you discuss the difference between a trigger and normal emotions? For example the "honey" and "dear" words bring up a feeling of irritation within me, but i view this as a normal feeling due to the withnessing of toxic behaviour. Or is this a trigger? How to spot the difference? Thanks in advance! Much love! ❤

@cachaslokas 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for shedding some light into the subjec. What I've realised as a pattern, and I do not know if you agree, is that the moment you catch someone having a cognitive disonnant type of behaviour towards you, you are up front and honnest about their intentions being iffy, they deflect the blâme and go à step further into their behaviour which is stremely toxic. Specially if the behaviour is recidivist. Most of us have been offboard with à not adapted speech towards someone, I dont know whether it might be narcissism or plain worry, but not in a pervy way and still the moment we question ourselves, we make amends end of the story. It's so damn uncomfortable when it happens to us that inflicting that unto other people is not an option. If you are suffering from gaslightening, I wish you strength and peace to get out of the toxic spiderweb it really is. Bless

@samantastroud7841 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video

@heyhey8430 2 жыл бұрын

You are amazing girl 👏👏👏👏👏👏

@samantastroud7841 2 жыл бұрын

Great explanation about how important is to pay attention to what we feel.

@angelabrainky7786 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@emilianolopez4289 2 жыл бұрын

What about a true victim of narc abuse who is seeking help in others to heal from the narc trauma? Is he/she right to ask for help? Would telling her/his story to others be interpreted by others as an adquiered narcisisitic behaviour? What I am trying to say is that I dont want people make me feel guilty for wanting their support after traumatic aftermatch. Is it legit to seek the support from other abused victims of narc abuse, having been oneself a victim,.? It happened to me already that after seeking the help of other people, who had been victims of abuse like myself, that they ended up feeling overwhelmed by the harsh parts of my personal story of abuse, causing them to place boundaries on me, undirectly sending the message that I was behaving just like a narcisisit would with them, they said to me that I was throwing my "inner garbage" onto them. That sent the message to my mind that it wasnt right for me to seek their help in the first place, which added to the wound, already caused by the narc, of not feeling good enough to be around anyone.

@edgreen8140 2 жыл бұрын

You deserve to be heard. If a therapist doesn't get it go to another. I am ashamed of our field in dealing w this type of trauma.

@SoulGPS 2 жыл бұрын

Of course it’s okay to seek help and support. It’s okay to tell your story.

@thomasrathmann8886 2 жыл бұрын

You have to seek for help and it will be given with really good and understanding friends. Only a very few qualify, most don't. Search them, please. I have found two, and that is enough, they help me at any possible time, with every possible length and patience, better than any therapist could, I really love them for being there for me unconditionally, never giving me any feeling that I was wrong, never, only positive and most encouraging words. Without them, I would have been lost, and that I mean very seriously. They have tried for 2 years to get me off the hook, repeating like a broken record, who it was I was supporting, until they finally succeeded and now are there for me more than ever. It is so extremely difficult to let go, and then stay away !!! The true magic they did was to convince me that it is a good trait to care, to go on being helpful and kind and loving, positive. I haven't lost these features, they are stronger than before. Though only towards good humans who deserve kindness, and I have learned to discern well. I hope, you find friends of this magic kind too😍

@brianreed8271 2 жыл бұрын

It all just seems so stupid to me. My ex would have got more out of me if she just want to ask for it. I think what she really wanted out of me was my emotions. She wanted me to be as miserable as she was in life. As time went on the number of people that hung out with us was almost zero. After I divorced her I had to hunt down and reconnect with my friends.

@zeninme7980 2 жыл бұрын

Miss your videos! Hope you are doing well and hope we see you soon! Take much care! 💖

@SoulGPS 2 жыл бұрын

Gearing up for more soon!

@zeninme7980 2 жыл бұрын

@@SoulGPS Great!! 💜

@margaretmicherda6136 2 жыл бұрын

Good morning, I'm writing on another topic. I watched your interview on Pain Free Life and is it possible to share a therapist name? I live in US but I am fluent in Polish. How she do video sessions? I understand if can not be shared. But if there is a chance to get in touch, pls let me know. I struggle with pain.

@miodragradosavljevic8517 2 жыл бұрын

I was just transitional target, she is in stable marriage for years now, stable marriage but with me it was 5.5 years of just hoovering and after that coldness and discard... mine self-worth is destroyed, I was just used and someone is good enough for marriage and normal life..., how to resolve this past ?

@SoulGPS 2 жыл бұрын

I’d recommend engaging in long-term therapy with a good psychologist. It sounds like you have a big story to tell with a lot of gold to discover.

@miodragradosavljevic8517 2 жыл бұрын

@@SoulGPS thanks 👍

@sirlarek 2 жыл бұрын

I don't want to take away the responsibility piece...or accountability, however poor development in childhood is a common denominator that may also include a genetic predisposition. There are different brain functions. The behavior is highly predictable as a repeating pattern which indicates rigidity of thinking or of limited cognition. Though we need to protect ourselves, we don't help the big picture by using dehumanizing language. Setting a rabid dog back out into the wild doesn't help anyone else.

@natann2760 2 жыл бұрын

Please make a video on how do we know that the ex is indeed a covert narcissist... So many signs point to this fact but I'm still confused.. What are the signs of a male covert narcissist.. Thank you so much for your wonderful work. God bless

@SoulGPS 2 жыл бұрын

I did. Here is a link: kzbin.info/www/bejne/larEqWyso5mJfKc

@franciscoguevara9727 2 жыл бұрын

The truth is that most people had childhood trauma, and only a percentage became narcisists. They can try and use that as an excuse for their abuse, because they are very good at looking for excuses and deflecting. But because i was the family scapegoat growing up, and i have retired that role since i got into healing 3 years ago and started setting healthy boundaries. An unburdening and externalizing the lies, and starting a reparenting process of selfcompassion towards myself, i dont accept bullshit from the family. My father was so fucking abusive, but there can be narcisistic women too, ofcourse, and borderline women , histrionic etc. Cluster b's doesnt discriminate gender. Haha! Anywho. My dad was so abusive, and he then when i talked and started speaking up against the abuse growing up as in emotional consequences that i am healing and have healed for 3 years from, he accused me earlier on of making it up. They do live in an alternate reality, and if you were born into such a system we have healing to do and there is support out there for trauma, but the awareness about narcisistic abuse is getting out. Since narcisists come from a background of trauma, there can be narcisits, in the field of healing trauma, and in support groups etc. They'll say they have trauma, and they're right about it, but there abusiveness doesnt go away, and in these places , I need to learn how to navigate them, to not shut out the good connection and support I do get there, but they're even good triangulators so its difficult, because they can whisper to the other empathic people gossip and thats what they do, I need to keep boundaries and good communication , and also connect with people because there are healthy people out there i talk to them on the daily. I just might be quite informed about narc abuse and also 3 years into my healing journey, that not everybody understands what im saying because, not everyone has experienced it or some people choose to enable it. In any event i do celebrate safe enough support , and healing thats possible, and i do celebrate getting back out into thriving and leaving the abuse behind and championing agency, autonomy individuation sense of self and healthy boundaries, and fun, emotional sobriety and being connected to ones hobbie, and God., who loves us the fair ones, and the just ones, and those with good heart and that are trying to keep healing , and value ourselves with selfdignity selfrespect honesty authenticity, and worth, empowerment, freedom, expression, connection, curiousity, living, wholeness helping others etc

@holly1725 2 жыл бұрын

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@thomasrathmann8886 2 жыл бұрын

Oh yes, this victim's role to gain attention and financial supply is cyclic applied, to the point of threatening to end her young life, very fortunately not working with me anymore, though I feel endless pity for all those still trapped in her black hole world of alternate reality. Titles of Narcissist's last 3 attention-seeking videos, in time order, while she noticed that the supply (income) drained more and more, and people turning away. "feeling drained" - "struggling with burnout" - "a kind of rock bottom". I know well that she had a very difficult childhood, though she has a choice, and she chose to play victim, stay a wounded girl, and exploit good emphatic people, friends, treating them mean, careless, disdainful, almost as if they are enemies, and for that there is no excuse. Please give her remaining supporters the insight and strength to leave. "Rock Bottom" is good, though the chance that she now remembers my former offer to finance at least 100 therapy-sessions is equal to zero, like that she would apply it, like that it would be more than a hard time for the poor therapist, and I wouldn't repeat the offer, too late.

@SoulGPS 2 жыл бұрын

Indeed, chronic victimhood is the core of narcissism.