I'm Going To Divorce My Wife After She Lied About Her Infidelity For 20 Years r/Relationships

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@VidGirl88 4 ай бұрын

The fact that she cheated with multiple men while also threatening to break up with him/sic her dad on him if he even LOOKED at another girl, lied about it for decades, then expected OP to "get over it"....yeah all that foundational trust is obliterated. Done.

@sharyebethancourt3660 4 ай бұрын

11:36 her “jokingly” threatening to have her dad come after him if he slept around and the prom thing, makes the cheating so much worse.

@MrZuriax 4 ай бұрын

Classic projection. Rules for him but not for her.

@yozarahirvi4750 4 ай бұрын

yeah, the fact she consider it "not a big deal" and is saying OP is overreacting when she herself tried to police HIS actions when they were long distance makes her a huge hypocrite on top of being a lying cheater ...

@carlrood4457 4 ай бұрын

@@yozarahirvi4750 It's also proof she never consider her cheating to be "normal" behavior.

@craigwapples4200 4 ай бұрын

She basically took his youth from him smh

@Ospyro3em 4 ай бұрын

I've heard this story a few times before, and I'll say the same thing now as I did before- wife says it's normal to sleep around during a LDR. She also kept it a big secret from OP- these 2 things do not go together

@dondiego1141 4 ай бұрын

THIS!! She doesn't see she contradicts herself

@sacredbeastzenon 4 ай бұрын

@@dondiego1141 Nah, She was trying to gaslight op.

@yozarahirvi4750 4 ай бұрын

yeah, she says it's normal to cheat while on LDR but refuse OP goes to prom with any one other than herself ? I'd nope out of that relationship as fast as possible !

@MrJpaynebb 4 ай бұрын

She definitely did some shady crap in college but as bad as that was it's possible OP could have worked things out and let it go given their marriage and kids. Not a strong possibility but it was there. What she did during the marriage however with the dead bedroom, flirting with coworkers and even arranged a date can not be given a pass.

@KeitieKalopsia 4 ай бұрын

And she says it’s not a big deal and it’s normal but she stops OP from doing the same. Why stop him if it’s normal and what everyone does?

@selinesbeau 4 ай бұрын

She's never been faithful to him.

@michaelwoods3651 4 ай бұрын

Shes been manipulating and gaslighting him their entire relationship/ marriage. Sucks it took this long to find out. Even if she only cheated in college, she’s still for the streets!

@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement 4 ай бұрын

She was cheating *during the entire marriage.*

@pippo17173 4 ай бұрын

@@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement Gotta love how she lied to herself to keep a man happy instead of being honest that she just want to sleep around.

@Center-For-I.E.D.Mismanagement 4 ай бұрын

@@pippo17173 Pat of the reason I refer that creature as a reptilian whore.

@paulinadeboer3604 4 ай бұрын

She KNEW she was wrong, if she realy thought it was normal she should not keep it a secret. She wouldn't want to change the subject when her friends brought it up. Once a cheater always a cheater.

@pippo17173 4 ай бұрын

I think what really seals the deal on op's ex wife being awful is how she quickly move on. YA THANKS WOMEN FOR PROVING OP RIGHT ON NOT LOVING HIM ANYMORE good job.

@socketyellow3 4 ай бұрын

The fact she said it was normal probably means she kept doing it

@carlrood4457 4 ай бұрын

"Long distance" and "Open" do not mean the same things. OP should get his ex a dictionary

@Marstic666 4 ай бұрын

"Its normal to sleep around in a LDR" Pardon me as I laugh in '15 year LDR in which both of us managed to keep it in our pants'.

@justinburgard4700 2 ай бұрын

Well one of you did.

@MikeWeathers-fo1vs 4 ай бұрын

It may be “normal” to cheat on your SO in a LDR, but that doesn’t make it right. For the friends saying it’s normal, I’d ask them in front of their SO how many times they’ve cheated on their spouse? Then watch them squirm their way out of that hole they just jumped in.

@carlrood4457 4 ай бұрын

That was clearly a lie she came up with at the moment. If she believed that, there would have been no reason to lie and conceal to everyone. She also didn't want him even having a friend date to his prom.

@LovestarVGC 4 ай бұрын

Cheating is never “normal”

@CyanidePusher 4 ай бұрын

The fact that members of his family were telling him to not throw away their marriage over a few mistakes is the saddest part for me. That was not a few mistakes. If you wanted to pretend for a second that her logic of thinking they were going to break up so it was fine; she still either should've broken up with him as she intended, or she should've told him immediately upon realizing they weren't breaking up like she thought, so he could've made a more informed choice in marrying her. He probably wouldn't have. Maybe he would've. But she didn't want to give him the option, she wanted to have her college fun AND she wanted to keep control over this guy.

@KCohere33 4 ай бұрын

Wife is the poster child for “she is for the streets!”

@MidnightAndLuna 4 ай бұрын

She definitely is

@carlrood4457 4 ай бұрын

It's fairly obvious the whole "it's normal" excuse is just something she came up with when he found out. She concealed the cheating from him and the fact she had a boyfriend from EVERYONE ELSE. Those aren't the actions of someone participating in behavior considered the norm. She also didn't let him take a female friend as a date to his prom. That's probably a hell of a lot more "normal" than what she did when SO's are a year apart in school.

@dondiego1141 4 ай бұрын

In the expression LDR, they forgot the most important word, RELATIONSHIP.

@Davtwan 4 ай бұрын

The most important part is that it’s _not_ twenty years ago for OP. He has discovered this information _in the present._ She had all the time in the world to process this; OP did not. _That’s_ why this hurts so much and is a perfectly valid reason. No amount of “it’s all in the past” will make that impact go away.

@person2463 4 ай бұрын

You did right to nope right out of there. And good on college friend speaking up when she realised your ex-wife was a lying cheater. Be happy op.

@mogulmade 4 ай бұрын

Story 1: She'll be back. Especially when she finds that Op moved on with his coworker. She really thinks her coworker she cheated with will stay? Good luck boo. 😂

@SK98765 4 ай бұрын

She says it's normal to sleep around during LDRs, but she never mentioned it, actively hid it, and prevented him from doing the same through threats and manipulation. That's not acceptable

@dre1978 4 ай бұрын

The fact she told OP he better not sleep around while she's gone proves she knew all along what she was doing was not ok and was/is a terrible person. Rules for thee not for me bullshit will ALWAYS end a relationship

@timmy1tap678 4 ай бұрын

Passing of time doesn't make lies and deceit any less lies and deceit

@june7343 4 ай бұрын

I'm sorry "bad decisions in college" no dude she's actively cheating on you she's even going on dates and all bro

@Bucketus.Lord.of.Buckets 4 ай бұрын

LDR means you're together and loyal, not an excuse to hoe around, and have your BF/GF back home for you. Also, she had at least 30 men rawdog her and pregnancy scares. FOR. THE. STREETS. Also of course all those experiences made her want more and ruined her ability to pair bond. Just like psychological studies say, but completely denied by redditors. Nasty.

@Starcry85 4 ай бұрын

His wife stopped loving him ages ago and was too much of a coward to leave him.

@wolve2k 4 ай бұрын

if she ever loved him at all. he was a meal ticket. I normally don't wish people bad things.. but that woman is really for the streets and to be alone forever.

@datmanydocris 4 ай бұрын

Story 1: Cheating on your partner with multiple people, introducing those people you cheated with to your boyfriend, maintaining a relationship with the guys you cheated with after getting married and lying about it for 20 years is not "a few mistakes." Both of the families can go pound sand. Also, the fact that OP's STBX was very clearly continuing to lie the whole time, even in the counseling, shows that he can't trust her. She said it was normal to sleep around in a LDR, yet she both threatened to have her dad beat OP up if he slept around in the LDR and also was actively trying to keep the fact that she slept around secret forever, if you consider sleeping around in a LDR normal, you wouldn't threaten you partner to make sure they didn't do it and you wouldn't try and keep it secret. She said the sexual encounters in college meant nothing to her yet she was reminiscing about them 10 years into her marriage to the point where it was affecting her marriage, something that wouldn't happen if they meant nothing. The fact that she was still flirting and going on dates with coworkers long into her marriage means she couldn't use being in a LDR as an excuse. That woman is a serial liar and a serial cheater and OP would never be able to trust her again.

@carlrood4457 4 ай бұрын

So she couldn't go to his prom, but he could schlep three hours there and back to spend his prom night with her? I somehow missed that when I've heard this story before. She clearly had the time. Why couldn't she go?

@Spikex99 4 ай бұрын

It might have been that the school forbid a non-student from going. Though it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things with everything else she did

@emo7636 4 ай бұрын

Seeing other people on the side is only the 'normal' or 'acceptable' thing to do if both people agree to it. Not just one person doing whatever they want.

@Fluffy-Rose1993 4 ай бұрын

To her, the cheating happened 20 years ago, to him it happened recently.

@poohbear4515 4 ай бұрын

S1: This has been thrown around, but still interested to listen to how incredibly stupid, and nonchalant cheaters are. She thought it was no big deal cause they were long distance? Even introducing some of her F- buddies to him. Why continue staying in a marriage with a lying, two-faced backstabber? Who cares if it’s 20, 30, 70 years of marriage. That trust is broken forever. Also, family and friends telling him it’s all a mistake and not split? Cheating ain’t mistakes. Their choices. So they can shove their flapping tongues in an electric sockets. Also, hope we see you wearing an Uncle Sam hat for 4th of July, ma dude! Love your channel.❤️

@carlrood4457 4 ай бұрын

The normal to sleep around in an LDR was clearly an excuse she just came up with. Otherwise, it never would have been a secret and she wouldn't have had a problem with him taking another girl to the prom. She knew it wasn't OK or normal the whole time.

@Kittykat5kits 4 ай бұрын

My husband and I were in a LDR for two years while he was in grad school and I was finishing my undergrad 600 miles away. It sucked, but if either of us had slept with anyone else that would have been the end. No question.

@austinbuscaglia8705 4 ай бұрын

Story one: so NTA look, me and my partner have something similar. I'm going to college, and he's doing summer camp. We TALKED about potentially sleeping with other people, set boundaries, expectations, and that our relationship is the priority no matter what. What happened to you is just cruel and not acceptable. Communication is key.

@Yeahno-ey3rb 4 ай бұрын

Yeah her double standards would've been enough for grounds for a divorce.

@PerkiPerkins 4 ай бұрын

Wow I’m so shocked at how OP wife was trying to have him not date while she cheated and they already divorcing. Yet she’s been seeing others already. She’s just trying to stop him from moving on if he wanted to even date. She’s the biggest AH.

@bricksloth6920 4 ай бұрын

This isn't the "cheater before marriage" story I thought it was. But it might as well be. Cheaters are so homogeneous there's no real need to tell them apart. They share the same values.

@MINDERSLIFE 4 ай бұрын

What a Rollercoaster 🎢 😳 and a sad excuse for a spouse.

@league-of-shadows 4 ай бұрын

TEN DIFFERENT MEN!!!! The ex wife is going to realize these empty relationships won’t replace the love of a good man.

@jomc6734 2 ай бұрын

Story 1: I've seen this story OP's wife and her friends were definitely gaslighting him. If OP and his soon to be ex had agreed to see other people before she left for college, that's fine. But that didn't happen. OP's wife dated quite a few men and kept it a secret. The secrecy obviously shows that she knew she was cheating. After the update: OP's wife is cheating on him now - going on a date with her coworker is cheating. It's okay to go for lunch/dinner with a coworker but you call it lunch or dinner. Once you call it a 'date', it's cheating.

@crystalweible152 4 ай бұрын

If you feel the need to cheat walk away. From one or the other. SIMPLE!😢😠

@KE-hr4sb 4 ай бұрын

S1: If it was NBD to sleep around during a LDR, then why did wifey stop her friend from telling the story/lie for 20 years? Why did she threaten to have her dad come after him when she was the college bicycle? "I'm right and you're overreacting." "You do realize your doubling down is not stopping me from "overreacting" my way out the door, yes?"

@monteverdi1567 4 ай бұрын

I admit, at first I thought he was being hasty and butt hurt. Of course, he knows her better than anyone here and it seems his suspicions were only a bit off because she did much worse than he even suspected. Glad it was at least amicable. And yes, I think the ex was very ready to move on.

@redonyx5428 4 ай бұрын

i think the ex is a serial cheater. she made demands/"threats" against op on acting outside of the relationship during college, couldn't even go to his hs prom with a friend (who i think is les from other comments) but cheated on him for two years. most likely also cheated during their marriage. definitely during the dead bedroom period and the coworkers post pandemic. wasn't she was already looking for partners openly when op was living in the guest house.

@kentario1610 4 ай бұрын

As a no libido ace, I really must ask: is sex this big of a thing in people's lives??? Enough to betray who you swore as your life partner again and again? My guess is that she was selfish and didn't see that she was hurting her husband, just knew to hide it because she knew he would be upset but not why.

@danganryanne9499 4 ай бұрын

Hi Markee ^^

@roelthas 4 ай бұрын

No, cheating is never normal.

@kountzanthony7021 4 ай бұрын

This is a horrible woman it's good that he divorced her cuz she would never change once a 304 always a 304..

@SCUBASUEReynard 3 ай бұрын

Now you find she is emotionally cheating so yes you knew deep down the marriage was over and more than anything else I think he knew it was over after 2 bad years so the sex stories struck home and his dander was up. When you don’t feel loved anymore. It’s easy to toss the marriage.so good for him there.He has a new chance at love.

@LT_Fates4228 4 ай бұрын

No cheating in ldr

@wheelsndealz 4 ай бұрын

Just because there's enough shitty people to make something bad a trend doesn't mean it's right. There's plenty of people that would just throw their trash on the ground, movie theater, restaurants, etc doesn't mean they're not giant inconsiderate assholes.

@brandytzu2747 4 ай бұрын

I thought Connor locked you up?!?

@SCUBASUEReynard 3 ай бұрын

Wow so if a guy sows his wild oats in college. There was no ring on her finger. And if she never dated or had sex with other men the marriage may have never lasted. She married him knowing he was her true love. If she was still having sex with these guys. But I think he is more upset with the fact she had other lovers. So if she was a guy it would have been cool by now. But if is a woman trying to figure out if he is her true love. Ya that is a big problem with virginity is the guy wants to be the only one. He didn’t give her a ring before she left. That having him wait the last year of high school. I think she thought she would never marry her high school love. This is preachers daughter syndrome. The girl pretending to be chaste and pure especially to parents. But Hell on wheels at collage. No you use the current situation not years ago you are no longer compatible.

@misslauren6798 4 ай бұрын

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@BallstotheWalnuts 4 ай бұрын

Boooo

@MeTeaOakRStNR 4 ай бұрын

63 💚

@yahainHotPink 4 ай бұрын

😮😮😮 uh oh

@theScytheofGod Ай бұрын

Bro.

@2muchzen 4 ай бұрын

304s

@thomasjoseph5876 4 ай бұрын

The OP is a Beta Simp. At the very least, EVERYONE, including his kids should know the full truth including her recent activity. A friend of mine while growing up had a mother like this woman who liked to screw around on their father and didn't really see a problem with it. In court she asked for full custody despite my friend and his two brothers wanting to live with their father. My friend and his brothers told their mother they would make her life, especially her dating life, a disaster and they did lol. EVERY guy she tried to bring home was threatened and a couple of them got throttled lol. Mom called their father and told him to come and get them. None of them 20 years later see or talk with her and most of her family and friends have nothing to do with her.

@mogulmade 4 ай бұрын

This woman is trash. No ifs, buts, ands or maybes.