MARRIAGE IS A BUSINESS, YOU MUST RUN IT LIKE A BUSINESS | Ayanda MaNgubane Borotho

[@LuuPhiwane]

After reading her book 2 years ago I was never the same. Unbecoming to become is a life changing book.

[@nqobilemgazi]

The way I've been postponing on buying it 😢

[@moneyhabitswithMpho]

I feel I need to find the book

[@monicajames6114]

It's one of the well written books and most relatable book I've ever read. Very transparent and raw. I enjoyed it. I was reading it during lockdown and I'll narate it to my mom and she loved it.

[@sinegugumhlungu]

The book changed my life forever.

[@janetpetunia3555]

This women is power house i wish i can ready her book

[@beautybylee-sa1806]

David asks the most invasive (personal) questions in the most respectful and humble way. I like it for us.

[@HlezMaHlez]

Thank you for saying it my lady🙌🙌 The whole podcast brings out the best of responses because mahn King David asks questions with utmost respect.

[@Noluthando_Maz]

This is the best podcast conversation I have ever watched. I cried, I made notes, I reflected, I healed certain parts of me. I am so inlove with mam’ Ayanda. So so amazing. I can’t wait to get my hands on her book 🙌🏾

[@nalithantapo9150]

Tyoo😭😭and she narrates everything so well...we thank people like her in life

[@envisionbrandza5841]

She's hosting an event in August ..come through

[@dawnmadonsela5877]

Where is the event?

[@enhlenjomane5694]

The crying at work for me

[@pulengphatedi8153]

My dad used to compliment me even for simple things. I miss him, may his soul rest in peace 🕊️

[@valentine_b_ndlovu]

“When I lost my father I lost both parents because my mother was emotionally unavailable because of the weight she carried “ very relatable to me… and the fact that I am 44 years and I am still dealing with those scars too. Your transparency sis Ayanda keeps on liberating me and making me understand myself better and better ❤ right from obtaining your book in 2019 when you personally signed it for me 😍to this day amazwi akho ayangakha 🙏🏽🌺

[@Mr.ExtrodinThinks]

Bra Dave is such a brilliant Interviewer. Sis Ayanda actually raises her voice from time to time when she tells her stories because she can see how interested bra Dave is. That’s amazing.

[@phvmzicles]

I watched this episode while going through what i call a rock bottom and what stuck with me is “this time, next year, things will be different” and i am holding onto this. i have faith and hope to come back to this with a testimony.

[@malnozi]

Hold on mntase. You got this

[@phvmzicles]

@@malnozi thank you sisi 💜🙏🏾

[@rootedtribe7605]

Please please come back with that testimony

[@emihleluwaca2996]

I am here 1 year later, hoping everything is getting better❤

[@nkhen_c357]

I am beginning to love my Tsonga Culture. A girl child is called by her father's name even if married. You dont lose your identify by marriage.

[@chersono5506]

Yes!!!

[@PamMabedlhe]

same here😇

[@preciousmkhwanazi]

I believe and deeply feel that a child should be called my their mothers name ....... not to take away from what you said 😊

[@viwembande9497]

*BULL SHIT* You Forsake that name and use your Husband's name because now, you are United as one.

[@matimbamnwanati]

And you happen to be a woman...right? ​@preciousmkhwanazi

[@bmshik]

This conversation is envoking so much emotion for me as the first grandchild who is the only one who grew up in the home of all the grandchildren and now I now hardly even go there. I guess the assumption that men will take a home is the first fallacy of our times. The girl child definitely cares more about the family home. The only time i see the family home thriving is when it is anchored by a strong makoti or mafungashe.

[@Zahria1987]

This was a beautiful watch. I love how she said that when a marriage fails, the woman is the one that is given the bigger responsibility of that failure. I just wish that the conversation would’ve also expressly highlighted how warped that is considering that convention dictates that the man is the head of the household. This was worth the time I spent watching it - I could watch this conversation all day. This podcast is the one. Bab’ Mashabela is brilliant. He was truly anointed for this. And so was she. Ayanda is a gift for black women, girls and families.

[@nokukatom]

This woman is solid and sober minded... Within 15min , we need to hear from her more!

[@busisiweyiliwe]

Wayichana Ayanda injalo you may be the first born yet not be annointed to carry certain tasks and only the anointed one can because he or she is the chosen one🙌🏾👏🏾

[@magobholi]

I played this interview for 5 minutes and had to pause it due to some distractions. I paused it for 2 weeks, and something kept saying don't close the page. You need to go back and watch the interview. Now I understand why. Thank you, Ayanda. You spoke to me in more than many ways. I learned a lot about how to be okay about telling your story.

[@DzunyB]

The whole 4 hours of wisdom. This boy far has been my most favourite. No one has ever articulated my views on gender dynamics, parenting and marriage the way that she did. Thank you King David for this. Sis Ayanda you're a true gem❤❤

[@ginam9101]

MaNgubane, You need your own podcast. Every week we go into allll the things you've touched on here and in your book ❤

[@lehlohonolondhlovu5568]

David is so good at this is heart warming , he is HIM . The Messi of Podcast🙌

[@zwakeledube007]

Not Ronaldo?

[@lehlohonolondhlovu5568]

@@zwakeledube007 World Cup standards mfo

[@zwakeledube007]

@@lehlohonolondhlovu5568 🤣🔥

[@SameXm]

​@@lehlohonolondhlovu5568 😭😭😭

[@thembelanijaola9021]

The Messi is Mac G but King Dave is also good

[@malnozi]

Just finished reading her book last week and I’m in awe of everything about her. A complete page turner and gentle yet thought provoking awakening. For 1 to truly appreciate her book, you need to be honest with yourself and hold the bull by the horns. I encourage you to buy, gift and read her book. _Unbecoming to Become_

[@mthobisisikhakhane]

Eish , Ayanda what you've said about your Father's death, it's the same as my father. He died when he just turned 42 , and he left my mom behind and she was 39. A week before he died, he called us , my younger brother and sister including my mother, he told us that he forsee his death and told us whom he thinks is gonna kill him. And it was his pick and he was just elected as a mayor 1 year before. That was 2002. He gave us instructions what to do in his funeral. I miss him every da It was hard to take, then 3 years later I left South Africa 🇿🇦 for America, since then, I've never set my foot back in South Africa. I now have a wife and 3 kids , I always tell them how my good my father was and how he died. I'm still hurt. Thanks for sharing Ayanda

[@luckynxumalo4837]

Apart from brilliant guests you keep bringing here, King David is such a great host, knowledgeable, informative, and really clued up with societal issues and life in general, Big up David and long may you live!!!

[@ayandaborotho312]

To all of you, thank you for your kind comments. 🙏🏽

[@katlegobungane6543]

You are amazing. Please carry on with your work.

[@mulalonkosi6357]

I love how u raise your views and stand firm by what u believe in says a lot about u ❤❤❤

[@mjabulisimasango4303]

How do I get the book sisi

[@NqobileMashai-nv4gn]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@nelisiwezondi8461]

The shows of polygamy is also a commercialisation of culture. The producers are making money and capitalising on it.

[@nkosikhonamabizela8006]

Bra David .. is a natural host .. you never feel like it's an interview .. always at ease .. top notch

[@NtontoTfomo]

Thank you King David for affirming our queen in such a beautiful manner. We need more of her and we need her to realise what a powerhouse she is. Thank you! ❤

[@otsibilepat3806]

Gh87

[@markgamanya3084]

I fell in love with her when she was acting in Isibaya, she's the epitome of humility.

[@nigelsikhosana6112]

The interview is brilliant because he read the book...it is a lesson to anyone doing interviews...if a person has a book please read it at least ....

[@silindilekhumalo9735]

I've always felt that i was misunderstood, because the power that i carry didn't allow me to take things as they are and run with them. I always question 'why' it's unfortunate that our parents didn't know most of the things. You become the voice and you brought back our power. I believe if we can see that power we can definitely change alot. Thank you once again Mama Ayanda and KingDavid what a refreshing conversation.

[@zwelihleeugene1402]

Wow wow...."Ubuhle bendoda zinkomo zakhe" - i didnt kow that it means responsibility. Indeed we are learning everyday.

[@gabimogagabe9046]

Mdeza is a master when he comes to interview his guest. He exel to a point that the whole process becomes communication.

[@gejambazo]

It's during the 2020 lockdown that I was able to watch some tv... that's when i saw her in isibaya... The reason I say this is she says things that reminds me of my grandmother who held our family together. After my grandmother passed on, the family gradually died, i now realize she held everything together

[@refiloesharonntuli7009]

the interview was very interesting and I must say, MaNgubane is a breath of fresh air, the wisdom she is sharing is powerful. 🙌❤️

[@nkosikhonamabizela8006]

Im a first born man and I see myself in her story .. having to be strong for everyone .. the unfortunate thing is that you are chosen and given the spirit of a warrior . It's your Destiny

[@ntatesebata]

Ayanda MaNgubane Boroto Is fountain of knowledge…..powerful interview these conversations are mature , smart &deep ….. David ke star

[@sbusibiya8973]

This is a masterclass interview @KingDavid. Big up for making your guest feeling welcomed and at home. It’s just more than an interview it’s a heart to heart conversations. It shows that a lot of preparation went through in putting together everything. Definitely need to read Ayanda MaNgubane Borotho’s book 👌🏾👌🏾

[@roberthiine5501]

Wow, what an interview. Ayanda, a very good story teller, enjoyed the flow in this conversation, King David, you are the best interviewer my man, keep up the good work.

[@thandekilembele107]

Listening to her gives me soo much goosebumps, the knowledge she has. I can listen to her all day❤❤❤ Thank you King David

[@nolwazihlabangane]

Wow. Yoh, this interview was emotional for me because God was talking through Sis Ayanda and giving me answers to questions I've been asking myself. Siyabonga MaNgubane Thankyou King David 🙏🏾

[@minkz002]

Wow 👏🏼 MaNgubane. Talk about coincidence. I enjoyed this more than I thought I would. Thanks Ntate Dave for this one, I did not know much about her besides her character on Isibaya. I now want to purchase her book. Thank you ❤ a 3 hours well consumed for me. 💎

[@kholiendlovu1435]

we learn alot at school, we gain unmeasurable knowledge and wisdoem form KDS! thank you David. The portfolio and history documentation that you are building, this library of minds! wow!

[@PulengMo23]

Ntate Mashabela please have Nomsa Xaba soon. She played Setayi on the original Shaka 😭😭😭♥️♥️♥️

[@neolekgotlalagaramoupiph.d7434]

KingDavid your Studio is so insightful. We learn to respect our stories by listening to your guests. Keep teaching us. Thank you. RESPECT.

[@MissTinky_OG]

I agree with what she says about strength and how it's glorified. As someone who has been labeled a "strong woman", no one around me understands how heavy the title is.

[@phiwokuhlegumbi5716]

She’s definitely a bowl of lessons and power ❤love her so dearly

[@phiwokuhlegumbi5716]

And this is my first time listening to this podcast because of her

[@matimbankuna7585]

I am going to buy the book now, love women who are well-articulated and so wise, not to mention beautiful,

[@GlitchinGamingforever]

I was so reluctant to watch this because I had preconceived expectations of what the conversation would be about but I'm so glad I ultimatelty pressed the play button in the end. Ayanda put words to some of my experiences i have struggled with for the longest time. Thank you David for facilitating this interview

[@basetsanaphalane4217]

I really really enjoyed this conversation. Now I want to get the book, I love how precise and articulate she is, it’s my favorite conversation too

[@lindambalane7673]

Ayanda is such a powerhouse, so relatable. Definitely getting her book as my next read❤❤

[@sthokozilephili5906]

12 minutes in and I literally wish I could be listening to this physically in front of her. Refreshing to listen to

[@xolanimweli6225]

Deep interesting, eye opening and wise-ning"if there is such a word"

[@zodwamabija3174]

This was therapy for all of us. Asè Kong David 🙏❤️

[@tshepomonare5724]

Phenomenal woman and a phenomenal conversation. I thought I was gonna watch 3 mins of it just to get a feel of it and move on, here I am almost 4 hours later and I think I might just repeat it. It's like an amazing journey through a conversation. I love it!❤‍🔥

[@kingdavidstudio1]

Wow, I’m blown away. 3 minutes turned into 4 hours. Thank you for checking it out.

[@reggiemabena3630]

I can't help but like and am buying her book . Bra Dez , o lenyora , grootman🔥

[@IamThandolwethu]

What a powerful conversation. I enjoy Ayanda’s perspective so so much! ✨ gems on gems.

[@nontokozomzolo9281]

I just love David for bring for such a phenomenal, powerhouse... I love Ayanda, she makes so much sense. Thank you!!!

[@lungilentuli7035]

Both of my maternal and paternal families are from Mpaphala in Eshowe!...YAY!!

[@ZazaTenza-yq1mt]

I was shocked when I saw how long this podcast is, but damn it was worth each & every minute. Thank you bro David for this conversation with her.❤❤

[@Yanga_22]

🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Please bring Tumi Morake and Laconco

[@gordenmphulomolebale8335]

Say it my my sister we r not favoured the same Eg wisdom U r on point👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@siphosethulimane4020]

What an episode ...finally finished it after 2 months as it has too much wisdom

[@sindiswasegwane1214]

Woman you are power, I am awoken to find myself as I go through confusing times. Thank you for your aunthencity which many in woman we get hated for oww the boldness. I am definitely running for your book. Gratitude but another thing you are a God sent to young females.

[@Yolissa.M]

David makes me want to buy the book so bad😅loved loved the interview I listened to every conversation from beginning till the end that is how informative this interview was ❤❤❤ sprinkles sprinkles to u Mangubane with so much wisdom

[@polokoanentlhokoe5576]

I so wish our generation could watch this podcast, especially your platform Mr Mashabela, there's a lot of wisdom and knowledge they're missing.

[@joycenonhlanhlavilakati7161]

I wish I could be David for just 3 hours to talk to uMaNgubane. I adore this woman. So much of the way she thinks resonates with mine. The distinct fact that she's super articulate gives her views an incredible finesse. ❤ ❤❤

[@miriamojwang9881]

I must read this book because wow! you are saying things that truly speak to me. Say patriarchy without saying patriarchy. 😓

[@phumzamayekiso5156]

Such a wise Lady, I love it more when she is talking about GOD.

[@qumbupodcast5180]

Bra Dave respect his job so much and his prep is on another level and for our guests,I'm out of words for her wisdom because I never saw her like that.

[@silondiwehadebe4089]

Best book written by an amazing icon❤👌

[@zama1694]

You are definitely annointed for this Sir David. Amongst other things you are good at this is one of them. And the conversations with the guests are always great, it's nice hearing the guests speak and without even saying it explicitly sometimes you hear their purpose and passion. After so many episodes I am left either with renewed vigour that I will one day find my purpose and niche or with a deep pain that I will just be in limbo for ever. Weeee Shembe

[@Cha_dwick]

WOW.........Thank for being my voice.....i was like that at my work place I did understand ME....thank you cc Ayanda ngiyabonga.

[@khomotsomotshekga4826]

The title of the book attracted me. I am not so much a TV person so I didn't know her from her acting but the book called me. I must say I was also impressed by the volume. Very relatable. Amazing book, ideal gift for those who come after us. Welldone Ayanda and thanks king David for bringing her into studio

[@African.Entrepreneur]

This whole interview is the best thing I've listened to in a very long time

[@SibongileMlangeniSEM]

Right! 🙂

[@osinomhlephiri558]

Ayanda I love you ❤ please speak more, your wisdom is unmatched. We need to address all these issues. Thanks David, thanks Ayanda

[@nomfundongubane8758]

Wow,🔥now I wanna buy they book. I think it helped that David had read the book before the interview because he knew exactly what to ask.. MaNgubane syabonga ❤️❤️❤️

[@nomfundongubane8758]

*the

[@Syamthembu5]

Greatest interview ever 🙏🙌 Thanks a lot to MaNgubane for sharing her story with us 🥰🥰💯💯🙌🥰 and Thanks to king David keep going Big Brother

[@senamilephungula_11]

Wow! Thank you so much for this interview, one of the best interviews by far! The way she views life is exactly the same as I do. The mere fact that I’m not the only one who views life that way, shows that I’m not crazy. Once again, thank you so much King David for such a wholesome interview. I really need to get my hands on her book.

[@loops7262]

Bra Dave I enjoyed the chemistry between you and Ayanda. I totally relate to her story, more than anything I feel she has affirmed what I am going through which is my journey with God on submitting to his call, unbecoming who I was and finding my power. I will get the copy of the book, this interview is amazing and rich, loved it.

[@Nelly_the_stylist]

literally just teared up so bad... when you "QOUTED" Dear GOD PRAYER ABOUT FINDINGYOURSELF AND THE REAL GIFT THAT YOU GIVEN BLESSED... MADE CRY DEEPLY I RELATED ...

[@lemonkomo5571]

my two favorite people- King David and Ayanda- thank you so much for this. I've been following you separately and wow i bumped into this video-it has to be divine alignment. I see you and I salute the divinity within you.

[@yamkelampako620]

The way I scrome when I saw this notification, love love this woman 😍😭 can't wait for this episode to premiere, can't wait for 3pm 😅💃🏽

[@sthokozilephili5906]

scrome🤣

[@ElizaMoleleki]

Mercy, grace thank you Lord, this woman is deep, how did u manage to spit it all out. Thank you this is over load Ntate Dave

[@nomalungelomthimunye9579]

I love this woman🥺😍she somehow resembles my late mother❤️

[@bigthangz5489]

she is lovely to listen to... so calm & u can tell this woman is full of love for her family & for God she has a lovely presence❤❤❤

[@busisiweyiliwe]

In 2020 I bought Ayanda’s book for my friend she loves is she raves about that book,she even loved it before she read it.Thank you Ayanda for sharing your life with us .Thank you Mashabela for bringing uAyanda kwipodcast yethu

[@gausset1651]

bra Dave has the power to make people get their darkest things off they chests, kudos to you Bra David.👏

[@katstix6572]

Oh my goodness this was such a delicious conversation. I reflected. And laughed. And cried and cried and cried. In about 2 years time, please can she come back. Absolutely loved this talk

[@markgamanya3084]

Dave is so matured, very intellectual, accommodative and knows when to ask a question?

[@tumibaloyi2915]

David is sheer brilliance. Ayanda has a story to tell but it's the host who will carry and guide and really bring out the story from the story carrier. What a combination. Ayanda is a powerhouse man. What a platform 👌🏾

[@motlokwa]

I still remember her in Nomzamo, time really flies 🔥🔥🔥

[@nkazimulontanzi9608]

Mommy mommy pick up the phone 🎶

[@terciahmohale9376]

Can't get enough of this interview...wow...king David..i take off my hat for you...great interview full of wisdom 😊

[@ntintanonku]

Let me order the book. MaNgubane is such a breath of fresh air!

[@tswanaspeakingzulu]

How powerful and amazing is Ous Ayanda! Wow!

[@siphosethu222]

What I can tell you is that I will be rereading that book I read 2 years ago . I have being going through the transformation of becoming all this time and I feel like Ayanda is not given the recognition she deserves. Out of all the lessons and wisdom from this podcast I’ll never forget this “this time next year , it might be different “. Enkosi sisi , May God protect you at all times and preserve from that you pour in , you are amazing . ❤

[@Manesa2202]

What an empowering conversation. Ayanda is so humble and carries a wealth of wisdom.

[@nkosanapaul]

I so love this lady her personality humbles me❤

[@rakgadim.mohlala1324]

She is soo eloquent…every word feels like a needle and thread passing through sublime linen.

[@Tashareloaded]

I’m a chiller but the Landlord’s podcasts is my second best . David is very soft spoken , he asks very important questions .lm loving it 🤞🏾👏🏾

[@simbiemarufu-madziwa4139]

Sis Ayanda is so wise! There's so much to take away from this conversation. I literally had to rewind and take notes. 'Unbecoming to become' is a must read! Thank you for this gem Mr Mashabela!

[@siphumelelengema8088]

Wow really enjoyed this interview...I can relate so much with Ayanda experiences of culture, religion, patriarchal society and views on marriage. She echos all my beliefs about life ❤

[@nomsandala7438]

I have not read Sis Ayanda's Book, I will definitely try and save to get it. We share so much on the views of society.

[@markgamanya3084]

Beauty and brains, l fell in love with her when she was acting in Isibaya. Wow l salute her

[@avelanodada4533]

After listening to this interview I’ve been looking for this book and I can’t find it anywhere. Thanks for such ẩn informative interview.

[@stellastar63]

I so resonate with Aya on many issues esp about becoming a single mum. I also told my mother late into the pregnancy, there was a lot of "shaming" , had the baby & everyone wanted him. I also went for an interview whilst i was pregnant & got the job. The interviwers did not realise i was very pregnant. After that I "took on the world & life". His father last saw him when the child was four.. he met him now in 2022 (30 years later)! Like Aya, i have blessed the father & child reunion, zero reservations. Wait for it, life is full of surprises.

[@lebolenepa8266]

Can’t believe I watched an almost 4 hour long podcast. Loved every second of it ❤.

[@kingdavidstudio1]

Glad you enjoyed it!