Marry someone you are attracted to - Roadblocks between you and Love - Benjamin Zulu

[@SwitchTVKenya]

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[@getrudealama2092]

This talk today is so true. I am a first born in my family and I take care of my parents and brother to the extent, I have been postponing progress in my life, i.e. getting married, further education. It hurts attimes.

[@msizimagaye9406]

Please allow that "download" option, so that one can save and watch anytime anywhere without data

[@dottyikiyait9220]

I can't get enough of Benjamin, I just want to listen to him for the whole day💞💞💞💞. Be blessed

[@hinyikiwilemithi4855]

Me too. I've been binge-watching his sessions all day

[@ivywanjala8804]

Benjamin Zulu is an "all-in-one" kind of person. He is full of Wisdom, quick-witted, Articulate, Convivial, Charming, Humorous, Realistic, uninhabited and God-fearing. Great!

[@kariminkoroi3752]

Perfect description. Couldn't have said it better

[@phylewaish457]

Am so lucky to watch this when am single taking notes not to make so many mistake ...love it

[@hanksmigibigsparks8505]

Nice your doing

[@judith7964]

I am always looking out for this guy. Full of wisdom.

[@King-Jack-ryan]

Very true

[@Miss_Greatness]

Benjamin episodes are my favs🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@joyceabdul9141]

They way I call my self to this show only God knows especially when Mr Benjamin is there yaay

[@rmmedia1810]

True me too

[@kikiannette-]

True

[@spitfire3267]

I love the way he says "My woman"

[@ChristineCheryl1]

100% True about insecure person.....Pray that you never meet this kind of a person because your day get ruined exactly at 8am plus holding you back from achieving a lot in life.I thank God am over it now.

[@florahjohn2980]

When i see Benjamin i press play ✅

[@justmo6896]

So do I!! 😂

[@trudytriad4574]

Mimi pia! 😁

[@njokinjuguna6388]

Tuko wengi

[@workinprogress6282]

Same here...

[@tandiesthandy7528]

I'll comment when Benjamin done 👂👂👂 It's good to be here ..🤞 represent🇿🇦

[@sihledlamini3563]

🤗

[@sphesihlengema8434]

Yaaaaasss

[@christinaradebe4487]

Yes we here #South Africa 🇿🇦

[@christinaradebe4487]

Register ✅ Yes m here 😊😊😊 to fead my self ,go out there and make good decisions 😊😊😊

[@hinyikiwilemithi4855]

Yaas🇿🇦

[@winniemartine7716]

This Benjamin Guy is so full of wisdom

[@suziewanjiku6379]

The way he laughs at the shorter guy part thou 🤣 🤣 🤣 you are teaching us alot mr Zulu

[@kahundesylivia910]

My favourite show and my mentors love fm 🇺🇬🇺🇬

[@balancedviewpoint7418]

Benjamin you have away of bringing out wisdom to the love zone as it is. On this one I give you 8/10 big time. Great coaching phenomenon on this. Kudos

[@Dota_Of_Christ2000]

my fellow youtubers you cant allow this daughter to comment first anyway i love all who listen to Benjamin we will never regret

[@mrsrdrgz]

Benjamin's words of wisdom hits me like a bullet. 😅

[@ryankamau6348]

Control is a reverse form of fear 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@mercynzilani4238]

This guy is definitely a blessing ❤️❤️🤗

[@felazany]

There's nothing like the ONE. It is a symptom of ONEitis... There are so many better things to do than to be in a relationship. Develop yourself, invest your time well to make wealth. Chase excellence, not people.

[@rhodahj7121]

True the right one will find you,,,

[@diplomatdiplomat2800]

You are right about focusing on excellence instead of obsessing about relationships. But you also need other people because good relationships are beneficial . Develop a strategy to befriend, network or collaborate with good people who are excelling in different areas of life. In other words, build relationships with purpose. Also consider building a relationship with God. Are you aware that Jesus Christ loves you very much and deeply cares about you and you need Him? Please give Jesus a chance to love you unconditionally as your Lord and personal Saviour❤️

[@felazany]

@@diplomatdiplomat2800 What are you talking about?

[@sharon2717]

@@felazany I think she means Interdependence > Independence

[@brendabrii]

Just saw there's a new Zulu video and I couldn't click fast enough 😂😂😁

[@rmmedia1810]

Me too

[@Raquel-sx8fk]

I’m listening from NYC and I really love listening to Benjamin’s advice.

[@teresai1877]

So true, good advice!

[@anastaciambelete4048]

Benjamin thank you for the encouraging words I am healing and I have just released them and the pain ain't easy but I am not comfortable and happy with the feeling I want to be happy and free to be loved and enjoy

[@rodneyolimba]

man, your English is dope, you've got information as well.

[@enrietanyongesa8322]

My first stop every morning when i get to the office..ive learnt alot from you guys..Thank you....

[@n.judith4211]

awww have known benjamin for now three months i guess i learnt him from here on youtube ..... i love his advise go on

[@edwinbartonjo8686]

Be blessed Benjamin Zulu, am really learning a lot and widening

[@emmakaruri9267]

Full circle is now an addiction to me,,,, I even find myself not noticing a customer.Why didn't I get to know you earlier???

[@jazirahjey]

Joyce and benjamen we love u guys .. watching from abudhabi🍓🍓🍓🍉🍉

[@innocentjulie8400]

I have a lot of things that's can't be typed,,, I belive with time I will get answers,,, Zulu you such a blessing

[@aggieouma7024]

Finally first to view and comment 💃💃🇱🇧🇱🇧🇰🇪🇰🇪

[@Eweno_Media]

WATCH FUNNY [e-mail]...

[@fadzaichikukure2089]

I love Kenya good job guys

[@soobinneful]

@@fadzaichikukure2089 We love you too

[@veronicamahlaba6543]

Karibu from South Africa and Asante Benjamin and Joyce!!!

[@soobinneful]

Asante sana na tunakukaribisha tena. I want to visit South Africa one day.

[@trudytriad4574]

@@soobinneful Je! Njoo! Utaifurahia. ❤

[@antojacy1345]

wow, thanks guys for this advice, cz I really have got a lot today

[@Mindful_Mm]

Dating a first born guy whose mother is too possessive, it's a predisposition to develop a heart attack earlier...

[@miminiss5145]

Wololo 🥳

[@beverlychelanga4773]

I second this.been there a death sentence!!

[@kmags8065]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 heart attack 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 but u hve a point

[@justmo6896]

Always wants to listen to you Zulu👏👍love him on the show❤

[@Trishb454]

We need this truth , Benjamin u are a great coach! We need this kind of sanity in Malawi. Joyce, Mzuri Sana👌😘

[@lydiabukachi5246]

Benjamin!! I love listening to you, learning all the way

[@annamayyy9771]

There's nothing more irritating than people asking you out in December. Even the ones you don't want gain courage 🙆‍♀️

[@lavenderflowers1075]

😂😂

[@one_cityatatime]

Had a friend who we were so compatible, we had so much chemistry. We would go for hours talking, we sometimes even go out. But he told me not to get emotionally attached coz he had a girlfriend. I have never met his girlfriend or heard her call all this while so I thought he wasn't being honest. We kissed a few times and as time went by I got emotionally attached. When he realised I was now attached that's when the girlfriend would come by. We had a big fight, now he doesn't want to talk to me. I tried apologizing but all in vein. I know I need to let go, but it hurts

[@missjenn6861]

Even if the person you are dating has the best character in the world, make sure you are physically attracted to the person, make sure they have the looks you are looking for. Don’t let anyone lie to you that looks are not important. They are extremely important.. If you are not physically attracted to each other, you’ll loose affection in the marriage. If someone had told me before, I wouldn’t have married my husband. Now I don’t know how to get out.

[@pasilisajerono7409]

Thank you Benjamin and Joyce for your advice.

[@ntongoasha4788]

Mr Zulu you opened my eyes right now am 23 but leaning so many things in your shows l think in my 30 iwill be successful in relationship but let me focus on my goals much love from 🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬

[@semolematjila9662]

Taking notes as usual🔥😝

[@janemkade3488]

Waaaaa.. Benjamin has spoken to me today 😂😂😂😂 Coz sometimes u don't know where to start solving the burden u carry. Soooooo sad I just wanna live my life, not fixing wot my parents didn't do.

[@tarirohungwe4971]

When you are 23 then he comes for the 23 year olds 😂😂😂😂😂

[@julzlebi3305]

Your comment just got exactly 23 likes 😏

[@labanmureithi8029]

14.42 very important. This is a wise man!

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

You are right. I have also said I would prefer a man who is taller than me even when i wear heels cos i dont feel comfortable to look down on him at any time and then I was accused of being "superficial". 🤔

[@labanmureithi8029]

@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 He says it won't matter if you guys click but then also if you're embarrassed by how they look, just don't do it in the first place.

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

@@labanmureithi8029 I also believe the same this is why I only like to date tall, hansome guys but I'm told I'm being superficial and arrogant. I said ok, and those who are dating short, fat guys and men old enough to be their grandfathers should I start calling them gold-diggers, since I'm being given names for my own choice ?

[@labanmureithi8029]

@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 I guess in the end what matters most is what turns you on. Or what gets you going. I've seen ladies who like the opposite of what you do... With their own reasons ofcourse. To me it matters that you are first attracted to the person you want to be with - at first sight if possible. There has to be that attraction before anything else. So you are right to like what you like... And to express it. Most people have no idea what they like.

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

@@labanmureithi8029 So true and Mr Zulu really does tell it like it is. I am glad his show is in English otherwise I would be lost cos I dont understand Swahili but I think I should learn so that I can watch the other shows on Switch TV. It's my favourite channel at the moment 🙂

[@micryn3900]

What type of psychology did this man go for

[@bellaolum9768]

Why?

[@clare_jordin]

That moment when Joyce's help backfired hahaha

[@PiusNgilaTV]

Growth is a choice and love is not charity you cant donate love

[@elizabethmumbua6091]

Where Benjamin is lazima nifike...

[@trudytriad4574]

Mimi pia!☝🏽☝🏽🙋🏽‍♀️

[@ikowapi1342]

Thanks Benjamin... looking forward to meet my soulmate

[@MrZim263]

If Jesus was walking the earth today, Benjamin Zulu would be one of the disciples...

[@janemkade3488]

Ololoooo help me clap for Ben in amillion claps 👏👏👏👏👏👏. Peperuuuusha peperuuuusha weka flowers 🌺🌺🌺 receive. Such afire 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 powerhouse Indeed

[@carolgitaka5885]

Growth is a journey and he/she can choose to quit.😘thanks

[@christinenamatovu1984]

I came here in a joky way but this man speaks sense

[@CookingwithMagie]

I’m first again 😁😊 #notificationGang

[@ShiaGirl18]

Benjamin looks dapper in his suit.

[@remnant.watchman]

In regard to what you said about disregarding your parents wishes, I would quote the bible: "Honor thy father and mother: that thy days may be long in the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee," Exodus 20:12. This is a promise that God will surely fulfill to the obedient. No true Christian will marry without due consideration for his parent's wishes.

[@mutemijoseph9523]

I love the part where Zulu said people to avoid too much toxic media and Joyce said tell them🤣🤣

[@caromukulu8213]

Difference btn small beginning and a stuck brother

[@brendahemelia8466]

I love the part where you said to normalize help. That's something we need to start doing.

[@janewangui7663]

Encouraging words thanx my mentor Ben 🙌🙌🙌

[@ookovelma1719]

Love is a dance 😍😍😍too much wisdom Lol

[@haddassahmetrine4776]

Amazing my mind has opened up

[@dashb9053]

Does anyone have details on the live coaching Zulu is doing and the programs he's mentioned? Insightful talks as always

[@bernicemunene7946]

I think he was talking about this kzbin.info/www/bejne/iH65XoNofqqXqrc It is in his KZbin channel

[@dashb9053]

@@bernicemunene7946 thank you for this

[@King-Jack-ryan]

For sure I feel to learn more because am down to reach here waah first niko na uwoga mkubwa am single mom but when I think to love again I start thinking how it will go am afraid of what my family will say when the man live me again gosh

[@nemashow4393]

Just have faith you'll overcome eventually

[@husnakh5136]

Benjamin talks sense 👌👌👌

[@HappyHealedRelationships]

Benjamin literally made my day!😂😂😂

[@rhodahj7121]

Benjamin and Joyce im listening

[@oluwaseunodunsi8142]

But when you let go of the fear and start trying to be vulnerable or develop feelings for someone who shows interest and he suddenly goes quiet or claims to be really busy after the first date, how do you prevent the fear and being emotionally closed in from coming back, especially when he begins to send his messages in a very official manner that is when he has time to send you one e.g thank you for checking on me. I appreciate your kind gesture.

[@gaucholemaestro]

Dont open up too fast when you start to date, try to read him and get to him first before you open up. Most people who open up quickly do not get to learn who their partner is first and when you open to him, he doesn’t know how to ha dle and closes off. Pole

[@jenniferlabruzzo3922]

14:38 , its true, we can't get away from attraction- it has to be there

[@davidwahome2434]

This guy talks in a very funny way

[@bellaolum9768]

We all have different talking styles

[@confidenceoparaocha4226]

The 1st point he expresses is just me😰🙆‍♀️

[@irenemercy8070]

Zulu Zulu Zulu how many times have i called you?hahahahaahah

[@jaysscorner1345]

Benjamin Zulu is a wise man 🔥

[@theknowledgejunkie616]

Love from Nigeria😍

[@soobinneful]

Karibu sana.

[@kusiimacarolyne1463]

Thanx for this great .message Benjamin

[@maryowino9403]

Hi link me up with the 45 responsible single man you mentioned. I have gotten out of fear and caŕrying people n family burden. You just talked about me today.

[@zackmatere]

That's brave let's talk asap

[@maryowino9403]

@@zackmatere true let's talk

[@maryowino9403]

Great.link up @ FB mary owino( worked at icap)

[@setshoaneletlhogonolo1511]

Amen to Benjamin Zulu

[@Nakitende256]

Is Benjamin still a guest ....

[@Kalizzy21]

What would you want him to be? 🤣🤣

[@gathenyakamau3444]

I know what you mean 😏😅.

[@hlobsiledlamini2676]

😂😂😂😂definitely not

[@penninahthegrace3036]

I learned something 👌

[@asanethjebiwott3655]

Weuuuuhh .......benjamin is blowing 🔥

[@MohamedHassan-yo7rt]

Am here after she exit this show today...who else??

[@cvzdez]

I don't mind same hight as me

[@joypeacewisdom]

Your partner will come to meet your NEED, not your GREED... your greed is insatiable. Wow.

[@Susan_C]

🇿🇼 here

[@macmc5036]

Asante Sana representing 🇿🇼🇿🇼

[@soobinneful]

Twa kukaribisha kabisi. Asanteni sana

[@macmc5036]

Thanks now I have a better picture

[@marluma]

At 30:40 joyce amesema "you can't do missionary dating.." 😂😂😂😂😂 Yaani Akili iko kwa doshi.. Joyce yaaawa

[@waniksh7600]

Irrational life shattering decisions 🤣🤣🤣👌

[@ZoeyAllure]

please just please...enable your downloads...pleeeaaasssee

[@dianaletasi3390]

Yeap fo sure

[@dianahvuyanzi1600]

Bishop benjamin hi with joyce🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@samray998]

What if someone you are not attracted to.. can the attraction come after?

[@carolwambua5250]

Ouch Benjamin do you know me🤔🤔leo you totally talked sana about me.but thanks cz ningeloose so much

[@khangelwakhathi508]

What does the word 'sana' mean? I'm trying to learn swahili by watching this show.

[@avivkinyanjui437]

@@khangelwakhathi508 it means "a lot"

[@carolwambua5250]

@@khangelwakhathi508 it means alot or so much

[@gracemwangi9417]

Na wenye hawapati Wa kuwapenda?what about this?

[@risperladee5718]

Kwa hivyo.. Bila pesa hakuna marriage.

[@bellaolum9768]

Of course! You need rent, food, transport and other things

[@jenipherachieng9837]

Today am so confused 🙆.

[@afrisizebylinda8476]

Haha

[@diplomatdiplomat2800]

But what are confused? Have you tried to figure out the cause? Eat some food and go to bed early so you can sleep for a longer period. A good sleep is very helpful. If you are feeling sick, please talk to a doctor. Have you considered talking to Jesus about it? Jesus Christ loves you very much and deeply cares about you and you need Him. Please give Jesus a chance to love you unconditionally as your Lord and personal Saviour ❤️

[@timfavour9438]

Awesome

[@BritBoundDiaries]

24:27 😂 huyu Alehandro anasumbua watu wetu sana

[@afrisizebylinda8476]

Hehe

[@liliannasengo7369]

Bt why z ladies with gud heart n focused normally meet wrong confused men for sure

[@luciechihandae9280]

I wish I knew that answer

[@spitfire3267]

It baffles me too

[@paradisedelicasieske]

Opposite attracts. Their goodness can be driven by norms or rebellion. They tend to want experiences that they were limited and the wildness of bad guy attracts them

[@AfricanInvestor254]

Bad boys ran after them quickly

[@sarahjustice526]

We good women always want to help the bad men and change them but we don’t realize we cannot change bad men