"Marry Our Other Son" I Smriti, Widow of Capt Anshuman Vs His Parents I Kirti Chakra I Barkha Dutt

A photograph from the Gallantry Awards earlier this year went viral across India- a young wife and her mother in law receiving the Kirti Chakra on behalf of Captain Anshuman, a young soldier who gave his life for the country. "Love at first sight' was how Smriti described her relationship. Now an unseemly battle has broken out with the soldier's parents claiming that they have not even been 'able to touch the award'. Smriti has been silent through the controversy. As India mourns the lives lost in Jammu, Doda in a fresh terror attack- the sixth this year, these are controversies the Indian military can ill afford. Barkha Dutt speaks to Meghna Girish, who lost her son Major Akshay, in the line of duty, Maj General Yash Mor, and Brigadier Sandy Thapar.
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[@Vishakha_B897]

To expect a grieving widow to marry her deceased husband's brother is nothing short of monstrous!

[@user-hf9xf6zh4o]

That was just a rumor, please watch his video where he mentioned clearly that they will support her for remarriage. They didn’t offer her

[@anishakundu4851]

@@user-hf9xf6zh4o they offered her parents u can see the interview

[@Imaginarysquad]

@@user-hf9xf6zh4o never know how it was put across to them behind closed doors.Versions can change infront of media and behind.... If iam grieving the lose of my dear husband and if anyone suggest to me to marry my brother(brother-in-law)..I will feel traumatized

[@Imaginarysquad]

@@Vishakha_B897 in my culture my brother-in-law or sister -in-law are my brother and sister...I can't even begin to fathom anyone suggesting me to marry my brother...monstrous indeed

[@sophiaroychoudhury2997]

V v horrible

[@vidyakumari8069]

Your bahu is not your property. She has a mouth , she can talk too. Her maturity level and dignity is very high. She is qualified and capable to make her on decisions so don’t force your opinion on her.

[@reenabansal284]

@@vidyakumari8069 property to nhi h but kuch manners bhi hote h

[@sureshrao6091]

Shocking beyond words!

[@socorrinhatelles5602]

😂😂😂😂😂 100/💯 percent true . She should not force her to get marry to her other son . . Give her freedom .

[@Krishna__2.0]

​@@reenabansal284toxic people dont deserve manners

[@jacinthamoras52]

Hopeless people,can't force a woman to marry a person just because she lost her husband,Is she not educated or is any agreement made during her marriage with Captain Anshuman? So inhuman n cruel.

[@namsinmarem2803]

There is selfish parents too..Iam army wife, my husband give 10 yrs ATM to their parents, and look after all their siblings and just before our marriage my husband took loan and built a house for himself..But his parents at last claims thats their house.At last we had to leave in a small deteriorated house. We call them during my delivery but they do ng come. Some parents are always after money..The same goes for them they are not after the award but after money

[@induchopra3014]

Same me..mIL wants money money money. She wants husbands salary,mine,she also says what have in laws given ? He now expects money from my brother. Imagine her brainwashing

[@storylane2675]

True

[@urvashiboyna7847]

Jealousy in-laws created such problem

[@CelestaSheperd]

I’m not Indian but I’d like to share my POV. “HONOR THE WILL OF THE DEPARTED” The fallen soldier chose his wife! I’d say the same if someone chose their parents over their spouse. That’s all matters, not mine, not the wife’s, not the parents. “HONOR THE WILL OF THE DEPARTED”

[@monabhishek]

The dispute is not over the Will but the behaviour of the Daughter in Law who didn't let the parents even have a look at the honor of their son , this is so wrong and she has completely shut them off . So , the parents decided to challenge the Next to Kin of deceased soldiers for no further suffering of any parents in future .

[@Homosapiens0804]

The dispute it’s mainly towards NOK policy and working of army, Army is literally sidelining and ignoring the family and parents who have given birth to him and nurtured him , and laws and policies should be changed whenever there is any genuine and considerate situation like this one. Parents are pursuing becoz they can afford to pursue and many other parents might not even be able to challenge such old and redundant policies. And the way parents have described Captain , any responsible, kind child will never sign up for such ignorance and ghosting of his or her parent. When he wrote that will , he must have wanted the best for both his parents and spouse, he might not have envisioned such scenario, in which the spouse is too insecure to not even let his parents touch the kirti chakra award. That is disturbing for anyone who listen to such case, spouse and her family could have handled it in much better manner. It’s unfortunate for both sides.

[@monabhishek]

@@Homosapiens0804 it's not the Army but the Governments policy and NOK can be challenged in the court and has nothing to do with the Army .

[@Sagar4321-q4v]

As per givers’ visionery wisdom, honour can be given to city collector of soldier, principal of soldier's college…… and flowers’ bouquet can be given to them, on special day. “anything, yes ANYTHING CAN BE” choosen as per vision, mission, agenda of the giver. Why such nonsense noise, maine paida kiya tha, maine paida kiya tha….., college flower le gaya.

[@dv9239]

You're not Indian so stay away from this

[@vartikasingh4748]

His parents already get pension as his father was in army ....the point here is why is she being demeaned by saying it was a six months old marriage etc knowing that they were together for 8 long yrs Would they have the same opinions if it was their own daughter?

[@yashwanthchoudary8302]

Well put thought

[@liveandletlive8871]

What if the parents are dependent on their son? In that also you think that the wife should only get the pension?

[@vartikasingh4748]

​@@liveandletlive8871That's not the case here, is it? Also in cases where parents receive less than a certain sum of money do get pension...his parents clearly weren't eligible for the same. Coming to the compensation/ insurance money it was divided equally.Recently, The Hindu quoted an Army source who clarified that it is only the pension of the martyr that goes to the wife and that other compensations have been divided equally between Smriti and Anshuman's parents. The point is.... 1. If the interdependency factor of parents is considered in India which should be ....the societal desirability of finding another eligible life partner the widowed women should also be taken in account...where toxic so called men shamelessly claim"no seal no deal"... 2. Also Not ignoring the fact that the guy was only 23 he must not be owning any of his parental property....so she is definitely not getting a penny there 3. Plus the defamation and backlash she's receiving ....such degrading things being associated with the death of her husband...where such memories are being tinted with abuses... Who's taking all this in account? Also they are defaming her publically plus Even to an extent that some people thought an influencer was her and abused saying pati ke paise pe aish krri...aur merese shadi krle... Is she supposed to be treated like this ?? If everything was done as per the will and rules...why harrassing her at this difficult hour?

[@vartikasingh4748]

That's not the case here, is it? Also in cases where parents receive less than a certain sum of money do get pension...his parents clearly weren't eligible for the same. Coming to the compensation/ insurance money it was divided equally.Recently, The Hindu quoted an Army source who clarified that it is only the pension of the martyr that goes to the wife and that other compensations have been divided equally between Smriti and Anshuman's parents. The point is.... 1. If the interdependency factor of parents is considered in India which should be ....the societal desirability of finding another eligible life partner the widowed women should also be taken in account...where toxic so called men shamelessly claim"no seal no deal"... 2. Also Not ignoring the fact that the guy was only 23 he must not be owning any of his parental property....so she is definitely not getting a penny there 3. Plus the defamation and backlash she's receiving ....such degrading things being associated with the death of her husband...where such memories are being tinted with abuses... Who's taking all this in account? Also they are defaming her publically plus Even to an extent that some people thought an influencer was her and abused saying pati ke paise pe aish krri...aur merese shadi krle... Is she supposed to be treated like this ?? If everything was done as per the will and rules...why harassing her at this difficult hour?

[@liveandletlive8871]

@@vartikasingh4748 I agree with you on the point that they should not have brought this to social media platforms because definitely social media comes with the trolls. But in one of the interview his father told that samriti and her father have blocked them. They should not block him ...If Samriti doesn't want to talk to them that's fine but her father would have talked to ansuman's father and cleared out everything. Blocking someone is not the solution they have to talk it out. Otherwise definitely the other alternative is social media only.

[@namsinmarem2803]

What kind of parents in law ,are they?? When theke daughter in law is so miserable and sad, instead of making her happy.They are making her more sad

[@ns86532]

if women are going to be cornered like this ...nobody will want to marry a defence person.......

[@venkataiyer1]

There was some talk of getting that girl married to her late husband's younger brother by her in laws.that is sick

[@krishi.0]

True . Parents have a 7th century mentality.

[@keerthyyalapalli7757]

Even the girl's father in law accepted it that they proposed to her to marry her brother in law....that's why she did all that to run away.

[@reenabansal284]

@@keerthyyalapalli7757 they only have an option

[@user-hc2oj4jo4m]

No he proposed 3 things - 1-if she wants to get married then he is ready to marry her to whom she wants to on his own expense. 2-if she wants to stay in the family and also wants to get married then he can marry her with her brother-in-law who is just 2 years younger than her. 3-if she doesn't want to get married and want to stay in the family then she will be given the child of her brother-in-law and she will be the owner of the house and will keep all the properties. I hope now you are not confused he is also saying at many channels that media is using only this line for views don't belive them listen to the actual interview first you are educated.

[@user-hf9xf6zh4o]

@@keerthyyalapalli7757no they mentioned she can marry whoever she wants, they will support her. Please watch videos where he mentioned clearly.

[@user-cd7hd4fv5l]

These parents never deserved such a selfless son who sacrificed his life. It is God’s mercy that Anshuman is these parents son. Shame on these parents.

[@Cleanse-qt3sm]

Just got to know to be eligible for pension as a martyr's wife, the woman had to remarry a sibling of the deceased per Congress era laws which were scrapped only in 2017. The more you dig into Congress, the more the ugliness 🤮

[@user-cd7hd4fv5l]

@@Cleanse-qt3sm Undoubtedly, scrapping such rules are necessary on humanitarian grounds and to keep up the dignity of a widow. Though rules are changed, these in laws want to go back to yesterday-years 💁‍♀️

[@Cleanse-qt3sm]

@@user-cd7hd4fv5l Yes. The parents are no less than Congress. Exactly why they were platformed by the Congress ecosystem journalists to humiliate the girl as soon as her photo went viral and started gaining empathy

[@Ak-bs5ox]

Who are they to decide the girl’s future?

[@Dfghjdal]

I think parents want their daughter in law to live with them and mourn their son for a life. And daughter in law is trying to escape them. I can't blame her. Women nowadays can't live like a widow for a lifetime.

[@babayada2015]

NO! This report is a hit piece. Look at the original statement, they said they would respect any of her future decisions.

[@victoryv116]

The question ..why do you even expect a human to live like a alive dead body ..the thinking is monstrous..women are not property

[@babayada2015]

@@victoryv116 That's a lie, they never said anything like this

[@induchopra3014]

My husband is serving. What hurts is parents are never happy no matter how much you do for them. They want control of sons pay ,even wifes.Then expect in laws money. My MIL tells him,after 5 yrs of our marriage what have your in laws given you? Peanuts, ask for more. They didnot even come for our wedding.

[@veenap7788]

So far we were sympathetic with the parents. This is just too much. Whom to marry and how long she needs to manage her grief is completely her decision.

[@babayada2015]

Look at their statement. They literally said they would respect any of her decision. Barka dutt lied here.

[@ns86532]

Meghna Girish......what a dignified lady....most forward thinking and most large hearted lady.

[@serenity8145]

I have said all along that this whole problem is with the Son’s parents. They washed their laundry in public and completley disrespected their daughter in law. At first I was symphathising with the parents. But more I see and hear from them, the more they come across as very controlling. For them to be fighting over a medal is shameful. What are they going to do with it? Their son is gone, instead of mourning and accepting this sad loss, they seem to be more angry that the daughter in law doesn’t want to live with them or marry their other son!

[@Vaibik]

20:27 Barkha you are misrepresenting the words here. Nobody is asking for taking away all the recognition from the young widow if she remarries. She has all the right to remarry and rebuild her life. But in that case, the parents should not be forgotten.

[@venkataiyer1]

@@Vaibik Barkha is sick

[@AdityaRaj-rj1hr]

What recognition she will have after remarriage ???

[@dimplekataria406]

​@@venkataiyer1 Did you check her body temperature 🌡️🤒 and vitals? How do you know she is sick?

[@SubwayTherightway]

Forgotten??? He will be their son he still is similarly the wife didn't wanted him to die or planning life after deth this is as painful as the parents pain how can u trust someone who is not even thinking about the girl who still is wife of anshuman.they have accepted the dath and now want to monetize It. The girl got whatever she has been given by her late husband. No man will update nominee within few month of getting married. The man who has such a great turms with his family (as pr his father) my sister is married to a airforce person it took them a year to get everything updated and get the airforce quarter my di was living in the city for Almost 8 months after. Moving with her husband.

[@victoryv116]

What about her parents ..they are always forgotten

[@sreevidyapillai8023]

How dare they say that to her ?? ... to marry bro in law ??? so they get accessible to her money

[@babayada2015]

They didn't actually. look up the original clip

[@babayada2015]

Their statement was Father in law: "She left the house without any notice but atleast she should've told us what was the reason or about her future. If she wanted to marry someone else, both the families would help in the wedding, if she wanted to remain a widow, they would have respected her decision, if she wanted to come back to house, they would have asked the younger son to marry too."

[@babayada2015]

Barkha dutt lied to you and you were naive enough to support the character assassination of a veteran and father of a matyr

[@agnescraig2912]

Am Indian born educated but chose to live in the UK. Will be trolled with death threats but completely disagree parents bring up children with extreme hardship so children MUST repay. My widowed mother at 31 brought up 4 daughters, her mother 2 sisters. She never demanded any of us look after her. Didn't have my sons so that they could provide me a pension. What is the state doing instead of its citizens fleeing in millions to Christian West? Zero/Demand good governance. Do not have children if you cannot provide them with basic necessities. Parents shamelessly pushing their agenda/are upset at being thwarted. Well done Smriti.

[@abiarun9578]

You are talking about exceptio,it is not about their son here They want the money because its their descessd sons wife taking it . They are normal in laws.and the worst part is they are asking her to remarry the husband's brother. They didn't respect their son or daughter in laws feeling. Worst and felt bad for her

[@venuverma5337]

Those parents are so dominating and want everything for themself only …..

[@deepikasingh4017]

Now he is saying that a girl is well educated also and she moves forward, it is not very easy for any girl who loses her husband to move forward. This loss also remains forever in her heart also is she is educated so she is or she should be left alone to feed for herself and if she is not working or at time when she use to be not so educated then also she used to be dependent on the help of others

[@focm888]

It' upto the girl now if she wants to stay a single window or whomever she wants to get married to later. She has that freedom.

[@prathamthakur5971]

But the pension should be stop from the date of her remarriage because she will be the responsibility of her 2nd husband

[@focm888]

@@prathamthakur5971 The rule allows widows to get pension even after remarriage. But, I don't think so she will mind even if her pension stops after her remarriage. As she is educated, young & has life ahead. Earning will not be a problem for her.

[@prathamthakur5971]

@@focm888 i don't think she would marry any soldier

[@prathamthakur5971]

@@focm888 If the daughter in law remarry then the parent in laws can files for withdrawing of pension and other benefits from her which will transfer to them because they are the next kin of that deceased person

[@prathamthakur5971]

And every PILs Does it when DIL remarries

[@Piyushkuma-e9m]

It's time to establish laws that ensure parents, along with the spouse, do not feel unfairly treated in the distribution of monetary and other benefits after a soldier's death. Marriage should not diminish the immense contribution parents make in raising a brave child to serve the country. Moreover, consider acknowledging parents' contributions and sacrifices by presenting them with replicas of honors such as the Kirti Chakra and other medals.

[@dawansuklathong8643]

Well said❤

[@csj09]

Marrying the brother of the deceased???😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Manoj4-v5y]

This shows how much love they had for their elder son.Great!

[@SeSaZindagi]

Not expecting this from a parents

[@sonamdolma1468]

Well said! The girl would definitely move on, esp a newly wed, but for parents it a life long emptiness and pain.

[@deepikanegi5164]

It should be the same person who would agree to owe the debts just in case he had any. It's so unfortunate that even the parents turn greedy and want compensation of their bereaved son. My maternal uncle passed away at age or 16 due to an accident and the accused was ready to pay the compensation but my maternal grandfather never took it cause he knew no compensation in this world can bring a life back. I am feeling shameful of such parents.

[@jamieabraham7964]

I respect all the speakers and thank you for speaking out the real things. Especially mam in pink.

[@sureshrao6091]

Just Sicko in laws,how did She stay in that Home all this while! 🤔

[@Rapunzel8670]

Parents also got around ₹65lakhs.Why they r throwing shades on young widow😢

[@user-jw3de6tv6l]

I feel bad for Capt Anshuman

[@udhaya.kandunni]

I'm worried about women like myself not allowed to go out and work! who literally ceased from education and married in the account of being a daughter in a lower middle class family. And married to another person from same kind of background who works a basic level job in airforce! We never taught how to live independently nor got the chance to study! This whole situation will be overwhelming for us if occurred! I wish my daughter should have some career which will let her to be unbothered about her spouse's support or compensation in any situation in life!

[@ggwhhbb1822]

true , education and them financial independence is the key

[@user-cd7hd4fv5l]

Nation should come forward to control the greedy parents. They come out with frequent videos criticising the young widow. Shame on these parents.

[@liveandletlive8871]

His father never forced her to marry his other son. He was okay if she wanted to marry someone else or even if she wants to remain single. The battle is all about kirti chakra. They have given their son for this nation and they also deserve all the honour and respect.

[@miracle62V]

Don't mislead people with wrong caption...

[@indira.k5727]

So basically children are future insurence policies . why have kids if you want them to be beholden to you .

[@jamieabraham7964]

When the father of anshuman have clearly stated that he only suggested a few things about marriage as per the will of the widow and not was forcing it. Then why are you using the statement and twisting the words?

[@liveandletlive8871]

True ..She is portraying as if he was forcing her to marry his other son which is not the case.

[@user-cd7hd4fv5l]

@@jamieabraham7964 how dare did these parents- in - law say that ..They did unpardonable mistake.

[@sonaliingale1510]

Though it’s going to be hardest decision for her ..but the day she accept it with bravery heart ..things can turn out beautifully …Though more love and more strength to her ❤as she is young still ..and whole life is there for her ahead ..🕉️🇮🇳🫡🍀✨

[@hamarepyareGuruji.]

The poor parents ! What if the Devar already has a girlfriend or Love of his life ! This father is such a narcissist , forcing his own son to marry bhabhi , without even taking any opinion from them both ! Showing how generous he is but so pity on his thoughts and upbringing! Bachcho ki parwarish ke badle me kabhi samman chahiye , kabhi ijjat chahiye kabhi paise kabhi pension ! Greedy parents ! AFMC sainik school में बच्चो को पढ़कर ड्रामा कर रहे हैं कि बोहोत पैसा लगाया था , पाला था , बदले में सेवा कराने के लिए कौन पालता है बच्चे ? Lady said, अगर हमारे up की लड़की होती बहु ,तो वो हमको ऐसे छोड़ कर नही जाती ! They just wasted their son's sacrifice ! They maligned the image of his love of life , his own wife ! omy god! Sick mentality!

[@reenabansal284]

Ye cheez smriti k uper bhi lagu hoti h.kya usne paise or samman k liye shadi ki thi.wo na le paise govt se.kyunki wo pdi likhi h khud earn kr skti h.uska koi bacha bhi nhi h

[@hamarepyareGuruji.]

@@reenabansal284 what if her parents or brother's wife do not keep her at their home with respect ! Plz don't generalise, it's very difficult for daughters to stay at their father's place after marriage ! These are still stigmas and very sensitive matters ! She should definitely keep the money for her own safety security and some future studies

[@reenabansal284]

@@hamarepyareGuruji. to fir parents ko bhi security chahiye kya pta unka chota beta bahu unke sath kaisa behave krein aagey ja k.aagey unki umar pdegi.bimariyan lgengi .unko bhi security chahiye and overall unhone samman manga h.paisa to wo maang hi nhi rhe..kya smriti unko thodi si respect bhi ni de payi.jis se pyar hota h to us se Judi hr cheez se hi pyaar hota h.but smriti k case mein aisa nhi lga jo wo inse baat nhi ni krna chahti.

[@reenabansal284]

Kisi k ghr death ho jati h to hum jate hai na condolences k liye.us se bnde ka mn hlka ho jata h.smriti kuch pyaar samman krti kbi kbar haal chal poochti to ye ik respect hoti h.wo de nhi payi.itni pathar dil koi kaise ho skta h.

[@hamarepyareGuruji.]

@@reenabansal284 Reena ji , uska pati chala gaya hai , wo kisi aur ka dukh baantne jayegi jab uske khud ke sar par dukho ka pahad toot gaya hai ?

[@ns86532]

Capt Thapa and the other soldiers....salute and our prayers for your family. Not easy

[@AbhijeetPatel-td1js]

Barkha is distorting the narrative by twisting the facts. Her father-in-law suggested that his son could marry her if she chose to, as a way to offer her a more secure life, but he never forced her into it. This offer was made out of respect, considering her like his own daughter and cared about her well-being. I heard his entire speech, and he was very respectful toward her. Barkha's stance is decidedly anti-national and opposed to those who support the Army and patriotic values. She advocates for radical feminism. It's almost poetic justice that her actions have led her to the Mojo story, resulting in a significant downfall.

[@malatiraychowdhury817]

This is a very sensitive issue between wife and parents both hv sentiments parents hv more feelings coz bringing up their child and losing him with a great sacrifice now wife also thinks that Chakra is part of her husband coz vry recently this incident has taken place I think his wife should consider and try to console each other this is not the time to make it a public issue and we also cannot do anything ad time passes everything will be OK parent should also be loving to the daughter-in-law law

[@minakshijataw9597]

Parents putted 20 years is not for boys only they putted 20 year in girls ....but girl leave everything for that family

[@user-ec2pq7ep1p]

But then she can remarry and have life again but they won’t have son come back. If they had children, yes it was ok to keep award which would be laggy to his children. But in this case, once she remarried, award is going to collect dust in back drawer somewhere

[@AdityaRaj-rj1hr]

​@@user-ec2pq7ep1pThey also have other children after that much trolling who will marry her,she is not a star that everyother guy wants to marry her....Most of the guys are abusing her

[@shaisypadmanabhan4032]

There is no telling. Every thing has to be in black and white. Options to be laid out and the soldiers have to choose one and sign . But before they sign the young jawans need to be explained by the officer what the options means so that they don’t sign blindly or by force. Even the life insurance from Supreme Court needs to be renewed. Its we people of India made the supreme court!!

[@alburj1]

The problem is that Babus who make the rules, they never have families serving in uniform. Their only concern is the money factor. If this issue is to be resolved, we need to take away the pernicious presence of Babus in decisions regarding this matter

[@divm8559]

Meghana Girish never gave her share of fund to hrt daughter in law. She gave it to her daughter naina and is publicizing that she gave away her share of fund. Practically, giving fund to naina is going to help in settling naina who is megahna girish's responsibility. Meghna is very money minded and is doing one sided research that completely ignores army widows' pleas. She is same money minded woman who is more sophisticated. She's only fighting against the widowed girls over funds.

[@Imaginarysquad]

For your information...Naina is her grand daughter

[@Homosapiens0804]

@@Imaginarysquad That’s the point he/she is making, grand daughter is her own blood and family, DIL is another case.

[@Imaginarysquad]

@@Homosapiens0804 Iam sure the widow will be more than happy because her daughter is her own blood too. Lame

[@Homosapiens0804]

@@Imaginarysquad Sure she would be happy, I was just saying what the original commentor meant by his or her point on Naina.

[@ns86532]

Barkha wonderful debate. Much needed in the current scenarios.

[@skullcandy9641]

Makes me not inspired of becoming a parent if this is the natural feeling if being one

[@Randomspace17]

When you are married you have now built a family of your own. You owe nothing to your parents, especially when they are bad parents.

[@urvashiboyna7847]

If in-law are good this thing was never happen,

[@lokeypokey9744]

Parents own him more as there is more effort by them

[@lamolaz8687]

Some share of Pension should go to parents if the couple do not have any child ...after all parents had put lots of afford to make him an officer

[@liveandletlive8871]

True..some share should be given to parents of they don't have any source of pension in their old age.

[@MyCityShillong]

Most Selfish Parent, completely wrong and violating her human rights that forcefully to married her very own brother in law.

[@deepikasingh4017]

And when there is case for maintenance or when their is case for equal partnership in owning the house why such justifications never come up. I agree a certain amount of percentage must be given to parents and even in that ot must be decided on case to case basis considering the children that women has, source of income a woman has at that point of time and what is the financial state of the parensts. In that case why the govt does not give dependency for medical for a soldiers family if their income is a certain amount even that must be talked about why every share being asked from a woman who married the son to be his honoured wife and give her whole life in majing a home with him also looking after the parents. Only every share must be taken away from her, please keep yourself in the shoes and talk about such issues

[@neerajrawat8214]

Totally wrong caption/title of video, Anshuman father said when his son died he with his counterpart (daughter in law) told them if she is ready his younger son cam marry her so that she don't have to spend her life alone or if she want she can marry other person they are ready to pay all expenses. And it's not strange it happens when son die then daughter in lww marry other son or she live a single life till end. Don't try to divert the topic it's matter of pride. A girl 5 months of marriage and now she take away everything every belonging of their son.

[@acinerhakho651]

Marry other son. Words by father is just wondering or assuming to protect the widow only if she is willing.. should not misinterpret the good advise of a father who also keen to keep bond with his daghter in law..

[@Snehasince20s]

Tbh if anyone from Up/bihar will understand that they do remarrying the daughter-in-law with her devar because earlier, women used to be dependent on men and would not be left with the choice of marrying a man of their choice. And trust me, the parents are naive that they said it in the media, but they are not demanding this from her! I am really upset, seeing parents are left with the choice to call the media after not getting her response and getting blocked from everywhere without clarity on what they did wrong that the daughter in law is ghosting them without giving them closure and I hope my comment helps to change the social media's perspective that has influenced the youth to not seeing the difference in what is wrong and right! Nobody loves involving the media in their personal life. and no body goes for higher studies all of sudden planning for higher studies in abroad takes 1 year

[@nandraniepersaud3386]

In my opinion these parents are greedy. They need to treat their Bahu like their daughter even though son isn’t alive. I wonder how they would have behaved if this situation was reversed and Bahu was their daughter. I think they would have also fought with the other family if that family wanted part of the benefit from their son’s death benefits This is life and we should accept it as it is. There are poor people who spend everything they have on their children and don’t receive any monetary benefit because the child never had a job that provided death benefits. Their son should have decided that when he was alive, don’t blame the Bahu

[@ns86532]

Rahul Gandhi got involved in Agniveer at the wrong time....this issue got infamous......parents leveraged Rahul's visit and started targetting the daughter in law. Rahul should realize that he indirectly got involved in supporting the demeaning of women.

[@divyaranigodas705]

What nonsense y she will marry other son ...

[@sonaliingale1510]

But lastly what she thing is mattered the most ❤

[@saraswathanr4087]

A fair rule would be to distribute the Legacy among Surviving Spouse & living Parents. As in Sports, the Award Insignias , "Keerthi Chakra" et all should be with Spouse for first 6 Months & the Parents for remaining 6 Months. This would help avoid cheap public disputes regarding the "Sharing of Legacy", which disrespects the "Award".

[@deepabaddu239]

இது கண்டிப்பாக ஆலோசிக்கப்பட வேண்டிய ஒன்று, பணமும், மனமும் நாளுக்கு நாள் மாறுபடக்கூடிய ஒன்றாக உள்ளது, இதனால் பலரது வாழ்க்கை வீணாகி உள்ளது, அதில் எனது குடும்பமும் ஒன்று 😢😢😢

[@bandanamajumder3079]

Who wearing white a clear signal

[@kirank809]

Bhabhi js like mother uselss people .. stop such suggestions

[@heritage-musicdownmemoryla4922]

When the interviewer herself lacks rationality.

[@smitabhardwaj3219]

Thank you bhrkha ji 🙏 this discussion may give them relief that atleast someone understand

[@DarkKnight______]

Born a child And then nourish him/her for 25 to 30 year and stranger wife get the martyrs respect and money is this a joke 50/50 is must

[@beebee753]

The two men never said that forcing the dil to marry second sone is wrong

[@Nerrti]

She wasn't forced. It was only a suggestion by Anshuman's family.

[@ghosh9970]

It was a suggestion, a wrong one indeed, but id attribute it to ignorance rather than mallice. As long as they went forward and files for a reform it would be perfectly fine and id stand by it. But saying bahue bhag jati hai is wrong. The girl has the right to stay single yet separated from inlaws. And yes the law should compensate parents fairly to account for this.

[@smitabhardwaj3219]

Bharkha ji 🎉

[@raakheevijay5438]

Disgusting parents in law...after money and not real love to their son. Shes a grieving daughter in law.

[@manishatripathi9535]

Meghna girish remarried her DIL because dil stayed with her inlaws.Here smriti literally fled disowning her inlaws

[@ns86532]

family is involved in politics and taking it the political way... Capt Anshuman's sacrifice all forgotten and parents have become selfish and undignified. Understand if the parents are not financially sound....here Capt Anshuman's family receives their own pension. But yet they have to torment the young bride. Pathetic...

[@Cleanse-qt3sm]

Just got to know to be eligible for pension as a martyr's wife, the woman had to remarry a sibling of the deceased per Congress era laws which were scrapped only in 2017. The more you dig into Congress, the more the ugliness 🤮

[@trusfratedAP]

Stop putting such misleading titles barkha in a desperate attempt to vilify the parents. You can surely do better than this!

[@divm8559]

Parents are vile

[@Homosapiens0804]

​​​@@divm8559 How DIL behaved with soldiers family is not vile and disturbing? All us Indians especially middle class ones know very well how much efforts our parents put in to settle us well in our life, do there contribution do not count with simple honouring words, before doing gener politics, and calling any one party vile, this case is about NOK policy amendment and it can be agreed that it needs to have progressive and inclusive change towards soldiers families whether it is the one he created or the one he is born and nurtured in. So get yourself out of this one side viewpoint, which is quite regressive i must say.

[@divm8559]

​​​​Nok policy says that officer/soldier has right to choose his next of kin and divide percentage as per his will. For that matter, every adult in the country has the right to make his will. Shaheed Anshumaan knew his family dynamics better, and has given 30 70 share to parents and wife respectively. Parents have got 65 lakh. They are after wife's share, claiming she was wife only for 5 months. They have married off ther son and by law son's first family is his wife and childen whenever applicable. These greedy parents have resorted to malignining their son's love and wife for greed of more money. ​@@Homosapiens0804

[@abiarun9578]

Atlast everything is money And women in India can reach anywhere in the universe.if you bece daughter in law you are their.property. First of women should choose their life partner. So sad

[@user-ec2pq7ep1p]

I got divorced after 1.8 years of marriage and it was mutual divorce as we didn’t get along well But I couldn’t even take my wedding ring ( huge 3 ct diamond) or any other expensive jewelry his family gifted me…. Coz my conscience won’t let me …. In my mind if it didn’t work out it’s wasn’t just his fault so I didn’t want to cause them any loss or sense of taken advantage of. And this lady didn’t hesitate taking the kitties chakra from the parents / house where he took birth and grew up. Money she can take but award. For parents it would be pride and something honorable to remember their deceased son with. For her….. after few months when she moves on with life and falls in love, the kirti chakra would be collecting dust in some back drawer never to be looked on again Some people have no morals. Rules or no rules….. ethically she can pass it to his parents in honor of their deceased son

[@ns86532]

with all this look at the pressure we are putting on Men....will they think of service or think how they will divide the finance ...what a pathetic state.

[@DarkKnight______]

8 year Love marriage lol 😂

[@ns86532]

marry our other son....huh...how disgusting....how the inlaws pressurize the widows and torment them......

[@PankajKumar-vf8zh]

More substance in your shows... Very Very Less Noise...

[@socorrinhatelles5602]

🎉🎉🎉 give her freedom .😂😂😂😂😂

[@msdev2718]

Barkha kab se apna soldiers ke baremein parva karne lag. Yeh tho jihadi supporter hai na.

[@deeptimukesh3252]

Your caption is to degrade the father of Martyr....he did say that but it is a prevailing custom in their community....it was not forced on her or compelled...it was one of the option he gave her and her parents...first was to get her married off as his own daughter to a person of her will.....why u didn't write that...

[@user-hf9xf6zh4o]

True, this is disappointing. All respect to his parents

[@violety_indigo52]

Baap keh raha thi ki Smriti ki shadi mujhse ho nahi sakte kyoki mai shadi suda hu. Devar bhi shadi shuda hai toh usse bhi nahi ho sakti. Tumhe kaisa lagta hai ki tumhara sasur tumhare liye aisa bole? Aur jab first video aya tha tab bol rahe tha ki bahu sab leke bhag gai ab bol rahe paisa waisa kuchh nahi bus medal chahiye.

[@user-cd7hd4fv5l]

@@deeptimukesh3252 So, if father- in - law speaks on prevailing custom, why he wants to change the other prevailing custom of giving monetary compensation to Daughter in law ? Double standard for extracting money .

[@jamieabraham7964]

And if the daughter in law of mrs girish get her daughter in law married then you dont have any problem but if anshumans father suggested and few options to consider then you went against it. Obviously there is a difference between the generation and anshumans parent suggest as per their situation. You are no less of a hypocrite. Social media is a place which forced you to come here and debate. Its not a sad place to be, its Online Indian democracy. And dont try to slightly twist the actual thing,

[@Imaginarysquad]

Mrs.Girish didn't suggest her daughter in law to marry her brother(brother-in-law)

[@jamieabraham7964]

@@Imaginarysquad kyu tu pooch ker ai kya

[@hummafarooq678]

Selfish parents but what they want to gain from their son's death. Secondly it is the choice of officer.

[@nyx.0484]

Well in this case the parents of the martyrs soldier asked her marry their younger son. And the parents did get alot of insurance money from his death. The father is also retired government officer so he is getting the pention already. The wife just took the pention and the medal which is righfully hers even if they were married for 5 months but they were together for 10 years before that. The soldier was not freaking child to name his NOK his wife. The parents are just greedy for money while I do understand that his was their son and it is a pain for life for them but it is the same for the wife. It's not like she will be able move on really quickly it will take her time and she will go through mental health problems during that. Let the wife be yaar. Parents ne ek do ansu kya gira diye ke log to against he ho gaye wife ke...

[@somakarmakar4262]

Er theke heinous proposal hoina

[@induchopra3014]

See income tax returns of both Divide money accordingly.

[@AbhishekSharma-gi6eg]

There should not be any pension once the women marry again

[@Saurabhkumar-gx2wu]

This could be considered, but outright denying should not be done

[@hamarepyareGuruji.]

ufff why do you guys come with half knowledge! It's already a rule ! From decades 😑 When they marry , The pension stops !

[@sharmiladevika]

@@hamarepyareGuruji. yes you are right…it’s already in place.

[@divm8559]

This is already a rule

[@violety_indigo52]

​@@hamarepyareGuruji. Rule however changed few years ago.

[@sajni2821]

Bullshit no-one can replace a mother, channel promoting that women who ran away as soon as her husband died

[@shubham-yj2iw]

Condemned this video bcoz anshuman's dad gave tht sentence just bcoz he knw the situation of widow in society...

[@arghadeepdas2004]

The thumbnail of this video is very misleading. Don't do these kind of fu*ked up thing just for views..... just because you have 1.68M subscribers. Can you say that we or any other citizen of this country is more responsible and honest with his words than a soldier. Anshuman's father was an ex army personnel. So, don't judge that person by the honesty of that person..... 'Marry our Son' was not the main concern of the whole story. The main concern is the 'Kirti Chakra' with which Smriti fled away. But no one in the society will question her just because she is a 26 year old woman. Stop biasing your thinking towards women. Not all woman are innocent especially women of this generation. So, stop defending her as if she did no blunder.

[@thethirtyplusmom634]

Army defended the young widow.

[@JustDesserts56]

The parents have shown their true selves. Accusations against their daughter-in-law are easy to make when she is keeping a dignified silence. The young widow must have a reason for not wanting to have anything to do with them.

[@Homosapiens0804]

@@thethirtyplusmom634 So army defended the widow, does it wash off the unjustified behaviour of the spouse? And thus the reason why even parents are more critical towards policy than there DIL, that’s why challenging NOK policy.

[@Homosapiens0804]

@@JustDesserts56 Even the parents were keeping dignified silence for past 1 year and even when facing ghosting from there DIL and her parents, there is definitely something bad going on. But this case is more towards Army Nok policy change by presenting there side of story, and the silence doesn’t always breed innocence, it also breeds strategic move against opponents especially when lot of things are in ones favour without even moving a finger.

[@JustDesserts56]

@@Homosapiens0804 None of us know what really happened behind closed doors. The family is obviously very patriarchal. The love marriage and the class differences between the two families must have not been easy to accept by the boy's parents. More importantly we are currently being subjected to the perspective of only one side.

[@somorendrooinam6526]

Non of bjp leaders son or daughter served in arm forces, when lost happens to common people family.

[@sanmis15]

How do you know antaryami maharaj ?

[@muhammadaquil2256]

A woman can find à New life partner but parents will never get their lost son or daughter 😢

[@Ak-bs5ox]

they have another son and daughter

[@Homosapiens0804]

@@Ak-bs5ox Sons and daughters are not replaceable, anushuman will be anshuman to the parents, and other sons and daughters will be there own individual self too their parents

[@violety_indigo52]

​@@Homosapiens0804 Wrong. No human is replaceable. She will get married but she won't get the same man who she married with.

[@meinhuekbadakida588]

shame on u barka bakra ... u r misquoting his statements

[@AparnaBL]

This is pathetic request from the guys parents.

[@belluga333]

Jb se 50 lacs aur mil gaye buddhe ko ab bolti band . Ab na chahiye medal waapis. Greedy ppl

[@sid1636]

It's very shameful that this daughter-in-law became so selfish and money minded that she left her aging in-laws with all the wealth that she'll amass due to her martyred husband. Absolutely disgusting lady 😢

[@Homosapiens0804]

Please try to not be so cold in opinion, not towards DIL and not even towards the soldiers parents.

[@user-cd7hd4fv5l]

@@sid1636 Daugher in law is not the one who is crying for more money, but parents- in- law do that. Parents in law got money. But they cry for more money, not for the dead son. So obviously disgusting are parents in law. Not daughter in law.