Are You Ruminating Venting or PROCESSING Your Emotions

When it comes to our emotions, we can spend a lot of time ruminating, which leads us into a spiral of unproductive "spinning" over worries, conflicts and thoughts that distress us. On the other hand, we often think that in "venting" or ranting, we are effectively dealing with our emotions.
In this video, I want to talk about how we are often ruminating over our emotions or venting our emotions, but we often never get to actually PROCESSING our emotions.
I want to share with you the difference and walk through what effective emotional processing can look like.
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[@tl5404]

I've been waking up everyday feeling depressed, angry and fueled with self hatred, anger and then shame. I prayed everyday for help. Im so sick of church christians ppl saying pray more journal more repent more declare more. Thank you SO much for your real talk Mark.

[@smokingcrab2290]

I 100% identify. It amazes me how Mark is literally the only Christian who can give real answers to these problems we have.

[@shannonl9633]

I Hear you, can so identify, and couldn't agree more. Thank you for sharing. I pray that ALL who are struggling deeply along these lines, comes to encounter more FULLY the compassionate Love of The Father. I know with Everything in me that this is where the answer lies - God, grant us the grace to lay hold of your intimate personal love for us that lays all these burdens that we carry to rest. In the name of Jesus, Amen.

[@nicoleawall9651]

I need to listen to this while I sleep! Your timing with this one is amazing. I can’t believe I found this nugget of gold in KZbin. Thank you so much for all of your free content.

[@ijeomawakama7200]

Ngl Mark, God has you on point with the timings on your videos man!!! Your a blessing! Love you loads!!

[@dunskiedmusic4396]

for real bro! hahaha

[@alliehill4076]

Does Ngl mean something? Just wondering. Btw Mark is an awesome blessing, thank you Lord.

[@susanfischer6155]

Yes

[@dunskiedmusic4396]

@@alliehill4076 'not gonna lie'

[@alliehill4076]

@@dunskiedmusic4396 thanks

[@jennifera777]

I have been struggling to be convinced of my salvation and this message helped me realize that most likely it’s because I don’t have a single relationship that I feel secure in and its causing me to lean on my own understanding through the lenses rejection and abandonment. I used to ruminate about my ex-boyfriend cheating on me and but I was proven wrong even though I was convinced that he was. I was also bewitched by a teaching that put fear in my heart when prior to hearing it I felt comfortable in relationship to God. Thank you for this message, it is reMarkable.

[@smokingcrab2290]

What teaching put fear in your heart? I understand the feeling insecure in relationships. I've felt insecure even in my own relationship to myself for a long time. It's been hard learning how to love myself as God loves me, because I see all the flaws in me that others don't. But I'm learning now that they're not really "flaws" persay. I just wasn't ever equipped to deal with certain things. There's a lot I didn't know (and still don't). But now I'm learning to have patience and just accept God's rhythm for my life, even if I don't have the answers. God will provide the answers in time. And in the meantime, I'll just be unapologetically myself - the way God made me :) I hope you're doing well on your journey

[@hsee7220]

This was gold Mark.

[@rckc.1719]

spot on mark.............we have been so conditioned for self-hate that when we hear a message such as yours it takes time to change.... i have been conditioned for over 20 years but now i am glad i found your web site.....thank God and thank you.

[@daughteroflight8624]

My father doesn't talks with me and never shares anything related to real life issues. Hence watching your videos makes me feel like I'm getting to know the things that I should have known from a father figure. Thank you Ps. Mark. 💛🙌🏻💛

[@smokingcrab2290]

These are very good distinctions to make

[@caseygilmour9963]

I have just started watching your channel. I have not been raised in a religious environment but your videos speak to this deep place in my heart. I have never been so heard and seen in my life. Mark - You are a gift . Thankyou for sharing your journey . I will be forever grateful for your videos. Sending Love from Australia

[@shannonl9633]

Becoming a compassionate witness or observer - as I've heard it referred to as - is something that in and of itself takes time. Learning how to have a compassionate stance towards my experience in terms of difficult painful emotions, is a practice that can be cultivated and for that, I am so grateful. I'm not very good at it, but I'm learning slowly but surely.

[@x_arnie]

We need more people like you! Thanks for being so down to earth.

[@coconut_juice]

And your point about venting is interesting... I've seen a lot of Christians vent online about how bad or arrogant unbelievers are and etc. I never thought of it that way.

[@GGWOLFKING]

Thank you for being you and for this! I have listened to so many of your videos and your words are inching my stubborn soul towards love. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

[@jewishbride5010]

Good topic again! In agreement with this whole message and colossians 3:15, proverbs 28:26, proverbs 12:15, proverbs 29:11, 2 corinthians 6:14-15, matthew 6:24, 1 John 3:10 I bind one to an healthy processing of emotions in my life, the lives of my family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, acquaintances, opponents and the body of Christ where the peace of Christ rules, where trust is not in one's own righteousness and where temper is not lost, binding one not to ruminate and/or venting emotions in my life, the lives of my family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, acquaintances, opponents and the body of Christ while binding to hell to ruminate or vent one's emotions, binding to hell being unequally yoked and have any common share with those who ruminate or vent emotions, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!

[@DeVaughnalexander]

🔥 super helpful!

[@yoshi4691]

This brought me to my knees. Thank you, brother 🙏🏼

[@godsdaughter1954]

Sounds like me. Almost 70 yrs old. I hope there is hope for me.

[@crysshab8150]

Thank you for this!! So so good! Much needed!

[@SadeInc]

Thank you and may God continue to bless you abundantly

[@lilyyong2420]

Thank you thank you thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Trumpet222]

Hey Mark. Long time since I watched your channel many thanks for this it is incredible I am going to start watching again :)

[@perfectionista492]

3:19-3:21 How much training have you really had in your life? I could say I had a lot of training. I have had many therapists, including one solid, Christian one for years as well as Holy Spirit-filled parents who had good insight into me. However, in the midst of that "training", in retrospect, I can see that maybe I wasn't ready to receive it and too much of the work and thinking was done for me so I either was never given the chance to come into for myself or I just wasn't ready to come into it for myself because I was too broken and felt so inadequate and damaged. It is definitely the latter because no one is responsible for my being stuck but me. And I need to literally train myself to have compassion on what I was and wasn't ready for and be proud of how far God has brought me. It is not necessarily bad to not be ready for something even if it's good for you. It isn't always a moral failing; if you're not ready, you're just not ready. No judgement needed. But I would be so hung up on the guilt of not being ready because I " should" be ready because of all the sacrifices people said they were making for me, so I would try to "act good" instead really allowing certain guidance to transform me.

[@shannonl9633]

So well said/expressed. I wholeheartedly agree. It is okay, to not be okay - it is okay to not be ready but to simply Be where one is. I'm so happy for you that you've come to realize this. I am in the process of realizing this for myself. It is slow - it is slow moving, but it is nevertheless happening. It is just that, a process. Processes take time. There is no quick fix. There is no overnight solution or silver bullet. I have been looking for and wanting that for so long. It hasn't happened at all that way. I'm having to learn little by little, step by step. It is a process. It is a journey.

[@lovewinsmary]

❤

[@ValVanee]

Thank you so much brother

[@MissPixel22]

What if u don't have no help

[@aileenbie291]

might be code to others but God knows exactly who you are being passive aggressive about.

[@Blessednesting]

How do we discover which thoughts/emotions to process through or ignore?

[@marktdejesus]

Through practice and learning as we go.