dealing with scars // my honest journey (with pictures) - shame, guilt, anger

[@sofiya6268]

i've been feeling so ashamed and gross going outside with my (healed) scars lately because of the warm weather... everybody stares or looks at me either in disgust or pity... thank u for this video

[@marieroseeee]

you are beautiful, even when you don’t feel it. xxxx

[@sofiya6268]

@@marieroseeee thank you you're so lovely and kind

[@whythoidk]

Saame, it would be nice to not feel like a failure for having scars and I cant relate lol

[@whythoidk]

Mine are generally pale and faded but i do understand how vulnerable it can feel to show your scars around other people. Some days it feels like no one even notices that i have scars, other times it genuinely feels like Everyone notices mt arms

[@clarapitkin600]

I recently wore my scars out for the first time around my theatre group with my best friend by my side the entire time. It was difficult at first and people asked about them, but having my friend made it so much easier. She’s my Pip :) my top tips would be to have a close safe person with you, and to have responses ready for the occasional question. Thank you for this discussion Marie, it was very helpful and insightful. Love you girlie ❤️

[@andreamanca7079]

I'm a guy and I've never selfharmed, but the feelings you took out of me in this video having gone through a lot of the other stuff you've gone through gave me goosebumps. Thanks. I needed that and to accept those feelings about my troubled past.

[@rosieedwards9186]

Just the topic I needed to hear about, I've been struggling to cope with the guilt of my scars even though I know I shouldn't be. Thank you Marie! I hope you are doing okay :) xx

[@ceryswhite9716]

Your chanel makes me feel so safe . Ive been struggling since i was 12 im now 17 and still struggling and self harming but getting better. Its a scary world but i always watch your videos for comfort i could never wear shorts or short sleeves it scares me to much. So many people stare its horrible. But thank you for making me feel so safe with your videos❤️

[@Name-oe4fq]

This video felt a lot more personal and I enjoyed even more then the videos before (which I still love). Marie, your videos made me feel so much more confident about myself and I don't know how to thank you enough for it. Love you, take care everyone!💗💗

[@marieroseeee]

honestly, you don’t know how much this comment means to me. thankyou so SO much. 😭🥰 u da bestest xxxxx

[@gillybee5565]

Please, marie and these young google experts on m^h are NOT therapists, they are the kinda people you would meet in a and e on a pissed night

[@Iliveforthemoon]

Rest in peace 💗🕊️You helped many people.

[@mommy3405]

What she’s dead?

[@Iliveforthemoon]

@@mommy3405 unfortunately yeah :/

[@ventiwtff]

@@Iliveforthemoonwhat? how did she die?

[@bellavuong]

@@Iliveforthemoonwhat happened??

[@hannah7841]

I just self harmed and I’m 25 years old. It doesn’t have a limit. I’m so sorry for anyone who has felt those feelings. I hope you bloom and grow and become happy.

[@noblehonorable]

I feel you, I'm 24 and I did it recently. I hope you're alright, you'll get thru this like she said it's a process.

[@hannah7841]

@@noblehonorable thank you so much ☺️ hope you’re okay too! Stay strong ❤️

[@ameliamacek4300]

I relate to this so much. Thank you for sharing, Marie. It really is a process to get confident. I wore long sleeves for a long, long time. A big moment for me was being told that just because people are looking, doesn’t mean they’re judging. ❤️

[@mel-me3rf]

i work with kids & they’ve asked about my scars. i’ve told them that i was sick when i was younger and they usually understand..i’ve been grateful to have it that way. thank for making this ❤

[@andersonsmith8625]

Hey Marie, I know this might sound weird coming from me but I find your openness really inspiring. As someone who started hurting myself at 21, so a fully grown man, there's really not a whole lot of stuff aimed at people like me which leaves me feel really alone in my pain as no one talks about it and that means I feel like I can't talk about it. Shame and stigma really hurt my recovery but you being so open I'm sure is helping lots of people break that stigma and shame.

[@marieroseeee]

hey.. i know this is weird but would you ever want to talk more about this? i really want to cover a video about men’s mental health but honestly, i have no idea where to start as a white, young female.. if you would ever be interested and want to talk more then my email: [e-mail] 🤍 sending you so much love. you got this xxx

[@andersonsmith8625]

@@marieroseeee I'm happy to talk to you about it if there's anything you want to know. Thanks for the well wishes. I've gotta say I'm a bit clueless about everything still to this day but yeah. If there's anything you're interested in I might be able to talk about something with you. Thanks for taking an interest in men's mental health, I feel like it is often overlooked because of advantages elsewhere in life, there's kinda a collective it could be worse attitude. I'll drop you an email in a little bit. This isn't my real name so I'll include something so you know its me

[@breephoenix111]

@@andersonsmith8625 there's an email in the description box

[@andersonsmith8625]

@@breephoenix111 Yeah I found it last night thanks through her channel page, I've already emailed. Thanks though! Its a different email but is much closer to what was in Marie's comment, a gmail account, so I think that that is probably what was meant, it was only one letter off so just a typo I think

[@breephoenix111]

@@andersonsmith8625 hope it helps and i hope you guys do a video on men's mental health, it's an extremely important topic. Please remember to reach out to someone, anyone if you need help. There's absolutely no need to suffer in silence male or female. Men's suicide numbers are increasing. Please reach out for help if you need it. I'm in Australia and off to bed. Take care of yourself and remember you matter 💛🌟! Please check out @themancave on Instagram.

[@katyr2382]

For me personally, I had both my arms tattooed over my scars by Poppy Smallhands who specialises in tattooing over scars (first saw/heard about her on a BBC3 doc). I couldn't bear looking at my arms and that was the biggest factor. I had kept my arms covered even in the house for 10 years but since having my arms tattooed in 2019 I love looking at them and am happy wearing short sleeves. The scars have actually flattened a lot too from the tattooing which is an added bonus Like I said, the above is my personal experience. I wish I could have got used to my 'bare' arms but for me I don't think that was going to happen

[@Circusmaid]

I'm so happy it worked out for you!! I'd love to get tattoos to cover them one day, too

[@hopebashford2645]

Honestly marie I'm so proud of you and so proud of how far you've come in the years I've been following you. You are one sensational human and such an inspiration. Thank you so much for this, it's a video I actually really needed x

[@marieroseeee]

hope you are constant for me and you do t know how much you mean to me. throughout everything I SEE YOU, i see the support and i’m very lucky to be able to have an influence in your life in anyway xxx

[@hopebashford2645]

@@marieroseeee I'm here to stay honestly and I'm supporting you all the way :) I'm so grateful for you and so grateful that I came across you when I did. Your amazing 💗

[@ray-tf8nj]

I really want to thank you for uploading these types of videos, i never know how to deal with all my problems and guilt, but this really makes me feel like im not alone

[@beinguniquebeingmeeve]

Such a good chat Marie it can be hard having scars and people asking the question of what happened thankfully now it rarely happens 💖

[@surfdemon]

thank you for talking about this!❤️like you said it's a process and i'm so fkn proud of myself that i'm now able to walk in the streets with my head held high in shorts and a t-shirt💗💗

[@marieroseeee]

SO FUCKIN PROUD 🤍

[@mcj1448]

Love u lots marie! So proud of your progress! I learned allot from you, after years i can finally accept my scars. With your help i am now 1.5 years selfharm free!

[@rosieedwards9186]

That's amazing well done! x

[@Flo-cy4xc]

I'm the one who asked you this question on TikTok (I think it was on there?...) I'm glad you weren't upset about it, it really REALLY was not meant to be hatefull or intrusive. Thank you for opening up to us about it, I think it can help a lot of people to know that you can get better, accept them and be confident, but that you also need to understand the consequences, the looks, the questions... Hope you're doing well, love from Paris !

[@boinkadoinkk]

I honestly cried watching this, thank you SO much for this vid! The shame is so fking painful and its so damn hard to grow out of it. I started watching your vids after being discharged from inpatient early last year, and you’re honestly one of the biggest reasons why I’ve been able grow out of that immense shame and guilt. Just seeing others be confident in who they are in spite of their mental illness really helps you feel less alone, I definitely felt like an alien for a while before I came across you lol. Thank u for being you!! 💓

[@amandalemay3803]

Girl,you have no idea how you have gotten me through this past year with my own mental health journey dealing with anxiety and depression. Mental health is a very serious issue that unfortunately not many understand or want to come to terms with.Im so happy that you have grown so much .Never feel guilty or shameful of your scars they are reminders of your battle that you won.

[@martyna1961]

I already commented but can't see it so just in case it didn't go through or got deleted etc. I just wanted to say thank you. Marie, it's because of you that I'm able to show my scars. You made me feel human and I really appreciate you sharing this story because it must have been hard. You are absolutely incredible and just thank you for helping me in ways no-one else could. Sending virtual hugs💗

[@noellebombardier7556]

Awe videos where it feels like you’re giving a pep talk and telling stories to relate are my fav🥺 this I love this topic a lot I feel like it’s such a common thing and is known to everyone around you because the repercussions of mental illness can be physical. Thank you for this.

[@mollscadman]

Its really really helpful to me to hear you talk about this positively. Because when you go out with scars on show it feels so lonely and isolating like I'm the only one struggling with the shame. But its good to know more people do too. If I saw someone outside with scars on show I'd feel so proud and impressed by their bravery. And anyone who shares their negative opinion on it aren't worth the time of day anyway

[@charlottedean3937]

I think for me, the way I've become more confident is through exposure? Like every time I go out and no one comments, or friends and family are accepting, I guess it reminds me that my scars aren't the only glaringly obvious thing about me. It's been on my mind a lot more recently, what with the warmer weather, so thank you for making this video, Marie 💛

[@jkally1]

This was such an honest, natural and reassuring video. You're really helped me come to terms with my surgical scars, not self-harm related but the there was a lot of emotional and physical pain connected to them. So thank you

[@alexlynn6652]

Thank You so much for being open and honest about your experience. I can relate to your experience so much especially your prom experience I recently had the same experience in may. I am currently working my way up to being confident wearing short sleeves. Thank you for sharing your experience and sharing that it does get better.

[@holly712]

I really admire your progress. As well cause I’m 16 and have also struggled you are such a good role model for carrying on and understanding there is so much more to live for. I recently started talking to a guy who makes me feel so happy and confident with myself. I’m so happy I’m still here to feel these happy emotions. Keep going and never give up because your doing so well Marie 🌙

[@Circusmaid]

The summer's coming up and im really worried.... I overheat quite easily, but noone knows about my scars. I hope someday I'll get to the same place as this beautiful person is at

[@josiemarie3828]

I want to give you the biggest hug💖 thank you for sharing this, and for always managing to make so many of us feel less alone! Sending you so much love x

[@hayleymarie8004]

I wish I could explain to you how much this video helped me and how much I appreciate and just adore you! 💕 You're an absolute inspiration and I'm so, so proud of you and all you have achieved. You deserve nothing but the best. I've been watching you for years now and I just love you so much! I just, I need you as my bestie 🤣💕 So much love 💖 xxxxx

[@kaykazoo]

This is the most perfect video right now, I'm starting a new job on Monday, where nobody knows about my scars. My last job, I got tons of comments on my scars (I had to wear a short sleeve there) mostly harmless, but I just didn't know how to respond to it or deal with explaining to people. I can already tell this vids gonna put me in a better mindset about it :))

[@MikailaJoy]

Been watching you for 3 years now, youre doing so well. So proud of you Marie 💖

[@LachlanTaylor-r3s]

I am currently that 14 year old struggling with sh and scars. This really gave me some perspective. Hope you're alright gorgeous ❤

[@Rebelwithacause94]

I have made peace with my scars on my arms I have to show them all the time due to my job but with the rest of my body it’s a struggle. I still don’t feel so confident with my thighs stomach and shoulders it’s still an insecurity. You’re such a brave and beautiful person you are such an inspiration to me I love watching your videos they make me laugh and think as well xx thank you

[@witpix6]

i don’t usually cry because of videos but i related to so many things said and it made me cry. i hope one day i can feel comfortable to have my body.

[@sootsnsqueak]

Marie, this is so beautifully candid, well done to all your progress chick, you've done absolutely fantastic and it's so incredibly inspiring to see! Love you so much!

[@georgianicholls8259]

thank you for this Marie I could tell that this was a hard video for you to make so proud of you lots of love

[@christychurch6043]

you are amazing. thank you for telling your story. pain leaves a mark.

[@aysheaeastwood563]

I think you are such an inspiration and honestly you should be so so proud of how far you have come on your journey !! Xx

[@LIZZYBANKSS]

its nice to catchup with youu, glad to see you are finally haappierr x

[@NatalieMH98]

Thanks for this video, I really needed it! Struggling with accepting my scars and trying to go out of my comfort zone this summer after covering up for years. It seems so authentic and you talking about your experience and hearing your growth is inspiring and motivating. Some day I will be confident too! 💕

[@clarabarra2231]

I appreciate this chat and you so much… made me feel so understood but also able to understand and empathize so much more. Thank you endlessly for opening up 🤍

[@louloubell7288]

I love Albie chilling on the chair in the background 🐶💕. Desensitised 💕

[@EmmaTH1998]

Needed this! Especially with all the hot weather we’ve been having, it’s incredibly hard. I think I’m so paranoid that I make it worse for myself in the sense I think everyone is staring when in reality they ain’t even looking at me. Trusting the process, especially after relapsing around New Year ik one day I’ll not even think about my scars or what to wear 😊. LY Marie and seriously proud of how far u’ve come xx💕

[@mandy5313]

When I was on holiday years ago when I was a teenager this man asked what I had done to my arm and laughed at me. I didn’t say anything to him about it. It really hurt me.

[@martyna1961]

I'm sorry you experienced that. It must have been horrible. Try to look at it in a way that people who do that are just ignorant, horrible people and that man didn't just target you, he would've made fun of anyone for anything. Just please remember that scars are just part of an illness and there's no shame in having them. I hope you're alright and I'm sending a virtual hug💗

[@mandy5313]

@@martyna1961 Thank you for your lovely message😌💜

[@taylorwalsh794]

Your videos have become such a comfort to me

[@lucyrbuchanan]

the k you for everything you do i love you and i’m so greatful to have you! you have just made my day and i love watching you thank you for everything you do! 🌙xx

[@marieroseeee]

🌙💖💖💖💖 so grateful for u xxxx

[@Echo-yk1id]

Love this more vulnerable side to you. Wondering if you would do a video about coping with friendship losses, and how to "find your people".

[@morganroberts7636]

i truly hope i can meet you one day (when times are safer) and give you the biggest hug and say thank you in person. i know that may not be for a while so for now i will write it out to you. thank you. you truly are such a beautiful and genuine soul and i have loved keeping up with your journey over the years. i truly wish you had never been through any of this shit, no one deserves it, and to hear the experiences you've had truly breaks my heart. i'm so glad you're in a better place, and i know there will still be many ups and downs to come but please remember how strong you are and that i believe you can get through anything. you should be so fucking proud of yourself, you have achieved so many great things and i know there are so many more to come. i hope you are staying as happy and safe as possible during these times, sending you lots of love and i know i am just a random follower/subscriber but i hope you know you can reach out if you ever need a friend or a chat xoxoxoxox ✨🦋💜

[@marieroseeee]

this really made me cry. my life, currently and very abruptly, has taken a turn for the worse. but my mental health is so so strong. i’m a stronger person and i can deal with things that life chucks at me. i want you to know that leaving this comment has made me believe things that i’ve thought could never be true. but you reminded me and i’m forever grateful to have been even a. star in your sky. i hope (since you watch my viceos) that you are okay.. or at least doing better - please, never stop fighting. it’s so worth it. i love you x

[@morganroberts7636]

@@marieroseeee thank you for your response, it means the world. i am deeply sorry to hear things have taken a bad turn, please please never forget there is a light at the end of the tunnel and if you aren’t able to cheer yourself on, know that I’m cheering you on from the sidelines! you are truly a gem and your presence in my life, although very far away, has had a major impact. i love you too, you’ve got this 💖💖💖

[@queenjulianalovesherfatban2064]

Does anyone else feel like they are solely defined as a person by their scars? Like sometimes I feel like the person I am has changed based on the fact that I now have scars that weren't there five years ago. Almost like my worth has changed because of the marks on my arms

[@mentalhealthwithalana]

This is the most relatable video ever! Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@noblehonorable]

you seem like such a nice person I hope you're good now mentally!! sending you lots of love + I completely understand your past experiences.

[@duerremueller3609]

She passed away last year unfortunately

[@kruzhka_chaya_]

So proud of you! I agree about the absence of guilt or at least its lesser presence being the reason for being able to wear scars in public. I kinda forget now that I have scars. I see them but just don't register. Unless it comes to some super official stuff. It's like when you put something new in your room but eventually, stop noticing it all together because you see it so often. If anything, I know that my wearing scars in public helps some people. I had people come up to me and share things they hadn't shared with anyone before. Maybe there will be a couple judgmental people but people will judge you for everything, so why bother. Once you know your truth, people can't mess with it. And my truth is that I am a survivor, I made it through and I know I am not the only one.

[@hotbrunette2004]

after finally getting a job after 2 years of isolation. i never used to even notice my scars when it was just me by myself everyday but now that i am surrounded by (VERY NORMAL) people everyday i have become so insecure about them and i feel like everyone is judging me even though they are all 3 years healed

[@whythoidk]

If I'm honest as someone who has scars on their arms, it's true that it's often shocking, upsetting or unnatural for someone to see self harm/self injury scars on someone's body. So I feel like I can kind of understand why it would be upsetting or unpleasant for someone to see potentially very raised or red scars on someone's body even if they're healed, however having said that it's not an excuse to make hurtful, demeaning or abusive comments about someone's body because they have scars. I would say to anyone who wants to educate themselves or research more about self harm that it is a common and potential symptom of many mental health conditions so i would say its a symptom of an illness that we shouldnt shame people for

[@hayleywarren8186]

Love this video. So amazing, love you marie

[@marieroseeee]

thankyou!! xxx

[@jasminerivera5110]

Thank you for sharing this 😢😢😢

[@tessward2221]

A little bird told me you were replying to comments 🤭🤭 love this video just chill and chatty 💕💕

[@alexhackett8023]

over the past year i have gained a lot more scars so i am having to kind of 'relearn' how to be confident in showing them again. i am fine with certain people seeing like my fiancee and my close friends but i constantly wear clothes that cover them up in front of my fiancees family and more recently, i have started a new job and it's BOILING hot in the office which is difficult. i was recently told to take my cardigan off and it made me super uncomfortable. i hope soon i learn to just not care again and accept my scars like you have. i think as they are newer so more red as well it makes things worse but hopefully they will fade and be less visible soon too

[@queenjulianalovesherfatban2064]

Thank you so much for making this ❤️❤️

[@lifeofeve17]

There is a massive difference between being genuinely shocked/upset/scared by seeing that someone has scars and i sympathise because as someone who has them, i know it isn't anatomically "normal" to see self harm scars on someones body. But experiencing a stranger getting genuinely angry at someone just because they have scars or shouting an abusive comment at someone across the street because you can see that they have scars, is completely unnecessary and not justified by any means

[@sarahbrown2571]

love you marieeeee you're doing amazing

[@marieroseeee]

love you!!!

[@kylagoodale9066]

Omg hi I'm so happy and excited to see thiis i love you!

[@ilovemusic7814]

this helped me a lot. thank you

[@Eliot_86]

For me scars are not an invitation to ask. They are a part of my skin, my body, my story. And strangers are not entitled to that.

[@lornatw]

❤ as someone who goes to church and is a teacher trainee I struggle because in school I have to cover up even in summer whether I have scars or a tatoo and I'd like to get a tatoo as it's more accepted than previously but then in church I'm looked down on for my scars and also if I were to get a tatoo. Like I can't win. I also dont like traumatising anyone especially kids with my scars and that's just my choice. But tattoos are also looked down on. And mine are only on my wrist side of my arm like my forearm.

[@marieroseeee]

omg I KNOW EXactly how you feel!!! literally cannot win???

[@lornatw]

@@marieroseeee IKR, we shouldn't care so much how others perceive us or how we affect them, it's a trait of mine that hurts me more than it helps me but I just get such a guilt complex if I allow myself any kind of freedom. Probs why I'm in therapy 🤣👌🏽🙄

[@thehoundhedgehoghippie7346]

Love you queen 🌙💛

[@yardogyuh2049]

This is so damn relatable

[@yardogyuh2049]

Your amazing to be honest and so brave. Its so nice to hear someone else's story and I love you so much

[@Joel1998_]

You're videos have helped me so much. I can happily say I'm at that point in my life, where I don't give a fuck about my scars and if I get stared at. Some of us wear our addictions. I may get tattoos in the future I may not. But I'm content with my body. We are all perfectly imperfect, and that's what makes us beautiful. I love all of you.

[@marieroseeee]

“some of us wear our addictions” what a powerful statement. honestly, i’m so glad to here you say that you’re no longer ashamed - what a fuckin power person you are. so inspiring, thankyou xxxx

[@pengtingshwingaling3563]

thank you so so much for this

[@madeline4307]

Love this video! X

[@aliahwoodall771]

idk if this is just me but I feel exposed/naked whenever I wear short sleeve shirts because of my scars

[@sarabakkenget8797]

Lots of love🌙

[@mommy3405]

If anyone has experience dating with scars, how did your partner react?

[@sarahjo5570]

wait what's the song you were singing at the end that was wholesome also I agree, it's definitely a process and it takes so much time and requires just more and more positive or neutral experiences to reset the anxiety that it's just going to be a horror show if you show them. Like there are still days where I'll wear long sleeves just to avoid the eyes if my anxiety is bad, like I won't show my arms to make it easier to breathe (except not really because meds and hormones give me horrible temp regulation) but on days when I'm feeling good I'm just like WHO CARES IF MY ARMS ARE NAKEY

[@helloktmccm9381]

Marie sweetheart 💜 thank you

[@ValeryPereiraa]

love this!

[@chantellekaro4344]

I've started sh when I was 16years old, I'm 30 now and I'm still harming myself. I'm ashamed for it, I hide it from everyone still. I've been maybe a year sh free a couple of times. Like I can do it, but it's a habit now.

[@rolfsinkgraven]

Great video this will help a lot off ppl.

[@domy6827]

thank you babe

[@elliemorris8196]

I’ve just saw your insta story, where did you get your med holder from? x

[@sillysolar316]

god i want to show mine, but my immiture friends will see, and look at me diffrent, im suck with long sleaves for ever [healed scars]

[@fahmaberlin1128]

It’s not even about my own shame and guilt it’s my moms and like my friends when they pull down my sleeves or when my mom tells me to hide them when family come over

[@Allitche]

I rember you posting the pictures in that red dress ❤️❤️

[@defonotlex]

love this marie! have u fallen out with ella due to loads of people asking me? im like idk xx🌙

[@holly8597]

thank you sm for posting abt this marie! i’m terrified for the covid vaccine cause no ones ever seen my arm and i don’t have anyone to ask about it n can’t find anything to help hdjdh

[@charlotterosebrooks1219]

I was really worried about this too however they said nothing to me they just pulled my sleeve up and gave me the vaccine and I was good, I found as long as I didn’t make much attention about it like asking to change arms or saying can you do it over scars they honestly wasnt fussed they will have seen thousands of people with scars and it won’t be anything new to them worse comes to worse you ask to be jabbed in a corner or away from everyone else I hope this helps ❤️

[@holly8597]

@@charlotterosebrooks1219 omg thank you sm for sharing this, you’re so right i’ll just keep it casual :)) i’m glad yours went ok as well x

[@kaitomomotaluminaryofthest8258]

bit late to the party but yes i do agree that there is a process and it will be easier with time

[@marieroseeee]

sending love 💜💜

[@Accurate.Toy.Story.Collector]

I think the phrase you were looking for is that you became desensitised to it x

[@georgiahowe9184]

I have been really struggling with sh urges because finished college Monday this is because got a lot of support there

[@katemcintyre6533]

I adore you.

[@georgianicholls8259]

is the word desensitised xx

[@misfit1395]

Your scars look like mine. I was bullied for it but that was nothing compared to what was happening at home. It was so dark that it didn't make a difference to me.

[@readjon]

100% beautiful and amazing

[@rachaelharper3778]

Hope you have a great holiday babes 😂🥰

[@valeriewilliams1103]

I went to fuss at you because you are beautiful on the outside. I mean just gorgeous.

[@LaraFaisal-m6g]

انتي فتاة قويه والندبات التي في يدك تميزك عن باقي الفتيات وانتي جميلهtranslete plez

[@kylagoodale9066]

Albie in the background 💖🤣

[@yaizschee]

Is the word destigmatise lmaooo

[@marieroseeee]

YES THANKYOU hahh

[@Sophie-fx3tq]

🌜🖤

[@elliewatson2262]

Desensitised ? That’s how i interpreted what u was trying to think of hahaha