What Makes a Man Commit to You? Watch This... | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

[@matboggs]

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[@oar-N-oasis]

"Spiritual chemistry the deepest level of chemistry" Amen.

[@How.Dare.You.]

Nothing. You can be the most perfect woman. If hes not in that place in his life to go for a good catch like youre, nothing will make him committ. And vice versa, you can be an average woman and he will commit bc hes ready.

[@deliapasqualini970]

True. And he does not even realize or regret what he is missing.

[@helensanderson7092]

Absolutely

[@tisabanda9497]

Absolutely!

[@helensanderson7092]

Thing is I'm single and like my own company

[@joyce_music]

@bereal8191 but she appreciated his willingness to let her fix it because she genuinely wanted to.

[@yaeltamar9367]

you asked what needs to be in place: 1. chemistry - without it it's a no go 2. excitement - chemistry is nice when we are together - but is he excited to see me? does he miss me? does he MAKE me wait until he answers my messages? 3. respect for me and EVERYONE else 4. flexibility and ability to compromise and change your ways/habits a bit if partner finds them triggering 5. wanting to be exclusively with me after a couple of dates

[@clarisec1451]

I need to feel like he's into me, he's excited about me . That I'm not just another option but a priority... not just one of many but the only one that he's into enough to spend his life with.

[@julieb6624]

He proposed after 4 months. Now my husband. I did everything right. Its easy if you have confidence, femininity and self worth.

[@Portia620]

Fast and wow. Yikes

[@ljackson7123]

If it were that simple there wouldn't be single females. Timing has everything to do with it. As well as other external factors, beyond just being feminine and confident.

[@islandnative8084]

Sophistication.. meaning that there's plenty of maturity, appreciation, gratitude & humility. Its good to look for a type of person who's well rounded.

[@debrajones3272]

I fell in love with a man that at first seeing him I said No way was I even remotely attracted to him. After talking with him for a year then I was so attracted to him. That I couldn’t get enough of him.

[@laureen9576]

Boy, you really give the best advice. I wish I could have heard these positive kind of tools to uplift a relationship years ago, but given the opportunity I won’t forget. You’re family sounds amazing! Thank you for sharing your personal stories, they’re inspirational.🙏🏻

[@heathermj3620]

I love hearing this part of your life now, your family. I've been following you for years and did not know you had blossom to such a beautiful family. Congratulations!

[@roseerjavec9987]

I’m struggling with how much of this is geared towards constantly stroking “the MAN’s “ ego!

[@jacquelynhorton373]

This was so good and thanks for sharing that personal experience. There is no better way to show acceptance is loving one another as is and allowing one another to contribute the best of themselves.

[@Simrangangwar023]

Spiritual chemistry ( watching sunset together hugging each other telling him to hold u tight and ask him to memorise the moment by hugging feeling the touch feeling air .... ❤

[@sandram6068]

I love this! Thank you . I am Colombian and I watched my Mom always treating my dad like a King . He was always appreciated and celebrated . It is so true all what you said. Love it Blessings 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@welovetennis9151]

He is so great in teaching women in relationship❤❤❤❤

[@GoogleYaHUaH]

Three words: Know Your Worth

[@kathypenner3478]

I have learn after 48 years of marriage to let go of my selfishness and seek compromise with each other. We both win.

[@hanle8743]

When I can feel his love and care for me while also challenging me to be a better person for myself. ❤ Thanks Mat and Irene for being model couples and shifting a key paradigm! 🙏🏽✨

[@biancarowena9040]

Someone who can support my career (travel with me, be in photos at events, stay at the book table while I’m at the washroom 😂), someone who has room in his life to make my career a priority and doesn’t mind doing so. But also has his own goals so he has something to do while I’m writing for months

[@Dw3nG6K]

i said it before imma say it again - your wife always knows what is the right thing to say in any scenario and would love for her to have her own channel or section where she'd be giving us tips too pleasee

[@AMichelleMendez]

I wish I knew. I am 46 years old and never been in a serious relationship before. But I learned key things from the video. What resonated is the need for clarity and setting a time in terms of how longs I going to wait for him to get is up to me the woman

[@gadjoemi0722]

I love this video so much. I will watch it many times to let it soak in because it's packed with life lessons in there. For me to commit to a man as a woman..... I'll need to think on this question. I feel like it's a very important question to get clarity around this to be empowered.

[@annaokunkova8492]

Matt, thank you so much for this video 😊 I would commit with a guy whom I can imagine of being a good grand father for our grandchildren... Warm in relationship, open, easy to communicate with, appreciating me as a part of our common life 💗

[@lisalombardo6753]

Excellent content Mat! Thank you.

[@amethystpurple333]

Discovered your videos today. I really like your energy and content. Thank you! :)

[@doramoraiti701]

Great video! I would like to ask you how we can actually create the urgency to commit. What actions do we need to do?

[@happinessnyabuga803]

I love ur etiquette...I have gotten to that sunset hug...am a hug bear. I love the connection. Thax for the info; great and all we need

[@lineyhernandezjulio3346]

Gracias x este video. Suena interesante. Una pareja es para ayudarse mutuamente y si son egoistas no va a funcionar

[@joannedomingo2398]

I created urgency and he shuts down.

[@robinklink3440]

Your wife is absolutely awesome! How she thinks I just love it … she needs to write a book

[@andreabrown4417]

I gotta have the trust and I know that's he is going to be there for me Matt OK

[@gaurangaful]

I love this video, really sweet. I put it on my "better me list"👍💗 You look so happy and confident, its really inspiring. Definitely will try it out with my husband 😊

[@rachelsnewlife]

Sweet Matt… thank you!!! You are beyond incredible. Greeeeaaay stuff!!! Like Tony the Tiger great! Lol

[@KateMorganStyle]

Or a roughy knit sweater

[@mi-aemiyayo3361]

I love that celebration part 😂

[@kimmoresi9629]

It takes communication

[@Ron-zo5ut]

I don't know what to do about it

[@ISing4Jesus6353]

What if you've been friends for over a year and then start dating. Should he have his clarity sooner? And what about age? We're both 55-60 and have been married before. I know most of your suggestions and coaching are for young people new to each other starting to date. Wouldn't the advice and suggestions be a little different when the couple is older, maybe married before and friends first? Just curious.

[@rickraber1249]

What Matt said: clarity better be there within a year, or I'd just back off. How much time do you want to waste on somebody who can't make up their mind? Doesn't that say it all right there? Are they selfish - why buy a cow when milk's so cheap? Are they that indecisive? Immature? Have some standards - you are worthy of them. And find a potential mate that A. has standards also, and B. meets YOUR standards.

[@roseerjavec9987]

Been married 50 years… surprised all you young women are buying this!! I guess it’s fine to “ catch” the guy, if that’s what you want …

[@lathikakuruppu4891]

He always excuses me of cheating when I am doing everything to show am not but according to him every single thing I do he says I am cheating on him even when I go out with my mother even

[@lathikakuruppu4891]

Why is that is he cheating and projecting it on me

[@janlang5999]

How do you get a man to want to date you?

[@KateMorganStyle]

Damn for you to have a shirt that fits it’s got to be a raw cut collar.

[@amyserra440]

I see you have pink shirt 👚 weird

[@limungaregina-jw8yz]

Why all these only about a man, will the man not take you to be cheap, that's my fear

[@fitz2523]

1. Chemistry 2. Connection 3. Capability to be adequate in relationship 4. Celebrate 🎉 who he is/efforts 5. Clarity-create urgency for commitment

[@windyaltiche]

Thanks god i have it all with the man i am dating for ❤🎉

[@lindziep6319]

Just thinking how would a woman do the clarity thing the urgency thing 🤔🤔🤔

[@ladyofspa]

​@@lindziep6319Be clear only dating for marriage, delay sex, only be exclusive if he's clear in his destination with you. Be observant if the time phase of life points to marriage is he looking for a wife. Sorry all that to say let him know my dating portfolio is diverse of serious suirors not closing door options till get serious offer of engagement.

[@Portia620]

@@lindziep6319😂.

[@Portia620]

@@lindziep6319why rush?

[@katemiller5990]

Humility. I’m not sure that there’s anything more vital to a relationship, than the humility to see the other person’s needs as equally important, and to be willing to listen and understand and work through things.

[@Avoid_Low_Frequency]

This is profound! Yes!

[@bettinahayes3314]

So very true!

[@ameliavanderschyff9868]

The best

[@marysuzettecatipon6147]

Yes it is.

[@maryna5761]

I'd love to like this comment 10 times, so true!

[@TheMothernerd]

All the same things make me want to commit. Feeling appreciated and loved, and wanted. Feeling safe, seen, cared for. And being able to go from banter to quiet to deep, philosophical conversation with ease and flow and ultimately having a shared vision of the future.

[@ashleylewis2037]

What has helped me commit is compatibility. If my what i call quirks, fit with his. For example, i loved the feel of his hair through my hands. He absolutely loved when i did it at night before we went to sleep. It would relax him enough to be able to drift off to sleep and help him have a deeper sleep. But it works both ways. He would make me laugh like no one else has, just by being his goofy self, to the point i would cry from laughing so hard. In my opinion, a couple should be compatible and able to weave their lives together.

[@rickraber1249]

Ever see the movie Rocky? That one scene where Adrian's brother asks Rocky what he sees in her. I love Rocky's answer: "I don't know. I got gaps. She's got gaps. We fill each other's gaps." That's what you want, 2 people that fill each other's gaps.

[@catherinehoffpauir6323]

@@rickraber1249yes! I had long forgotten.

[@lede1810]

1- Chemistry (physical and emotional) 2- Connection 3- Capable (to be the man that you want) 4- Celebration and acknowledgment 5- Clarity

[@amoytracey4466]

Divorce, unhappiness, and "separation" is too high. Instead, Get to know yourself, Be yourself, Enjoy life, Take care of yourself, Be ambitious and contented, Better yourself overall (eat good, live good, dress good, fit good, learn good, heal and release good, happy goodl. When someone with good fit comes, you move forward together with that person.

[@Portia620]

Of course !!! Don’t look let it find you!

[@stylefreekiki]

Matt, I appreciate you so much! I love the way you talk to your audience. It feels like you truly care about people and the work you do. This video is amazing. Thanks so much for sharing.

[@newbygettingeducated5152]

After 4 months Acceptance is when he told me he loved me. Yes, propping each other up. My man very intune. I felt very protected after he took a situation that happened to me and got on it to find the cause without me asking for help. I told him how I appreciated him and he made me feel protected. He is emotional available. Age doesn't matter either he is 15yrs younger.

[@TrishaK-kr6no]

Age matters when you are the "older" one And after 22 years together, he says I want someone younger.... WTF?

[@Caroline-rt7qx]

I married a man and later divorced. I mistakenly assumed he knew how to fix things. I grew up in a family where the men were handy. I learned that I need a man who is handy. It’s a huge turn on for me and a major dealbreaker for me. He could have all the money in the world to hire someone to do the work. I lived that life and it bothered me. There is something about a man who can fix, build, provide and protect that does it for me.

[@Blinkeebill]

You’ve framed relationships around what someone can do for you and what you can get out of it, red flag.

[@discombobulousable]

@@Blinkeebill not necessarily... That is what makes a man attractive to her... We all have preferences, points of attraction... At least she's not a gold digger where you could say what is she looking to get out of it. And yes, it makes a man attractive when he's able and capable. For instance a guy who'd rather sit on the couch spending hours watching TV is a complete turn off for me!...

[@Portia620]

At least you know that

[@Portia620]

What if he had both! 😂😂

[@GilliMarieMoody]

“I love that you’re man enough to support me in this.” So excellent.

[@maggiemaggie2685]

Hi Matt! I love the sunset hug idea, but taking it further and asking, what do you feel what do you hear, Etc feels too Forced and too manipulative. I don't think a man would respond well to being prompted like that... in a tender spontaneous moment. I also really loved the idea of the family celebration and cheering.Hey!

[@lisawende5161]

Your wife has great parents and a great example of a loving relationship. You learn from your parents, intentionally or unintentionally. Appreciate you and your insight

[@wambuikaranja2701]

A man cannot be kept if he doesn't want to be kept even if you do all the above.

[@celiaescalante]

He hasn't painted his happy place with me. I haven't painted my happy place with him. Thus, we have hurt each other's feelings over and over again, without knowing. Later on, the memories give just clues on what could have hurt. Chemistry and connection, but capabilities??? Maybe that's where things start getting uncomfortable. I don't know why I'm more careful with strangers and friends, but not with the man I want to marry 🤔.

[@lynnita321]

All of your personal stories are so important for us to hear. These examples are golden. Thank you! And your wife if definitely other worldly.

[@Betterboundariesnowteensupport]

I remember the original time you told this story when you were single and it warms my heart your children and you celebrate your wife like you saw that lady celebrate her husband coming home.

[@marionmarcin2402]

Very helpful examples, and your enthusiastic presentation! ❤

[@wendyharper2474]

This was so amazing for me to view here. I totally understand everything more clear of what I haven't been doing. Thank you Matt.

[@tierragray]

...when you can help a man experience life, not through the screen but through his mind. loved that.

[@daliafamin6304]

You need humor, laugh at silly things...cause it brings joy 😊

[@missstirring6063]

4:34😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 wtf that sounds like such a creepy cringe moment ahahaha silence is best😂😂😂😂

[@ayaahmed9537]

Dear Matt, will you do a video please to explain what to do when a man is surrounded by many women. Thank you

[@Sarafara7]

When you said create urgency…what does that sound like? Like an ultimatum?

[@leilakira]

I agree when a man wants or when he is ready to marry will marry who he loves

[@themaestrooflight.1458]

Ok I have to say your videos really help and make me think. So I thank you for the support of us women. And thank you for helping us understand our relationships with guys.

[@wild3812]

Trust for me is the #1 critical aspect of a relationship that makes me want to commit. If someone keeps breaking promises and doesn’t respect the agreed boundaries - time to go

[@rezotydnic]

1. Chemistry. Biology. Spiritual. 30 sec hugs. Memorize the moment. Hearing, feeling, smelling, touch, taste(kiss). 2. Connection. Acceptance. 3. Capable. Men want to measure up. 4. Celebration. Celebrate and acknowledge each other. 5. Clarity. It's not more time, it's more depth. Create urgency. What needs to be in place for me, is all of the above, plus honesty, loyalty and integrity. He must make his intentions clear! And he must be a good communicator. 6+ yrs in from first date, committed, not living together, in our 60's. Nothing being said about or action of progression. We did talk about our future a couple years ago, about spending our lives together, but nothing sense. It's like he has this list, in his mind, where he needs to be, before he feels he's worthy, or ready. I've done all these things above. On the regular. I don't feel he celebrates me. Certainly not even close to equally, if at all. I could handle that if I had a commitment of 'I want to marry you'. And maybe some concrete plans. We're not getting any younger. And I want to spend more time with him. We have a great time together. But he's a workaholic. And I don't feel very high on his priority list. I can't communicate my wants and needs well. Apparently. He does take care of me. He's a good man. Even though he's not here enough for me.

[@dorothykaffjamboe6808]

It really painful and heartbreaking 😢 you are not alone. Some parents made a bigger mistake bringing their kids up not in a good way and they can’t express feelings for others

[@irinairis5209]

How you create that urgency?

[@juliacooper3989]

Love pink tee-shirts 💗 good insights especially about judging, ego, shame, etc. Needs of Feeling like a man!

[@christinamartin2744]

I loved your video! This was awesome and I love all the examples you gave and why it’s important. Your tips were very helpful and I will be mindful of this while dating. Dating at 40 is a challenge and I’m trying to properly vet men better. I’m ready for my husband🙌🏽❤️🙏🏽😁!!! Thank you 🙏🏽

[@celiaescalante]

He just doesn't make me feel chosen! He makes me feel like I'm the one who got away!!! I wish I had seen this video instead of telling my friends my thoughts and feelings about the relationship. They really only helped me vent, but their feedback made me feel I didn't have a relationship at all. When his mom asked why I hadn't married him; I was shocked, felt it was too good to be true and then she said we shouldn't marry because something silly. He never has gone out and asked me to marry him. He's also made me think he wants many women!

[@mar-cl2gg]

Run

[@miha7737]

Thank you for your amazing insight! I would like a video on the topic of the “doors that are closing” without seeming desperate.

[@mellissatovar3003]

How do you do this when one is a long distance relationship? Only communication is through text messaging.

[@mariannanicole6205]

If anyone believes in prayers and God could you pray for me to have what Matt is talking about, I've been alone for over 20yrs with health issues and got it under control, so I would like to have this kind of relationship.

[@arelysanchez2270]

Mariana, I just prayed that the Lord will bring you a partner that will value you, respect you and protect you. And that you will experience a kind relationship that is pure and genuine. The Lord is going to send you the right person that will adore you, care for you and love you unconditionally. And you both will be happily ever after in Jesus name, Amen 🙏

[@mariannanicole6205]

@@arelysanchez2270 Thank you so very much Arely Sanchez it means so much to me God Bless you.

[@fridabergqvist4966]

The train thats leaving is spot on what to do with your life. And really, do you want that specific man to be your traveling partner? Think more than twice before you even ask him to jump on.

[@imrankimnsereko6918]

Do you have a video about the relationship between money and strength and longevity of relationships? I want to watch it. Thanks for sharing this!

[@petrasinghova619]

I love this video as it makes you think from a different perspective.

[@JS-ld2qd]

Wowwwww Mat amazing content in a free video.

[@anitamoses4071]

Interesting video I love this video Everything you pointed out are very important in a relationship

[@XYZ-qu4yq]

That was very helpful, Mat. Especially number 2 and 5.

[@StacySanseverino]

You are such a phenomenal human being. Thank you for all the beautiful content you put in the world.

[@welcometosusansmukbang9215]

📌Love yourself first. Stop pleasing others. Relationship videos are Non-Sense. Use your head not your heart.

[@giannacascarini8681]

Decent, honest, sincere, hard working, providing, loving dependable men are a dying species today. I had the guy that made me happy he was the father of my first child but he was majorly undependable and i found out he was getting it on intimately with what was my best friend behind my back for up to 2 years when he was with me because she lived around the corner from him. She is an expired untrusted friend now. I havent had a trustworthy or dependable guy in 37 years. Never met one such unique individual. Which is odd because i am a caring supportive single full time independent mum living in a brand new built £300,000 house. Never met a guy i can take seriously for a good genuine dependable honest sincere providing supportive guy. I just bump into pathological habitual liars.

[@uczucz]

Can I ask you with a question? I'm meeting this man for 4 weeks already. We live in different islands, 80km one of the other (Tenerife/Gran Canaria). In those 4 weeks he found a time after circling for the first long date, then I passed 3 days on his island, then he passed a weekend with me on Tenerife, today we've met an hour, before his ferry, cos he insisted me to come to the port (if i wouldn't, it wouldn't be possible...my work, and his work schedule). And then he asked if we gonna see each other on Los Reyes (January 6/7th, festive day in Spain). But......he is soooooo slow, so I dunno, like without blood in his veins... And when we are together, he touches my knee, my waist, he kisses my neck...signs that he's into it. But later on, hd sends messages with no emotions showed, or like we were only colleagues... Btw when we're together in private, we have great sex, with lots of kisses, tenderness, caring etc What should I think? Sometimes I feel him sooo.... dunno, slow? Is it the word??

[@user-ki4nd2vd5c]

The Dirty Secret: With most long term committed couples, still in love after many years, the man knew the first time he met the woman. If he’s telling you he’s unsure, it’s code for he’s not sure he can do better.

[@Scugnizz8]

Wow. This is the best love advice I’ve ever heard. Thanks needed this badly and didn’t know it was what I needed to hear. Thank you :-)

[@Diane-rk5tq]

I'm not trying to toot my own horn but I'm a beautiful 63 year old I dressed up for him or lingerie the whole nine yards he would always figure out a way to make it look like I didn't do enough in the relationship and it hurts my feelings and I'm crying right now but it's also giving me the answers as I'm leaving this comment. And I don't snivvle and cry on a regular basis believe me I'm very strong although I like to wear a dress and embrace my femininity,, I'm really in a State of shock that he allowed it to happen but I need to move on,but its hard!!!!

[@celiaescalante]

I probably made him feel incapable that he's not meeting the mark. My standards were too unrealistic. Instead of giving me more contact, he probably avoided contact because it made him feel hurt to not have the mindset I wanted him to have.

[@ajm3821]

Exactly. Couldn’t measure up.

[@celiaescalante]

@@ajm3821 Well, he isn't very sweet over the phone. He's actually been rude to some of my family and friends. That's not making me feel good.

[@teresaevans9967]

I am on oxygen 24/7 & probably don't have very many years left, wiith my diseases & age. So, how in the world do I turn all this into positive??

[@Nef_254]

13:25 this brought tears to my eyes how so very special ✨ I can’t wait to do this my future husband ❤ Thank you for sharing this private tradition of yours.

[@Diane-rk5tq]

Now this is the stuff that I wanted to coach the last male counterpart in my life, but I won't be overly aggressive about it I do have to take into consideration, that this person had problems and wasn't a good listener and probably would never get it..

[@celiaescalante]

What helps me commit is the actual request. Direct request for commitment. The chemistry and the connection is there, but without the request, it's a big tease from an immature boy.

[@ScottiAngelWing]

Good thing your wife is willing to take care of everything. Frankly, my dear, you SHOULD feel inadequate. If she knows how to use KZbin and you are too much of a weenie to try, you should be ashamed of yourself. Props to your wife.

[@missdelightjecel6602]

If a man not ready in all aspect of his life. He will commit but wouldn't upgrade the relationship level.

[@mildredsimiyu5843]

You are the Mr Original in explaining. Good job. You have said it all

[@nyeshabourrage8954]

That’s the same thing when I try to tell my co woker about how I feel about him and inside his heart and have faith each other and help each other grow and nobody is perfect I do like him who is and I just wish had a future with him and now he’s met this girl dating website now he’s in relationship with her and I’m going to ask God send me a future husband for me 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@stacybennett4982]

When a guy goes out of his way to make me feel special and cherished that's what makes me want to commit to him.❤❤❤