How ANYONE can learn to be more dominant

[@MrXTeKkNo]

WRITE A DAMN BOOK MAKE SOME PASSIVE INCOME YOU DESERVE IT

[@johnevans6053]

I was just getting ready to tell her to write a book also. I don't know what her background is, but it is obvious she is wise beyond her years.

[@Thadon33]

Agreed with everything posted above. She’s very wise and her heart is in the right place wanted to help men. I’d certainly grab a copy of that book 📖

[@soaringeagle5227]

@@mynonleatherlife please do write a book or create an online program.

[@ianhinson2829]

No one reads books these days. They watch KZbin videos.

[@ianhinson2829]

@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus Idiocracy isn't really a word. Even if it did exist it would mean government by idiots. The correct word is idiocy. Speaking of idiocy, what's the rest of your comment supposed to mean? Nothing that I said complained about her videos not being "how-to" enough. You made that up.

[@wstan1410]

She's gonna have 10k subscribers by the end of the month. I don't understand why the algorithm finally blessed us but it was long overdue. Do your thing Sweetheart.

[@MrXTeKkNo]

she needs some editing and a book and she will be set bro

[@jyranechjm5766]

I'm from the future, I'm here to tell you that you're a prophet. Everything you said came true.

[@ishmealoj]

12k now, lets give it 30/50k by march

[@Zaysoto]

Currently 31k 😎

[@jrosales976]

@@jyranechjm5766 😂

[@GoldGn111]

You might not b a dating coach but your advice is better than theirs .

[@wingnutmcspazatron3957]

For real.

[@cbraat27]

Victoria: When I was a stripper... Me: *spits out drink*

[@mynonleatherlife]

lol!!!

[@xthindiesel166]

Facts 😂

[@gr_egg]

@@johnnyparsnips7641 psychos are almost always emotionally abusive tho

[@gr_egg]

@@johnnyparsnips7641 you gotta be a broken man to want a broken girl

[@gr_egg]

@@johnnyparsnips7641 get laid

[@jurgenchristiansen6075]

Women don’t admit anything like this because they don’t want to appear weak and submissive. Men have to be confident enough to approach them. Thank you for admitting the truth girl, it really helps build men‘s confidence. 👍

[@thatguyinthecomments8921]

I think is part of the kink, is a congruence test

[@petroglyph79]

Yeah but men have to overcome womens facade of strength when they dont want be feminine.

[@jurgenchristiansen6075]

@@petroglyph79 amen

[@andjelkovicjasmin2954]

That's not the entire truth. feminism tells women and girls that being submissive and feminine is weak and bad and because of that and because the fear to be judged as a slut, women and girls hide her slutty side. feminism was invented by "men" to destroy other men. Guess who that men are. You have no clue! who and what THEY are. A feminine woman is a strong woman, a feministic "woman" is NOT! a woman. A feminine girl is a strong girl, a feministic girl is NOT! Videos such as these don't build your confidence, the heroes journey build self-esteem, confidence and the trust in your abilities. You can watch as many videos from her as you want, they and she will NOT only not make you a man, she and they will NEVER make you a man. Knowing what women and girls NEED is not enough, you must become a man. If you wanna dive deep into the mysteries of the REAL WORLD and breakout of the matrix, you need Orlando Owen as your mentor. Only men can initiate men, but men can initiate women, but women can not initiate men, this is not just a opinion, that's one of natures laws! Welcome to my world, the world of the hardcore alphas.

[@georgeelder8415]

Once this has occurred, it's transformative....

[@iAM80tv]

I Never never never listen to a Woman about Relationship Advice But for you i made an Exception ...You really Talking!!

[@antoine7828]

If you have relationships with women you should listen to them about relationships lol .

[@gr_egg]

@@antoine7828 whatever women say they want, just do the exact opposite

[@wingnutmcspazatron3957]

If you'd like another good one for a refreshing take, JessicaJ is very honest too. I even bought into her online course, worth every penny.

[@andjelkovicjasmin2954]

@@antoine7828 Yep, I agree.

[@cuts240]

Female Advice is nonsense

[@gd8205]

This is refreshing. After divorce from a 15 year vanilla marriage, the first three women I was with, to my absolute surprise, wanted to be dominated. They patiently taught me and I picked it up, getting better and better. It didn’t come naturally but now I can’t control myself in those sexual moments where I take total control. And the feedback has been glowing. Thanks for bringing light to this and I have subscribed to listen to your reminders that I need to never relapse to vanillaism lol

[@gd8205]

@@mynonleatherlife I felt a huge increase in confidence. And it snowballed...it led me to self improvement, watching videos from awesome people like you, books, courses. I’m a sponge. The culmination of experience, pushing the envelope and experimenting with dominance and the various forms of knowledge like your messages just push me further in being comfortable and confident in my masculinity. In these times it’s easy to lose that. I feel exploring my masculinity leads to amazing experiences. Hearing your perspective of this is awesome because most girls aren’t as vocal on explaining how this makes them feel like you have. I mean I know they feel it. But hearing it from a woman is great to hear after the investment I’ve put into myself as being a genuine masculine guy.

[@gd8205]

@@mynonleatherlife oh. I also discovered I love being called daddy by a younger girl lol

[@murphsviews]

Awesome stuff man, death to vanilla! 💪

[@lucajack007]

Can someone help me what Is a Vanilla marriage ?!

[@satoshinakamoto7253]

read the unplugged alpha by rich cooper.

[@עודאחד]

Gold . I love the way you express yourself honestly

[@brennendehexe7934]

It is risky actually. The more I like it. Like any taboo. I think that feminism and pc-culture is trying to make us believe that there are no differences between man and woman. From my own dating experience I can say that I have met radical feminists who liked to be dominated. But their view is that they have been brainwashed by patriarchy to have obedient fantasies. I dont roll with chicks like that anymore bc they will always switch from wanting their sexual desires fulfilled to blaming you for being a macho for having the same likings. And in times of metoo that is very risky. So thanks for your videos honey.

[@ideasandtrucking]

100 percent same I appreciate u!!

[@ChaosTitties]

What font is that?

[@gapy18]

Funny thing, just because i am a more introverted type of person all people think I am shy. But it's not the same, I have the confidence to make eye contact with girls and talk to them.

[@JourneyMN]

I don’t know how a channel with only 7k subs came into my feed but I’m glad it did. Thank you for your content.

[@taylorbee4010]

Men today are told not to be dominant and are punished for being so. But we also suffer from not being dominant.

[@deondreabrown]

I love how you keep it 1,000. MOST women don’t have the nuts to say what you say, and you say what you say with no fear.

[@jonathanleal399]

@@mynonleatherlife Alright so I know the guy you meant to respond didn’t respond, but hell here’s my opinion. Your other videos i’ve watched I can agree with most things you talk about including this video. And other videos you’ve talked about feeling the different feminine and masculine energy/vibes, but still being aware their the opposite sex. Is crazy to me because in a way that’s how I see you we have very similar thoughts, ideas, and things we agree on, but yet I still am aware

[@jonathanleal399]

@@mynonleatherlife **That your the opposite sex like Where similar in mentality, but. we sense eachother different sex energy masculinity/femininity, but anyways 😂 just found it crazy, and we’ll keep it up like that manz said up there ^ I like that you just keep it 💯

[@randywhite2154]

I don't know if I completely agree with th comment about video quality and structure. If you were in a highly polished background with degrees hanging all over the walls, I for one would not be any more impressed by you. You are truly gifted. I see it without 4K resolution!. Your brilliance will see your channel gain millions of views. Take all you are worth with pride and joy. So far, you are already a superstar! Keep being you, loving what you do. Please.

[@Thenoobestgirl]

I agree with Randy. A better camera, a nice background and a better light setup will go a long way in attracting more viewers.

[@ideasandtrucking]

This channel is literally a GUIDE to female nature

[@ryano7220]

This is a really informative video and very articulate. From my experience, the key to successful domination (not just sexual) is understanding what your partner wants and needs, then providing this assertively and proactively.

[@Hugex97]

Guys, just do this. Whenever I talk to my Chad friends they say the same: "I don´t undestand how women like it". Don´t be abusive, be sexy, kinky and dominant. You and her are going to enjoy much more

[@marcusnielson5487]

It's hard for some to see the difference between dominant and abusive

[@king_supreme1102]

Yeah I agree with Marcus. For me personally, once I believe deep down that something isn’t right then it’s really hard for me to feel any other way about it. I just can’t wrap my head around how women like to be dominated. Why do they want to feel used. At the same time I know exactly why, but I just can’t get my mind to believe that it’s true if that makes sense. To me being dominant feels like I’m abusive, and I don’t want to feel like I’m abusive.

[@tgreg1103]

@@king_supreme1102 you and me both

[@gottabecajuste]

@@marcusnielson5487 by poopo

[@lucasrodrigues9766]

@@king_supreme1102 maybe you are actually submissive

[@agr8fulson]

one analogy that might resonate with the more nerdy demographic or the core audience for this kind of content (like me!) is a video game analogy. when guys play certain video games, i believe they are tapping into a deeply rooted, primal warrior spirit that is intense and powerful and incredibly arousing/satisfying to men. tap it; drop the remote and take that straight to her!

[@mynonleatherlife]

That’s really interesting... I really like that

[@CellGames2006]

They also like to play as the female heroine a lot, sort of fulfilling that voyeurist kink by being able to watch a hot woman all the time without guilt of appearing a pervert. And getting the admiration that a woman would be getting and being able to experience the admiration they get...

[@_Trakman]

This is super helpful. Honestly you helping creates a win-win for men AND women.

[@shubkale376]

The KZbin algorithm is on your side , and your content is on point.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Yea I know I’ve wondered if some young guy at KZbin struggling with women, watched my vid liked it and helped me out or something, and thanks

[@elektriceye]

This was a badass video. I think smart guys struggle with women the most. But this flips the script. Men, be more dominant. Be a gentleman, be polite, but be empowered, it drives the ladies crazy.

[@formallyknownasjojoemc3174]

You mention dominance and the first thing I think of is how much I hear testosterone levels in men are down and are getting lower and lower with each passing generation.

[@bezimienny5149]

Thats why modern women are so angry all the time

[@crystalous]

@@bezimienny5149 Is it the case or is it caused by the angry women?

[@bezimienny5149]

@@crystalous it's a case. Women are frustrated because they can't find stronger and dominant man. Some of them can, but there are not enough man like this for every woman. The cause is mainly that man today spent the majority of his life in sitting position which makes or bodies weak. Weak bodies leads to low confidence and thus weak mind. It's simplification but I know you will understand this. Women hate weak man.

[@crystalous]

@@bezimienny5149 the owner of the channel cannot accept my Truth and deletes my comments!!!!

[@murphsviews]

A lot of additives and hormones and so-on in foods these days also have a strongly testosterone reducing effect. Probably on purpose. The less testosterone guys have the less guys will end up in jail and committing serious violent crimes etc.

[@thaboshikwambane]

The core thing is to do the psychological work required to be truly dominant. That’s the difference there between the chef and the cook. You can follow recipes and you might make a few good meals but you’re not a chef. You’re a cook that follows recipes. If the usual ingredients aren’t there, you’re stuck

[@derNachbar97]

This might be the number one chanel on advice for men about women. Deadass. No pick-up, none of that red pill stuff, nothing. If you manage to just up your video quality and give it more of a structure, this channel will blow up. More then it does already ^^

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thanks Thomas. I appreciate that compliment very much. Ur right about the video quality and better structure.

[@TheBlanco951]

FINALLY A CHICK I CAN ACTUALLY LISTEN TO. I love your brutal honesty. It's pretty metal of you.

[@SunSurfer-ws7vk]

I just know your white because only white people say shit like "pretty metal of you"

[@mrrjh5609]

7:25 “She will love it!” 😂😂 I subbed you’re great

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thanks a lot for subscribing Mabel X

[@Far7anR]

The Fearless Man, as in Brian Begin? Oooh I love that you two connected, I love the both of you, and seeing you both connect makes me feel like things are coming together and and unifying to a common understanding.

[@Pyraus]

Wow congrats on the collab w Fearless Man! Great group of guys.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thanks a lot. I totally agree that they are great. I was extremely impressed tbh.

[@kwokone]

have watched so many guru's PUA masters etc etc but NONE of them can match your info !!! very much appreciated for sharing your insightful thoughts and ideas very very very helpful

[@dtingleff]

When a guy feels most aggressive toward a girl is probably when she's indifferent to him. He wants action, but unfortunately she's uninterested. So his desire gets angry. This is when he would naturally want to dominate. However, once a girl accepts him, that's when he feels calm... even nurturing. It's a paradox for the woman's fantasy. He has no reason to be dominant if the only reason to do so is that she's asking him to "act that way"... which might even mean he's being obedient.

[@dtingleff]

@NagolbudThis video (if I remember right) is about being dominant over the woman you're having sex with. On the other hand, regarding what you said, I agree with you. If a woman likes me and desires me, I would feel soft and nurturing toward HER. The environment is a different story. We might be on the same page. It's these guys who are into BDSM that I tend to disagree with. They want to act out a fairytale with their girlfriend/wife where they pretend to be dominating her even though they love her.

[@Adrian-xu3xi]

This women taught me a lot in a hour lmao

[@daitsy2476]

I remember one time I got more aggressive than I've ever been right before I came and the way she acted when I did that surprised her so much she was actually vocal and couldn't believe a guy actually did what I did. Doing that and seeing how happily surprised she was about it changed everything for me.

[@mynonleatherlife]

what caused u to get more aggressive that initial time

[@daitsy2476]

@@mynonleatherlife well usually I'm not that aggressive at all but I was almost done and she suddenly stopped and something in me took over in a primal way and I couldn't help myself just in the heat of the moment lol

[@jselectronics8215]

@@daitsy2476 Well, we're waiting....

[@alexsanchez3635]

Finally some Really Sane Advice

[@RelaxationRefugium]

Thank you for your videos Victoria. It is very rare that you have this topics addressed by a woman.

[@adrienne4934]

How to be more dominant 101: “I am a God of war. I don’t care if we talk or fight.” And damned well mean it.

[@adrienne4934]

@@mynonleatherlife a Comanche warrior from the 1800’s said this. Not my own thought but I live by it.

[@everydaydre1185]

@@mynonleatherlife did I have a leather life

[@colinogorman8279]

I like it

[@Go4Yourz]

What’s does this mean? I’m not sure.

[@VegasD702]

You are the best coach male or female on yt hands down...

[@matasuki]

Basically get Sterling's course. After just listening to the guy on Fresh and Fit. Every vide seems like you are dropping a gem. That segment about the nerds, chiwawas and lazy Chads is the kind of thing I have never heard before.

[@kayswayofflow8064]

This channel is very valuable. You really explain female nature in a way I’ve never heard it before but my mind is in 💯 agreement with what you are saying. Keep doing your thing and blessing us with this gold.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thank you Kayode!!!

[@SuspiriaX]

"Man up!" this has never helped me before. No women who said this has ever tought me something with it. They just say it, it makes me feel bad, nobody wins. Relinquish all judgment. Reject but don't judge.

[@ryu7408]

I myself am very nice in nature. But I can protect anyone in any situation if danger is crossing the path. I got both sides I guess. I know there is this "nice guy" label but I choose it because I respect and love every being. I hope all the nicenenessness revolutionizes and defeats the rudenessness. But I think I'm swirling off the topic. I just experienced a sexual abusive trauma at six years old and 20 years following of mobbing. Now nobody wants to mess with me. Because I found the link of being nice and at the same time being alpha over Bullies and Machos. Hell even the really dangerous one's would be teached a lesson in manners if they mess with me. Felt like sharing my story. Love and respect 🙂🙏 PS to your subject: I wasn't born with it. I had to go through suffering to learn to be dominant. But I want to be gentle as well.

[@marcusnielson5487]

This is the struggle I have

[@ryu7408]

@@marcusnielson5487 stay strong. If you want to keep in touch just reply. I'm just being of help if someone needs or wants it.

[@marcusnielson5487]

@@ryu7408 thanks. What I know it boils down to is self confidence - something that I have struggled with my whole life. So I feel a huge sense of dispair with this whole subject.

[@ryu7408]

@@marcusnielson5487 do you have Facebook messenger or something like that? If you like some strategies to deal with your struggle I am happy to help. I experienced trauma and bullying first hand. Feel free to think about it. If you choose to seek my presence with your struggle I'm ready 🙂. Love and respect ❤️

[@marcusnielson5487]

@@ryu7408 yep. Same name

[@whoismysterionguy]

Ok... After now watching some of your clips with wonder, iv got built on to intu what i just wittnessed. It comes down to the beauty of raw power and the way it moves and animates... From a 1st glace tapping into honesty in such a practical manner is work of a Genius ... without getting too far in praises, on the other hand, is nature doing its dance, business as usual. Humanity has so many scars we all secretly sense it. The propotion of the catalyst your project offers is monstrous. In an age of deceptive separation, this is the sort of revolution that is writing history. I wish to yoa and all to enjoy this symphony of healing and thus truly get into the dance we are instrumenting

[@jayplay9621]

You should add an affiliate link for the program your speaking about. That way it helps you, your audience, and sterling. Win. Win. Win.

[@user-ef9gv1zj2h]

Guys I’m 25 & autistic & danced with a lovely 45 yr old brunette tonight… I’m literally socially impaired & naturally pulled it off… hmu if you want the tips we all deserve some love

[@user-ef9gv1zj2h]

I’ll teach everything from proper eye contact to how to read women’s behaviors to smiling correctly to correct dialogue… Steps 1. Learn to soft smile. THIS might be the most overlooked trick… it’ll make you appear approachable & up-beat positive energy to girls 2. Never share too much… a good conversation is ALWAYS a give… and a take… 3. Start with small wins, & build. Small bits of dialogue, maybe a compliment, then move on. If the situation comes back, dialogue slightly more, then slightly more… don’t be afraid to NOT reply to something a girl says. It’s a power move 4. Don’t force something or anything if you get that gut sense. Ur gut sense is trying to protect you… learn to psychologically see the situation differently 5. Learn to compliment with detail… like clothing items, painted nails, hair, smiles… 6. Learn to compliment with verbal variety… don’t throw the same lines over again & then run out! Use the same lines over again with different words.. for example: “i LOVE your smile!” & “your smile is killing me” are the same line with different words… 7. It’s okay to be vulnerable with girls, but don’t show it INITIALLY, & like tip #1 don’t give away too much, less is more

[@mynonleatherlife]

great tips william

[@bla2220]

In defensive men. We have been trained since we hit puberty that we cannot just take our woman. Even if that woman is our wife. We are trained to basically tiptoe around sex until we're in the bedroom with women. And a lot of women will not even discuss it outside of the bedroom. This is why I firmly believe and appreciate when a woman will be open and honest about her wants. And it has gotten worse for men since the me too movement now men are being more trepidation concerning women and living out fantasies.

[@fisher7636]

Very intuitive and such a soothing voice as well. Nice to listen to at the office. Thank you girlie.

[@maxedgardogarcia]

This lady is the translator we needed from the femenine mind to brothink

[@TheFearlessMan]

It was an awesome convo!!

[@mynonleatherlife]

It really was!! The fearless men are awesome. So much fun. Thanks for having me.

[@mg43472]

Thanks mom for making me a sensitive guy.. this totally goes against the grain of what I always was taught about women.. To realize that women want sex.. and want it hard and kinky and to be dominated.. I can do that.. (if I was to get that chance these Covid days). Men want sex.. women want romance and hugging etc.. so wrong.. I have been following a therapist that suggests that men have been tamped down in their desires and taught toxic shame.. Its a really hard barrier to break thru. I used to be more care free about it and I was a whole lot more successful. As I get older I don't want to sleep with every girl but do hesitate to approach woman I find desirable sometimes fearing they would find it obvious that I just want to jump them.. They want you to approach and want you to succeed. Still sorting it all out.. a total rewrite.. Thanks for the videos!

[@SteveWKk]

Moms.......movies......tv.......the school system....... They all suck the masculine out of us..

[@abdelrahmanali7139]

I love that you don't put any makeup

[@ungabunga6735]

How have I not seen this channel sooner? So much great info. Thanks for making these videos

[@LongblackExtrashot]

So helpful, I really like how you explain what you mean and are not ambiguous but clear, detailed and precise. I also appreciate you breaking down stirlings course

[@mrrjh5609]

7:16 “ I hate puns but I think I just made one” 😂😂😂

[@JuanCruz-yi9gy]

Looking forward to your q&a with fearless man.... plus I already read the book you recommend it’s called mode 1, it definitely upscaled my inner game a little much more. Really good book. Thanks for what your doing.

[@jaamaan123]

You make your points very accessible. Nice one !

[@JimKittell6486]

Victoria, you're incredible!. You're filling in so many holes in my little mind. I'm a widower, so haven't dated in a VERY long time, hence I've been watching videos for several months, more than 6 hr/day (I'm retired). Whichever header/title peaked my interest, I'd watch, rarely the same channel more than 3 - 4 times/day. I've been watching yours EXCLUSIVELY since I found you several days ago. 😸 I'm learning sssoooooo much about women , , , I just can't describe it, other than thank you. --and I thought I understood.😲 btw: you said something about being anxious. You're human, and this shows it, thanks. Not some polished, rehearsed, talking head, but human. On anxiety, I don't know how, but rather than fighting it, I use it to energize myself. Sum: obviously being human validates your video.

[@annother9520]

Great videos. But a problem: Everything you propose is at odds with the framework set up by modern (and indeed, the original) feminism. If a man is dominant, satisfying taboo fantasies, it gives the woman the option to enjoy it OR if, she alternately decides (at any future date), to use it to destroy the man by claiming it constituted sexual abuse. If the man is a truthful person, and doesn't lie about his dominant behaviours, it will incriminate him according to the modern definition of abuse. Kamala Harris slept with Willie Brown: mentioning this was related to her progress would be slut shaming and wrong, according to feminist rules. However, if she subsequently decides that she didn't benefit sufficiently, she instead can turn on the man and have him disposed of for his abusive behaviour of a vulnerable junior. If women (subconciously or otherwise) want partners more dominant and capable than them, then it is mathematically impossible (literally) if women themsleves also want to consitute half of the leadership class and economic structure, and to not take a disproportionate share for the responsibility for child raising. If you have an economic structure tending towards concentration of wealth, it will result in a small quantity of men able to take advantage of women. And in a world where fidelity is a deprecated concept, the core of manhood will feel unworthy. The riots by Trump supporters are a distant consequence of the inherent contradictions in the modern feminist world. Or perhaps, why not let Jeff Bezos retire and gradually impregnate the whole of womenhood from his mansion whilst also handing them the remaining handful of senior management jobs after automation is complete? All these non dominant men you slept with did have the ability and knowlege of how to dominate: they could all have broken you in half if they wanted. But why should you (not you personally, but in a general sense) deserve to experience it when the consequences of them for unleashing that energy could be so deadly to their freedom or careers? You seem very smart. Perhaps you can educate womenhood that they are collectively asking for the impossible.

[@KBonilla]

Keep these videos going!

[@non-ya228]

Start watching this at 8:10 if you want her to get to actually how to be dominant

[@user-vy4pg9hc4v]

my best teacher on youtube

[@melas_tales]

Ur advice is honest sincere and natural especially in the aspects that relate to the primal nature of women. Well done.

[@Ken-iu2zp]

Facts

[@B1LLBILL]

This girl is upto something💯

[@cedricburkhart3738]

Like what?

[@jaamaan123]

How about this one :) I think I can be quite dominant naturally but somehow mostly focussed on beeing nice, now I am unlearning all that stuff and it is a interesting journey

[@mynonleatherlife]

any tips for others on the journey?

[@jaamaan123]

​@@mynonleatherlife I guess my main point would be that you learn to communicate with yourself in the most honest way to find out what really moves you and why certain things turn you on. In part of my journey I started feeling very drawn to be submissive myself with my specific kinks. It was a big step to confess these to myself and later to my wife. But to explain this in the best way I decided to reverse this submissive role and give to her what I truelly desire. Because I know so well what turns me on in the submissive role I could use that knowledge and experience to lets say groom her into that role with my "tricks". But I think the main part in this all is beeing honest and dare to share your deepest desires. For the first years of my marriage I was silent about these kinks and did not dare to share them, up to a point that I started thinking I would have more luck with strangers. Until I realised the there would be no easier person to share this with than my own wife who I know loves me. I hope this helps other people to have their own fulfilling journey and if anyone has more questions I do not mind to share some more of what I learned and experienced. Jaamaan123

[@jaamaan123]

@Calamity We where young. I got to learn most about myself back then but learning to be together was the new challenge for sure. Still happy after 25+ years

[@alexspectre962]

Thanks for the advice. It's appreciated.

[@rippedup4546]

So would you say if a woman is being aggressive and bossy towards a man, she wants him to go off on her?

[@mosthated.e.2422]

You just earned a new subscriber keep it up 😎

[@mynonleatherlife]

oh awesome, thanks for subscribing!

[@mrgee1959]

I totally agree. I’ve been dominant all of my adult life. If you have any South Carolina, let me know.

[@danlee8225]

Victoria, you are amazing! Your advice is golden. I second you writing a book. You have unique way is explaining these subject matters precisely. You also have a niche market. Thanks for your work. Monetize your talent 😉

[@danstylus1]

@@mynonleatherlife I third book!

[@thegentlemantraveler3498]

If a man feels dominant in other areas of his life he's better able to dive into this. Whether it being the dom or the sub. Some men who have to be dominant in every other area of his life want to be subs. But for most men, if they have their physicality, career, and finances on point, they will be able to exhibit this type of dominance easily. It all comes down to their mentality of being secure in themselves and knowing that in order to please their woman, they must dominate her mentally, emotionally, and physically.

[@stever2118]

Just found this channel. Thus stuff is gold. Thanks Vctoria. New subscriber!!

[@mynonleatherlife]

thanks steve

[@ErikaWagoner]

In most experiences I’ve been in or heard about the woman becomes the dominant/male persona, and the men actually become the submissive female vulnerable persona. It’s not always about men wanting to dominate a woman when a man is very powerful and is every day life. Sometimes he likes the thrill of being vulnerable one 8:47

[@randywhite2154]

You said, "I'm not a dating coach etc,... I'm just a normal person. Well, I don't know how normal". LOL! You are so phenominally honest with us, and yourself. Which is exactly how everyone should be in a perfect world, Victoria. I reached that level of awareness, 15 years ago, but I never was enlightened to the fact that women might enjoy being told how, when, or what, to do. For my whole life, I've seen this as being browbeaten, because I grew up watching my dad beating my mom to a pulp every wknd. My mom would never leave him, so at 14, I left them. I swore so hard that I'd never be like him that in spite of becoming the perfect dude, as my mom convinced me that I was (yes I know...),that I was more Dork, than "dick". Two beautiful wives that I loved to the max left me, (the so right TV hubby and dad) and I couldn't believe my eyes or my life. If they had the guts and honesty you posess maybe I wouldn't feel so ripped off of a good life. I Have had a good life, but it would have been more like a great "TV family" than a bad day in a blender. I'm not sure where I just went, but I came here to say, watching you be "YOU", in your videos, gives me peace. And YOU are as delightfully refreshing as an ice cold Dr. Pepper, after great sex on a hot August night! Your boyfriend, in your interview video, seems and sounds so cool. And I bet you couldn't chase him off with a stick. Good luck. Much love, and thank you so much for the help, Doctor Vicky! ( I hope you didn't hate that.) ❤☺

[@mynonleatherlife]

I loved it!!! Thank u for sharing ur story... the fact that u left at such a young age is very courageous. Wish u got the tv family, u deserve it! And thx for the kind words about my bf too.

[@roboldgoth816]

Another top drawer video, perfect

[@_Trakman]

Please review that course, it looks good but quite expensive

[@ankityadav6447]

Good content. You got yourself a subscriber

[@sunnisukumar]

So much good advice, as usual from you, Victoria. Thank you.

[@mynonleatherlife]

thanks Sunni

[@anthropomorphicOrange]

I admire your honesty and your insights into the male/female dynamic. I wish I had a female friend like you to talk to when I was younger. Unfortunately, I don't have an Instagram account and have no desire to get one; otherwise, I'd send you a message about specific issues. Nonetheless, I like to hear you perspective. I agree with other people who have commented on your videos: this channel is underrated.

[@anthropomorphicOrange]

@@mynonleatherlife I prefer Twitter. I do have an account on Facebook. I’m not a big fan of Facebook, but I’d send and receive messages on there.

[@jselectronics8215]

Forty six years my wife and I never discussed our fantasies. But it was good.

[@nilemiddleton194]

Superb advice! Domination is an area I KNOW I lack lol Not from what I've been told. Just by the fact my natural behavior is comedic which is a clear indication of that of a person who's not all that dominant in sex (at least for me that is)! So yes, again, old ass video or not I still needed to hear this😁 THANK YOU‼️

[@sameerforyou01]

very good to know stuff...many things makes sense. There was one Indian girl I was dating and she asked me to slap her when we were chilling in a hotel. I thought she wanted to bring a case of sexual harassment against me or something. I can't think of any reason why would she do so. And I was like I would never hurt you because I really like you. And then she was disrespectful to me and I let her go thinking she doesn't deserve my love. The problem with me was I wasn't sexually aggressive and thrilling for her which made her bitchy. Now many years later I know what was going on in her head.

[@winnersneverqult]

I fucking love you for these gems.

[@gcanaday1]

I'd like your recording volume level to be higher. You are difficult to hear in some environments. Devices can only be turned up so much. You have solid points, though. I like hearing them.

[@MidnightZX7]

this just makes me think again that really the problem is that women are so shortsighted and superficial. most guys would become more dominant and do kinky stuff with their girl, but guess what, we need time to warm up to someone and trust them too. why is it that no matter what part of the man to woman dynamic we're talking about, the problem it always comes down to is that women think just because we act one way in one moment that we're always like that and could never be different. if youre in a relationship or had sex before its easy, you know that she wants it. but dominating her on the borderline to rape on the first date is a little bit of a difficult fantasy to fulfill

[@PhantomFilmmaker-jd9ho]

Bless you 🙏

[@saxmanjpr5092]

Dominance for me, and I am sure for a lot of other men feels so contradictory because we are taught to be rough, touch and macho. For us to show emotions feels like it is a contradiction because our emotions make us vulnerable. This vulnerability opens the door to the possibility of being hurt and we then understand what a lady feels. This vulnerability also SCARS US, because we FEEL on the inside something taking place that is REAL and it exposes us to feeling CARE, that someone really does give a rip about us and not treating us like shit with the games of "You're not nice. I see you like a bother. I just want to be friends" and pushing us away because a lot of women believe that men should only talk to other men about life issues. Men like me have to learn on their own that a lady is JUST LIKE THEM in the fact that they LIKE to kiss US because they have the same feelings and hormones. The word "woman" MEANS, "taken out of man." Hence, woMAN - we truly ARE the same and have the exact same feelings of wanting to be loved, cared about, and be ALLOWED to care! Sure! Men and women have differences, but that usually ONLY has to do with issue that take place "once a month," if you know what I mean, and even at that a good man will have a show compassion for "that" and not be afraid to do to the drug store to pick up supplies for her.

[@steyraug96]

I'd add it's also a MAJOR problem these days that men are constantly told men are bad, "toxic masculinity," be softer and more in touch with your feelings, more... Feminine, basically. But women are told to be MASCULINE at the same time. So it's hard for a man to be masculine, that's punished, BUT he STILL has to be The Man, the stoic leader, he's supposed to be detached yet in control... And she won't surrender to him, seemingly EVER.

[@saxmanjpr5092]

@@steyraug96 That is why I have removed myself from the game because that is exactly what it is: A GAME! I have learned to just focus on myself to get myself in order - to prepare for a wife (not a girlfriend) by going to school, no matter how long it takes! I have learned that I have no business in a romantic relationship if I do not have the skills to get myself out of working that part time, minimum wage job. Those jobs will not entice any lady to marry a man that can not (afford) to take care of her. That little piece of paper" called, a degree WILL enable me to be paid what I am worth and THAT will be making enough money to be responsible to take care of a lady, and a family! Until I raise the standard in my own life by getting that degree (Which I have been working at for the past seven years. I have had medical setbacks that have caused me to work this long at a two year degree) nothing else will work. - Not at my age! I am FIFTY years old and am just now figuring life out! No lady is going to marry a fifty year old who is still saying, "Do you want fries with that?" Right?! :) I am also a different type off guy that grew up being told, "You're too nice. I see you like a brother. I just want to be friends."" No one ever wants to acknowledge or admit that us type of man exists, so I had to take a step back and say, :There must be another way."

[@forester4ever]

Awesome! Sweet words.

[@Raymond-rr5iv]

I love your videos. I'm learning new things. Shortly into your video you mentioned Sterling Cooper so I You Tubed him. But I'll be back to watch the rest of yours ....

[@mynonleatherlife]

How do u like his channel so far

[@Newbobdole]

"Dominance" is the psychological/energy $0.25 that you put in the gumball machine [of women] to get the reward... ...The fact that the gumball machine has a big sign saying "NO QUARTERS ACCEPTED" is just part of the magnetic push/pull game, on account of the Earth's continued spinning - once you realize this, it's super easy to move forward but hard to stay engaged - women lose their complexity & life suddenly becomes draining You think they want to be a Disney princess attached to a Disney prince (because that's all they/society have yelled at you), but they want like Genie Jafar so they can be little mermaid Ursula without consequence 24/7 Prove me wrong

[@mynonleatherlife]

@@Newbobdole u think jafar = dominance and fail to see how alladin and every other Disney prince = chad

[@Newbobdole]

@@mynonleatherlife That's fair, but aren't [the masculine partner] "setting limits" and "helping explore limits" two equally important sides of the same coin? It's almost like being able to code switch emotional approaches

[@fabricio7wagner]

I think that differs from one to another. Some are more kinky and some are more sensible. Can't generalize. The talk about what sorts of dominant traits the man must have and in what way are more complicated to discern. And then we fall in the classic: just be yourself.

[@andrewjones4605]

Excellent info, however, the title lead me to believe you were going to teach us How.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Ha ur right sorry, probably should have titled it why not how

[@sebastianreyes7917]

Keep it up !👸🏼

[@SpaceDrifter3]

Doesn’t sound like she has a hard time doing that

[@keithbrunson7190]

This is the best video I have ever seen. I have no interest in slapping a girl in the face, but your ability as a unique coach is very very good. Nice job!

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thank u Keith!

[@williamvictorr]

Hey I wanna see the video abou the course you took! I'm Subscribed and waiting. And good job, finally youtube recommendations worked

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thanks William I’m hoping to be able to interview him soon and go into depth there about it. Thanks a lot for subscribing too

[@universebecomingltd]

Nooo!!! I think you're very much a beacon on the subject! You just said something that made me realize what's going on with you a little bit more. You said you're a former stripper. AW HA! Now you make more sense to me. Prior to you saying that I was thinking to myself. . . Who is this girl? But yeah, I think your work in that area made you have human sexuality in mind more often than not and that expanded your mind quite a bit on the subject. That coupled with your high intelligence-backed curiosity and strong libido makes you more than qualified to be doing a KZbin channel like this. I think you're doing an amazing job! I've only seen around 8 of your videos but every one of them has impressed me quite a bit. Yes, I agree with everything you said here in this vid.

[@givdb5513]

The problem with women talking about game, seduction, picking up women, sleeping with them, is that often they tend to fantasize about "the pornstar", "the mechanic", "the handsome guy" they put all sorts of tags possible and live with that illusion. Women are really biased. The worst part is that lots of guys-BETAS would believe every single statement they made "is wrong to approach woman", "you have to have a job", "you need money", "needs to be taller, foreign, or English". BECAUSE WOMAN IS TALKING ABOUT THEIR FANTASIES. How a guy can be that foolish? I dated around 13k plus women in 10 years and put 90% of them on the bed and every interaction was messy and chaotic. Why we don't start talking about reality? And stop with this structured-mans-world because there's a massive gap between reality and imagination.

[@weslleyalessandro8303]

True and I'm one of these guys that get tricked when hear women talking about their fantasies. It never includes me and that makes me believe I don't have chance with any women. But sometimes a woman flirts with me from time to time, it happened on the street, in the neighbourhood, and last time in the workplace, a woman really looking at me, laughing and flirting with me, she's fucking beautiful. Sadly she has boyfriend. But she was not the only woman to do this with me. The problem is that all the years listening to so many bullshit just leave me traumatized and unable to approach any woman I want and when I do I'm totally not confident, all goofy. Really want to change my mindset and stop doubting myself but is hard, all thoses years of insecurity really did a tool on me. Time is passing and the more I can't solve this, the more depressed I feel. Really need help, really need to get out of this hole of insecurity and passiveness. Need to fix this otherwise I'll have a ton of woman showing to be into me but it will amount to nothing because I don't have the courage, the means to act. Ps: the girl with boyfriend is a exception, she's on a relationship and while I admit she's fucking desirable, my morality tells me to not acting there and yeah I know a lot of relationships starts like that, guy and girl fall for each other despite one of them already be dating. But my instincts tell me to no trust someone that flirt so openly with someone while dating

[@human1505]

I am hooked to your videos.

[@mynonleatherlife]

fantastic Human...are u finding them helpful

[@KierMailan]

It feels like you'd take a lot away from the book The Way of The Superior Man in regards to masculine vs feminine energy. (Book is titled for marketing purposes but it can be helpful for woman too). It breaks down the duality/dynamic of the two really well. It'd be interesting to see your thoughts on more masculine women and more genuinely feminine men, and androgynous relationships.

[@marcusnielson5487]

@@mynonleatherlife exactly how I felt about that book

[@ker_at6814]

@@marcusnielson5487 & @MyNonLeatgerLife why did y’all got irritated reading it. I’m curious.

[@king_supreme1102]

This is all really hard for me to get a grasp on and start to truly believe it deep down. Logically, I know all of this must me true. But deep down, I just can’t get myself to believe it. I associate all of these things (like degradation, dirty talk, domination, choking, feeling used etc) with negative emotions. My brain subconsciously believes that these are bad, and that you shouldn’t inflict them upon somebody else, because it makes the connection that these are negative things and the other person won’t like it. Maybe I just need to flip the switch in my brain from having negative feelings about these things to positive feelings about them.

[@dollarbrandyakoellis6526]

@@mynonleatherlife How do you consensually impose .... !!! ? The two ( consent and imposition of an act) are mutually exclusive no matter how creative you can be in fact I think it's illusionary. You gain consent of those 'kinks' Brayden Wormer has listed above only if the person fears you, it doesn't matter what she/he fears about you. It means you must have first have dismantled his/her Guard Of Insecurities and there is no other way to do that except fear, again its an illusion to think you have consented out love/respect/trust . Stockholm Syndrome springs to mind in terms of concept/methodology/approach for any success to this !!! And yes as in Stockholm Syndrome no one is gonna say he/she consented out fear. The little lesson I've learned in life is that there is no such a thing as power parity between individuals. Good luck to all those searching for it, you are a gift to humanity.

[@tommurphree5630]

That might be difficult to do . I think she's saying deep down we are all deviants.

[@juancpgo]

hell yeah, I'm gonna be that chihuahua 😂 on a serious note, this channel is awesome 👍, great work

[@alihall4397]

Thank you for your honesty. You have just comfirm everything. May God bless you., And thanks.

[@sparkle92x03]

I'm a female & in my late 20's, ex stripper, with a fair bit of dating experience. Guys, please don't let your finance status, height, career, etc hold you back from using your dominant power. Some of the BEST sex i've ever had have been from guys that are broke with no job. Primal needs override social conditioning. P.s Victoria you are beautiful and so intelligent!

[@mynonleatherlife]

Yes u are so right and u said that so well. Hopefully they listen to u. And thank u so much, ur comment made my day

[@srbaruchi]

Years ago, I had a woman do me wrong. On the phone, she first tried explaining away her behavior, and then apologized. I was basically satisfied but said, "I don't know" (if the apology was good enough). She gasped and said, in a serious voice, "Oh, you want to punish me." I said (jokingly): "A spanking might be in order." Just that triggered an immediate fantasy in her head, and, after a few seconds of heated babble on her part, she concluded with, "Stop. You can't get me excited now. My sister is here." I never pursued anything like that with her, but it was an eye-opener to that powerful need some (most? all?) women have for domination.

[@srbaruchi]

@@mynonleatherlife It's just a nonjudgmental story about my first (and only) experience with a woman who had an immediate, vocal sexual response to the joking suggestion of a spanking. Sorry if it underwhelms you. (But thank you for reading it.)

[@srbaruchi]

@@mynonleatherlife OK. We good. Thanks.