Marriage & Money Ep. 11: Dr. Alduan Tartt & Mecca Moore Tartt- Who Counsels The Doctor?

Founders of "A Weekend For Love" couples retreat, Dr. Alduan Tartt & Mecca Tartt share their own love story, and anecdotes on how the doctor gets his own therapy when it comes to making their marriage work.
On the heels of all their success on HGTV's "Married To Real Estate," fans have requested more access and knowledge to the two as it pertains to their lessons on marriage and relationships as well as wealth-building strategies, catalyzing the Marriage & Money Podcast. The weekly podcast is full of humorous stories, valuable life hacks, honest & meaty marriage dilemmas, wealth & legacy-building knowledge, and special guests. Also available on iHeart Radio, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Amazon Music.

[@aprilashley17]

I’m addicted to Married to Real Estate! You both are so talented and the show just makes me feel good. Love my Thursday evenings.

[@crystalstephenson8511]

Missed you guys, welcome back Awesome episode. ONE thing to note, more time is needed, its to short. Keep bringing quality content its appreciated💥

[@andreaprice6717]

Yes, too short!

[@christinaperry7255]

Interesting conversation. I remember Dr Alduan Tartt was my TA in undergrad at Michigan. While their choices seem odd to me, he and his wife have the right to shape their marriage in a way they deem fit for them. I do however hope their son is prepared for hearing interviews such as these 13 years from now; it could be very hurtful to him.

[@meccatartt9534]

Thank you Christina for your message. We are always authentic whenever we are asked to speak. To that point some would think that this is an odd conversation, however it is typical amongst married couples. Most married couples disagree on expanding their household and its actually within the top 3 reasons why couples argue. Our baby boy is beyond loved and we have an amazing village. It won't be hurtful to him because it wasn't about him, it was about expanding our family.

[@christinaperry7255]

@@meccatartt9534 Absolutely. I shared this podcast with friends and learned exactly what you stated; its not as uncommon as it may seem. Thank you for iterating that your son is beyond loved when we both know you didn't have to explain your circumstances. Continue to be blessed and fulfilled in your life and not based on the beliefs of others.

[@brendasegar5974]

I didn’t know the couple, but I enjoyed the realness of their marriage. Great combinations of experience in their marriage. God is real!

[@jacquih8804]

I almost quit watching, and then finally, I hear God, prayer, and fasting!!🙌🏾🙏🏾👌🏾

[@tiffanyhunter6035]

You both (Egypt and Mike) obviously and clearly have each other’s back. I love that.

[@egyptandmike]

Yes we do!

[@f72mos26]

Missed you last week, happy you're back.🎉❤

[@MahoganyGlaze]

I loved the honesty and vulnerability of this episode!!! Marriage is about sacrifice and compromise which This couple exemplified perfectly!

[@meccatartt9534]

Thank yo Imani

[@SleevedStephieSlays]

Making an agreement for him to not parent his child 🚩

[@DRTARTT1]

Ha! We had an intense conversation about parenting and balance huh lol. I am actually enjoying the process, of course. I’ve always been super active but we did have to discuss parenting roles. 😊

[@taneesha00]

@@DRTARTT1 I appreciate you was honest and upfront. It makes ppl uncomfortable but you were honest and set your expectations. It may make ppl uncomfortable but it better not to lie. You were pushed to compromise on what you were honest and clear about what you didn’t want so I agree that you both came to a honest agreement about who’s doing the grunt work and who is the parent showing up for playtime only. It saved your marriage. I think some women prefer you lie and become resentful later instead of being honest as you were. I salute y’all decision bc it’s works for your personal marriage and is was transparent and upfront. More ppl should be honest and more marriages would last. No one seems bothered that she was putting fertility hens in your drink prior to telling you. That’s deceitful. Egypt started paperwork without Mike knowledge to be forced to possibly be a child’s dad. This definitely would cause riffs. We can’t be judging only the men be honest but not address the women being sneaky. Thats hypocrisy. But anyways Congratulations to you both.

[@octaviakf]

She’s apparently cool with it so it works for them but I can guarantee you by time she finishes she won’t be wanting to have another one because she’ll be damn sure tired. 😂 but it works for them

[@aprilshorty4094]

That's their marriage and maybe if more couples did this there wouldn't be so much arguing and fighting about who takes on what roles. What I got from it is that he was honest about his feelings from the very start which a lot of people don't know how to do so I'm happy for them 😊❤

[@indiawashington-charles9739]

I somewhat agree. But she and her husband agreed on this prior. Which is their marriage plan. She strongly wanted a baby but he didn't. But as a husband, he could help his partner more with baby 🤔.

[@VMT913]

Amen on when God days YES! Nobody can say no!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I truly enjoyed this episode!

[@musikatre]

I appreciate the honesty regarding the last child. I am mindful that this is Not My relationship. So I don't have a dog in the fight. Separately, I am always confused by the "work" of marriage. My marriage is either easy, Or, I am not stressed by the things that impact others.... I'm NOT bragging. I am just genuinely curious as to what other people work at. I just believe in being faithful, honest, kind, unselfish and loving

[@MahoganyGlaze]

I love my husband but I’m not naturally unselfish! I’m the only child and have to make conscious decisions to think about my husbands needs and meet them in a loving and generous way! That is my work!!!!

[@musikatre]

@@MahoganyGlaze I appreciate that. So, what about just being considerate to the person you love/care for? What I mean is, I think that I learned that "loving/caring for" someone includes by default considering their needs and wants. Not that I am perfect and always do Exactly what my husband wants, but it's a part of my expectations of a Loving relationship. Is this not common; Love = care

[@bettinapeer3339]

Love the podcast today! It was awesome!

[@chrissypacheco9635]

I was missing this podcast for sure. Glad you are back! This was yet another great one!

[@ginaadams-white4357]

I enjoyed this episode as well.👏👏

[@ulalyons9257]

I love this! I love the honesty of the guest!!

[@prettylittleliar7311]

My favorites just love you guys. Congrats on getting recognized by the City of Atlanta and getting ur own day that was awesome 👌 👏 👍 😍 💖

[@egyptandmike]

Thank you so much! It was such a true honor.

[@soul2soul30]

The two of you are so dynamic!! I've been watching since day one! Happy for you two w/your show and then some! Bring it on... so talented and your family is awesome! 😁💞

[@slicingitupwithselena2234]

Love this ❤

[@melaninrx]

Heyy 2 of my favorite ppl!! Cant also wait to hear Dr. Tartt!

[@DRTARTT1]

Thanks Fam!

[@evangelistsstone]

I am in love with this interview, and the show is amazing. ❤

[@VMT913]

Love you two!!

[@melissabrownlee-peterson3702]

Great talk ❤😊

[@jessyjonas4988]

Wow 😮 There are no words Enjoyed the content

[@inspiringreadings6321]

this was my fav episode.

[@egyptandmike]

Thank you for joining the tribe.

[@maxinec1616]

Eisenhower Park!! Miss that place. I missed you guys last week, looking forward to today's podcast.

[@allthingso9726]

Why was this episode so short??? Seems like it was getting good when you brought it to a close 😢

[@indiawashington-charles9739]

Mecca is a true friend I love how she changed topic on Egypt adoption comment. So Mike wouldn't get upset 😉 Don't compomrise time together or alone time so true!

[@sasal2027]

Love y'all❤

[@deeCheeBee5]

Mike and Egypt! It was absolutely captivating! Alduan and Mecca! Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us All! Beautiful couple. I have already place my email on your website. Now I have to convince my husband it's worth it! 😂 Pray together to stay together. 🙏🏽🥰

[@meccatartt9534]

We are praying for you Dionne and would love to have you join us at A Weekend for Love

[@egyptandmike]

🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@exoticblendscigarlounge4234]

I love y’all ❤

[@taneesha00]

There was not deceitfulness. He told her he didn’t want a baby and then he was forced into another and was honest about his expectations and duties and she agreed to it in advance. How come no one is bothered or questioning that she was putting fertility herbs in his drink without his knowledge initially to trap him into another baby, that’s deceitful. I’m glad she was honest later however that doesn’t change the entrapment. He was very clear and direct he did not want another child. Would we rather him lie and be resentful on both parties end bc the additional baby was built on a lie of roles and expectations. This doesn’t mean this man is not a good present father. He just said he is not willing to do the grunt work and she agreed. This doesn’t mean he is not good at counseling or his faith. If anything this shows he teaches ppl to be honest and express their deal breakers. It obviously works perfectly for them so they are doing something right no matter how uncomfortable it makes other ppl. He also said he jokes a lot and the Hawks game is him being sarcastic but also honest.

[@meccatartt9534]

Hi love I appreciate your comment and your view point. He was not forced, we both compromised for each others dreams. Most married couples, over 50% do not agree about expanding their family. I am happy we were able to share our conversation to show that this is a normal conversation amongst married couples. Also in regards to the Maca powder he was aware it was simply a joke. My husband is focused on being a centenarian so we have it in the house amongst other vitality herbs. God does not bless deceitfulness. The truth is it took a lot for our baby boy to come into our life. For 5 years I wanted another baby and it wasn't until God and Alduan said yes that I got pregnant. For 3 months we tracked my ovulation, took herbs, worked out, prayed over by my Wives Prayer Warriors, used the ovulation sticks...and this was after several months of just seeing if it would happen. There were lots of tears during the waiting period, but God said yes and I am so thankful for that. Baby boy is beyond loved.

[@taneesha00]

@@meccatartt9534 congratulations! I appreciated how honest and transparent you both were. Ppl act like they live in perfect marriage but we all know there is no such thing. It’s just perfect for you two. Thank you for your clarity. I enjoyed you both.

[@jacquelinehill4796]

Yes to Eisenhower Park

[@francisw3456]

Marriage is a VERB 🎯🎯

[@Quettasbedhead]

If you don't want a child be honest don't compromise

[@DrSDestiny-vb5mg]

Hmm

[@karenowens4504]

Would not go to him for counseling.both guests seem selfish 😢 .

[@TheQueenCotton]

His choice is his choice. And whatever works for them is their business. ALSO, he is very selfish. I hope his son doesn't ever know that he chose "quality of life" over building a bond and connection with him.

[@CCmacIntosh]

Yesssss imagine the youngest child hearing this at one point😢 I couldn't believe he said what he said and she just agreed. Well it's their marriage their life..(but since they're sharing here I have an opinion...)

[@SleevedStephieSlays]

I was shocked he calls himself a relationship expert. She’s a married single mom to that baby 🥴

[@DRTARTT1]

You know what…I get these comments because we definitely had very real conversations about parenting roles. There is a difference between being discussing parenting roles and being absent. The proof is in the pudding though. You certainly need to see how it is going because this is a great conversation and worthy of your tough words. You might see so many absent dads that you miss one who is transparent about balance being needed to have a happy home. I’m enjoying parenting three because we have good balance as a result. Parenting should be enjoyable and many couples don’t have the friendship, communication skills to have deep conversation and then adapt to meet mutual dreams. I’m not mad. You could have been harsher. It’s all love.

[@DRTARTT1]

@@SleevedStephieSlaysCome on Fam…you see the balance. We do have three kids Stephie. This is just a behind the scenes view on balancing it all (self-care, career, parenting, marriage). I was joking about not being at tumbling lessons vs. The Hawks-kinda. I’ll probably do 50/50.😂 However, I see your point of view because I do joke a lot.

[@KimMock]

44 years in. compromise is the key, imo

[@VMT913]

Lol!!

[@dijaworldworld3895]

Be careful not to diminish your husbands input. We do it without knowing. No shade and all love 💗

[@egyptandmike]

Thank you for the feedback.

[@meekyw.4010]

34:07 Well, we know this interview happened before the Silicon Valley Bank collapsed primarily due to poor investment strategies, and something to do with cryptcurrency!

[@stacyo.1080]

I wouldn’t brag on not wanting to parent my child. Minister and psychologist ….seems concerning to me.

[@GrowingGlowing87]

Gross!! No wonder this episode is only 30 mins….as a “psychologist” you would think he would consider the mental ramifications his son may have to know that he decided that being a parent to him didn’t fit his idea of a “quality of life.” Interested to see where they are in a few years! Smh

[@meccatartt9534]

He is an amazing and present Father. The truth is Alduan has been the father to hundreds of boys that have come into his practice over the past 20years, that do not have a present father to guide them. So to think that he would be anything less than an amazing father to his first son is crazy. We wanted to share a very real conversation that most married couples don't discuss openly, but it's one of the top 3 reasons why married couples argument. We are a real couple not a picture perfect couple on social media. We hope and pray that our transparency will help other married couples as they navigate through marriage. Baby boy is beyond loved.

[@MahoganyGlaze]

Y’all are so weird!!! I wouldn’t be offended if my mother told me she didn’t initially want me. What matters is how the child feels when they are with their parents!!! As long as the child feels loved by their father. I doubt he would care about his dad having to compromise on additional children….

[@musikatre]

I don't know....Secure Attachment is something that starts Before language is developed. Literally we learn about people and relationships.from our caregivers. I imagine that Dr. knows this and his version of not being involved is actually the laymen's heavy work...

[@meccatartt9534]

@@musikatre I appreciate your comment. I will share that Alduan is an amazing and present father. We both compromise and are considerate of each others needs. Alduan has the most beautiful relationship with our son and he is beyond loved.

[@emanmar70072]

Do NOT buy cryptocurrency!

[@ladyjayderam]

😲 A freight train🚆?