I Found Out My Boyfriend Planned To Propose To Me But Then Bailed Last Second r/Relationships

[@comajuice]

"Our communication styles are incompatible" girl not talking isn't a communication style. That's a lack of communication style.

[@KpopOpinionator]

He was with her for 5 years and was screwing another girl for 6 months . Almost proposed while he was cheating,after hurting OP by simply making it look like I can't see myself with you in the long run. Bullshit (sir,you been with her for 5 whole years ,End it and Leave ) and after bailing ,spent the weeks with his AP and now wants to talk.OP dodged a bullet and the only thing she has to do to inform Tara that Mike is perfectly capable of protecting a cheater and Tara should probably run away from Mike.Hope maybe we can get a update from Tara and OP.Also it boggles my mind .Why couldn't he just end it with OP if he couldn't propose or fell in love with another girl.Sure ,Op still won't be happy but it won't cause her extra pain .

[@Davtwan]

Because monkey-branching I guess.

[@paulineisme]

The damn disrespect of calling OP crying while with his fuck toy, and the absolute GALL to confirm this. I can't even. If that man was my actual child I'd disown them. This audacity is so shocking, I'm struggling to find words to describe this. OP handled it brilliantly, she appeased him at that moment to find a window to do what was really important. That dog is safe where it belongs. What a raging asshole that guy is

[@c.b.h1151]

People like this destroy the trust someone has in potential partners forever…scumbag

[@RobDaCajun]

@@paulineismehe’s crying over breaking 5 years of stability and can’t own up to it.

[@kp2223]

Because by doing it that way in the eyes of the public opinion he was doing everyone a favor by letting go over a relationship that wouldn't last not being a lying cheater.

[@caitlinserviss]

Markee: Oh my sweet summer child. My sweet boy. My delusional little lollypop.

[@LadyBern]

Are you calling him a sucker?

[@kaykay8855]

@@LadyBernyes

[@Scarlett.Granger]

"my delusional little lollipop" is my new favourite, it's even better than "sweet summer child"😂

[@Cassandra-i6j]

"The pot calling the kettle black needs to shut it's damn mouth" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 (I'm still cracking up)

[@mikef2811]

S2: That girl is a train wreck. RUN. You keep picking the wrong person over and over again. Go fix yourself.

[@Scarlett.Granger]

She is avoidant, but he clearly is anxiously attached. It's ironic he recognises her avoidance, but doesn't understand how this - in all statistical likelihood makes him the anxious-attached partner. It is not by happenstance that these two types of people so often get in relationships with each other. I'm not an expert, but i think he'd profit massively from ending this insanity, going to a relationship therapist, psychiatrist or similar sort of counsellor and see if there's maybe something in his style of affection that dooms his relationships.

[@MizMorgue1]

Agreed. Gf is a mess and shouldn't be dating anyone! OP definitely needs his own therapy to figure out why he dates such high maintenance damaged ppl

[@bhart3321]

Exactly bros got his own issues to work out. Man up & get the help you need to pick better partners my dude. This is the same advice I give to women that say they've never had a healthy relationship. Like well honey you're the common denominator here so it's a skill issue. Butch up, get therapy, & fix yourself cuz that's what's attracted to these unhealthy guys.

[@Stranglebat]

​@Scarlett.Granger avoidant is an excuse, her inability to consider anyone but herself makes me suspect she's a covert narcissist. Let's not forget the fact she doesn't need to work on herself and she's perfect. What a fuckhead.

[@VixxenBlood]

Story 2; people REALLY need to learn how to get mad on their own behalf. Get mad, get furious, get enraged.

[@RobDaCajun]

She picked him because she could “girl boss” him around. Then decided to leave because he took it. There’s a lesson there for both parties. Whether they learn it is beyond me.

[@Scarlett.Granger]

She is avoidant, but he clearly is anxiously attached. It's ironic he recognises her avoidance, but doesn't understand how this - in all statistical likelihood makes him the anxious-attached partner. It is not by happenstance that these two types of people so often get in relationships with each other. I'm not an expert, but i think he'd profit massively from ending this insanity, going to a relationship therapist, psychiatrist or similar sort of counsellor and see if there's maybe something in his style of affection that dooms his relationships.

[@MizMorgue1]

Yeah. This is so messed up! Gf is SO abusive!

[@AvengeTheTRexOfSteel]

That second girl just needs to be single. She has way too many issues to be getting into a relationship.

[@chickensandwich8808]

She just needs to be single in general like forever. Admittedly I'm biased as that girl sounds like someone I dated in the past.

[@magicalmomo9987]

I feel bad for anyone else she dates because her expectations are just off and therapy doesn't even sound like enough to deal with her issues tbh.

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

@@magicalmomo9987 Therapy could get her there, but she'd have to be willing to admit she's wrong and change. That's why she could cut his off the way she did. She was afraid if she looked into the mirror he held up to her, she'd actually have to face her issues.

[@colleens1107]

Gotta love women who expect their husbands to be fucking mind readers. No what will happen is she will marry someone out of desperation and then quietly resent him not helping with domestic matters because she will expect him to just KNOW what to do and what she wants. Ya know, the bitches who whine about their useless husbands but who NEVER tell said husband what’s wrong.

[@t.ron314]

Jesus Christ that last story was EXHAUSTING

[@meirin5316]

my brother has a roommate like that... id rather not share a space w others due to sering that kinda bs...

[@jaccat4336]

Imagine how exhausted and frustrated that OPs friends & family must get watching this play out in real time. They must have the patience of Saints to not try to shake sense into him 😅

[@benjie128]

​@@jaccat4336maybe her family and close friends have some psychic mind reader ability.

[@t.ron314]

@@jaccat4336 oh god I'm sure!

[@victoriamiranda-stotelmyre4382]

Exhausting is putting it mildly.

[@CosticDragon]

9:00 OP needs to tell Tara. She needs to know how shitty of a person her boyfriend really is. What kind of spineless little bitch would willingly hide another friend’s cheating? They wouldn’t be my friend anymore and OP would’ve known 6 the day I found out.

[@driversuz44]

Story 2: That relationship is a full time job. Imagine what OP could be doing with his time and energy if he wasn't pouring it into this train wreck.

[@wkkowrld]

Story 2 was the most exhausting thing I’ve ever listened to. I couldn’t imagine having so little self love and respect.

[@Scarlett.Granger]

She is avoidant, but he clearly is anxiously attached. It's ironic he recognises her avoidance, but doesn't understand how this - in all statistical likelihood makes him the anxious-attached partner. It is not by happenstance that these two types of people so often get in relationships with each other. I'm not an expert, but i think he'd profit massively from ending this insanity, going to a relationship therapist, psychiatrist or similar sort of counsellor and see if there's maybe something in his style of affection that dooms his relationships.

[@BruinPhD2009]

Right? I've had more energy after finishing a 30 mile bike ride. What are the chances that two such thoroughly broken people managed to find each other? I actually want them to stay together so the rest of us are protected from this madness.

[@Scarlett.Granger]

@@BruinPhD2009 actually not that low apparently. An anxious-avoidant person dating an anxious-attached one and them descending into the exact same spiral like in the story seems to happen more frequently than you'd think, judging by psychology reports and similar. Apparently these types are great at attracting each other, and not that great at fining a normal healthy relationship ...

[@Frazzled_Chameleon]

Whatever energy drink Connor has been feeding you, I approve. I'm loving the recent upload schedule. It's giving big marsupial-on-meth energy. Story 1: Sometimes, people are so proficient at complex mental gymnastics that they have achieved Simone Biles levels of proficiency and have also had moves named after them. Story 2: Every relationship has its ups and downs, sure...but if your partner just brings you drama, doubt, insecurity, distress, and stress...it's not really worth it to stay in it.

[@Markee]

This is just me uploading the videos as soon as I get them done lol Australian Timezone things 🤠

[@Frazzled_Chameleon]

@@Markee Yay for Australian Timezone things! Toss them on the barbie along with the shrimp.

[@kurotsuki7427]

Her "a compatible partner will get magic supper powers that have never existed in any relationship in history. Also i have a good communication style what are you talking about?" -_-"

[@comajuice]

She reminds me of how dating felt when I was 13-17. Like "well if we can't be apart even after all you've done to me then we MUST be soulmates". Similar kind of mindset. But the difference is that I was 13 and she's seemingly an adult (I missed the ages lol)

[@Scarlett.Granger]

She is avoidant, but he clearly is anxiously attached. It's ironic he recognises her avoidance, but doesn't understand how this - in all statistical likelihood makes him the anxious-attached partner. It is not by happenstance that these two types of people so often get in relationships with each other. I'm not an expert, but i think he'd profit massively from ending this insanity, going to a relationship therapist, psychiatrist or similar sort of counsellor and see if there's maybe something in his style of affection that dooms his relationships.

[@squirrel670]

​@@Scarlett.Granger and his last most serious relationship was abusive and toxic so he's probably messed up from that too.

[@jakeand9020]

Story 2: Wow "She feels that with a compatible partner everything should come naturally, including knowing when your parner needs something without asking... She feels that this is an appropriate expectation to have." Now, I will grant you that me and my partner can actually do that more often than not. We've been together twenty years, kinda makes picking up nuances a little easier. We sure as heck didn't start that way and even still wouldn't go so far as to EXPECT it. I'm sorry, this girl needs some serious help, and nobody is equipped to be in a relationship with her before that happens.

[@Scarlett.Granger]

He needs help too imo. Yes, she is insanely avoidant to the extreme, but he is SO, SO DAMN attached, she walks all over him and he's apologising for not laying flat enough. He cannot let go. There's a reason these two emotional issues so often end up pairing people up who bring each other down. He needs to learn to date people, not projects, and he needs to learn how to let go when somethings hurting. He's grabbing on and on to the hot iron that burns the flash of his bone and gaslights himself into believing this is fine.

[@MissRedZelda]

@@Scarlett.Grangerhow many times are you going to comment this?

[@megadude967]

Story 2 : I feel like the most frustrating part about this story is the fact that the ex is walking away from this with the sincere belief she was in the right. She won't grow from this experience or change her ways. At the very least there's some slim hope OP will see how he got himself in this mess, but she'll just talk about how she "had to block her terrible ex and threaten a restraining order"

[@Scarlett.Granger]

She is avoidant, but he clearly is anxiously attached. It's ironic he recognises her avoidance, but doesn't understand how this - in all statistical likelihood makes him the anxious-attached partner. It is not by happenstance that these two types of people so often get in relationships with each other. I'm not an expert, but i think he'd profit massively from ending this insanity, going to a relationship therapist, psychiatrist or similar sort of counsellor and see if there's maybe something in his style of affection that dooms his relationships. He needs to learn to date people, not projects.

[@leli6291]

I honestly feel like if we could get her side instead then everybody would be on her side as well. they just aren't a good match and want different things and the only take away is that you shouldn't stay in a relationsship that you aren't happy in.

[@Scarlett.Granger]

@@leli6291 they just both have different, equally bad styles of attachment and found each other to enter a codependent relationship perfectly circling around in a doom spiral until they destroyed each other. They aren't good for each other.

[@johnbradbury8610]

I doubt it. OP doesn't see how he brought all of this on himself by being such a doormat

[@WhitneyDahlin]

​@@Scarlett.Granger I wouldn't say he is anxiously attached? I was under the impression she was extremely attractive and that's why he put up with it for so long LMAO I feel like in a lot of cases when someone comes to Reddit and their partner is so clearly a monster but they have stayed with them, It's because their partner is also extremely attractive. They almost never go into detail about what their partner looks like in these posts. Because most of the time it wouldn't be relevant. But sometimes it is relevant, when the partner they are having an issue with is the most attractive person they've ever dated I feel like they should disclose that. Not everyone who stays in a relationship with a monster has problems themselves 😂 sometimes people are just blinded and willing to put up with ANYTHING if their partner is extremely attractive. They don't even start to wake up until at least a year and then it's usually three before they leave. Why? Because it takes 3 years for you to get used to what your partner looks like. That's when the halo effect wears off.

[@diamcole]

S1: Doesn’t feel like it now but OP dodged a massive bullet. Mike has a touch and go relationship with the truth, he’s not someone you want to build a life with - let alone marry. He really could have just ended things when those feelings for his colleague started. People can be so cowardly.

[@Carehuea]

Story 2: This OP blows all other doormats here on Reddit out of the water. I don’t think I’ve ever seen an OP have less self-respect, sense of self-worth, and be so much in denial about reality. It’s not just his pathetic need to be loved, it feels almost as though he’s punishing himself over and over again for some bizarre reason that nobody - least of all he himself - seems to understand. He really needs to ask himself why oh why he’s so hellbent on giving his heart to emotionally manipulative monsters.

[@lunaleiwhite6756]

How you start a conversation in the second story. "Did you have a nice show?" as soon as she comes back

[@MidnightAndLuna]

Story 2: Holy crap, that was exhausting! I started to feel bad for him but as he kept going on, I found it harder and harder to. There’s no getting through to someone like that. He would rather be treated like garbage than do what’s right for himself. He knows how she treats him and is aware of the toxicity and gaslighting. He knows she won’t do anything to improve and that any attempt is a lost cause. At this point, he’s bringing on his own misery. ‘But, I love her!’ What is there to love? She’s a nightmare to be around and talk to, intimacy is not existent, and the list goes on. Thank goodness she broke it off. Otherwise, he would be back complaining about the same BS. Also, she should just stay away from relationships. She’ll never be happy in a relationship and find someone who matches her communication style. She doesn’t communicate at all. What she is looking for doesn’t exist: a mind reader. Both of them just love to be miserable. That’s the only thing they had in common.

[@Scarlett.Granger]

They have another thing in common: bad attachment styles. He knows she's avoidant but what he needs to know is that HE is anxiously over attached. It's not coincidentally that these two types end up as a pair so often. It lends itself to a wonderful spiral of mutual destructiveness. He needs to learn to let go when he's holding the fire that burns him. They both would probably profit from therapy.

[@magicalmomo9987]

​@@Scarlett.GrangerYep, the whole time he was telling his story I was like "She's avoidant. RUN. GET UP. BE ANGRY. LEAVE HER." knowing damn well he wouldn't want to or be able to because I did some similar shit with a past avoidant partner because of my anxiously attached ass. I still feel embarrassed about it all these years later and wished I had just been like "Ok👌🏾✨️" in response during her little breakup speech and never talked to her again instead of doing the same shit he did. 😂🤦🏿‍♀️ but I'm proud to say I'm happily single and not dealing with nobody's relationship trauma anymore. He'll hopefully learn and maybe some redditors will send him some links on attachment stuff to help him through it. I wish him the best on his self-love journey. ❤

[@victoriamiranda-stotelmyre4382]

He tried to hang on to the idea that her grandparents loved him and her friends liked and got along well with him.

[@immortalmangafan7155]

This girl is such a trainwreck that i forgot about the show when listening to the update, this girl is such frustrating mess that i wish Op told us what she loved about this girl or that he thought it was near perfect because how did this man stay!?

[@jakeand9020]

I could make a guess. Crazy like this is also likely to be crazy in bed.

[@joeyjojojrshabadoo7462]

I wish more people would go into what they saw in them to begin with, like at all. Even if it's just "the sex was good" or whatever round about way they use to say "money". He given some generic points like how she is strong, beautiful and they're both theater kids. That's really it. Sure we all get lonely, but everyone get hungry as well and we don't keep going back to the same 3am kebab store.

[@CosticDragon]

8:30 I hate that my pessimism won out that John couldn’t go through with proposing since he was cheating on OP.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

And the fact he basically blamed her for not proposing instead of owning his cheating is absolutely disgusting.

[@chickensandwich8808]

I have not wanted to send a jackass through the drywall more in a while than John.

[@ellieguerra536]

"What she did on the couch I can never forgive her for" Thank you for re-traumatizing me!

[@lizartfight9157]

s2: dude that was possible one if not the most exhausting stories i have ever heard

[@Burglar-King]

Story 1. NEVER speak to that AH again. Not even F off. Sad to say keep away from Tara too. Story 2 AGHHHHHHHHHHH I need a therapist.

[@erickaennis2738]

Story 2. Why is Op with this trainwreck? She sounds exhausting. Good Lord. She is just so self absorbed and silly.

[@johnbradbury8610]

because he is a spineless doormat.

[@trvecvltfvckboy]

He sounds like a fundamentally broken person.

[@Russman67]

If I was Tara, I would be watching Mike like a hawk now. He covered for his buddy to run out and cheat on OP for up to six months (who knows when he found out).

[@FeeBee3001]

The only bad thing about being early is I can't read the comments. I love comments about reddit stories.

[@carolroberts4614]

Me too! I come back later and have another look!

[@atowomato4825]

bro posted this at one in the morning for the est gang, how was I supposed to see this if I wasn't awake when I shouldn't be ToT, at least this can be my bedtime story

[@Markee]

Yeah but it's 4pm here and you'd see it when you wake up anyway :)

[@victoriamiranda-stotelmyre4382]

@@Markeeyup when I wake up and check my phone to find a new story I immediately smile, tap the Like button and happily proceed to get ready for the day while listening to Markee’s splendid voice, sassy comments and rational hot takes. Makes my day from the jump. ❤

[@nadirimyers6643]

lol that girl gonna be single forever acting like that. It’s actually ridiculous how childish she is

[@seanla38]

Story two that girl needs to be involuntarily committed to a state run mental hospital and given all the meds they have in the pharmacy and just cool her jets there for at least half a decade jeebus h christo that was exhausting to listen to I was more furious at her then he seems to be

[@PrincessAshley-Kawaii]

The amount of times i yelled at my screen due to OPs gf..

[@jomc6734]

Story 1: It 'doesn't feel right' because he's cheating. OP's better off without that cheating jerk. She needs to make sure she gets an tested because who knows how many other people he's cheated on her with over the last 5 years. That freaking jerk called her crying while he was with the woman he was cheating on OP with. He's a freaking tool. OP is much better off without him. I agree with the commenter who suggested that OP tell her friend that her boyfriend was covering for the cheater. Story 2: OP's girlfriend had tickets to a show, lied to OP about not wanting to go and then lied about not feeling well. How does OP bring it up? Send her a message asking how the effing show was. OP needs to grow a spine. He should WANT to break up with her. Why on earth is OP letting this woman walk all over him? I don't know how OP feel in love with someone like that woman. She's terrible. That woman is even more terrible than I originally thought. Who doesn't like Home Alone?

[@kaylalaster1038]

S1- I looked it up and then was an update after that was deleted.😭😭😭 How much do you want to bet the ex and AP get married and divorced in 2 years flat? Also hope Tara got away from John bc he definitely was cheating or has cheated. Hope OP is doing amazingly with her dog and a wonderful partner who adores her!

[@vegaszgreatvegas5505]

If you choose not have self respect let us know”😂😂😂😂

[@catsncrows]

S2 Omg op. This is what I call a rollercoaster person. Here! Have some more eggshells to walk on. Be an emotional punching bag. She's worse than just being erratic, she's using it to break op down. I've been around this. In my case there was sadism (probably unaware of it, just having the urge fed) involved.

[@jakeand9020]

Story 1: First things first, I highly doubt when he said he was with the AP he meant he was in her presence at that moment. Not sure where everyone is getting the idea he was. Second, and more importantly, OP NEEDS TO TELL TARA about Mike. Even if they're not really friends, she needs to know the kind of lowlife she's with.

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

Story 1 -he really wants op to do the pick me dance. Glad she grabbed her Doggo peaced out!

[@rexxy900]

A 2am update is crazy 🤞🏽 much appreciated

[@josepherhardt164]

28:57 Guys/gals: A spouse is supposed to be a SPOUSE, not a freaking THERAPIST or BUTLER or MAID. Jesus.

[@lucariomew365]

Story 1 has a 2 year update but OP deleted it and apparently no one saved it, and since it was so long ago & so few people saw it before she deleted it, I doubt anyone would know. I'm so curious to how she was doing at that time. Story 2, I know way too many people in relationships like this, despite understanding why people become so desperate for these one-sidedly unhealthy relationship dynamics, I still can't find sympathy for these people. Seriously this man was fighting, kicking and screaming, to keep being taken advantage of by his gf who treated him worse than garbage. And yes, she probably was cheating.

[@MikeWeathers-fo1vs]

S2: Please see this story as an example of what to look for when you think you’re being taken advantage of. Pretty sure this girl is a sociopath.

[@DragonflyandTheWolf]

Story 2: "We just have incompatible communication styles." Girl you DON'T have a communication style! Expecting your boyfriend to be a psychic is not a communication style, lol.

[@krawalleundhiebe7900]

Story 2: Sounds like the last woman I dated. But for me it only was 3 Month of gaslighting and beating my self-esteem, because she got bored with me very fast. When she broke off she told me she finally need to take her needs first and stand up for her boundaries. Bluntly asked her if I ever crossed her boundaries or disrespected her. "No and I never said you did!" Why are you wording it like that then 😭 Definitely learned that I'm worth more and my self-confidence got better. I'm staying out of romantic relationships till I fixed my life, even if it takes years. I also like being single more lol

[@InvasionAnimation]

I was going to leave a comment betting he was cheating near the end of the relationship, then I saw a comment confirming it.

[@Chen_Han]

You know what kinda annoys me about Story 2? GF now thinks she was right all along and right to break up with HIM because of OP put up with so much and didn't fight back until the end 😒

[@a_noelle8595]

OP needs therapy. This entire write up is all the grounds he needs to realize that he's not able to enforce healthy boundaries in a relationship.

[@caridadchang7895]

Story 1: it sounds like the friend found out about the affair in Vegas and not the whole 6 months of it; theres a good chance he posted about California precisely to clue in op. He could have said it directly earlier, I agree, but odds are that he was deciding wherever or not to blow up that friendship. Part of the ex's crying might be that he is loosing his friends along with his gf and since he works with the other woman, could loose his job too. Also his dog.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 2. Yta to yourself. There comes a time when you just lose all sympathy for people because they do it to themselves because they insist on staying with crazy determined they can fix it.

[@maurer3d]

Story 2: OP.....Run... This woman is nowhere near ready to be dating, she needs to fix herself, before she tries dating again. Flipping gout like that at you for being 15 minutes late, is totally insane. Especially since you were both not in a rush to get to somewhere at a specific time. "But she is hot" is not a good enough reason to put up with an ab^sive toxic relationship.

[@holdfast1979]

29:14 oh god. This whole thing reminded me of a very toxic relationship I was in many years ago. The “you should just KNOW how I feel” dynamic. Oof. Glad that is well in my past. Triggered by a memory.

[@LadyMarigoldWithers]

S1 is why you never give a guy more than 2 years to lock it down; these men will happily waste women’s fertile years ‘floating’ (if you want a family or marriage that is).

[@AAAforshort]

God, that last story I'm literally fuming he texted her drunk like a dumbass doormat, just so she can turn it on him and feel even more justified that she's the sane one. She sounds exhausting to interact with.

[@joedarkness808]

S2 : Don't walk ... RUN !!! Your a people pleaser

[@ketrava0425]

On the last story, let me tell you about an interesting tactic that I learned from my ex. I refer to it as setting up the white knight. She had already moved on and had somebody in the wings and just like all of her other relationships that were all toxic, you were toxic to her whenever she talked to the new guy and she's been talking him up for a while, ready to either bounce back to you, because this creep wouldn't leave her. Alone or bounce to him, because you wouldn't leave her alone. At which point the person she has targeted throws all caution to the wind to defend the poor innocent maiden. She then rides the train of free sympathy and adoration and unending empathy until she needs to move on, at which point she has already picked a new victim, set them up and shown them just how that relationship was toxic and she needs to be saved.

[@ketrava0425]

You can tell just how deep the narcissism was with her. Because OP felt that he was the only one who could fix the relationship and was doing everything to do so, and even after everything, including her blatant, disregard and obvious, uncaring attitude towards them, he was still willing to work on them even though she wouldn't even Lift a finger if he was falling off a cliff

[@CanyonALynn]

Story 2: Dear God, that story was EXHAUSTING to listen to. OP needs therapy to figure out why he's a doormat and to learn to set boundaries.

[@YellaBellaReno]

Story 2: Oooof… they both sound exhausting, huh? They both want the other to be a different person entirely. Was the sex really _that_ good?

[@kaykay8855]

It’s hardly over about sex, it’s mostly about not being alone.

[@LilySaintSin]

S1, He doesn't care about either of them.

[@tblushloca]

Holy crap Markee, I absolutely loved loved loved this one. Everytime you commemted in 3rd person about that stupid beatches manipulative antics I would crack up. Best episode and I really hope you keep this up as your amazing at it. Luv ya and keep up the awesomeness.

[@Floratic]

Markee is always in the background, commenting like an instigator always has me laughing. 😂

[@fantasticmrfox9291]

Whooo that update was a gut punch....'its just not what i wanted'

[@bhart3321]

That 2nd story is precisely why you don't date people with severe mental health issues. Depression or anxiety is one thing but when you have that many issues you need to stay away from dating until you got a good handle of your own baggage. Stop making others responsible for your issues. People (like OP) also gotta stop martyring themselves for people that try to make their issues your problem. This is the definition of simping, stop simping. Men & women both simp with alarming regularity.

[@jake8748]

S2 sounds like she has severe abandonment issues. The lack of accountability, refusing to be open up. Can't take criticism or conflict. From what I've seen people like this often do cheat so wouldn't be surprised. She cares nothing for your feelings or emotions. She does sound quite narcissistic (probably not actually NPD but still high on the scale) as she seems to fit the emotional energy vampire label nicely.

[@josepherhardt164]

Yeah, I was thinking borderline personality disorder, which often has childhood abandonment trauma as seed.

[@PetalBugABoop]

Having been with a dissmisive avoidant before, (possibility two, but idk on the first one) yeah, it's like this. They aren't narcisists, even if there is some overlap. Narcisists think they are God's gift to us. Dismissive avoidants think they are the worst. Right now the ex girlfriend is riding the high of freedom dimissive avoidants feel when they are out of a relationship and don't feel trapped. It's only months or years later they start to kind of process the break up and miss the person. They view that ex as a good person they broke. They don't know how to connect and often rely on their partner to be that warmth. That warmth they lack in themselves but crave. They also attract anxious preoccupied people who are clinggy and never learned to self soothe or be indepenedent. I get the unlucky mix of being both, a fearful avoidant that flip flops between both extemes. I did have the clingy side more until recently. Now I am a bit healthier. Haven't tested a new relationship. I know I would be best with someone who has a secure attachment style. They are likely not to trigger my bad habits and have self-respect. However, if I am not careful I could put them through...a whiplash of hot and cold. My best friend got me to stop doing this in friendships with her strong boundaries and self respect. I am a much better friend because of her. But yeah, this woman isn't safe to date. He should expect a text or meme to soft, but not vulnerably test out the waters months or years after he is over her.

[@josepherhardt164]

16:12 Borderline with OCD and delusions of main character syndrome. RUN LIKE THE WIND. This will NOT get any better. 17:12 Yeah, every question is a life-threatening criticism. RUN. And you're worried about scaring her off? SCARE HER OFF. The sex can't be THAT good! 21:36 Not sure how much more of this I can read before I reach into the screen, grab OP by the collar and tell him to get some freakin' self-respect. OMG.

[@immapotato1]

in there update I wasn't initially like why does this sound like he's got a new chick but brushed it off as stupid reddit brain and then the rest of the update happened. statistics is a hell of a drug.

[@ErisstheGoddessofmanhwas]

I was expecting the first story finish this way . He saying It's not right made me suspicious. I know he was cheating.

[@halfbearhalfneedle]

Your commentary is top tier lately

[@safespacebear]

Story 2: wow. I thought my ex wife was unique but she has a twin! Very avoidant in conflict and when trapped with no escape from having to take accountability she'd attack with everything she had to punish me. Sadly i didnt figure this out til we had a kid. I stayed for too long. Our son figured her out immediately and cut contact with her. She'd rather disown her child than to hear her son state that she hurt him.

[@Scarlett.Granger]

Arrgh the second dude ... He is so so dang anxiously overattached he's holding the fire, screaming as his flesh is burning and still standing there saying "it's fine. He'll never have a good relationship if he doesn't learn to get over this kind of attachment.

[@Adrienne-i1m]

Please don't ever stop the snarky, Markee!!!

[@neru1584]

I had an (ex??) Stepdad just like OP's girlfriend in story 2. Constantly projected, didn't actually say he was in a bad mood but expected us to "know" somehow, said that we weren't putting in enough effort despite being closed off, barely even tried to get to know me and my mom etc. Eventually, me and my mother started harboring a boiling resentment for him, everytime he entered a room we went silent because he kinda took over conversations and didn't let anyone speak, and constantly lied (or just didn't say) where he even was. Constantly yelled at me and my mother for perceived slights but literally broke down whenever we (as gently as possible) criticized him. We only got away from him last year, and me and my mom are still trying to recover. OP, get out of there before you start resenting her, and getting annoyed with literally every little thing she does because you can't stand her. Me and my mom would've left sooner if we weren't financially trapped. My mother didn't even see the red flags when they were dating BECAUSE she grew up with so much abusive men in her life. Just get out of there while you're still stable and don't have to rely on her.

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

Everyone… please, just… have SOME SELF RESPECT

[@sangosbf]

"the pot calling the kettle black needs to shut the hell up!" Had me dying. I'm gonna need to remember that for my next family gathering.

[@spirit6519]

knew someone like in the last story (even wanted to move in together after knowing eachother two weeks) and that shit fucks with your head so bad but its great he got out.

[@christianecast3542]

I have been listening to you for a while now but I'm not going to lie, you had me dying because your comments matched exactly 💯 what I was thinking! Absolutely hilarious! 🤣

[@muhname6052]

Theres another update for the first story but it was removed. And this all happened 10 years ago. So I hope OP is happy

[@khushitiwari1147]

Oh god! You shouldn't have commented that. Now, I'll be forever wondering what happened to her. I hope she didn't get back with him but I also don't know why she deleted that update and not the other ones.

[@JK-sh8rc]

Story 1: Feel really bad for OP but she got down on her knees and was begging "please" to the exbf? Nope, no way, absolutely not!! I would NEVER beg a man for anything! Show some dignity & self respect. The sleaze bag ex is repulsive and totally not worth that. Glad she took the dog :)

[@seahorse82]

I enjoy Markee’s comments far more than I enjoy the stories 😂😂😂

[@RockinTheBassGuitar]

Delusional little Lollipop is now one of my favorite turns of phrase.

[@kurotsuki7427]

The nookie can not be worth this headache

[@debbiehenderson7830]

That 2nd story. Omg op please value yourself and leave her far far far behind. It was insane 😂

[@hothotheat3000]

People are cowards and don’t want to look like the bad guy.

[@SoFloLife]

34:55 That's what she said 😆

[@maxinemyers9215]

Markee I love your comments on the video’s and what you say is what we are all think! Love your video’s 🌷

[@nyozeka93]

S2: OP's girldfriend needs to date profesor X, he'll read her mind. No other boyfriend will be what she "needs"

[@CircusoftheMoon]

Thanks for the content to listen to while I drink my coffee from the EST. 💜

[@porter0311]

Someones been watching The Why Files. I feel like that's where your tin foil hat came from.

[@BulletTooth504]

Story 2 OP: "I'm not worried about her cheating." Master Yoda: "You will be. You will be."

[@aqua3942]

Loving the comments from both present tense and Future tense Markee in this one 😂

[@michaelwoods3651]

Story 2- she sounds ridiculously high maintenance. You were fifteen minutes late and she gave the silent treatment?! Jesus! That being said, he’s a simp for her. Blue pilled nightmare!

[@Scarlett.Granger]

She is avoidant, but he clearly is anxiously attached. It's ironic he recognises her avoidance, but doesn't understand how this - in all statistical likelihood makes him the anxious-attached partner. It is not by happenstance that these two types of people so often get in relationships with each other. I'm not an expert, but i think he'd profit massively from ending this insanity, going to a relationship therapist, psychiatrist or similar sort of counsellor and see if there's maybe something in his style of affection that dooms his relationships.

[@ZombieSazza]

13:40 “what she did on the couch…” NO, PLEASE, GOD NO! NOOOOO NOT THE COUCH MARKEE, NOOOOOO

[@Ospyro3em]

The girl in the final story is, quite frankly, absolutely exhausting. She needs to grow up a bit in order to live in the adult world if her go-to way of dealing with conflict is to shut down and sulk a bit

[@sabrinasugar2819]

Story 2. I knew someone like this. They used to be a friend and I thought we were close. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m so glad they are not my problem anymore.

[@LionMillcomics]

17:09 These two are perfect for each other.. Shes a needy, emotionally unstable, lying manipulator. He's a wittless, doormat with a savior complex.

[@hvymax]

How desperate for Human Contact is OP #2??? Run for crying out loud!!!

[@Marstic666]

Ohhhhhh if I was OP I'd go scorched earth. Inform cheating exes work about the side piece, post it all online, call his parents, tell Tara she's dating a guy who can cover up cheating, and block everyone and anyone who sides with him.

[@riverjbleu]

Op: explains in detail all the ways this woman is horrible to him and does not give a shit about him while he slaves to do everything for her. Also op: I then told her I didn’t want things to end .. bruv bffr

[@insanecowstar3008]

Story 1: whenever I hear stories like this the song "unsuccessfully coping with the natural beauty of infidelity" pops in my head. The chorus is amazing.

[@redconvoy]

I would love to watch the first two Home Alone movies around the holidays! He has to find someone that wants to watch those movies! They are a must along with Christmas Story!

[@CygnusPrime]

Story 2: Doormat, I mean OP still finds a way to blame himself 'I guess I need to work on myself'