Marriage | Q&A with Shaykh Dr. Yasir Qadhi | East London Mosque

Q: In the Seerah did men and women find it difficult to get married, or is this a phenomenon. What can those finding difficult to get married do according to the Seerah?
The East London Mosque & London Muslim Centre was honoured to host renowned speaker Shaykh Dr Yasir Qadhi for an event on Sunday 5th February 2023 on the topic: Infinite Light - defining moments from the Seerah.
This event highlighted various defining moments and events during the life of the Prophet ﷺ in which he showed how to navigate life’s challenges and difficulties.
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[@aidomuah]

All my kids are teenagers and I have encouraged them to think about marriage and alhamdulillah they are taking it positively however other Muslims looked at me as backward… most moms I know discourage their children to marry early and encourage their kids to focus on studies & career 😢

[@miriamh2551]

There's a balance where you can focus on studies and career but also focus on finding a good spouse! It shouldn't be one without the other

[@MsPearl_]

May Allaah bless them with spouse, children and fulfillment in life. Dont let people discourage you from getting them married, keep trying , its better if the support is there and they get married. A "career" is not our purpose for life. So many think this is all life is about and waste years alone... May Allaah guide and protect us.aamiin.

[@SubZer0-kt3zs]

THE MAIN REASON FOR MARRIAGE IS SEX. Everything else comes afterwards. This dude needs to make his points clear as daylight or stfu.

[@AbdulKadir-qo5on]

I really enjoyed this. May Allah swt bless our Shaykh and us all. May our paths be clear, true and straight.

[@ndean3296]

Excellent lecture. As usual Shaik Yasir Qhadi is always full of knowledge. May Allah Almighty bless him with goodness. Ameen

[@umahjibrael1]

Inshallah Khair. As a parent I must encourage my son to be close to Allah as much as I want him to be educated. Ameen ya Raab.

[@AlyssaAgu]

We are blessed to have Shaykh Yasir Qhadi in our community in the US. I just wish he might use his platform to also address the cultural issues that are keeping our young people from getting married. MashaAllah Shaykh brings up many valid points here, except that one. May Allah SWT grant us ease.

[@MJAli89]

The respect of the Imaam of the mosque by sitting down in front of the guest is very humbling.

[@Darknss2Light]

Sheikh Abdul kayuum has been at ELM since I can remember and I'm 32 now. Allah huma barik

[@haynesatteh4463]

So beautiful to watch, my relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, Really love her so much, i can’t stop thinking about her. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life but to no avail, I’m frustrated because i literally can't envision my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..

[@bartholetbay412]

your feelings are understandable, It's always difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation when my wife of 12 years left me, i couldn't just let her go. I did all I could to get her back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back.

[@haynesatteh4463]

@@bartholetbay412 Wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

[@bartholetbay412]

@@haynesatteh4463 her name is MONICA ERLENE MORA, and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as a caster and healer

[@haynesatteh4463]

@@bartholetbay412 Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked her up online. impressive.

[@arieltheisen9325]

Salam alikum. My dear brother in Islam, you are in a situation that is rough indeed. It is tempting to think of this time as a trial or a punishment from Allah, but it may not be. Try to think of it as an opportunity -an opportunity to become the best Muslim you can be. Pray, fast, give charity, sponsor an orphan, read the Qur'an, etc.. Do all of the things that Allah loves because the love and mercy of Allah are more valuable than this life and everything in it. This is a reminder for me as much as it is a reminder for you. May Allah comfort you and ease your pain.

[@IslamicTalksPodcast]

May Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى guide him Aameen

[@e.k874]

and everyone else

[@RB-fr1tg]

There will never be a Q&A without a question about marriage! 😂

[@sssppp1773]

Jazakallah Khair Shaykh Dr Yasir Qadhi for talking common sense as always. May Allah SWT preserve and protect you and your family. Ameen. 🤲

[@muhammadm4582]

Make arrange married great again

[@RB-fr1tg]

Very good response and solutions to today's problems

[@shameemkhan462]

Excellent

[@mohammedameen4013]

Truely I agree with this point/solution raised/posed by Sheikh.

[@MsPearl_]

May Allaah bless us all with spouse, children and fulfillment in life. Dont let people discourage the youth or anyone of any age from getting married, keep trying ,KEEP trying, A "career" is not our purpose for life. So many think this is all life is about and waste years alone... May Allaah guide and protect us.aamiin.

[@waziribabamaaji2316]

Ya hayyu ya qayyum iam confused make things easy for us all ameen direct us to the right path ameen

[@QuranWorldYT]

Allah ❤

[@keepitreelcatfishing5883]

What does Quran and Sunnah say regarding the wife obeying the husband?

[@53fczunb]

Love YQ

[@iamabdullah6610]

May Allah guide you YQ is a dangerous individual ELM is run by Liberal individuals

[@junaidiwen5052]

More fire mnyamata wakwathu 😊

[@jocelynburrell445]

Not living on campus with those who don't Excepted unless you are strong enough to hold yourself as if you were the one equal to being four

[@jocelynburrell445]

Perhaps to understand in our times .What is the issue of Generations raised in a land of Varieties from a dog to 2 same sex freedom.

[@jocelynburrell445]

Because the ills of what it is said on tribes which is a protection .

[@jocelynburrell445]

He the young man the thrill is gone

[@jocelynburrell445]

Reguardless of color or race if a Muslim and and find to be a respectful of the Parents.and community of Muslims of different race should be allowed

[@masudinahimana2155]

Salaam walekum no one have to stay with the this world and we know we bowling with the person getting married and I said my father what to do if anime do I have a to-do how they are doing that's why it's nothing wrong it's nothing wrong if you can anything happen if you coming with me with all this situation with the all this situation which means I don't know what is going on except only an hour and I know I'll do it come and judge me and he put me with the any line whatever you want to put me I don't like it

[@masudinahimana2155]

What's the time in Egypt pointing all the Pointing away did so the show us and you have Education we will get education and I believe inshallah I believe inshallah I want two points and I believe nothing wrong I have to change with me and I will do what I want to do inshallah I will believe what I'm saying you shall assalamualaikum all over

[@jocelynburrell445]

Exposed going to school to going away to College

[@Darknss2Light]

I don't see this changing in the next 10-20 years. Big expensive weddings. Huge mahr, in dept at the start of relationship. woman only starting to get serious about marriage at the age of 27-29, become picky, next thing they are 31-33 then feel they have missed the boat and 'settle for less' in their mind. 1-2 years into marriage they can't help but feel they made the wrong choice, effects their married life, ends in divorce. And repeat, this is happening in the west, and its getting worse.

[@SoggyBiscuitPro]

Women in the west don't really wanna be married they just want a cool wedding. Lol

[@abelievereverrising283]

Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change that which is within themselves.

[@Saa42808]

If this issue is serious then let me serious about it: What is different or special about this generation? I don’t agree with Dr. YQ because the availability of the resources (including haram and halal) is relative to every era. People never had listened to female voices before the invention of radio and had never watched females so easily before the invention of TV and so on but people were responsible back then current generation is not as responsible in terms of taking their religious responsibilities because trust me Islam will never going to change we have to change ourselves to accommodate within Islam. Stop blaming technology and take your responsibilities.

[@Darknss2Light]

Each person is responsible for their own actions and sins. You may blame the parent for not instilling good islamic values. But parents can't control what their child does at school or at work or anywhere. We will end up saying 'nafsi, nafsi'

[@masudinahimana2155]

Tomorrow they think the US will have it to do it but we never do it with your Force even things is not yet be with the all the all of the particle what are there can be no one have it to change the charging dock for the Allah

[@jocelynburrell445]

One issue we won't speak of is bored .why devoice

[@AbdulKadir-qo5on]

Devoice? Never heard of that.

[@jocelynburrell445]

That's in the Quran the books before be equally yoked. The people of the book was who

[@Darknss2Light]

The people of the book are the current Jews and Christians 👍, hope that helps.

[@jocelynburrell445]

Low income or those who have the best mind can kiss our idols and pay the most with time Deen and continue worshipping us

[@Darknss2Light]

You seem a bit loose in the head, get that checked out.

[@Abdurrahman-ly7ki]

Caller to deviance

[@jocelynburrell445]

And most young men are marring for sex experience young women was taught spiritual man .get married and .

[@jocelynburrell445]

Bored he doesn't know any thing of deen

[@Darknss2Light]

Haha are you more knowledgeable in Islam?

[@SoggyBiscuitPro]

Yasir qadhi has been refuted. But this lecture was decent even thought he is deviant

[@Darknss2Light]

@@SoggyBiscuitPro Practically everyone has been refuted at one point or another by someone. Refutation doesnt mean much now it seems.

[@SoggyBiscuitPro]

@@Darknss2Light he questioned the preservation of quran ,supported lgbtq, said salaf will not fix anything

[@Guyfawx42]

Such an immature comment, but thank you for gifting your good deeds to Yasir Qadhi because of your backbiting, good job