Marriage refines people

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Marriage will only refine a person if that person is willing to learn, grow and change. Spouses can achieve this through mutual respect and understanding and genuine selfless love. Life comes with its many challenges, It’s easier as a single woman or man to adjust, but in marriage or in serious relationships, we tend to forget we’re not just adjusting for one but for two or more (when kids come into the picture). Also, there’s an important point people never touch on, and it’s how we process trauma or grief. This flies over all of our heads yet it affects the way we experience life, we relate with people. I believe that if trauma from childhood is not addressed, or properly processed, and it’s carried subconsciously into adulthood to Marriage, it’ll be a big problem. Trauma either makes one an empath or a narcissist. We all know which is better.😅 Think about it! Anyhooo, both of you are lovely people. I wish you all the happiness in this world.❤