#1 Leaving for 4 Months: My Husband and Son’s Feelings

[@oktq]

It's not so good to leave the family for so long ...

[@mattandyan]

You’re right-it’s a big risk, and I’ve thought about it a lot. But Matt has been so supportive, and we trust each other. Do you think some time apart can actually make a family stronger? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

[@kellie88]

It's good to be back to your hometown for four months. After all it's not that Yan does that frequently, two or three years or more does she get to be home to visit her own family. And ticket back & fro is not cheap, plus a long long journey. Also absent makes the heart grow fonder.

[@sepadu]

​@@kellie88I think she did went back hometown for the past two years.

[@annleong7728]

Spending more time with your kid when they are young, as time won’t come back. Don’t you miss seeing him grown and his learning progress. This is just my experience and thought as a mother.

[@oktq]

​​​​​​@@mattandyan Might be true also but 4 months is a bit long, if you think you won't get homesick, then just go ahead and enjoy your life wherever you are... have a happy vacation to you 🎉🎉🎉

[@justinboy5859]

我很羨慕你們一家人的生活互動，互相包容，相親相愛還有一位幽默的老公和乖巧的儿子，實在太幸福啦！

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你！

[@janicekhoo4023]

Matt 是位很開明的先生,夫妻间各要尊重对方,才能使双方更好相处与伩任,家庭美满,祝福你们2025越来越好,身体健康,事事顺心如意❤

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你！ 我们也祝你新年快乐身体健康！

[@wongwendy5013]

Matt不僅幽默，还是爱妻子的好丈夫，一个充满爱的家庭，才会养育出懂爱的孩子💕

[@mattandyan]

你说得太对了！Matt 真的很幽默又温暖，他是一个好丈夫、好爸爸！我们很珍惜这个有爱的家庭，也努力把爱传给 Andrew。谢谢你的鼓励💕

[@kellie88]

Agree😀

[@jocelyntan3366]

Yan. Welcome back to Malaysia again. Matt, you are a good husband, it’s great to understand each other’s need and willing to support her/his partner’s either on work or personal hobby . Andrew is well behaved and sensible. Happy New year to you all ❤

[@mattandyan]

Thank you! 😃 Matt is a great husband, and Andrew is a wonderful son! And don’t worry-Matt makes sure I tell everyone he’s a good husband… so I’m doing my job! 😂 Your support means a lot to me!

[@siewhweeyio952]

Yan, you have such a super husband who support your dreams n loves you dearly. Andrew supports you too. He is such a lovely n understanding kid.

[@mattandyan]

Thank you so much! I’m really lucky to have such a supportive husband and son-they’re the reason I can chase my dreams. Your kind words mean a lot to me! 💕

[@suplolok8873]

It doesnt matter wat ppl think about. Most importantly, you guys knowing each other better than anyone else. Omg… Matt, thumb up for👍👍👍 Yann, selamat pulang ke Malaysia!! Im back to KL too this Jan 22nd definitely gonna fill up my weight when i back to KL. Safe flight!

[@mattandyan]

Reading your message felt like a warm hug-I can’t thank you enough for your kindness. ❤️

[@justinboy5859]

Matt 看上去無表情，其實他心裏也會有不捨，Andrew當然也不例外，他们对你的爱是无比的，要珍惜！祝你们幸福美满，快快乐乐！

[@mattandyan]

你说得好贴心！Matt 表面看起来淡定，其实内心很温柔细腻，他和 Andrew 的爱让我充满力量！我们都很珍惜彼此，谢谢你温暖的祝福！祝你也幸福快乐！💕

[@Lim33ful]

Yan,你的儿子很可爱和你的丈夫很幽默…我祝你平安和身体 健康…also hope u take care and take a safe trip..…😇😇

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你！ 新年快乐！💕

[@Lim33ful]

大家一样...

[@silversahar1566]

If I love my husband and son dearly inside my heart, I don’t think I can leave them for 4 full months ,to have an enjoyable time for yourself. You are so lucky to have such an understanding husband and son .

[@mattandyan]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I completely understand-it’s not an easy choice, and I feel so lucky every day to have their understanding and support. But this journey isn’t just about enjoyment-it’s also about resetting my health so I can be the best version of myself for them. I really appreciate your kind words! ❤️

[@mayho2345]

There is a lot of love in your Family . Happy for you

[@mattandyan]

Thank you so much!

[@pppppolarbear]

有些评论真的服了 他们一家不需要你们的”建议“。 Yan离开4个月自有她的原因 有follow的都知道是为了身体健康， 少来说四个月太长什么的 还有一个简直了 说这样下去·以后老公就不再需要她 @@ 有些人真的看不了别人好 他们怎么开心就怎么安排 祝福就好 Welcome back to Malaysia Yan!

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你的维护，真的很感动!

[@ericalim5007]

What a wonderful and loving family! God bless Matt, Yan, Andrew and all in your family. Happy New Year and Gong Xi Fa Cai.

[@mattandyan]

Same to you!

[@jaiyiwong5774]

Leaving the husband & son for 4 mths is just too long, poor Andrew he look so sad! 😞

[@Juiceyz73181]

It’s inspiring to see Matt being so supportive of the family! I do hope that this is the same Matt off camera. I just became a dad not long ago and honestly I’m not so sure how would I take the news if my wife wanted to leave us 4 months. But seeing this video , I want to empower my wife to do the things she wanted to do in any way possible and focus on the positive side of things for all of us.

[@mattandyan]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experience! I really appreciate your honesty-it’s not an easy situation for any family, and I think it’s amazing that you want to support your wife in following her dreams. Matt really is the same off-camera-supportive and understanding. But we’ve also had plenty of conversations and ups and downs to get to this point. Your openness and positive outlook will make such a difference in your journey as a dad and partner. Wishing you and your family so much happiness! 😊❤️

[@kellie88]

Have a safe journey back here in Malaysia Yan. Cant wait to see your reunion with your family & celebrating the Chinese New Year wth them. Its a pity that Matt & Andrew cannot go with you. Matt, we know you are a great trusted loving husband & father. The whole world already knows 🤣🤣🤣

[@mattandyan]

Thank you! 🥰 It’s not easy being apart, but having such an understanding husband makes it possible. And yes, Matt’s secret is out-he’s the best, and the world knows! 😂 Hope you have a fantastic Chinese New Year! 🧡🧧

[@eddiensw]

It will turn out well for u guys..just believe. all the best

[@mattandyan]

I really appreciate your thoughtful words。 Thank you😍

[@aurorapang3530]

Safe travel, Yan, happy New YEAR to the family

[@mattandyan]

Thank you! Happy New Year to you too!

[@bernardtan3639]

Yan, you have an understanding hubby and good son. Happy New Year 2025 to you and family. Take care Yan.

[@mattandyan]

Thank you! You too!

[@patricianhan86]

Wow, Yan, you are luck to have summer again in Malaysia and celebrate Chinese New Year with your brothers and sisters and sis-in-law etc. I did it before but your heart is in America with your husband and son. Sometime worry about them too. I recommend you to do it when your husband are retired and you have lots of time to enjoy both together and also visit Paris, France too.

[@mattandyan]

Thank you for your thoughtful comment! I do feel lucky to be able to celebrate Chinese New Year in Malaysia with my family-it’s such a special time. But you’re right, my heart is always with my husband and son too. Your advice is wonderful-I hope one day, when we’re retired, we can enjoy life at a slower pace and maybe even visit Paris together. That sounds like a dream! 💕

[@mlee7635]

Why you need to go back for 4 months that long??

[@emilyheng2095]

Again! Be careful they might leave you if you keep leaving them for such long period just you can have fun .

[@mattandyan]

@mlee7635 Thanks for your question! There’s actually a reason for the long duration, and it’s part of a bigger plan that I’ll be sharing more about in future videos. Do you think it’s easier or harder to be away from loved ones for a long time? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

[@mattandyan]

@emilyheng2095 Good point! It’ll be an interesting experiment to see how it goes. What do you think, can long-distance affect relationships?

[@amylee3173]

Love your family! Andrew is sooo cute!! 😘

[@mattandyan]

Thank you!! 😊

[@yunsinho6073]

四个月，对我来说太久了。像是放弃看孩子的成长过程。祝你：幸福、快乐

[@mattandyan]

一言难尽，但谢谢你的理解和关心！❤️

[@christineloo6725]

Feel sorry for her son.😢

[@DoeisDoris]

可以回来过年好开心😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤有个好先生 和孩子

[@mattandyan]

谢谢☺️

[@ironmaniscoolshit1395]

Welcome back to msia. Some me times away from Matt is nice but a long apart, Andrew and Matt are gonna to miss you. More video calls!😂 Enjoy your time in msia.🎉🎉 have more good food, including Matt’s share😂

[@mattandyan]

Thank you!

[@dcbabc9260]

阿燕竟然要回来大马四个月😊 Matt 也答应了👍Andrew 真帅❤ 祝福你们一家三口新年快乐 万事大吉 平安喜乐❤

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你的祝福！新年快乐🇲🇾😍

[@dcbabc9260]

@mattandyan Welcome 🙏

[@dewishlist4548]

You do what you have to do... ❤

[@mattandyan]

Thank you for your support 💕💕

[@janetneo8831]

Safe journey home to Malaysia.. see you 🎉...

[@mattandyan]

Thank you! 😃

[@馨芳張-q8f]

祝褔妳們闔家平安 幸褔美滿！

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你💕

[@老女人道故事]

阿马说希望早点退休靠KZbin就可以过日子，虽然他是讲笑而已但也未必不能成真。 对我来说，看这类非知识性的视频主要为了放松，所以太过沉闷冗长的部分会令人看不下去，简单带过就好，短小精悍有内容最好。 祝福越做越好❤

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你的祝福和回馈及建议！ 感恩💕💕

[@ireneho6537]

Of course he will say never mind. One day you become dispendable and he dont need you anymore. This is my own experience. Four months is too long, but i still wish you all the best.

[@mattandyan]

Thank you for sharing your experience-this is something many women worry about, including me. But I trust that every relationship is unique. I really appreciate your kind wishes💕💘It’s important that we support each other and remind ourselves of our strength. Wishing you all the best, and I hope you’ve found peace and happiness.

[@raymondng18]

Time to balik kampung for CNY

[@mattandyan]

Yes, balik kampung for CNY is always special! I’m really looking forward to all the food, family time, and festive vibes.

[@siewching38]

一直都很喜欢Yan 的视频，温馨，浪漫，和谐，包容，幸福，满满爱❤的一家人。 在马来西亚家庭真的很难😅 但是，因为Yan 一家的影响力，应该会好❤

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你一直以来的支持和温暖的话！❤️

[@mrslew9109]

Just follow your heart Yan❤ Welcome back to Malaysia 🇲🇾, Happy CNY in advanced🍊🧧🧧

[@mattandyan]

Thank you so much! ❤️ I’m definitely following my heart. Happy CNY to you too-wishing you lots of joy, good health, and delicious food! 🍊🧧

[@geevlog3968]

Matt was right, how lucky he was to have wife leaving for sooo long🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@mattandyan]

😂 But don’t worry, his ‘freedom pass’ is temporary- I’ll be back soon to keep him on his toes!

[@siewkim532]

幸福，温馨的家庭！😊 燕，很好奇妳从事什麼工作，可以有这么長的假期？ 祝旅途愉快，一路平安！😊

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你！😊 我很幸运有一个温暖的家庭，也很感谢你的祝福！其实我目前在自由职业，所以有一些弹性安排，能自己规划时间.

[@tamdang5080]

It’s sad❤

[@mattandyan]

It’s true-it can feel sad sometimes. But I try to focus on the love and support that keeps us connected, even when we’re apart. ❤️ Thank you for your empathy-it means so much!

[@tamdang5080]

It’s sad

[@sksk-ux6rx]

你们好，幸福的一家人，🎉🎉🎉❤❤

[@mattandyan]

你好😊谢谢你！

[@serenachoo8149]

👍👏

[@mattandyan]

Thanks!

[@mcmkh-n6we5m]

其实可以回大马两个月，再回美国一或两个星期，再回來大马两个月。这样就不会觉得連续四个月太久。 我 sibling 在悉尼，每年回來三四次，來往很频繁，有時走了两个月又回來，看买到便宜机票就回來，便宜蛮多的，有時回來一星期，有時一星期多，有時几天。美国回大马不知有沒便宜机票，这样可以分開几次回來，每次時间短一点，这样就不会觉得自己在太遠的地方好像离開大马和美国家人很久那样。 现在很多大马人去澳洲工作和移民。For 大马人，那边也是几好住的。

[@nancykoh3966]

燕姐与家人四个月的分离，丈夫及儿子有什么感受，说真的，他们真的不好受 ! 殊不知这是否燕姐即将今年回乡过新年的录影 ？ 为何丈夫及儿子不能同行呢 ？燕姐 ?

[@nancykoh3966]

香槟酒不会是甜的，丈夫及儿子喝了可能是苦涩的吧 !

[@nancykoh3966]

燕姐，视频里忽闻妳感谢老公的给予妳自由，是的，该感恩老公大量胸怀，这不是任何老婆能享有的温馨 ! 祝福燕姐，旅途顺安 !

[@mattandyan]

他们没假期要上学。

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你💕

[@nancykoh3966]

@@mattandyan 不用客气，喜欢妳而支持，自己出远门要多加小心，多保重 !

[@ltw6669]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@mattandyan]

💕

[@老女人道故事]

建议Yan把视频简单化，越轻松简洁自然就好，不用拘泥什么主题，请参考《蝴蝶酱一家在日本》。

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你的建议， 我会去参考👍

[@tinymeis699]

Yan 为什么你需要离家四个月？

[@HinsKKH]

天气冷，出湿疹

[@dianaleo6056]

Think should be 回娘家 and visit her friend in Japan. Same as last year I think. @ Yan, may you have a great trip and enjoy!

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你的关心！😊 我离开是为了照顾自己的健康，冬春季节我过敏严重，所以每年这个时候会选择到气候适合的地方休养。

[@mattandyan]

Thank you so much for your kind wishes! Yes, you’re spot on-it’s a bit of a tradition for me now! I’m so grateful to have friends and family who support me on this journey. 😊

[@老女人道故事]

建议Yan把视频简单化，不用拘泥什么主题，越轻松简洁自然就好，可以参考《蝴蝶酱一家在日本》。

[@LRE888]

How do you leave your husband and your son for 4 months? You kept asking are you happy for me? How do you feel I’m going away for4 months? What do you think they are going to say on camera? Is more important for you to be with your family for Chinese new year I could see four weeks but not four months . What are you doing there for 4 months? 😮

[@mattandyan]

Thank you for your concern-it’s true, being away from my family for four months isn’t easy, and I really miss them. But they fully support me because they know how important this is for our future together. Sometimes, it’s more meaningful to let the journey speak for itself rather than explaining everything upfront. I’d love for you to follow along and see how things unfold-it might surprise you! 😊

[@tatianaGzinnia]

Cut it off. It is not your life and your family in Malaysia and USA. You only have the information of 4 months. There are so many wonderful things in this 4 months for Yan and Matt and family. You know nothing and yet dare to question Yan & Matt. How important for them is not important for you. Yan and Matt doesn't need to explain to you.

[@christineloo6725]

She has a good reason. She said she has put on weight. That's why she has to go back to Asia for 4 months to sweat it off in the heat.

[@tatianaGzinnia]

It is Yan decision with her family how long they wanna stay apart. Why some people here giving their advises and perspective to Yan, weather she should do this, she shouldn’t leave for 4 months. Why you guys wanna give your side of perspective and influence or question Yan? She is sharing her personal life in KZbin and not asking for your opinions! Those who disagree, please move on with your own life and let Yan & Matt decide what is best for themselves! Kepoci means nosy people (busybody), wants to give their ego opinion of other. It has no values ladies! Mind your own life and not Yan & Matt.

[@mattandyan]

Honestly, it’s hard to put myself out there sometimes. When I see judgmental comments, I question whether I should just keep my life private and stop sharing altogether. But messages like yours remind me that there are people who understand and support me, and that gives me the strength to keep going. Thank you for making me feel seen and appreciated.

[@mlee7635]

How true!

[@pppppolarbear]

this is so true! some comments are so toxic

[@tatianaGzinnia]

@@pppppolarbear You know right. We can also voice out our neutral opinions. Dare to give our good opinions too.

[@tatianaGzinnia]

@@mlee7635 You know right. We can also voice out our neutral opinions. Dare to give our good opinions too.

[@laykhimteo6058]

I also think it's too long to spend the chinese new year in Malaysia. 2 months is more than enough.

[@tcktck1813]

For me 20°c is cold too.❄️

[@mattandyan]

They think 20c is too hot🥵 😆

[@paulineteng4449]

分开4个月是太长了。Matt and Andrew 还需要你的。妳捨得吗？ 为啥要这样？？

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你的关心！离开家人四个月确实不容易，我真的很想他们。但他们很支持我，因为知道这对我们的未来很重要。有时候，让旅程自己说话比提前解释更有意义。希望你能一起关注，看看接下来会发生什么！😊

[@s3rin]

Move back to Malaysia. Matt can teach in an international school.

[@mattandyan]

If you all tell him about the high salary and awesome benefits, maybe he’ll finally give in! 😂

[@mlee7635]

@@mattandyanthis is one of the reason we don’t want to migrate to u.s cos’ it is too far from my beloved country M’sia instead of Australia.

[@mattandyan]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! You’re smart to choose Australia. When we move back to the USA, I hadn’t fully considered the health impact, but it’s something I’ll definitely need to think about more.

[@legambaz]

4 months? That's a long time to be apart from your family

[@mattandyan]

You’re right-four months is a long time. It feels long for me too.

[@vincetang9839]

OMG! Andrew, that's lot of candy and snack!

[@mattandyan]

😆

[@twinklevangie7604]

She need some warm weather! 4 months is not long considering she spent her whole married life in USA. :)

[@cheryll8008]

Gong Xi Fa Cai to you all

[@mattandyan]

Gong Xi Fa Cai!!

[@des668]

CNY only lasts 15 days. Why go back 4 months?

[@mattandyan]

Long story! 😊

[@christineloo6725]

She has a good reason. She said she has put on weight. That's why she has to go back to Asia for 4 months to sweat it off in the heat.

[@lilylim6802]

4months time to lose weight😂Matt . Andrew is a gd kid❤

[@mattandyan]

Thank you!

[@suplolok8873]

Andrew, i will buy you a cheesecake someday 🍰

[@mattandyan]

Haha, I can already picture Andrew’s wide-eyed reaction! 😆 He’s probably thinking, ‘Did she really just say that?!’ 😂

[@MrKokming]

matt are u 1977 born

[@mattandyan]

Yes. My year!

[@esoteric1611]

If u have both decided you have to go so long. Spare your son, stop asking him how he would feel u leaving, he is still young to understand the complexities.

[@mattandyan]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! How would you handle difficult conversations with children in similar situations?

[@esoteric1611]

@@mattandyan I may not ask him how he would feel because i know he is not able to express or articulate his feeling. If i really needed to leave, i will show him love, at his age, his love language is all of those, i would hug him a lot, talk to him, playing games with him, cooking his favorite food, you know what are those. Perhaps at the later time, when he is older, he might tell you how he felt when you left. Anyhow, do you need to go for such a long time? find your inner peace,, 4 weeks are sufficient, 4 months?.. too long..

[@esoteric1611]

Focus on assuring him nothing changed, that u still love him so much.

[@denise4052]

嗨😊Dear 燕妹妹，您好嗎🙏🏻 說實在的…看了這影片 還蠻傷感的～尤其影片最後…看得出 老公的不捨與難過 全寫在臉上！ 燕，您知道嗎...我好希望..您每年避寒凍出行期間 都能 帶上老公&兒子 不分離...歡歡樂樂的在一起 但我也知道 是不可能的事😄 依然 祝福 燕妹 好好享受屬於自己的美好時光、旅途愉快平安 以及 在家鄉 過個 開心快樂的農曆新年 更願 Matt & Andrew 接下來 4個月的生活 順暢、一切都安好🙏🏻 燕妹，🙋🏻冒昧向您 小小 要求，請常常與老公孩子 打視頻通話..噓寒問暖的..讓彼此 最起碼 有個 慰藉 与舒心 也更 安心。 *可以的話..偶爾..請與粉絲們分享..通視頻的畫面，因為相信大家也都 想念Matt&Andrew的近況。 感謝🙏🏻燕～ 好好照顧自己喔😊

[@mattandyan]

好的。我会让你们一起看到视频👌谢谢你的关心，我会好好照顾自己💕

[@denise4052]

@ 感恩🙏🏻燕 答應請求，真的好期待😚愛您喲♥️🫰

[@mattandyan]

谢谢你的爱心和支持！❤️ 😍

[@2001207lim]

20度其實不太冷呵呵。

[@mattandyan]

哈哈，我老公和孩子20度都觉得热，还要调低温度！😅 我真的可以跟你换住了！你来体验他们的“夏天”，我去过你的“冬天”！😂

[@langheelao1439]

好丈夫好爸爸幸福快乐一家人

[@mattandyan]

谢谢☺️

[@winolalau5749]

4 months...way too long

[@christan2592]

为什么要4个月？要回家过年也不需要那么长时间吧！觉得你也实在太狠心的，我做不到咯！

[@bkshum2181]

她也是为了自己的健康，才会离开4个月，你以为她想的吗？

[@christan2592]

@bkshum2181 我知道

[@christan2592]

@@bkshum2181 所以Yan很幸福，有个懂她的另一半。

[@nicolelin8464]

She has mental health issues… look at the sadness in her son’s eyes and yet she has the heart to leave them for so long! Pity the husband & the son

[@tatianaGzinnia]

Pity you for having this mentality. Such a judgemental person calling Yan has mental issues. Do you really think you have the whole story of their life? Yan and family doesn’t need your permission to say what they should decide or do for their life.

[@mattandyan]

Tatiana, thank you for your kind words! I really appreciate the empathy and support-it’s viewers like you who make sharing my personal journey worthwhile.💘

[@mattandyan]

What kind of mental problems do you think I have?

[@mlee7635]

@@mattandyan,my friend Australia can’t tolerate winter .The husband is very understanding will ask to go back M’sia as he knows the wife suffer from depression.

[@eddiensw]

be kind because you never know when you need it yourself