Marriage Story | Let Us Explain

[@meghantonnesen3613]

Adam Driver broke my heart a million times throughout this movie

[@edwardgermakovski5438]

Knife trick scene when Adam driver flips over so his son doesn’t see Bruhhhh

[@angelmedina3883]

When I first watched the film, I thought he had passed away and the rest of the film was the outcome he wanted unfolding........... but at the end i didn’t think the theory made sense.

[@jakegraham3758]

So many standout scenes

[@seanmatthewking]

Angel. Lol. Nahhh not that kind of movie

[@labakalose7427]

I thought he would be brought into hospital

[@jeszecantu4262]

@@angelmedina3883 that cut was nowhere near that deep to cause that much damage lol it hurt yes but not death.

[@originaozz]

That knife scene to me is when he knew he loses because no matter what, things can never get back to the way it was. Not even with the trick.

[@videoessaysmcgee]

It’s the little things in this movie like skipping over a mature part of a letter because you just love your son. It made me respect and love my parents more for doing those types of things.

[@ferretygoodness6]

This movie was heartbreaking for me. I divorced when my son was 2 years old. I said the EXACT same words to my lawyer as Charlie did to his. “He needs to know that I fought for him!” I almost threw up at every court hearing. The longer our divorce took, the more we hated each other. Both of our lawyers said things we never would have said. The lawyers would chit chat with each other like buddies before and after. I sat there in bewilderment. Now our son is torn between us and he feels guilty for it! “Sorry I have to go to my dad’s.” And there’s nothing I can do to help him but remind him that nothing is his fault, he shouldn’t feel bad for wanting his dad too, and that I love him.

[@DavidSilva-mn4dz]

Nicole's mom is mother in law goals.

[@miguelhernandez4975]

David Silva I’m friend’s with an older woman who is exactly like her. A kind, tender kookiness that is just so endearing.

[@king_supreme1102]

David Silva yes

[@woolsheep5359]

G-Ma!

[@Alexvic222]

One suttle thing I love is when Driver opens the cabinet the wrong way twice. Everything works so well. Best film of the year

[@franciscobenitez905]

Another thing I noticed were the house doors. Her house door was unlocked and when a Charlie came to visit he would just walk in. Yet Charlie keeps his apartment locked...That uncomfortable scene where the SW was leaving and he splatters the door just trying to open the door for her.

[@prettynpetty8342]

I had a totally different experience watching this movie. My boyfriend and I aren't married but we talk about us being married alot. This movie helped us talk about divorce and what we would and would not want if it came to that. We held each other throughout the movie. He comforted me during scenes that reminded me of my parents. I feel even closer to him now after watching this movie.

[@king_supreme1102]

Kendall aww ❤️

[@FreyaEinde]

I think the reason the movie focuses on Nicole in that way is because she's the driving force of the divorce, that's not to say that it's her fault but she's pushing for upward momentum and pushing out of what they were. You kinda feel for Charlie's obliviousness but yeah you can see that it's a problem. I feel proper sorry for both.

[@chucklaw]

I took that time had passed by when Henry was reading the handwritten letter. It was Halloween again and Charlie states " You are getting so good at reading!" It was a fantastic movie from start to finish.

[@lovexstory2896]

According to Nicole's letter she wrote this: "Charlie is self-made. His parent, I only know one of them- but he told me there was a lot of alcohol and some violence in his childhood."

[@ShyBug42]

marvel nephilim She said “I’ve only met them once” Not “I only know one of them”

[@Allison-lp7ph]

This seemed fairly unimportant to me at first because I didn't see how it affected his character. Yet the idea of a parent that drinks too much reappears when the lawyer brought up her use of alcohol in court and implies that she's drinking around her kid and then it being brought up again when she's preparing to be interviewed by the observer. It's interesting that its a part of his past and manifests itself as his only fighting chance at arguing why he should have custody and she shouldnt.

[@ChowDownDetroit]

Both Adam Driver and Scarlet Johansson deserves to win for best Actor / Best actress at the Academy Awards.

[@valeriegrindinger6294]

ScarJo i can see getting it. But man is the male side stacked this season. Dont get me wrong Adam is definitely a contender with this movie, but i mean we have DeNiro and Joaquin Phoenix for really outstanding performances this year too and a couple of others. Only one can get it.

[@ChowDownDetroit]

Valerie Grindinger Adam Sandler actually just won for Best Actor in one of the awards already too. It’s going to be tough for Driver.

[@osmosisjones6734]

Adam has already got 3 awards for his performance idk about scarlet

[@scifinerd17]

The Intercut logo being split in two is symbolic, the logo is divorcing itself as keeping in spirit with the movie.

[@Whitney2022]

Adam Driver and Laura Dern gave my favorite performances in the film!

[@andreblackaller3560]

Whitney2022 when she’s going around the room, making coffee and talking, getting everyone interested and agreeing, then the old lawyer snaps us back. Idk it seem like such a haunting acting.

[@FreyaEinde]

Her speech about the Virgin Mary had me rolling, I love her.

[@smarti1144]

@@FreyaEinde yesss!!!

[@kevlow9494]

@@FreyaEinde I agree with everyone. Incredible presence with outstanding delivery, I think that will be her Oscar clip, hopefully she will win!

[@andreblackaller3560]

I’ve never cried like I cried watching this movie, it took me back to being 10 and my mom explaining why my Dad wasn’t gonna come back to Houston anymore.

[@muskansingh3972]

You should watch Blue Valentine.

[@andreblackaller3560]

tsuyoi_hikari Yes, my dad had been an alcoholic for a long time and my mom decided to end their marriage, my dad hit rock bottom and then he bounced back and became a great dad for the rest of his life, he passed away last year but I know I was the reason he stopped drinking, he was an alcoholic since he was 16 man and one day he asked me what I wished for the most in the world, I told him to stop drinking because I didn’t wanted him to die yet, he cried a lot, then the next day he went to Rehab and never drank another drop.

[@mkitahara]

One of the things no one has talked about is how this and other divorces spiral in such acrimony that you have to pay lawyers $900/hr to get you what you want; be it a house, bank account or child. If you can't sit down with the person you married and find compromise, then you made the wrong choice in the person you married or the person you married made the wrong choice when they said "yes" to you. It speaks to how cavalier people are towards the contract signed when you enter a marriage. It's for life, better or worse - that's the solemn oath you take. You better be damn sure this is the right person for you or you're setting yourself up for this kind of misery and expense.

[@davidmcallister9676]

I agree, I also hate how the Wifes character evolves thoruhgout the film. Basically she is reserved and unable to voice her real needs with enough insistince to get what she wants until she hires a lawyer and blindsides her husband with a sneaky trap that eventually gets him what she wanted. Cost hundreds of thousands of dollars. At one point he states "forget Henry's college fund". Exactly! you blew your childs future because you could not speak your needs and compromise... but that's ok, its the norm nowadays.

[@fangal12]

@@davidmcallister9676 I would say that he also never took her needs into consideration. He admits that they talked about it many times throughout the marriage but because of his career he never cared how much it meant to her so the only way she could get what she needed was to force his hand. Maybe she could have been more insistent, maybe he could have been more considerate which is what makes this script so good, you can see both sides.

[@davidmcallister9676]

@@fangal12 I agree, at the center you have poor communication with both sides failing to hear the needs of the other. The classic circumstance of one partner feeling resentful for walking away from a career for the sake of child and family. However, as the intro to the movie so cleverly lays out as they were reading letters to their marriage therapist... There was something special there between them and a deep respect for the role they play. They were obviously there to try and heal the marriage and improve this communication. She was the one that walked out emotionally and refused to communicate and then unilaterally decided to end the marriage. Everything she did thereafter was to avoid dealing with the problem directly. They should follow up the film with a sequal in 10 years showing how their child was impacted by this. I get sick of movies pretending like parents chasing their career aspirations over family unity is a noble cause... It's simply not so... That goes for both of them

[@rachreid8746]

I thought that the entire time and every time any attorney talked. When Nora was nasty about the 55/45 custody, I was like “I knew it was about the kill for you. Not the client or the child”

[@labakalose7427]

This movie made me cry so many times. I hope this film gets atleast one oscar.

[@colelloyd4243]

just hearing u both talk about the film made me tear up. thank u for reminding me how beautiful it was.

[@woolsheep5359]

1. I crappingly hate Nora. 2. Baumbach could've written Henry as a sweeter kid though.

[@franks8462]

I think that's what made me feel more for Charlie. Henry is so apathetic towards him, but that's the reality of it. My family is still trying to come into term with my parents' divorce. Both my sister and brother are still very apathetic towards my mom. I was too for a time, until I understood why the divorce had to happen. Kids don't care about adult matters. They only care about how it affects them. You can tell this is the case during the scenes where Charlie brings Henry along with him in search of attorneys. Charlie openly talks about the situation in front of Henry, but the kid's aloof, only reacting when he's inconvenienced.

[@kelvinchoi6195]

I think that Driver's character has the most to sympathise with as the story progresses and with the time we spend with him but has the biggest flaws pointed out early on in the movie, therefore providing an equal judgement on both sides of the story for the 2 characters. The cut on his arm scene definitely highlights his desperation.

[@cassielcruzchavolla809]

I agree, I think it did have an inevitable male bais because of the director, but he balanced it very well. Both of the characters were sympathetic and likeable.

[@vingram100]

That knife scene was so sad!

[@internetsummoner]

V I and when he just fell on the floor and then turn around hiding his wound for his son, omg ! just tears !

[@DJSwizz15]

Ana Paula Cruz Chavolla not bias cuz of its a male director. This is how it usually goes. The father gets the worse out situations like. Whatever kind of father that person may be is a whole different factor. But fathers do get the shirt end of the stick, due to sexism.

[@cee3poh888]

This movie made me cry at least twice!! my custody fight for my son sadly wasn't as civil...

[@blynmusic]

Arturo "He has to know I fought for him" zurita

[@jayantjj]

I watched it last night and the best way I can think of explaining it is that it is indeed a Marriage Story and not a Divorce Story.

[@tonycourant9771]

Favorite movie of the year hands down saw it at NYFF and nothing could top

[@magicaldreams4514]

This review was well explained, had a good perspective on the story, and intelligent viewpoints. Arturo's review very detailed, he noticed how the divorce process changes the child's behaviors. Arturo seems a little to anxious to jump in and interrupt. Zachary explanation is very smart and on spot, wanted him to get more speaking time. Overall good team. Adam driver's performance excellent! Like the way Nora (attorney) enlightened Nicole of just how she has been a doormat to Charlie, so he could get ahead. Noticed how Charlie also provided constructive criticism, and acting opportunities which helped her become a better actress and allowed her to do so much more. The movie helps couples reflect on how two people can love each other, but at the same time, show how lack of support from one partner can break a relationship. Overall the message to me was that each person in the relationship needs to support each other in their craft, compliment each other and don't overshadow or let one's life consumer the other.

[@issamissa902]

When Scarlet met with Laura Dern and started talking about how they ended up divorcing, that really hit to close to home. I had to pause and recuperate.

[@rachreid8746]

The show The Affair still does this type of perspective best. You guys should check it out

[@abhiezibran9654]

a film that Id liked to recommend to you which Im sure you guys havent seen is a Bengali movie, called "Praktan". You should be able to find it online in the downloading sites. That film is also about divorce. One of the best on this topic from Asia for sure.

[@nevabowdown]

Only part that threw me off was her opening the jar for him

[@MrSidney9]

Yeah, that was bs. Dude is like 3x her size and in shape.

[@HisameArtwork]

@@MrSidney9 I can open jars my husband can't but only because I know to use the back of the knife and we have different jars in my country, muscles aren't the main need.

[@nicblueberry6360]

Just as a suggestion - the guy on the right might want to practice not interrupting, speaking over, or latching on to the other guys sentences. Let him speak - it's a bit distracting. Not trying to be rude!

[@sarjanasi]

i am surprised there's only one comment regarding arturo continuously talking without allowing the other guy to talk, but i felt like he just wasn't letting the other person talk which annoyed me.

[@barbara3911]

Agree!

[@keepingitkianatural]

I think he just was really really excited about the movie. Lol

[@RizztrainingOrder]

It gets annoying. Reminds me of all the people I know that do that and it's annoying

[@jayantjj]

Wow Art! You just raised a fantastic point at 30:11. Top notch

[@weldsj8847]

There is news that AMC will be streaming brand new movies to the home. The only reason to go to the theater these days is to just get out.

[@thereforeandbutmeanwhileba5389]

I’m so angry that the “one scene” every one is talking about didn’t hit that hard for me

[@andreblackaller3560]

Therefore and But, Meanwhile Back At The Ranch I’ve never cried in public in my whole life, I watched this film with my Friends and my sister, after this scene was over me and my sisters were sobbing violently, it took us back to that time in our lives, we’re both adults and our parents have a civil relationship but my god.

[@king_supreme1102]

Idk how that’s possible

[@nymeria4600]

Therefore and But, Meanwhile Back At The Ranch it didn’t hit me either /:

[@iLuvSmartCars]

Can someone explain the purpose of the scene where Charlie accidentally cuts his arm? I failed to see the deeper meaning.

[@harrycv5806]

I just feel bad for Charley

[@workhard6283]

This movie depicts exactly how lots of good flawed men never seem to win. some lose the love of their lives, some die in the process and some simply fail at life. Charlie tries to cater to Nicole the only way he knows how, even deciding to move to LA. Eventually he lost. makes you question if it is worth it to doing good, love people or live in soltitude

[@nymeria4600]

Work Hard to be fair, Nicole catered to Charlie in wayyyyy more ways...

[@winterinbloom]

The instant he cheated he became unsympathetic, and he was no longer a "good guy". Cheaters aren't "good". He deserved to be left based on that alone, but the fact that he did not listen to what his wife wanted for ten whole years is also more than enough to make him unsympathetic.

[@seanmatthewking]

Winterinbloom. She was complicit in him not listening. She married a guy who doesn’t listen and let him not listen for ten year. He’s not aware that’s what he’s doing. She was barely aware that’s what he was doing. I don’t blame her for divorcing him if he won’t change, but this movie is about the divorce process, not the marriage. He cheated once after they hadn’t slept together for the past year. That makes it more understandable. It’s still not justified, but we don’t need to be simplistic about it. Again, it’s understandable that she would leave him. What wasn’t justified was going to lawyers. She and he both agreed they wanted to avoid that. They were both stubborn and selfish about which city they wanted to live in, which is understandable on both sides. But she didn’t allow them the opportunity to figure it out together. He should have agreed to living on LA or at least letting the kid live in LA because of how long she made concessions and lived in NY. But she needed to give him time to process the fact that that’s what she was doing all that time. In his head, they were a New York family, and she wasn’t forceful enough during the marriage to make it known her thoughts. He selfishly interpreted her deep reaching thoughts as whimsical thoughts. He needs time to understand he was wrong. Set a deadline to work things out, and after that you can go to lawyers if there’s still disagreement.

[@winterinbloom]

@@seanmatthewking I wholly disagree about his cheating being understandable in any way. No one has to cheat. A year is a very long time to allow things to go wrong in a marriage without trying to fix them, or at least trying to figure out what went wrong. Cheating is the lazy person's way of getting their base desires fulfilled without having to do the work of either fixing their current relationship, or moving on so they can start a new relationship. I also don't put fault on his wife for him not listening. She was his wife, not his mother, and therefore it was never her job to teach him to not be so incredibly selfish that he disregarded everything she said just because she wasn't forceful in her opinions. And that part of the marriage does play into the divorce process, as the only reason she went to a lawyer in the first place is because he was still not listening, as he'd done for the past ten years. He agreed to no lawyers because he assumed that the divorce would go exactly as he wanted it to go, and he never once thought his wife might have a different view of what life would look like after the papers were signed. She agreed to no lawyers because she obviously wasn't the type to put up a fight, she wanted things to remain amicable, and she probably saw Charlie letting her go to LA and putting their son in school there while she did a show as him listening and being reasonable for once, until it became clear he wasn't. Charlie was treating the show she got involved in as a side hobby to the "vacation" she was taking in LA. She was wanting to actually move there and restart her career, as she'd told him she wanted to do God knows how many times. Charlie was temporarily indulging her so she would be placated and he could go back to having everything his way. You were right, he should have just agreed to move to LA, or come up with some creative half and half solution, but he wouldn't have come to that conclusion given time. Time would have made him do what he did the whole marriage, assume he was right and delude himself into thinking his wife shared all of his opinions even when she directly stated otherwise. He was already doing exactly that when she hired the lawyer.

[@seanmatthewking]

The harder a relationship is, the more understandable cheating is. You can deny that if you want, but I would argue you’re not being generous enough with your empathy. It’s still not justified, and there are always better options. Being understandable and being justified are two separate things. “She was his wife, not his mother, and therefore it was never her job to teach him to not be so incredibly selfish that he disregarded everything she said“ Sure it’s not _her job,_ but if you care about the relationship you can try. And if you’re unsuccessful, you leave the relationship. But if you choose to remain in a relationship with someone who doesn’t treat you right, you are complicit in that behavior. They are both flawed. He doesn’t listen, she doesn’t know how to stand up for herself.

[@MagnitudeReviews]

Mfw I cant watch the video since I haven't seen the film and won't be able to see the film until it reaches Netflix.

[@seanmatthewking]

It on Netflix

[@seanmatthewking]

Now

[@kelvinchoi6195]

I love these, keep them up!

[@expressyourself2591]

I cry all the time :(

[@kevinrobin9569]

bruh i cant even see him for real without his cartoon

[@thefilmcubano]

Arturo pleaseeeee let Zach speak. I love you man but damn

[@ScratchthechalkBoard]

Hmm so Adam drivers side is Scarlett, in real life she dated Jack atoning in high school, small world two connections to Lena Dunham

[@an0rangutan]

2:18 "WELL INTENTIONED!?" There was nothing "well intentioned" about Scar Jo's character in this movie, she took everything from Driver's character without barely a second thought.

[@GC-yw1mn]

New York >>> LA

[@JUDALATION]

you cant spend more time explaining a movies than the actual movie...

[@seanmatthewking]

Says who?

[@jose-angelrivas2971]

Good thing he doesn’t lol

[@christophersinambela]

What a movie

[@TheADAMB719]

The acting was good in this movie however by the end of the movie the ending felt kinda pointless after everything that happened I'm not sure if this is just me but i really didn't like the ending it was quite boring in my opinion.

[@StormshadowGames]

it was real, no it's not a fairytale where they fall back in love and they live happily ever after. it's just raw look at how divorce really is

[@RizztrainingOrder]

Whole lot of interrupting, the other guys opinion is just as important as yours buddy.

[@MrSidney9]

These guys try very hard to make this 45m long.

[@MagCynic]

Has there been a better villain than Scarlett Johansson's character in the last few years?

[@SkullCrusher-xk5wp]

How is she a villain in this film? If you want to blame anyone then blame the lawyers who turned both characters against each other.

[@MagCynic]

@@SkullCrusher-xk5wp Nicole was the antagonist from the very first scene. Remember how she agreed to cooperate with a mediator and then turned around and called her husband and the mediator cock suckers? Remember how they agreed they didn't want to get lawyers involved and she immediately gets a lawyer once she gets to LA? Did you notice how Charlie assumed he'd stay at G-ma's house (with his son) during the first visit but Nicole pretty much said 'no' go to this hotel that's not too expensive? And because she decided to get a lawyer, it forced Charlie to spend his first day in LA with his son trying to find a lawyer that Nicole didn't already go to. Not only that, but it's clear that Nicole was poisoning their son against Charlie at this point. It's not just a "mommy phase". Henry literally clings to his mom's arm when Charlie tries to take him for the first day. Compare that with the opening shots of the movie where we see Henry want to have Charlie sleep in his bed after he has a nightmare. I wonder what that's about? And remember how Charlie was going to spend time with his kid on Halloween but Nicole said, "Nope. We're going to Pasadena and you can't come" before slamming the door shut? By the way, that's only half-way through the movie. I could go on if you'd like, but she's clearly the villain in his story.

[@SkullCrusher-xk5wp]

@@MagCynic... I think you should rewatch it if you think Marriage Story was about choosing sides because it isn't. They're both good people who've done bad things to one another. Neither is better than the other.

[@MagCynic]

@@SkullCrusher-xk5wp I understand that. I've heard other reviews. From my perspective, though, Nicole clearly does not come out of it looking good. What exactly does Charlie do to ruin things? Does the movie actually SHOW us anything? Or are we to just take Nicole's word on everything she claims Charlie has done?

[@SkullCrusher-xk5wp]

@@MagCynic he cheated on her, he never listened to what she wanted and if he did it always came back to how it would benefit him. He never took her career ambitions seriously either. We aren't just told this, we're shown it. Nicole accelerated the divorce because she understood much faster than Charlie that they couldn't stay together despite what they felt. Did Nicole make the mistake of getting a lawyer who wouldn't play fair? Yes although I'd argue most lawyers don't want to play fair to begin with. Could she have stayed in NY and look for more opportunities? Yes.