When your Family calls you Fat

[@claudiaycaza3266]

Happens to me a lot and I’m 14 years old and I really get sad when my family call me fat and I tell them to stop but they won’t and I don’t know what to do cause I’m insecure about that

[@MarlaMervisHartmann]

that is so challenging. It is not easy when are family is being mean. Is there anyone that you can talk to about this? A friend of the family?

[@antonella3379]

my mom calls me fat. my step dad says i will break things and i shouldn’t eat, i’ve heard my family fat shame people and now i think they are all toxic, if they will fat shame other people they will to me and i’m not even that fat i’m like a skinny fat, it makes me cry when i hear that word.. my mom is obsessed with my weight.

[@MarlaMervisHartmann]

Antonella, it is important for you to boost your own self-esteem because your family isn't going to support you. Inundate yourself with positive messages about your body and weight. Also, realize that your mom and dad have their own issues and fear of not being thin enough. They are dealing with diet culture's beliefs about weight. You are not alone in how you feel. DON"T let it create a painful relationship with your food/body. This is easier said than done, but YOU have the power. I have created a new free 30-day program "Find Peace with Food". Would you like to join? If so, email me [e-mail]

[@VeronicaKrestow22]

Powerful video, Marla. Thank you for sharing your heart and wisdom.

[@debbieuzo9362]

Thank you very much for this

[@MarlaMervisHartmann]

I'm glad that it was helpful to you Debbie. Family dynamics can be so challenging when healing our relationship to our food and body.

[@MidnightBlossomNight_VT]

My mom did call me fat today and it hurt me because all I said was “remember this pants were too tight?...well now it fits perfectly!” And then she straight up callled me fat. This wasn’t the first time she did this..she didn’t really care if it was my body and my body only. She always says “I MADE YOU THAT BODY!” Not exactly..yes she gave birth too me but, she didn’t give me junk food and I eat it...no, I chose to do this to myself not her.

[@MarlaMervisHartmann]

This must be so painful for you. You don't have to believe her..... It's your body and just because she birthed you doesn't mean she owns your body. You can take full power to love and appreciate your body at the weight it is right now.

[@EpicBosnianGamerHere32]

Well I would. Leave