Brutally Honest Advice for Young Men

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Becoming a man of value is no easy feat, but it doesn’t mean you have to continue to drag yourself from dumpster fire to dumpster fire in search of success and respect.
There are better ways-ways that I wish I knew about when I was a young man chasing parties, and women, and social status.
So listen up my dudes, in this video I’m sharing all the best ways to build self-esteem and earn respect. And do it in a way that you’re proud of.
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[@niksatan]

I usually hate BS self-help and "life coach" landscape, but you are the one exception, thx Mark

[@TheKrispyfort]

Probably because he's not promoting a quick fix

[@TJ_Gonser]

@@TheKrispyfortidk better help is no Beuno

[@asdsafddfshgosas2662]

​@@TheKrispyfortthat's also what I thought but I still don't think that this is enough to change someone because they easily obtain these very important informations without any consequences or they simply cannot relate to what is being said. Sorry for the absolute trash grammar I'm still learning English.

[@TheKrispyfort]

@@asdsafddfshgosas2662 Your grammar is fine. No worries. Your punctuation needs some practice. Again, not a big deal on KZbin.

yeah its always refreshing to hear what BS Mark has to say

[@zalseon4746]

Thank you for including "just try damn it", i spent 13 years trying to become an engineer and it's finally happening. I graduate this summer and start work. I was told I would never make it in the military. I served in the Army for 8 years and that's how i funded my education. Seriously people, just try. You're a lot stronger and smarter than a lot of bad people want you to realize.

[@bentravis777]

Was the Just try part also for the talking to women part? Also I'm confused about what he means? Like I don't want sex but he is saying to just approach women and state something? ...I'd assume you have to talk about other things first...have social skills and introduce myself? All this before just blurring out something about jeez I don't even know what he wants u to say. That I find u beautiful and would love to ___? Idk...he over estimates how little I know... I was forced to be a late bloomer so I need a little more help then the average Joe figuring this part out. Any help?

[@josephvids1]

@@bentravis777You’re overcomplicating it. Just try talking to a woman. That’s it. It will either go bad or good or neither. Just try and you are already ahead of where you were before.

[@Ressa9]

Congratulations

[@Shadow650Nintendero]

Congrats man! I've tried for 6 years at this moment and I'm working as a phone agent to fund my education, I hate my work, but I hope it gives some results.

[@psychedelicartistry]

@@josephvids1 Interesting I was thinking the exact same thing before I read you're comment while reading his.

[@naobolliger9188]

Thank you, Mark❤ I'm a 54 year-old mother of a 29-year old son who goes through a bit of rough pach of his life, I see this fantastic summary of advise that I couldn't put together by myself! I just sent this message to my son. First, you helped me with your book years ago and now defnitely my son... you are f-ing awesome😎 Thank you again, Mark!❤

[@JaysonT1]

I wish that I had access to Mark Manson's work when I was 29.

[@KD400_]

And that's why fathers are so important for men

[@tfkdandsvkc]

@@KD400_ it's not about fathers it's about good environment,,a father wouldn't make much of a difference as much as the environment

[@KD400_]

@@tfkdandsvkc wrong. A father figure is needed in a childs life

[@alexreyes7237]

@@tfkdandsvkcno father equals bad environment

[@ryan99842]

This video’s take really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in Unveiling Your Hidden Potential by Bruce Thornwood

[@mrnaizguy]

I discovered you at 19 and started to binge your books and online content. Now I'm 26. Got my education in check, got a relationship with the most wonderful woman that I couldn't even imagined back then, immensely grew my confidence and emotional maturity and managed to untangle all the emotional baggage and mental health problems that I had. You were and are a big help in that journey. Thanks Mark.

[@SouryChery]

He saved almost every young men from scrolling hundreds of improvement video by just 10 minutes. Truly legend.

[@BananaSoupProjects]

Great video and solid advice, but the environment you live in is also an important factor. Most young people aren't valued by older folk so how can they value themselves? A big percentage of families nowadays are broken and have ruined the younger generations. The dating landscape is absolutely horrible. The social life is non existent for many. Basically the older generations, women, even our own generations none value us so how can we value ourselves? We have given up like a gazelle among lions, cause if we try to do anything we will get cut down and it is better to just be quiet doing our minimum pay job with a high rent apartment box and distract ourselves with entertainment. We saw the generation that is above 30 now do try and fail many times and they are miserable, in dept, lost their companies and jobs, divorced, ruined their kids, drug addicts, absolute mess, so why should we try is that's the result? We were told to work hard cause that will give us good jobs what will give us good life but we worked hard and got nothing, even worse than nothing, we lost ourselves and our future with it - in terms of our psychological and physical health. In the end everyone will be fucked cause of the society's flawed ideologies.

[@UnseemlyGenie00]

Except he looks like a doomer

[@AXALMA]

Dude what💀 go outside. If you stopped only living online and had a social life you would probably realise the world isn’t fucked like everyone says on the internet.

[@thomasj-b9601]

@@BananaSoupProjects 99% of your thoughts aren't true, life can surprise you in many ways and all you can do is try man. I hope you have a good day and good things come your way and feel like you need to vent this to someone, they are valid thoughts just won't help you succeed (I know this as they stopped me trying for years). All the best man

[@vonmoose5285]

Love the message, Mark. As a child-free woman, I sometimes feel like I'm in the same boat. I have to prove my value as I've chosen to forgo an expectation of my gender. More men, young and old, need to hear words of support that will guide them to be better rounded people and not just chase the clout.

[@Chanel31113]

Interesting! I am in my 30s and Child free by choice, and have never felt this way. I am wondering if it’s because I have chosen to not have Vs haven’t had the opportunity and always wanted them? It could be other factors as well. I find your comment very interesting how there can be a completely opposite experience internally to a similar outcome.

[@ClearBlueSky3]

Practically, when a man has somebody to care about and knows that this very person cares about him too, not even in exchange for his care, but just acknowledges and supports him anytime and anyhow, always differently It does make a huge difference and gives a sense of purpose for a man It is sort of coming, probably, from the old times when people were hunting and exchanging each other, for example, mother was collecting shrooms and berries, while father was hunting and bringing meat, combining was nice, or when someone got sick and other person took care of the sick one Just considering how in recent world more and more men struggle to even approach somebody, clearly they don’t have that feeling of a purpose, even if it isn’t their purpose to make a family or smth like that Like, getting rich, fit and healthy isn’t quite the purposes of whole lives Like, you subconsciously ask yourself, if, “when I achieve those, for what or for who? Was it even needed, if nobody gives two damns about me in this world?” So yeah, every man needs a supportive person, At least one, with which I agree with you

[@MNP208]

@@Chanel31113were you raised in a religion? That is huge for a woman who doesn’t want children.

[@Chanel31113]

@@MNP208 no, but I am Christian. I just never felt a longing to have any. During my marriage I thought if they happened they happened, but we definitely weren’t trying for them. I have never regretted it. I like going on vacations and having lots of free time to spend doing things with my partner.

[@EricaBerry232]

I feel the same now that my son is grown and has his own life. I find myself in a lot of videos geared towards young men figuring their lives out and like I am going through this whole thing now that other people went through in their 20's. It's taken a few years to "find myself" and create a new sense of worth now that I am not living for the purpose of a child.

[@gehriggosselin9468]

lol I burst into tears at "just try". It definitely sometimes feels like trying is nowhere near enough, this is a nice reminder that trying is all you really can do. I love Ted Roosevelet's idea of the man in the arena. Thanks for this, and many other lessons Mark. Will be returning to this one periodically.

[@RealityFixxx]

You nailed it!

[@tomsterbg8130]

Cringing at your past self is the best way to know you've grown up. Thank you for reminding me this with your last few lines!

[@spennythespoo]

Regularly watching your content is one of the most uplifting parts of my day. Thank you, Mark! ❤

[@musicbysazid]

00:00 🌟 Define your usefulness to the world as a young man to become a net positive for society. 00:58 💑 Choose a long-term partner wisely as it significantly impacts all aspects of your life. 02:52 🕰 Value in a man compounds slowly over time; focus on long-term growth rather than short-term gratification. 03:51 💡 Continuously educate yourself beyond formal schooling, focusing on life skills and emotional health. 06:10 🚫 Earn respect by giving it unconditionally and focusing on bringing value to others. 07:41 🔄 Build self-awareness by understanding your motivations, fears, and behavioral patterns. 08:12 💪 Seize the opportunities and freedoms available today by taking action and continually pushing yourself to grow.

[@nathfavour]

Thank you❤

[@rprbeck]

I just realised sonething: Depression in men is rising wherever we look. „A woman simply is, a man must become“ is basically saying: men are not worth anything just being themselves, the only worth they have is what they can do for others. Women can just be themselves and are enough. Men apparently always have to do something, provide something, achieve something. And the second you are not doing this anymore, you‘re worthless. This reality is not only immensly unfair but depressing as hell. And we wonder wonder why men are depressed…

[@myjourney9730]

Oh god, I wish I had this video when I was 16. I’ve had to figure out a lot in the last 2-3 years, and after looking back at the people I use to be considered worse than just a year ago and am now held in a higher regard comparatively, the work I’ve put in over the last year is just starting to bear fruit. I didn’t cut out, but stopped feeding into the drama loop cycles that a lot of my old friends fell into. I didn’t cut anyone out, but I stopped engaging in the pointless drama cycles and it’s insane how much you can learn about yourself just by choosing to observe the toxicity of others rather than feed the cycle out of boredom.

[@ecmg8368]

I love the dating device. Straight to the point, no filler, no bs.

[@aronjaeger]

inventing a dating device for dating

[@afaccrocazz]

Probably your best video to date, Mark. Great work, great words brother.

[@ILikeGuns1992]

Why you think so though? Specially when it basically contradicts core things Mark said so far. Not having to prove anything to anyon vs having to prove you are worth it as a man.

[@deepeshmoolchandani643]

1. Build value within yourself that is the best dating advice 2. Find a person who can be your life partner 3. Almost all things that are valuable in a man compound slowly 4. Education is the primary project for life 5. Life is exploration - explore your potential of health, money and sex 6. Earn respect from people by bringing value 7. Manage emotions never let them dictate your life for you 8. Stay the course 9. Learn what motivates you learn what derails you, achieve self mastery 10. You are the average of five people you surround with 11. Fucking try push yourself build value and share with others It's time to get started!

[@farhanshariar5962]

Mark u have literally Changed my whole mind and the way I used to think about everything. In the midst of bullshit advices that roams around the internet You'r advice, Opinions are Legit Real life practical things... Thanks for everything.

[@beyonderaatrox1670]

We have two lives, the second only begins when we realize that we have but one. Amazing video, definitely gonna rewatch this periodically to wake tf up

[@jokers__playground]

Thanks Mark, 23 myself. Was going to skip the ad but something told me don't. I am a master in self sabotage right now. Therapy has been something on my mind. Again,I am grateful for your contant. Grateful for finally pushing me over the edge, and thankful for having found you.

[@vik98]

Great wisdom. Wish you had talked about overstimulation. The cycle can steal years from you. Try being bored and you might raise your curiosity, which makes you try and explore stuff

[@DatNerdyKidd]

Gimme some advice on how to reduce it please

[@phillystevesteak6982]

​Boundries are the only way. You have to impose restrictions on yourself by limiting your consumption of content; youtube, spcial media, tv, games, busy work, etc. You have to purposely induce boredom. Sit with yourself and meditate. Go for a walk without music or podcast. Emptiness. Go for a relaxing drive with the radio off. Don't pick up your phone when you're waiting in line at the pharmacy or when you're on the toilet. Sit on your bed with a pen and paper. Write anything thag comes to mind. Make any of these a part of every day to some degree. Your creativity will begin to blossom, you'll start having important epiphanies about what to do with your life, etc.​

[@DatNerdyKidd]

@@phillystevesteak6982 I think I'll start with not using my phone while eating. I don't even taste the food at this point.

[@akebengtsson1223]

Start using the tool Screen Time. Then just act like normal for a week and see what your average screen time was. Then set a realistic goal for next week, let's say 30 minutes lower average than the week before. Do this until you are below 3hr per day@@DatNerdyKidd

[@vik98]

​@@DatNerdyKidd That's a fantastic idea! How did it go? To reduce it: 1) reflect these three questions: - What do you use to stimulate yourself? - How does it feel like, to be overstimulated? - How do you feel, while trying to fall asleep at the end of an overstimulated day? (only useful, if you fall asleep without distracting devices) [ in my case: - activities that lead to overstimulation are videogames, candy, masturbation, shortform content, drugs, music & random videos - low motivation, low energy, no satisfaction, day flew by, feeling apathetic/don't care about the fact that I overstimulate, don't want to stop stimulation, don't want to face all the tasks that I put off till tomorrow. - I typically fall asleep ~5-6 hours later than usual, mostly due to exhaustion, not because I want to stop. While trying to fall asleep, I feel ashamed and useless. If I distract myself with videos until I fall asleep, I don't have to deal with these thoughts :) ] 2) change your environment Your environment influences your actions. You know, what you use for stimulation. What could you do to force limits? (I uninstalled steam, don't bring junk food home, only unlock my phone after inwardly stating my intention & avoid a certain spot on my couch) 3) accept that it's f*cking annoying. I wish this was the path of least resistance, but it's a battle against a seductive enemy that gives you believable, yet empty promises. It does get easier with repetition, but yeah... sorry to tell you. Let me know if you find an easy way though :D Best of luck broski. Wish you success.

[@CrystleDragon]

As a woman, I found this video useful to understand men a little better. I also learned some stuff for myself. Like, yeah. I do complain too much. It's how I process things, but I realize I do it a lot, and I gotta work on that. Also: nothing is hotter than a man who is emotionally mature and supportive, imo.

[@AliMacAzz]

@CrystyleDragon And very few things are.hotter than a woman who doesn’t complain and knows the value of taking responsibility and accountability.

[@mementomori29231]

I hope Mark does similar content for women too.

[@realheckertrustmebro]

-taking notes- fk that I'll be on self improvement.

[@JohnStockton7459]

Plenty of emotionally mature men are not attractive to women. In reality, nothing is hotter than being a billionaire or famous.

[@CrystleDragon]

@@JohnStockton7459 I don't find wealth or fame attractive in itself. Wealth often equals way too busy or disconnected from the world (maybe not always, but that's how it looks from my eyes). As for fame, I'd rather not be seen by millions of strangers for being so-and-so's gf or ex. I like my privacy. So, to each their own, but it's not a universal opinion. Hence the "imo" in my post. I can't speak for all women, my post is from my perspective.

[@fugu4163]

In another video a guy commented about his 150 lb friend with a junkyard car and very little money that didnt have any trouble with finding women to have a romantic relationship with. Thats because his self confidence are huge and nothing else.

[@not-a-cupid-stunt]

Are you absolutely sure there was nothing else oversized? Sorry, couldn't resist 😅 But seriously, that friend sounds just like me...except the huge confidence/no trouble finding women bit. Mind you I'm gay, so perhaps not entirely surprising...the latter, obviously...the former less so and a mix of causes...but let's just say some nature, some nurture 😐

[@elijahaa]

His friend obviously doesnt base his self worth on his car,weight and financial worth. He gets his confidence from other things.

[@bryanwilson928]

You work for 40yrs to have $1m in your retirement, Meanwhile some people are putting just $10k in a meme coin for just few months and now they are multi millionaires. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

[@DelaneyGilfillan]

I'm favoured financially, Thank you Jesus $32,000 weekly profit regardless of how bad it gets on the economy.

[@kevinandrews4]

Trading without professional guide... Huh I laugh you, because you will remain where you are or even make huge losses that will stop you from trading, this has been one of the biggest problem to new traders

[@jeisson_acosta12]

It's a miracle and I would testify, 110K bucks every 4weeks! I now have a big mansion and can now afford anything and also support God's work and the church.

[@damncat2793]

Fucking bot scam invasion

[@Dave.Mustaine.Is.Genius]

​@@kevinandrews4come to Islam sir.

[@leojokura1139]

Mark you are the father that i never had! Huge fan from brazil!

[@shted224]

One true dude that helped me in every facet of my life. Started looking at your stuff at 23. 27 now and content with my life. Thank you ❤️

[@joshswenk1967]

So many men could really use this insight, I found every piece of it genuine and true through my own trials and tribulations.

[@Looking_at_the_viewer]

Mark was so emotional last podcast about young generation. like a bro thanks man love you

[@attentionlabel]

I've seen a lot of these videos. This one is by far one of the most helpful, concise and realistic. Thanks Mark and to anyone reading this, I BELIEVE IN YOU, have a fantastic day.

[@nrlw-77777]

Why are u so good. Ur videos come exactly at the correct time.

[@ch1x101]

As a 16 year old, being patient is actually the hardest thing to do but I'm trying upd: as one of the replies adviced I started to meditate and it really helps. If you're struggling with the same thing you should try doing it

[@the_ab101]

meditate

[@ch1x101]

@@the_ab101 I've been avoiding it for a long time, bc I thought it was hard, but you know what? I will start today. Thank you.

[@the_ab101]

@@ch1x101 👍

[@TheKrispyfort]

Adolescence is the hardest phase of life to endure.

[@TheKrispyfort]

Meditation - Eastern style is good. It's about observing your thoughts without being absorbed by them.

[@iBridgee]

A must-watch for every young man out there. Solid advice that can truly make a difference. 👏

[@takshakwagh5643]

Happy holi Mark sir

[@_DopamineJunkie_]

It's tomorrow, isn't it?

[@saisiddhartha5375]

Yes​@@_DopamineJunkie_

[@ayushgupta-vp4kb]

At the end it doesn't matter to mark it's Today or tomorrow

[@itsjazzkun]

​@@_DopamineJunkie_ The Time He'll Probably See it'll be the day

[@Toomuch_xan]

There ain't any emoji for Holi right?

[@lectornovato]

This is a master piece for the times we are living. Thanks Mark.

[@tubester2023]

i concur!

[@mrtheozzy6227]

It's a blessing meeting you, Mark. 🙏🏿✌🏿🤝🏿

[@alana.4432]

Another day trying to be the man that the world needs, Im most definetly not trying hard enough but this no bullshit thing you did helps me because you cut through a lot and go straight to the point, no "ideology" involved, i'll keep on my lane trying to quit all my vices and stop procrastinating, the sun is out today again so let's make something out of it...

[@monotonousinsomniac5176]

7:38 Not trying to excuse this behavior, but perhaps the reason why some men end up letting it out on their peers is because they tried therapy and not only was it too expensive for them, but they subconciously discovered how anti-male therapy is and how it does more harm than good for men. It's not necessarily that they see their peers as therapists, but moreso that they have nowhere else to go and talk about their feelings.

[@SpiderYTSucks]

Complaining about the environment to the people you share it with is completely natural. People just want them to see things from their perspective. Nothing wrong with it. Also complaining about people who cause problems is totally justified.

[@citycrusher9308]

@@SpiderYTSucks Exactly

[@monotonousinsomniac5176]

​@@SpiderYTSucksI bet most in the comments section have never heard of the term "expressing your grievances".

[@chhiringlama7203]

Straight up speaking facts no sugarcoated

[@Jayy41]

Enough no more motivational videos no more self help videos no more look maxing videos i need to get my life on tracks now there are distraction every where no more phone i'll spend time with my family instead i will listen to BHAGAWAT GEETA audio book i instead thankyou so much mark for making this video ever single word you just said in this video made a huge impact on me i am 18 years old i love your videos and i often watch them but yet i end up scrolling from now i will stop scrolling in internet i hope this fire that i am feeling right now will stay forever

[@ALONE_dm]

Same bhai mai bhi 17 ki umar mei itna mature ho gaya hun

[@Jayy41]

@@ALONE_dm bro i wish you all the best for your future and i hope you'll not get distracted from your ultimate goal

[@ALONE_dm]

@@Jayy41 strangers on the internet like you are better than real life friends

[@Jayy41]

@@ALONE_dm couldn't agree more bro i've lost all my friends and it's just me and myself

[@sharpoomonke688]

The "just try it" was more than fabulous. I deeply thank you for this video.

[@sjinfinity]

Thanks for continuously reminding us the basics. We tend to forget these crucial things after a while. Your videos serve as a reminder

[@jenelillanalorono7247]

"It's easy to be great nowadays 'cuz most people are weak." - Goggins

[@NoVIcE_Source]

If acceptance is conditional, transactional like that, then this is a sad fucking world we live in I have a feeling that the world is more nuanced than that...

[@corki2]

this is the good shit that everyone needs to hear. way better than all the other "self improvement" people out there. phenomenal job

[@nirvanapendulum3254]

"Weak men try to convince the world they are not weak. Strong men try to convince the world of nothing." Why is that ? Can't I just enjoy my 1 day of triumph that I achieved my goal and show that I am human in everything ? You may think my pride hit the top, and that's the reason that I wrote 1 day of triumph since I'll easily forget about it and move along.

[@sikandarACCAUK]

i really love you man glad to have a writer like you who make sense amid all this nonsense and chaos

[@thetobydavis]

Mark, I hope you realise the legacy you will leave behind one day. Thank you for the invaluable wisdom you consistently share. 🙌🏽

[@anzaklaynimation]

2:55 absolutely

[@nathanbalmer3093]

I'm 22, I really appreciate this being available for free. Genuine people sharing learned knowledge and experiences are some of the greatest outcomes of the connectedness we see in the world today. Your advice is effective because it doesn't feel like "new" information necessarily, it feels like something that has been patiently waiting for me to give my acceptance and attention to for all my life. Sincerely, Nathan

[@garmisra7841]

I appreciate throwing in the Paglia quote - she's said many such things - and she's a Feminist! Some things just make sense.

[@Queen_Boy52]

Mark, thank you for this video. I'm 16 years old, i'm going to my purposes:enter the uni, write a book about afganian war. Get a good girlfriend. Yeah, it's hard, but i'm not focus on mind barriers. So, i think, i'll reach this goals, and you Mark, the best!!

[@The.now.matters]

I'm 20 & this was the best self improvement video I ever watched most of the people that either telling me bs or buying the online courses which I haven't been successful in but learnt from it so thanks man this is really something I really have to start reading your books😂❤

[@Merchantliam]

As a 14 y/o these videos defo help give me that extra knowledge on my journey. Thanks Mark!

[@JarvinTheJar]

From don't try, to just try. What a transition!

[@entertainmentjungle9030]

😂

[@aakashdaniel7452]

😂😂😂

[@joseangelizquierdo4015]

😂😂

[@tonya5468]

As an old guy, who has managed to learn to be pretty happy and to create a good life, I officially endorse this video. You rock, Mark Manson - thank you for sharing your wisdom!

[@billybobson2258]

I always think, that you cant teach me more, but everytime i continue to learn. 15 years avoiding therapy didnt got me anywere, but seeking the help i needed, made me realize all the destructive patterns of myself. Its not easy, but its totally worth it. Thank you for sharing your knowledge for free and be a better example for all people out here!

[@blazefrostt]

Man, I love this. I’ve been following you for a couple of years but this is the best video ever. Everything a man needs to know, packed into 10 minutes. The world is so much better place with you, Mark! And yeah the new editing / storytelling style rules, one feels.. somehow connected.

[@CJWolf-st1qi]

This may be one of your best videos yet

[@Paulie_Geelie]

So many people in men’s help have varying degrees of sexism and misogyny, it’s so refreshing to find someone who will tell us what we need to know without all the negativity that so often comes with it. Thank you for sharing your wise words, I’m going through a rough breakup/career transition right now, and it means especially a lot to me right now.

[@sebastiaanstok]

Absolutely solid advice, and much needed! Thans for sharing this knowledge and wisdom.

[@wtfzalgo]

I still remember when you had your blog some 10 years ago or so and you offered some advice about relationship issues I was having. God you've come a long way, I'm so glad to see you up there.

[@fraustedwhite]

Great message, Mark. Even for a 40 year old woman.

[@occupationoverkill]

Thanks for this Mark. Good advice for older men like myself too. 1. To feel better about how long it took to get here 2. To realize the work continues and 3. To crystallize the idea in such a simple digestible format I will be able to pass on to my son when he is ready to hear it.

[@ryanbarker3978]

Love the pro therapy message. Be careful to find the right fit. BetterHelp is a great start but the first therapist is rarely the right therapist. Don't be afraid to switch if you feel stuck; I know finding a local psychologist greatly helped me.

[@danieljoachimnielsen6379]

That’s the single best, most generous, weirdly loving message to Young men I’ve ever heard. I’ll happily pass this on - Manson, you the 🐐

[@monotonousinsomniac5176]

6:43 So we as men should not be concerned about things such as MeToo, MGM, male conscription, female gender quotas, feminism, etc.?

[@SpiderYTSucks]

Exactly, there's no self-improving these problems away.

[@MinhChi003]

I am a 20-year-old guy from Vietnam who has been reading Mark's stuff for more than three years. I got rid of depression, quit playing games and did calisthenics 5 times a week. I'm fine, everything's fine and the world is basically fine

[@DjimmyTrovy]

I don't know. It seems to me that this is more of a trend what you are talking about. Go to the gym, be a "high value man". What if you do these and still are confused what your real priorities should be.. and the more you look at how to improve yourself the more stressful it becomes. Why just go to the gym? Why not find a personal trainer and train 3-4 hours a day? Why not work smart and hard 10-16 hours a day? And of course you need 7-8 hours at least of sleep. How do you manage all of that and still have time? I understand that self-improvement is key but where do you draw the line? This contradicts "not giving a f" in many ways too.. idk..

[@tonymarchant9083]

I am 62 years old....all of this is true.

[@boomeruncleexists]

please dont get me wrong guys. just seek advice from people elder to you, like those people whom the internet refers to as boomer. in my life, they have given the best advice despite being boomers on social media. It might differ in othes cases, but do try it out!

[@catalinagalan]

As a woman who doesn’t have, or ever will have kids, I find myself constantly struggling with the first point you made. I don’t know if women particularly like that their “inherent value” is being able to have kids, instead of something they actually worked for or achieved, but it is something men can’t do, that’s just a fact. Also a lot of women do want it and I think that’s wonderful! But if it’s not in the cards for you, then what? And if it’s not something that calls you, then what’s your value? I never really saw it from this perspective before. It’s interesting to think about it 🤔 but only for like… a second (or however long it took me to write this).

[@mementomori5374]

Do you people here in the comment section really think that this dude got it all figured out ? No one knows shit in this universe every human is completly unique every situation moment is completly unique and new what works in this moment will maybe not work in another this guy is just a pro seller like all of them are just to make gains for themselves

[@frosticoof2892]

I can kinda see where this is coming from but: A: this guy has life experience B: actually no, the human experience is fairly universal C: he's done his research, he's read a many books.

[@chaitanyagupta6668]

Well if we had an option between him and you your royal highness, wonder what we will pick

[@mementomori5374]

@@chaitanyagupta6668 you should pick YOURSELF not him or me !! thats what i am trying to say you are not HIM you’re experience is completely unique

[@mementomori5374]

@@chaitanyagupta6668 just because he has so many followers doesn’t mean he is superior don’t put people on a fucking pedastle he is just a man

[@Konstantinos143]

13 years since I first heard about you. Thank you for your work sir

[@bekhzodtojiboev2351]

I will do one push-up and read one page for every like this comment gets. Stay hard! Mark, can you please pin this comment? 120 push-ups done ✅ 120 pages read ✅

[@coffeebux]

A page from what? Green Eggs & Ham?

[@danielnoah282]

Mark asked me to tell you no

[@gauravsharma1692]

Bro just yapping😂

[@thegoat4913]

Good luck bro!

[@newbiepetrohead]

Maybe you need to check point number 6 🤔

[@pavelsliachtovic7202]

This one really spoke to me. Thanks for all the non-annoying, non-dimishing, down-to-earth life advice, Mark

[@broncoxy]

11. really is an important one and it really resonated with me; I'm far from having done everything right and dandy thats on this list, but over the last years, I've more and more pushed myself to take risks, to make plans and follow them, to do shit that seems undoable at first... be it a big travel to that exotic country you've always dreamed of, be it composing own music, be it whatever - the motto I've followed has been _'If you try, there is a chance you succeed, if you don't, there is certainty that you don't succeed, you have already lost'_

[@MTheory333]

I’ve watched a lot of ahit on KZbin. I’ve read a lot of shit in books and everywhere else. Mark is still one of my most favorite straight forward person doing it. Thank you Mark. Please keep up the fantastic work.

[@ReshabSharma-q8e]

Hey, Mark I want you to make more videos on the advice for men specifically.

[@sdfwegwewr2455]

i appreciate you a lot mark. out of all "motivational" content creators you definitely seem the most genuine and that is an accomplishment in that genre.

[@arizh38]

Love it, very informative and presented in a funny way!

[@MotocrossElf]

Solid and practical and sadly very rare advice. Our culture does a terrible job at helping young men find these qualities, especially seeing their own value and contribution. The world is all too eager to make you a cog in someone else's plans while crushing your aspirations

[@AndrewThoesen]

On the last point you just reminded me… I can’t remember the last time I drank to excess, or felt guilty about the amount I drank. I just finally moved on from that being part of my life. Without fanfare. And that feels kind of awesome.

[@seanvincent9777]

This man is a sage way ahead of his time. Keep up the good work Mark! Love your videos and books! Respect always!

[@solaris_molaris]

Thanks Mark, I’m 21 and it feels… infinitely messy. I suppose everyone at my age feels this way. I feel like I should have everything completed NOW, NOW, NOW!!! However, only me, myself, and I put this pressure on me. Now, I know why. You lifted a massive weight off my shoulders; and that I can only thank you. I appreciate your advice a lot.

[@BoyetMoto]

I wish I've seen you when I'm 18. I could've learn these early and not the hard way. Thanks Mark!

[@BlueBEAZY45]

I can attest to the fact that I 💯 need to get my emotional health in check. I struggle with severe social anxiety and have been in a pretty deep depression lately. Just feeling worthless about myself. It’s pretty foolish to expect anyone else to love me when I can’t even love myself. I start therapy this week! Thanks Mark.

[@58breezing]

When approaching a female you're attracted to: tell her the first thing you think of, but you gotta keep it clean. A genuine & creative comment goes a long way. Women know a disingenuous approach a mile away.

[@rail7646]

I'm 34 and I'm still a fuckhead, I wasted the last 20 years on videogames, and now I'm exploring my body and women lol, most of my current friends are around 20~28, I just feel like I live a delayed life most if not all of this advice still apply to me, I've no achievements to show and still feel like I'm 20 in the the inside or even younger, thanks for beeing there mark, I followed you for more than 8 years now

[@firstnamelastname9955]

Frequent exercise and quarterly use of psychedelics (solo tripping with intention) have been huge game changers in mental well-being for me. 30 year old male just starting a massive upward trajectory. The truth about there being no congratulatory episode when you acheieve things in life really hits home. Don't expect a pat on the back and certainly don't strive to meet your goals with validatiom being a motivating factor. Do it because you want to. Do it because you want it fo yourself. Do the work. Do what is difficult. Push yourself to your literal breaking point and find where your limits are... then challenge those limits. I am currently doing things in my life that I never thought I would be able to handle, and am only looking to further challenge myself. Some of these things honestly terrify me and put other people's life in mu hands. Masculinity grows through challenge. Challenge yourself and be willing to fail, but ask yourself what you really will lose if you never even try.

[@DipsyKay]

Mark Manson is simply the best.. You changed my life.. Thank you so much... God assigned you for this task... Thank you once again

[@denaude7058]

I'm 24 now. I'm still an undergrad student and I haven't worked before. But I'm trying to improve myself bit by bit each day.

[@mism847]

Used to read your website WAY before I started following your channel on KZbin. You always come up with the best advice.

[@jiwonmoon]

I felt the compassion in this video. So well done Mark!

[@DavidShimel]

Wasn't expecting a Camile Paglia quote right off the bat; love it!

[@sumantrarijal5060]

This is exactly what young men need to hear. Great Video. Great Advice.

[@AMAli-ct5df]

Explorations over achievements

[@mahtabsoin7239]

The world is unequivocally harder for men today. Women have 1000x the support systems + lower expectations from society. Thank you for sharing this, Mark.

[@GodHelpMe369]

He's fully off the pedestal now. I just recognize his incredible limitations as a human being. It's actually sad for him, as it certainly dulls his experience of life. He called me DRAMATIC for just being capable of deep reflection and emotion. How shallow. How immature. How boring. How sad.

[@typorter-pp6lh]

I am 48, turned 18 in 1993. It is continuously shocking to me how young men today need to be reminded of the very basic and obvious ideas presented in this video on a DAILY BASIS. I am not saying my generation was or is perfect. I didn’t find my career path (journalism) until I was 21. But I at least knew I had to TRY to find it. I was always moving FORWARD, learning and slowly improving. Most of the teens and young adults around me have absolutely no drive to do anything other than play video games or other time-sucking diversions. The funny part is that it is MY generation of parents that has created so many weak men!

[@ClearBlueSky3]

But mate, Not all hope is lost, maybe we do need to get reminded of those things, but some of us still have enough energy and faith in our lives and ourselves to keep on pushing and still pursuing something, so we gain piece here, piece there and slowly put the puzzle together, constructing a good life! Just the pandemics hella divided society, it is straight from 2019 in which you could sort of come up to a random stranger and have a fine conversation, now if you do that, you will probably be counted as crazy or one breaking personal space and people became so closely closed inside of their little boxes, which are their phones, that you legit barely can have a normal conversation about life, space, nature and stuff aside from politics, fast fashion and modern, not gonna lie, shitty music style or games

[@delta2372]

Man I'm 26 (turned it in March) and I feel like I'm completely fucked and wasted my youth, didn't go to college until January of this year because I thought "oh it's just for indoctrinating kids into a political ideology these days" and despite going back I felt extremely awkward because I was on the older side of things (which I have always have been in most things I attended as a kid and a teen) I tried the military but it turned me down, I have very little job experience that can land me anything that isn't some retail BS and I have never dated, I workout but can't be committed to always do it, at this point the 27s club is looking real inviting next year :(

[@wholesomematt]

You got that DAWG in you on this one. The agency is on YOU. You’re a 100% right. Thanks for the video man. I really enjoyed it.

[@musaokai]

Your advice have greatly improved my sense of self