Marriage Counseling Advice and Tips | Question 3: How Do You Deal With Suffocating Jealousy?

[@rurulovnu]

Asalamu alaykum Sister! I'm very happy that I came across your video because I'm Muslim and I needed to hear this from an Islamic perspective. I have been with my husband for a year now and it wasn't even a year and I found him liking women's videos and pics on Facebook. Sending them messages trying to have sex with them and flirting. It was several different women and none of them looked like me. I'm African American with light skin and he's Nigerian the women were also African too. I have never experienced this from a man before and it has caused me to spiral out of control with insecurity. I check his search history, his messages, his friends on Facebook etc. I can't stop. I wake up thinking about trying to "catch him". Wallahi I feel crazy and I'm asking you for some help and tips about how to deal with this. Even now when I check his search history on Facebook I see that he's searched for other women. Please assist me if possible. Shukran

[@ayesha.siddiqua]

rurulovnu ⁠⁠وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته. May الله سبحانه وتعالى guide your husband dear sister. Your husband sounds like a polygamous man. Seek Allah's help. Make dua in tahajjud.

[@sarajana298]

rurulovnu sister from experience discuss with ur husband becuz she talks about it innocent talks n looks turn to real zina n then eventually a second marriage

[@NormaPerez-sq6sp]

i need help i swear i do

[@photoplus5418]

very like

[@Destiny-jt7yi]

If I talk to my husband about the things I don't like he will do the opposite

[@mehndicurves1666]

Same here... Issa disease

[@NormaPerez-sq6sp]

im arabic and married with Hispanic girl . i suffer so much from her jealousy . im sick . i dont know how to handle it . any things i do she get jealous . i think the jealousy can briken the relationship between the husband and his wife . i wish i can help her

[@DawahBroAustria]

Talk to her

[@AK-ix3nm]

Hello .. I am married to a Muslim man he is a very jealous man and it is making me depressed .. even if I speak with someone he is jealous .. he thinks all man are bad .. I feel like I am in prison I try to speak with him about how I am raised and what kind of person I am and his behavior disgust me now I don’t have any friends my work friends and school friends no one .. Please guide me

[@jubairomar2676]

The Noble Prophet Pbuh praised the protective jealousy of a man.

[@a.Bader97]

Do you have a problem with the fact that he doesn't want you to have male friends or speak with males?

[@SgdhHshd-d3h]

Gheerah is part of deen but there is a limit as long as the husband let's the wife breath, some cultures are prone to have a lot of Gheerah more then other's

[@Destiny-jt7yi]

Asalam alikum I personally think that jelousy doesn't just happen it gets created people put jelousy inside u first by controlling u and setting limits for the wife and then for the husband it's like they can do whatever they want no one is stopping them. It's ok for the husband to flirt with other women and work with them and HOW DARE should the wife talk to a non mehram. Men stare at women and talk about women all the time and if a women did that she would be commiting a sin. I know in islam they both wrong but these cultural people think boys can stay out and earn money and lock the wife at home doing the baby sitting job. when most of the time men come home from bad influence from people outside and look possessed after ĺooking at the filth outside and on their phones...

[@tizi_rando]

I am a men and i agree what your saying it is very derespectfull

[@haleh_banani]

Wa alaikomos salam, it's very upsetting when there is a double standard. Islam teaches both the men and women to lower their gaze and guard their chastity. Insha'Allah you can heal from the double standard you have seen.