A True Soulmate pt 2: For love or money

[@dgriffith7566]

Good afternoon RABBI!

[@sharanbailey4468]

I love listening to you . Your voice is calming .

[@shirleycrosner634]

Better to be alone - rather than being with the wrong person / Chemistry - Communication - Affection - Trust - are all things we hope to have from a marriage / I've never been married - and I've missed the boat - but at 66yrs of age - why rock the boat , and try to find happiness with other aspects of life... With a 50% failure rate - I'd rather buy a lottery ticket $ 🤣

[@moishe43]

I don't agree you are never one with your children. I have never felt such togetherness with anyone as I do with my 3 year old daughter. The first person I have ever known who shares my DNA. We are one. She isn't number three. She is number one.

[@stlouisix3]

Loyalty to Marriage is more important than the existence of love, s-x or money in relationships though love is necessary and if a man loves God he will naturally desire to make money.

[@ErikaRodriguez-db5kg]

I got pregnant at 17 and my boyfriend now soon to be ex-husband didn't want to marry at the time. Then, I became pregnant as 23 again from him and I asked him to just help me with child support in 1991. Then, he said..."I'll marry you." My response was...I don't want you to marry me just because you never had a father figure in your life and you feel that this is what you need to do, so that our daughters would have a father in their lives? Because if this is the reason why you wish to marry me? Then everything will go wrong in our marriage. Of course he said..."I want to marry you because I love." "Because we have known each other since junior high school." I asked him again...are you sure that you want to marry me? Because I don't want you to marry feeling forced just because I because pregnant again with your child. Then, he gave the same answer from before..."I love you and I want to marry you." We got married and he just became more verbally and physically abusive towards me and our 3 daughters. He was verbally and physically abusive before we were married but I thought that he would stop with time but he never did. Instead he just continued getting worse as years went on. The abuse continued for 33 years and he would always tell me..." I think that you should find someone to love you because I can't give you love." Then I would respond...in that case let's just get a divorce. But he would say..."If you divorce me ?" "Then I will not help you with our daughters' education and you will be a terrible mother for doing that to them and ruining their future." He would make me so guilty for wanting to leave a loveless marriage. He was always a double minded man. He would tell me..."I love you with all of my heart." When I made him so angry, he would say..."you should find someone else to love." "You should find someone younger than you." When he said that, I knew that he was having his affairs with younger women from his work. We never loved me and only used me for our daughters future but I never used him. Because I really did love that man so much but he had and was continuing to destroy me emotionally with his verbal and physical abuse that I was always crying alone. I had to hide in order to release all the sadness that this man was creating in my soul. I understand that yes I had to love my husband but when he didn't want to change in 33 years and stop the abusive behavior and being really blind, even though he went to anger management. He still didn't change and used GOD'S words to continue with his verbal and physical abuse for 33 years. I knew that he didn't live me but hated me. I want to understand what you are saying in this video. Because I certainly don't agree with some of the things you say.

[@Andre25167]

He says to follow God and let him lead you. At first ,you clearly said " I got pregnant by my then bf" did God lead you to that relationship or did you do it yourself? You basically lived life without his guidance because once you take things into your hands you are the God and you are leading yourself not God leading you.

[@kimkusma4007]

This is very confusing to me. I am totally lost on marriage and creating oneness. If you dont love the person you marry, how can you be intimate with them? There has to be some sort of feeling there or intimacy can not happen. If you have no sort of feeling for the person, there is no possible way one can let that person touch them or become intimate. I would feel my body was being violated in a way. When you care for a person and that person cares for you, love comes or what we call love and a feeling of oneness occurs without even trying. When you feel you cant wake up or live without that person in your life, i feel that is when you know you have found your soulmate.

[@insaanietihad-MSB]

Okay let me try help you clear your head on this, so basically you marry yourself because it's a reunion of your half soul. So loving your spouse would mean self love and loathing, it's a union to one's own self so that together they both unite with HaShem as a whole or complete soul both femine and masculine together.

[@insaanietihad-MSB]

Beautiful remove every"THING" and marry for becoming one. So powerful

[@kimkusma4007]

@@insaanietihad-MSB Yes , I get that point but finding your soulmate isnt just anyone. I feel marriage isnt just to fulfill the commandment. It is about finding your soulmate which may take time. I might have misunderstood, but if you marry the wrong person, it may end up in a divorce which in turn may be a bigger issue especially if children are involved. Marriage is a once in a lifetime commitment and shouldnt be taken lightly. I feel if you rush into it , you may make a mistake and miss your true soulmate that is meant for you. I feel HaShem makes it known to a person when the right person comes along by giving us the feelings we feel for that particular individual. It is a feeling that has no words to explain it.

[@insaanietihad-MSB]

@@kimkusma4007 Exactly a feeling which can't be expressed in words it feels like easy ness, oneness, some sort of chemistry or something. I think our soulmate heal us, make us happier, make us a better version of us bring out the best in us all the time so effortlessly. Also if we do a little exercise which I have introduce myself and tried and texted on myself is something interesting. When dating and looking for potential spouse imagine that person with you for 24 hours. Like imagine that person is with you in whatever your thinking, doing or going through that person existence should be conscious in you. I think that will determine if that person is your soulmate or not.

[@kimkusma4007]

@@insaanietihad-MSB Agreed. Oneness is a better word to use than not being alone. To marry just to not be alone seems so tacky and selfish. I believe its so much more than not being alone.

[@insaanietihad-MSB]

Because a perfect being doesn't want to be alone. Marriage is that we are not alone we have our other half with us and we are one together and no longer alone nothing else.

[@kimkusma4007]

We are never truly alone. HaShem is always there. Marriage is holy and so special as long as it is with the right person aka soulmate. Marriage is so much more than not being alone.

[@insaanietihad-MSB]

@@kimkusma4007 But a married man or a woman is not alone because they are married offcourse HaShem is always there with us guiding us to our mission like a Shepherd, but after marriage our union with HaShem is multiplied and transformed into another level.

[@kimkusma4007]

Marriage makes a oneness so we arent alone..yes, but its not the only reason for marriage. Just dont marry anyone not to be alone, that would be a mistake. Marriage is a start of a family. It is a whole different level to be experienced together in happiness and love. It is a love that only marriage can bring.

[@insaanietihad-MSB]

@@kimkusma4007 But sometimes there is no family but only wife and husband so just because a husband or a wife is unable to have children the marriage is pointless no it's not. Marriage is much more yes because after marriage a man and a woman can perform so many Mitzvots that they can't bring alone or single. Their is a misunderstanding that we think we decide to get married no it's HaShem who decides whom we marry. Yaakov and his wife Leah is a classical example he wanted to marry Rachel but Leah became his wife. Now offcourse Yaakov's true soulmate is only Rachel and that's the reason he felt so much connected to her but Leah was brought into his life by HaShem and he had to accept her too.

[@kimkusma4007]

@@insaanietihad-MSB yes but it seemed his soul was never satified just with leah. He did all he could to be with Rachel. He never intended to marry leah but had to because she was next in line.

[@tedbrown7058]

Cb says it all comes out in the wash in the end.

[@CM-gc7mv]

Is there a part 3?!

[@littlenoahwilliamssyndrome8711]

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