Mayim Bialik's Myths and Truths about Co-sleeping

Learn more about The Beyond the Sling at books.simonandschuster.com/Bey... Author of BEYOND THE SLING, Mayim Bialik discusses the myths and truths surrounding co-sleeping.

[@lolenei]

Mayim, If you were my favourite actrees before now you also became my hero !! So simple and perfect explanation of one of the most important topics in motherhood Thanks to bring attention to that topic

[@SomaliRoyale]

i feel encouraged now,it feels naturally right to do the things that are talked about in attachment parenting even though people tell me otherwise.

[@courag1]

Most people who are against co-sleeping also don't breast feed or try to end breast feeding as soon as possible. But if you love your babies and if they have asthma like mine did, is not safe. My children would get croup even though they nursed. The were better off where I could hear their breathing. Around the world, if babies didn't sleep with their mothers, they would have a much lower survivability.

[@ginacarr1067]

We began co-sleeping at birth. We tried the bassinet in hospital, we tried the bassinet by our bed, we bought a $400 crib, we tried naps in her beds, we tried sleeping in her room.... NOTHING WORKED! Our LO is almost 3 years old and we ultimately had to create a safe sleep zone that included her co-sleeping with me. It works, I am so thankful for a health little girl, we are super bonded! I honestly do not look forward to the day she decides to sleep in her room. She is everything to me!

[@MsTaurine]

My son hated being swaddled, being in the bassinet as a newborn, so we started bed sharing at 3 weeks old. He is 17 months old now and he definitely could never do the crib for naps or bed time. So he has always slept with us. I definitely agree with Maylik that if you drink or take any substances, that you should bed share as it can impair your reaction and awareness. I used to be a deep sleeper but I am more aware now since being a mom.

[@ErinGaynor]

I've got six kids ranging in age from 7yrs to 7mths. It wasn't until my 2nd child was born that the phrase 'attachment parenting' was brought up to me. Before then i hadn't thought there was a "special" label for the way I raised my kids. I was simply just doing what I felt was the best thing for them in my heart and mind. I'm around my kids all day and I parent using a lot of gut intuition. If I feel something is off with one of them, we have mommy/child private time to talk about the problem.

[@brittanykay3632]

I practice attachment parenting, it just feels like the right fit for me and my son. Unfortunately due to my sons fathers car accident I am currently living with my mother and she always has her negative opinion on it, especially co-sleeping. I love seeing these videos, it makes me feel like I'm not a weird mom like she makes me feel sometimes lol.

[@Brievel]

Make her watch them too!

[@Brievel]

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[@chandilove3863]

My friends baby had a seizure and vomited on his dad during sleep and his dad woke up because of it and saw his son unresponsive. He called 911 and gave his son CPR until the ambulance came. Them co sleeping saved his life. I never forget that story!

[@imaof4]

Well done! Culturally, throughout the world, co-sleeping is a non issue - it's just done, it's the norm. Nursed all 4 of my children, and definitely made night time parenting much, much easier. Thank you for this fine vid! :)

[@gingerhancock5446]

Ditto!

[@sharonseitz]

AAP now recommends mothers to get in a safe co sleeping position when nursing/feeding at night or while tired because it is the safest position to be in if you fall asleep.

[@luvleeana]

my children eventually became independent and wanted to sleep alone. but they are much more secure with themselves when coslept with

[@ceeceeserenity4905]

if my son wasnt in bed with me the night he stopped breathing i wouldnt have woken up to give him mouth to mouth and save him. it was because he was in the crook of my arm that i noticed him stop breathing as i slept and was able to save him. its not safe to not co sleep!

[@cyrusp100]

+CeeCee Serenity I don't disagree with you but modern baby monitors can detect breathing movements with very high precision and sound an alarm usually within 10-20 seconds.

[@milagros104]

new monitors are very sensitive. It ads anxiety to parents. If you try it on you or a even a cat or dog, the second they start to move the thing will beep. It can be a relieve or a sense of comfort for some parents but it is also a state of anxiety pile on top of what parenting already is.

[@Brievel]

When my baby's breathing grows harsh because he needs to burp, I can just lift his head and chest and his breathing eases/he burps. Couldn't do that rooms away!

[@annalisajensen6130]

Maybe if he wasn’t sleeping in the crook of your arm he wouldn’t have stopped breathing.

[@sarahr.6840]

@@annalisajensen6130 don't say that to a mother

[@newyorker2581]

Thank you for this!

[@janaenevarez3616]

I love this - thank you!

[@justgoodies]

I love it. Attachment parenting is just natural.

[@crisenigma]

Simple, concise, perfect! Cheers :)

[@elizabethgallegos6751]

Thank you for this important message for me to hear

[@ashleyisachild]

"That's true for the thousands of families that [co-sleep]"... you mean the BILLIONS of families that do!!

[@joanjett4345]

If I had a baby, it would totally sleep with me. I watched my parents do it with my little brothers and I saw nothing wrong with it. I don't know why people see as unsafe.

[@dhananjaibareth4837]

Well look at my case. 11 yrs of fmarrisge, 10 yrs of daughter sleeping in between since birth xause it's a boundary created by my wife... But now I understood word to define my wife - NArcist. Took me years to understand, complained. Fight over , tried my others suggestion but finally after 11 years this article cleared up my mind. Co-sleeping with narcist.... ReL eye opener....😅😢

[@bobichina]

Totally agree

[@Frankie-O]

💯

[@TMPreRaff]

"Our son is able to put himself to sleep, and he sleeps through the night"... he's 14.

[@the_light_writer]

This was from 8 years ago...

[@alfredomercedes4883]

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[@tobymarley1]

Is this the lady from big bang?

[@twoscoopz4944]

yes

[@alysiatilllman3821]

I lost my daughter to a co sleeping accident. I always thought it would never happen to us . Please be careful

[@gertrudejared]

So sorry, which accident?

[@OutStang]

Mayim you are beautiful.

[@Frankie-O]

Mayim Bialik is such a Blossom.

[@nlynch8041]

Co sleeping is good for everyone. Everyone gets sleep and cuddles.

[@MJ31579]

But if you have to go to work, you cant wait till 3🙆 sleep deprivation will definitely get to you

[@tracygleason103]

My friend killed her baby on accident by cosleeping.

[@gertrudejared]

What happened?

[@murraymarshawn2175]

Good lord, the closet psychologists policing co-sleeping. Humans co-slept for a billions years.

[@rupalgupta2372]

While I value Ms. Bialik's opinion (and am still a huge fan from Blossom days), as a parent and a pediatrician, I would not personally identify her as an expert in pediatrics. I would expect Simon and Schuster to do their homework as well in creating a video like this. The "APA" is not the "AAP," and even though she is referring to the American Academy of Pediatrics, poor attention to details alone puts credibility of this video into question.

[@pcjcusa1118]

+Rupal Gupta Exactly, and thank you.

[@MyWolf96]

She never claimed to be a specialist and she probably saw a specialist before she made this decisions, she's just giving a voice to people who feel as if they are being put down because they do this.

[@rupalgupta2372]

I get that she is not claiming to be a specialist- she is a parent, but this is a professionally produced video in which those involved in making it should have known better. She wrote a book that is introduced by a pediatrician - Dr. Jay Gordon, she misquotes the "AAP" and Simon and Schuster - a noted publisher - edited and produced this video that asserts on "myths and truths" - there is enough expertise here to do a better job. Co-sleeping is a decision that a family can make on their own provided that they understand the risks and benefits involved, but this is a badly made video.

[@roleat]

Rupal Gupta as a pediatrician you should be aware of the reality of SUID and the fact that every precaution being taken cannot stop an unexplained event.

[@dalemurray4083]

If I had a penny for every time some arrogant MD assumed their personal bias was authoritative I'd be a billionaire. I've seen patients DIE because an MD refused to listen to anyone without a Medical Degree. As for the AMA, APA, AAP, ect,, they exist for the good of their members, not the patient's.

[@lionesssama9184]

Amy??? Lol

[@pcjcusa1118]

The AAP recommendation was made because not all co-sleeper parents will take the safety steps cited by Bialik and, thus, many of these parents, in an effort to keep up with the cool parenting trends, will put their children in danger. The simple, blanket recommendation saves lives, then, ipso facto. There is no respected research that demonstrates significant benefits of constant-contact sleeping, co-sleeping, or any of this stuff that has sort-of cropped-up fairly recently. At least, there is none that demonstrates the benefits outweight the risk (absent the blanket AAP recommendation). You're not a bad parent if your kid sleeps in his/her own bed in another room. Don't let Hollywood or people who have "read a lot" or "done their research" tell you how to raise your kid. Ask medical professionals and people who have big, fancy degrees indicating they have done rigorous, scientific analysis of and supervised research into this stuff. Those people are what we would call "qualified" and understand the overall purpose of such a recommendation coming from the AAP.

[@estherkim6895]

I realize co-sleeping doesn't work for everyone, however it is certainly not a new concept nor is it a "cool parenting trend". This is a practice that has been been done and is still done in many other countries outside the US.

[@Brievel]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/jnS9q62ne9Csn7c A PhD good enough for you, if Mayim's isn't?

[@mediocrefloridaman]

Dr. McKenna PHD. Do some research before you listen to all those high paid people in white coats with their fancy degrees and fearmongering agenda.

[@HAEPLUS]

I am late to the game with my comment, but she is a neuroscientist with a PHD in neuroscience. Also in agreement with others, cosleeping was the norm before industrialization and continues to be the norm for many cultures even since. Lastly, like almost everything in life, there is more that one way to do things, who knew.

[@Melmaegwen]

The thing is, children already take away lots of the couple's alone time and healthy intimacy and sex. If you co-sleep, you take away all of that. I can't get to believe that damaging your marriage for the sake of the kids could be something good.

[@hinahinananoha7783]

Kura-chan It's very naive to think co sleeping somehow damages your sex life:)

[@enkelix]

In a way it did take all that from my ex and I but let me be honest here… I was never so attracted or crazy about him in the first place 😂 Now 12 years later, I’m about to have a baby with a man who I love tremendously and who loves me back too so I definitely feel a bit nervous about the changes but I also rely on the strong bond we have together and our ability to be creative and supportive. Besides in my experience, my older son coslept until about 3-4 years of age and that’s (like my partner says) a little time compared to the many years we want to be together ❤

[@serena9292]

@@hinahinananoha7783 you have sex while your kid in the same bed as you????

[@Chasee445]

Her 3 year old still sleeps in the same bed? How does the couple ever have sex? That sounds like a divorce waiting to happen.

[@samu6874]

Wow no bed = no Sex? You are lacking Imagination and creativity ;)

[@simonsimon5124]

Marriage bad is a place for adults to have their privacy and connection betwen themselfs

[@BarbaraAnnB-yi5ew]

Strong marriages are more than just sex. It is naive to say that no sex = divorce.

[@LB-gz3ke]

Sex doesn't need to be confined to the marital bed at night. Be creative. Sneak private moments when you can. Twenty plus years of marriage, co-slept with our little ones, plenty of good loving then and now.

[@pumpkinqueen3776]

Currently co sleeping (not really by choice; happened with four month sleep regression) and still have plenty of sex; if anything we’re having more since we gotta get creative. Sure, I miss sex in bed at any time, but if you really want sex you’ll find a time and place, if a bed is strictly necessary (and not just most comfortable) to be intimate there are further issues.

[@bobbyrobby3600]

Mayim thinks like child and should be given the name: GIRL